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The OGs Return to the Bachelor Mansion PART 2 featuring Ben Higgins and Joan Vassos · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: This is Almost Famous podcast. We were sitting here today
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  Speaker 2: with Bob, Trista and Joan. We have an incredible interview
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  Speaker 2: for you. Who knows how long it goes, probably goes
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  Speaker 2: quite a while. Okay, so obviously Bob and Trista host
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  Speaker 2: the Almost Famous og which is just so much fun
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  Speaker 2: to listen too. Tonight we have a whole group, the
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  Speaker 2: whole Golden Bachelor cast is now here eating outside. Here's
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  Speaker 2: the deal. I just want to say this for everybody. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I've done this for seven years now, and I mean
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  Speaker 2: was the Bachelor one point, so I got to do
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  Speaker 2: some cool stuff. Bob, you can agree, Trista, you're the Bachelor.
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  Speaker 2: I was nervous tonight because I've been such a fan
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  Speaker 2: of the Golden Bachelor contestants.
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  Speaker 3: So we have to Yeah, we were like.
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  Speaker 2: I actually like like anxiously like excited because.
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  Speaker 4: Because you were like I mean putting it out there
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  Speaker 4: that you were like I want to host this show.
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  Speaker 2: I had to have lunch with Jesse a week and
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  Speaker 2: after to apologize you did well because I was like, dude,
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't trying to take your job. I just didn't
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  Speaker 2: think you wanted it, Like I didn't. I mean, college football,
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  Speaker 2: How are you going to do college football with a
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  Speaker 2: bachelor season? Like I thought the job was wide open,
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  Speaker 2: regular yeah, like how are you doing all the time?
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  Speaker 2: So I was like, man, I only thought that this
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  Speaker 2: was not a thing you wanted. And I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: if there's an open seat, please consider me, because I
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  Speaker 2: think this show is going to be a hit, which yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it is, it is. I wasn't wrong, It's right, it's
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  Speaker 2: been a hit.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I've said the same thing. I say.
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  Speaker 3: So this is my big thing has been and this
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  Speaker 3: is I've said this since day one. Age appropriate casting are.
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  Speaker 3: My biggest fear of this show was that they were
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  Speaker 3: going to have seventy year old Gary and they were
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  Speaker 3: going to cast a thirty nine year old fifty one
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  Speaker 3: year old just to get this drama that they want
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  Speaker 3: to manufacture. I loved that that was not what happened.
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  Speaker 3: This year. We're watching the show, I'm seeing absolutely stunning
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  Speaker 3: beautiful women who are age appropriate as our NAXT guest.
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  Speaker 3: But it was just lovely to see it, and it
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  Speaker 3: was like, it wasn't the bullshit, no drama that you
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  Speaker 3: see when you're seeing a lot of these shows.
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  Speaker 5: Do you know what I love really nice?
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  Speaker 4: It's I can more relate to you guys and your
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  Speaker 4: plight to find love again than I can to the
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  Speaker 4: twenty six year olds who and it's nothing. It's nothing
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  Speaker 4: against them. I honestly feel like everyone deserves love, but
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  Speaker 4: for me personally, and I feel like a lot of
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  Speaker 4: people around the country, we relate to the fact that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, maybe we don't have a relationship currently, and
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  Speaker 4: we've lived life, and.
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  Speaker 1: We know who we are that we've lived life, so
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  Speaker 1: we had like these huge backstories.
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  Speaker 5: So like the book, yeah, like is like we're over
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  Speaker 5: that you don't like, are.
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  Speaker 1: Like we've had happen now, okay, so like we've you know,
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  Speaker 1: we've lost our spouses and we the women have been
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  Speaker 1: divorced when lady husband had committed suicide. We have kids
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  Speaker 1: who have gone through I had a daughter who was
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  Speaker 1: home the reason I left. She had just had a baby,
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  Speaker 1: she was suffering terrible postpartner depression like that those bullsh
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  Speaker 1: things like you like you looked at me wrong, like
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  Speaker 1: that stuff was not happening in our season. And we
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  Speaker 1: kind of agreed on that right in the beginning. We
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  Speaker 1: kind of came together. The first time we met, we
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  Speaker 1: were like, okay, I too, Like my tribe is here.
