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From Abusive Marriage & Divorce to Millions: The Comeback Story You Need to Hear! Ft. Joi Hunt · Motion and Success

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[SPEAKER_01]: My husband shot at me in our dealership.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, my name is Joy, I'm your business bestie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have been a business attorney since 2004 in a serial entrepreneur since 2006.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I helped entrepreneurs struck for fun and market their business to be by.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything I went through was for this moment right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My husband was having a bear with employees I found out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He then shot at me in our dealership and he then took all the money I recount by my husband in our business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He said he was a cap.
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[SPEAKER_01]: On my wedding day, my cousin, who's a capa, goes to nap him up, he doesn't know the handshake.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, you know the capa, all those things at up and you realize you're living a lot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was broken, busted and disgusted.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I can't have my son just seen me lose.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can't have my son see me beat down.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everyone goes to a dark time, but it's about fighting through and getting to the other side, getting to that winning season.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Ladies, you guys are in for a treat.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Telling it, her story is so amazing.
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[SPEAKER_04]: She is so great.
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[SPEAKER_04]: She has been crushing it in the business world for the past decade, crushing it in brick and mortar on my space and also helping people to get grant money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Fuck this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care how dark it gets.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care what kind of car you've been built.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can get over anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And whatever you need to get to that next level, you already have.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Before we get into this amazing episode, I'm calling all business owners, coaches, entrepreneurs who got a great product or service, but guess what, you're having a hard time selling it, you aren't getting any leads, your calendar is dried up, podcasting is the tool you need, it's a 24-7 organic lead machine that you need to have in your business.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely, having a marketing plan, some kind of way on how to find your clients within your business, is the most important way on how you're going to be able to grow.
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[SPEAKER_04]: and hit all your financial goals.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Whether you're a goal of $100,000, whether you're a goal of $500,000, or even a million dollars plus, you need more eyeballs.
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[SPEAKER_04]: A lot of people are finding that adds a way too expensive for their budget.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Also, another problem is, a lot of people are over relying on other people to grow their business.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So I'm talking about word of mouth and referrals.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Those are not reliable strategies on how you're gonna grow your business.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Alright y'all so welcome back to another episode of Motionist Success.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Listen guys my name is Cody Brown I got my coals with me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, I owe and we back with another amazing episode a repeat guess Yes, these are the third one.
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[SPEAKER_04]: This is a three a three-peat guess Honestly like I don't really think of introduction as needed, but listen.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'll do you guys a favor, right?
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, today we're going to be introducing a young lady about a name of Joy Hunt.
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[SPEAKER_04]: She has been crushing it in the business world for the past decade plus crushing it in brick and mortar online space and also helping people to get grant money.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So listen, if you're out here, you're trying to learn how to get grant funding.
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[SPEAKER_04]: you're learning how to grow your business online and actually get more customers.
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[SPEAKER_04]: This is going to be that episode.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Ladies, you guys are in for a treat.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm telling you, like her story is so amazing.
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[SPEAKER_04]: She is so great everywhere she goes.
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[SPEAKER_04]: There's always somebody stopping her and saying, hey listen, this is Joy Hunt.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Oh my god, cannot please take a picture with you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And listen, we brought her here today on the podcast once again.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, Joy, go ahead and introduce yourself.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You can do a better job than I can for a short, and let's get started.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, well hey, my name is Joy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm your business bestie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have been a business attorney since 2004 in a serial entrepreneurs in 2006, and I help entrepreneurs structure fund and market their business to the bank.
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[SPEAKER_04]: There you have it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So listen guys, if you're also here today And you are growing your business online.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So listen, if you're struggling to grow your business, you feel unorganized.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So let's go ahead and get started, bro.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We had a repeat guest, Joy Hunt.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, every time we have you on the show, the people love it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, if I don't know where it is, I took all the other day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We told the girls to be like, I don't know, anytime Joy comes on our show, like people love her.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, the content goes crazy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, it's something about your energy that draws people in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I definitely feel like, you know, a lot of people think they're going to get a lot of value out of this one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So definitely want to start off with, like, Hastings been, um, Every time we know we see joy online, you're speaking at a event, you're seeing a book in busy, pretty much, booked in busy all the time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hastings been going, um, seeing you doing a lot of collaborations.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, what's the update right now, Joy?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Man, God has just been doing his thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: God has been, God has blessed me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll say this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if anyone's going through a dark time,
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[SPEAKER_01]: God's going to give you double for your trouble, I am in a phenomenal place.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is why new things coming out, great friendships, booked in busy like I'm really think like this is my season like everything I went through was for this moment right now so I'm super excited.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, definitely booked in busy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like every time I look online, joy is on a flyer speaking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's so weird.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I mean, you definitely do bring the ladies out, um, as well as even a gentleman.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, a lot of people that you know, they're in your program and they get it real results.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, you know, it all makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It all makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're actually having our minty mastermind this weekend, so after here, we're going to dinner tomorrow as a full content day at the content studio in Atlanta, let's go lower it's insane like maybe like 20 different content scenes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm having professional rails done for their business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're having head shots We're going to get some b-roll footage when they leave.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They have content to now go market their business Of course, I'm going to be speaking to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I bring them a seven eight-figure business Besties speak to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're doing low bowling tomorrow night, and then Sunday is just
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[SPEAKER_01]: Intense mastermind just having people just pour it into them that in them know I doesn't matter where you start everyone starts off small everyone goes to a dark time But it's about fighting through and getting that other side getting to that winning season So they're gonna leave Fiber it up ready to go make some money
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[SPEAKER_04]: What inspires these weekends for you?
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[SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, you have your people flying in.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You know, and I'm sure there's some you do quite often.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, what inspires you to bring the people in person, have this experience and just get connected with them?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I believe in pouring into who pours into you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if you invest your money with me and mentorship, and we're going to be on these zones for hours upon hours, you need to come in person, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because the Zoom is one thing, but when you meet me, when you meet all the other besties, and then when you put everything in place, I need you to leave with basically your business in a box to be able to go.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and make money more importantly go believe that you can do it because either they're brand new starting off or they're experienced, but I've had some business hurt.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've had some dips in my business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've gone through some things and sometimes that business hurt can affect your confidence.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't want that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you're going to leave, and I want you to hear from seven eight figure earners saying, Hey, I lost it all before, but I got it back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or I had a bad business partner.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had a bad deal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is what life is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so you got to see it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes they can see it from me, but seeing it from other people is like, Okay, okay, I can go into this for real.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I do remember like early in the year, you know, um, or probably late in the year.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I seen you had like, uh, I think it was almost like a movement, like people, like the kind of people that you were working with at the time was like, people that either went through like a bad business, partnership, or they went through a bad divorce, or, uh,
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[SPEAKER_04]: I forgot, like, we're some of the other kind of people that you had, but you know, like, what was like the whole motive with that project you was working on?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that was my comeback summit.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Come back summit.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Um, for some reason, people think that life is just going to be chocolate cover strawberries and unicorns and rainbows, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so being, um, in this being a business owner for the over two decades, I've seen the good, the bad and the ugly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I want everyone to understand that it doesn't matter what you're going through.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's going to be joy on the other side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And everything you're going through is for a reason, and it's to make you better make you bigger.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When you're isolating, you think, oh my God, I felt bankruptcy, I'm a loser.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe no, no, no, no, no, no.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Multiple people have filed a bankruptcy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're going to close that chapter and we're on to the next.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You've learned that lesson, now we're moving on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I wanted to bring everyone who's had any kind of trauma.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You lost a child, you've gone through a divorce, you had a bad breakup, whatever it is, and that you know, hey, from here, we can now go still win in live better.
10:08
[SPEAKER_02]: Sorry to break this amazing episode.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I just have to let you guys know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The best tool for marketing in 2025 is podcasting.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Listen, it transformed our lives across all platforms.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We was able to hate 15 million plus people imagine what it did for our business to mention.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We also have some notable likes just through podcasting people like you same boat, the way in Wade Kevin Garnet, Steven A. Smith's editor, the entertainer.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Queen Latifa.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So what we want to teach you is exactly how to go out and start creating an amazing content that will find your dream audience to go ahead and start paying you for your products and your services.
10:53
[SPEAKER_04]: If you want to be able to learn exactly how to build up an audience and build up a brand online,
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[SPEAKER_04]: Go ahead and click the link down below, and I'm going to see you guys in that next masterclass.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I definitely, it's a lot of impact and one thing, especially like on social media that you're real transparent with is your story joy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Especially when even when the first time you came on our show, when you shared the story went viral and you know,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I remember us telling you, he's like, I think it's worth the end of the podcast.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was like, you know, that sounds like something that, you know, should be in a book.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you're now developing a book or it's dropping soon.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So how has that process been and how big has, you know, your story been, you know, seeing that, you're in that comeback season now from everything that went on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And now you're going to be releasing a book.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, how does that feel?
