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Emotional Discipline · Mindless Shenaniganz

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You can't miss it. All right, shenanigans all
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the time, every day. Last time we was here, we
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talked about getting your attention back. All
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right, things and tips we can do to limit our
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screen time, to limit what we engage with. But
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that's easier said than done. How do you do that?
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What's that process and that path start like?
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It starts with emotional discipline. So that's
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the path we're going to take. That's what we're
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going to talk about. That's what's going to get
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your attention back. That's what's going to get
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your time back. All right. And stop messing around
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with non -productive time. Yes, it's time for
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shenanigans too. So what is emotional discipline?
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Emotional discipline. So being able to feel everything.
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but not reacting. Easier said than done, right?
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So, of course, people get triggered by different
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things, right? Whether it be at work, your relationship,
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at home, everyday life. There's plenty of things
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that can set you off and give you an emotional
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reaction, but is that reaction worth your time?
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Not everything is reactive. Last week I said
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it. Reacting to everything is a sign of weakness.
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Emotional discipline is a sign of strength. Some
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people look at reacting as suppressing feelings.
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Sorry, to not reacting as suppressing your feelings.
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When it's actually emotional discipline and strength
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and maturity. Emotional awareness, emotional
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intelligence. Not that they don't care. It's
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that they care more about the risk of the reaction
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than it is at the time. Remember last week I
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said sometimes it's better just to pause, walk
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away, take a deep breath. Something still you
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are surely got to get better at. It's control
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over response. There are ways to get your message
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across, right? Without being loud, without raising
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your voice, cursing, right? Knocking things over
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the desk. Your response is more important than
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your reaction to what's actually happening. Think
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about that. How many times have you had to go
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back and say, I was tripping? Not that you're
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not in the right feeling how you're feeling,
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but did your reaction call for that? Compared
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to times that something that you might have should
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have reacted to, you didn't. Yeah, we all got
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this saying that we done heard of and been told.
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Couldn't have been me. Are you better than me?
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somebody is acknowledging your emotional maturity
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right and emotional intelligence because what
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they're telling you is obviously they wouldn't
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react it or handled it that way so you did something
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right even if somebody don't even agree with
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it don't let anybody confuse that neither because
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you got to carry the weight of the reaction that
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you do right you can't you can't Be mad at how
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somebody respond to the energy that you give
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them. OK. There's no way. So. Think about what
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causes your reaction. What what triggers you?
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Right. Disrespect. Some people ways of disrespect
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or what they might take in disrespect might not
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trigger somebody else. Whether that be a joke,
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whether it be appropriate or not. Right. You
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can't tell me how to react to something. You
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can't tell me how to feel. Right. Disagreements.
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Some people don't like confrontation. So it's
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better probably to stay quiet than anything else.
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One thing is. Another favorite line of ours.
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I can show you better. I can tell you. How many
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times have you had to use that on somebody? How
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many times have you heard that used on somebody
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or somebody had to tell you? Because I'm not
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going to keep telling you nothing. Might say
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it once to give you the benefit of the doubt
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just because you may not know. So it's not fair
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to judge you on that. But once you do know and
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I have to say you again, yeah, that's a decision
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that's being made. So I said what I said. I can
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show you better. I can tell you. If you stay
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tuned, you're going to get both. If you stay
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tuned, you're going to get both. Because the
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most thing. That people don't realize is when
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they're walking right into the reaction window.
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The setup, the pitch, the wine. Right before
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you take a swing at it, you're walking right
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into the reaction window. They set your triggers
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off, right? Because one of the things that could
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trigger somebody just naturally, right? Maybe
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your tone of voice or. When you're speaking and
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feeling ignored, you can get triggered and get
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upset. It's okay to have those feelings. It's
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the reaction that we give is what's important.
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Don't miss that part. It's okay to have your
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feelings. How we express them is what's more
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important. Because do you think your point is
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going to get across when... You're volatile.
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Now, you might have tried a different approach
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and maybe that's what you felt like because you
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were frustrated, weren't being heard, right?
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Ignored. And this is natural feeling. We all
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have done it. No matter how big or small the
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situation was. Right? So think about it. There's
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a trigger and there's a reaction. There's only
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this much space in between those, and it's not
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that far apart, and it doesn't take long to get
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there. Zero to 100 real quick. Willis Bar, right?
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How many times have we went to zero to 100 real
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quick? Got cut off in the air, cut off when you're
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driving, right? People aren't reacting to their
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reality. They're reacting to their triggers.
