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Why Vulnerability Is a Strength for Men · Groove with Portia

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Groul Porsche, the podcast that uncovers the hidden
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Speaker 1: dive in. Hello everybody, and welcome back to Grool Porsche.
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Speaker 1: I am your host, Porsche Booker and is always don't
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Speaker 1: all things.
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Speaker 2: Grew with Porsche.
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Speaker 1: One of the things that I think a lot of
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Speaker 1: us don't realize is that some of us inherit stability
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Speaker 1: and others of us inherit survival. But those of us
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Speaker 1: who inherit survival have the opportunity to change that around
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Speaker 1: through what's called ideas, drive and discipline. So today, everybody,
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Speaker 1: I have a guest who is no stranger to that.
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Speaker 1: Today I'm going to be joined by mister Kevin KR. Robinson,
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Speaker 1: who is an entrepreneur, real estate investor, also the author
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Speaker 1: of the newly released book Can't Break Me, and he
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Speaker 1: also has an amazing multimillion dollar portfolio that he built
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Speaker 1: from the ground up. So welcome KR the Girl Porshaw.
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Speaker 1: Are you today?
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Speaker 2: I'm doing excellent. I am so excited to be on
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Speaker 2: your platform. I'm a big fan and I look forward
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Speaker 2: to having this conversation her.
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Speaker 1: Let me tell you when I first saw your book,
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Speaker 1: the minute I saw at the minute I thought about,
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Speaker 1: I said, I wonder if he's a big fan of
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Speaker 1: David Goggin, because that's what it made me think of,
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Speaker 1: because his book is called You Can't Hurt Me. And
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Speaker 1: I said, wow, very similar. You guys kind of look
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Speaker 1: alike to So I'm like, people.
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Speaker 2: Say that, which is so funny. So people say, oh,
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Speaker 2: you look like David. I said, no, we are not
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Speaker 2: the same people. And I'm in good sheep and everything,
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Speaker 2: and but as you read the book, I'm coming from
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Speaker 2: it from a very different angle from David Goggins.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, absolutely, But I just thought it was funny
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Speaker 1: that both of y'all like look very similar, Like, I
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Speaker 1: wonder if people ask him if he gets stopped always.
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Speaker 2: I always get stopped on the streets to the airport.
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Speaker 2: It's so funny.
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Speaker 1: Well, hopefully one day y'all can cross paths and take
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Speaker 1: a picture and then you can fool everybody. Back when
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Speaker 1: I was in college, me and a college friend did
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Speaker 1: that because both of us our names began with P,
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Speaker 1: so people would mix us up. But I'm like, we're
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Speaker 1: two different people. Our voices sound the same. It didn't
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Speaker 1: help that we were both in broadcasting. Both of us
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Speaker 1: are voices are different. She's a little taller than me.
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Speaker 1: I'm a little lighter than she is. Our hair is different.
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Speaker 1: So just to fool everybody, we came to class one
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Speaker 1: day wearing the same dress. Always scrude everybody. They'd be like,
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Speaker 1: oh hi, and I'm like, no, I'm poorsia much. I mean,
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Speaker 1: but you know what, sometimes you got to play the part,
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Speaker 1: you know, make it work, and then go from there.
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Speaker 1: K are one of the things that I pulled from
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Speaker 1: your book as a couple of themes instability, survival, trauma,
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Speaker 1: brief and for those of us who have grown up
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Speaker 1: in the world, oftentimes in the hood, we're no stranger
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Speaker 1: to that right. But the thing that sometimes happens is
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Speaker 1: those themes become our identity. And I'm curious, KR, what
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Speaker 1: did it take for you to learn to separate yourself
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Speaker 1: from that survival, that trauma, that grief and instability identity
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Speaker 1: to where you are today?
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Speaker 2: And I'm glad you opened there. And so I think
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Speaker 2: if I could provide you with a little bit of context.
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Speaker 2: So I grew up in West Philadelphia and deep poverty,
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Speaker 2: in a family of seven, raised on welfare, where we
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Speaker 2: moved constantly. Sometimes we live without electricity, our heat, and
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Speaker 2: I remember not having a margin of safety and having
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Speaker 2: this idea of instability. But distinctively, I remember we lived
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Speaker 2: in a studio apartment and we had a hot plate,
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Speaker 2: no stove, a bathroom sheet, no bathroom door, we had
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Speaker 2: a bathtub, no shower, and we had fifteen people competing
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Speaker 2: for space with rats, roaches, and flies, and it was
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Speaker 2: so crowded. And that one bid because my stepdad he
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Speaker 2: pointed out that look at your siblings. A bunch of
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Speaker 2: my siblings got pregnant at fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, so we're
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Speaker 2: all on top of each other living and he said,
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Speaker 2: do not be an f up like me and your family.