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[SPEAKER_02]: How has it been that process coming out with that book?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, how has that been?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know what, I'm gonna be honest, it's been great and it's kind of been like a little on because I have to go back to Broken Joy and I have to kind of, you know, relive, like, join now, I've been like, grown who is tripped and right by have to go back to Broken Joy to kind of get all that out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I'm doing a book, I also have a community because I want to help women understand, hey, listen.
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[SPEAKER_01]: you can come back for anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So all the healthy men, so you guys, I want to apply to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there are toxic men out there, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And all they want to do is pray on a woman.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They are very financially abusive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So even when a woman gets out of a situation, they want to drag her back into court with custody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I have a girlfriend right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She's just going through it because
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[SPEAKER_01]: she she's divorced and she's moved on and because she's moved on and she's not worried about him he's mass so now he's fighting for full custody and you don't even live in the same state but it he knows that I can drain you with legal fees and I can just keep you know keep that keep that negative control over you and just keep you in that cycle of always just having this to be negative and worn out and just drained and I'm seeing that
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can meet his voice in my store.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I get so many DMs.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm trying to get out or I'm getting out and every time I take one step forward, he keeps trying to bring me back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think it's so important to not just show that hey, I was just there and I was able to get out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you can get out, but more importantly, here's a community to help you with what you need for the resources to be able to have the mental strength to fight things like that because it's draining and if you aren't strong enough, you're just giving it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, you know, even for you, it's almost like you have like a lot of women that has been broken at one point, you know, like what's usually the strategy that you will be able to teach them, like, listen, I know you went through divorce, I know you went through, you know, infidelity or cheating or miscarriage or whatever it may be like how do you actually teach these ladies to come back, you know, and win even bigger.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So number one, you have to get a why, what are you fighting for?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So for me, it was my son, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: If I didn't have my son, I always say I will be laid up on my mama's couch, doing nothing, trying to find me a rich husband because I did not have an in me to do a whole another
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[SPEAKER_01]: Another business and you know make it if that's a lot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not gonna find me a man with some money, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: But my I'll say I can't have my son just see me Lou, I can't have my son see me beat down.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can't have I don't want my son to see me just Oh Not not fighting back and getting myself back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that was my motivation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know what Forget this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to I'm about to get our I'm about to get ourselves together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So number one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You got to have a why.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, number two
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's time to fight.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Are you got us?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You got to fight back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I was going through my thing, for those who don't know, my husband was having affairs with employees.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I found out I moved out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He then shot at me in our dealership.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to pack up and move to Florida.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He then took all the money out of account, locking in our business, and we are still four years in litigation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I found out about the affair, I'm trying to be so grown.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I ain't driven.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I ain't calling the girl.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got the number.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to pay her, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not calling the girl.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not cousin in fussing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not slashin' old tires.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not poor no beliefs on old clothes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm goin' back to work.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm keeping it so cute and classy because I don't want to mess number one up with the money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, my son ain't going to see me come out of pocket.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Every time I did the right thing, he did something more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you cheat on me now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got to move out the house and
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[SPEAKER_01]: we build okay now you shoot at me okay now I got to move pack up go to a new place okay cool now you take them so it's like well and I keep saying oh my god he's just being so mean oh my god we're gonna fight back see a lot of times as women we try to be the peacemaker we don't like confrontation so we just we just keep
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[SPEAKER_01]: I call it, in our minds, we're just being nice, we know we're just going with the flow, we're not trying to be combative.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, you're being a pushover, you're going to walk on and until you stand up for yourself, they're going to keep walking over you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So stop saying, why does he keep why do you keep allowing you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why are you still there?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why are you financially dependent on him?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you know we know I'm about to fight back.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, fuck this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't you don't mess with the wrong one fuck this shit, and that you have to get into that fuck that shit Mo Well, you know fuck that shit mo your brings a beast out of you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Excuse me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're bringing the beast out of you And I said I'm not I'm not laying in down no more So number one number one you got to you got to heal yourself
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[SPEAKER_01]: So all day every day, I was just, I just said, if that's shit, but all day every day, I listened to key on Henderson and Pastor Jamal Bryant because they have a lot of, they have a lot of base talk about your Emmy gonna be your first tool.
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[SPEAKER_01]: they talk about getting your comeback and they talk about letting go of that resentment.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I had to let go of the anger, I had to let go of the resentment, I had to because I had to clear my mind because I'm now going to be in a battle fighting for my business, fighting for my life, basically financially.
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[SPEAKER_01]: To you have to be financially independent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Once you don't need that child support, once you don't need that spouse's support, you take a big whammy out of the playbook he has.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm 12, 14 hours a day in my office, come up with master plans on social media, dance and jigging, coming with all these different marketing to even tell us about something that sticks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So now financier, you don't pay your child's or maybe I don't even, I don't even need it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So once you become financially independent, he can't play with you.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So now we're mentally better, we're healed, we're financially independent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Next, what did you do that allows yourself to be there?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I can tell you a laundry list of how he wasn't a no-good, boom, boom, boom, but where's my accountability?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I was right there for 10 years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why do I allow this to?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you got to now go back and say, what role did you play in this arena?
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[SPEAKER_01]: This person may have done some bad things, but why were you still there?
18:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Because I was still there to be shot at.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So once you get accountability, next is boundaries.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I never knew what a boundary.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I thought about it like it's like for a bad person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You could be a good person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I still got to have a bounty.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you cross this line, I don't care who you are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There is no collecting to one another.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There is no go.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So once you have a boundary, my boundary is we don't talk.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have an app that we communicate.
19:22
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have my phone number.
19:23
[SPEAKER_01]: There is no communication.
19:24
[SPEAKER_01]: There is no drop-off.
19:26
[SPEAKER_01]: We're at the airport.
19:27
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like my son at the time was nine feet
19:33
[SPEAKER_01]: He tells me what gate he's at.
19:35
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm four gates down and he just walks from one gate to the next gate And I'm walking.
19:41
[SPEAKER_01]: You're not gonna you're not gonna.
19:42
[SPEAKER_01]: No, no, I'm never gonna be in the presence of him again because he'll never get a second chance to try to kill me
19:49
[SPEAKER_01]: The father of your child is this, they have your phone number, no, he's not, no, my boundary.
19:55
[SPEAKER_01]: So once you have boundary, once you understand who you are and you live your life or someone can't play with you, it's a whole, another ball game.
20:06
[SPEAKER_01]: But the problem is, number one, you still want to be in communication with this person.
20:10
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not going to happen.
20:11
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, financially, you need the person.
20:14
[SPEAKER_01]: You need the child so they can continue to play with you.
20:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, you still aren't healed.
20:19
[SPEAKER_01]: You're still talking about what he did.
20:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Maybe he did it because he wanted to he didn't care move on.
20:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Find you someone new or just go be by yourself.
20:26
[SPEAKER_01]: Number four, go focus on what you do have control over.
20:29
[SPEAKER_01]: So I was like, the business I'm losing it right now, I don't know why I'm going through all of this screw it.
20:35
[SPEAKER_01]: What can I focus on now?
20:36
[SPEAKER_01]: What's my future?
20:37
[SPEAKER_01]: Go build you a brand new life.
20:39
[SPEAKER_01]: Go get some new hobbies, some new goals, and you go build something new.
20:44
[SPEAKER_01]: And God will handle whatever's on the other side.
20:46
[SPEAKER_04]: I do want to actually, like, what's some example of, like, new standards that women should be building, you know, um, not new standards or standards like they must have.
20:56
[SPEAKER_04]: It's almost like a non-negotiable relationship.
21:00
[SPEAKER_01]: You need to have non-negotiables in a relationship.
21:03
[SPEAKER_01]: You need to have, if this person does this, I'm walking.
21:10
[SPEAKER_01]: See, a lot of times when I did, I had a, I had markers.
21:15
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a pull-a-marker.
21:17
[SPEAKER_01]: He didn't really mean it, and I'm changing that red flag to orange, like to green.
21:22
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm pacifying his, for example, his anger.
21:27
[SPEAKER_01]: And when I met my husband, he asked, he always had an anger problem.
21:31
[SPEAKER_01]: But it was not, it wasn't to me.
21:32
[SPEAKER_01]: He would break this wall.
21:33
[SPEAKER_01]: He would break a laptop.
21:35
[SPEAKER_01]: He would, he would go all that stuff on the ground.
21:37
[SPEAKER_01]: But he would never hit me.
21:40
[SPEAKER_01]: And as a woman, you shouldn't be around a man who's who's breaking anything.
21:44
[SPEAKER_01]: That's the red flag because over time, the walls, the laptop, the stuff got closer and closer until now now you're throwing China at me as I'm running around the house.