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Because if we were reacting to our reality, would
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our response be what it was? That simple. That
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window was tight and small. How can you increase
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that window from the time something triggers
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you to the time you react? Let's find that out,
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right? If you skip the window and dive right
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in and react quickly, would you have the risk
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to lose? It's going to go deeper than just the
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confrontation, right? Because if you were to
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go straight into that window, take your time,
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don't be like Deebo and Smokey trying to run
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in and out to get that 200. Might need that lookout
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like Craig. Somebody to blow the whistle. Keep
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accountability partner too. That helps. Right.
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Don't. Sorry. Do not. Do not. Ignore your triggers.
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If you are aware of your triggers. It's okay.
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To share them too. The reason that is. somebody
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else not only could recognize when you're reacting
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to something that you're triggered by compared
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to something you're reacting to was actually
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happening in the reality right and i'm not saying
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to share your business and pour everything out
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but for example if you've been um unfortunately
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let's say scared upon or harassed or attacked
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You might not like somebody to come up behind
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you and maybe tap you on the shoulder to get
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your attention if they don't hear you, if they're
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calling your name. You may prefer somebody to
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call out to you from a distance. So that way
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you can hear, turn around and see them. Compared
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to if I tap you on your shoulder, you turn around
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and swing because that's a natural defense reaction.
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I can't be upset that you got triggered. You
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might throw me off. But you got triggered, right?
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And it's okay to give a warning. Before you react,
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discipline people on a pause. Okay? They're going
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to have a chosen response, a calculated response.
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For them, they're going to assess the situation,
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assess the process in the reaction. That's why
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some of y 'all that be hating on the people that
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be say they like too cool and some more stuff.
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Them the people that are mostly disciplined,
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that are relaxed, and situationally aware. Never
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too high, never too low. Right in between. Go
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ahead and subscribe. All right. Catch all the
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latest shenanigans. Drop a comment. Tell us what
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you think. Back to it. If you're going to be
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emotionally disciplined, you got to take your
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time and pause. That's the situation. When you're
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triggered, all your emotions flare out, your
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logic leaves. So you're now becoming emotionally
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hijacked because of your trigger. When your logic
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takes over your emotions, there is no reasoning
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behind your actions. So when you talk to me,
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talk to me with your logic, not with your emotions.
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Explain to me how you feel. Express it with your
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logic. Tell me about how you feel. Because if
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you show me. Then now. You have to be ready for
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my reaction. I can show you better. I can tell
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you too. I said what I said. And listen here
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first. But. So. One of the things that I can
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speak on is when it comes to emotional discipline
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for myself is. One of those signs that you can
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tell when you're not emotionally disciplined
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in that moment and you're losing, you're not
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using your logic and you're just being emotional.
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When you're replying too quick. Raise your voice
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or gets elevated. Right. Some people might consider
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this passion or right. Some people say you are
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being emotional. But I've been taught a word
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to you, and I've been taught to use a different
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word, elevated. Your voice gets elevated, right?
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So that's why you can tell somebody is triggered
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or stressed, right? But how many of us talk like
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that just in general when we're going back and
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forth with your peoples, right? Like some of
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us can go back and forth with the rah, rah, rah,
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and it might not even be none volatile, but that's
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just how we talk. right like that's just what
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we're doing ain't nobody upset or frustrated
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but that's how we talk for some people that's
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triggering they might not be able to be around
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that hang around that or engage in those type
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of things not because it's actual danger but
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it's danger to them so they might step away from
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the group or be more quiet less likely to open
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up when that's happening Because what do you
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do to protect yourself if you notice that you
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are triggered, right? Another way to find out
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and see somebody that's being triggered, right,
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is impulsive decision -making, right? So you
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can say people make impulsive decisions about...
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everyday things, right? When you're stressing,
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right, and you're going through something, what's
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the first thing you're going to do? Are you going
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to sit down and pause and figure it out? Or do
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we show comfort to our vices? We make us do what's
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comfortable in the meantime until we can figure
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it out what's right. Or until we no longer have
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to worry about it. Having regrets right after.
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Having a defensive tone when somebody's talking
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to you, that's a sign of somebody being triggered.
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How many times have you asked a question to somebody
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and they just get defensive right away? You can
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have a soft, hands -on, hug approach, and it's
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a defensive tone. That means they're triggered.
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How many of us know that we've actually triggered
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somebody too, though? We either ignored it. Or
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try to empathize with them. Right. Try to be
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aware. Of what we do to trigger people in ourselves
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too. That's important. A lot of us miss that.
