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Rediscovering Your Identity in Christ After Heartbreak · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  What if the reason you keep repeating the same cycles in love isn't because
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  you're broken, but because somewhere along the way you forgot who you are?
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  Today we begin step one of your royal transformation.
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  Reclaim your crown. It's time to remember the identity God gave you,
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  not the identity heartbreak tried to assign to you.
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  If you're done chasing broken love, empty promises, and lukewarm men,
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  and you're finally ready to reclaim your crown, heal your heart,
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  and attract the God-led love you were always meant for, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Emily Jordan, your faith-based healed feminine guide and relationship coach.
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  I went from repeating the same heartbreaking cycles to experiencing a godly, healthy, aligned love.
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  And now I help women just like you heal, rise, and prepare for God's very best.
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  So, are you ready to begin your royal training? Grab your crown,
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  your heart, and your journal.
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  Your royal transformation begins now.
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  Hey sis, welcome back to the show. I am so excited to have you back today.
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  And today we're starting something brand new, the Good Guy Society movement.
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  Today we're going to be teaching from our first step, which is reclaiming your crown.
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  And I hope you guys are enjoying Soothe Her Soul Saturday.
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  I am very poetic, lyrical. I've always been a writer when it comes to passion and love and feelings.
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  And so I just really wanted to speak life into you on Saturdays while you're taking a bubble bath,
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  relaxing, whatever that time is for yourself so you could hear the Word of God
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  and it's spoken over you and you're reminded of who you are. Okay?
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  I just hope you love it as much as I love doing that for you.
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  All right, sis. So let's get into today.
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  Many of us have entered into relationships as queens, but slowly shifted into survival mode.
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  We lost pieces of ourselves trying to hold together something God never asked us to carry.
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  And if you've ever wondered, why do I keep attracting the same type of men?
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  Why do I settle? Why do I stay too long? Most of those answers trace back to one thing, identity.
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  When you don't know who you are, you don't know what you're worth.
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  When you forget your identity, you forget your standards.
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  And when you forget your crown, you forget that you were made for God-led love,
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  not chaos and confusion. Today, we fix that.
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  I remember the exact moment I realized I had lost my crown. Not physically,
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  of course, but spiritually, emotionally, deeply.
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  I'd come out of another cycle, another situation that drained me,
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  another hollow connection that left me wondering, why do I keep ending up here?
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  And the Lord whispered back to me something that changed everything.
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  Emily, you're not choosing like a daughter. You're choosing like someone who forgot she's mine.
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  That moment became the beginning of my transformation, not because I suddenly
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  got stronger, but because I finally realized I had forgotten who I was.
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  And sis, when a woman remembers who she is, everything in her life begins to shift.
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  Today we are going to teach from step one of your royal transformation map. Reclaim your crown.
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  I'm going to give you five points to really go deep on reclaiming your crown. You ready? Let's go.
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  Number one, remember your identity. 1 Peter 2.9 says you are a chosen people,
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  a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession.
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  Says identity isn't something you earn.
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  It's something God declared over you before you were even formed.
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  When God calls you chosen, he is speaking to your origin, not your circumstances.
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  Your identity doesn't shift because a man mishandled you, a relationship failed,
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  someone rejected you, or you lost yourself along the way.
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  Your crown is spiritual, invisible to the world, but undeniable in the spirit. it.
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  To remember your identity means to return to that truth. You belong to God. You are wanted.
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  You were created with intention. You were crowned with glory.
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  Psalm 8, 5. You carry heaven's DNA.
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  When a woman remembers her identity, she stops settling.
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  She stops shrinking. She stops apologizing. She stops accepting crumbs.
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  She lifts her head, wipes her tears, and remembers, I am a daughter of the king.
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  This is the foundation for everything else.
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  Number two, reject false narratives. Psalms 139, 14.
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  Identity is not just remembering who you are. It's rejecting who you are not.
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  Heartbreak writes false stories. Trauma writes false labels.
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  People who are broken themselves speak broken words over you.
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  But none of those voices define, get to define you. Not one of those voices.
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  This step is about identifying and evicting the lies that took root in your heart.
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  Lies like, I'm too much. I'm not enough.
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  I'm unlovable. I always get it wrong.
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  I'm the problem. I don't deserve healthy love. Men only want me for one thing.
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  I've said a few of those myself, sis. I used to be in that headspace.
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  But when you hear those lies, you speak truth even louder.
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  You say, you formed my inmost being. I am wonderfully made.
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  You have plans to prosper me. not to harm me, to give me hope and a future.
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  I am loved with an everlasting love.
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  Rejecting false narratives is spiritual warfare.
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  It's taking every thought captive, 2 Corinthians 10, 5.
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  It's refusing to partner with any belief that contradicts God's word.