22:00
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, I'm 10 years in with a kid and a bonus daughter and a built life and it's like, well, dang, if I take the rose color glasses off and look at things for what they are, I'm in a shit store.
22:16
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me keep this rose color glasses on for a little longer and he's not that bad.
22:20
[SPEAKER_01]: He's just angry.
22:20
[SPEAKER_01]: So let me just not make him angry more and then he won't do this anymore.
22:24
[SPEAKER_01]: But then when he's angry all the time and it is like eventually you have to take the rose color glasses off.
22:30
[SPEAKER_01]: So I think number one having non-negotiables if he is disrespectful in any sense, walk away.
22:38
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, that's it.
22:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, do not tell a man what you want.
22:44
[SPEAKER_01]: All that first egg.
22:45
[SPEAKER_01]: What do you look for?
22:46
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my God, I'm looking for him.
22:48
[SPEAKER_01]: Now you're telling him exactly what row he needs to play.
22:51
[SPEAKER_01]: And when you get him on a toxic person,
22:53
[SPEAKER_01]: They're going to become exactly what you stood on that first date.
22:57
[SPEAKER_01]: My husband became the exact same thing.
22:59
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh my God, he's perfect.
23:01
[SPEAKER_01]: He's everything I asked for.
23:05
[SPEAKER_01]: No, he played the role.
23:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I told him exactly who would have been.
23:08
[SPEAKER_01]: He just played the role.
23:11
[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, you have to be okay with being alone.
23:16
[SPEAKER_01]: When I got married, I was the one who was saying, when I met my husband, the ex-husband,
23:23
[SPEAKER_01]: I was in my mid-30s and I was at that, it's time to get married.
23:27
[SPEAKER_01]: I was making like 20, 30 grand a month, being a little lawyer, you know, I was just established and it was time to check off because society says you're going to be, maybe marrying the wrong one is worse than just being on single too long.
23:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So stop, stop rushing and trying to check off a boss because society says you should be married because now you rush into things.
23:50
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
23:50
[SPEAKER_01]: I see he has some good characteristics.
23:52
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to not look at the bat once because I want these good ones.
23:55
[SPEAKER_01]: No, you got to look at everything and then I would say the last one would be
24:04
[SPEAKER_01]: you have to keep it real with yourself.
24:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Your gut is going to tell you.
24:08
[SPEAKER_01]: Is this what I really need to be?
24:10
[SPEAKER_01]: Or is this what I want?
24:12
[SPEAKER_01]: I want it to be Mary.
24:13
[SPEAKER_01]: So I just grabbed the first little thing that was cute, got a little hustle.
24:17
[SPEAKER_01]: I can do something with him and maybe that was the worst decision of my life.
24:22
[SPEAKER_01]: Let's have my son, the worst.
24:23
[SPEAKER_01]: how long should the vetting process be thank you let me at number six you need to see someone in all seasons at least a year at least a year to before I cool that's my girl before you can even talk about marriage before talking well let me because there's going to be there's going to be a variety of
24:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Instantly or quickly if she's the one, it's just, let me just make sure she meets all the, let me just make sure I'm not missing anything, but you already know she's the one, right?
25:04
[SPEAKER_01]: So, for when I was any master in the VX husband, like our third date with the Bahamas, outer order, we were engaged within a year, Mary, when I heard it like within 18, but everything went so fast.
25:18
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
25:18
[SPEAKER_01]: And when he goes fast, you miss a lot of things.
25:21
[SPEAKER_01]: And then now you're married, and you may see a riff like one riff flag, he said he was a capa.
25:27
[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, wow, I didn't even like take you for a capa.
25:31
[SPEAKER_01]: Like I didn't, okay, on my wedding day, my cousin, who's a capa, goes to dapp him up.
25:38
[SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't know the handshake.
25:41
[SPEAKER_01]: My cousin was like, do a haste cousin, like,
25:43
[SPEAKER_01]: He's not a cat, but I'm like, you're not a cat, but he's like, oh, me now, I was just playing.
25:48
[SPEAKER_01]: Why would you lie about being a cat or a flat?
25:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Why would you, I wasn't that big of a video.
25:53
[SPEAKER_01]: Why are you already lying?
25:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
25:55
[SPEAKER_01]: But now I'm not about to this, but in hindsight, am I going to divorce a man?
26:00
[SPEAKER_01]: Because he said it was a, it isn't that one internet doesn't seem that big.
26:05
[SPEAKER_01]: But then when there's a plethora of small little white lies, all those things add up and you realize you're living a lie.
26:14
[SPEAKER_01]: Like the person I married doesn't even exist as a person that just made up and became something that I would fall for him.
26:21
[SPEAKER_01]: And then over time, the real person came out, which is why we have so much conflict, year after you tell me, oh, you're so cat, I'll like, oh, who are you?
26:30
[SPEAKER_01]: This is the person who he really was.
26:32
[SPEAKER_01]: So at least a year of dating someone, seeing them, you may know she's the one.
26:39
[SPEAKER_01]: But let me just wait to make sure I see you.
26:42
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to see a person mad?
26:44
[SPEAKER_01]: How does he treat you when he's mad?
26:46
[SPEAKER_01]: That is number one.
26:48
[SPEAKER_01]: Is he going to ignore you?
26:50
[SPEAKER_01]: Are you going to get the silent treatment?
26:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Is he going to blame you?
26:54
[SPEAKER_01]: When he's wrong, can he take accountability or, if you didn't do this, see, accountability is huge.
27:03
[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, when he has financial pressure, how does he handle it?
27:09
[SPEAKER_01]: Is he going to be out?
27:11
[SPEAKER_01]: Is he going to turn to drugs and alcohol?
27:14
[SPEAKER_01]: Is he going to be mean and dismissive to you?
27:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Or if like, hey, I'm going through something, like give me a moment, he going man up and you know, you all figured out together.
27:24
[SPEAKER_01]: So seeing a man when he has financial pressure, when he's upset or mad and more importantly, when you as the woman do something and you're out of line, how does he handle that?
27:34
[SPEAKER_01]: Can you still love me, although you're disappointed in me or are you calling me out of my name?
27:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Are you do see all of those things is what's important.
27:43
[SPEAKER_01]: It's easy to love someone when the money's good, when everything's happy.
27:46
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, she's easy.
27:47
[SPEAKER_01]: If he's the hard part, when he is going through stress, how does he handle you?
27:55
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's the most important thing.
27:58
[SPEAKER_02]: That's the problem.
27:59
[SPEAKER_02]: That's so true.
28:00
[SPEAKER_02]: That's so true.
28:01
[SPEAKER_02]: But I look at it too, like the dating, like the dating, like even in today's dating, it's like a little different, like because a lot of times, a lot of people, they value certain characteristics over the other, like it could be a nice guy, but he might not be there financially.
28:17
[SPEAKER_02]: So most of the time the women who go for the guy who, you know, they seem as a provider, he can take care of the house But he might have some bad tricks.
28:27
[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, right.
28:27
[SPEAKER_04]: Very bad.
28:28
[SPEAKER_04]: Correct.
28:29
[SPEAKER_02]: And then the nice guy is left out losing the girl to well, but you know, you the world potential.
28:36
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I'll day for potential They they look at the external more so then hey, this is a guy.
28:42
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, he got good traits, but he's not really weird He's
28:46
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, where she would ideally want him to be, that's not the girl you want because the girl you want is looking for those traits.
29:00
[SPEAKER_01]: Because the guy with the money, he has the money now.
29:04
[SPEAKER_01]: What happens if a deal goes bad and he no longer has the money?
29:08
[SPEAKER_01]: What is he going to do?
29:10
[SPEAKER_01]: What else, what else does he have besides the money?
29:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, just because a man has money does not mean he's going to be your provider.
29:22
[SPEAKER_01]: He may pay the bills, but a lot of times a man with money is going to use that money to control you.
29:30
[SPEAKER_01]: So, as long as you do what I want you to do, you have access.
29:35
[SPEAKER_01]: When even you do something that I don't want you to do, I'm going to remove my access, so now you're trapped.
29:42
[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, if you want a woman who's only looking for a man with money, you don't want her.
29:48
[SPEAKER_01]: You want the woman who's going to be down with you with the money, without the money.
29:53
[SPEAKER_01]: because she gonna help you build.
29:55
[SPEAKER_01]: See, a woman's job is to multiply whatever you have on a 10x it.
29:59
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care what the money is.
30:00
[SPEAKER_01]: But when you get with me, we don't 10x it.
30:03
[SPEAKER_01]: And I met Masini that's husband.
30:05
[SPEAKER_01]: He had two failing businesses.
30:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't worried about the money, because I know what I bring to the table.
30:11
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm the table, the chairs, the salt, and the pepper.
30:13
[SPEAKER_01]: You gotta have just some hustle.
30:15
[SPEAKER_01]: I can handle everything else.