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Speaker 2: And that was the first time someone told me something
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Speaker 2: like that. I was in eighth grade and at that time,
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Speaker 2: I had three d's and three b's and one C
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Speaker 2: because I'm cute, and I had from fourth grade to
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Speaker 2: eighth grade. I was smoking weed, I was drinking alcohol
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Speaker 2: and skipping school. I really didn't love myself, was really upset.
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Speaker 2: But when he told me do as I say, not
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Speaker 2: as I do, at that point, I said, I'm going
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Speaker 2: to take the perfect from the imperfect person. And that
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Speaker 2: was the moment when I started to come to the
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Speaker 2: realization that nobody was coming to save me. There was
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Speaker 2: no blueprint, there was no way out. So if I
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Speaker 2: wanted to change, it was going to be because I changed.
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Speaker 2: And so I embraced what I believe, and I mentioned
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Speaker 2: the book the three d's Desire, Discipline, Determination. So I
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Speaker 2: desired to have a better life, to want more, to
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Speaker 2: try to break out of this vicious cycle. And so
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Speaker 2: what happened is that I realized that desire alone doesn't
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Speaker 2: get results, and so I realized that I had to
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Speaker 2: learn how to be disciplined. My stepdad and mom, a
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Speaker 2: bunch of them. They were good people, but they weren't disciplined,
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Speaker 2: and so when I did this, I said, let me
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Speaker 2: figure out how to become discipline, implement routines and processes
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Speaker 2: so I can change my life. But I also understood
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Speaker 2: that I needed determination because there will be moments where
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Speaker 2: I will have setbacks when nobody's clapping, when I will
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Speaker 2: be alone, when it's much easier to quit, but I
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Speaker 2: have to keep pushing forward. And then what happened is
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Speaker 2: that once I embraced this new mindset and accept the
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Speaker 2: reality that I had to do this on my own
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Speaker 2: and put together my own personal board of directors, people
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Speaker 2: who can pour into me and show me the different
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Speaker 2: ways to navigate high school. I graduated valedutorian of my
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Speaker 2: high school school, president, class president, debate captain, track captain,
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Speaker 2: and also play football and got a presidential scholarship. So
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Speaker 2: it all started at the moment where I was either
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Speaker 2: going to go wayward or I was going to go up,
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Speaker 2: and so I decided I'm going to break out of
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Speaker 2: this vicious cycle. So it all started with that conversation
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Speaker 2: and then me coming to these a series of small
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Speaker 2: realizations that I can change my life. So I changed
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Speaker 2: my friends, change my environment, and change the way I
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Speaker 2: look at the world.
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Speaker 1: You know, okay, I'm I've heard that statement before of
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Speaker 1: do as I say, not as I do, and don't
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Speaker 1: be an e f up. I've heard that many times
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Speaker 1: in various variations, and for some people, don't be an
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Speaker 1: ef would set them back, yes, right, and also for
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Speaker 1: you making that change right being disciplined saying you know what,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to live this same life like my
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Speaker 1: siblings who are having kids at fourteen and you know,
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Speaker 1: they're piled up on top of each other literally like
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Speaker 1: sardines or in a football game. Yes, and I wanted better.
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Speaker 1: And I think about two KR you were at an
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Speaker 1: age that you were very on that bord of I'm
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Speaker 1: done right because you're because what it's it's when you're
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Speaker 1: like between eight years old and twelve is where you're
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Speaker 1: you've got your mind made up. And I'm glad that
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Speaker 1: you were able to be impressed upon where you were
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Speaker 1: able to say, you know what, I'm going to take
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Speaker 1: this to heart and start really diving into myself, learning
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Speaker 1: to love myself, putting down the smoking habits, the drinking,
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Speaker 1: to not have the same outcome as your parents.
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Speaker 2: Mm hmm h. And it's interesting because I have my
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Speaker 2: autograph book from eighth grade and one of my friends
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Speaker 2: wrote in there, I can't believe you made it, wow,
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Speaker 2: because several of my siblings didn't even start high school.
