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CIMC 176: The Hidden Health Impact of Singleness: Stress, Independence, and Carrying Life Alone · Dr. Danielle Difference

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  Welcome
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  to
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  the
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  Cry
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  In
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  My
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  Cheesecake
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  podcast,
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  where
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  we
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  stop
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  settling,
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  stop
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  spiraling,
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  and
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  stop
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  living
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  in
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  bodies
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  and
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  lives
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  that
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  feel
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  too
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  small
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  for
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  who
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  God
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  created
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  us
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  to
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  be.
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  I
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  am
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  your
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  host,
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  Dr.
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  Danielle,
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  a
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  naturopathic
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  doctor,
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  root
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  cause
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  detective,
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  straight-talking
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  coach,
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  and
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  the
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  woman
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  who's
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  gonna
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  tell
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  you
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  the
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  truth
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  about
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  your
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  health,
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  your
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  habits,
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  and
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  your
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  spiritual
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  life,
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  even
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  when
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  no
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  one
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  else
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  will.
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  If
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  you're
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  exhausted
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  from
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  starting
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  over,
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  overwhelmed
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  by
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  symptoms
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  that
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  no
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  one
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  explains,
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  or
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  you're
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  ready
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  to
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  take
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  radical
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  responsibility
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  you're
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  becoming,
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  you're
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  in
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  the
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  right
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  place.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  faith
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  meets
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  physiology,
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  where
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  mindset
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  meets
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  metabolism,
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  and
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  where
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  real
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  transformation,
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  the
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  lasting
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  kind,
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  actually
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  happens.
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  Let's
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  get
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  into
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  today's
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  episode.
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  Hi,
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  Rachel.
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  Hello.
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  I
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  am
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  so
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  glad
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  you're
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  here.
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  Hey,
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  friends.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you're
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  here.
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  This
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  is
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  a
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  Friday
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  episode,
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  so
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  we're
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  sitting
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  literally
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  across
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  the
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  table
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  from
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  each
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  other,
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  Rachel
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  and
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  I
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  are.
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  if
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  you
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  have
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  been
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  following
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  my
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  socials,
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  not
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  that
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  I've
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  been
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  super
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  active
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  as
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  of
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  late,
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  um,
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  but
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  I
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  announced,
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  and
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  if
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  you're
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  on
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  my
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  email
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  list,
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  I
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  announced
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  that
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  we
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  hired
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  a
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  new
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  clinician,
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  and
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  her
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  name
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  is
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  Rachel
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  Sanger,
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  and
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  she
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  is
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  here,
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  uh,
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  rocking
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  the
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  world,
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  rocking
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  the
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  world
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  here,
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  and
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  doing
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  fantastic.
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  So
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  I
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  just
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  wanted
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  to
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  give
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  her
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  a
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  debut,
• 1:05
  debut,
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  debut
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  on
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  the
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  podcast
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  so
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  you
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  guys
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  can
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  get
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  to
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  know
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  her
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  as
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  well,
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  um,
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  and
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  get
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  to
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  know
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  what's
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  going
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  on.
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  We're
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  some
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  things
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  that
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  I
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  don't
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  think
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  I've
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  ever
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  talked
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  about
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  before,
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  at
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  least
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  at,
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  in
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  this,
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  this,
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  uh,
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  depth
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  that
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  we're
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  gonna
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  go
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  into.
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  So
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  Rachel,
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  would
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  you
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  like
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  to
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  tell
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  us
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  more
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  about
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  you?
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  So
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  I
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  am
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  a
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  na-
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  oh,
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  a
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  nutritional
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  therapy
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  practitioner.
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  Yeah.
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  I
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  got
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  certified
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  a
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  couple
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  years
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  ago,
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  and
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  the
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  catalyst
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  for
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  that
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  really
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  was
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  my
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  own
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  health
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  story.
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  Um,
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  I
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  really
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  just
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  was
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  not
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  satisfied
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  with
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  the,
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  um,
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  you
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  know,
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  10
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  minutes
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  they
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  give
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  you
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  at
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  the
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  doctor's
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  office-
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  Yep
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  and
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  the,
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  you
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  know,
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  short
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  list
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  of
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  prescriptions
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  they
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  give
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  you
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  to
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  Band-Aid
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  your
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  health.
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  So
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  I
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  took
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  matters
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  into
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  my
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  own
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  hands
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  and
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  decided
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  that
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  I
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  was
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  gonna
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  figure
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  out
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  my
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  health
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  for
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  myself.
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  Um,
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  and
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  in
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  doing
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  that,
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  I
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  eventually
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  decided
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  that
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  I
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  wanted
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  to
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  help
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  others.
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  Um,
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  so
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  that's
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  how
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  I
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  got
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  here
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  in
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  the
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  clinic.
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  Yes.
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  So
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  the,
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  so
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  Rachel,
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  um,
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  has
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  been
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  in
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  my
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  world
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  for
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  a
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  few
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  years
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  now,
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  and
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  she
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  doesn't
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  know
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  it,
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  but
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  I
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  was
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  grooming
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  her,
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  um,
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  to
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  do
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  this
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  because
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  she
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  is
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  very
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  attuned
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  to
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  detail,
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  and
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  detail
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  that
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  I
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  can't
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  teach,
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  details
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  that
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  I
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  can't...
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  Like,
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  there
• 2:35
  are
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  different
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  protocols
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  and
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  things,
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  but
• 2:37
  it's,
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  what
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  makes
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  our
• 2:39
  clinic
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  stand
• 2:39
  out
• 2:40
  different
• 2:40
  is
• 2:40
  that
• 2:41
  we
• 2:41
  see
• 2:42
  what
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  you're
• 2:42
  not
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  saying.
• 2:43
  We,
• 2:44
  um,
• 2:45
  know
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  and
• 2:46
  can
• 2:46
  read
• 2:46
  between
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  your
• 2:47
  words,
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  and
• 2:48
  we
• 2:48
  can
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  ask
• 2:49
  questions
• 2:50
  that
• 2:50
  actually
• 2:50
  matter
• 2:51
  and
• 2:51
  not
• 2:51
  just
• 2:52
  take
• 2:52
  your
• 2:52
  word
• 2:52
  for
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  it.
• 2:53
  Like,
• 2:53
  when
• 2:53
  you...
• 2:54
  We
• 2:54
  are
• 2:54
  so
• 2:54
  conditioned
• 2:55
  when
• 2:55
  we
• 2:55
  go
• 2:55
  into
• 2:55
  doctor's
• 2:55
  offices
• 2:56
  that
• 2:56
  we
• 2:56
  have,
• 2:56
  like,
• 2:57
  10
• 2:57
  minutes,
• 2:58
  and
• 2:58
  we're
• 2:58
  like,
• 2:58
  blah,
• 2:58
  blah,
• 2:58
  blah,
• 2:58
  blah,
• 2:58
  blah,
• 2:58
  and
• 2:58
  then
• 2:58
  we,
• 2:58
  like,
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  are
• 2:59
  done.
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  And
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  hopefully
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  we
• 3:00
  didn't
• 3:01
  forget
• 3:01
  something
• 3:01
  because
• 3:01
  if
• 3:02
  we
• 3:02
  forgot
• 3:02
  something,
• 3:03
  I've
• 3:03
  actually
• 3:03
  heard
• 3:04
  of
• 3:04
  people
• 3:04
  getting
• 3:04
  charged
• 3:05
  for
• 3:05
  using
• 3:05
  MyChart.
• 3:07
  Crazy.
• 3:08
  People
• 3:08
  are
• 3:08
  getting
• 3:08
  charged
• 3:09
  for
• 3:09
  MyChart,
• 3:10
  and
• 3:10
  so
• 3:10
  they
• 3:11
  are
• 3:11
  afraid
• 3:11
  to
• 3:11
  even
• 3:11
  send
• 3:12
  a
• 3:12
  message
• 3:13
  because
• 3:13
  like,
• 3:13
  "Oh,
• 3:13
  I'll
• 3:13
  just
• 3:13
  wait
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  till
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  next
• 3:14
  time."
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  Well,
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  I
• 3:14
  don't
• 3:14
  wanna
• 3:15
  wait
• 3:15
  till
• 3:15
  next
• 3:15
  time.
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  I
• 3:16
  don't
• 3:16
  want
• 3:16
  to,
• 3:17
  you
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  be
• 3:17
  feeling
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  certain
• 3:18
  way
• 3:19
  between
• 3:19
  next
• 3:19
  time.
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  So
• 3:20
  anyway,
• 3:20
  all
• 3:20
  that
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  say,
• 3:21
  we
• 3:22
  take
• 3:22
  our
• 3:22
  time.
• 3:23
  And
• 3:23
  what
• 3:23
  I
• 3:23
  can't
• 3:24
  teach
• 3:25
  is
• 3:25
  the
• 3:25
  intuitive
• 3:26
  skill
• 3:27
  of
• 3:27
  seeing
• 3:28
  what
• 3:28
  is
• 3:28
  not
• 3:28
  said.
• 3:29
  And
• 3:30
  quite
• 3:30
  frankly,
• 3:30
  that
• 3:30
  was
• 3:31
  probably
• 3:31
  the
• 3:31
  scariest
• 3:32
  piece
• 3:32
  of
• 3:32
  wanting
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  hire.
• 3:33
  There
• 3:33
  are
• 3:33
  so
• 3:34
  many,
• 3:35
  uh,
• 3:36
  practitioners
• 3:36
  out
• 3:37
  there
• 3:37
  that
• 3:37
  we
• 3:37
  could
• 3:37
  choose
• 3:38
  from,
• 3:38
  but
• 3:39
  we
• 3:39
  are
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  very,
• 3:40
  very
• 3:40
  different
• 3:41
  clinic.
• 3:42
  We
• 3:42
  don't
• 3:42
  just
• 3:42
  do
• 3:42
  do
• 3:43
  nutrition.
• 3:43
  We
• 3:43
  don't
• 3:44
  just
• 3:44
  do,
• 3:45
  um,
• 3:45
  supplements.
• 3:46
  We
• 3:46
  don't
• 3:46
  just
• 3:46
  do...
• 3:47
  We
• 3:47
  do
• 3:47
  lots
• 3:47
  of
• 3:48
  things,
• 3:48
  and
• 3:48
  it's
• 3:48
  really,
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  lot
• 3:49
  of
• 3:49
  it
• 3:49
  is
• 3:49
  more
• 3:49
  of
• 3:50
  a
• 3:50
  counseling
• 3:50
  kind
• 3:50
  of
• 3:51
  relationship,
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  mentorship,
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  like
• 3:52
  to
• 3:52
  say,
• 3:53
  because
• 3:53
  we
• 3:54
  cannot
• 3:55
  and
• 3:55
  will
• 3:56
  not
• 3:56
  change
• 3:57
  if
• 3:57
  we
• 3:57
  don't
• 3:57
  feel
• 3:57
  safe
• 3:58
  in
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  right
• 3:58
  environment,
• 3:59
  and
• 4:00
  we
• 4:00
  don't
• 4:00
  feel
• 4:00
  like
• 4:00
  we
• 4:00
  can
• 4:00
  do
• 4:01
  that.
• 4:01
  So
• 4:02
  Rachel
• 4:02
  has
• 4:03
  been
• 4:03
  amazing
• 4:04
  at,
• 4:05
  um,
• 4:05
  handling
• 4:06
  cases
• 4:07
  like
• 4:07
  a
• 4:07
  pro,
• 4:08
  like
• 4:08
  she's
• 4:08
  been
• 4:08
  doing
• 4:08
  it
• 4:09
  for
• 4:09
  decades,
• 4:10
  and
• 4:10
  I'm
• 4:10
  like,
• 4:10
  "This
• 4:10
  is
• 4:10
  fantastic."
• 4:12
  So
• 4:12
  something
• 4:13
  else
• 4:13
  that
• 4:14
  Rachel
• 4:14
  brings
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  the
• 4:15
  table
• 4:16
  is
• 4:17
  this
• 4:17
  topic
• 4:18
  of
• 4:19
  singleness,
• 4:19
  being
• 4:20
  an
• 4:20
  adult
• 4:20
  woman,
• 4:21
  um,
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  is
• 4:21
  single,
• 4:22
  and
• 4:23
  I
• 4:23
  work
• 4:23
  with
• 4:23
  a
• 4:23
  lot
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  singles.
• 4:24
  And
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  is...
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  cannot
• 4:26
  imagine,
• 4:26
  so
• 4:26
  if
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  are
• 4:27
  a
• 4:27
  single
• 4:28
  or
• 4:28
  you
• 4:28
  have
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  friend
• 4:28
  that's
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  single,
• 4:29
  please
• 4:29
  send
• 4:29
  them
• 4:29
  this
• 4:30
  ep-
• 4:30
  this
• 4:30
  podcast
• 4:31
  episode
• 4:32
  because
• 4:33
  this
• 4:33
  is
• 4:33
  a,
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  territory
• 4:34
  where
• 4:34
  I
• 4:35
  don't
• 4:35
  understand.
• 4:36
  Um,
• 4:37
  especially
• 4:37
  in
• 4:37
  2026
• 4:38
  as
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  recording
• 4:39
  of
• 4:39
  this,
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  don't
• 4:39
  understand
• 4:40
  what
• 4:40
  it's
• 4:40
  like
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  be
• 4:40
  single.
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  haven't
• 4:41
  been
• 4:41
  single
• 4:41
  in,
• 4:42
  gosh,
• 4:43
  I've
• 4:43
  been
• 4:43
  married
• 4:43
  21
• 4:44
  years.
• 4:44
  That
• 4:45
  makes
• 4:45
  me
• 4:45
  feel
• 4:45
  really
• 4:45
  old,
• 4:46
  but
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  did
• 4:46
  get
• 4:46
  married
• 4:47
  young,
• 4:47
  so
• 4:47
  there's
• 4:48
  that.
• 4:49
  Um,
• 4:49
  but
• 4:49
  I
• 4:50
  don't
• 4:51
  know
• 4:51
  what
• 4:51
  it's
• 4:51
  like,
• 4:51
  and
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  really
• 4:52
  wasn't
• 4:52
  even
• 4:52
  single
• 4:53
  as
• 4:53
  an
• 4:53
  adult.
• 4:54
  Because
• 4:54
  I
• 4:55
  was
• 4:55
  already
• 4:55
  dating
• 4:55
  my
• 4:56
  husband
• 4:56
  when
• 4:56
  I
• 4:56
  was
• 4:56
  18.
• 4:57
  So
• 4:58
  I...
• 4:59
  And
• 4:59
  we
• 4:59
  got
• 4:59
  married
• 5:00
  two
• 5:00
  years
• 5:01
  later,
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  think.
• 5:01
  I
• 5:02
  was
• 5:02
  tw-
• 5:02
  yeah,
• 5:02
  so
• 5:02
  two
• 5:02
  years
• 5:03
  later
• 5:03
  we
• 5:03
  got
• 5:03
  married.
• 5:04
  Uh,
• 5:04
  so
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  really
• 5:05
  haven't
• 5:05
  even
• 5:05
  been
• 5:05
  single
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  a
• 5:06
  very
• 5:06
  long
• 5:06
  time.
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  can
• 5:07
  understand
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  sympathize
• 5:10
  with
• 5:10
  that,
• 5:10
  but
• 5:10
  I
• 5:10
  wanna
• 5:11
  talk
• 5:11
  about
• 5:12
  singleness,
• 5:12
  and
• 5:12
  I
• 5:12
  wanna
• 5:13
  talk
• 5:13
  about
• 5:14
  the
• 5:14
  health
• 5:15
  impact
• 5:15
  on
• 5:15
  our
• 5:15
  singles,
• 5:16
  especially
• 5:17
  in
• 5:17
  2026.
• 5:18
  So
• 5:18
  do
• 5:18
  you
• 5:18
  wanna
• 5:18
  start
• 5:18
  us
• 5:19
  out?
• 5:22
  Resident
• 5:23
  single
• 5:23
  lady
• 5:23
  Please,
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  would
• 5:24
  be
• 5:24
  great.
• 5:25
  Well,
• 5:25
  not,
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  mean,
• 5:25
  it's
• 5:26
  not
• 5:26
  great.
• 5:26
  But
• 5:26
  it's
• 5:26
  helpful
• 5:27
  because
• 5:27
  this
• 5:27
  is
• 5:27
  a
• 5:27
  whole-
• 5:28
  Yeah
• 5:28
  group
• 5:29
  of
• 5:29
  people
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  feel
• 5:30
  like
• 5:30
  are
• 5:31
  looked
• 5:31
  over
• 5:33
  And
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  think
• 5:35
  we're
• 5:35
  looked
• 5:35
  over
• 5:36
  because
• 5:37
  usually,
• 5:38
  for
• 5:38
  the
• 5:38
  most
• 5:38
  part,
• 5:39
  we
• 5:39
  are
• 5:39
  a
• 5:39
  group
• 5:40
  of
• 5:40
  independent
• 5:41
  single
• 5:41
  women
• 5:42
  who
• 5:42
  we
• 5:42
  don't
• 5:43
  wanna
• 5:43
  ask
• 5:43
  for
• 5:43
  help.
