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Hypnosis for Relationship Clarity - Exploring Three Futures Before Making a Life-Changing Decision · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now.
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  This is a hypnosis session to evaluate ending a relationship
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  while you're still in that relationship.
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  And I was working with a client that was very, very self aware.
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  They knew their priorities, they knew their needs, they knew the
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  qualities they wanted in their partner, and they had spent over
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  a year trying to make it work in their current relationship.
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  And the current relationship ticked a lot of boxes.
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  It was a lot of the kind of person and the certain things
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  that just really were. Important to them.
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  But something felt missing and they had tried to coax that
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  their partner into being more interested in certain areas and
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  it just wasn't for them. And that could be either a nice
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  to have, it could be a like. But for some people, it's really
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  a need to have and some people will base.
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  Things on physical. Attractiveness.
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  Other people might based on shared values or cultural
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  beliefs or interests like music and other things.
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  Each individual has their own kind of things which are really,
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  really important in a relationship and other things
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  which are kind of doesn't really matter.
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  It's kind of here or there. Now.
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  This client had things that they thought were really important.
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  So what this hypnosis session does is before they made the
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  decision to end or remain in the relationship, to give them three
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  different futures so they could test drive how their unconscious
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  believes each decision would pan out.
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  And the first future is a future where they just stay in the
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  relationship that they're in and they keep doing what they have
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  been doing. And they imagine what that would
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  be like for another year. Now, if that feels like, well,
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  that's good, then there's no need to change anything.
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  And one of my favorite phrases is if you're not changing,
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  you're choosing. And what that does is it means
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  that sometimes people think, well, change is to do something
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  new. No, if you continue to do what
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  you're doing. And you could do something else.
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  You're still. Choosing to stay the same and
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  that's really useful if you feel unsettled in a particular area
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  because once you frame keep on doing what you're doing as a
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  choice, a lot of people would say, oh, I don't want to make
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  that choice. So that's why that has to be
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  there as one of the options. The second option is to look at
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  a future where they try and meet their needs outside of the
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  relationship. There were certain things that
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  were really important to them about a sense of spirituality
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  and community and they weren't sure if that could happen in the
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  relationship or not. So the second future is they
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  stay physically in the relationship, but they try and
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  meet those needs in a different way rather than trying to get
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  those needs met within the relationship.
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  And then they got to feel how that would feel to see that
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  future. And then the third future was to
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  see them ending the relationship an then meeting those needs
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  individually, but then finding a relationship where those needs
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  could be met. And they go to imagine three
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  different futures. And the purpose of this is not
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  to hypnotize someone to make a decision.
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  It's not my place to make a decision for anyone, but to give
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  them the unconscious ability to evaluate what emotions come up
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  and what insights come up so they've got clarity.
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  It's very difficult if you make a decision that feels rushed and
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  kind of spur of the moment and not thought through, that can
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  lead to regrets. But if you really think it
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  through and you weigh up all the different options and then you
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  make a decision, that can feel really empowering and decisive
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  and help to avoid any feeling of regret.
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  Now, this was for an individual client.
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  Some of the references are highly calibrated to the kind of
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  things that they either wanted in a relationship or their needs
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  that had to be met. That might not be your needs.
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  So I would encourage you if you are at the, let's say, the
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  possible end of a relationship and you're not sure whether to
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  end it or not. When you think of the three
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  futures, get really, really clear on what would staying the
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  same be like for you, What we're trying to mend the relationship
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  be, but meet the needs in a different way, and what would it
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  mean to end the relationship and try and get your needs met in a
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  different way? Being single, that would be
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  helpful for you to get more out of this session.
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  And at the same time, if you like the idea of a bespoke
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  session or a series of sessions, most people don't work with me
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  for just one session, Then we normally have, you know, an
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  average of five sessions to kind of work on different areas.
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  If that appeals and you've been thinking about that for a while,
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  have a look in the description, the show notes of this episode
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  or what you can do is go to my website, adamcox.co.uk, book a
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  free consultation call over Zoom.