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Speaker 2: They just dropped out, and so they saw me going
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Speaker 2: in a certain path and they were like, you're probably
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Speaker 2: gonna end up just like that, because we were at
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Speaker 2: the bottom of the bottom. So I remember living on
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Speaker 2: fifty if and we lived on fifty first and Spruce,
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Speaker 2: and then we move a couple of blocks left and
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Speaker 2: we lived on fifty for one on an uneven number
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Speaker 2: side and on the even number side we will move
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Speaker 2: across the street with trash bags and a shopping cart,
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Speaker 2: and then we moved to fifty six and one. So
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Speaker 2: it's no way you can hide. Everybody can see that
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Speaker 2: you're broke as hell. And so I realized that I
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Speaker 2: cannot control the environment I live in, but I can
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Speaker 2: control how I respond to things. And so that was
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Speaker 2: my mentality at that young age.
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Speaker 1: And you're right, it's obvious, right, there's embarrassment, there's shame
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Speaker 1: amongst you, your parents, and I mean, you're still everybody's
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Speaker 1: collectively holding on to that survival mertality and I'm curious, KR,
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Speaker 1: what did being in that survival mode do for you emotionally,
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Speaker 1: especially as a black man, considering that in our society,
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Speaker 1: as a man of color, you're not allowed to show emotion.
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Speaker 1: Have to be what I like to call the tin
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Speaker 1: man from the Wizard of Odds.
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Speaker 2: So what was happening the reason why I embraced all
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Speaker 2: these negative habits in terms of, Hey, I want to
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Speaker 2: be the class clown. I want to have fun. I
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Speaker 2: don't care about getting a's. I don't even care about
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Speaker 2: getting going to school. That's not my thing. I wanted
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Speaker 2: to put on this facade that look, I'm the man,
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Speaker 2: I'm the alpha man, I running through the streets. I'm
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Speaker 2: not weak. Y'all need to stop being suckers. Ain't nobody
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Speaker 2: got time for that. I had a whole lot of fun,
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Speaker 2: but those days I had to get come to terms
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Speaker 2: with It's okay being vulnerable, and so being vulnerable was
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Speaker 2: actually my secret weapon, my competitive advantage. I remember I
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Speaker 2: got a mentor and we went to a Chinese restaurant
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Speaker 2: and I had placed in order. I said, can I
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Speaker 2: get a rent ride? Rice? And my mentor, mister Mason, said,
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Speaker 2: what I said, rent ride? Rice. He said, do you
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Speaker 2: mean a shrimp front? Rice? And at that point I
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Speaker 2: realized that I needed help enunctiating words. So I went
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Speaker 2: and found a high school teacher. English teachers spend one
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Speaker 2: hour week with me teach me how to enunciate words.
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Speaker 2: And then when I got to vote in college, I
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Speaker 2: got a theater professor to spend a week with me
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Speaker 2: outside of class to teach me how to enunciate words.
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Speaker 2: Because I wanted more for myself. And so I started
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Speaker 2: understanding that a close mouth doesn't get fed, and that
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Speaker 2: is okay to say, Look, I am not doing this alone.
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Speaker 2: I need help. And I always stress I'm not self made.
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Speaker 2: I'm community me. So all these people help me become
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Speaker 2: who I am today. And so I had to retrain
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Speaker 2: my way of thinking, change the way I was thinking, saying,
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Speaker 2: you know what, I probably should ask people for help.
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Speaker 2: If I'm cold and now I have a winter coat,
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Speaker 2: or I'm starving, I need to ask a person one
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Speaker 2: of my friends, you're going to eat that lunch. You
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Speaker 2: don't want that free lunch. I need two lunches today
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Speaker 2: I'm starving like Marvin. And so I think I had
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Speaker 2: to start really embracing this idea that look, if I'm
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Speaker 2: going to break out of this vicious cycle, if I'm
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Speaker 2: going to move forward, I have to be willing to
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Speaker 2: open up. But the thing about when you're in that
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Speaker 2: survival mentality and mood, what happens is that you really
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Speaker 2: start to learn how to read people and read environments.
