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Season 3 - Episode 271 - Recycling your experiences · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Let's talk about recycling experiences.
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  Sounds strange, doesn't it? We recycle all kinds of things
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  in our lives. We take things to goodwill, we
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  get rid of stuff, we clean up, we purge, we do all this.
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  But how often have you considered recycling your
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  experiences? It is, it is an interesting
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  thought and when you pause and you really take it in and you
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  think how many times have I relived and experienced?
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  So this is where lots of trauma comes in.
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  This is where lots of PTSD comes in.
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  This is where lots of depression comes in because those, all
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  those things that you are recycling come from the past and
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  the past is really powerful. When you focus on the things
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  that went wrong, it is extremely powerful.
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  It can be really powerful as well when you focus on the
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  things that went well. But most of us, when we stay in
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  the past, that's where anxiety, but that's where depression
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  comes from. Anxiety comes from the future.
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  Anxiety is when you don't know what's going to happen, but when
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  you are sad, depressed, feeling like you're lamenting things,
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  feeling like you're just in in that pain point of it that comes
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  from the past and recycling experiences.
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  Going over in your head over and over, trying to think about what
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  you could have done better, what you could have said better, how
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  you could have shown up better, a better choice you could have
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  made. And here's the really hard part.
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  The past is gone and we can't do anything about it.
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  It's one of the reasons I started studying Buddhism the
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  way that I do is because I had to figure out how to let go of
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  decisions that I had made, losses that I had experienced.
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  Losing my dad, losing my best friend.
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  That was incredibly challenging and it was because I kept
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  recycling the experiences. Maybe if I had done this, maybe
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  if we had tried this, maybe if we had, you know, gone here,
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  done this. We all think those things and
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  the recycling of the thoughts, recycling of our choices,
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  recycling of the entire thing causes you to stay in the space
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  of second guessing yourself and reliving the pain repeatedly.
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  So what good can come from that? Not a lot, I can assure you it
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  it rarely just all of a sudden makes a person turn around and
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  go, oh, now I'm a better person. We like to go back because we
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  want to learn from it. At least that's what we think.
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  But learn what it's already gone.
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  There's nothing we can do about it and it might make us better
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  for the next time. But once you get that lesson,
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  there's no need to keep going back.
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  We keep going back though. If we got the lesson and we say
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  we're putting that away, that's powerful.
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  So a tool that you can use to help you with this, just because
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  it's always a good tool to put paper to pen, is really sitting
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  down and saying, OK, if I'm lamenting an experience, if I'm
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  going through something, if I keep recycling this particular
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  experience, let me go and write down everything that was good
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  about it. Let me go and write down
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  everything that was bad about it.
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  Let me go and really understand what I took away from it and
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  then let me say goodbye to it. That's the part where everybody
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  misses it. They'll say, I wrote, I wrote
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  down, you know what happened and I got it all out of my head.
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  Great. But did you actually say you
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  were going to let it go? Did you actually make the choice
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  to let that go? Did you say goodbye to it?
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  Did you say, you know, I've, I'm done, I'm not looking at it
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  anymore. I'm moving forward with it?
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  Most likely no, because it's very hard to let go of the pain.
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  It's where we anchor ourselves. It's very, very hard to let go
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  of the pain. So putting it on the paper helps
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  you let go of it. Putting it on the paper helps
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  you see it in a different way, helps you process it in a
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  different way. And that is what's so awesome
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  about being able to just sit and do that.
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  It it gives you closure. It gives you that opportunity.
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  And then what you choose to do with the paper is your choice.
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  You could, you know, I've said before, if you burn the paper,
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  please make sure you do it outside of your home.
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  Please make sure you do not do it in a place where you're going
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  to cause another fire. Please make sure you have smart,
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  smart intention with that piece and do not flush it down the
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  toilet. That is a bad choice.
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  Plumbers will tell you not to flush paper down a toilet, but
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  just crumble it up and throw it away.
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  Let it go, put it in the trash, get rid of it somehow.
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  I've had people who have dug holes and buried them before.
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  I thought that was interesting, but that's what they wanted to
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  do. And if that's what you want to
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  do, fantastic. But it's the point is making the
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  choice to deal with it in a very different way.
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  That's what's smart. Hopefully this was helpful and
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  hopefully you guys will be able to stop recycling the
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  experiences you don't want to keep.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.