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  We'll have a chat and who knows, we might end up working
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  together. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you're not going to be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close and start
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  to feel a sense of connection. Connect with the rhythm of your
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  breathing. Breathing in and breathing out.
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  Scan your body perhaps for any clues of release, and just allow
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  that feeling of release in your outward breath, breathing in and
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  feeling of distilled relaxation and allowing any doubts, any
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  fears, any worries or concerns to feel like it's leaving your
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  body and you're out with breath. you can get a sense of a
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  frequency, a temperature, an energy.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to feel,
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  feel like you're fine tuning your frequency into a frequency
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  that feels connected and empowered.
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  Every now and then it's possible to allow fears and doubts to
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  change that frequency. But I want you to connect with
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  the idea. Connect.
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  Then when you are in alignment with your most empowered
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  frequency, then decisions come from a place of infinite
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  abundance. Scarcity becomes almost
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  immaterial. So breathe in that feeling of a
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  powerful connection and look for clues of that connection within.
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  Maybe it's a sensation in the chest.
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  Perhaps you can imagine a color and notice.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more connected you feel.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens, and I want
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  you to imagine what it would be like to be on the threshold of a
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  multiverse. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  infinite other realities that match your own, and what changes
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  each of these realities. Sometimes it's just a single
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  decision. And I want you to imagine of all
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  those infinite realities, your unconscious chooses 3.
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  Three different realities where everything is identical to your
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  own, but with one key difference.
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  A different choice that is made around this time in your life
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  that could ripple into your future and could create changes.
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  I want you to invite three different versions of you from
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  three parallel universes into a place that you consider safe,
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  into a place that feels familiar, into a place where you
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  feel aligned. And each of these three
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  different versions of you will live their life in their reality
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  for one year and then report back as to how they're feeling
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  and what life is like for them. I don't want you to speak to
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  that first version of you, a clone in every way.
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  They are your genetic doppelganger, but they will have
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  a particular path. They felt that a pendulum has
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  been swinging between commitment and release, and they weren't
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  sure what to do with that feeling.
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  Within this first reality, they commit to doing whatever they
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  can to make that relationship work.
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  And maybe maybe they do that by accepting that their partner is
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  just different to them, that their own needs don't have to be
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  needs of others. Or maybe maybe they commit to
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  the relationship by aiming to inspire curiosity, fascination,
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  something that gets them closer to a form of synergy.
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  And you don't need to know exactly what they do, only that
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  in this timeline, they are absolutely committed to that
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  relationship for one more year. And I want you to see that
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  version of you almost get teleported down A4 dimensional
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  wormhole back to their reality, living their life for one year
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  from now, and then bring forth a second version of you from a
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  second reality. But they perceive the pendulum
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  differently. They perceive that life is too
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  short to settle because if you settle, you end up worrying
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  about what could have been. If you settle, you may even
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  resent that person or thing you're settling with.
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  So this second version of you, they decide to end that
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  relationship and they prioritise meeting that spiritual, that
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  growth, that consciousness need not in a relationship with a
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  life partner, but just from the world.
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  They find it in conversations, they find it in interactions,
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  they find it within a community, that in this timeline, it's
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  desirable to find it in one person, but not necessary.
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  Out of a relationship with no need to be in a new one.
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  And then see them travel down their four dimensional wormhole
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  back to their parallel universe, living their life for the next
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  year. And then bring forth one final
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  version of you. A version of you that is in
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  exactly your situation right now, Hemming and hawing about
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  whether they're doing the right thing.
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  But this version of you creates a clear decision, and their
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  decision is they don't settle for anything.
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  Life is full of infinite possibilities.
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  This version of you understands that ending a relationship is
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  difficult but can be a form of tough love.
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  To do the right thing is sometimes painful.
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  Some people believe that if you love them, you set them free.
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  And I want you to imagine that version of you does the
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  difficult thing and ends that relationship, but goes forward
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  in life with high standards and absolute clarity.
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  If the relationship doesn't meet what they truly desire, they
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  don't want it. And I want you to see something
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  in that third version of you that seems courageous but also
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  full of wisdom. That third version of you, it's
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  clear that they want that. That connection, that shared
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  interest, that shared goal, a vision of the future and the
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  person they choose to be with. And anything less than that is
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  not the relationship that they want.