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Speaker 2: So there's some benefits of being in the survival, But
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Speaker 2: when you're in this herbie state or this alert state,
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Speaker 2: you're working really hard in terms of mentally physically, you're
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Speaker 2: feel drained because you never feel as though you can
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Speaker 2: let yourself relax. And so I wanted to work very hard,
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Speaker 2: and I learned how to go from survival to structure
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Speaker 2: to stability, not just financially but emotionally. And so I
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Speaker 2: took steps to say, all right, I need systems and
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Speaker 2: processes so that I can fall back on, so I
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Speaker 2: know who to talk to when I'm going through certain things,
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Speaker 2: whether it's grief, whether that's a minister or professional therapy.
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Speaker 2: And I also need to make sure I learn the
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Speaker 2: fundamentals of Okay, this is asset management, this is budgeting,
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Speaker 2: so I can have a better life, so I'm not
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Speaker 2: overwhelmed with life.
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Speaker 1: Oh one hundred percent care. And I think what I
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Speaker 1: love too is again, you're taking ownership right. You're being
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Speaker 1: accountable for how your actions cause these ripple effects right
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Speaker 1: where in our society today, I hate to say it,
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Speaker 1: I see a lot of victim mentality where people say
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Speaker 1: that they want to do better, but then it's they
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Speaker 1: did this, they did that, they did this. And I
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Speaker 1: also love how you mentioned that you're not self made,
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Speaker 1: your community made right, because we're each a collective of
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Speaker 1: the stories and experiences that we have from different people
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Speaker 1: who across our paths. Right before we started this conversation,
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Speaker 1: we talked about both of our parents making their transitions
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Speaker 1: right and the imprints and lessons that we take from them,
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Speaker 1: whether it's our looks, different mannerisms, different values. And hey,
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Speaker 1: are another thing I think about because obviously, from the outside,
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Speaker 1: everybody sees you probably as a very successful black man,
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Speaker 1: and let's be realistic in our society that black masculinity
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Speaker 1: tends to come with a lot of toxic things. So
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Speaker 1: I'm curious because you brought up that you've created this
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Speaker 1: system where a lot of people don't have systems in place.
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Speaker 1: They probably don't even really know what a healthy system
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Speaker 1: looks like, yes, can you define from your perspective what
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Speaker 1: healthy black masculinity looks like in twenty twenty six and
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Speaker 1: compare to ten years ago when we think about the
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Speaker 1: whole situation with Kanye West when his mother passed away
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Speaker 1: and everybody was making fun of him because of that.
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Speaker 2: So I think that we basically have to redefine masculinity
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Speaker 2: for all races, especially a blacks of black men. Is
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Speaker 2: that in the past you would say, look, just bottle
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Speaker 2: it all up. You don't have to tell anyone right
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Speaker 2: now that you're going through You're having a bad day.
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Speaker 2: So what happened is that it's a lot you should
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Speaker 2: demonstrate strength by being willing to tell people. Look, today
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Speaker 2: is an off day. I need it. I need some time.
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Speaker 2: I have to take some time to process this so
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Speaker 2: that I don't to go to the point where I'm
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Speaker 2: so bitter towards the world that I take that out
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Speaker 2: on my loved ones and my friends and my community
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Speaker 2: are my employer. And so I think masculinity in these
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Speaker 2: days is that we have to refine it and re
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Speaker 2: understand that. Look, you go to work for a paycheck,
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Speaker 2: you go to school for an education, and you go
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Speaker 2: to your loved ones and family for love and joy
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Speaker 2: and happiness, and don't mix them up because if you
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Speaker 2: think that you can get everything from just one person
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Speaker 2: or one source, that's what really hurts, especially a man,
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Speaker 2: because he puts everything in just this one thing. So
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Speaker 2: you may say all I am as a professional football player,
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Speaker 2: and if that doesn't work out, then you're upset with yourself.
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Speaker 2: You're depressed because you don't have outlets. So I think
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Speaker 2: masculinity means that we have to this new way of
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Speaker 2: thinking about We have to be willing to embrace the
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Speaker 2: idea of community to help us figure out how to
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Speaker 2: be successful, how to pay the bills, how to get
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Speaker 2: over grief, how to figure out our own identity, how
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Speaker 2: to figure out how to achieve our goals. Instead of
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Speaker 2: trying to do everything in a silo, individualistic way. You
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Speaker 2: have to be willing to change the way we think
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Speaker 2: about things. You don't have to do everything on your own,
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Speaker 2: You don't have to carry the burden of everybody on
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Speaker 2: your back.