30:17
[SPEAKER_01]: So all those girls that you feel like are just passing you by,
30:21
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to be ducking and dodging them because they aren't the ones for you.
30:27
[SPEAKER_01]: Now on the flip side, this new age is talking about all this high value man and the man is the prize and 50, 50.
30:37
[SPEAKER_01]: See a lot of times this new dating era has also a lot of sassy men.
30:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, we are missing out on the masculine, the provider, the get your hands dirty, the make sure that the one, so let's write the, I think it's like a even tray, like the, the men are getting sassy are, and they want princess treatment, and I'm high value in, where do you bring into the table versus here's my table?
31:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Here's what I'm providing.
31:08
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm welcoming you into my world.
31:11
[SPEAKER_01]: And you know, the woman's job
31:14
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what's so fun bro like yo bro like I've seen I think I heard women say like men don't even chase women anymore Like oh, I don't know you're not that there's it.
31:25
[SPEAKER_04]: There's a meme going around now like Basically the meme is like guys are standing on the couch girls are sitting in nightclubs They you know they're standing on the couch
31:34
[SPEAKER_04]: They got to go y'all purse, the girls are sitting down below, sitting back, so I'm like, y'all like, how's the change in Gaza's carry of purses, you know, and they will be so sick.
31:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Correct, correct.
31:47
[SPEAKER_04]: Like, I mean, I don't do the nail polish thing, but you know, like,
31:52
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what it's a different it's real different now.
31:57
[SPEAKER_02]: It's definitely different, but I had to ask that too because I'm like, you know, in today like today's day and worse, it's kind of different like the like even then I'll probably use New York for example, like in New York.
32:12
[SPEAKER_02]: It's like you meet in the same girl like a hundred times like
32:15
[SPEAKER_02]: All those girls is like, most of them be, it's not like a, I don't want to say like a, I just say like, you have to be financially there to really mess with most of the girls in New York, like you have to, like, and a lot of times it's like, you get blinded by you, like, is this real?
32:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Is this like, you know?
32:36
[SPEAKER_02]: but it's like, after the second day, pay for my nails or, hey, I don't eat for the day, this is a trip that they typically use, I eat for the day, your spots, it can't be, oh, um, oh, that's, that's cool, like, and then she's, she's gonna assume she's gonna be like, hey,
32:56
[SPEAKER_02]: You're not going to act without, you're not going to take care of that or something like that.
33:00
[SPEAKER_02]: So it's like they really expect things real quick out of a guy once again.
33:05
[SPEAKER_01]: Those are the if if you're grown and you can't provide your own food, you don't want to date that person.
33:18
[SPEAKER_01]: If she's asking for nail money, you don't want to date.
33:23
[SPEAKER_01]: You guys are podcast.
33:25
[SPEAKER_01]: You guys have moved from New York started a brand new business.
33:29
[SPEAKER_01]: The kind of woman that you're looking for.
33:30
[SPEAKER_01]: If we're talking about nail money, she is even on your level.
33:35
[SPEAKER_01]: You should even be going out with her.
33:38
[SPEAKER_01]: That is so, the conversation that you can have with her is gonna be, there is no conversation that you can have.
33:45
[SPEAKER_01]: That's gonna be stimulant because if we're talking about nail money or already, we're already having the wrong conversation.
33:53
[SPEAKER_01]: She will never understand that you're gonna take six figures and go into a mastermind and hey, we can't travel for the next six months.
34:00
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to go invest in mentorship.
34:02
[SPEAKER_01]: She won't even understand you.
34:04
[SPEAKER_01]: So if she's asking for,
34:08
[SPEAKER_01]: You need to be running from her.
34:12
[SPEAKER_01]: The problem is she bad.
34:17
[SPEAKER_01]: She bad.
34:18
[SPEAKER_01]: That would be the same.
34:21
[SPEAKER_01]: So you got to ask yourself, what is it that you want?
34:24
[SPEAKER_01]: Are you focused on the outside appearance?
34:27
[SPEAKER_01]: Because she bad.
34:30
[SPEAKER_01]: Or are you on a bed, you know, as she may not have the cult bottle shape, she may not have the 40 inches.
34:38
[SPEAKER_01]: She may not be aesthetically, you know, a dime.
34:42
[SPEAKER_01]: Are you as a man willing to go through that and look for the girl that has the substance, the girl who's not asking for a nail money, the girl who you are probably me at a mentorship or a conference working on a business?
34:53
[SPEAKER_01]: So a lot of times, me complain about things that they don't want, but it sounds like that's what you're looking for.
35:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So, the one who bad, not at a 10 times, she's used to dating a man who's going to just provide her to stay bad.
35:10
[SPEAKER_01]: She's not looking for anything of substance.
35:12
[SPEAKER_01]: She's wants the quick lick.
35:15
[SPEAKER_01]: The girl looking for the substance may not have aesthetically appealing of what the bad she has.
35:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Some of them do but some of them don't.
35:22
[SPEAKER_01]: And then where are you meeting them?
35:23
[SPEAKER_01]: So, ethnically, it goes both ways.
35:26
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, true, true, true, true, true, so joy, I don't know if you mind if I ask this question, so I mean you've been on podcast, you know, you've been around like you've toured a lot of place, like since we went like, has anybody ever like, you know, came across your table so far?
35:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Interesting, like kind of you say you're open to remarry and you know building a family like how things look I didn't say building a family.
35:49
[SPEAKER_04]: I'm sorry.
35:50
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you know Combining a family.
35:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you know, I have met a couple of nice people.
35:59
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I am single
36:01
[SPEAKER_01]: But no, you know, I'm I am single me going on this dating.
36:05
[SPEAKER_01]: I know that I'm dating and I'm now dating I haven't gone a date.
36:10
[SPEAKER_01]: I haven't dated since maybe 2008.
36:12
[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm like 20 years
36:16
[SPEAKER_01]: 20 years and so I'm like, wow, like these, these men are sassy, like I had one guy, like my Instagram page is nice and professional, right?
36:28
[SPEAKER_01]: The my stories, that's the real job, you know?
36:32
[SPEAKER_01]: I can get a little crunken stories, right?
36:35
[SPEAKER_01]: And so I remember I posted this a meme, like a meme from someone who said, okay, God, I'm healed, bring me Mr. 6, but three with a beer, right?
36:44
[SPEAKER_01]: And so, I get a text from a guy that I had just met cool guy, gone a couple of dates, and he was like, you know, I follow Instagram.
36:53
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, yeah, okay.
36:55
[SPEAKER_01]: He's like, well, he sends me the screenshot of the meanness is I'm healed, getting Mr. Six flew through with the beard.
37:02
[SPEAKER_01]: And he's like, well, I'm six, six, and I shave my beard.
37:07
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm like, okay, and he's like, yes.
37:12
[SPEAKER_01]: So I hope you find everything that you have on your list.
37:16
[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm on here like, I can hear the neck roll as an as a text is coming through, not mine.
37:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Are you a really upset that I posted?
37:26
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me mean about Mr. 6, 3, and you're 6, 6.
37:29
[SPEAKER_01]: But that's the same thing that I'm, I'm fun.
37:31
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, I'm, there's no telling what I'm posting on my story, right?
37:34
[SPEAKER_01]: I just, to have fun, I'm like, because for this, is like, okay, once again, okay, let's, let's go on to the next, on to the next.
37:45
[SPEAKER_01]: But yeah, Mina here, a little sassy, um,
37:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, or they like to lead with the money, um, there's nothing unless you go back to bringing me on a hill of comfort day, there or have a Bugatti, there is nothing I have and I have an already had.
38:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So that's not going to impress me.
38:03
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, so a lot of them who lead with money, they don't have anything else.
38:06
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm looking for.
38:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm looking for integrity, I'm looking for character, I'm looking for would you give the shirt off your back for me?
38:13
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm looking for a man to treat like a princess to show my son how a man should treat a woman because he doesn't see that.
38:21
[SPEAKER_01]: And so when you, you don't have to have a whole bunch.
38:25
[SPEAKER_01]: See a lot of time, you guys look for a plethora, right?
38:29
[SPEAKER_01]: And a lot of times the plethora is going to waste your time, waste your money, and waste your focus.
38:36
[SPEAKER_01]: So any entrepreneur man who's on here, I always say the secret to seven and eight figures get you a wife.
38:45
[SPEAKER_01]: I know you don't want to hear that, you are high.
38:48
[SPEAKER_01]: That's going to be your secret to seven and eight figures.
38:51
[SPEAKER_01]: And I tell I'm not going to say nay, but I'd like
38:54
[SPEAKER_01]: you doing all this all these ads, you need, if you marry her right there, she gon' get you fast, and then what them ads gon' get you, that wife gon' give you stability.
39:05
[SPEAKER_01]: That wife gon' have you focused on one woman.
