Latest / Thrive After 45® | Life After 45, Self-Trust, Midlife Women / The Secret Why You're Failing... And It's NOT Your Fault - with Dr. Alain Salas
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- 0:00Hello, and welcome to today's episode of Thrive after 45.
- 0:05I am Denise Drink, Walter heart whisperer, midlife mirror and mentor.
- 0:10And every week I am honored to share energy and space with inspiring guests whose stories reflect so many possibilities of thriving beyond 45 together.
- 0:23Will uncover the whispers of the heart, the power of midlife transformation, and the wisdom that fuels expansion.
- 0:31What happens when the very life you built with passion starts burning you out from the inside?
- 0:41Today's guest knows that answer better than most.
- 0:46Dr.
- 0:46Ela, the Mind Clearing Doctor spent years living the dream.
- 0:52Sailing the South of France, building a thriving practice in the States and serving thousands.
- 0:59But behind the success was exhaustion, overwhelm, and ultimately a personal collapse that touched every area of his life, health, marriage, and business.
- 1:11Instead of staying down, he turned inward and what he discovered became a life altering three-step system now used by over 4,267 clients across the US and Europe to break limiting beliefs.
- 1:30Think clearly.
- 1:31Create success without burnout.
- 1:34He is a number one bestselling author, a chiropractic physician of 29 years, and the creator of the Goal and Success Clearing Method, helping ambitious entrepreneurs make more sales, achieve their goals, and grow their business predictably.
- 1:51And Dr.
- 1:52Celeste has also developed.
- 1:54The body clearing that helps release subconscious blocks, causing mind body imbalances, and addresses holistic chronic pain symptoms and diseases.
- 2:06I cannot wait to get dig into this conversation today with you, Dr.
- 2:12SOIs.
- 2:12Welcome to the show.
- 2:14Well, thank you Donis for the wonderful introduction and I can tell that you know your subject, right?
- 2:19And so, um, I really love the way you introduced my work and so thank you very much and of course, let's do this.
- 2:26I'm super, like I told you, I'm super, you know, happy to be here and also, you know, to, to get going with you.
- 2:34Yes.
- 2:35So let's, let's go back on a little bit of your journey and help the audience understand if there was a moment when everything came crashing down.
- 2:47Was there a moment that you realized that your success was actually costing you your actual life?
- 2:59Well, I don't, I don't know if he is, I'm sorry.
- 3:02I don't know if there's the moment's really that's, but there's lots of outside circumstances, you know, like, uh, within a year ending up divorcing.
- 3:10Right.
- 3:10And I had a daughter, so when you divorce and there's a kid involved, it's never a handshake for sure.
- 3:16Mm-hmm.
- 3:16And I got sick with, uh, AERs with early stage of colon cancer.
- 3:20So here I am, you know, you have to understand the kinda practice that I had done, Denise was.
- 3:25Uh, to tell you, okay.
- 3:27Um, to assess and address your chemical stress, your internal chemistry.
- 3:32And so I will tell my patient what to do to avoid chronic disease like cancer.
- 3:36And here I am, I'm getting sick, right?
- 3:39And, and of course, because of, uh, me divorcing and, you know, I, I started to get depressed.
- 3:46So my practice went from, you know, uh, thriving to failing.
- 3:49Yeah, and so just wanted to find solution for my problem.
- 3:53It happened that I'm a doctor and the only things that I never really go deep into was the mind.
- 3:59It sounds crazy, right?
- 4:00Because the mind and body, uh, and body clearing is so important to me, and so I had to dig and and figure it out.
- 4:08Okay, what is the mind and how do we.
- 4:12Function, you know, with a mind body connection and, and how do we, how, how can we be successful?
- 4:19How can we avoid.
- 4:20All v, you know, uh, relationship failure.
- 4:24How can we avoid v the, um, disease?
- 4:29How can we avoid, you know, um, uh, our financial failure, right?
- 4:33And basically that's what started it.
- 4:37Uh, I talked to so many people, not just women, but people in general who hit these walls, right?
- 4:46And all of a sudden it's almost like.
