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Mental Health Moment - You can't manifest your way out of trauma · Life Lived Better

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  Hey there everybody. Welcome to another mental health
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  moment from the Life Live Better podcast.
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  This is a place where we take just a couple of moments to care
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  for our minds. I'm Paula, and today we're
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  talking about something that might feel a little
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  uncomfortable, but it's important to know you cannot
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  manifest your way out of trauma. You know, before anyone gets
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  defensive, this isn't about dismissing positivity or hope or
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  the power of mindset. Those things matter.
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  I mean, they absolutely do. But trauma?
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  Trauma doesn't respond to vision boards and affirmations alone.
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  Trauma lives in the body. It lives in the nervous system.
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  It shows up in reactions you didn't choose, in patterns you
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  don't always understand, and in emotions that don't just
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  disappear because you think positively.
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  Some messages in the Wellness space suggest that if you're
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  still struggling, you're just not manifesting hard enough or
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  your mindset isn't right. And that's where things can get
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  a little harmful. I want to be really clear about
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  something. That idea can quietly turn into
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  blame. Because if healing is only about
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  mindset, then what does that say about someone who is trying,
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  really trying, but still really hurting?
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  The truth is, healing from trauma often requires much more
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  than intention. It requires safety.
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  It requires processing. It often requires support, and
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  whether that's therapy or your community or learning how to
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  regulate your nervous system or maybe all of those, and you
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  can't just decide your way out of something that your body
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  learned to survive. And that's not weakness, that's
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  biology. Now here's the balance.
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  Mindset can support healing. Hope matters.
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  Believing that change is possible matters, but those
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  things are tools, not the whole toolbox.
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  So if you've been telling yourself, you know I should be
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  past this by now, or why can't I just think my way out of this, I
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  want you to hear this. You are not failing at healing.
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  You're responding exactly how a human being responds to
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  overwhelming experiences. Healing isn't about forcing
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  yourself into positivity, it's about creating enough safety
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  internally and externally that your mind and body can begin to
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  let go of what they've been holding on to.
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  So yes, dream and visualize and hope, but don't skip the work
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  that actually helps you heal. Because real healing isn't about
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  escaping your pain, unfortunately.
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  It's about learning how to move through it with support, with
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  understanding, and with some compassion for yourself.
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  The Life Live Better podcast thanks you for joining us for
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  this mental health moment. And until next time, take care
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  of your mind because it's the only one you've got.
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  And don't forget that knowledge leads to a life lived better.