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Speaker 1: I love the analogy kr of the outlets. That is
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Speaker 1: just perfect because when you think about an outlet in
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Speaker 1: your house, most houses, when you look at one outlet,
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Speaker 1: it has two ports, yes, yes, right, you're not going
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Speaker 1: to be able to overload that port by putting in
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Speaker 1: what an extension cord and then you're plugging the fridge,
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Speaker 1: you're plugging in the dryer. Yes, it's going to overload
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Speaker 1: and short circuit.
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Speaker 2: Yes, excellent analogy.
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Speaker 1: Yes, No, I love that because I think so many
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Speaker 1: of us don't realize that we're overloading in one space. Right,
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Speaker 1: as you mentioned, if you're if you're a head coach, right,
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Speaker 1: are in a relationship, or you're trying to use your
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Speaker 1: relationship as your therapist, your doctor, all of that, that's
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Speaker 1: too much one person can't bear.
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Speaker 2: Yes, right, you're going to break the person or you're
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Speaker 2: going to break that relationship. So you got to make
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Speaker 2: sure that Hey, look and you hear a lot of
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Speaker 2: people say that this person is my my everything, my pastor,
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Speaker 2: my best friend, my mom, my dad. No, that's too much.
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Speaker 2: It's okay, probably one or two my best friend and
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Speaker 2: my wife or my husband. But then you may want
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Speaker 2: to get professional counselor, you may want to get a therapist.
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Speaker 2: You may want to get a pastor. You may want
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Speaker 2: to have your own friends in addition to your partner
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Speaker 2: having friends. You may want to talk to your cousins
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Speaker 2: or family members. You have to have these various outlets
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Speaker 2: or you are going to if something goes wrong with
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Speaker 2: that one person or that one job, you may think
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Speaker 2: it's all over.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I just love that analogy one hundred percent KR.
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Speaker 1: Before we continue the rest of the conversation, I'm sure
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Speaker 1: that there's going to be individuals who want to connect
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Speaker 1: with you, who obviously want to get a copy of
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Speaker 1: your book. And if there's any upcoming events and things
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Speaker 1: that you have, please share with the audience how they
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Speaker 1: can connect with you.
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Speaker 2: So you can reach me on social media YouTube, TikTok, Instagram,
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Speaker 2: or what have you. At kay R Motivates that's kay
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Speaker 2: R Motivates. You also can check out my website at
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Speaker 2: kay R motivates dot com. That's kay R motivates dot com.
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Speaker 2: And my website has links to my upcoming events. I
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Speaker 2: have a leadership or entrepreneurship event coming up on May
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Speaker 2: twenty six in Philadelphia, so you may want to check
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Speaker 2: that out, and a bunch of events coming up, like
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Speaker 2: in Philadelphia on June twenty eight. If I'm doing an
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Speaker 2: event June twenty seven, I'm doing event at the October
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Speaker 2: Gallery at two pm, So make sure you go to
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Speaker 2: kayr motivates dot com figure out my upcoming schedule.
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Speaker 1: Excellent, Karr mentioned KR motivates kay r motivates dot com.
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Speaker 1: You can also you know, use AI as your friend
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Speaker 1: if you forget. We'll also put this information in the
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Speaker 1: show notes as well. Her As I mentioned from the
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Speaker 1: outside and especially now you've gone from this place of
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Speaker 1: survival to stability to sustainability. Right, And for our audience
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Speaker 1: who's tuning in, what's one step they can take today
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Speaker 1: to start breaking maybe some of those generational curses and
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Speaker 1: also start building wealth for themselves because I think we're
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Speaker 1: in a new time now, We're building wealth is way
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Speaker 1: easier because there's information out there everywhere. But I think
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Speaker 1: there's also the hard component of having that discipline because
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Speaker 1: everybody's all on social media and you know, you get
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Speaker 1: caught up in the cycles of what is doom scrolling
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Speaker 1: or whatever. So how can people take that first step today,
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Speaker 1: KR to break generational curses, be more vulnerable, and also
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Speaker 1: start to really build wealth for themselves and identify what
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Speaker 1: that looks like for them, right, not what for everybody
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Speaker 1: else what wealth looks like.
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Speaker 2: And so I'm glad you mentioned that, because it's important
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Speaker 2: that you run your own race at your own pace.