• 5:44
  We
• 5:44
  wanna
• 5:44
  prove
• 5:44
  that
• 5:45
  we're
• 5:45
  able
• 5:45
  to
• 5:45
  make
• 5:45
  our
• 5:45
  own
• 5:46
  way
• 5:46
  in
• 5:46
  the
• 5:46
  world,
• 5:47
  and
• 5:47
  so
• 5:48
  we
• 5:48
  don't
• 5:48
  speak
• 5:48
  up,
• 5:49
  and
• 5:49
  we
• 5:49
  don't
• 5:49
  advocate
• 5:50
  for
• 5:50
  ourselves
• 5:50
  enough.
• 5:51
  And
• 5:51
  that
• 5:52
  is
• 5:52
  definitely
• 5:53
  a
• 5:53
  huge
• 5:53
  part
• 5:53
  of
• 5:53
  my
• 5:53
  story
• 5:54
  that,
• 5:54
  you
• 5:55
  know,
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  at,
• 5:56
  at
• 5:56
  some
• 5:56
  point
• 5:56
  realized,
• 5:57
  probably
• 5:58
  towards
• 5:58
  the
• 5:58
  beginning
• 5:59
  of
• 5:59
  the
• 5:59
  2020s,
• 6:01
  that
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  really
• 6:01
  needed
• 6:02
  to
• 6:02
  take
• 6:02
  back
• 6:02
  authority
• 6:03
  over
• 6:03
  my
• 6:03
  life.
• 6:04
  Yeah.
• 6:04
  Um,
• 6:04
  and
• 6:05
  so
• 6:05
  that's
• 6:05
  how,
• 6:06
  um,
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  started
• 6:08
  taking
• 6:08
  care
• 6:08
  of
• 6:08
  myself,
• 6:09
  my
• 6:09
  health.
• 6:10
  Um,
• 6:12
  but
• 6:12
  yeah,
• 6:12
  it,
• 6:12
  it's,
• 6:13
  it,
• 6:13
  it
• 6:13
  can
• 6:13
  be
• 6:13
  very
• 6:14
  isolating
• 6:15
  because
• 6:16
  y-
• 6:16
  as
• 6:16
  an
• 6:17
  adult,
• 6:17
  you're
• 6:17
  doing
• 6:18
  it
• 6:18
  all.
• 6:18
  And
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  told
• 6:19
  Danielle,
• 6:20
  I
• 6:20
  think
• 6:20
  last
• 6:20
  week,
• 6:21
  like,
• 6:21
  I'm,
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  am
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  man
• 6:23
  and
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  woman
• 6:23
  of
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  house.
• 6:24
  Yeah.
• 6:25
  Yeah.
• 6:25
  Um,
• 6:26
  I'm
• 6:26
  doing
• 6:26
  all
• 6:27
  of
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  things.
• 6:27
  If
• 6:27
  it's...
• 6:28
  If
• 6:28
  I'm
• 6:29
  not
• 6:29
  doing
• 6:29
  it,
• 6:29
  it's
• 6:29
  not
• 6:29
  happening.
• 6:30
  Yeah.
• 6:30
  If
• 6:30
  I'm
• 6:30
  not
• 6:31
  making
• 6:31
  dinner,
• 6:31
  it's
• 6:31
  not
• 6:31
  getting
• 6:32
  made.
• 6:32
  If
• 6:32
  I'm
• 6:32
  not
• 6:32
  taking
• 6:32
  out
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  trash,
• 6:33
  it's
• 6:33
  not
• 6:33
  going
• 6:34
  out.
• 6:34
  So,
• 6:35
  um,
• 6:36
  yeah.
• 6:36
  And,
• 6:36
  like,
• 6:36
  on
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  topic,
• 6:37
  though,
• 6:37
  like,
• 6:38
  I
• 6:38
  think
• 6:38
  about
• 6:39
  when
• 6:39
  I
• 6:39
  go
• 6:39
  home,
• 6:40
  my
• 6:40
  husband
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  the
• 6:41
  kids
• 6:41
  have
• 6:41
  gotten
• 6:41
  into
• 6:41
  a
• 6:41
  groove
• 6:42
  where
• 6:43
  I
• 6:43
  cook,
• 6:44
  and
• 6:44
  then
• 6:44
  someone
• 6:45
  cleans
• 6:45
  up
• 6:45
  after
• 6:46
  me.
• 6:46
  I
• 6:46
  don't
• 6:46
  even
• 6:46
  clean
• 6:47
  up.
• 6:47
  I
• 6:47
  cook
• 6:47
  everything.
• 6:48
  We
• 6:48
  sit
• 6:48
  down
• 6:48
  and
• 6:48
  eat
• 6:48
  as
• 6:48
  a
• 6:48
  family,
• 6:49
  and
• 6:50
  then
• 6:50
  some-
• 6:50
  it
• 6:50
  just
• 6:50
  magically,
• 6:51
  the,
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  kitchen
• 6:52
  fairies
• 6:52
  take
• 6:52
  over,
• 6:53
  and
• 6:53
  it's
• 6:53
  like
• 6:53
  it's
• 6:53
  picked
• 6:54
  up
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  put
• 6:54
  away.
• 6:55
  And
• 6:56
  when
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  think
• 6:56
  about
• 6:57
  it,
• 6:57
  as
• 6:57
  for
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  single
• 6:58
  person,
• 6:59
  they
• 6:59
  are
• 6:59
  doing
• 7:00
  not
• 7:00
  just
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  planning,
• 7:01
  the
• 7:02
  buying,
• 7:03
  the
• 7:03
  cooking,
• 7:04
  the
• 7:04
  cleaning,
• 7:05
  the
• 7:05
  trash,
• 7:06
  the
• 7:06
  chores.
• 7:07
  I
• 7:07
  quite
• 7:07
  frankly
• 7:08
  don't
• 7:08
  know
• 7:08
  the
• 7:08
  last
• 7:08
  time
• 7:08
  I
• 7:08
  did
• 7:09
  a
• 7:09
  chore.
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  don't
• 7:10
  think
• 7:10
  I've
• 7:10
  done
• 7:10
  laundry
• 7:10
  in,
• 7:11
  like,
• 7:11
  a
• 7:11
  week.
• 7:12
  Like,
• 7:13
  I,
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  before
• 7:14
  that,
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  hadn't
• 7:14
  done
• 7:14
  laundry
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  three
• 7:15
  weeks.
• 7:15
  That
• 7:15
  says
• 7:15
  how
• 7:15
  m-
• 7:16
  many
• 7:16
  clothes
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  have.
• 7:17
  That's
• 7:18
  probably
• 7:18
  a
• 7:18
  problem.
• 7:18
  But
• 7:19
  also,
• 7:20
  it's,
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  is
• 7:21
  this
• 7:21
  thing
• 7:22
  of,
• 7:22
  like,
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  don't...
• 7:23
  I
• 7:24
  have
• 7:24
  people
• 7:25
  to
• 7:25
  back
• 7:25
  me
• 7:25
  up,
• 7:26
  right?
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  have
• 7:26
  people
• 7:27
  in
• 7:27
  my
• 7:27
  own
• 7:27
  home
• 7:28
  to
• 7:28
  back
• 7:28
  me
• 7:28
  up.
• 7:29
  But
• 7:29
  as
• 7:29
  a
• 7:29
  single,
• 7:30
  not
• 7:30
  only
• 7:31
  are
• 7:31
  we
• 7:32
  taking
• 7:32
  care
• 7:32
  of
• 7:32
  everything
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  house,
• 7:33
  but
• 7:33
  work
• 7:34
  is
• 7:34
  insane.
• 7:35
  Because
• 7:36
  people
• 7:36
  think
• 7:37
  that
• 7:37
  because
• 7:37
  we're
• 7:37
  single,
• 7:38
  we
• 7:38
  have
• 7:38
  more
• 7:38
  time,
• 7:38
  which
• 7:39
  actually,
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  would
• 7:40
  be
• 7:40
  on
• 7:40
  the
• 7:41
  opposite
• 7:41
  side
• 7:41
  and
• 7:42
  say
• 7:42
  our
• 7:42
  singles
• 7:43
  probably
• 7:43
  actually
• 7:43
  have
• 7:43
  less
• 7:44
  time
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  give
• 7:46
  because
• 7:46
  they're
• 7:47
  doing
• 7:47
  so
• 7:48
  much
• 7:48
  more.
• 7:48
  There's
• 7:49
  no
• 7:49
  partner
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  do
• 7:51
  life
• 7:51
  with.
• 7:52
  And
• 7:52
  quite
• 7:52
  frankly,
• 7:53
  women
• 7:54
  in
• 7:54
  2026
• 7:55
  are
• 7:55
  not
• 7:55
  great
• 7:55
  friends
• 7:55
  to
• 7:56
  each
• 7:56
  other.
• 7:56
  We
• 7:56
  check
• 7:57
  in
• 7:57
  and
• 7:57
  text
• 7:57
  with
• 7:57
  each
• 7:58
  other,
• 7:58
  but
• 7:58
  we're
• 7:58
  not
• 7:58
  like,
• 7:59
  "Hey,
• 7:59
  can
• 7:59
  I
• 7:59
  come
• 8:00
  help
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  with
• 8:00
  your
• 8:00
  laundry?"
• 8:00
  Well,
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  don't
• 8:01
  want
• 8:01
  people
• 8:01
  in
• 8:01
  my
• 8:01
  laundry
• 8:01
  anyway.
• 8:02
  But,
• 8:02
  like,
• 8:03
  like,
• 8:03
  there
• 8:03
  is
• 8:04
  that
• 8:04
  piece
• 8:04
  that's
• 8:04
  like,
• 8:05
  there's
• 8:05
  pride
• 8:05
  and
• 8:05
  arrogance
• 8:06
  in
• 8:06
  what
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  just
• 8:06
  said,
• 8:06
  isn't
• 8:06
  it?
• 8:07
  Like,
• 8:07
  there's
• 8:08
  totally
• 8:08
  that.
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  don't
• 8:08
  even
• 8:08
  want
• 8:08
  my
• 8:09
  mom
• 8:09
  doing
• 8:09
  my
• 8:09
  laundry,
• 8:10
  right?
• 8:11
  I
• 8:11
  get...
• 8:11
  I
• 8:11
  feel
• 8:12
  guilty
• 8:12
  when
• 8:12
  someone
• 8:13
  else
• 8:13
  helps
• 8:13
  me,
• 8:14
  let
• 8:14
  alone
• 8:15
  if
• 8:15
  I
• 8:15
  were
• 8:15
  single
• 8:16
  and
• 8:16
  it
• 8:16
  was
• 8:16
  a
• 8:16
  friend
• 8:17
  coming
• 8:17
  over.
• 8:18
  Talk
• 8:18
  to
• 8:18
  me
• 8:18
  about,
• 8:18
  like,
• 8:19
  talk
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  us
• 8:19
  about,
• 8:20
  like,
• 8:20
  what
• 8:20
  is
• 8:21
  that
• 8:21
  experience
• 8:21
  like?
• 8:22
  Because
• 8:22
  we
• 8:22
  do
• 8:22
  have
• 8:22
  a
• 8:22
  lot
• 8:23
  of
• 8:23
  single
• 8:23
  listeners,
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  we
• 8:24
  do
• 8:24
  have
• 8:25
  a
• 8:25
  lot
• 8:25
  of
• 8:25
  people
• 8:25
  in
• 8:25
  our
• 8:25
  community
• 8:26
  that
• 8:26
  are
• 8:26
  single.
• 8:27
  Whether
• 8:28
  single
• 8:28
  because
• 8:29
  they
• 8:29
  have
• 8:29
  been
• 8:29
  for
• 8:30
  60,
• 8:30
  70
• 8:31
  years,
• 8:32
  or,
• 8:33
  um,
• 8:33
  they
• 8:33
  have
• 8:34
  recently
• 8:34
  been
• 8:34
  widowed
• 8:35
  and,
• 8:35
  like,
• 8:35
  that's
• 8:35
  a
• 8:35
  whole
• 8:36
  different
• 8:36
  thing,
• 8:36
  but
• 8:36
  that's
• 8:36
  still
• 8:36
  singleness,
• 8:37
  right?
• 8:37
  We're
• 8:37
  still
• 8:38
  alone.
• 8:39
  Talk
• 8:39
  to
• 8:39
  us
• 8:39
  what
• 8:40
  it's
• 8:40
  like
• 8:40
  to
• 8:41
  go
• 8:42
  through
• 8:43
  and
• 8:43
  feel
• 8:43
  like
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  can't
• 8:44
  even
• 8:44
  ask
• 8:45
  for
• 8:45
  help
• 8:47
  Well,
• 8:49
  I,
• 8:49
  I
• 8:49
  moved
• 8:49
  out
• 8:50
  of
• 8:50
  my
• 8:50
  house
• 8:51
  at
• 8:51
  age
• 8:52
  23,
• 8:52
  and
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  moved
• 8:53
  in
• 8:53
  with
• 8:53
  a
• 8:53
  group
• 8:54
  of
• 8:54
  girls.
• 8:54
  So
• 8:55
  there
• 8:55
  was
• 8:55
  a
• 8:55
  period
• 8:55
  of
• 8:56
  time
• 8:56
  where
• 8:56
  I
• 8:56
  had
• 8:57
  some
• 8:57
  help.
• 8:57
  You
• 8:57
  know,
• 8:58
  we
• 8:58
  were
• 8:58
  giving
• 8:58
  and
• 8:58
  contributing
• 8:59
  inside
• 8:59
  the
• 9:00
  house
• 9:00
  and,
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  know,
• 9:01
  there,
• 9:02
  there
• 9:02
  was
• 9:02
  somebody
• 9:03
  kind
• 9:03
  of
• 9:04
  always
• 9:04
  there.
• 9:04
  Um,
• 9:06
  and
• 9:06
  then
• 9:06
  when
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  was
• 9:07
  25,
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  was
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  first
• 9:08
  time
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  moved
• 9:08
  out
• 9:09
  on
• 9:09
  my
• 9:09
  own,
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  I
• 9:10
  don't
• 9:10
  think
• 9:11
  I
• 9:11
  realized...
• 9:12
  Because
• 9:12
  as
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  grow
• 9:13
  up
• 9:13
  in
• 9:13
  your
• 9:13
  family
• 9:14
  home,
• 9:14
  maybe
• 9:15
  if
• 9:15
  you're
• 9:15
  lucky,
• 9:15
  you,
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  know,
• 9:16
  you've
• 9:16
  got
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  good
• 9:17
  family
• 9:17
  home.
• 9:18
  You've
• 9:18
  got
• 9:18
  a
• 9:18
  mom
• 9:19
  that's
• 9:19
  taking
• 9:19
  care
• 9:19
  of
• 9:19
  the
• 9:20
  house,
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  dad
• 9:20
  that's,
• 9:21
  you
• 9:21
  know,
• 9:22
  bringing
• 9:22
  home
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  salary,
• 9:23
  whatever.
• 9:25
  And
• 9:27
  You
• 9:27
  don't
• 9:27
  have
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  think
• 9:28
  about
• 9:28
  all
• 9:28
  these
• 9:28
  things.
• 9:29
  You
• 9:29
  don't
• 9:29
  have
• 9:29
  to
• 9:29
  think
• 9:29
  about
• 9:29
  the
• 9:29
  laundry
• 9:30
  getting
• 9:30
  done
• 9:30
  or
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  meals
• 9:31
  getting
• 9:31
  made.
• 9:32
  And
• 9:32
  when
• 9:32
  you
• 9:32
  move
• 9:33
  out
• 9:33
  on
• 9:33
  your
• 9:33
  own,
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  don't
• 9:35
  necessarily
• 9:36
  have
• 9:36
  that
• 9:36
  moment
• 9:37
  of
• 9:37
  like,
• 9:37
  "Oh,
• 9:37
  I
• 9:38
  need
• 9:38
  to
• 9:38
  make
• 9:38
  sure
• 9:38
  I'm
• 9:38
  doing
• 9:39
  all
• 9:39
  these
• 9:39
  things."
• 9:39
  Mm-hmm.
• 9:40
  So
• 9:40
  at
• 9:40
  age
• 9:41
  25,
• 9:41
  that's
• 9:42
  when
• 9:42
  I
• 9:42
  started
• 9:42
  to
• 9:42
  go
• 9:43
  downhill
• 9:43
  with
• 9:43
  my
• 9:43
  health
• 9:43
  because
• 9:45
  I,
• 9:45
  that,
• 9:45
  that
• 9:46
  impulse
• 9:47
  or
• 9:47
  those
• 9:48
  things
• 9:48
  didn't
• 9:48
  kick
• 9:49
  in
• 9:49
  with
• 9:49
  me
• 9:49
  right
• 9:49
  away.
• 9:50
  Like,
• 9:50
  I
• 9:50
  wasn't...
• 9:51
  I
• 9:51
  was
• 9:51
  leaving
• 9:52
  dishes
• 9:52
  all
• 9:52
  over
• 9:52
  the
• 9:53
  place.
• 9:53
  Yeah.
• 9:53
  My
• 9:54
  apartment
• 9:54
  was
• 9:54
  a
• 9:54
  mess.
