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When Life Falls Apart: The Spiritual Power of Reframing Setbacks & Finding Growth · Eye Opener Society

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  Hello, everyone. Welcome back to Eye Opener Society and welcome back to another
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  Saturday solo episode with me.
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  My name is Gary Dean and I am host of Eye Opener Society.
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  And today I am just kind of reeling in a lot of stuff that's been going on on
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  a personal level and trying to apply it all and trying to figure it all out
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  so that I can actually apply it To the church moving forward To the show,
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  So what I'm going to let everyone know Is that when we have these moments,
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  When things appear To be either falling apart Breaking down Stopping you or slowing you down,
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  That's not necessarily the case. As a matter of fact, it's completely the opposite.
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  You see, the thing is, when these things begin to happen,
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  they're letting you know that there is a shift, and this shift is happening
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  to assist you in going forward.
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  The way our minds are wired, or at least the way we are taught,
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  is to begin to panic whenever something goes down. This is our fight or flight symptoms that we have.
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  So once we are confronted with something that's not going our way,
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  we begin to panic. And that's just normally because the way we are taught.
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  We need to unlearn this. We need to approach the system head on,
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  figure it out, find out what actually is going on. Is it disastrous?
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  Is it just a small problem? How much time is it going to take to get it corrected?
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  These are the questions we need to ask.
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  Further, what we need to really do, and this is very important,
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  is figure out whatever the problem
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  is, we need to figure out exactly what lesson it's trying to tell us.
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  These are the things we need to do. in order to approach,
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  And conquer the problems presented to us.
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  Normally, most people, and myself included, I used to do it as well.
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  You go into some sort of a panic mode.
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  Because you're not looking at the situation. You just see a situation,
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  but you're not trying to figure it out.
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  And the situation is very chaotic in front of you.
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  And so you go right into that panic mode. What am I going to do?
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  And the thing is, when we look at that problem, we look at that chaos, we look at that mess.
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  When we start to put it all together, instead of panicking, oh, here's the situation.
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  Take it in our hands. Look at it. Examine it.
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  See all the connecting dots. What does it mean to me? Why is it happening to me right now?
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  What is the lesson it's trying to teach me?
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  Go over it for a few moments Maybe a couple of days Depending on the severity of the incident.
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  Then you're going to notice When we start analyzing it In a slow methodical way,
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  That big problem Suddenly Is not that bad at all And then you start To take
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  away the lesson that you learn from it, whatever that case may be.
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  You see, I learned a few things with my last few breakdowns.
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  I said, you know, no more.
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  It's just, it doesn't pay. It takes way too much energy. It's way too low vibrational.
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  And so why do it? Why go through that? So I taught myself for now on any problems,
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  they're not a problem. They're just another lesson that I need to learn from.
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  And there's been a few problems, just a few snags, nothing major that has happened,
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  but it's throwing itself right in the middle of my progress moving forward.
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  So rather than panic, rather than get anxiety over it, I'm just figuring out
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  those moments, learning from them, allowing them to teach me.
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  Because I see further growth with these problems.
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  And that's what you need to do. Figure out the growth process with those problems.
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  Because no matter what you do, no matter what, no matter where you are in life,
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  I'm going to tell you want, there's always going to be a situation that's going
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  to arise that you were not expecting.
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  It may or may not be something big, major, or catastrophic, but there will be
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  something that gets in your way at some point.
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  It's inevitable. It's going to happen.
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  Knowing that going forward, you know to wait for those things and say,
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  hey, at some point, something's going to go wrong.
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  So I'm going to have to figure it out I'm going to have to fix it I'm going
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  to have to move around it Whatever the case may be.
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  If we keep ourselves grounded And we learn the lessons from them We're able
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  to move forward And we're able to keep going And we can continue on our journey,
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  I don't think I would want a journey That's always straightforward, narrow, boring,
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  There needs to be some sort of challenges Sometimes our emotions need to be
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  stirred up a little bit To break us away from the situation that we're in And
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  to realize who we are as human beings.
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  And then we readjust ourselves, realign ourselves, continue back onto our path,
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  and move forward, waiting for the next crossroad, the next off-path adventure,
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  whatever that case may be.
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  Don't lose yourself. Don't lose yourself in those panic moments.
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  Keep yourself strong. Keep yourself grounded.
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  Learn from them. And then move on. My name is Gary Dean. This is my Saturday solo episode.
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  Stay tuned for more on our Monday morning episodes with Lizzie and I.
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  We look forward to bringing you a whole lot of great stuff if you haven't heard
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  some great stuff already.
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  And then also join me on my Wednesday night guided meditations.
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  And then pretty soon we're going to have our Thursday shows as well.
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  So I really want everyone to stay tuned and stand by for the church to become active.
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  Maybe a while. I'm looking at one year.
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  That should be the goal because I want to figure out where I'm going to be in one year.
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  And then we're going to license this church. We're going to build the LLC.
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  We're going to be a 501C. Any donations that you give us will be tax deductible.
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  We're looking forward to a lot of things, but mostly we're looking forward to
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  you, the audience, because you are the ones that are going to teach us.
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  You are going to bring the stuff that we need to bring the church to you.
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  So stay tuned for all the great stuff.
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  Check out our website down in the synopsis as well to keep on top of the church.
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  And we'll see you on the next episode. Thank you for joining me.