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And how are you going to handle that weight.
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When you're aware that you're tricking somebody.
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Or if you're not aware you're tricking somebody.
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Come to find out that you did. Right. So. Don't
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let your reaction to, don't let your emotional
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hijack also affect your long -term thinking,
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right? So how many of you have a partner and
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then something go wrong or it's going bad and
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you make a decision that can affect the long
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-term status? or, you know, the health of your
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relationship. Words being said, you might go
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do something, right, out of spite, out of anger,
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all because your emotion is rising and your logic
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is thrown out the window. Well, then on the flip
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side, somebody's going to say, well, they did
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that when I was mad. That's a reason to go do
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what they did. Because they're no longer thinking
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logically. So they intend that desire may have
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been there or how they felt. But they were using
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logic. Because you can't sometimes control how
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you feel. You can always control how you react,
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though. Can y 'all hear me? Are you listening?
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It's hard to ignore everything or anything when
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you feel everything. It's hard to. Some of us
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are so overstimulated sometimes because you feel
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everything. Some people gonna call you sensitive.
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Some people are going to say you good with picking
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up and reading energy. How many times have you
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walked in a room, the old vibe and energy just
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been thrown off? That's a trigger right there.
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That's something off. Maybe something in the
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room. Somebody. Right? Make it make sense. So.
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Everybody wants to know or thinks about. The
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outcome of the reaction. Or they don't care about
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it until then. All right. Because. Doing arguments.
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Or doing a reaction. Arguments do escalate. Sorry.
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Most of the time. We were triggered. Arguments
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happen. Things like that. But if you're not mostly
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disciplined. and give a reaction that's not controlled,
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they escalate. Misunderstanding happens. You
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got more stress. You're worried, right? Because
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you're not only triggered about what happened,
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because now your emotions are rising, flaring
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up. Things are getting worse. Now, because if
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you're in an argument or inner disagreement and
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you're not using your logic, how does that go
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in with the dialogue? Right? It's hard not to
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react when you feel everything. And you can't
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tell anybody how to feel. You definitely can't
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tell them how to react. When you react to everything
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or give a reaction, another thing that can happen
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on the outcome is your reputation. People may
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or may not want to approach you, conversate with
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you because of a reaction that you gave. Regardless
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if it was because of what they did or did not
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do, because of your reaction that they seen.
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They can change their perspective on you. Your
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perspective is your reputation. Period. People
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say it doesn't matter what people think until
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it's time to interact with them. So, okay. You
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don't care what so -and -so thinks over there.
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If there is any time that not you may need to
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interact with them, somebody you know has that
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perception. imprinted on them not because they
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think of it but they heard how somebody else
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feel of you your reputation right that's no different
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than if you are a content creator a business
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owner and so and so is great they on time they
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actually early they good with communication compared
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to maybe their one experience with you was bad
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that can ruin your reputation so Watch how do
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we react, right? The more we react, the more
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energy it costs you. The more attention, right,
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it's going to take from you. When you're triggered,
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you're going to get drained. No matter if you
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argue for five minutes or ten minutes, the intensity
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of your energy being used is going to take away
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from you. You might not have wind going to work
23:03
today because of what happened earlier. Right.
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Or something might happen in traffic. You know
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what I'm saying? Or you might have wind on your
23:11
way to try to do an errand somewhere wrong. Right.
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Or your car got locked up or something like that.
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And now you just maybe all things to react to
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for. But the more we react to, the more you're
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going to get drained. Don't be tired out here.
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It's okay to feel what you feel. But watch how
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we're actually using our energy. That's what
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matters. Because. You have to be aware. Of what
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you give your energy to. In order to maintain.
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Your emotional discipline. Your emotional discipline.
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Does factor. Into your path. Not your decisions
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in life. Right. So. For example. I feel like
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some of the areas. That I choose. That I know.
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Being disciplined in right. Using my free time.
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Right so. What am I doing. When I'm not being
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productive. Yes, you need rest. Yes, you need
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sleep. Unplugging. Am I taking care of myself?
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Not only just mentally, physically. One way of
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being disciplined is how we eat, how I eat. So,
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yes, I want to enjoy something that may seem
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unpleasant to some people. Not eating out fast
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food, right? We know where to stay away from,
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not with the touch, right? How many of us can
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go a long time or an extended period of time,
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right, with retention? How long have you been
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disciplined to just, if you a single man out
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here and You can get, you have a choice, right?