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  Speaker 1: I finally found like going through life, going through trying
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  Speaker 1: to find love when you're in your sixties and seventies sucks.
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  Speaker 5: It's not fun. It doesn't happen organically. You have to
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  Speaker 5: make an effort.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of demeaning a little bit being out there,
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  Speaker 1: being in this age and looking for love.
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  Speaker 5: And like I walked into a room and I found
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  Speaker 5: like my tribe.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there were twenty two or twenty one other people
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  Speaker 1: like going on the same journey as me.
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  Speaker 5: And it felt so comforting to have like all.
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  Speaker 1: These people that I could talk to and like kind
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  Speaker 1: of learn from, because like I didn't know.
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  Speaker 5: How to do this. I had no idea.
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  Speaker 1: My husband had passed away, it'll be almost three years now.
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  Speaker 1: At the time when I applied for this, it was.
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  Speaker 5: Only two years.
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't really like gone into the dating game yet,
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  Speaker 1: and I didn't really know how to do it.
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  Speaker 5: And I learned so much from these women.
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  Speaker 1: And they give you so much confidence, Like you gained
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  Speaker 1: the confidence that they have to go out there and
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  Speaker 1: like like you deserve it. They made me feel like
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  Speaker 1: we deserve it. I mean that was kind of the
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  Speaker 1: whole message from this season.
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  Speaker 5: There was hope, Like I love that I have hope.
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  Speaker 4: So Joe.
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  Speaker 3: I've always had this thing about the Bachelor, which I've
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  Speaker 3: said for many years, and it's you know, it's it's
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  Speaker 3: been a thing. Maybe it's just to take the piss
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  Speaker 3: out of myself a little bit, but I've always said, like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, when you look at the show The Bachelor,
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  Speaker 3: it's not about the guy. It really isn't. And you know,
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  Speaker 3: I think you probably know what I'm a say, cause
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  Speaker 3: I've said it to you a million times. But people
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  Speaker 3: always will say, like, what's your advice for the next Bachelor,
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  Speaker 3: And I'll say, well, my advice is it's not about you, right,
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  Speaker 3: It's about a bunch of women who have never in this.
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  Speaker 3: I got to say, to be honest, I don't think
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  Speaker 3: it applies for this for the Golden Bachelor, But in
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  Speaker 3: the past I've always kind of taken the piss out
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  Speaker 3: of myself and saying like, it doesn't matter about the guy.
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  Speaker 3: It matters about a bunch of women who are overachievers,
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  Speaker 3: who have done amazing things in their lives and they
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  Speaker 3: don't you know, see themselves coming in second place to anything.
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  Speaker 3: But watching this season made me rethink this a lot,
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  Speaker 3: because I've always sort of had this dismissive mindset with it,
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  Speaker 3: and I hate to admit it, but it's kind of true.
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  Speaker 3: And watching this season, I saw like genuine friendships and
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  Speaker 3: genuine personalities blossom throughout the course of the show. And
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  Speaker 3: you all are beautiful and intelligent and you know, accomplished
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  Speaker 3: people who have reached this milestone and in your life,
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  Speaker 3: and you're also kind of at this point where it's like,
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  Speaker 3: what's next for me? And so was Gary? What was
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  Speaker 3: next for you? I mean, was that was where you
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  Speaker 3: were going with this?
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  Speaker 5: It's certainly a possibility.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I obviously knew that there were twenty two
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  Speaker 1: of us and only one was going to go home
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  Speaker 1: with him, so twenty one people weren't. I was very
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  Speaker 1: open to the process of like, I didn't want him
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  Speaker 1: to pick me as like a default or because you know,
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  Speaker 1: he didn't have dates with other people. I wanted him
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  Speaker 1: to go and explore a relationship with every single other
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  Speaker 1: person and then if he picked me in the end,
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  Speaker 1: then that was great, or if I picked him in
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  Speaker 1: the end I mean, really, it's a two way street.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you got to pick him too.