- 4:49They can't breathe.
- 4:50They don't know what to do.
- 4:51They don't know where to go, how to move.
- 4:54How on earth do you begin to unpack when you are so far down in the depths of despair?
- 5:07Well, there are several factors that are important.
- 5:10Uh, you have to understand that, um, my mission in life when I was, uh, sail in south of France has been given to me.
- 5:16And that was basically to keep it like in its core to help people via healing, right?
- 5:21So that's why I went to America and studied chiropractic.
- 5:25I was like, uh, 30, yeah, 30 years old, and things like that.
- 5:28So that's how I changed my life.
- 5:31Um, it's very important to know what is your mission in life.
- 5:35Hmm.
- 5:36Because we talk about success and failure, but does failure truly exist?
- 5:40I don't believe so.
- 5:42I don't, I don't, I don't believe there's such a thing as a failure, like what we call failure.
- 5:47It's our judgment in a way, but through our, um, our difficulties, through our, our challenges, that's how we truly, we can create and born from the darkness.
- 5:59You see, when a, when a woman carry a baby, she carry that in the darkness.
- 6:04And so that's how, that's how we can create, you know, and, and, and life is always a rhythm, you know, like, like if you hear the world Disney stories or they will be, they will marry and be happy ever after.
- 6:18It's not possible, as we know.
- 6:21It doesn't exist because there's always rhythm, because everything in life from the attom.
- 6:28To, uh, to our, um, perception of reality is a wave with ups and down.
- 6:34It doesn't mean that it's good and bad.
- 6:37It's simply positive and negative and positive and negative.
- 6:42And so when you understand that, that's very important, that you will always have ups and downs and they all serve their purpose.
- 6:50Oh, I love that, number one.
- 6:52Number two.
- 6:53And number two, you wanna make sure that you are not in a victim mode, because otherwise you're not gonna learn anything.
- 7:00So what is being on the victim mode?
- 7:02It's like blaming on the outside world.
- 7:05For example, in my divorce, I, I could have said, oh, this is all my wife fault because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
- 7:10Right?
- 7:11And so you never learn.
- 7:13You never learn.
- 7:14Having that mindset right, because it's ne you cannot look like you say.
- 7:20Deep weave in and introspect and see what the heck happened and truly understand that you're actually creating your reality in a way.
- 7:28Mm-hmm.
- 7:29That your higher self is designing that for your own good, for you to become a better and a better person.
- 7:37So when you understand that ultimately you're not a victim, but you're a creator, instead of saying, oh, why this is happening to me, always you just saying, okay, what is the lesson?
- 7:48What do I have to learn from that experience?
- 7:51Yeah.
- 7:51And when you've got those two criteria, but you know, on top of that, what your mission.
- 7:56In life is, there's no such a thing as retirement.
- 7:59There's no such a thing.
- 8:00Yeah, I, I get.
- 8:02I have no motivation in life.
- 8:04Right.
- 8:05Because you know what you are wired to do.
- 8:07You know what you are wired to be.
- 8:09And if you are a truth seeker, you know, there's no way that you can sit on your couch and watching TV and getting numb and becoming like a zombie, you know, and denying life even when you are older.
- 8:24Age is only a number, I guarantee that, right?
- 8:26Yeah, exactly.
- 8:28Exactly.
- 8:29When you talk about, um.
- 8:32Being the creator, I love to talk about through the lens of curiosity, that lesson that we get to learn if we approach it through a lens of curiosity instead of why it?
- 8:46Why me?
- 8:47Oh, here we go again.
- 8:49Because we create our own reality, don't we?
- 8:52Just like you shared.
- 8:53Yeah.
- 8:56Love that.
- 8:57I agree with that.
- 8:58What we'll add on that, it's like when you do like technique.
- 9:03And clearing, for example, when you become more at peace with yourself and your heart open up, you know much more what's happening.
- 9:10You are more like the observer.
- 9:12So emotionally you are not too much engaged with what's happening to you.
- 9:17So it's better, it's, it's easier to see whatever lesson.