• 9:54
  I
• 9:54
  wasn't
• 9:55
  taking
• 9:56
  care
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  myself
• 9:57
  because
• 9:57
  I
• 9:58
  was,
• 9:58
  I
• 9:58
  was
• 9:59
  working
• 9:59
  in
• 9:59
  the
• 9:59
  corporate
• 9:59
  realm
• 10:00
  at
• 10:00
  that
• 10:00
  time.
• 10:00
  Yeah.
• 10:00
  So
• 10:00
  I
• 10:01
  was
• 10:01
  working
• 10:01
  40
• 10:01
  hours
• 10:02
  a
• 10:02
  week,
• 10:02
  hectic
• 10:03
  weeks,
• 10:03
  trying
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  figure
• 10:04
  out
• 10:04
  my
• 10:04
  career,
• 10:05
  you
• 10:05
  know,
• 10:05
  coming
• 10:06
  home
• 10:06
  and
• 10:06
  just
• 10:06
  crashing,
• 10:07
  and
• 10:08
  then
• 10:08
  doing
• 10:08
  it
• 10:08
  all
• 10:08
  over
• 10:08
  again
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  next
• 10:09
  day.
• 10:11
  Um,
• 10:11
  so
• 10:12
  that's
• 10:12
  when
• 10:12
  my
• 10:12
  health
• 10:13
  really
• 10:13
  tanked
• 10:14
  because
• 10:14
  I
• 10:14
  wasn't
• 10:15
  taking
• 10:15
  care
• 10:15
  of
• 10:15
  myself
• 10:16
  and
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  didn't
• 10:16
  know
• 10:16
  how.
• 10:17
  Yeah.
• 10:17
  Um,
• 10:18
  I
• 10:18
  didn't
• 10:18
  have,
• 10:19
  um,
• 10:19
  necessarily,
• 10:21
  um,
• 10:23
  that
• 10:23
  realization
• 10:24
  kick
• 10:24
  in
• 10:25
  that,
• 10:25
  you
• 10:26
  know,
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  need
• 10:26
  to
• 10:26
  be
• 10:27
  doing
• 10:27
  these
• 10:27
  things
• 10:28
  in
• 10:28
  order
• 10:28
  to
• 10:29
  live
• 10:29
  a
• 10:30
  healthy
• 10:30
  life-
• 10:31
  Yeah
• 10:32
  by
• 10:32
  myself.
• 10:33
  Yeah.
• 10:33
  And
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  think
• 10:34
  that
• 10:34
  we,
• 10:34
  like,
• 10:35
  thinking
• 10:35
  about
• 10:35
  our
• 10:35
  parents
• 10:36
  too,
• 10:36
  like,
• 10:37
  they
• 10:37
  were
• 10:37
  doing
• 10:37
  the
• 10:38
  best
• 10:38
  they
• 10:38
  could,
• 10:38
  but
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  don't
• 10:39
  think
• 10:40
  that
• 10:40
  the
• 10:40
  generation
• 10:40
  before
• 10:41
  us
• 10:41
  even
• 10:41
  knew
• 10:41
  how
• 10:42
  to
• 10:42
  take
• 10:42
  care
• 10:42
  of
• 10:42
  themselves
• 10:43
  because
• 10:44
  they're
• 10:44
  just
• 10:44
  a
• 10:44
  product,
• 10:45
  uh,
• 10:45
  quite
• 10:45
  frankly,
• 10:46
  a
• 10:46
  product
• 10:46
  of
• 10:46
  just
• 10:47
  whatever
• 10:47
  modern
• 10:47
  medicine
• 10:48
  was
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  all
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  dieting
• 10:49
  industry.
• 10:49
  Like,
• 10:49
  it
• 10:50
  was
• 10:50
  hot
• 10:50
  during
• 10:50
  the
• 10:50
  '60s,
• 10:51
  '70s,
• 10:51
  like
• 10:52
  all
• 10:52
  of
• 10:52
  that,
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  then
• 10:52
  it
• 10:52
  just
• 10:52
  got
• 10:53
  worse
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  '80s
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  '90s.
• 10:54
  And,
• 10:55
  like,
• 10:55
  we
• 10:56
  take
• 10:56
  for
• 10:56
  granted
• 10:57
  that
• 10:57
  things
• 10:57
  were
• 10:57
  done.
• 10:57
  I
• 10:57
  remember
• 10:58
  being
• 10:58
  just
• 10:58
  like
• 10:58
  you
• 10:59
  as
• 10:59
  a
• 10:59
  newlywed.
• 11:00
  I,
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  didn't
• 11:01
  know
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  had
• 11:01
  to
• 11:01
  clean
• 11:02
  up
• 11:02
  after
• 11:02
  myself.
• 11:03
  And
• 11:03
  then,
• 11:04
  like,
• 11:04
  that
• 11:04
  caused
• 11:04
  a
• 11:04
  lot
• 11:05
  of,
• 11:05
  let's
• 11:05
  just
• 11:05
  say
• 11:05
  problems
• 11:06
  because
• 11:06
  I'm
• 11:06
  like,
• 11:07
  "Oh,
• 11:07
  i-
• 11:07
  it
• 11:08
  doesn't
• 11:08
  just
• 11:08
  happen?"
• 11:08
  Yeah.
• 11:09
  Now
• 11:09
  I'm
• 11:09
  treated
• 11:09
  like
• 11:10
  a
• 11:10
  queen
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  everything
• 11:10
  is
• 11:11
  cleaned
• 11:11
  up
• 11:11
  after
• 11:11
  myself,
• 11:12
  so
• 11:12
  it's
• 11:12
  great.
• 11:13
  Um,
• 11:13
  it's
• 11:13
  probably
• 11:14
  not
• 11:14
  the
• 11:14
  best
• 11:14
  as,
• 11:15
  as
• 11:15
  a
• 11:15
  partner
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  my
• 11:15
  husband,
• 11:16
  but
• 11:16
  you
• 11:16
  know.
• 11:17
  Um,
• 11:18
  but
• 11:18
  you're
• 11:18
  right.
• 11:18
  Like,
• 11:18
  that
• 11:19
  piece,
• 11:19
  like,
• 11:20
  that
• 11:20
  piece
• 11:21
  of,
• 11:21
  like,
• 11:21
  oh,
• 11:23
  as
• 11:23
  much
• 11:23
  as
• 11:23
  even
• 11:23
  having
• 11:24
  to
• 11:24
  do
• 11:24
  our
• 11:24
  dishes,
• 11:25
  that
• 11:26
  is
• 11:26
  new.
• 11:26
  Like,
• 11:27
  that
• 11:27
  is
• 11:27
  a
• 11:27
  new
• 11:27
  thing.
• 11:28
  It's
• 11:28
  just
• 11:28
  like,
• 11:28
  "Oh,
• 11:29
  shoot,
• 11:30
  this
• 11:30
  is
• 11:30
  just
• 11:30
  another
• 11:30
  thing
• 11:31
  on
• 11:31
  my
• 11:31
  plate."
• 11:31
  Mm-hmm.
• 11:32
  So
• 11:32
  when
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  were
• 11:33
  talking
• 11:33
  about
• 11:33
  corporate,
• 11:34
  uh,
• 11:35
  corporate,
• 11:35
  we're
• 11:35
  g-
• 11:35
  we're
• 11:36
  gonna
• 11:36
  have
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  do
• 11:36
  an
• 11:36
  episode
• 11:36
  over
• 11:36
  corporate
• 11:37
  girlies.
• 11:38
  We're
• 11:38
  going
• 11:38
  to-
• 11:38
  That's,
• 11:38
  that's
• 11:39
  a
• 11:39
  whole
• 11:39
  other
• 11:39
  can
• 11:40
  of
• 11:40
  worms.
• 11:40
  Yeah.
• 11:40
  So
• 11:40
  we'll
• 11:41
  do
• 11:41
  another
• 11:41
  episode.
• 11:41
  If
• 11:41
  you
• 11:42
  like
• 11:42
  this
• 11:42
  episode,
• 11:42
  please
• 11:42
  let
• 11:43
  us
• 11:43
  know.
• 11:43
  And
• 11:43
  if
• 11:44
  you
• 11:44
  are
• 11:44
  still
• 11:44
  listening
• 11:44
  and
• 11:45
  enjoying
• 11:45
  this,
• 11:45
  please
• 11:46
  put
• 11:46
  in
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  reviews,
• 11:47
  like,
• 11:48
  if
• 11:48
  you're
• 11:48
  not
• 11:48
  gonna
• 11:48
  rate
• 11:48
  me
• 11:49
  five
• 11:49
  stars,
• 11:49
  please
• 11:49
  don't
• 11:50
  even
• 11:50
  just
• 11:50
  rate
• 11:50
  it.
• 11:51
  Uh,
• 11:51
  but
• 11:52
  rate
• 11:52
  us
• 11:52
  five
• 11:52
  stars
• 11:53
  and
• 11:53
  tell
• 11:53
  us
• 11:53
  in
• 11:53
  the
• 11:54
  review
• 11:54
  what
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  are
• 11:55
  enjoying
• 11:56
  about
• 11:56
  these
• 11:56
  episodes,
• 11:57
  uh,
• 11:57
  what
• 11:57
  you
• 11:57
  enjoy
• 11:58
  about
• 11:58
  this,
• 11:58
  and
• 11:58
  we
• 11:58
  would
• 11:59
  be
• 11:59
  happy
• 11:59
  to
• 11:59
  support
• 12:00
  you
• 12:00
  in
• 12:00
  getting
• 12:01
  more.
• 12:02
  Um,
• 12:02
  like
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  said,
• 12:02
  Rachel
• 12:03
  is
• 12:03
  a
• 12:04
  is
• 12:04
  on
• 12:04
  fire,
• 12:05
  and
• 12:05
  she
• 12:05
  brings
• 12:06
  a
• 12:06
  whole
• 12:06
  nother
• 12:07
  dimension
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  this
• 12:09
  space
• 12:09
  because
• 12:10
  I
• 12:10
  n-
• 12:10
  never
• 12:11
  worked
• 12:11
  for
• 12:11
  corporate.
• 12:12
  Never
• 12:12
  worked
• 12:12
  for
• 12:12
  corporate,
• 12:13
  and
• 12:14
  corporate
• 12:14
  is
• 12:14
  a
• 12:15
  whole,
• 12:16
  a
• 12:16
  whole
• 12:16
  different
• 12:17
  ecosystem.
• 12:18
  I
• 12:19
  don't
• 12:19
  even
• 12:19
  know.
• 12:19
  It's
• 12:19
  like,
• 12:20
  it's
• 12:20
  so
• 12:20
  weird.
• 12:21
  I
• 12:21
  only
• 12:21
  ever
• 12:21
  grew
• 12:21
  up...
• 12:22
  I
• 12:22
  grew
• 12:22
  up,
• 12:22
  my
• 12:22
  dad
• 12:22
  worked
• 12:23
  for
• 12:23
  the
• 12:23
  government.
• 12:23
  My
• 12:24
  mom
• 12:24
  works
• 12:24
  for
• 12:24
  the
• 12:24
  government.
• 12:25
  Um,
• 12:25
  she's
• 12:25
  a
• 12:26
  beautician
• 12:26
  as
• 12:26
  well.
• 12:27
  But
• 12:27
  then
• 12:27
  I've
• 12:27
  got,
• 12:27
  like,
• 12:28
  I
• 12:28
  married
• 12:29
  into
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  military,
• 12:29
  which
• 12:30
  is
• 12:30
  federal
• 12:30
  government,
• 12:31
  and
• 12:31
  then,
• 12:32
  um,
• 12:33
  I
• 12:33
  worked
• 12:33
  in
• 12:33
  a
• 12:34
  classroom,
• 12:34
  which
• 12:35
  was
• 12:35
  government,
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  then
• 12:36
  I-
• 12:37
  my
• 12:37
  husband
• 12:38
  still
• 12:38
  works
• 12:38
  for
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  military,
• 12:39
  which
• 12:39
  is
• 12:39
  government.
• 12:41
  And
• 12:41
  I'm
• 12:41
  like,
• 12:41
  "I
• 12:41
  don't
• 12:41
  have..."
• 12:42
  And
• 12:42
  then
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  make
• 12:42
  my
• 12:43
  own
• 12:43
  business,
• 12:43
  so
• 12:43
  I'm
• 12:43
  like,
• 12:43
  "I
• 12:43
  make
• 12:44
  all
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  rules."
• 12:44
  So
• 12:45
  I'm
• 12:45
  like,
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  don't
• 12:45
  know
• 12:45
  what
• 12:46
  corporate
• 12:46
  looks
• 12:46
  like
• 12:46
  or
• 12:47
  feels
• 12:47
  like.
• 12:47
  But
• 12:48
  think
• 12:48
  about
• 12:48
  what
• 12:48
  she
• 12:48
  just
• 12:49
  said.
• 12:50
  The
• 12:50
  stress
• 12:51
  of,
• 12:52
  and
• 12:52
  her
• 12:52
  health,
• 12:53
  the
• 12:53
  stress
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  having
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  figure
• 12:55
  out
• 12:56
  life
• 12:56
  on
• 12:56
  her
• 12:56
  own
• 12:58
  and
• 12:59
  corporate.
• 13:01
  That
• 13:01
  can't
• 13:01
  be
• 13:02
  a
• 13:02
  healthy
• 13:03
  duo.
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  mean,
• 13:05
  out
• 13:05
  of
• 13:05
  that,
• 13:05
  without
• 13:05
  knowing,
• 13:06
  those
• 13:07
  two
• 13:07
  things
• 13:07
  together
• 13:09
  cannot
• 13:09
  create
• 13:09
  a
• 13:10
  healthy
• 13:10
  lifestyle.
• 13:11
  So
• 13:11
  talk
• 13:11
  to
• 13:12
  us
• 13:12
  about
• 13:12
  how
• 13:12
  your
• 13:12
  lifestyle
• 13:13
  started
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  shift
• 13:15
  and
• 13:15
  change
• 13:15
  and
• 13:15
  when
• 13:15
  you
• 13:15
  noticed
• 13:16
  your
• 13:16
  health
• 13:16
  was
• 13:16
  a
• 13:16
  problem.
• 13:19
  Yeah.
• 13:19
  So
• 13:20
  I'll
• 13:20
  tell
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  a
• 13:20
  little
• 13:21
  story,
• 13:22
  um,
• 13:22
  just
• 13:22
  to
• 13:23
  kind
• 13:23
  of
• 13:23
  illustrate
• 13:24
  where
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  was
• 13:25
  at
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  time.
• 13:26
  So
• 13:26
  when
• 13:27
  I
• 13:27
  was
• 13:27
  living
• 13:27
  in
• 13:27
  my
• 13:27
  first
• 13:28
  apartment,
• 13:28
  um,
• 13:29
  it,
• 13:29
  I
• 13:29
  was
• 13:29
  probably
• 13:30
  about
• 13:30
  a
• 13:30
  year
• 13:30
  into
• 13:30
  it.
• 13:31
  Um,
• 13:33
  and
• 13:33
  I
• 13:33
  came
• 13:33
  home.
• 13:34
  It
• 13:34
  had
• 13:34
  been...
• 13:34
  I
• 13:34
  don't
• 13:35
  even
• 13:35
  remember
• 13:35
  what
• 13:35
  had
• 13:35
  happened.
• 13:36
  It
• 13:36
  had
• 13:36
  been
• 13:36
  a
• 13:37
  really
• 13:37
  stressful
• 13:37
  day
• 13:37
  at
• 13:37
  work,
• 13:38
  um,
• 13:39
  and
• 13:39
  I
• 13:39
  was
• 13:39
  just
• 13:40
  feeling
• 13:40
  some
• 13:40
  feelings,
• 13:41
  and
• 13:42
  I
• 13:42
  was
• 13:42
  tired,
• 13:43
  and
• 13:43
  I
• 13:43
  was
• 13:43
  trying
• 13:43
  to
• 13:44
  make
• 13:44
  myself
• 13:44
  dinner.
• 13:45
  Um,
• 13:45
  and
• 13:46
  I
• 13:46
  believe
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  was
• 13:47
  trying
• 13:47
  to
• 13:48
  make
• 13:48
  spaghetti.
• 13:49
  Um,
• 13:50
  and
• 13:51
  I
• 13:51
  could
• 13:51
  not
• 13:52
  for
• 13:52
  the
• 13:52
  life
• 13:53
  of
• 13:53
  me
• 13:53
  open
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  jar
• 13:54
  of
• 13:54
  sauce.
• 13:55
  Oh,
• 13:56
  no.
• 13:56
  It
• 13:56
  was...
• 13:57
  I
• 13:57
  was
• 13:58
  so
• 13:58
  frustrated
• 13:58
  because
• 13:59
  in
• 13:59
  my
• 13:59
  mind,
• 13:59
  I
• 14:00
  was
• 14:00
  having,
• 14:00
  I
• 14:00
  was
• 14:01
  having
• 14:01
  spaghetti
• 14:01
  for
• 14:01
  dinner.
• 14:02
  Yeah.
• 14:02
  There
• 14:02
  was
• 14:02
  no
• 14:02
  alternative.
• 14:03
  Yeah.
• 14:03
  Like,
• 14:03
  my
• 14:04
  brain
• 14:04
  was
• 14:04
  set
• 14:04
  on
• 14:05
  that.