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  And then allow that version of you to step into their wormhole
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  to arrive in their reality and live their life for a year.
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  You're still in that room. And I want you to imagine that
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  each of these wormholes, what most becomes a lens to observe
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  their realities. But in the 4th dimension, time
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  isn't linear. You can hone into moments, to
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  memories. And I want you to look into that
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  wormhole of the version of you that tried to make it work as an
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  observer. See the dynamics, see the ripple
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  effect of intention, action, and then reaction.
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  Allow your unconscious mind to give you insights into.
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  What is likely or probable or even just possible in that
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  timeline? And then stare into the second
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  wormhole. emotional growth. Consciousness needs absolutely
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  being met. See what that does to your
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  spirit, your energy, your passion for life.
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  But in this timeline, it does not come from the relationship.
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  You get it from friendships, connections, acquaintances,
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  Maybe it's even secured through the connection you have with
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  yourself and get a sense on that version of you.
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  Do they seem happy aligned or is something missing?
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  And then stare into the third wormhole.
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  Observe that reality like you're an invisible entity just
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  observing, seeing what happens. And I want you to see the
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  positives and also the challenges.
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  But sometimes life isn't about choosing what's easy.
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  It's about choosing what is worthy, desirable, essential.
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  And then I want you to imagine that a year has passed, not for
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  you, but for them in their realities, and bring forth the
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  first version of you that stayed in that relationship.
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  And imagine hearing their experiences.
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  Are they happy? Frustrated.
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  Do they have any regrets? Did they make it work?
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  And 1st, just listen and then inquire, ask questions.
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  And when you feel that you've evaluated enough, either
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  intuitively, observationally, or through casual interrogation,
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  just let me know by nodding your head. want you to thank that
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  version of you, Give them a hug, ask them to stay, and then
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  invite the second version of you where those needs were met
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  outside of that relationship the tonality of their voice.
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  They've got nothing to hide, nothing to prove.
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  All of you are exactly the same. They are open, vulnerable,
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  sharing the good, the bad, the ugly.
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  What are they happy about? What are they frustrated by?
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  Take it all in. It's all just information for
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  your unconscious to process and when you feel you have enough of
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  an understanding from that reality, let me know by nodding
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  your head. That's it.
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  And then bring forth the third version of you that's just spent
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  a year having ended one relationship and looking for
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  certain needs within a new one. High standards, discerning and
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  when they come forth, observe how they seem, their facial
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  expressions, Are they smiling or sad?
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  How's their posture? Are they confident or uneasy?
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  And when they share their experiences as to what's
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  happened, what emotion is linked to their tonality,
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  But before they all leave each of them as a resource that they
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  amplified in that year, maybe in the first timeline there they're
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  more resilient, more proactive or something else.
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  And they hand you a glowing energy of a resource and that is
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  for you. Now take it from them, place it
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  to your chest and absorb that resource.
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  And the version of you that had those needs met outside of a
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  relationship, they also have a resource for you.
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  Maybe it's more self-sufficiency, more self
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  belief, more compassion or something else.
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  But again, they pass you that glowing resource, take it from
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  them, absorb it, integrate it. And then finally, the third one,
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  high standards, absolute clarity and that you hand you a
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  resource, absorb that one too. In the combination of these
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  three resources now means. But whatever you do, you are
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  harnessing the resources of the version of you that can already
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  handle that future well. Say goodbye to your alter egos
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  in different realities, feeling wiser for their experience and
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  then find yourself at a point of reflection, allowing thoughts,
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  ideas, insights to just arise within you and
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  that whatever you don't change is still a choice because you're
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  choosing for things to remain the same.
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  I want you to get a sense that these three choices are not the
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  only choices. It may be a hybrid or it may be
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  something entirely different. But consider this all the
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  ingredients you need for a moment of clarity, courage and
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  conviction that when you make a choice from that place, the
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  universe will conspire in your favour.
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  It's time to leave this place deep within your imagination and
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  to return to the present. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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