39:09
[SPEAKER_01]: So that means all the other time can be on your business, not juggling and all that stuff, she's gonna pour into you, the wife is the multiplier, it's what you're missing, Eve was
39:23
[SPEAKER_01]: And so once you have the woman that can cover everything else, all you gotta do is get that one laying down, she's gonna bring you advice.
39:32
[SPEAKER_01]: She's gonna bounce ideas off you, she's gonna speak into you or it can you are everything.
39:38
[SPEAKER_01]: This is you, and she's gonna motivate you.
39:42
[SPEAKER_01]: But you know, they're gonna come around the corner.
39:46
[SPEAKER_01]: You're like dang she is hard, but if you get you any man out there, you get you a wife.
39:54
[SPEAKER_01]: that's going to be the right life.
39:56
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
39:57
[SPEAKER_01]: That's going to be your ticket to seven eight figures.
40:00
[SPEAKER_01]: But take it.
40:00
[SPEAKER_04]: I do want to switch topic.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I do want to talk about business but I do have another last question.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So now, you know, the men are building off the assets, you know, everything like that.
40:13
[SPEAKER_04]: Like how do you actually
40:15
[SPEAKER_04]: No, like, let me just give my thoughts to you on it, right?
40:19
[SPEAKER_04]: So if you're building, you know, I know before you mentioned, you don't want to play house, like, but then again, you still want to have the hard conversations.
40:27
[SPEAKER_04]: You still want to protect yourself.
40:29
[SPEAKER_04]: You still want to make sure that what you've built through getting ready to build this, you know, going to be sustainable, especially if you have partners in a business, like how do you protect yourself in a marriage, you know?
40:41
[SPEAKER_01]: One way to protect yourself will be a pre-numpful agreement that is going to say that when we get married everything isn't just ours and a lot of people in my arms, right?
40:56
[SPEAKER_01]: We're not sure, right?
40:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, yes, marriage is the business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Marriage is the quickest way of acquiring wealth.
41:06
[SPEAKER_01]: One way if you were looking to protect yourself, especially if you have a partner, would be to have a pre-numptual agreement.
41:14
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, the pre-nup doesn't mean she doesn't get everything.
41:18
[SPEAKER_01]: What the pre-nup means is that I'm, we're going to, before we go down this divorce path, we're going to decide what the person gets.
41:28
[SPEAKER_01]: So you can have things like for every year you're married, she's going to get $50 grand, $100,000.
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[SPEAKER_01]: for every child she has, she's going to get paid X amount of money.
41:38
[SPEAKER_01]: So upon, if you were to get divorced, she already knows what is going to be hers to walk away with.
41:45
[SPEAKER_01]: So a pre-neutral agreement, if you want her to be a business partner on certain things, you can add her as a business partner, just like you have current insurance, but you don't plan to get an accident, right?
41:57
[SPEAKER_01]: So a pre-neutral agreement is going to be, hey, I don't plan to get any divorce.
42:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So I don't ever want to pull this thing out.
42:02
[SPEAKER_01]: But in case we do, we don't have to have four years, six figures in legal fees, right?
42:10
[SPEAKER_01]: You know what you're getting, you know what you're walking away with.
42:13
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just set and stomp.
42:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Um, another thing you can do to protect yourself, the most important thing to do is make sure that you're marrying the right woman, but that we have, you that you have to have what I need, what, wife.
42:27
[SPEAKER_01]: If I am working on a project, I'm not gonna be here.
42:31
[SPEAKER_01]: So a woman that understands a successful man is not gonna be home at five o'clock for dinner.
42:37
[SPEAKER_01]: He's not.
42:38
[SPEAKER_01]: He may miss a birthday or two.
42:40
[SPEAKER_01]: He's building an enterprise.
42:42
[SPEAKER_01]: He's building a business that's gonna take carey off of the next 10, 15 years.
42:47
[SPEAKER_01]: So if she can understand and work with you, that's gonna be your ride or die.
42:52
[SPEAKER_01]: The problem is when you don't marry someone
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[SPEAKER_01]: that we are in alignment with.
42:59
[SPEAKER_01]: So as you're dating someone, does she understand dead lines?
43:03
[SPEAKER_01]: She understand, hey, I made a draw for a little bit.
43:06
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm in the lab.
43:08
[SPEAKER_01]: But see, you haven't walking in so much clarity.
43:11
[SPEAKER_01]: You've been walking with so much integrity that when you say that you're in the lab, she believes you.
43:18
[SPEAKER_01]: But if you were in the lab, but the last thing you were in the lab, the lab was Lisa, and you was lying to her, well, now she's looking at you like well, no, see, that's how things kind of just, and then you want, oh, she, I can, well, no, you did have some piece.
43:35
[SPEAKER_01]: It wasn't a tell.
43:36
[SPEAKER_01]: She found out that the lab wasn't the lab, and now she's looking at you crazy.
43:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So you got to make sure that you're with a woman who understands I'm building a man or a woman building is not going to have a lot of free time So we may not be vacationing because in this season I'm putting my money in this new podcast equipment.
43:53
[SPEAKER_01]: Is she okay with that for this birthday?
43:55
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not going to be in Shania I'm gonna take you to dinner, but that Chanel bag I'm using that money go on this mentorship conference to go net work and go bring if you find a person that can vibe with you like that You'll be printing money
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[SPEAKER_04]: I agree, like I look at all the high earners that's been on our podcast as well, you know, majority of them are married, have really great marriage and you know, sometimes they even come with them, you know, to the podcast and it's just like, I see why you're winning, you know?
44:29
[SPEAKER_04]: So I always take away certain things, you know, how to carry themselves, how to do certain things and it makes me like, all right, cool, like, I...
44:37
[SPEAKER_04]: And I really would want to get married at a young age and I wouldn't be, you know what I'm saying?
44:42
[SPEAKER_02]: I would.
44:43
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's good.
44:45
[SPEAKER_02]: See?
44:45
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know.
44:46
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I don't know.
44:47
[SPEAKER_04]: I mean, I mean, I don't know.
44:48
[SPEAKER_04]: I mean, I don't know.
44:49
[SPEAKER_04]: Do you want it?
44:50
[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, you want to make the seven figures with that?
44:52
[SPEAKER_04]: You know?
44:52
[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no.
44:53
[SPEAKER_02]: I definitely, I definitely agree with you, or you know, the right woman definitely could take you to that to that to that next level, like a hundred percent, like short, like I'm pretty confident, you know, that side, but I was going to say to, what would you like,
45:12
[SPEAKER_02]: How would you, like, so basically it's like, as a guy, like, do you think more so it's good to, like date women who their past might not be the best, cause then it's like sometimes you might have to be that healer for her.
45:33
[SPEAKER_02]: And,
45:34
[SPEAKER_02]: or sometimes even that trauma could kind of like pass over.
45:39
[SPEAKER_02]: Like this a lot of times like I'll be fully transparent.
45:42
[SPEAKER_02]: I've dated women who had like a lot of relationship trauma.
45:45
[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, now it's like, I'll go out.
45:48
[SPEAKER_02]: I come out late now it's like, you was talking to another girl.
45:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, you know, and it's like real parent, like it's starting to be a, it's starting to be a real paranoid.
45:57
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, how, how, how is that aspect?
46:02
[SPEAKER_02]: should guys like date women like that or on out.
46:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to say this.
46:08
[SPEAKER_01]: Number one before you're out here dating, you need to be healed because you don't want to bleed on someone else.
46:16
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you don't want, I don't want to make you have to hop through hoops and ladders because of what my ex did.
46:25
[SPEAKER_01]: So you want to number one be healed, right?
46:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I went to like a lot of therapy, I had to go to a soul of a friend, like maybe you don't want this number right now.
46:34
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm about to push you out, you know what you want this number right here, just catch me in six months to a year.
46:40
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't want this number right now, right?
46:42
[SPEAKER_01]: But now that I am healed, but you still are going to have triggers.
46:47
[SPEAKER_01]: So, if you are dating someone that you like and they may have a trigger, I think that's where a communication comes in.
46:56
[SPEAKER_01]: So, hey, my ex-husband or my ex-bu, you know, he did the whole, my phone is dead and that really triggers me.
47:06
[SPEAKER_01]: So then what you're going to do is you're going to make sure that your phone is never dead and you have a portable charger because you don't want to be her trigger.
47:14
[SPEAKER_01]: So when you have a communication, you say, hey, this is, this is what is my trigger.
47:19
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to make sure as a partner that I don't want to trigger you.
47:23
[SPEAKER_01]: So I think it goes back and forth, but if the person's not healed, she's going to bleed on you and she's going to make you pay a consequence for a study you'd never did.
47:31
[SPEAKER_01]: And then that's why we can kind of get into this whole toxic, not healthy relation because you're going to like, girl, I was that.