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  Speaker 5: And you know, like we're not like.
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  Speaker 1: The young girls they're looking for, you know, fathers. You know,
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  Speaker 1: they have biological clocks.
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  Speaker 5: We don't have that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a husband that's a good provider.
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  Speaker 1: I have my own money. I'm not looking for somebody
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  Speaker 1: who's going to be a good father. My kids are
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  Speaker 1: all grown. I was looking for a true companion. So
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  Speaker 1: I have like kind of different things that I'm looking for,
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  Speaker 1: and I think the same is true, you know, for him.
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  Speaker 1: So he had I mean really twenty two really kind
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  Speaker 1: of different but interesting women that he could have chosen from.
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  Speaker 1: He needed to pick the person that was best for him.
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  Speaker 1: And I didn't know if that was me. But I
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  Speaker 1: could have been me.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't My journey ended released, you know, kind of
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  Speaker 1: pretty pretty quickly, so it could have been me.
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  Speaker 5: And I went there. I went.
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  Speaker 1: I came here thinking that I was of hosibility, right,
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  Speaker 1: And now it's a two way street and it's not
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  Speaker 1: just him picking me, but it's me picking him. And
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  Speaker 1: it's same, you know, with all the women like Nancy
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  Speaker 1: left on her own, I left on my own. You know,
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  Speaker 1: some people left on their own because like maybe he
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  Speaker 1: wasn't the perfect match.
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  Speaker 5: So that's all right. It was okay, it's a two
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  Speaker 5: way street.
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  Speaker 2: There's so much here that we're going to get into.
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  Speaker 2: But was there any point in your experience where you
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  Speaker 2: did think, hey, maybe this isn't right for Gary and myself.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm sure, as you all all know, because you've
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  Speaker 1: done this, you in the beginning, you have very small
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  Speaker 1: little nippets of time with the person, so like you'll
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  Speaker 1: have like two minutes or five minutes, and they're they're quick,
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  Speaker 1: so you have like kind of like superficial conversations with them.
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  Speaker 1: I fortunately got a date with him, and so after
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  Speaker 1: the talent show, I had a date and we had
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  Speaker 1: one of those epic dates where you go on a
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  Speaker 1: yacht and there's a lot of hubbub. We had like
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  Speaker 1: a regular old, boring date where you go and you
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  Speaker 1: sit down at a table and you have dinner. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: as you know, you can't eat, so you sit there at.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, the food smells so good. It was just such
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  Speaker 5: a smell delicious. I was starving.
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  Speaker 4: Now.
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  Speaker 2: That probably is the most common question that I still
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  Speaker 2: get asked is why don't you eat the food? So
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  Speaker 2: when you're an og, the food is brought out, you
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  Speaker 2: ate it. You had a great date, normal people, normal people.
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  Speaker 2: When I was on the show as the Bachelor, the
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  Speaker 2: food would be beautiful, but it had been sitting out
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  Speaker 2: for three hours, right, so they had plated it the
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  Speaker 2: lobsters and the whatever first allergist lobster. So I was
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  Speaker 2: never eating that'sfish guy, Yeah, fish guy, but too, it
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  Speaker 2: has been sitting out forever. Yeah, so we never ate.
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  Speaker 2: I ate in between dates.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we did, so they fed me before I went
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  Speaker 1: on the date. But I like, I sat down and
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  Speaker 1: it was an ars smelled good, so ours was kind
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  Speaker 1: of it came from an Italian restaurant right next door,
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  Speaker 1: so it was like smelling good, it was warm. They
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  Speaker 1: sat us down. I want to eat it so badly,
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  Speaker 1: but we couldn't. But it was okay. So we had
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  Speaker 1: this like actually really good conversation. It was like a
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  Speaker 1: normal date where you sit there for like three hours
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  Speaker 1: and you just talk about life. And we had a
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  Speaker 1: really really good conversation. And at that point I thought, like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I could see myself with him.
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  Speaker 5: Possibly. I knew we had like a kind of a
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  Speaker 5: big age difference. So I'm sixty. He had just turned
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  Speaker 5: seventy two. Okay, so that's like a big age difference.