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  Sis, the enemy can't remove your crown, but he can convince you to lay it down.
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  This step takes it back. Number three, realign with your worth. Ephesians 2.10.
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  For we are his workmanship.
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  You were crafted by a God who designs galaxies.
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  There was no rush, no mistake, no accidental detail.
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  When you understand your worth, your behavior changes. You no longer chase what
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  runs Beg to be chosen Overgive to be seen Compromise to be kept Confuse being
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  desired with being valued Worth determines what you entertain And what you walk away from.
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  Realigning with your worth means declaring, I don't compete for love.
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  I don't convince someone of my value.
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  I don't shrink to fit someone else's level.
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  I don't audition for positions God didn't assign.
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  I don't tolerate dishonor in exchange for attention.
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  Your crown reflects a worth that is stable, steady, and sacred.
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  This is the heart of this step.
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  Number four, rebuild your standards from scripture.
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  Romans 8.17 When you remember you are heir with Christ, you realize your standards aren't high.
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  They're healthy, holy, and aligned with your identity.
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  Standards are not walls. They are boundaries that protect your value.
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  And they aren't created from heartbreak. They are built from biblical truth.
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  Real standards sound like, I will only partner with the man who leads with love,
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  honor, and humility. I will only engage relationships built on clarity, not confusion.
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  I require consistency, communication, and Christ-like character.
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  I choose alignment over chemistry. I do not negotiate my worth for companionship.
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  I wait for a God-led man, not a convenient one.
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  This step teaches you to measure a man by scripture, not vibes, charm, or potential.
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  Standards built from scripture aren't restrictive. They are protective.
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  They ensure you don't settle for anything beneath the daughter you are.
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  Okay, now last but not least is you're practicing your crown habits.
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  Your crown is not remembered in one moment. It's remembered through daily rhythms
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  that shape your mindset and spirit.
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  So here's a few habits you can pick up. First habit, speak life over yourself.
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  Turn scripture into daily identity declarations. You can write these down on
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  little notes, cards, and put them beside your bed and wake up in the morning
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  and read them over yourself.
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  It's really simple. It's just trying to get in the habit of believing something new, right?
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  A new mindset, a new perspective, right?
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  So you can write, I am chosen, I am loved, I am worthy of healthy love,
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  I walk in God-given authority, I am not abandoned, I am appointed.
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  All right, your words shape your atmosphere.
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  Now, you can read scripture about identity. Again, you can write down one scripture
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  and put it by your bedside and then wake up and read that every day over yourself.
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  Let me give you a few of those to rebuild your foundation.
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  Romans 8, Psalms 139, Isaiah 43, Ephesians 1-2, 1 Peter 2, and Galatians 4.
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  Let the word rewire your identity.
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  All right, so now I want you to pray for clarity and worth.
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  I want you to say this prayer. Lord, show me where I am settling beneath my identity.
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  Show me where I forgot who I am.
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  Restore my royal mindset. And I want you to journal moments you forgot who you are.
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  I want you to track triggers, track patterns, track the moments you shrink or self-abandon.
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  Awareness is part of the healing. Awareness is the greatest gift you can give
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  yourself because that's when you start learning your triggers and your patterns.
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  And then you can start rewiring those and doing things different.
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  Also, the other thing you need to do is a great habit to have is surround yourself
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  with voices that elevate you.
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  One of them is this podcast. Get you some girlfriends.
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  You need women to remind you you're royalty, not act like it.
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  You deserve honor. You are God chosen.
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  This is where the good guy society becomes powerful.
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  And we'll be talking about community in the future. I'm excited about that.
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  So let me leave you with your final truth today. You don't reclaim your crown through striving.
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  You reclaim it through remembering.
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  You reclaim it the moment you choose God's truth over every lie you've ever lived under.
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  Some of us have come into agreement about ourselves that is absolutely untrue,
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  is absolutely less than what God believes about you.
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  And so we have to rewire our mindsets to experience something different, right?
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  Perspective is everything. So your call to action this week is,
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  I want you to do a simple but powerful exercise. It's your royal reflection.
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  I want you to write down three lies heartbreak has taught you,
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  and then write the scripture that replaces each lie with truth.
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  Like example would be the lie is I'm hard to love. And then the truth over that
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  is I am fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139 14.
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  Do this for all three, because this is how you begin reclaiming your crown one
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  truth at a time. Sis, you did that.
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  You showed up for your healing and that is royal energy.
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  If this episode challenged you, grew you, or called you higher,
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  share it with another sister who's ready to reclaim her crown too.
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  And if you've got 30 seconds, it would bless me big if you'd leave a review on Apple Podcasts.
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  It helps more women step into their royal identity and join the Good Guys Society movement.
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  Until next time, keep your crown on, your standard tie, and your heart in royal alignment.