47:38
[SPEAKER_01]: And you know what I'm saying?
47:39
[SPEAKER_01]: And that's how we go there.
47:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So if you really care for her, it could be, hey, that's going to therapy together.
47:43
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't think you're, you know, quite healed.
47:45
[SPEAKER_01]: And like, I don't mind holding your hands as we, as we, you know, get through this, you're going to first also ask yourself, are you that invested in this relationship?
47:54
[SPEAKER_01]: It's kind of help her heal.
47:56
[SPEAKER_01]: But we got to be, we have to be healed before we start dating.
48:00
[SPEAKER_01]: jumping out and getting an escalation was not going to heal you from the first one.
48:04
[SPEAKER_03]: Right.
48:05
[SPEAKER_02]: That's definitely agree.
48:07
[SPEAKER_02]: And just to get back on the book.
48:09
[SPEAKER_02]: So like, what's like the biggest takeaway you want people to get from it?
48:13
[SPEAKER_02]: Like what's like the biggest takeaway you want?
48:14
[SPEAKER_01]: The biggest takeaway from the book is that you can overcome anything.
48:19
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care how dark it gets.
48:21
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care what kind of car you've been dealt.
48:25
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you can get over anything.
48:27
[SPEAKER_01]: And whatever you need to get to that next level, you already have it.
48:31
[SPEAKER_01]: No one's coming to save you.
48:33
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to weigh anything.
48:34
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you got this.
48:36
[SPEAKER_01]: And so in the book I tell a little bit about my story so you can kind of understand because my story is just insane.
48:43
[SPEAKER_01]: And I tell my story as embarrassing as it is because I want people to relate like you're seeing me.
48:51
[SPEAKER_01]: in my winning season, you know, with the makeup of the hair.
48:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Baby, I was broken, busted and disgusted, right?
48:59
[SPEAKER_01]: And what did I do to get myself out of that hole?
49:03
[SPEAKER_01]: And those are the principles that I put in the book.
49:06
[SPEAKER_01]: So every chapter, I give a principle as to how either how I got to where I was, because some of them reflect, we all have them, and then what you got to do to get out of that hole.
49:19
[SPEAKER_01]: So when you leave the book, you're going to leave with a game plan as to how to overcome whatever is your thing.
49:25
[SPEAKER_01]: My thing was the divorce.
49:27
[SPEAKER_01]: Your thing may be bankruptcy, it may be a bad breakup, it may be a lost child.
49:31
[SPEAKER_01]: Whatever is your thing, these principles will help you get out of that road.
49:36
[SPEAKER_02]: So on the last time we, I think the first interview we had with you, you said never makes family with business and a lot of people reacted to that like in the comment section and they still are probably still today and a lot of people was like, you know, it's a difference between your close family and then like an in law and
49:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Do you still, I stand on business, but I think people took what I said out of context.
50:07
[SPEAKER_01]: When I say there is no family in business, there is no family in business.
50:12
[SPEAKER_01]: Meaning when you're running a business, it's just a business.
50:15
[SPEAKER_01]: So whether I'm in business with a stranger or my dad, the contract needs to be signed, needs to run it like a business.
50:22
[SPEAKER_01]: The problem is when you do business with family, you may not run everything like a real business and you don't doctorize and cross your teeth.
50:32
[SPEAKER_01]: So then when things happen down the line, one of y'all not protected.
50:37
[SPEAKER_01]: So, I'm not saying you can't do business with your family.
50:41
[SPEAKER_01]: If me and my mom got in the business, she ain't my mommy in that business.
50:44
[SPEAKER_01]: She's my business partner.
50:45
[SPEAKER_01]: We have a contract and I'm running it as if she's a stark naked stranger.
50:50
[SPEAKER_01]: So, I stand on business.
50:51
[SPEAKER_01]: There is no family in business.
50:55
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, that's so true.
50:57
[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, because a lot of times it's like, makes in person with business, it can get really sticky.
51:02
[SPEAKER_01]: It gets really sticky.
51:03
[SPEAKER_01]: So you want to run it as if we are just stranger.
51:06
[SPEAKER_01]: So don't, because when it's your best friend, when it's your mom and it's your dad, you're going to let stuff slot.
51:11
[SPEAKER_01]: No, it's business.
51:13
[SPEAKER_01]: So you have to run it like a business.
51:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't give anyone any kind of slack, any kind of no, no, no, no.
51:19
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I mean, I need to have a contract, I gotta have a song, need payment with whatever it is.
51:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Run it like they are just a regular employee, a regular partner.
51:27
[SPEAKER_01]: When you, when you, when you, when you start bending lines, down the row, it's going by you.
51:33
[SPEAKER_01]: It's going by you.
51:34
[SPEAKER_01]: It should be.
51:36
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
51:38
[SPEAKER_04]: I do want to jump into the the grant funding because, you know, last time we we did like, you know, small interview together, you know, at invest best, you know, he's like literally you just walked in the building.
51:50
[SPEAKER_04]: Hey, Joy, do you want to do a quick interview?
51:52
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, sure, you know, and then from there.
51:55
[SPEAKER_04]: the video it went crazy, you know what I mean like, but now you're working on even bigger and better things since that last time we spoke on grants.
52:07
[SPEAKER_04]: Just fill us in like how was things like with grants like what some of the things that you're working on as well.
52:13
[SPEAKER_01]: So I have a grant software where it's going to help you find grants, help you apply for grant using AI, but more important is going to map out your business so that you actually see your business on a bigger scale.
52:27
[SPEAKER_01]: So now you know what to really ask for, but more importantly, you now know how to market and grow your business because you're seeing it on a larger scale.
52:35
[SPEAKER_01]: So when you're starting or you're trying to grow your business at the time we're stuck
52:40
[SPEAKER_01]: trying to get the marketing, trying to pay the bills, and we see what the account is or isn't, and we are asking for money in that state versus being able to see, hey, if my business is going to be in a full-blown scale, who else is in my target audience?
52:54
[SPEAKER_01]: What else can I do?
52:56
[SPEAKER_01]: How can I impact my community?
52:58
[SPEAKER_01]: How can I do all these things?
52:59
[SPEAKER_01]: And now you're able to see you know, why scale your full business mapped out?
53:05
[SPEAKER_01]: Now you number one, it gives you more confidence to
53:08
[SPEAKER_01]: What to ask for, and then what you need to actually grow your business.
53:13
[SPEAKER_01]: So my software will be a one-stop shop to map that business out.
53:17
[SPEAKER_01]: You have to apply for grants.
53:18
[SPEAKER_01]: It's going to write the grant in your tongues.
53:20
[SPEAKER_01]: I have a whole section where I have you talk to the software and answer questions.
53:25
[SPEAKER_01]: It hears how you sound.
53:28
[SPEAKER_01]: And with AI, we combine all that together.
53:30
[SPEAKER_01]: And so now, I have to apply for grants every single day.
53:34
[SPEAKER_01]: So you're constantly trying to get free money into your business.
53:37
[SPEAKER_04]: Right.
53:38
[SPEAKER_04]: In question, you know, like moving into 2026, I know there's a lot of people that are looking for grants right now.
53:45
[SPEAKER_04]: What's some of those websites and what's some of those resources that, you know, you probably will be able to share when it comes to getting grant funding.
53:52
[SPEAKER_01]: So number one, everyone now go to GalixieaStars, GalixieaStars.org, that is a grant that anyone can apply for.
54:00
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to have an LLC.
54:02
[SPEAKER_01]: It's for $3,500.
54:04
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to pay the money back.
54:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Right?
54:06
[SPEAKER_01]: It's free money for your business.
54:09
[SPEAKER_01]: Another grant you want to look for for us, you women.
54:10
[SPEAKER_01]: It's Amber Grant.
54:11
[SPEAKER_01]: It's a monthly grant for $10,000.
54:14
[SPEAKER_01]: the night foundation has a grant from men $200,000 and FedEx every single year has a $50,000 grant.
54:22
[SPEAKER_01]: So grants there are thousands of grants out there.
54:25
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to have a nonprofit for a business to start a scale or grow.
54:28
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to pay the money back.
54:30
[SPEAKER_01]: You can have a criminal history and apply for a business grant.
54:33
[SPEAKER_01]: They're not going to ask for financials.
54:34
[SPEAKER_01]: So grants are a great way of getting free money into your business.
54:38
[SPEAKER_04]: How's grants helped you before?
54:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Grants have helped me, we able to scale my business and I had a prior business before from our dealership.
54:46
[SPEAKER_03]: Was the most amount of money you've ever got, and then Grant?
54:50
[SPEAKER_01]: Uh, $50,000 for me.
54:52
[SPEAKER_04]: Wow.
54:53
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
54:55
[SPEAKER_04]: And I also had a dealership that you got.