- 9:21It's easier to understand really the purpose of what's going on.
- 9:25In that specific experience.
- 9:27Right, right.
- 9:27And so that's why, you know, the man clearing, uh, was so important to me that because I treat myself that, uh, because it's, it's so important, you know, to, to understand the how, the why.
- 9:41The what.
- 9:42And so from that I created like, um, a philosophy in a way since, um, in, since everything is vibration, everything vibrate, we just cannot see it.
- 9:52But all at home, all life is in constant vibration.
- 9:55So vibration is a wave, right?
- 9:58So you've got the positive aspect, which is the light, which is more about the mind and your thought.
- 10:06And after, at the cross line of the zero point.
- 10:09Okay.
- 10:10That's our heart reside.
- 10:13So you've got your thought.
- 10:16Yeah.
- 10:16You've got your, uh, mind, you've got your heart, and at the end you've got, uh, your.
- 10:23What you create, which is your belly darkness.
- 10:27So the way creation, you know, when we know when your purpose is, it's your why.
- 10:32Your heart is in your why.
- 10:35You know, when you ask the question, am I doing what?
- 10:38Am I being a healer?
- 10:39What I'm being a doctor, what?
- 10:42That's the why.
- 10:43Why for example, as a, as a entrepreneur, I want$1 million because you know, I will ask people, okay, what do you want?
- 10:50Right?
- 10:51It's a very simple question, but sometimes they don't know.
- 10:55Yes.
- 10:55And sometimes the answer is not obvious.
- 10:57So you need to dig, you know, and they tell me what a successful practice because blah, blah, blah, my why, and you start to dig and go to the essence.
- 11:06For example, my why.
- 11:08Is to help people, period.
- 11:09It's very simple, right?
- 11:11The wise, the wise are always simple.
- 11:13And so when you know your wife in life, that's your heart talking and your heart is the master organ of your body, I, I should say the master organ and the master mind of your body.
- 11:26Love that.
- 11:27That make sense?
- 11:29Yes, it does.
- 11:30And so how do you take what's in your heart and not have your mind fight it?
- 11:39Well, because they serve different purpose.
- 11:42You know, like I said, your heart is your why, right?
- 11:45The, your, uh, your, um, mind is the how you do things.
- 11:50Mm-hmm.
- 11:51The heart is why do you do things and your beliefs, what are you doing, your creation.
- 11:56You know, that's how it works.
- 11:58So when you are fault, your feeling, which is your heart, right, of your emotion.
- 12:02Yeah.
- 12:03And your action are aligned.
- 12:06That's what you're talking about.
- 12:07When they are aligned, when your how, your why, and your what is a line, that's how you're gonna be able to be unstoppable and accomplish so much more easily what you're designed to do and your goal.
- 12:21Love that.
- 12:21And then when you get off the alignment.
- 12:25You get nudges or clubs to the head to help you realize, Nope, you're going off.
- 12:33Does that, does that happen?
- 12:34Yes.
- 12:36Yes, of course.
- 12:37But also, when you are not in your alignment, you're not gonna be, it is gonna be hard to reach your goal, right?
- 12:43Yes.
- 12:43You're gonna have doubt.
- 12:45Yeah.
- 12:45Right?
- 12:45And so that's what doubt is.
- 12:47For example, if I said, oh, oh yeah, today I decided I'm gonna start a diet.
- 12:52So that's in my thought, right?
- 12:55Yeah.
- 12:56I'm gonna start a diet.
- 12:57Yeah.
- 12:57And after emotionally, I'm say, oh, last time and I started a diet, you know, I was successful by gained the weight back.
- 13:04So my emotion and my feeling are not aligned with my thought.
- 13:08So maybe I'm not gonna take even any action, or if I take action, I'm gonna be easily discouraged.
- 13:15And so when you fought your emotion.
- 13:18And your action and align, that's how you're ready to accomplish anything you want, I mean.
- 13:23Right, right.
- 13:25And with your experience with the thousands you've worked with and continue to support in their journeys, do you notice that this alignment happens more strongly, more frequently as you continue to help them with their clearing?