• 14:06
  I
• 14:06
  could
• 14:07
  not
• 14:07
  get
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  jar
• 14:08
  open,
• 14:09
  and
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  was
• 14:09
  so
• 14:09
  angry
• 14:10
  and
• 14:10
  frustrated,
• 14:11
  I
• 14:11
  ended
• 14:12
  up
• 14:12
  kicking
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  cabinet
• 14:13
  door
• 14:13
  in-
• 14:14
  under-
• 14:14
  No
• 14:15
  under
• 14:15
  the
• 14:15
  counter.
• 14:16
  Yeah.
• 14:16
  No.
• 14:17
  Yeah.
• 14:18
  It
• 14:18
  was
• 14:18
  just
• 14:18
  all
• 14:18
  this...
• 14:19
  And
• 14:19
  I'm
• 14:19
  not
• 14:19
  a...
• 14:20
  I
• 14:20
  am
• 14:21
  not
• 14:21
  by
• 14:21
  any-
• 14:21
  No
• 14:21
  means
• 14:22
  a
• 14:22
  violent
• 14:22
  person.
• 14:22
  Anyone
• 14:23
  who
• 14:23
  knows
• 14:23
  me
• 14:23
  knows-
• 14:23
  Yeah
• 14:24
  that,
• 14:24
  like,
• 14:25
  this
• 14:25
  is
• 14:25
  very
• 14:25
  uncharacteristic-
• 14:26
  Yeah
• 14:26
  and
• 14:27
  not...
• 14:27
  So
• 14:27
  that
• 14:28
  was,
• 14:28
  like,
• 14:28
  one
• 14:28
  of
• 14:28
  those
• 14:28
  moments
• 14:29
  where
• 14:29
  I
• 14:29
  was
• 14:29
  like,
• 14:29
  "Oh,
• 14:30
  I
• 14:30
  am
• 14:30
  not
• 14:30
  okay."
• 14:31
  Like,
• 14:32
  it,
• 14:32
  it...
• 14:33
  And
• 14:33
  that
• 14:33
  was,
• 14:33
  like,
• 14:34
  something
• 14:34
  that
• 14:34
  happened
• 14:37
  probably
• 14:38
  it
• 14:38
  built
• 14:38
  up
• 14:38
  to
• 14:38
  that,
• 14:39
  and
• 14:39
  I
• 14:39
  just
• 14:39
  lost
• 14:40
  it.
• 14:41
  Um,
• 14:41
  I,
• 14:42
  uh,
• 14:42
  my
• 14:42
  cabinet
• 14:42
  was
• 14:43
  messed
• 14:43
  up.
• 14:43
  And
• 14:45
  I
• 14:45
  don't
• 14:45
  remember
• 14:46
  what
• 14:46
  I
• 14:46
  ended
• 14:47
  up
• 14:47
  doing
• 14:47
  for
• 14:47
  dinner
• 14:47
  that
• 14:47
  night,
• 14:48
  but
• 14:48
  it
• 14:48
  was
• 14:48
  definitely
• 14:48
  a
• 14:48
  wake-up
• 14:49
  call.
• 14:49
  It
• 14:49
  was
• 14:50
  not
• 14:50
  spaghetti.
• 14:51
  Yeah,
• 14:51
  it
• 14:51
  was
• 14:51
  not.
• 14:52
  No,
• 14:52
  no.
• 14:53
  So,
• 14:54
  yeah,
• 14:54
  I
• 14:55
  mean,
• 14:55
  that
• 14:55
  kind
• 14:55
  of
• 14:55
  just
• 14:55
  illustrates-
• 14:59
  How
• 14:59
  bad
• 14:59
  it
• 14:59
  can
• 14:59
  get.
• 15:00
  And
• 15:00
  at
• 15:00
  that
• 15:00
  point,
• 15:01
  um
• 15:05
  I'm
• 15:05
  just
• 15:05
  dying
• 15:05
  on
• 15:05
  some
• 15:05
  water,
• 15:06
  so
• 15:06
  just
• 15:06
  give
• 15:06
  me
• 15:06
  a
• 15:06
  minute.
• 15:08
  Um,
• 15:08
  about
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  year
• 15:09
  and
• 15:09
  a
• 15:09
  half
• 15:09
  into
• 15:10
  that
• 15:10
  living
• 15:10
  arrangement,
• 15:11
  I
• 15:11
  ended
• 15:12
  up
• 15:13
  moving
• 15:13
  back
• 15:13
  in
• 15:13
  with
• 15:13
  my
• 15:14
  parents
• 15:14
  at
• 15:14
  that
• 15:14
  point,
• 15:15
  um,
• 15:16
  because
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  was
• 15:18
  not,
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  was
• 15:19
  not
• 15:19
  well.
• 15:19
  I
• 15:19
  was-
• 15:21
  very
• 15:21
  unhappy,
• 15:23
  um,
• 15:23
  very
• 15:24
  sad.
• 15:24
  Um,
• 15:26
  j-
• 15:26
  just
• 15:26
  wasn't
• 15:26
  doing
• 15:27
  well
• 15:27
  and
• 15:27
  needed
• 15:28
  to
• 15:28
  get
• 15:28
  back
• 15:28
  on
• 15:28
  my
• 15:28
  feet.
• 15:29
  Um,
• 15:30
  so
• 15:30
  that's,
• 15:31
  that,
• 15:31
  that
• 15:31
  was
• 15:31
  a
• 15:31
  wake-up
• 15:32
  call
• 15:32
  for
• 15:32
  me,
• 15:32
  and
• 15:32
  that's,
• 15:32
  I
• 15:33
  think,
• 15:33
  when
• 15:33
  my,
• 15:34
  my
• 15:35
  mind
• 15:35
  really
• 15:35
  started
• 15:36
  to
• 15:36
  shift
• 15:36
  into
• 15:39
  Okay,
• 15:39
  I
• 15:39
  have
• 15:39
  to
• 15:39
  figure
• 15:40
  out
• 15:41
  how
• 15:41
  to
• 15:41
  live
• 15:41
  a
• 15:41
  healthy
• 15:43
  life
• 15:44
  Yeah.
• 15:45
  I
• 15:46
  think
• 15:46
  we
• 15:46
  all
• 15:46
  have
• 15:46
  that.
• 15:48
  There's
• 15:48
  a
• 15:48
  point
• 15:48
  that
• 15:49
  all
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  us...
• 15:49
  None
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  us
• 15:49
  are
• 15:49
  gonna
• 15:50
  change
• 15:50
  until
• 15:50
  we
• 15:50
  get
• 15:51
  tired
• 15:51
  of
• 15:51
  what
• 15:52
  we're
• 15:52
  living
• 15:52
  in.
• 15:53
  Um,
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  we
• 15:54
  realize
• 15:54
  that,
• 15:54
  and
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  know
• 15:55
  that
• 15:55
  this
• 15:55
  is
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  saying,
• 15:56
  but
• 15:56
  it's
• 15:56
  like
• 15:57
  until
• 15:57
  you're
• 15:57
  actually
• 15:58
  tired
• 15:58
  of
• 15:59
  and
• 15:59
  scared
• 16:00
  to
• 16:00
  stay
• 16:00
  where
• 16:00
  you
• 16:01
  are,
• 16:02
  you're
• 16:02
  not
• 16:02
  gonna
• 16:02
  change.
• 16:03
  You're
• 16:03
  not
• 16:03
  gonna
• 16:03
  do
• 16:03
  the
• 16:04
  work.
• 16:04
  You're
• 16:04
  not
• 16:04
  gonna
• 16:04
  show
• 16:04
  up
• 16:05
  and
• 16:05
  take
• 16:05
  the
• 16:05
  supplements
• 16:06
  or
• 16:06
  ask
• 16:06
  for
• 16:07
  help
• 16:07
  or
• 16:07
  advocate
• 16:07
  for
• 16:08
  yourself
• 16:08
  because
• 16:08
  you
• 16:08
  don't
• 16:08
  even
• 16:09
  have
• 16:09
  the
• 16:09
  words
• 16:09
  to
• 16:09
  do
• 16:10
  it.
• 16:11
  And
• 16:11
  the
• 16:11
  fact
• 16:11
  that
• 16:11
  you
• 16:11
  went
• 16:12
  back
• 16:12
  home,
• 16:13
  I
• 16:13
  think
• 16:14
  is
• 16:14
  probably,
• 16:14
  it's
• 16:15
  probably
• 16:15
  a
• 16:15
  good
• 16:15
  thing,
• 16:16
  honestly,
• 16:16
  to
• 16:17
  recalibrate.
• 16:18
  And
• 16:19
  this
• 16:20
  isn't
• 16:20
  necessarily
• 16:20
  a
• 16:20
  singles
• 16:21
  thing,
• 16:21
  but
• 16:21
  recalibration
• 16:23
  is
• 16:23
  usually
• 16:23
  when
• 16:23
  we
• 16:24
  feel
• 16:24
  like
• 16:24
  we
• 16:24
  failed.
• 16:26
  Recalibration
• 16:27
  is
• 16:27
  usually
• 16:27
  when
• 16:27
  we
• 16:27
  feel
• 16:28
  like,
• 16:29
  "Well,
• 16:29
  I
• 16:29
  can't
• 16:29
  even
• 16:29
  make
• 16:30
  it
• 16:30
  on
• 16:30
  my
• 16:30
  own.
• 16:30
  What
• 16:30
  did
• 16:30
  I
• 16:30
  do?
• 16:31
  I
• 16:31
  went
• 16:31
  to
• 16:31
  college.
• 16:31
  I,
• 16:32
  you
• 16:32
  know,
• 16:32
  did
• 16:32
  all
• 16:32
  this
• 16:33
  stuff,
• 16:33
  moved
• 16:33
  out
• 16:33
  on
• 16:33
  my
• 16:33
  own,
• 16:34
  and
• 16:34
  I
• 16:34
  can't
• 16:34
  figure
• 16:35
  it
• 16:35
  out."
• 16:36
  And
• 16:36
  I
• 16:36
  think
• 16:36
  it's
• 16:36
  because
• 16:37
  we
• 16:37
  have
• 16:37
  so-
• 16:37
  such
• 16:38
  high
• 16:38
  expectations
• 16:39
  on
• 16:39
  ourselves.
• 16:40
  Again,
• 16:41
  we
• 16:41
  don't
• 16:41
  have
• 16:41
  the
• 16:41
  words
• 16:42
  to
• 16:42
  ask
• 16:42
  for
• 16:43
  help.
• 16:44
  I
• 16:44
  know
• 16:44
  Gen
• 16:44
  Z
• 16:45
  is
• 16:45
  really
• 16:46
  good
• 16:46
  about,
• 16:47
  like,
• 16:47
  kind
• 16:47
  of
• 16:47
  standing
• 16:47
  up
• 16:47
  for
• 16:47
  themselves
• 16:48
  for
• 16:48
  the
• 16:48
  most
• 16:49
  part,
• 16:49
  but
• 16:49
  even
• 16:50
  then
• 16:50
  they
• 16:50
  have
• 16:50
  been
• 16:51
  in
• 16:51
  a
• 16:51
  place
• 16:52
  where
• 16:52
  they're
• 16:53
  not
• 16:53
  just
• 16:53
  asking
• 16:53
  for
• 16:54
  help,
• 16:54
  but
• 16:54
  now
• 16:54
  they're
• 16:54
  like,
• 16:55
  like
• 16:56
  saying
• 16:56
  what
• 16:56
  they
• 16:56
  will
• 16:57
  and
• 16:57
  what
• 16:57
  they
• 16:57
  will
• 16:57
  not
• 16:57
  do.
• 16:58
  Um,
• 16:58
  I
• 16:58
  know
• 16:58
  that
• 16:59
  this
• 16:59
  is
• 16:59
  happening
• 16:59
  in
• 16:59
  corporate.
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  know
• 17:00
  this
• 17:00
  is
• 17:00
  happening
• 17:00
  in
• 17:00
  the
• 17:01
  workplace,
• 17:01
  that
• 17:02
  they're
• 17:02
  like,
• 17:02
  "Well,
• 17:02
  I'm
• 17:03
  not
• 17:03
  gonna
• 17:03
  do
• 17:03
  that.
• 17:03
  That's
• 17:04
  not
• 17:04
  my
• 17:04
  job."
• 17:04
  And
• 17:05
  I
• 17:05
  think
• 17:06
  there's
• 17:06
  a
• 17:06
  piece
• 17:06
  of
• 17:06
  this,
• 17:07
  like
• 17:07
  we've
• 17:07
  talked
• 17:08
  before,
• 17:08
  I
• 17:08
  think
• 17:08
  we've
• 17:08
  talked
• 17:09
  about...
• 17:09
  Yeah,
• 17:09
  we
• 17:09
  did
• 17:09
  talk
• 17:09
  about
• 17:10
  this
• 17:10
  personally
• 17:10
  on
• 17:10
  our
• 17:11
  own.
• 17:12
  But,
• 17:12
  like,
• 17:13
  I
• 17:14
  am
• 17:14
  living
• 17:15
  in
• 17:15
  a,
• 17:16
  in
• 17:16
  a
• 17:16
  state
• 17:16
  of
• 17:16
  grief
• 17:17
  all
• 17:18
  at
• 17:18
  the
• 17:18
  same
• 17:18
  time
• 17:18
  of
• 17:19
  fear,
• 17:20
  and
• 17:20
  it's
• 17:20
  this
• 17:21
  elder
• 17:21
  millennial
• 17:22
  generation.
• 17:22
  I'm
• 17:23
  technically
• 17:23
  an
• 17:23
  elder
• 17:23
  millennial.
• 17:24
  I
• 17:24
  was
• 17:24
  raised
• 17:24
  like
• 17:25
  a
• 17:25
  Gen
• 17:25
  X,
• 17:25
  so,
• 17:25
  like,
• 17:25
  anything
• 17:26
  that
• 17:26
  goes
• 17:26
  for
• 17:26
  Gen
• 17:26
  X,
• 17:27
  like,
• 17:28
  whatever,
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  feel
• 17:28
  like
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  was
• 17:29
  raised
• 17:29
  that
• 17:29
  way,
• 17:30
  but
• 17:30
  I
• 17:30
  also
• 17:31
  align
• 17:32
  with
• 17:32
  some
• 17:32
  of
• 17:32
  the
• 17:32
  older
• 17:33
  millennial
• 17:33
  stuff.
• 17:34
  But
• 17:34
  we
• 17:34
  are
• 17:35
  truly
• 17:35
  the
• 17:36
  last
• 17:36
  generation
• 17:38
  that,
• 17:40
  that
• 17:40
  knows
• 17:40
  what
• 17:40
  it's
• 17:41
  like
• 17:41
  before
• 17:41
  all
• 17:42
  the
• 17:42
  technology,
• 17:43
  and
• 17:44
  yet
• 17:44
  there's
• 17:44
  this
• 17:44
  fear
• 17:45
  because
• 17:45
  we
• 17:45
  did.
• 17:46
  Like,
• 17:46
  we
• 17:46
  grabbed
• 17:46
  hold
• 17:46
  of
• 17:47
  technology,
• 17:47
  and
• 17:47
  we
• 17:47
  got
• 17:48
  it,
• 17:48
  like,
• 17:48
  quick
• 17:49
  and,
• 17:49
  like,
• 17:49
  at
• 17:49
  this
• 17:50
  point
• 17:50
  when
• 17:50
  my
• 17:50
  kids,
• 17:51
  I
• 17:51
  feel
• 17:51
  like
• 17:51
  I'm
• 17:51
  a
• 17:51
  boomer
• 17:52
  when
• 17:52
  I
• 17:52
  say
• 17:52
  this.
• 17:52
  No
• 17:52
  offense
• 17:53
  to
• 17:53
  my
• 17:53
  boomer
• 17:53
  listeners,
• 17:54
  'cause
• 17:54
  there's
• 17:54
  a
• 17:54
  lot
• 17:54
  of
• 17:54
  you.
• 17:55
  But
• 17:56
  I
• 17:56
  feel
• 17:56
  like
• 17:57
  my
• 17:57
  words
• 17:57
  coming
• 17:58
  out
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  my
• 17:58
  mouth,
• 17:58
  I'm
• 17:58
  like,
• 17:58
  "Go
• 17:58
  slow.
• 17:59
  I
• 17:59
  didn't
• 17:59
  see
• 17:59
  that."
• 18:00
  Like,
• 18:00
  "Why
• 18:00
  are
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  going
• 18:00
  so
• 18:00
  fast?
• 18:01
  Why
• 18:01
  are
• 18:01
  you
• 18:01
  clicking
• 18:01
  things?"
• 18:02
  Like,
• 18:02
  I'm
• 18:02
  saying
• 18:02
  things
• 18:03
  to
• 18:03
  my
• 18:03
  kids.
• 18:03
  I'm
• 18:03
  like,
• 18:03
  "What
• 18:03
  are
• 18:03
  you
• 18:04
  doing?
• 18:04
  How
• 18:04
  do
• 18:04
  you
• 18:04
  even
• 18:04
  know
• 18:04
  to
• 18:05
  click
• 18:05
  that
• 18:05
  fast?"
• 18:05
  Like,
• 18:06
  it,
• 18:06
  I-
• 18:07
  I'm
• 18:07
  scared
• 18:07
  that
• 18:08
  I'm
• 18:08
  falling
• 18:08
  behind
• 18:09
  in
• 18:09
  technology.
