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- speaker-0: When a parent apologizes, it creates a an exceptionally safe environment. I wanted to have my family and my home to be the kind of safe space that my kids were wildly enthusiastic about coming home to. speaker-1: We talk about the importance of a safe setting. So what helps create a home where kids can feel safe enough to open up honestly about what they're feeling and experiencing? speaker-0: It it starts the top down. So you have to be willing to share your own hardships in an appropriate manner. And you have to model ⁓ weakness and say, Hey, I really blew it, model apology. That when a parent apologizes, it creates a an exceptionally safe environment. I grew up in an environment where no one ever apologized for anything except I did all the time because I thought everything was my fault because no adult would ever apologize. Right. ⁓ I wanted to have my family and my home to be the kind of safe space that my kids were wildly enthusiastic about coming home to. And so that means being an active listener, having a holy curiosity of your kids and not just watching them have a bad mood, but really digging in and trying to figure out what that is. It means taking walks with your kids, having dates with your kids. It means ⁓ you know, trying to assume the best about them instead of jumping to conclusions that nothing will ruin the safety in a home ⁓ more than assuming negative intent. In fact, there was a study in University of Washington about what ⁓ the hallmark of marriages that last, the number one hallmark was that the spouse assumed, both spouses assume positive intent of the other. The ones that assume negative fell apart. And so it's also true with all of our relationships. If we start with negativity, like I always know they're always gonna be the worst, ⁓ that does not create a very safe space. Now, of course, there's gonna be kids that do naughty things and you have to have, I'm not saying don't have rules. You need to have rules, you need to have parameters. God has rules for us, he has parameters, he loves us, he disciplines us, we discipline our kids because we love them. All that to say. But it's it's also really important to read First Corinthians 13. as a model, love hopes all things, love believes all things. Like these are really important aspects of love that we need to internalize in our speaker-2: This episode of Homeschool Insights is brought to you by Liberty HealthShare. Choosing to homeschool is about making intentional decisions for your family. Liberty HealthShare is another way families across the country are choosing a different path, one that offers a community-centered approach to health care cost sharing that can help you keep more of your hard-earned dollars while getting the medical care your family needs. Learn more at LibertyHealthShare.org. That's LibertyHealthShare.org.