- 13:49Oh yeah, because, um, what happened, for example, even with one treatment, we can clear that, right?
- 13:54So in the case of a diet, for example, I took that example like this, right?
- 13:58Yeah.
- 13:58So you fault, you show, but your fault by your emotions.
- 14:02So we.
- 14:03We'll do the mind clearing.
- 14:04We've got three step, it's, it's kind of when you compare the mind to a computer, it's kind of the same thing, right?
- 14:09Yeah.
- 14:10So your brain will be the hard drive, the software will be like your program and this program are not.
- 14:18You have been programmed all your life, Donis, you have been programmed.
- 14:21I've been programmed.
- 14:22Everybody watching that program has been programmed.
- 14:25Yeah.
- 14:25But it's at the subconscious level, meaning that we're not truly aware of.
- 14:30Mm-hmm.
- 14:30And with the acquire whose program?
- 14:32Pro program mainly from age zero to seven years old because we, um, uh, basically, um, assume that everything is the out.
- 14:42World is the truth.
- 14:44And so when you assume one thing, uh, a a few time, it become a program in the subconscious mind.
- 14:49And this program, we've got positive programming.
- 14:53It's kind of like when your mind is working for you and not against you, right?
- 14:57And you've got the negative programming, which is when your mind is working against you.
- 15:02Mm-hmm.
- 15:02And instead of for you.
- 15:04So it's basically this alignment when you've got this alignment.
- 15:08When you've got what we call empowering belief, which is the positive programming, everything flow, everything become easier.
- 15:15Right.
- 15:16And when you've got what we call the limiting belief, which is the negative programming, right?
- 15:21Well, that's why we got that.
- 15:22That's why, you know, we can sometime not even reach our goal because there's a program and it's not our fault.
- 15:29It's a program that will deny us.
- 15:31And so the mind clearing is designed for any program.
- 15:35When you've got a program in your.
- 15:37A computer that doesn't work for you, what you gonna do, right?
- 15:40Number one, you're gonna delete that program.
- 15:43Number two, you're gonna go, uh, to the store and download a program that works for you.
- 15:49And number three, you're going to, in the screen of life, you're gonna see the outcome, the desire, outcome that you want.
- 15:56You're gonna be happy with the result.
- 15:58And so.
- 15:59Those are the three step of a mind clearing.
- 16:01You delete what you don't want.
- 16:03You download what you want, and you make sure that you're gonna manifest or create that into your life.
- 16:08Amazing.
- 16:08And that's it.
- 16:09And so when you understand how the mind works, that is basically more at the subconscious level, meaning you are not aware of, just to give you a little bit nugget.
- 16:19Yeah.
- 16:19You know, your mind is conscious mind.
- 16:23That is basically your ity who you think you are, what you are aware, your, uh, thought, your emotion, your action, and, and, um, yeah, all that.
- 16:35And so, and your subconscious mind, which we have been doing in your, in your life from age zero to now, and where this program are also, you know, all your skill as an entrepreneur or any things that you require skill in your life are stored in your subconscious mind.
- 16:51All the things in your body that hap happen automatically without you thinking about it like your.
- 16:57Heartbeat, like your, uh, breathing right, like your digestion are coming for your subconscious mind.
- 17:02And just to give you an idea mm-hmm.
- 17:05According to who you read, your conscious mind is only five to 10% of your mind, and your subconscious mind is 90 to 95% of your mind.
- 17:15And yet.
- 17:16When you've got any challenges, any problem that you wanna resolve, what you're gonna do, you're gonna focus on your conscious mind, meaning you're, you're gonna use only five or 10% of your mind power.
- 17:28Amazing.
- 17:29And that's a problem, the big problem, right?
- 17:33So.
- 17:35You as an in, uh, as a support to tap into the subconscious mind.
- 17:42Can people tap into their own subconscious mind?
- 17:46Or is it something that's better done by the likes of somebody like you who knows how to do it in a certain way that actually accesses it To me, the holy grail of healing and manifestation is when you tap into your own subscriptions.