• 18:10
  And
• 18:10
  then
• 18:10
  with
• 18:10
  AI,
• 18:12
  I'm
• 18:12
  for
• 18:12
  real
• 18:12
  behind.
• 18:13
  Like,
• 18:13
  it's
• 18:13
  no,
• 18:13
  there's
• 18:13
  no,
• 18:14
  uh,
• 18:14
  there's
• 18:15
  no
• 18:15
  competition.
• 18:16
  And
• 18:17
  so
• 18:17
  all
• 18:17
  this
• 18:17
  to
• 18:17
  say,
• 18:18
  like,
• 18:18
  there
• 18:18
  is
• 18:18
  this
• 18:18
  space
• 18:19
  of-
• 18:21
  In,
• 18:21
  at
• 18:21
  least
• 18:22
  with
• 18:22
  our,
• 18:22
  like
• 18:22
  us
• 18:23
  being
• 18:23
  one
• 18:23
  of
• 18:23
  the
• 18:23
  last
• 18:23
  generations
• 18:24
  for
• 18:24
  this,
• 18:24
  there's
• 18:24
  this
• 18:25
  space
• 18:25
  of
• 18:25
  grief,
• 18:26
  like
• 18:26
  an
• 18:27
  e-
• 18:27
  like
• 18:27
  excessive
• 18:28
  pressure
• 18:28
  that
• 18:28
  we
• 18:28
  put
• 18:28
  on
• 18:29
  ourselves
• 18:29
  that
• 18:29
  everyone
• 18:30
  had
• 18:30
  to
• 18:30
  go
• 18:30
  to
• 18:30
  college,
• 18:30
  everyone
• 18:30
  had
• 18:31
  to
• 18:31
  be,
• 18:31
  quote-unquote,
• 18:32
  successful
• 18:32
  and
• 18:32
  stay
• 18:32
  at
• 18:32
  your
• 18:33
  job
• 18:33
  for
• 18:33
  decades
• 18:34
  and
• 18:34
  decades
• 18:34
  until
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  die,
• 18:35
  whether
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  like
• 18:35
  it
• 18:35
  or
• 18:35
  not.
• 18:36
  And
• 18:36
  it's
• 18:36
  like
• 18:37
  we
• 18:37
  have
• 18:37
  seen
• 18:38
  in
• 18:38
  the
• 18:38
  progression
• 18:39
  of
• 18:40
  culture
• 18:40
  and
• 18:40
  technology
• 18:41
  and
• 18:41
  stuff,
• 18:41
  we
• 18:41
  don't
• 18:41
  have
• 18:42
  to
• 18:42
  have
• 18:42
  that,
• 18:43
  but
• 18:43
  that
• 18:43
  still
• 18:45
  doesn't
• 18:45
  mean
• 18:45
  that
• 18:45
  we're
• 18:45
  stress-free.
• 18:47
  It,
• 18:48
  just
• 18:48
  because
• 18:49
  we
• 18:49
  have,
• 18:50
  just
• 18:50
  because
• 18:50
  we
• 18:51
  have
• 18:51
  access
• 18:51
  to
• 18:51
  more
• 18:51
  things,
• 18:52
  just
• 18:52
  because
• 18:52
  we
• 18:52
  have
• 18:52
  access
• 18:53
  to
• 18:54
  a
• 18:54
  past
• 18:54
  life
• 18:54
  and
• 18:55
  yearn
• 18:55
  for
• 18:55
  that
• 18:55
  sometimes,
• 18:56
  the
• 18:57
  future
• 18:57
  is
• 18:57
  going
• 18:57
  to
• 18:58
  sometimes
• 18:58
  be
• 18:59
  a
• 18:59
  space
• 18:59
  where
• 18:59
  we
• 18:59
  just
• 19:01
  feel
• 19:01
  like
• 19:01
  we're
• 19:02
  not
• 19:02
  worthy
• 19:03
  or
• 19:03
  not
• 19:04
  capable
• 19:05
  of
• 19:05
  being
• 19:05
  part
• 19:06
  of
• 19:06
  that
• 19:06
  and
• 19:06
  all
• 19:06
  of
• 19:06
  that.
• 19:06
  And
• 19:06
  I
• 19:07
  think
• 19:07
  about
• 19:07
  that
• 19:07
  with
• 19:07
  my
• 19:07
  singles
• 19:08
  as
• 19:08
  well.
• 19:08
  I'm
• 19:08
  like
• 19:10
  that
• 19:10
  future
• 19:11
  piece,
• 19:12
  like
• 19:12
  I'm,
• 19:12
  I'm
• 19:13
  fearful
• 19:13
  of
• 19:14
  technology,
• 19:14
  whatever.
• 19:15
  Like,
• 19:15
  and
• 19:15
  I
• 19:16
  don't
• 19:16
  mean
• 19:16
  I'm
• 19:16
  scared
• 19:16
  of
• 19:16
  technology.
• 19:17
  I'm
• 19:17
  just
• 19:17
  annoyed
• 19:18
  with
• 19:18
  it
• 19:18
  at
• 19:18
  this
• 19:18
  point.
• 19:19
  Um,
• 19:20
  but
• 19:20
  when
• 19:20
  I
• 19:21
  think
• 19:21
  of
• 19:21
  my
• 19:21
  singles,
• 19:21
  I'm
• 19:21
  like,
• 19:22
  oh
• 19:22
  my
• 19:22
  gosh,
• 19:23
  their
• 19:24
  future
• 19:24
  is
• 19:24
  even
• 19:24
  more
• 19:25
  eminently
• 19:25
  in
• 19:25
  their
• 19:26
  brain
• 19:27
  because
• 19:27
  it's
• 19:27
  like,
• 19:28
  what
• 19:28
  if?
• 19:28
  Like
• 19:29
  all
• 19:29
  the
• 19:29
  what
• 19:29
  ifs,
• 19:29
  all
• 19:30
  of
• 19:30
  the
• 19:31
  what
• 19:31
  happens
• 19:31
  to
• 19:31
  me
• 19:32
  if
• 19:32
  I
• 19:32
  go?
• 19:33
  What
• 19:33
  happens
• 19:33
  to,
• 19:34
  am
• 19:34
  I
• 19:34
  gonna
• 19:34
  have
• 19:35
  a
• 19:35
  family?
• 19:35
  Am
• 19:35
  I
• 19:35
  gonna
• 19:36
  have
• 19:36
  this?
• 19:36
  Like
• 19:37
  all
• 19:37
  of
• 19:37
  this,
• 19:38
  and
• 19:38
  then
• 19:38
  obviously
• 19:38
  as
• 19:39
  women,
• 19:39
  our
• 19:39
  biological
• 19:40
  clocks
• 19:40
  are,
• 19:41
  you
• 19:41
  know,
• 19:41
  whatever,
• 19:42
  but
• 19:42
  also
• 19:42
  women
• 19:43
  are
• 19:43
  still
• 19:43
  getting
• 19:43
  pregnant
• 19:44
  at
• 19:44
  50,
• 19:44
  so
• 19:44
  there's
• 19:45
  that
• 19:45
  too.
• 19:46
  Um,
• 19:46
  I
• 19:46
  don't
• 19:46
  know
• 19:46
  if
• 19:46
  I'd
• 19:47
  wanna
• 19:47
  start
• 19:47
  all
• 19:47
  over
• 19:48
  at
• 19:48
  this
• 19:48
  point
• 19:48
  at
• 19:49
  50
• 19:49
  with
• 19:49
  a
• 19:49
  baby.
• 19:50
  I'm
• 19:50
  not
• 19:50
  gonna
• 19:50
  say
• 19:51
  anything.
• 19:51
  God,
• 19:51
  I
• 19:51
  mean,
• 19:52
  if
• 19:52
  it's
• 19:52
  your
• 19:52
  will,
• 19:52
  by
• 19:53
  all
• 19:53
  means,
• 19:53
  but
• 19:55
  Have
• 19:55
  mercy.
• 19:56
  Um,
• 19:58
  my
• 19:58
  last
• 19:58
  one
• 19:58
  about
• 19:58
  did
• 19:58
  me
• 19:59
  in.
• 19:59
  Um,
• 20:00
  but
• 20:01
  all
• 20:01
  of
• 20:01
  that
• 20:01
  to
• 20:01
  say
• 20:02
  there's
• 20:02
  this,
• 20:02
  like,
• 20:02
  future
• 20:04
  feeling
• 20:04
  so
• 20:05
  eminent
• 20:05
  and
• 20:06
  a
• 20:06
  rushed
• 20:07
  feeling
• 20:08
  that
• 20:08
  happens
• 20:08
  the
• 20:09
  older
• 20:09
  and
• 20:09
  older
• 20:09
  we
• 20:09
  get
• 20:10
  when
• 20:10
  we
• 20:10
  are
• 20:10
  single.
• 20:11
  But
• 20:11
  I
• 20:11
  also
• 20:12
  know
• 20:12
  that
• 20:13
  there's
• 20:13
  more
• 20:13
  put
• 20:14
  on
• 20:14
  singles
• 20:15
  at
• 20:15
  churches.
• 20:16
  There's
• 20:16
  more
• 20:16
  put
• 20:17
  on
• 20:17
  singles
• 20:18
  to
• 20:18
  be
• 20:18
  out
• 20:18
  and
• 20:19
  be
• 20:19
  social,
• 20:19
  but
• 20:19
  then
• 20:19
  you
• 20:20
  don't
• 20:20
  wanna
• 20:20
  be
• 20:20
  social
• 20:20
  because...
• 20:21
  But
• 20:21
  then
• 20:21
  you're
• 20:21
  like,
• 20:22
  "Okay,
• 20:22
  should
• 20:22
  I?"
• 20:22
  Like,
• 20:23
  there's
• 20:23
  all
• 20:23
  of
• 20:23
  this
• 20:23
  stuff.
• 20:24
  What
• 20:24
  goes
• 20:25
  through
• 20:25
  heads,
• 20:26
  like,
• 20:26
  es-
• 20:26
  like,
• 20:26
  specifically
• 20:27
  yours,
• 20:27
  and
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  have
• 20:28
  another
• 20:28
  gal
• 20:28
  in
• 20:28
  my
• 20:28
  brain
• 20:29
  right
• 20:29
  now
• 20:29
  that
• 20:29
  I'm
• 20:29
  thinking
• 20:30
  of.
• 20:30
  Um,
• 20:30
  actually,
• 20:31
  there's
• 20:31
  a
• 20:31
  few
• 20:31
  people.
• 20:31
  But
• 20:33
  what
• 20:33
  is
• 20:33
  going
• 20:33
  through
• 20:33
  your
• 20:34
  head
• 20:34
  when
• 20:34
  you're
• 20:34
  thinking
• 20:34
  about
• 20:35
  your
• 20:35
  day?
• 20:36
  When
• 20:36
  you're
• 20:36
  thinking
• 20:36
  about
• 20:37
  your
• 20:37
  future,
• 20:37
  what
• 20:38
  does
• 20:38
  that
• 20:38
  even,
• 20:38
  like,
• 20:39
  feel
• 20:39
  like?
• 20:39
  What
• 20:39
  does
• 20:40
  it...
• 20:40
  Yeah.
• 20:42
  Yeah.
• 20:42
  Um,
• 20:43
  you're
• 20:43
  right.
• 20:44
  It's
• 20:44
  definitely
• 20:44
  at
• 20:44
  the
• 20:44
  forefront
• 20:45
  of
• 20:46
  my
• 20:46
  mind.
• 20:46
  It's
• 20:46
  something
• 20:47
  I
• 20:47
  think
• 20:47
  about
• 20:47
  a
• 20:47
  lot,
• 20:48
  um,
• 20:49
  because
• 20:50
  there
• 20:50
  is
• 20:50
  no
• 20:50
  plan.
• 20:51
  It's,
• 20:52
  it's
• 20:52
  just
• 20:52
  me.
• 20:53
  I,
• 20:53
  I
• 20:54
  don't
• 20:54
  have,
• 20:55
  um,
• 20:55
  a
• 20:56
  partner.
• 20:56
  I
• 20:56
  don't
• 20:56
  have
• 20:57
  kids,
• 20:57
  so,
• 20:58
  um,
• 20:59
  I
• 20:59
  think
• 20:59
  a
• 20:59
  lot
• 20:59
  about
• 21:00
  legacy
• 21:00
  too,
• 21:01
  um-
• 21:01
  Mm
• 21:02
  you
• 21:02
  know,
• 21:02
  what
• 21:02
  I'm
• 21:02
  building.
• 21:03
  Yeah.
• 21:03
  And,
• 21:03
  and
• 21:03
  where
• 21:04
  is
• 21:04
  that
• 21:04
  going
• 21:05
  after
• 21:05
  I'm
• 21:05
  no
• 21:05
  longer
• 21:06
  here?
• 21:06
  Yeah.
• 21:06
  And
• 21:07
  am
• 21:07
  I,
• 21:07
  what
• 21:07
  am
• 21:08
  I
• 21:08
  really
• 21:08
  passing
• 21:08
  down,
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  who
• 21:09
  is
• 21:09
  it
• 21:09
  to?
• 21:10
  Yeah.
• 21:11
  And
• 21:11
  who's
• 21:11
  gonna
• 21:11
  end
• 21:11
  up
• 21:11
  with
• 21:11
  all
• 21:12
  of
• 21:12
  my
• 21:12
  stuff,
• 21:13
  and
• 21:13
  these,
• 21:14
  like,
• 21:15
  really,
• 21:15
  like-
• 21:15
  But
• 21:15
  it's
• 21:15
  a,
• 21:15
  it's
• 21:15
  real
• 21:16
  it's
• 21:16
  something
• 21:17
  you
• 21:17
  have
• 21:17
  to
• 21:17
  think
• 21:17
  about.
• 21:18
  Um,
• 21:19
  and,
• 21:19
  you
• 21:19
  know,
• 21:20
  especially
• 21:20
  when
• 21:20
  your
• 21:20
  financial
• 21:21
  advisor
• 21:22
  person
• 21:22
  keeps
• 21:22
  calling
• 21:23
  you,
• 21:23
  asking
• 21:23
  you
• 21:23
  questions
• 21:24
  about
• 21:24
  your
• 21:25
  401that
• 21:25
  you're
• 21:25
  not
• 21:26
  really
• 21:26
  sure
• 21:26
  how
• 21:26
  to
• 21:26
  answer
• 21:26
  'cause
• 21:27
  you've
• 21:27
  never
• 21:27
  been
• 21:27
  a
• 21:27
  numbers
• 21:28
  and,
• 21:28
  and
• 21:29
  finance
• 21:29
  person,
• 21:29
  so.
• 21:31
  Mm-hmm.
• 21:31
  Oh.
• 21:31
  So
• 21:31
  yeah,
• 21:31
  I
• 21:32
  feel
• 21:32
  like
• 21:32
  every
• 21:32
  day
• 21:32
  I
• 21:32
  have
• 21:32
  something
• 21:33
  like
• 21:33
  that
• 21:33
  that
• 21:33
  reminds
• 21:34
  me
• 21:34
  that,
• 21:34
  oh,
• 21:34
  the
• 21:35
  future
• 21:35
  is
• 21:35
  coming.
• 21:36
  Um-
• 21:37
  But
• 21:38
  yeah,
• 21:38
  I
• 21:38
  think
• 21:38
  on
• 21:38
  a
• 21:38
  daily
• 21:39
  basis,
• 21:39
  just
• 21:40
  what
• 21:40
  I'm
• 21:40
  thinking
• 21:40
  about,
• 21:40
  I'm
• 21:40
  always
• 21:41
  thinking
• 21:41
  about
• 21:42
  energy
• 21:43
  conservation.
• 21:44
  I'm
• 21:45
  an
• 21:45
  introvert-
• 21:45
  Oh,
• 21:46
  samesies
• 21:47
  um,
• 21:47
  so,
• 21:47
  so
• 21:47
  I
• 21:47
  recover
• 21:48
  by
• 21:48
  spending
• 21:48
  time
• 21:49
  at
• 21:49
  home.
• 21:49
  And,
• 21:50
  you
• 21:50
  know,
• 21:51
  every,
• 21:51
  you
• 21:51
  know,
• 21:51
  all
• 21:52
  the,
• 21:52
  like,
• 21:53
  advice
• 21:53
  that
• 21:53
  people
• 21:54
  give
• 21:54
  for
• 21:54
  singles
• 21:55
  is,
• 21:55
  "Oh,"
• 21:55
  like,
• 21:56
  you
• 21:56
  know,
• 21:56
  "Join
• 21:56
  groups.
• 21:57
  Um,
• 21:58
  go
• 21:58
  out,
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  know,
• 21:59
  go,
• 21:59
  go
• 22:00
  to
• 22:00
  bars,
• 22:00
  go
• 22:00
  to
• 22:01
  parties,
• 22:01
  like,
• 22:01
  socialize.
• 22:02
  That's
• 22:02
  how
• 22:02
  you're
• 22:02
  gonna
• 22:02
  meet
• 22:03
  people.
• 22:03
  That's
• 22:03
  gonna..."