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How many guys are getting everything they can
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get in a time instead of taking, right? What
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they consider top priority, high value women,
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right? That's discipline. Choosing not to is
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discipline. You can go get it whenever you want,
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from whoever you want. It's worth your energy.
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It's worth your time. Let's be disciplined on
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how we get or give our attention to when it comes
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to dating or somebody serious. Everybody you
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meet ain't worth meeting your mommy. Everybody
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you meet isn't worth bringing around the homeboys
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or the homegirls. Ladies, you can get approached
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by how many guys a day? You have discipline by
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turning down the people that you know or the
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guys. or women that you know that's not worth
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your time some gonna call it choosing you can
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say that's discipline because yeah a bunch of
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guys can offer you a whole bunch of different
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things or these same things but what's the part
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after that same goes for guys it's a whole it's
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a hundred women looked up there lined up by what's
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going to set them apart that you want. That's
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discipline. Discipline is ignoring the noise
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online. When you see something online that's
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supposed to bait you for a reaction and you don't
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respond, hit the comment. upload that's discipline
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right so we all gotta be better at that in multiple
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areas right so don't don't don't regret playing
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the moment replaying the moment later for that
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be disciplined If you react the wrong way, it
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can cost you more than just your reputation.
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Respect. Opportunities. Relationships. What are
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your values? on those things when you react.
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Yes, and people always say in hindsight when
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we come back to it, that's why you don't want
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to have regrets. Your reaction can cost you more
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than the actual problem that you're presenting.
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Take a step back and pause. Assess the situation.
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Right. Sometimes you might not have the five
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and 10 minutes to do all that. Especially if
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it's a back and forth or engagement conversation
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with another individual. At that point, you need
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to say or ask, is it OK to have this conversation
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later when you're ready? Right. When you can
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actually use your logic. Right. Because you're
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going to feel how you feel regardless. But your
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logic is going to change the more time from your
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window, from your trigger to your reaction. The
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pattern. Cycle. Trigger, reaction, repeat. Trigger,
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reaction, regret. Trigger, reaction, repeat,
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regret. How many times have you done that yourself?
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That you had to apologize for overreacting, assuming,
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insinuating, right? How many times have you felt
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bad because you used your logic later to replay
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the situation, assess the situation, and acknowledge
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Where your logic. Was thrown. Because you were
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mostly hijacked. How many times have you have
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been a victim. To somebody else's trigger. Reaction.
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They apologize. Do it again. So if you've been
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on both sides. That means, one, you can empathize
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when somebody else is triggered. You know what
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to do now when you get triggered. We all have
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been there. We all have done it. We all just
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got to get better. So let's do it for yourself,
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the people around you, and we all be better.
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So we'll be great. and good. Everything's not
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going to be good or great every day. But the
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bigger window we can have from the trigger to
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the reaction, the less chaos we'll probably have.
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And that's real. Because who want to see that
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cycle? We have to be better at identifying our
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triggers, right? Having a more slowed down response,
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building your awareness. Some of us need to be
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probably isolated to understand why we're doing
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what we're doing, right? Some of us might need
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outside guidance, right? Somebody to talk to,
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right? Yes, it can be therapy. Or it could just
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be your friend or person, somebody who listened
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to who you need to get honest feedback to you.
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Right. But you got to be OK with listening to
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that, too, because you might get triggered. How
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are you going to react to that? Right. So, yes,
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regret is one of your responses. So when you
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get triggered, what is another response to? Where
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is the self -improvement? You're regretted, but
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are you holding yourself accountable? You might
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apologize, right, for doing what you're doing,
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but can you also explain why you did what you
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did or how you reacted? You can explain how you
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felt, but does that explain to why you're saying
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you reacted that way? Well, I didn't feel unheard,
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so I just yelled and screamed at everybody. That's
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why you did it. That's not valid, though. That's
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not okay. Don't mean we all haven't done it.
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Right? So, or more, because I wasn't being heard,
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I stopped speaking. Right? Different reaction.
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Controlled response. Different outcome. People
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want to know, well, why are you not saying anything?
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You weren't listening. So in me raising my voice,
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the only thing it's going to do is bring attention
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to the tone of my voice and not the words that
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I'm saying. So let me show you better I can tell
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you. I said what I said. So real awareness. Do
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better. And do that. And that's all it is. That's
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all you got to do. So how do we get better to
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actually getting that motion and discipline into
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your pattern or sequence of being triggered to
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having that long pause and opening your window,
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right? And you get triggered. That's now. Pause.