- 18:04Um, um, when I help people, I help them to heal themself.
- 18:09I help them to manifest themselves.
- 18:11So we visualize, for example, to have a more, like a practical sense of the way it's happening.
- 18:17Sure, yeah.
- 18:17Well, you visualize, you know what don't want and I created a program.
- 18:21And so you visualize yourself, um, in, in a context like, okay, wait, for example, boom, you visualize yourself, right?
- 18:28Yep.
- 18:29And so, uh, after we're going to delete.
- 18:32Uh, we're gonna delete that picture is a delete program that is customized to you, that I give you the technology, but you are going to send that program to what I call the past.
- 18:42You, you in that picture.
- 18:44Right?
- 18:45Okay.
- 18:45And so that's your own picture because it's your own subconscious mind.
- 18:49I don't know what is your subconscious mind for whatever things you don't want.
- 18:53I mean, only you can have an idea, right?
- 18:56Yeah.
- 18:56And so that's why it's so cool, because I'm just on your guide guiding you.
- 19:01To do the work, um, by yourself, basically, because that's the only way it can really truly work and go to the cause of your problem.
- 19:09Because when you've got a problem, you need to know two things done is yeah, to make sure that you don't have any problem anymore, that you move on, that even you don't even think that problem.
- 19:19You need to know what's causing your problem, right?
- 19:22And number two, you need to know how to fix it.
- 19:25Right?
- 19:25And this sounds so simple, right?
- 19:28But if you listen on any, every decision that you make and you say, okay, is because of my problem?
- 19:35Yeah.
- 19:35And is it truly the way how to fix it?
- 19:38That will prevent you to go to some, to take some path that are not good for you, or will take more time and they are not really, uh, the fast way, the fastest way, and the more, uh, comprehensive way to heal yourself or to, uh, to transform yourself.
- 19:57Amazing.
- 19:58Amazing.
- 19:58Makes perfect sense.
- 20:00Especially when you talk about the 5% and 90.
- 20:0295%.
- 20:04Yes.
- 20:05Huge.
- 20:07Huge.
- 20:07It's a no brainer.
- 20:11Ta-da.
- 20:13I love that.
- 20:16Amazing.
- 20:18You continue to stay motivated to help people.
- 20:25Why, what is keeping you in that full alignment?
- 20:33Well, I just, I just describe it, you know, my thought.
- 20:36Yeah.
- 20:37My emotion and my, uh, and my action and behavior are all aligned, and, and if or not, I will treat myself perfect.
- 20:45Yeah.
- 20:45So, and also that's number two, actually.
- 20:47Number one is like, you need to know what is your mission in life.
- 20:51Yeah.
- 20:51You know, I, like I said, there's no really success and failure, but to me, there will be one failure.
- 20:58It's just not to know that.
- 20:59Yeah.
- 21:00Right.
- 21:00And again, it's not about, you know, oh, I want this.
- 21:03Okay, why do you want this?
- 21:05And you want to, it's called digging.
- 21:07So you want to dig.
- 21:08And there's also technique that I use with, uh, my, uh, um, uh, my customer, my patient depends what I do with them.
- 21:16Right?
- 21:16Yeah.
- 21:17And so, uh, we just go to a space.
- 21:19Like an alternate reality in a way.
- 21:21And it sounds like all voodoo.
- 21:23It's not, it's like a state of mind that you, it's less, uh, filtered by your, uh, ego.
- 21:29It's less filtered by that conscious mind, right?
- 21:32And you can tap into, and whatever picture comes to your mind, but can really help you to, to know really what you.
- 21:40Well, you were designed too because we all design, we all have a mission in life.
- 21:45I want people to understand that.
- 21:47Mm-hmm.
- 21:47We all have, if you've got a spirit and a soul, you have a mission in life.
- 21:52There's a reason why you are on Herf when you find out what the reason is and can be different.
- 21:58You know, for me it's helping people.
- 21:59For you, maybe it's different.
- 22:00Sure, it doesn't matter.
- 22:01But when you know that after, you cannot not doing it.