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  Speaker 5: So I was still my wife and.
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  Speaker 3: I call that a Thursday.
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  Speaker 6: Already said that tonight thirteen years right, so you know,
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  Speaker 6: all right, a right, sorry, Well I that a Tuesday, Tuesday,
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  Speaker 6: And so things can work, obviously, you know they can work.
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  Speaker 1: In certainly at this age, I think that it's more
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  Speaker 1: likely to work because like you don't have to worry
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  Speaker 1: about having kids and.
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  Speaker 5: You know, biological yeah, that kind of crap.
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  Speaker 1: So I did see for the first time actually in
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  Speaker 1: my dating since my husband passed, I.
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  Speaker 5: Kind of felt like I saw a future with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: I did feel like he was a really good guy
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  Speaker 1: and we had a lot in common, and the conversation
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  Speaker 1: was super easy and flowed and like we had, you know,
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  Speaker 1: conversations and you and you probably realized this that you
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  Speaker 1: have these important conversations. You don't just talk about crap
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  Speaker 1: because yeah, you're making you're both making a decision in
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  Speaker 1: thirty days. Yeah, you can't talk about like you know,
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  Speaker 1: what your dog's names, you talk about the weather.
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  Speaker 5: You have to talk about like would you ever move
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  Speaker 5: to my hometown or where do you picture yourself living.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you jump automatically to the stuff you have.
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  Speaker 5: To do, big station. So we had those conversations.
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  Speaker 3: That's important.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, So I felt like I never felt like he
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  Speaker 5: wasn't a good match for me. But my journey ended
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  Speaker 5: so quickly that I don't think I ever got to
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  Speaker 5: the point either way. I never got to like be
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  Speaker 5: all invested or not invested. It was like in limbo
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  Speaker 5: and then it was over.
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  Speaker 4: And I have to say I went. I walked up
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  Speaker 4: to Joan tonight and said, I was so inspired in
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  Speaker 4: a way because watching her leave the show because she
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  Speaker 4: needed to, you know, be there for her daughter. Just
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  Speaker 4: it is how I feel like I would hope I
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  Speaker 4: would have reacted, you know, or would react if that
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  Speaker 4: were my situation. But I think that you know your
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  Speaker 4: value system I really respect and anyway, Yeah, so I
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  Speaker 4: appreciated you.
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  Speaker 5: You would have left because because.
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  Speaker 4: That's what we do. We talked about it.
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  Speaker 3: That's all we do is I.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't even get the thing twice, and I feel I
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  Speaker 1: feel kind of bad that I'm getting credit for this.
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  Speaker 4: People.
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  Speaker 5: You're such a good mom, right, I feel like, yeah, everything,
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  Speaker 5: but you have to.
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  Speaker 4: Give yourself credit, because honestly, there are people out there
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  Speaker 4: that are not good moms and they wouldn't do that.
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  Speaker 4: You need to give yourself credit.
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  Speaker 5: It's true.
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  Speaker 1: So I have gotten some you know, as you know,
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  Speaker 1: you get a lot of messages from people I'm strangers,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of them is like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: you're such a good mom, and I answered, oh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: super thank you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But then I get a message every once in a
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  Speaker 1: while and not rarely, honestly, that my mom was not
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  Speaker 1: there for me when I had and I had this depression,
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  Speaker 1: and my heart goes out with them, out for them,
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  Speaker 1: and I think, you know, they were really ripped off
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  Speaker 1: in the mom category because that's not right, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: that was a lousy mom. So all of us good
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  Speaker 1: or decent moms would do that, and the crappy moms didn't,
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  Speaker 1: and that's they got, you know, feel bad for them.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do some different I want to dive into Joan.
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  Speaker 2: I have some really if you're okay with it, like
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  Speaker 2: more like specific questions. But I want to keep Bob
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  Speaker 2: and Tristy here for the next twenty thirty minutes. We're
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  Speaker 2: going to do a crossover it's going to be almost
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  Speaker 2: famous OG and almost famous here with Joan. We'll be
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  Speaker 2: back with more.
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