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Lessons - Build A Million-Dollar Community | Lori Harder - Serial Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author, and Podcaster · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  amazing gummies. In this lessons episode, discover a framework for building a tribe with the
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  seven agreements for connection. Learn why setting clear boundaries and expectations is essential
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  for lasting relationships and understand how authentic communication transforms both personal
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  and professional growth. When you think about it so we haven't even spoken really about
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  like the the main work that you've put out in the past whatever six years has tried called bliss.
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  And you speak about we spoke touch on it but we spoke about like you know like mentors and
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  who you should hang out with but you actually have a framework for how to build out a tribe
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  and how to sort of understand who you should spend your time with and who you shouldn't and
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  and there's like there's seven what what do you call them the seven uh seven agreements
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  for building connection. I've been literally just like what are they called they got it? Yeah I know
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  and he's after 2017 me okay listen it was a long okay as a long as time ago you have to write more
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  books that's besides the point um if you will write more books I have no doubt because I know you
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  you're going through you're going through life you're going through business and you know it's
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  you're you're evolving and then you'll probably write about the last six years all the stresses
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  and all the shit that you've learned um so I have a question for you and it could and the question
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  is actually quite simple. Do you want to teach over very briefly or more thoroughly about
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  tribes and seven agreements and building relationships I think is very useful because I think that
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  if somebody comes to this podcast and we don't even touch on it they'd be excited to explain it
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  or and or there are probably new things that you listen when I prepped for podcasts I
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  I did listen to older podcasts so there are probably new things that you have to speak about
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  that I don't even know that you speak about so we can also go into those like new lessons new ideas
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  new a new thesis you have on life we can go into that as well so I will let you choose um
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  but I'll give you the floor where do you want to take it because we can go either way.
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  So I can kind of touch on because even what I do now still relates to to that to building
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  these communities so I think now I talk way more about business but I talk about networking
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  and relationships in terms of like your business like being able to build your business and
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  accelerate what you are doing um so in the beginning when I was starting to really want to get
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  into um throwing personal development events and rating books and speaking this was like
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  the beginning I was not doing this um I was coming from the fitness background um I worked my
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  way up to having a really large online fitness membership at the time it was like in 2500
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  2500 monthly members and it seemed crazy to decide to shut that down because it was
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  running great to go and do these other things that I wanted to do and that was kind of my that
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  that was that was kind of my transition and journey into business and personal development because
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  I was feeling way more recalled into that than I was fitness because that just even though I loved
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  fitness and it was such a foundation for me and it's never going away in my life I just learned
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  that fitness was the beginning of the spiritual cracking open like and so once I um went through
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  this with a ton of women what happened is not only was I wanting to completely go somewhere else
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  but even the women that I had worked with for a long time were now starting to go what's next like
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  I know I have more this this fitness journey just cracked me open to everything else and now I want
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  more what do we do how do we make money how do we you know find these different groups of people um so
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  the book in the beginning what I did was we put together uh like I told you I'd gone to the
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  jack canfield event and he had mentioned something in passing that he had written in his book the
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  success principles and he had kept talking about this mastermind that he was a part of and that word
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  was pretty new to me at the time and so at the end of that year he gave us a challenge to put
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  together a mastermind from the room that we were in and I was like I don't I didn't see people who
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  were kind of doing exactly what I wanted to do who were like my age group and and you know just
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  exactly what I wanted to do so I was like okay I'm not going to do it in this group but I'm going to
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  go find women who want to be speakers who want to write a book and who want to like expand their career
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  so um I went online and there was another woman who was looking for kind of the same thing
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  I knew we're in passing I don't even know how our communities like kind of interconnected
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  but we had message each other like hey I'm looking for an accountability partner you know I just
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  went to this thing they call it a mastermind they say it's great with three to four people do you know
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  anybody else who would want to do this thing and so this thing turned into like eight years
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  long of three of us who had never met before but knew that we had the same goals we would meet
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  every other week for one hour we were just like hey are we committed to this and there's so much
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  that went into that to be able to meet for eight years like let me tell you there's a wrote a book
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  on it for a reason because just showing up and like being consistent and let me tell you like
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  having to be accountable to two other people who are also doing big things was like you will face
