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Reinvention is allowed (S5) S24:E4 Tuesday · Inspirations for Your Life

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All right, everyone.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life.
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This is a series or season five and
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it's episode.
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Yes, it's actually show 24 and it is
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episode number four.
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It's Tuesday.
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Reinvention is allowed, folks.
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Yes, it is.
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So welcome, everyone, to the Inspirations for Your
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Life show.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student and
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a grateful published author and a passionate lifelong
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learner.
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Today, I'm stepping into a truth that can
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completely transform your life.
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Reinvention is allowed.
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Yes.
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Amidst what other people are telling you that
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it's not, I'm here to tell you it
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is allowed.
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You don't have to stay who you were
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last year.
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Nope.
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Growth means evolution, not loyalty to an outdated
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version of yourself.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, you can outgrow
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versions of yourself that were built just to
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survive.
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Survival got you here, but it is not
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where you're meant to stay.
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That's the truth.
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And changing your mind is a sign of
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growth, not hypocrisy.
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It shows awareness, reflection and courage.
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But a lot of people, you know, they
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get stuck in that corner, they get stuck
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in where they want to go.
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They don't realize that they actually have the
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power to adjust.
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They're too busy, well, paying attention to people
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around them.
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People that may not even have their greatest
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interest at heart.
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So I think that's an important thing for
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us to understand.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, you are allowed
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to pivot careers, to change your mind.
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Even if you invested years in a different
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path, time spent learning is never wasted and
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can help you along the path you choose
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to go.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, you can shift
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communities when your environment no longer aligns with
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your vision.
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It happens.
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Energy matters more than the familiarity that you
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have.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, a lot of
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people get stuck because, well, they feel that
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they don't have a way to change.
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They don't feel that they have a way
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to grow.
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And I'm here to tell you, ladies and
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gentlemen, that you can grow, that you can
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change.
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It's just that there's a lot of naysayers
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out there and these naysayers will keep you
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from becoming a better version of yourself.
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And we need to basically stop paying attention
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to them.
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Ladies and gentlemen, your past choices do not
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cancel your future options.
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Let me say that again.
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Your past choices do not cancel your future
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options.
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Your past choices do not cancel your future
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options.
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They actually inform you and they do not
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define you.
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Many people think that where they've been or
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where they've gone is the only place they
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could be.
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And I'm here to tell you that no,
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that is not true at all.
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But a lot of people get stuck with
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that story.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, old friendships can
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expire without anyone being the villain.
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You know, maybe you drift apart because, well,
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you just do.
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Life change, people's likes, differences change.
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And that can be emotional for a lot
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of people.
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The most important thing is to recognize it,
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not chastise yourself or others for it.
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Recognize it and move on.
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Sometimes, ladies and gentlemen, people grow in different
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directions.
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They grow out of love.
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They grow out of friendship.
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It's not a great thing to happen, but
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it does happen sometimes.
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And I think if we are not so,
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let's say, married to a situation, we can
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understand why and just move on.
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Instead of, oh, my gosh, this is where
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we are.
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But we can do more than that, guys.
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It's just we get stuck in a certain
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position and that position holds us back.
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And the position keeps us from, well, getting
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to higher ground, to better territory.
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I think that's really what it's about.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, as I said,
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people do grow in different directions and you
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are allowed to want different things now.
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Nothing wrong with that.
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Your desires will evolve and change as your
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awareness expands.
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And I think that's the greatest thing of
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life is that as we grow and as
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we learn more, our likes and dislikes, they
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change.
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That's the whole point of, you know, having
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freedom, freedom of choice.
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And I've said it's okay to do this
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as long as you don't harm, hurt, despair,
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or basically hurt anyone in any way, including
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physically, mentally, or spiritually.
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You don't, ladies and gentlemen, have to keep
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playing a role that drains you.
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I know so many people that are locked
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in this prison and they wish they could
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get out.
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They can.
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If it costs you your peace, it's too
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expensive.
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And why do you keep playing that role?
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Why do you keep saying it's okay when
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really, guys, it's not okay?
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Because each day that you continue to go
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on with that story, a story that you
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don't enjoy or love, it probs you of
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who you're meant to be.
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Ladies and gentlemen, reinvention can be quiet.
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You don't need to announce your growth to
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validate it.
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Many people think you got to get on
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the top of a big building.
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You don't.