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Speaker 2: So when I started out in real estate, I had
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Speaker 2: one rental unit in two thousand and nine. By twenty eighteen,
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Speaker 2: I got to nine rental units. Two thousand and nineteen,
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Speaker 2: I got to thirty five rental units. In twenty twenty
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Speaker 2: I got to one hundred and five. So I bought
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Speaker 2: seventy rental units during the pandemic. I'm at one hundred
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Speaker 2: and sixty plus. And what is interesting is you see
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Speaker 2: in two thousand and nine and I had won twenty
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Speaker 2: eighteen nine, so it took me nine years to get
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Speaker 2: to nine houses rentals. But what was fascinating is that
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Speaker 2: some people said, KR, are you supposed to be smart,
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Speaker 2: Why are you going so slow? Why did you do this?
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Speaker 2: In then LLC? Why are you doing your personal name?
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Speaker 2: And that's why I said, run your own race at
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Speaker 2: your own because you got to have enough faith that
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Speaker 2: what you're doing is going to pay off. And then
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Speaker 2: when I start getting really big and growing fast, they say,
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Speaker 2: oh my goodness, you must be a genius. But before
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Speaker 2: you were questioning me. So what I would tell people is,
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Speaker 2: first you have to believe in yourself and come up
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Speaker 2: with your own strategy. And so I say, one, take
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Speaker 2: an inventory of who's in your corner, what skills do
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Speaker 2: you have, what are you lacking, what assets do you need?
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Speaker 2: Then what I want to do is be willing to
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Speaker 2: be vulnerable, because then you're going to start to put
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Speaker 2: together your team, your personal board of directors. People can
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Speaker 2: help you and fill in these gaps. If you don't
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Speaker 2: have a mother, figure out a father, figure out home.
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Speaker 2: That's help you in terms of execution at school. But
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Speaker 2: they fell you a love and go get those pieces.
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Speaker 2: So one I had mentioned, you're going to definitely have
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Speaker 2: to be vulnerable to to check your inventory. Three, you're
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Speaker 2: going to have to adopt what I call the three
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Speaker 2: d's desired discipline determination. Master those three and then the
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Speaker 2: next level is the three c's intellectual capital. You want
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Speaker 2: to learn in the classroom or outside at a classroom,
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Speaker 2: but you have to learn some way somehow. Then social capital.
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Speaker 2: Build relationships and leverage those relationships so you can affect
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Speaker 2: changing your life in other people's lives because those relationship
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Speaker 2: can open doors more than money. And the final thing
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Speaker 2: is financial capital. Understand how to get access capital, how
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Speaker 2: to grow capital, how to preserve capital because a lot
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Speaker 2: of us we some of us don't know how to budget.
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Speaker 2: Some of us don't know how to fill out a
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Speaker 2: bank a checkbook. Some of us don't know how to
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Speaker 2: get a loan. Some of us don't know how to
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Speaker 2: invest in the stock market, are any other type of investments.
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Speaker 2: So I want you to focus on the three d's discipline, desire, determination,
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Speaker 2: the three c's intellectual capital, social capital, and financial capital.
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Speaker 2: But most importantly, if you do what's necessary, then you
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Speaker 2: do what's possible. You'll find yourself doing the impossible. So
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Speaker 2: don't try to become rich overnight. This is my seventeenth
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Speaker 2: year of being a real estate investor. Take your time.
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Speaker 2: Things done well are done soon enough. So what you
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Speaker 2: want to do if you're starting out as you say,
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Speaker 2: ah r, I'm gonna cast my bucket where I am.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to figure out all the programs that I
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Speaker 2: can take advantage of the buyer property and my own
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Speaker 2: personal name because there are a lot of grants. There
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Speaker 2: are a lot of programs, and then once I get
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Speaker 2: more established, then I'll start buying stuff in an LLC
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Speaker 2: because the interest rates are much lower, the terms are
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Speaker 2: much better. The cost is much better when you're buying
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Speaker 2: your personal name, and all you got to do is
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Speaker 2: you'll get additional insurance. Just like how when I look
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Speaker 2: out the window and it's about the rain, I grab
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Speaker 2: my raincoat, but I also get an umbrella. So you'll
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Speaker 2: get regular insurance on your rental property, but you also
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Speaker 2: get an umbreller policy to help you. So that's ways
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Speaker 2: that you will start to build wealth. And I tell
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Speaker 2: people you do not have to become extremely successful overnight.
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Speaker 2: You have to figure out are what numbers do I need?
