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Ep. 362 Why Does Everything Good for Me Feel Like a Chore After Divorce? · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, love.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: You are a woman who already knows what's good for you.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: And if not in every way, you're learning it and you're invested in learning it.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: But knowing and choosing are two different beasts.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's the yoga class you keep skipping, the boundary you avoid setting, or the journal collecting dust.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: They call that shelf esteem.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: Lol.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you say, I'll do it tomorrow, or I don't have the energy.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: But what if the real reason you're not choosing what's healthy isn't laziness or a lack of willpower, but it's hidden grief.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe with a side of shame.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, we dive deep into why women fresh out of divorce struggle to choose what supports their healing, even when they know what to do.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna unpack the sneaky emotional loops that make short-term relief, like numbing, people pleasing, getting into a fight with your ex, feel safer.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: What?
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  SPEAKER_00: Than long-term healing.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: And how your nervous system is often still in survival mode, prioritizing comfort over growth.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: We're also gonna talk about why you're more afraid of being rejected by others than you are aware of how often you're rejecting yourself.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: This episode isn't about shaming yourself for not doing enough.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's about understanding why it feels so hard and what to do differently.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give you a very specific calendar task, plus a three-question prompt to guide you in that exact moment when you feel the urge to avoid the thing you know would help you heal.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month.
• 2:13
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• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: You deserve to stop abandoning yourself, and this episode will help you connect with how Divorce Diary is a podcast by My Coach Dawn.
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