• 22:04
  And,
• 22:04
  you
• 22:05
  know,
• 22:05
  for
• 22:05
  me,
• 22:05
  that
• 22:06
  is
• 22:06
  an
• 22:06
  expenditure.
• 22:07
  Yes.
• 22:07
  So
• 22:08
  That
• 22:08
  costs
• 22:09
  too
• 22:09
  much.
• 22:10
  So,
• 22:11
  you
• 22:11
  know,
• 22:11
  whether
• 22:12
  I'm
• 22:12
  working
• 22:12
  in
• 22:12
  corporate
• 22:12
  or
• 22:13
  working
• 22:13
  here
• 22:13
  in
• 22:13
  the
• 22:13
  clinic,
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  know,
• 22:14
  giving,
• 22:15
  um,
• 22:17
  that-
• 22:17
  that's
• 22:18
  a
• 22:18
  big
• 22:18
  part
• 22:18
  of
• 22:18
  my
• 22:19
  day,
• 22:19
  and,
• 22:19
  and
• 22:20
  my
• 22:20
  natural
• 22:20
  inclination
• 22:21
  is
• 22:22
  I
• 22:22
  wanna
• 22:22
  go
• 22:22
  home-
• 22:23
  Yes
• 22:23
  after
• 22:23
  all
• 22:23
  that.
• 22:24
  And
• 22:24
  not,
• 22:24
  on
• 22:25
  top
• 22:25
  of
• 22:25
  that,
• 22:26
  I'm,
• 22:26
  um,
• 22:27
  investing
• 22:28
  in
• 22:28
  my
• 22:28
  own
• 22:28
  health.
• 22:29
  So
• 22:29
  I
• 22:29
  lift
• 22:30
  three
• 22:30
  times
• 22:30
  a
• 22:30
  week.
• 22:30
  I
• 22:31
  try
• 22:31
  to
• 22:31
  run
• 22:32
  one
• 22:33
  time
• 22:33
  a
• 22:33
  week
• 22:33
  and,
• 22:33
  and
• 22:34
  get
• 22:34
  my
• 22:34
  steps
• 22:34
  in.
• 22:35
  So
• 22:35
  I
• 22:35
  have
• 22:35
  my
• 22:36
  own
• 22:36
  personal
• 22:36
  goals
• 22:36
  as
• 22:37
  well
• 22:37
  that
• 22:37
  I'm
• 22:37
  trying
• 22:37
  to
• 22:37
  reach.
• 22:38
  And
• 22:38
  so,
• 22:39
  um,
• 22:39
  once
• 22:40
  you
• 22:40
  a-
• 22:40
  add
• 22:40
  all
• 22:41
  that
• 22:41
  up,
• 22:41
  at
• 22:41
  the
• 22:41
  end
• 22:41
  of
• 22:41
  the
• 22:41
  day,
• 22:42
  you're
• 22:42
  left
• 22:42
  with
• 22:42
  maybe
• 22:43
  one,
• 22:43
  two
• 22:43
  hours
• 22:44
  of
• 22:44
  your
• 22:44
  own
• 22:44
  time
• 22:45
  to
• 22:45
  really,
• 22:46
  um,
• 22:46
  you
• 22:47
  know,
• 22:47
  either
• 22:47
  stay
• 22:48
  at
• 22:48
  home
• 22:48
  and
• 22:48
  be
• 22:49
  your
• 22:49
  introvert
• 22:49
  self
• 22:50
  or
• 22:50
  go
• 22:50
  out
• 22:51
  and,
• 22:51
  um,
• 22:52
  go
• 22:53
  to
• 22:53
  dinner
• 22:53
  with
• 22:53
  a
• 22:53
  friend
• 22:54
  or
• 22:54
  go
• 22:55
  to
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  speed
• 22:55
  dating
• 22:55
  event.
• 22:58
  Which
• 22:58
  we'll
• 22:59
  have
• 22:59
  to,
• 22:59
  we'll
• 22:59
  have
• 22:59
  to
• 22:59
  make
• 23:00
  another
• 23:00
  episode-
• 23:00
  Yes
• 23:00
  about
• 23:00
  dating-
• 23:01
  Oh,
• 23:01
  my
• 23:01
  gosh
• 23:02
  um,
• 23:02
  at
• 23:02
  some
• 23:03
  point.
• 23:03
  But
• 23:03
  yeah.
• 23:03
  I
• 23:03
  learn
• 23:03
  so
• 23:04
  much,
• 23:04
  and
• 23:04
  this
• 23:04
  is
• 23:04
  gonna
• 23:05
  be
• 23:05
  so
• 23:05
  fun.
• 23:05
  If
• 23:06
  you're
• 23:06
  like
• 23:06
  me,
• 23:06
  um,
• 23:07
  it's
• 23:07
  so
• 23:07
  fun
• 23:07
  to,
• 23:07
  like,
• 23:08
  learn
• 23:08
  all
• 23:08
  these
• 23:08
  things.
• 23:09
  It's
• 23:09
  not,
• 23:09
  it's,
• 23:10
  it's
• 23:10
  actually
• 23:10
  really
• 23:10
  sad,
• 23:11
  but-
• 23:12
  It
• 23:12
  is
• 23:12
  hard,
• 23:13
  but,
• 23:14
  um,
• 23:14
  I,
• 23:15
  I
• 23:15
  also
• 23:15
  get
• 23:16
  through
• 23:16
  life
• 23:16
  too
• 23:16
  by,
• 23:17
  by,
• 23:17
  by
• 23:18
  laughing
• 23:18
  at
• 23:18
  things.
• 23:18
  Yes.
• 23:20
  So
• 23:20
  can
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  tell
• 23:21
  them
• 23:21
  about
• 23:21
  the
• 23:21
  one
• 23:21
  guy?
• 23:22
  Oh,
• 23:23
  gosh,
• 23:23
  which
• 23:23
  one?
• 23:23
  Okay,
• 23:23
  what
• 23:23
  was
• 23:24
  the
• 23:24
  last
• 23:24
  one
• 23:24
  that
• 23:24
  I
• 23:25
  said,
• 23:25
  you
• 23:25
  said
• 23:26
  something
• 23:26
  about
• 23:26
  him,
• 23:26
  and
• 23:26
  I'm
• 23:26
  like,
• 23:27
  "He
• 23:27
  definitely
• 23:27
  has
• 23:27
  low
• 23:28
  T"?
• 23:29
  And
• 23:29
  what
• 23:29
  else
• 23:29
  did
• 23:29
  I
• 23:29
  say?
• 23:29
  I
• 23:30
  gotta
• 23:30
  go
• 23:30
  to
• 23:30
  the
• 23:30
  text
• 23:30
  message.
• 23:31
  Hang
• 23:31
  on.
• 23:32
  Do
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  remember
• 23:32
  who
• 23:32
  I'm
• 23:32
  talking
• 23:33
  about?
• 23:33
  Yes.
• 23:33
  This
• 23:34
  was,
• 23:34
  um,
• 23:34
  one
• 23:34
  of
• 23:34
  the-
• 23:34
  Oh,
• 23:35
  shoot
• 23:37
  One
• 23:37
  of
• 23:37
  the
• 23:38
  matches
• 23:38
  I
• 23:38
  got
• 23:39
  at
• 23:39
  the,
• 23:39
  um,
• 23:40
  speed
• 23:41
  dating
• 23:41
  event
• 23:41
  I
• 23:41
  went
• 23:41
  to
• 23:42
  Do
• 23:42
  you
• 23:42
  remember
• 23:42
  when
• 23:42
  that
• 23:42
  was?
• 23:44
  Um,
• 23:45
  we
• 23:45
  were,
• 23:46
  so
• 23:46
  we
• 23:46
  were,
• 23:48
  uh,
• 23:48
  we
• 23:48
  were
• 23:48
  texting
• 23:49
  about
• 23:49
  this.
• 23:49
  Oh.
• 23:50
  Mm.
• 23:51
  Oh,
• 23:51
  okay.
• 23:51
  Wait,
• 23:51
  wait,
• 23:52
  wait.
• 23:52
  Um,
• 23:53
  okay.
• 23:54
  Please...
• 23:55
  Oh,
• 23:56
  that
• 23:56
  was
• 23:56
  a
• 23:56
  different
• 23:56
  message.
• 23:57
  Okay,
• 23:57
  so
• 23:57
  hang
• 23:57
  on.
• 23:57
  Where
• 23:58
  was
• 23:58
  this?
• 23:58
  I
• 23:58
  see,
• 23:59
  was
• 24:00
  it,
• 24:00
  like,
• 24:00
  May
• 24:00
  26th?
• 24:02
  Where
• 24:03
  was
• 24:03
  the
• 24:03
  guy
• 24:04
  that
• 24:04
  was,
• 24:04
  like,
• 24:04
  texting
• 24:05
  you?
• 24:06
  Oh,
• 24:06
  'cause
• 24:06
  I
• 24:06
  did,
• 24:06
  on
• 24:07
  the
• 24:07
  26th
• 24:07
  I
• 24:07
  said,
• 24:07
  "How
• 24:08
  was
• 24:08
  low
• 24:08
  T
• 24:08
  guy?
• 24:08
  I
• 24:08
  forgot
• 24:09
  to
• 24:09
  ask."
• 24:10
  Okay,
• 24:10
  so
• 24:10
  hang
• 24:11
  on.
• 24:12
  Okay.
• 24:13
  Wait,
• 24:13
  wait,
• 24:13
  wait.
• 24:14
  Always,
• 24:14
  I'm
• 24:14
  here.
• 24:14
  I'm
• 24:15
  here.
• 24:16
  "He
• 24:16
  wants
• 24:16
  to
• 24:16
  call
• 24:17
  me
• 24:17
  because
• 24:17
  apparently
• 24:18
  melatonin
• 24:19
  has
• 24:19
  30
• 24:19
  more
• 24:19
  minutes.
• 24:20
  Boy,
• 24:20
  please."
• 24:21
  And
• 24:21
  then
• 24:21
  I
• 24:21
  said,
• 24:22
  "Phone
• 24:22
  calls
• 24:23
  hour,
• 24:23
  phone
• 24:23
  call
• 24:24
  hours
• 24:24
  are
• 24:24
  done
• 24:24
  and
• 24:24
  done."
• 24:25
  Oh,
• 24:26
  oh,
• 24:26
  you
• 24:26
  know
• 24:26
  what
• 24:26
  I
• 24:26
  said?
• 24:28
  Okay,
• 24:28
  wait.
• 24:29
  "He's
• 24:29
  addicted."
• 24:30
  Okay,
• 24:30
  "It's
• 24:30
  10:30
• 24:31
  at
• 24:31
  night
• 24:31
  and
• 24:31
  he
• 24:31
  wants
• 24:32
  to
• 24:32
  talk
• 24:32
  about
• 24:32
  what
• 24:32
  I
• 24:32
  want
• 24:33
  in
• 24:33
  a
• 24:33
  relationship.
• 24:34
  But
• 24:34
  don't
• 24:34
  worry,
• 24:34
  he's
• 24:35
  taken
• 24:35
  melatonin
• 24:35
  so
• 24:36
  he'll
• 24:36
  be
• 24:36
  gone
• 24:37
  soon."
• 24:37
  And
• 24:38
  I
• 24:38
  said,
• 24:38
  "And
• 24:38
  the
• 24:38
  fact
• 24:39
  you
• 24:39
  know
• 24:39
  he's
• 24:39
  taken
• 24:39
  melatonin
• 24:40
  is
• 24:40
  one,
• 24:41
  or
• 24:41
  is
• 24:41
  minus
• 24:41
  one.
• 24:42
  A
• 24:42
  man
• 24:42
  who
• 24:42
  takes
• 24:43
  melatonin,
• 24:43
  minus
• 24:44
  1,000."
• 24:45
  She
• 24:45
  said,
• 24:46
  "He's
• 24:46
  also
• 24:46
  addicted
• 24:47
  to
• 24:47
  Red
• 24:47
  Bull
• 24:47
  and
• 24:47
  Topo
• 24:48
  Chico."
• 24:48
  And
• 24:48
  I
• 24:48
  said,
• 24:49
  "Lordy."
• 24:49
  She
• 24:50
  says,
• 24:51
  "You
• 24:51
  know
• 24:51
  I'm
• 24:52
  judging
• 24:52
  everything
• 24:52
  he's
• 24:53
  saying
• 24:53
  about
• 24:53
  his
• 24:53
  consumption
• 24:54
  habits."
• 24:54
  And
• 24:54
  I
• 24:55
  said
• 24:57
  I
• 24:57
  said,
• 24:58
  "Low
• 24:58
  T,
• 24:59
  no
• 24:59
  boner,
• 25:00
  high
• 25:00
  blood
• 25:00
  pressure,
• 25:01
  high
• 25:01
  cholesterol."
• 25:02
  And
• 25:02
  she
• 25:02
  says,
• 25:03
  "I'm
• 25:03
  dead."
• 25:04
  I
• 25:04
  said,
• 25:04
  "I've
• 25:04
  been
• 25:04
  judging
• 25:05
  since
• 25:05
  the
• 25:05
  melatonin."
• 25:07
  Uh,
• 25:07
  and
• 25:07
  then
• 25:08
  I
• 25:08
  said,
• 25:08
  "Hi.
• 25:09
  To
• 25:09
  cont-
• 25:09
  continue
• 25:09
  this
• 25:10
  conversation,
• 25:10
  insert
• 25:11
  testosterone
• 25:11
  number
• 25:12
  below.
• 25:13
  Please
• 25:13
  use
• 25:13
  this
• 25:13
  section
• 25:14
  of
• 25:14
  text
• 25:14
  for
• 25:14
  content."
• 25:15
  That
• 25:15
  was
• 25:15
  hilarious.
• 25:16
  So
• 25:16
  all
• 25:16
  that
• 25:17
  to
• 25:17
  say,
• 25:17
  like,
• 25:17
  we,
• 25:18
  we
• 25:19
  realize
• 25:20
  that
• 25:21
  singleness
• 25:21
  is
• 25:21
  not
• 25:21
  fun
• 25:22
  and
• 25:22
  easy,
• 25:23
  but
• 25:23
  also
• 25:23
  settling
• 25:24
  is
• 25:24
  not
• 25:24
  worth
• 25:24
  it
• 25:24
  either.
• 25:25
  Mm-hmm.
• 25:25
  Like,
• 25:26
  there
• 25:26
  was
• 25:26
  a
• 25:26
  lady...
• 25:26
  Did
• 25:27
  you
• 25:27
  send
• 25:27
  it
• 25:27
  to
• 25:27
  me,
• 25:27
  or
• 25:27
  did
• 25:27
  I
• 25:27
  send
• 25:27
  it
• 25:28
  to
• 25:28
  you
• 25:28
  about
• 25:28
  the
• 25:28
  MyChart?
• 25:29
  It
• 25:29
  was
• 25:29
  you
• 25:29
  sent
• 25:30
  it
• 25:30
  to
• 25:30
  me.
• 25:30
  Oh,
• 25:31
  yeah.
• 25:31
  This
• 25:31
  gal
• 25:31
  said,
• 25:32
  "You
• 25:32
  need
• 25:32
  to
• 25:32
  send
• 25:32
  me
• 25:33
  the,
• 25:33
  your
• 25:33
  MyChart
• 25:34
  numbers
• 25:34
  so
• 25:34
  I
• 25:34
  actually
• 25:35
  know
• 25:35
  what
• 25:35
  your
• 25:35
  family
• 25:35
  health
• 25:36
  history
• 25:36
  is."
• 25:37
  What
• 25:38
  that
• 25:38
  hemoglobin
• 25:38
  is.
• 25:38
  What
• 25:38
  that,
• 25:38
  what
• 25:38
  that
• 25:38
  hemoglobin
• 25:39
  is
• 25:39
  before
• 25:40
  we
• 25:40
  get,
• 25:40
  before
• 25:40
  we
• 25:40
  get
• 25:41
  together.
• 25:42
  But
• 25:42
  it's
• 25:42
  the
• 25:42
  th-
• 25:42
  it's
• 25:43
  really
• 25:43
  hard
• 25:43
  to
• 25:43
  find
• 25:44
  people
• 25:44
  that
• 25:44
  are
• 25:45
  in
• 25:45
  the
• 25:45
  same
• 25:46
  boat
• 25:46
  as
• 25:47
  you,
• 25:47
  the
• 25:47
  same
• 25:47
  mentality,
• 25:48
  the
• 25:48
  same
• 25:48
  mindset,
• 25:49
  uh,
• 25:49
  not
• 25:50
  wanting
• 25:50
  to
• 25:50
  play
• 25:50
  around
• 25:50
  with,
• 25:51
  with
• 25:51
  life
• 25:52
  and
• 25:52
  knowing
• 25:52
  the
• 25:52
  seriousness
• 25:53
  of
• 25:53
  it
• 25:53
  and
• 25:54
  actually
• 25:54
  take
• 25:54
  their
• 25:55
  health
• 25:55
  for,
• 25:55
  like,
• 25:56
  seriously,
• 25:56
  you
• 25:56
  know?
• 25:56
  Not
• 25:57
  just,
• 25:57
  not
• 25:58
  just
• 25:58
  letting
• 25:58
  your
• 25:58
  hemoglobin
• 25:59
  get
• 25:59
  low,
• 26:00
  not
• 26:00
  eating,
• 26:00
  not...