54:57
[SPEAKER_04]: So, please.
54:58
[SPEAKER_01]: But I've had a client for has a record company.
55:02
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, like... No, like sales.
55:04
[SPEAKER_01]: like CDs record.
55:05
[SPEAKER_01]: No, like record like the black record.
55:06
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you
55:17
[SPEAKER_03]: How much did you get?
55:18
[SPEAKER_01]: $50,000.
55:19
[SPEAKER_03]: Well, he was able to do with it.
55:21
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm able to grow his record business.
55:23
[SPEAKER_03]: That's good.
55:25
[SPEAKER_02]: So the grandson for that you're dropping, that's going to be something that, no matter what business you're in, it'll help you find grants specifically for that business.
55:36
[SPEAKER_02]: Let's say like records, if you're like a brick and mortar owner or something, it'll help that side.
55:47
[SPEAKER_01]: So you don't have to find a podcast grant.
55:50
[SPEAKER_01]: If they may have a grant out there for podcasters, but you're looking for a small business grant.
55:55
[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't have to be industry-specific.
55:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Look, the grant software's going to do is going to help you never want to find grants.
56:01
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two is going to help you map out your business.
56:03
[SPEAKER_01]: See, what makes for Brace you winning a grant is what you're asking for.
56:08
[SPEAKER_01]: So you don't want to act like you don't have any money.
56:12
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't want to ask for things that aren't going to make you way.
56:14
[SPEAKER_01]: I want to just ask some extra money, maybe no.
56:18
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to ask yourself, what does my business need to make more money than next three days?
56:22
[SPEAKER_01]: And I want to ask for that.
56:24
[SPEAKER_01]: So is it equipment, inventory, payroll for other people to work the small into the business, you can be working on the business?
56:31
[SPEAKER_01]: Is it maybe going to a conference, right?
56:34
[SPEAKER_01]: What do you need to make more money and asking for that?
56:38
[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
56:38
[SPEAKER_01]: So in the software, it's going to help you tell you what you mean, it's going to tell you what you're, hey, in your business, ask for this business.
56:46
[SPEAKER_01]: So if you, I wanted to do something to where people who, number one, don't have time to write a grant.
56:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, don't know how to write a grant.
56:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Because most business owners can't afford to pay a grant writer $1,000 every time they apply for a grant.
57:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So I believe that's being an only going to be a self-sufficient as possible.
57:04
[SPEAKER_01]: So if you have this stall for now, you can apply for a grant five-teen grant every single month and increase how many free money we have coming into our business.
57:11
[SPEAKER_04]: Well, like I've heard like the grant.
57:15
[SPEAKER_04]: I didn't know that grants were so good.
57:17
[SPEAKER_04]: Like I've heard like you can even get grants to cover like payroll, you know, and I didn't even know that.
57:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, Robert.
57:23
[SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
57:24
[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
57:24
[SPEAKER_01]: So let's just say you guys are busy.
57:27
[SPEAKER_01]: If it's time for you now to have someone work all this equipment in
57:30
[SPEAKER_01]: You can hire, you can get a grant to have someone to do all this so that you have more time to be on the pack, podcasts, be out, networking, getting other owners on there and not having me tie down to having to work the equipment and job the video up and edit it.
57:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Like, that's payroll for others, yes.
57:46
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, no, granted.
57:48
[SPEAKER_02]: That's the thing, like any time, you know, Grant content goes really crazy online because a lot of people are looking for that debt free funding for their business because a lot of everyone can't handle that.
57:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, they can not handle that.
58:00
[SPEAKER_01]: You know, I'm so sure they're going to tell you get the funding, how to say, unless you know what to do with it.
58:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Don't touch that.
58:08
[SPEAKER_01]: is going to bring you heartache and misery.
58:10
[SPEAKER_04]: So make you want to go crazy.
58:12
[SPEAKER_01]: The little Jews today.
58:14
[SPEAKER_01]: That ain't that that's not that's not what it is.
58:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
58:17
[SPEAKER_01]: Now there is a season for funding, right?
58:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Once you have the blueprint as to what's working, you want to tin exit.
58:24
[SPEAKER_01]: Now we're going to get the funding and go, but just jumping on that funding.
58:28
[SPEAKER_01]: And trying to start the business, you're going to spin that money.
58:32
[SPEAKER_01]: The business still not going to be making no money.
58:34
[SPEAKER_01]: And now we have another bill.
58:36
[SPEAKER_01]: Now we have some more stress.
58:38
[SPEAKER_01]: Now we got what I called the monkey around our neck.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now you have an deal with that and still try to grow the business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The funding is not, can you go get a stranger to go buy your product and our service?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you can't do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't touch the money.
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[SPEAKER_04]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_04]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You had this thing, this segment called, make, uh, no, is it banking after the dark or banking after hours?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is that?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Bank after dark?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Mm-hm.
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[SPEAKER_04]: What is that?
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, like, what are you usually teaching on there?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I have a mentorship program that walks you through everything you have to do to start structure and to start your business, structure your business, fun, market, digital products.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we're going over asset protection, we're going over grants, we're going over how to how to market your business, like how do how can I make this podcast stand out?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who, what kind of character, who do you have to be that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I believe in being
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[SPEAKER_01]: I catch.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You got to have something that makes them stop the scroll, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What are you offering?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What are the key words?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You should be saying that your target audience said, oh, they're talking to me to stop on your website or to come in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I'm not a good sales person.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not a good
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't have to give the gap, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: How I sell, I'm going to over-deliver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So on my mentorship program, I always say, I'm not getting off the Zoom until everyone's questions answer.
1:00:00
[SPEAKER_01]: So whenever I'm 12, 38, 1 o'clock, 8, 2 o'clock, I'm going to do a little boomerang with the timestamp to show you, thank you after hour.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My mentorship program is not an hour.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You ain't gonna pay me and we hear the slides out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, because I know how hard it is to make money in business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been into for 20 years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's just, it's rough.
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[SPEAKER_01]: In some people need more time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some people just, and I'm gonna answer every one's question.
1:00:33
[SPEAKER_01]: Although you end although the same person asks this question four times.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm gonna answer it all four times Because I want to make sure when you leave my program you got to go win I'm not going to take no one's money and you ain't gonna go win So I I mark about over deliver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What's this making after our my mentorship program?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, all the other mentors are off in an hour at the max two.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going 9 p.m. till 2 a.m Whoever got whatever you got to do, baby to get it
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[SPEAKER_02]: Uh, how has it been like stepping into that, you know, being a coach and, you know, having mentees now, you know, like, what is some, like, like, what are some of the things you, you, you kind of like advise them more, you, you kind of help them whether it's marketing, whether it's the digital side because now, you know, you, you, I'm pretty sure you got a lot of experience at this point.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So like, what do you teach in them inside the program to really take them from,
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[SPEAKER_02]: where they currently are to, you know, the moon.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Number one, my gift is seeing the gift in you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you may come to me because you do hair.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If I'm going to say, you know what, we're going to map out the hair, but I see a book.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I see a book and you look on a blah, blah, blah, blah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I have a mentee, Mr. Mario.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, how long have you been married?
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's a 60 year, that's it.
1:01:52
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't get it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is not about chewing your wife.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You guys are you guys like really in love?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I see a sparkle in your eye.
1:02:01
[SPEAKER_01]: And I think you and your wife should do a book and have a ministry on keeping the spark in your mirror.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She was like, oh my God, it would just stuck.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So my gift is I'm able to see your purpose in you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So no matter what you come to my program with, you're going to leave with something else.
1:02:18
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to tell you what you miss and all, right?
1:02:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Number two, a lot of my people are running away from the bank, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Baby, this idea is so stupid.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You ain't going to go make a dollar with this.
1:02:29
[SPEAKER_01]: Now if you want to, you want to go away from the bank, I'll tell you how to map it out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But this right here, you're running away from the banks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I keep it real.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You need to do this, this, this, this and this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The most important thing I give is number one of the confidence because somebody knows something that they can do it to a big scale.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, I show them how to sell without sounding salesy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How do you market?
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[SPEAKER_01]: How should you show up?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It may be a character.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I need you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My, my, my, my, my, my, my mincey Mario.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He helps veterans get money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: your name gonna be money man Mario.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We use shop online.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I need you to have a money jacket, a money hat, a money tie.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything is money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When they say you they need to take money money man Mario.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was just at Alicia's A.I.
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[SPEAKER_01]: event on stage speaking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, the money blazing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I see you is money, you gotta be able to brand your stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I thought it'd dancing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What are you gonna do to make yourself stand out?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I help you come up with what's going to make someone stop on your video?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know how hard it is as I'm going to stop on your video?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Pull off to your store?