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  off with your demons but so that was the initial how this all started and how I started uh
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  writing about it and from that as well um I was doing personal development events and I was
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  breaking these women out into these groups I was doing the similar things that we were doing on
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  these calls in these three day um like Tony Raven style retreats where we would break them into
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  groups have them connect deeply ask a certain set of questions to each other share do all the things
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  and voila all of a sudden these women are creating these incredible relationships and breakthroughs
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  and still to this day we have so many best friends business partners like insane things that have
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  come from these events of creating these little groups for people where they are supported and
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  committed to each other and they have a toolbox surround what happens when you um you know
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  things get weird what happens if someone disappoints you what happens if there's gossip in the group
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  what happens if someone comes in with really high expectations and you're like whoa whoa whoa like
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  that's not my expectation so it confronts every weird thing that was happening for me and female
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  relationships that either made me run or made me want to run made them want to run made us not
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  want to come together um it really is like relationship 101 for friendships but also like
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  partnerships um and I didn't have I didn't have those tools so I like really messed it up a lot
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  in the beginning and that's why I wrote the book is like all of these tools are the things that I've
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  used that have now helped me so much in business like if I didn't understand these communication
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  tools I swear to you I would have no dollars because I do think it's relationships and I think
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  it's yeah you know connections and of course you have to be business savvy but I I really think
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  it is your ability to lead a team and communicate and um how you're communicating to your customer
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  and there's just you know business is business is the biggest personal development journey
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  I think you'll ever sign up for and you have to be ready and know what to do so the book does
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  translate and these groups translate into the work I do now and into like these different business
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  event I just want to take a second and thank cornbread ham for supporting today's episode now
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  cornbread ham CBD gummies have been this really nice addition to my wellness toolkit I don't
• 8:51
  use them every day just when I want to win wine after those extra busy weeks but they're perfect
• 8:56
  for those moments when you want to take the edge off and just find your balance really just shut
• 9:01
  off from work or make some special is how cornbread ham crafts them they only use a flower of USDA
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  organic hamplants that's the best part for the purest most potent experience no fillers no artificial
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  fluff just clean full spectrum goodness and delicious watermelon berry and peach flavor I keep
• 9:20
  them in my night stand for those moments when I just need a little extra help relaxing and I love
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  transparent they are too every batch is third party lab tested so you know exactly what you're
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  success check out that's cornbread ham dot com slash success code success for 30% off your first
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  order of these amazing dummies I do there are obviously there's a lot in the book there's
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  seven agreements but you mentioned a few that included honest communication dropping expectations
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  I mean if you're gonna pick I don't know like you pick the most I don't want to say impactful
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  because I don't want you to have to rank your ideas from best to worst but what I mean is what are
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  the things that people have the most trouble with what is the one thing that was like this is never
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  done this is the one thing the movie deal for me the most that is I guess like a it's it's something
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  that people take for granted or a misconception about communication relationship building
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  tribe building whatever it is I've got to I think boundaries and expectations are are really big
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  ones for my life and for what I found like in other people's lives I work with mostly women like
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  when we do events and stuff so I think that setting boundaries in a friend group seems
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  we're easy to people they're like oh my god I can't imagine like that seems really like strict
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  oh my gosh it's right what that is to like paint the picture of what that looks so what happens is
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  you know you okay let's say you're gonna start one of these groups and you find these two other
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  people and they're like great let's meet every other Thursday at 7 a.m. for one hour and this is
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  what it's gonna look like there's this format it's gonna be 20 minutes each there's gonna be a
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  person who times it no one can go over the call you're never laid on the calls the calls never run over
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  time because then what happens is someone's gonna get resentful because they can never plan around
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  it or they're always late to pick up their kid or whatever that looks like and if you miss more
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  than two in a row then you're just not in the group anymore unless it's obviously a huge family
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  emergency or something because we want people who are committed and to a lot of people that
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  scares the shit out of that they're like um no like this is that's a lot that's too much like
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  that doesn't even feel good and I'm like okay and then that's not necessarily what I'm looking for
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  right now and I think for people to say exactly what they want and exactly what they're looking for
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  and set rules and parameters and have boundaries around it I think that that is like it goes
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  against what we think is nice or what we've been raised to think is nice like oh you should
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  understand or oh you should you know get them the opportunity or the opportunity of the doubt
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  is that the river benefit benefit of the doubt yeah thanks for tuning in if you found this valuable
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