• 26:01
  A
• 26:01
  man
• 26:01
  that's
• 26:01
  drinking
• 26:01
  soy
• 26:02
  milk,
• 26:02
  we
• 26:02
  got
• 26:02
  problems.
• 26:03
  Like,
• 26:03
  we
• 26:03
  need
• 26:04
  to
• 26:04
  have
• 26:04
  a
• 26:04
  conversation
• 26:04
  with
• 26:05
  those
• 26:05
  people.
• 26:05
  But
• 26:06
  all
• 26:06
  that
• 26:06
  to
• 26:07
  say,
• 26:07
  uh,
• 26:08
  Rachel
• 26:08
  has
• 26:09
  come
• 26:09
  into
• 26:09
  this
• 26:09
  world
• 26:10
  because
• 26:11
  she
• 26:11
  is
• 26:11
  ready
• 26:11
  to
• 26:12
  leave
• 26:12
  legacy
• 26:12
  behind.
• 26:13
  I
• 26:13
  mean,
• 26:13
  leave
• 26:13
  a
• 26:13
  legacy
• 26:14
  behind,
• 26:15
  and
• 26:15
  she
• 26:16
  wants
• 26:16
  to
• 26:17
  help
• 26:17
  other
• 26:17
  people
• 26:18
  do
• 26:18
  the
• 26:18
  same
• 26:19
  thing.
• 26:20
  She
• 26:20
  comes
• 26:20
  with
• 26:21
  a
• 26:21
  different
• 26:21
  perspective,
• 26:22
  a
• 26:22
  different
• 26:23
  viewpoint,
• 26:24
  a
• 26:24
  different,
• 26:25
  uh,
• 26:25
  background
• 26:26
  and
• 26:26
  life
• 26:26
  experience
• 26:27
  that
• 26:27
  lets
• 26:28
  her
• 26:28
  see
• 26:28
  things
• 26:28
  differently,
• 26:29
  and
• 26:29
  she
• 26:29
  knows
• 26:30
  the
• 26:31
  stressors
• 26:31
  of
• 26:32
  people
• 26:32
  with,
• 26:33
  that
• 26:33
  deal
• 26:34
  with
• 26:34
  singleness.
• 26:34
  Do
• 26:35
  you
• 26:35
  wanna
• 26:35
  give
• 26:35
  some
• 26:35
  health
• 26:36
  issues
• 26:36
  that
• 26:36
  single
• 26:37
  people
• 26:37
  have
• 26:38
  that
• 26:38
  are
• 26:38
  usually
• 26:38
  undealt
• 26:39
  with?
• 26:41
  Ooh.
• 26:43
  Yeah.
• 26:44
  Um,
• 26:44
  well,
• 26:45
  uh,
• 26:45
  uh,
• 26:46
  the
• 26:46
  mental
• 26:46
  piece
• 26:46
  is
• 26:46
  huge.
• 26:47
  Um,
• 26:48
  anxiety,
• 26:50
  sadness,
• 26:51
  um,
• 26:53
  you
• 26:54
  know,
• 26:54
  blood
• 26:55
  sugar
• 26:55
  issues.
• 26:55
  Yeah.
• 27:00
  Sleep.
• 27:01
  Sleep
• 27:01
  can
• 27:01
  be
• 27:01
  hard.
• 27:02
  Mm-hmm.
• 27:02
  Um,
• 27:03
  especially
• 27:04
  if
• 27:04
  you're
• 27:04
  like
• 27:04
  me
• 27:04
  and,
• 27:05
  and
• 27:05
  you're
• 27:05
  constantly
• 27:06
  worried
• 27:06
  if
• 27:06
  you
• 27:06
  locked
• 27:06
  your
• 27:07
  door
• 27:07
  and
• 27:08
  Yep.
• 27:09
  What's
• 27:09
  that
• 27:09
  sound
• 27:10
  I
• 27:10
  just
• 27:10
  heard?
• 27:10
  Like,
• 27:11
  um,
• 27:12
  sometimes
• 27:13
  I
• 27:13
  get
• 27:13
  into
• 27:13
  my
• 27:13
  head
• 27:14
  when
• 27:14
  I
• 27:14
  go
• 27:14
  to
• 27:14
  sleep
• 27:14
  at
• 27:15
  night.
• 27:15
  Yep.
• 27:19
  Yeah,
• 27:19
  what
• 27:19
  else?
• 27:20
  Cholesterol.
• 27:21
  Cholesterol,
• 27:22
  yes
• 27:24
  That
• 27:24
  was
• 27:24
  a
• 27:24
  big
• 27:24
  one
• 27:24
  cholesterol
• 27:26
  is
• 27:26
  non,
• 27:27
  it
• 27:27
  does
• 27:27
  not
• 27:28
  discriminate
• 27:28
  on
• 27:28
  your
• 27:28
  body
• 27:29
  size,
• 27:29
  your
• 27:30
  history,
• 27:30
  anything.
• 27:31
  Cholesterol
• 27:32
  is
• 27:32
  usually
• 27:33
  high
• 27:33
  in
• 27:33
  my
• 27:34
  singles,
• 27:35
  and
• 27:35
  it
• 27:35
  is
• 27:35
  very
• 27:36
  common
• 27:36
  in
• 27:36
  my
• 27:37
  singles,
• 27:38
  and
• 27:38
  it's
• 27:38
  because
• 27:39
  there
• 27:39
  is
• 27:39
  so
• 27:39
  much
• 27:40
  worry.
• 27:40
  It's
• 27:41
  because
• 27:41
  of
• 27:41
  the
• 27:41
  blood
• 27:41
  sugar
• 27:41
  and
• 27:41
  stress
• 27:42
  and
• 27:42
  all
• 27:42
  of
• 27:42
  that,
• 27:42
  but
• 27:42
  it's
• 27:43
  because
• 27:43
  there's
• 27:43
  so
• 27:43
  much
• 27:44
  worry,
• 27:44
  so
• 27:44
  much
• 27:45
  constantly
• 27:45
  on
• 27:46
  up
• 27:46
  here
• 27:47
  in
• 27:47
  the...
• 27:47
  You
• 27:47
  can't
• 27:47
  see
• 27:47
  me,
• 27:47
  but,
• 27:48
  um,
• 27:48
  up
• 27:48
  here
• 27:49
  in
• 27:49
  the
• 27:49
  brain,
• 27:50
  that
• 27:50
  the
• 27:50
  cholesterol
• 27:51
  just
• 27:51
  continues
• 27:52
  to
• 27:52
  elevate
• 27:52
  because
• 27:52
  it
• 27:53
  thinks
• 27:53
  that
• 27:53
  you're
• 27:53
  sick.
• 27:54
  It's
• 27:54
  responding
• 27:55
  to
• 27:55
  some
• 27:56
  kind
• 27:56
  of
• 27:56
  sickness
• 27:57
  and
• 27:57
  inflammation
• 27:57
  in
• 27:58
  the
• 27:58
  body,
• 27:58
  and
• 27:59
  you're
• 27:59
  holding
• 27:59
  onto
• 28:00
  that
• 28:00
  cholesterol
• 28:00
  as
• 28:00
  if
• 28:01
  you
• 28:01
  are
• 28:01
  sick
• 28:01
  and
• 28:02
  need
• 28:02
  extra
• 28:03
  white
• 28:03
  blood
• 28:03
  cells
• 28:03
  other
• 28:04
  places,
• 28:04
  and
• 28:04
  it's
• 28:05
  so
• 28:06
  frustrating
• 28:06
  and
• 28:07
  sad,
• 28:07
  and
• 28:07
  it's
• 28:07
  like,
• 28:08
  it
• 28:08
  doesn't
• 28:08
  matter
• 28:08
  how
• 28:09
  good
• 28:09
  you
• 28:09
  eat,
• 28:09
  doesn't
• 28:09
  matter
• 28:09
  how
• 28:10
  bad
• 28:10
  you
• 28:10
  eat,
• 28:10
  your
• 28:10
  cholesterol...
• 28:11
  Yeah,
• 28:11
  I
• 28:11
  mean,
• 28:11
  it
• 28:11
  does,
• 28:12
  but
• 28:12
  your
• 28:12
  cholesterol
• 28:13
  is
• 28:14
  going
• 28:14
  to
• 28:15
  rise,
• 28:15
  um,
• 28:16
  and
• 28:16
  be
• 28:16
  a
• 28:16
  sus-
• 28:16
  you,
• 28:17
  you
• 28:17
  will
• 28:17
  be
• 28:17
  susceptible
• 28:18
  as
• 28:18
  a
• 28:18
  single,
• 28:19
  and
• 28:19
  I,
• 28:19
  and
• 28:19
  this
• 28:19
  is
• 28:19
  something
• 28:19
  that
• 28:20
  Rachel
• 28:20
  brings
• 28:20
  to
• 28:20
  the
• 28:20
  table
• 28:21
  is
• 28:21
  just
• 28:21
  that
• 28:22
  understanding
• 28:23
  of
• 28:23
  what
• 28:23
  that's
• 28:23
  like.
• 28:24
  I
• 28:24
  can
• 28:24
  help.
• 28:26
  I'm
• 28:26
  not
• 28:26
  really
• 28:26
  good
• 28:26
  off
• 28:27
  the
• 28:27
  top
• 28:27
  of
• 28:27
  my
• 28:27
  head
• 28:27
  thinking
• 28:28
  about
• 28:28
  meals
• 28:28
  and
• 28:28
  stuff
• 28:29
  'cause
• 28:29
  that's
• 28:29
  just
• 28:29
  not
• 28:29
  my
• 28:29
  forte
• 28:30
  'cause
• 28:30
  it's
• 28:30
  so
• 28:30
  natural
• 28:31
  to
• 28:31
  me.
• 28:31
  Um,
• 28:32
  but
• 28:32
  off
• 28:32
  the
• 28:32
  top
• 28:32
  of
• 28:32
  my
• 28:32
  head,
• 28:33
  I
• 28:33
  could
• 28:33
  talk
• 28:33
  about
• 28:33
  your
• 28:33
  liver,
• 28:33
  I
• 28:33
  could
• 28:34
  talk
• 28:34
  about
• 28:34
  your
• 28:34
  blood
• 28:34
  sugar,
• 28:34
  all
• 28:35
  of
• 28:35
  your
• 28:35
  health
• 28:35
  things
• 28:35
  without,
• 28:36
  without
• 28:36
  even
• 28:37
  asking
• 28:37
  you
• 28:38
  questions.
• 28:38
  I
• 28:38
  can
• 28:38
  just
• 28:38
  look
• 28:38
  at
• 28:38
  you
• 28:39
  and
• 28:39
  tell
• 28:39
  you
• 28:39
  what's
• 28:39
  wrong
• 28:39
  with
• 28:39
  you,
• 28:40
  for
• 28:40
  the
• 28:40
  most
• 28:40
  part.
• 28:41
  But
• 28:42
  with
• 28:42
  her,
• 28:43
  she
• 28:43
  is
• 28:43
  so
• 28:44
  good
• 28:44
  that
• 28:44
  she
• 28:44
  can
• 28:45
  give
• 28:45
  you
• 28:45
  ideas
• 28:46
  of
• 28:46
  how
• 28:47
  to
• 28:47
  make,
• 28:47
  i-
• 28:47
  in
• 28:48
  a
• 28:48
  single
• 28:48
  life,
• 28:49
  how
• 28:49
  to
• 28:50
  make
• 28:50
  things
• 28:50
  work,
• 28:51
  how
• 28:51
  to
• 28:52
  find
• 28:52
  health
• 28:52
  in
• 28:52
  your
• 28:53
  real
• 28:53
  life
• 28:53
  because
• 28:54
  just
• 28:54
  like
• 28:54
  she
• 28:54
  said,
• 28:54
  if
• 28:54
  you're
• 28:55
  working
• 28:55
  corporate,
• 28:55
  you're
• 28:55
  working
• 28:56
  whatever
• 28:56
  kind
• 28:56
  of
• 28:56
  job,
• 28:57
  you
• 28:58
  have
• 28:58
  40
• 28:58
  hours
• 28:59
  of
• 28:59
  work
• 28:59
  that
• 28:59
  week,
• 29:00
  plus
• 29:00
  you've
• 29:00
  gotta
• 29:01
  figure
• 29:01
  out
• 29:01
  your
• 29:01
  groceries,
• 29:01
  you
• 29:01
  gotta
• 29:01
  figure
• 29:02
  out
• 29:02
  your
• 29:02
  trash,
• 29:02
  your
• 29:02
  chores,
• 29:03
  you
• 29:03
  gotta
• 29:03
  figure
• 29:03
  out
• 29:03
  taking
• 29:03
  care
• 29:03
  of
• 29:04
  yourself,
• 29:04
  you
• 29:04
  gotta
• 29:04
  figure
• 29:04
  out
• 29:04
  all
• 29:04
  this
• 29:05
  stuff.
• 29:05
  How
• 29:05
  do
• 29:05
  you
• 29:05
  make
• 29:06
  this
• 29:06
  happen?
• 29:06
  Some
• 29:06
  people
• 29:07
  have
• 29:07
  an
• 29:07
  hour,
• 29:07
  two-hour
• 29:07
  commute
• 29:08
  to
• 29:08
  work.
• 29:09
  So
• 29:09
  how
• 29:09
  are
• 29:09
  you
• 29:09
  gonna
• 29:09
  eat
• 29:10
  breakfast?
• 29:10
  How
• 29:10
  are
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  gonna
• 29:11
  do
• 29:11
  that?
• 29:11
  Rachel
• 29:11
  is,
• 29:12
  like,
• 29:12
  really
• 29:13
  good
• 29:13
  at
• 29:13
  figuring
• 29:14
  those
• 29:14
  things
• 29:14
  out
• 29:15
  and
• 29:15
  asking
• 29:15
  questions
• 29:16
  that
• 29:16
  even
• 29:16
  I
• 29:16
  can't,
• 29:17
  like,
• 29:17
  not
• 29:17
  e-
• 29:17
  I
• 29:17
  don't
• 29:17
  even
• 29:18
  think
• 29:18
  about
• 29:18
  because
• 29:18
  I
• 29:18
  don't
• 29:19
  think
• 29:19
  about
• 29:19
  them.
• 29:20
  And
• 29:20
  so
• 29:21
  those
• 29:21
  are
• 29:21
  things
• 29:21
  about,
• 29:22
  um,
• 29:23
  Rachel
• 29:23
  that
• 29:23
  I
• 29:23
  adore,
• 29:24
  and
• 29:24
  just
• 29:25
  how
• 29:25
  patient
• 29:26
  and
• 29:26
  how
• 29:27
  keen
• 29:27
  she
• 29:27
  is
• 29:28
  on
• 29:28
  honing
• 29:29
  in
• 29:29
  on
• 29:29
  the
• 29:29
  details.
• 29:30
  Again,
• 29:31
  that
• 29:31
  is
• 29:32
  why
• 29:32
  I
• 29:32
  have
• 29:32
  not
• 29:32
  hired
• 29:33
  somebody
• 29:33
  to
• 29:33
  work
• 29:34
  as
• 29:34
  a
• 29:34
  clinician
• 29:35
  for
• 29:35
  me,
• 29:36
  because
• 29:37
  I
• 29:37
  have
• 29:37
  not
• 29:37
  found
• 29:37
  that
• 29:37
  person
• 29:38
  yet,
• 29:38
  and
• 29:38
  yes,
• 29:38
  I
• 29:38
  was
• 29:38
  grooming
• 29:39
  her,
• 29:39
  I
• 29:39
  get
• 29:39
  that,
• 29:40
  but
• 29:41
  because
• 29:41
  I
• 29:41
  knew
• 29:41
  she
• 29:42
  had
• 29:42
  it.
• 29:42
  And
• 29:43
  this
• 29:43
  is...
• 29:43
  Like,
• 29:44
  I
• 29:44
  can
• 29:44
  teach
• 29:44
  protocols,
• 29:45
  I
• 29:45
  can
• 29:45
  teach
• 29:45
  my
• 29:45
  methods,
• 29:46
  I
• 29:46
  can
• 29:46
  do
• 29:46
  that,
• 29:47
  but
• 29:47
  I
• 29:47
  cannot
• 29:48
  teach
• 29:48
  a
• 29:48
  person
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  be
• 29:49
  a
• 29:49
  person.
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  can't
• 29:50
  teach
• 29:51
  a
• 29:51
  person
• 29:51
  to
• 29:51
  be
• 29:51
  human.
• 29:52
  I
• 29:52
  can't
• 29:52
  teach
• 29:53
  a
• 29:53
  person
• 29:53
  to
• 29:53
  look
• 29:54
  at
• 29:54
  the
• 29:54
  body
• 29:55
  and
• 29:55
  the
• 29:55
  people
• 29:55
  and
• 29:55
  their
• 29:55
  lifestyle
• 29:56
  in
• 29:56
  the
• 29:56
  same
• 29:56
  way
• 29:56
  I
• 29:57
  do.
• 29:57
  Um,
• 29:58
  like,
• 29:58
  and,
• 29:59
  and
• 29:59
  I
• 29:59
  can't
• 29:59
  do
• 30:00
  that.