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that's my gift.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know how to market.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if you want to be in the camera behind the camera, I'm going to tell you how to make money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when you leave, you're going to make money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How you can make money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because everyone can't do what the average person does.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's so true.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's so true.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody has their own gifts.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Correct.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When it comes to today, you got to be able to sell online, sell on social media.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you know,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I definitely I know that they learn from the right person because like you said like like you're really good at the marketing so even before social media On the first interview we did I still remember you say you was posting up you know flyers and little Things inside the bathroom stall so seeing you being able to translate it into social media and still being able to market success who is is
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's impressive.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It definitely is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So what are some of your marketing strategies currently that some of the things that you do that you've been noticed that's working, that's helping you know scale your business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Number one is be authentic like if you come out trying to be somebody else We're trying to be like the challenges.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're going to just blend in and you're not going to stand out So whatever is your true self Like whoever is whatever is your personality you need to come out and be that person You need to look like something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can nest up a drain look like a nightmare So all this ladies all this natural and Put some makeup on me on put some makeup on and look like something
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have this little airport fit check where I'm going to airport my like I see one at a time in Bonnie's and sweats or just out like baby every time you walk out the door that's marketing like marketing isn't at the conference is not at the event when you go to wall while the gas station you are marketing your business you're going to hear you go meet so you need to look like something.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Number three, don't look at it as to try to sell.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think people think of it as I got to sell you on something, I think it gives so many roblox, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You just solve a problem.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what problem does your business solve?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you guys have a podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the problem that you guys solve is you help business owners
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[SPEAKER_01]: get foot traffic from leveraging your audience to then know about their business.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So none of your followers even know about me until I came on your podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we're not selling podcast services, you solved a problem.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Is your business missing customers?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Would you like to be in front of 10,000 customers who are looking for your product in our service?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well all you have to do is get on my podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: See, on our podcast service, we help business owners promote their business and by putting it in front of audiences, they would never have access to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you're only solving a problem.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So every single day you wake up, you want to tell the people what problem you solve.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we're not selling, we're just solving problem.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So the people have that problem, they want your service.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, once you are confident in the problem that you solve, every day in my job with the tell, these 10 people with the problem I solve.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if they don't have the problem, their mom is just a cousin, go have that problem and refer them to me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If fashion over's texting you, if McDonald's got billboards, if the president is saying something, why are you making one post a month thinking that you're doing too much?
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[SPEAKER_04]: every single the best marketers wins not the best person at the most experienced the best marketer the best person was convinced you on the best everything that's wins yeah quick question you know we it's like we've had so many different interactions joy like do you mind sharing like some wins that you've had like after you know our podcast airing or different interviews or you want to test some audio I mean yeah why not
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[SPEAKER_01]: So for any thesis owner, marketing needs to be your number one expense, okay?
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[SPEAKER_01]: There is no such thing as bad marketing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Your job is to get your business in front of other people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I first did the podcast January of 2020, but I don't want to say.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Just about, yeah, probably.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And marketing is going to be multi, multi-fold, okay?
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[SPEAKER_01]: One is going to be someone clicking the link in my bio and joining my five-day business challenge, joining my mentorship by my bundle.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Another form of marketing is what's called brand awareness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have gotten my brand in front of so many new people just by being on this podcast.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're following me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're deeming me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're asking me questions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm now in their ecosystem, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Once I'm in someone's ecosystem is now my job to sell them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So as they, as I got new followers from being on the podcast,
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[SPEAKER_01]: people who I would have never gotten before because I never came up in their feet, but they saw me on Garipot Castle now they're following me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Then they get to see all when I'm about, all what I have to offer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, all the followers, everyone's not going to equate into a buyer, but some are going to buy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some are going to learn.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some are going to just feed off my free information.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some are going to refer
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, by getting in front of a podcast, by getting new followers, by getting new people seeing your brain, you're not opening up your reach.
1:09:15
[SPEAKER_01]: People look and try to make everything transactional.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I sit on the podcast on Friday.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want to sell on Saturday.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't happen like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I may sit on the podcast today and not make the sale until a year from now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If I never sell on the podcast, I will never go out in the sale.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Someone, I've had so many moms send their sons my videos.
1:09:38
[SPEAKER_01]: In the summer, my mom told me to come, but you actually, you actually do, I actually want, so your job is to plant as many seeds.
1:09:47
[SPEAKER_01]: You want to be in front of many podcasts to get your business front as many people as possible.
1:09:53
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, once you're on the podcast, is my job to close the deal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Your job is to get me in front of the audience
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[SPEAKER_01]: My job is to sell them.
1:10:05
[SPEAKER_01]: Now, if the page looks like a flea market, if you sell a plate lunches and doing here and got an online boutique, you're not going to close them.
1:10:13
[SPEAKER_01]: If you have a rainbow on your page, you got 15 brand colors, you're not going to close them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you're a logo, look like you're going to be on a camp and got it, you ain't going to close them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, don't get on the podcast without knowing how to market by having a brand.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But if you have a brand, if you have brand colors, cohesiveness, messaging, this is gold.
1:10:37
[SPEAKER_01]: Because you're now going to be getting your business in front of thousands of people.
1:10:43
[SPEAKER_01]: And the great thing about a podcast is when is it expire?
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[SPEAKER_04]: It doesn't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Funny thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Our, our, our, our, but I know what I wear.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Our second, our second podcast we did in New York in New York.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
1:11:00
[SPEAKER_01]: Guess who saw it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who's the?
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[SPEAKER_01]: My car salesman.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Really?
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[SPEAKER_01]: He sends me a text.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He doesn't he doesn't know who I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He has no idea who I am what I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just walked in by the car as it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I get a text.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is this you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm like, yeah, all of my God.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had no idea that this was you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I had no idea you had overcome.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your story is amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Keep going.
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[SPEAKER_04]: from your podcast you know it's crazy to like some of the posts like when you said don't mix family with business that went crazy and like there's like oh like I remember when I was working with her into salons she was always a great one uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh you know and they were always just given their stories of like past interactions like in your past life things you used to do you know so the exposure is actually crazy
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, that's definitely well said too because that's that's kind of like what we noticed the people who Come on a podcast and have the most success is people who they have their back in like Sorry things like the profile set up the right way because like you said you're gonna get all this traffic people are gonna click your profile
1:12:19
[SPEAKER_02]: Now is everything like all together, you know, they're going to look at the link in the bios and people they're going to write like people look at all of these things so they have to be set up the right way and that's what we've seen With people who come on our show and they have the most success or even people who start their own podcast and you have the most success things and it's from profile setup to back systems and
1:12:44
[SPEAKER_01]: But Pat, you have a done for you.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Service that does everything for them.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You guys are ready to establish.
1:12:50
[SPEAKER_04]: You have like your services in order.
1:12:53
[SPEAKER_04]: You're ready selling products.
1:12:54
[SPEAKER_04]: You're ready selling services.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You already know what your business does and how it helps people.
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[SPEAKER_04]: We're having you come sit down.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Be pretty.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Be beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Be cute.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Be handsome.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Walk your talk.
1:13:05
[SPEAKER_02]: And like I asked you the work, I'm like you're with this joy ever less like flyer I've like but you know it's all a part of the journey is all a part of the hustle and that's what comes with it is there ever like a a a particular person that you want to collab with or that you want to say you have not could you ask not
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[SPEAKER_01]: the on say um i'm hoping to really grab on anyone who is similar to me or we have like the same kind of uh i'm i'm i'm open honestly i would love to say i enjoyed today's podcast once it been thank you for coming through again do you had any other final things you want to share before you're at
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are you and that is your superpower.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Anyway, going through a dark time, it doesn't matter what storm took.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And who just focus, I'll go up the storm left.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that is what's going to take you that net up is not how to start.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's how you finish.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So bet for yourself and finish strong.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Let's get it.
1:14:01
[SPEAKER_04]: Let's go.
1:14:02
[SPEAKER_04]: And how can the people find you tap in software, book, book launch?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, you can go to Joy-Cunt underscore ESQ on all social media, J-O-I, H-U-N-T, underscore ESQ, or my website, see you at thebank.com, grant software, membership program, grant bundle courses.
1:14:21
[SPEAKER_02]: Let's go.
1:14:22
[SPEAKER_02]: This is another amazing episode we do.
1:14:24
[SPEAKER_04]: I'll do an amazing episode with Joy Hunt.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Listen guys, you guys are in for a treat.
1:14:29
[SPEAKER_04]: We talked about almost everything today, but most importantly, take away the key principles.
1:14:34
[SPEAKER_04]: Take away the thing that applies to you, use it, and start running up, and literally you can have a comeback, right?
1:14:41
[SPEAKER_04]: Correct.
1:14:41
[SPEAKER_04]: A major comeback.
1:14:42
[SPEAKER_04]: So, there we have it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: This was another episode of Motion to Success.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, comment, share, and subscribe, and I'll see you guys in the next one.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Peace.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Peace.