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Process it. You got to write it down. Take a
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picture. I don't give a fuck. Do it. Then respond.
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Then move on. So. If you get triggered. Pause.
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You should have a better response, a more controlled
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response. We should help you move on. We should
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eliminate any confusion, misunderstandings, right?
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That's where a lot of things happen. So that's
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what makes the changes happen next. Excuse me.
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Your emotional awareness increases because you
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have less reactions. The more you're aware of
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things, the less likely you need to react. Your
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reactions decrease because your pause is longer.
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That window. From the trigger to the response.
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Open it up. Mental clarity. The longer you pause
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before you react, you have a better clarity of
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it. Because you're not using emotional impulse.
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What that's going to lead to is going back to
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what can cost you. Like your reputation and things
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like that, you're going to gain more respect
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because when people try to trigger you or gaslight
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you and they can't get you to do what they think
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they're going to get out of you, they're going
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to gain respect for you too. More respect, the
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ones who do and the ones who weren't aware are
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going to. They're paying attention. So you're
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doing it for yourself and everybody around you.
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What I mean when I say that is your reaction.
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Anything that's nonviolent or volatile. Is protecting
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your mental peace. And the people around you
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by making them aware. That you have emotional
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discipline and control. So the more you show
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that, the more people will respond to you differently
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too. Right? So like at work, you get triggered.
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Somebody either say something to you or call
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you out, whether they right or wrong. Is your
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response going to affect? your perception at
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work, your relationship with your coworkers,
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and how things go, right? Like, let's make it
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known that you are not emotionally disciplined.
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So if you're in the work environment, how are
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you going to be professional if you can't control
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your reaction to Somebody approaching you about
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doing your job to a standard that needs to be
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done, right? You get caught up by your boss or
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a supervisor. Hey, this is what we're saying.
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We need approval for you. Oh, well, so -and -so
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ain't over here doing nothing and this and this
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and that, so y 'all can't get on me. Where's
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your accountability at? Why are you worried about
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what somebody else is doing in the first place?
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Snitching. Get out of here. Yes, I'm back. Me
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snitching. And we snitching. But we talked about
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it. Right. I'm going back to how you do business.
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Right. So you're doing business with somebody
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and they're not communicating or holding up in
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their end of the deal. Are you going to match
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their energy and just say, okay, I'm going to
40:19
be unprofessional too. I'm not going to respond
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back. I'm not going to do my job. I'm going to
40:25
be late on my deadline. Things like that too.
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Just because they unprofessional or doing something,
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if you match that, you might not talk bad on
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them, but they might talk bad about you. You're
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going to risk your reputation. That's what you're
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willing to risk is how you feel, your reaction.
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Man, I like what they doing. Your relationship
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with your partner. When they do something you
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don't like, do you voice it and let them know
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and explain it to them? Or do you react? Do you
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go tick for tack? Do you show them better than
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you can tell them? Right? Seek to understand.
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Right? How many of us do that? Seek to understand
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before we react. Are we asking enough questions?
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Are we truly trying to understand what we're
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seeing? Because what you're seeing is not. What
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you saw isn't always what you seen. Make sure
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you get clarity on that before reacting. Save
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you a lot of stress, a lot of time, a lot of
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headache, a lot of pain. We got to do better.
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I got to do better. Don't let your emotions.
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Don't let your emotions overcome your logic.
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Don't let it overtake what you do. There's been
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plenty of times where I can say that I've overreacted
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to a situation that I didn't use my whole window,
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kept it real close. Now you can say, well, it
42:37
might have been something that you might have
42:39
deserved a reaction to, or you might have got
42:42
fed up, something like that. It don't even matter.
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Well, I put myself in that situation. I get to
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that point. I'm still accountable for my reactions.
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And what people think or see on that. Right.
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You can control how people feel. But you can
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influence it. Don't forget that. You're a bigger
43:18
force than you think. Don't forget that either.
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Don't forget to use your weight. Sometimes people
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need to feel it. How heavy things can get. Let
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them understand. You don't have to raise your
43:42
voice. You just have to be clear. So ask yourself
43:54
this. Are you reacting to your reality? Are you
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reacting to your triggers? And what are you doing
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about it? What is your window to your reaction?
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What is your trigger? You can't control what
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people say. Can't control what people do. You
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can't control how you can respond though. Control
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what you can control. And be the best version
44:38
of you. I am Sir Dye. This is Mindless Shenanigans.
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