• 30:00
  And
• 30:01
  so
• 30:01
  that
• 30:01
  has
• 30:02
  been
• 30:02
  a
• 30:02
  huge
• 30:02
  blessing
• 30:03
  here
• 30:03
  in
• 30:03
  this
• 30:03
  space,
• 30:04
  so
• 30:04
  Rachel,
• 30:05
  I'm
• 30:05
  so
• 30:05
  glad
• 30:05
  that
• 30:05
  you
• 30:05
  are
• 30:05
  here
• 30:06
  to
• 30:06
  start
• 30:07
  our
• 30:07
  conversation.
• 30:07
  We
• 30:08
  will
• 30:08
  definitely
• 30:08
  have
• 30:08
  more.
• 30:09
  Um,
• 30:09
  I
• 30:09
  will
• 30:09
  just...
• 30:10
  I
• 30:10
  literally
• 30:10
  went
• 30:10
  over
• 30:10
  to
• 30:10
  her
• 30:11
  office.
• 30:11
  I'm
• 30:11
  like,
• 30:11
  "Let's
• 30:11
  record
• 30:12
  a
• 30:12
  podcast
• 30:12
  episode,"
• 30:12
  and
• 30:13
  she
• 30:13
  came
• 30:13
  into
• 30:13
  my
• 30:13
  office,
• 30:13
  and
• 30:14
  we
• 30:14
  did
• 30:14
  it.
• 30:14
  So
• 30:15
  we
• 30:15
  will
• 30:16
  be
• 30:16
  recording
• 30:17
  podcast
• 30:17
  episodes.
• 30:17
  Again,
• 30:18
  if
• 30:18
  you
• 30:18
  wanna
• 30:18
  tell
• 30:19
  us
• 30:19
  some
• 30:19
  topics
• 30:19
  you
• 30:19
  want
• 30:20
  us
• 30:20
  to
• 30:20
  talk
• 30:20
  about,
• 30:21
  let
• 30:21
  us
• 30:21
  know.
• 30:21
  You
• 30:21
  can
• 30:21
  even
• 30:22
  email
• 30:22
  us
• 30:22
  at
• 30:22
  hello@wildernessofwellness.
• 30:24
  .com
• 30:25
  and
• 30:25
  we
• 30:25
  will
• 30:26
  take
• 30:26
  care
• 30:26
  of
• 30:26
  that
• 30:27
  and
• 30:27
  get
• 30:27
  that
• 30:27
  put
• 30:28
  in
• 30:28
  the
• 30:28
  queue
• 30:29
  of
• 30:29
  the
• 30:29
  episode.
• 30:30
  So
• 30:31
  those
• 30:31
  of
• 30:31
  you
• 30:32
  that
• 30:32
  have
• 30:32
  been
• 30:32
  here
• 30:32
  a
• 30:32
  while,
• 30:33
  I'm
• 30:33
  so
• 30:33
  grateful
• 30:33
  that
• 30:34
  you
• 30:34
  keep
• 30:35
  putting
• 30:35
  me
• 30:35
  in
• 30:35
  your
• 30:35
  ears.
• 30:36
  I
• 30:36
  cannot
• 30:36
  believe
• 30:37
  that
• 30:37
  I
• 30:37
  get
• 30:37
  to
• 30:37
  come
• 30:37
  here
• 30:38
  almost
• 30:39
  every
• 30:39
  week
• 30:39
  of
• 30:39
  the
• 30:39
  year
• 30:40
  and
• 30:40
  talk,
• 30:40
  and
• 30:40
  you
• 30:40
  guys
• 30:41
  listen.
• 30:41
  Um,
• 30:42
  that
• 30:42
  doesn't
• 30:42
  happen
• 30:42
  at
• 30:42
  my
• 30:43
  house.
• 30:44
  That
• 30:44
  doesn't
• 30:44
  happen
• 30:44
  a
• 30:44
  lot
• 30:44
  of
• 30:45
  places.
• 30:45
  Um,
• 30:46
  actually,
• 30:46
  it
• 30:46
  does.
• 30:46
  Sadly,
• 30:47
  it
• 30:47
  does.
• 30:47
  I
• 30:47
  open
• 30:48
  my
• 30:48
  mouth,
• 30:48
  and
• 30:49
  a
• 30:49
  lot
• 30:49
  of
• 30:49
  people
• 30:49
  will
• 30:50
  listen.
• 30:50
  I
• 30:50
  even
• 30:50
  had
• 30:50
  a
• 30:50
  friend,
• 30:51
  I
• 30:51
  will
• 30:51
  not
• 30:51
  name
• 30:52
  her
• 30:52
  right
• 30:52
  now.
• 30:53
  Will
• 30:53
  not
• 30:53
  out
• 30:53
  her,
• 30:53
  but
• 30:54
  every
• 30:54
  time...
• 30:54
  She
• 30:55
  admitted
• 30:55
  to
• 30:55
  me
• 30:56
  that
• 30:56
  every
• 30:56
  time
• 30:57
  she
• 30:57
  got
• 30:57
  on
• 30:57
  the
• 30:57
  phone
• 30:57
  with
• 30:57
  me,
• 30:58
  she
• 30:58
  was
• 30:58
  taking
• 30:59
  notes.
• 31:00
  I
• 31:00
  was
• 31:00
  so
• 31:01
  embarrassed.
• 31:02
  I
• 31:02
  was
• 31:02
  like,
• 31:03
  "Wait,
• 31:03
  I
• 31:03
  thought
• 31:04
  we
• 31:04
  were
• 31:04
  talking
• 31:05
  as
• 31:05
  friends."
• 31:05
  And
• 31:05
  she's
• 31:05
  like,
• 31:06
  "Do
• 31:06
  you
• 31:06
  know
• 31:06
  what
• 31:07
  kind
• 31:07
  of
• 31:07
  stuff
• 31:07
  comes
• 31:07
  out
• 31:08
  of
• 31:08
  your
• 31:08
  mouth?"
• 31:08
  I'm
• 31:08
  like,
• 31:09
  "Well,
• 31:10
  I-
• 31:10
  I'm
• 31:10
  just
• 31:10
  talking.
• 31:11
  Like,
• 31:11
  I'm
• 31:11
  just
• 31:12
  talking
• 31:12
  and
• 31:13
  whatever."
• 31:13
  So
• 31:14
  that
• 31:14
  was
• 31:14
  funny,
• 31:15
  and
• 31:15
  I
• 31:15
  will
• 31:15
  have
• 31:15
  to
• 31:16
  send
• 31:16
  her
• 31:16
  this
• 31:16
  episode
• 31:17
  because
• 31:17
  then
• 31:17
  she
• 31:17
  will
• 31:18
  laugh
• 31:18
  and
• 31:18
  know
• 31:19
  exactly
• 31:19
  what,
• 31:20
  who
• 31:20
  I'm
• 31:20
  talking
• 31:21
  to,
• 31:21
  um,
• 31:21
  in
• 31:21
  that.
• 31:22
  Um,
• 31:23
  but
• 31:23
  guys,
• 31:23
  I
• 31:23
  am
• 31:23
  so
• 31:24
  grateful
• 31:24
  I
• 31:24
  get
• 31:24
  to
• 31:24
  do
• 31:25
  this.
• 31:25
  I'm
• 31:25
  so
• 31:25
  grateful
• 31:25
  I
• 31:25
  get
• 31:26
  to
• 31:26
  support
• 31:26
  you.
• 31:26
  You
• 31:26
  can
• 31:27
  book
• 31:27
  in
• 31:27
  with
• 31:27
  Rachel
• 31:28
  down
• 31:28
  below.
• 31:29
  Um,
• 31:29
  if
• 31:29
  you
• 31:30
  have
• 31:30
  a
• 31:30
  friend
• 31:31
  or
• 31:31
  you
• 31:31
  are
• 31:32
  struggling
• 31:32
  with
• 31:32
  any
• 31:32
  kind
• 31:33
  of
• 31:33
  cholesterol
• 31:34
  or
• 31:34
  blood
• 31:34
  sugar
• 31:34
  or
• 31:34
  any
• 31:35
  kind
• 31:35
  of
• 31:35
  functional
• 31:36
  health
• 31:36
  problem
• 31:36
  that
• 31:36
  your
• 31:37
  traditional
• 31:37
  medicine
• 31:38
  is
• 31:38
  not
• 31:38
  helping
• 31:39
  with,
• 31:39
  you
• 31:39
  can
• 31:39
  totally
• 31:40
  go
• 31:40
  ahead
• 31:40
  and
• 31:40
  book
• 31:41
  down
• 31:41
  below
• 31:41
  in
• 31:41
  our
• 31:42
  concierge
• 31:42
  care.
• 31:42
  Just
• 31:42
  choose
• 31:43
  Rachel
• 31:43
  in
• 31:43
  the
• 31:44
  drop-down.
• 31:45
  I
• 31:45
  don't
• 31:45
  think
• 31:46
  I
• 31:46
  have
• 31:46
  very
• 31:46
  many
• 31:46
  openings
• 31:47
  on
• 31:47
  my
• 31:47
  calendar
• 31:48
  anymore,
• 31:48
  uh,
• 31:49
  like
• 31:49
  at
• 31:49
  all.
• 31:50
  So
• 31:50
  if
• 31:51
  you
• 31:51
  have...
• 31:52
  If
• 31:52
  I
• 31:52
  do
• 31:52
  have
• 31:52
  openings,
• 31:53
  I'll
• 31:53
  let
• 31:53
  you
• 31:53
  guys
• 31:53
  know,
• 31:53
  but
• 31:54
  I
• 31:54
  am
• 31:54
  pretty
• 31:55
  well
• 31:55
  booked.
• 31:55
  Get
• 31:56
  in
• 31:56
  with
• 31:56
  Rachel.
• 31:57
  She
• 31:57
  is
• 31:57
  more
• 31:58
  than
• 31:58
  willing
• 31:58
  to
• 31:59
  support
• 31:59
  you
• 31:59
  and
• 32:00
  more
• 32:00
  than
• 32:00
  capable
• 32:00
  to
• 32:01
  support
• 32:01
  you.
• 32:02
  She's
• 32:02
  doing
• 32:02
  a
• 32:02
  fantastic
• 32:03
  job.
• 32:03
  I
• 32:03
  have
• 32:03
  not
• 32:03
  given
• 32:04
  her
• 32:04
  easy
• 32:04
  cases.
• 32:05
  I
• 32:05
  have
• 32:06
  not
• 32:06
  handed
• 32:06
  over
• 32:06
  any
• 32:07
  kind
• 32:07
  of
• 32:07
  easy
• 32:07
  cases
• 32:07
  b-
• 32:08
  because
• 32:08
  quite
• 32:08
  frankly,
• 32:09
  no
• 32:09
  easy
• 32:09
  case
• 32:09
  comes
• 32:09
  into
• 32:10
  my
• 32:10
  office.
• 32:11
  And
• 32:11
  easy
• 32:12
  cases
• 32:12
  are,
• 32:13
  um,
• 32:14
  are
• 32:15
  things
• 32:15
  that
• 32:15
  are
• 32:15
  not
• 32:16
  layered,
• 32:16
  things
• 32:16
  that
• 32:17
  don't
• 32:17
  have
• 32:17
  a
• 32:17
  long
• 32:17
  trauma
• 32:18
  past
• 32:18
  or
• 32:18
  things
• 32:18
  like
• 32:19
  that.
• 32:19
  So
• 32:19
  I
• 32:19
  just
• 32:19
  want
• 32:19
  you
• 32:19
  to
• 32:19
  know
• 32:20
  that
• 32:20
  she
• 32:21
  is
• 32:21
  more
• 32:21
  than
• 32:21
  well-equipped
• 32:22
  to
• 32:22
  also
• 32:23
  support
• 32:23
  you
• 32:24
  as
• 32:24
  well.
• 32:24
  So,
• 32:25
  um,
• 32:26
  Rachel,
• 32:26
  any
• 32:26
  last
• 32:27
  parting
• 32:27
  words
• 32:28
  that
• 32:28
  you
• 32:28
  want
• 32:28
  to
• 32:28
  share?
• 32:30
  Yeah,
• 32:30
  I
• 32:30
  guess
• 32:31
  I
• 32:31
  would
• 32:31
  just
• 32:31
  say,
• 32:32
  um,
• 32:33
  anybody
• 32:33
  that's
• 32:33
  listening,
• 32:34
  if
• 32:34
  you
• 32:34
  feel
• 32:35
  like
• 32:35
  you
• 32:35
  relate
• 32:35
  to
• 32:35
  this,
• 32:36
  um,
• 32:37
  I
• 32:37
  would
• 32:37
  just
• 32:38
  say
• 32:39
  don't
• 32:39
  give
• 32:39
  up
• 32:40
  on
• 32:40
  yourself.
• 32:41
  Um,
• 32:42
  definitely,
• 32:43
  you
• 32:43
  know,
• 32:44
  realize
• 32:44
  where
• 32:44
  you're
• 32:45
  at,
• 32:45
  and
• 32:45
  it,
• 32:46
  it
• 32:46
  takes
• 32:47
  a
• 32:47
  lot
• 32:47
  of
• 32:47
  courage
• 32:47
  to
• 32:48
  step
• 32:48
  forward
• 32:48
  and,
• 32:49
  and
• 32:50
  find
• 32:50
  help.
• 32:50
  Um,
• 32:51
  so
• 32:51
  definitely
• 32:51
  be
• 32:51
  thinking
• 32:52
  about
• 32:52
  that
• 32:52
  and
• 32:52
  ways
• 32:53
  that
• 32:54
  you
• 32:54
  can
• 32:54
  bridge
• 32:55
  the
• 32:55
  gap
• 32:55
  between
• 32:55
  where
• 32:56
  you're
• 32:56
  at
• 32:56
  and
• 32:56
  where
• 32:56
  you
• 32:56
  wanna
• 32:56
  be.
• 32:57
  Yeah.
• 32:58
  And
• 32:58
  you
• 32:58
  can
• 32:59
  always
• 32:59
  book
• 32:59
  in
• 32:59
  with
• 32:59
  her
• 33:00
  and
• 33:00
  get
• 33:00
  your
• 33:00
  support
• 33:01
  there
• 33:01
  as
• 33:01
  well.
• 33:02
  But
• 33:03
  guys,
• 33:03
  until
• 33:04
  next
• 33:04
  week,
• 33:05
  I
• 33:05
  will
• 33:05
  talk
• 33:05
  to
• 33:05
  you
• 33:06
  later
• 33:08
  Thanks
• 33:09
  for
• 33:09
  listening
• 33:09
  to
• 33:09
  the
• 33:09
  Crying
• 33:09
  in
• 33:09
  My
• 33:10
  Cheesecake
• 33:10
  podcast.
• 33:11
  If
• 33:11
  this
• 33:11
  episode
• 33:11
  spoke
• 33:11
  to
• 33:12
  you,
• 33:12
  even
• 33:12
  in
• 33:12
  the
• 33:12
  smallest
• 33:13
  way,
• 33:13
  don't
• 33:13
  keep
• 33:13
  it
• 33:13
  to
• 33:14
  yourself.
• 33:14
  Share
• 33:15
  it
• 33:15
  with
• 33:15
  a
• 33:15
  friend
• 33:15
  who's
• 33:15
  ready
• 33:15
  for
• 33:16
  real
• 33:16
  change.
• 33:17
  And
• 33:17
  listen,
• 33:17
  your
• 33:17
  next
• 33:18
  step
• 33:18
  matters.
• 33:18
  Check
• 33:18
  the
• 33:18
  show
• 33:19
  notes
• 33:19
  for
• 33:19
  links,
• 33:19
  resources,
• 33:20
  or
• 33:20
  ways
• 33:20
  to
• 33:20
  work
• 33:21
  with
• 33:21
  me,
• 33:21
  whether
• 33:21
  you're
• 33:22
  ready
• 33:22
  to
• 33:22
  step
• 33:22
  into
• 33:22
  Adventures
• 33:23
  or
• 33:23
  Explorers,
• 33:24
  or
• 33:24
  come
• 33:24
  hang
• 33:25
  out
• 33:25
  with
• 33:25
  me
• 33:25
  on
• 33:25
  Substack
• 33:26
  or
• 33:26
  Telegram.
• 33:27
  If
• 33:27
  you
• 33:27
  made
• 33:27
  it
• 33:27
  to
• 33:27
  the
• 33:27
  end,
• 33:27
  come
• 33:28
  tell
• 33:28
  me.
• 33:28
  Send
• 33:28
  me
• 33:28
  a
• 33:28
  DM
• 33:29
  on
• 33:29
  Instagram
• 33:29
  and
• 33:29
  tell
• 33:30
  me
• 33:30
  what
• 33:30
  hit
• 33:30
  home
• 33:31
  for
• 33:31
  you
• 33:31
  today.
• 33:32
  I
• 33:32
  read
• 33:32
  every
• 33:32
  single
• 33:33
  one
• 33:33
  of
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  them.
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  I
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  am
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  cheering
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  for
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  you,
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  and
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  I
• 33:34
  am
• 33:34
  praying
• 33:35
  for
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  you,
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  and
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  I'll
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  see
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  in
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  next,
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  in
• 33:37
  the
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  next
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  episode