- 22:05You just have to do it and becomes, and what if you supposed to be working is not working.
- 22:09Yeah.
- 22:10It's accomplishing your mission.
- 22:12It's serving humanity by serving yourself.
- 22:16Be the change that you want to see in the world, which is brings us back to the whole foundation of this show because we do what we are going to be doing for you by you because of you, your mission, not based on outside what we've thought all along.
- 22:37Because as Dr.
- 22:39Sala said, we're using 5%.
- 22:41If we're using just that part of the mind, we're missing out and that's why.
- 22:46Our listeners love to listen to our show and thank you listeners because of these nuggets that are alive and well and not talked about.
- 22:58So thank you for your time today, Dr.
- 23:00Alah.
- 23:01So wonderful.
- 23:02So deep.
- 23:03So rich.
- 23:04Oh, thank you so much more.
- 23:05That was my pleasure.
- 23:07So much more.
- 23:08There's more if you want.
- 23:09Oh, there and, and absolutely.
- 23:12And the beautiful thing is that in our show notes, we have access.
- 23:17We will have the information that you need in order to access the brilliance because Dr.
- 23:24Lan uses.
- 23:26100% of his brain, not just the 5%.
- 23:31And we want our listeners to be able to increase their capacity for you by you because of you and for no other reason.
- 23:39Find your why, which is not from the 5% of your brain, but from that full alignment that Dr.
- 23:45Alan has talked about.
- 23:47Are there any, you've shared so much.
- 23:50Is there anything that you would love to leave our audience with today?
- 23:55A nugget that you just wanna, A seed to plant?
- 23:58Yes.
- 23:59Yay.
- 24:00Of course, of course.
- 24:02So let's zoom out.
- 24:04Let's zoom out, right?
- 24:05Yeah.
- 24:05And so imagine that there's the sun and the sun.
- 24:09Represent awareness, represent the diva.
- 24:14I represent whatever you believe about something that is, uh, um, higher vibration than you are.
- 24:21After a spark of that sun, we will, uh, uh, create your spirit.
- 24:26And this is all like, you know, for our listener, it's all like pure love, right?
- 24:30It's a, it's, there's non-duality world and after you've got the sky and after you've got our physical, you and me, right?
- 24:39Right.
- 24:39And so some people, the sky, there are so many clouds.
- 24:42Say, they say there's no sun.
- 24:44The sun doesn't exist.
- 24:46I never seen it.
- 24:47I never felt it.
- 24:48And so what was cloud are made of?
- 24:51They are made of whose negative programming with limiting belief.
- 24:55And so when you start to get rid of some.
- 24:57Clouds in your sky, right?
- 24:59Yeah.
- 24:59And you've got less limiting belief.
- 25:01Now you can have a g glimpses at the sun.
- 25:04Now you can, you can feel the warmth of the sun.
- 25:07And so you get excited because it's, imagine just pure love.
- 25:10It's, it's so great.
- 25:11And so you get more cloud out of your sky.
- 25:15You have, uh, less limiting belief.
- 25:18And after, at one point, like there's one point here, at one point you realize.
- 25:24You get more and more connected to your spirit and at one point you realize what we call the awakening.
- 25:31Mm-hmm.
- 25:31And you awakened to the idea and to the experience, should I say?
- 25:36Mm-hmm.
- 25:36That you are not on flesh and bone.
- 25:38You are not only five or 10% of your mind.
- 25:41You realize that you are truly a spirit living your human being experience.
- 25:45And that's a game changer because after that moment, you cannot go back.
- 25:50Yeah.
- 25:51You'll be changed forever.
- 25:53Love that.
- 25:54Thank you for that visual.
- 25:56I could see it all as you were speaking.
- 26:00Thank you so much for your time, energy, and expertise today.
- 26:05I loved our conversation for the listeners, if there was anything, multiple things that sparked within you, make sure you follow share, like give us reviews.
- 26:18We wanna get this information out far and wide to help our fellow sisters take care of yourselves, everyone, and again.
- 26:26Thank you so much for your time and expertise today, Dr.
- 26:31Ella.