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Speaker 2: If I can get an additional five hundred one thousand
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Speaker 2: dollars a month, that could put me in a position
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Speaker 2: to win. So that's when I tell people, when you
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Speaker 2: really want to change your life, you have to embrace
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Speaker 2: the three d's, embrace the three c's, and if you
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Speaker 2: do it's necessary, then do it's possible. You find yourself
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Speaker 2: doing the impossible. So get a steady job, show up
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Speaker 2: on time, save a little bit of read a book
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Speaker 2: about financing, get a mentor if necessary, or figure out
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Speaker 2: how you learn and just keep building. It's like building
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Speaker 2: blocks and then once you have momentum, then you're off
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Speaker 2: to the races.
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Speaker 1: Wow, I mean you're kr. It makes me think about
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Speaker 1: how when we're starting to learn math, right, whether you're
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Speaker 1: learning algebra or multiplication division, math is the same way
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Speaker 1: you learn it by building on top of it.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 1: One of my clients asked me when do I use algebra?
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Speaker 1: And I told her every single day I used Y
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Speaker 1: was MX plus B every day to solve problems. And
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Speaker 1: I broke it down to her and she's like, I
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Speaker 1: wish they would have explained it to me in that
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Speaker 1: way in school because it would have made more sense.
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Speaker 1: And it's kind of the same thing, building that foundation
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Speaker 1: as you reassured taking your time right. I think in
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Speaker 1: the age of social media, everything seems instant, but it
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Speaker 1: only seems instant wants everything snowballs right when getting that
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Speaker 1: momentum and putting in all the work, yeah, and then
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Speaker 1: also getting that community support, that board of directors for yourself,
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Speaker 1: that's mentor who's going to be there for you to
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Speaker 1: help guide you because they've done it, yes, right, and
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Speaker 1: not being afraid to ask for help exactly.
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Speaker 2: And it's very similar to I came up with the
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Speaker 2: idea of board of directors when I was in eighth
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Speaker 2: grade because I was reading about companies and CEOs have
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Speaker 2: a board of directors that they meet with on every
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Speaker 2: quarter what have you, give them advice and make sure
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Speaker 2: they're going on the right path. And then I realized
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Speaker 2: that mentor some of them will talk to you and
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Speaker 2: make you feel good. But then your sponsors are willing
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Speaker 2: to put their name on the line and give you
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Speaker 2: money or what have you to help you go forward.
25:43
Speaker 2: And then I also looked at like some people who
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Speaker 2: have addictions or their addicts a what have you, and
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Speaker 2: they join these AA meetings and sometimes they have a
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Speaker 2: sponsor and they have a community. So that's why I
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Speaker 2: always stress it's good to have a board of directors,
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Speaker 2: a sense of this idea of community because we all
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Speaker 2: need help. I'm not saying you're an addict, but I'm
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Speaker 2: saying I like to use these frameworks because you increase
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Speaker 2: the odds are the chances of you becoming successful by
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Speaker 2: taking these concrete steps. Because a lot of people talk
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Speaker 2: to you about all this big stuff. No, I want
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Speaker 2: you if you're going to be a nurse, go find
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Speaker 2: go read every book and everything online about nursing. Go
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Speaker 2: to the free library. Also, go to the community center,
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Speaker 2: go to the church, or go to demas or whatever
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Speaker 2: your religion is, and say, are there any nurses in here?
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Speaker 2: I want to talk to them? What steps did they take?
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Speaker 2: Start them out of your life after them. Become obsessed
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Speaker 2: with what you're interested in, because the riches are in
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Speaker 2: the niches. You don't have to be me, our wonderful hosts.
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Speaker 2: We want you to be the best version of yourself.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely. I mean, couldn't have said it better. You know,
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Speaker 1: each of us was put here uniquely for a reason.
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Speaker 1: There's no two of us, and so it's important to
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Speaker 1: run your own race and find what really lights you
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Speaker 1: up to be a service. And always remember that it
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Speaker 1: takes a community, takes a village, right, That's the old
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Speaker 1: saying from when I was little. It takes a village,
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Speaker 1: and that still stands true today. Well, everybody that was
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Speaker 1: heaven k R. Robinson that you heard from today on
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Speaker 1: grew with Portia. And that concludes our conversation for today
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Speaker 1: and until next time. Everybody. He's in a Greece. Everyone