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Barra: Father's Day - Dad, What Are You Most Proud Of In Your Life? · Lisa & Russell

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  Speaker 1: I don't want to brag, but I've peaked. What? I
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  Speaker 1: have peaked.
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  Speaker 2: In what way?
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  Speaker 1: Because I do a bit of writing for the newspaper
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  Speaker 1: called Sunday Times. Yes, of course.
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  Speaker 2: We read it every week.
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  Speaker 1: We see it.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and online.
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  Speaker 1: And I got a letter from someone, an email from
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  Speaker 1: a lady, and she said she'd put my column on
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  Speaker 1: her fridge. Oh. Oh, that's better than the bottom of
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  Speaker 1: the budgie cage. It was a joy, wasn't it? Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Which one?
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  Speaker 1: It was the one– and I wanted to talk about
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  Speaker 1: it with you guys because obviously it's about– it was
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  Speaker 1: about Father's Day. So it's Father's Day on Sunday. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it is. Okay. And I thought, you know what? I
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  Speaker 1: did a column about the questions you should ask your
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  Speaker 1: dad before it's too late. Now, G-Man, you just said
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  Speaker 1: your dad's turning 80. Next year, yeah. Get your pen
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  Speaker 1: out because I reckon this is the sort of conversation
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  Speaker 1: you need to have, I don't know, about your situation, Les.
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  Speaker 2: Have you– No, my dad died.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, mine too.
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  Speaker 2: Bloody cancer.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what drives me. Same with my dad. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't have these conversations. I didn't get to ask these questions.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't want anyone else to miss out. And
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  Speaker 1: if it's hard, just blame Barrow. Just blame me. Just say, Dad,
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  Speaker 1: Barrow said I need to ask you these questions. And
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  Speaker 1: he'll go, what did you listen to him for? That
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  Speaker 1: bloody idiot who wants to support the Dockers. He will say, no,
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  Speaker 1: he might be on the fence with that one. So
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  Speaker 1: start with this one. Dad. what are you most proud
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  Speaker 1: of in your life? Okay, just start with a good opener,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and then to get something out of it
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  Speaker 1: for yourself, say, where were you most proud of me?
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  Speaker 1: Enough about you.
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  Speaker 3: What do you think?
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  Speaker 1: If the answer is not, well, you, then we'll go, well,
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  Speaker 1: what are you most proud of me?
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  Speaker 2: A leading question if ever I heard one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good, Liz. That's enough about you, Dad. Now
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  Speaker 1: about me. So then dig a little bit deeper. Say,
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  Speaker 1: is there anything you wish you'd done differently in your life?
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  Speaker 1: And what's been the best thing, Dad, about being a dad?
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  Speaker 1: And also what's been the hardest thing, dad? You know, like,
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  Speaker 1: and who's been the biggest influence? Cause then you can
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  Speaker 1: see where his values came from. Yes. Like, would you
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  Speaker 1: know who's your dad's biggest influence? Was it? Oh, probably
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  Speaker 1: his dad. Yeah. Well, that's right. More stories about the
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  Speaker 1: granddad as well. What's something about you? You reckon I
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  Speaker 1: still don't understand dad. You know, what, what's this? What's
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  Speaker 1: this something there that you, you think I've got, I've
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  Speaker 1: got it wrong. You know, what do you really like? And,
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  Speaker 1: Maybe talk about mistakes. What was the biggest mistake you
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  Speaker 1: ever made, Dad? And you hope the answer is not you.
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  Speaker 1: You might get a response that you don't want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: And then finish with a big one. Go, Dad, what's
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  Speaker 1: one story from your life that I've never heard? Because
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  Speaker 1: you forget, Lise, don't you, that your dad had a
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  Speaker 1: whole life before you were around and stuff that he did. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And you never sort of go, because dads are always last,
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  Speaker 1: aren't they? They never get asked. at Christmas or whatever, hey, Dad,
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  Speaker 1: when you were 17, what were you doing? That's never
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  Speaker 1: been asked ever. You know what I mean? Dad, did
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  Speaker 1: you get in trouble with the police when you were
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  Speaker 1: younger or what was the wildest thing you ever did, Dad?
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  Speaker 1: You'll be surprised.
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  Speaker 3: And, you know, what you were saying about don't wait
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  Speaker 3: until it's too late to have that conversation, the thing
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  Speaker 3: about dads of our generation is is they're not notoriously
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  Speaker 3: known for being big speakers about anything, you know, at all, particularly,
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  Speaker 3: and about these things. They don't really talk about these
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  Speaker 3: sort of things. And yet, if you wait until the
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  Speaker 3: very end, all of a sudden they will be forthcoming.
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  Speaker 1: So.
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  Speaker 2: Don't wait. Encourage them to do it now.
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  Speaker 1: So you've been down that track, same as me. I have,
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  Speaker 1: I have, exactly. In the hospital, that's when they start going, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and just, you know, when we knew.
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  Speaker 1: That there wasn't very much. Running out of time, I've
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  Speaker 1: got to tell you this.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, exactly. There's so many things I wanted to say.
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  Speaker 3: And I was surprised at how, you know, he was–
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  Speaker 3: Open to the discussion and enjoyed hearing the things that,
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  Speaker 3: because all, you know, all your life you think, oh,
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  Speaker 3: dads don't say much, do they?
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  Speaker 1: They're not like moms. That's such a beautiful point. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Because he wanted to.
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  Speaker 2: Tell you stuff before he ran out.
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  Speaker 3: So you might be surprised at how, you know, sharing
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  Speaker 3: he is happy to be.
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  Speaker 1: You might have to see a psychologist afterwards. There might
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  Speaker 1: be stuff in there that you've got to deal with
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  Speaker 1: as well.
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  Speaker 3: So go over with a really nice bottle of red.
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  Speaker 1: If I look a little rattled on Monday morning, you'll
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  Speaker 1: know I didn't go well. Can you report back on
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  Speaker 1: exactly what happened?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, happy Father's Day to all the dads on Sunday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm having a DNA test as well. Oh, no. The resemblance. No,
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure we're good there. Like looking in the mirror?
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  Speaker 1: Is that right? That's where my hair went. That's right. Ah,
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  Speaker 1: you're a beauty. No, no need for one of those,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think. That's for sure. Happy Father's Day. Happy
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  Speaker 1: Father's Day. Don't just buy socks and undies. Come on,
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  Speaker 1: have the chat. Have a talk. Blame Barra. Don't worry,
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  Speaker 1: I will be.
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  Speaker 2: Coffee, a beer.
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  Speaker 1: You might be sorry. And ask him something you've never
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  Speaker 1: asked him before. That's a good idea. Yeah, all right.
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  Speaker 1: Good idea. I'll see you Friday. Yeah, we'll catch you Friday. Ooh,
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  Speaker 1: after the big game.