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Growth that's quiet will have a lot of
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power down the road.
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People will recognize it.
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But you don't do it for people recognizing
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it.
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You do it because it's the right thing
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for you.
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And I know so many people that they
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just pretend to go a certain way.
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Why?
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Because they think they can.
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Because they think it'll be okay.
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And that's a big problem for a lot
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of people.
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You know?
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And these people don't get the fact that's
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what it's about.
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They don't get it.
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And I think sometimes people think there's no
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way to change.
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But there are many ways to change.
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Many, many ways.
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So, ladies and gentlemen, you can be a
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beginner, again, at any age or stage in
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your life.
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Starting fresh is a sign of strength.
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It's not weakness.
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I don't know if you know this, ladies
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and gentlemen, but you are not too much.
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You may simply be in an environment that
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cannot match your capacity.
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And then it's time to change, right?
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We've all heard the story of the fish,
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right?
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The fish that's in the, let's say, the
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aquarium.
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And the fish can't grow that well.
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But when the fish is in this huge
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aquarium or in this huge aquapond, it grows
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bigger.
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It becomes more.
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Same thing happens with you and with your
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mind.
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When you put yourself into a small, little,
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compartmentalized area, you stay locked and stuck.
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But when you open up and you have
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more room to spread your wings, life can
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really emerge and change.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, your new boundaries
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will confuse people who benefited from the old
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ones.
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Because, well, they like the fact that you
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were just there.
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That you were just, well, manipulating yourself so
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that they could get, well, the bigger end
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of the stick.
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You see, that confusion is not your responsibility.
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And a lot of people will be sad
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with you because you changed.
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But that change is actually one of the
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best things you could have ever done.
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See, people will not tell you when something
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is wrong for you.
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If it's working for them, if it's helping
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them in their life.
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Some people are selfish.
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It's not everybody.
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But I want you to be aware of
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the fact that these things happen in life.
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And when they happen, this is your cue
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to say, wait a minute, am I going
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down the right path?
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Or am I just eluding myself and basically
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depleting my own energy, my own inner battery?
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, you don't need
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everyone's approval to evolve.
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Many people think you do.
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I know I used to believe you do.
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You do not need other people's approval.
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Approval is optional.
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Alignment is essential.
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If you get approval and there's alignment, great.
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If you don't get approval and you have
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alignment, that is the key.
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Alignment is what you are moving in sync
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with.
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The choices you make.
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The people you connect with.
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And that's about the energy that you have
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and the energy that you basically radiate out.
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You know, you can change your style every
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day.
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Your story.
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And even your standards.
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Reinvention touches every layer of your life.
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Not just one layer, guys, but every single
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layer.
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And I think that's hard for a lot
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of people when they realize, oh my gosh,
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my life is suddenly going to change.
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Now what do I do?
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People get very scared with the fact that
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that happens.
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And when that happens, people just get a
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little bit crazy.
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And I say they get crazy because of
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what's going on.
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And what's going on is this whole key
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that you're being, well, fenced in.
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And you're probably being fenced in against your
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own will because something is working for someone
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else.
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So you keep doing it because it's keeping
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them happy.
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But is it depleting your energy?
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Is it depleting your energy and your resources?
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It is okay, ladies and gentlemen, if your
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old self would not recognize you.
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That means you have grown beyond the limitations
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that you once had.
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People that believe it's about your past.
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People that believe it's about what you can
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do for them.
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That's a problem.
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That's just going to burn you out.
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Healing, ladies and gentlemen, will change your personality.
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It's not easy to accept healing if you've
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never had it before.
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You see, you become calmer, clearer, and more
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intentional with every bit of healing that happens.
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But the first time you get healed, you're
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like, oh my gosh, what do I do?
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How do I respond?
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What do I say?
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I think that's a big challenge for a
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lot of people because they don't know what
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to say.
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They don't know where they're supposed to be.
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They don't understand that even though lots of
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people around them are happy, they're depleting their
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own energy.
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And sometimes when people realize this, it's way
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too late.
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They burn down so deeply.
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And that burnout hits them all of a
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sudden.
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But it's not about something that just hits
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them.
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It's been slowly robbing them their entire time.
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand that whole concept.
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Reinvention, guys, it's not betrayal.
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Okay?
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It is alignment with who you are and
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who you are becoming.
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And I think whenever there's any kind of
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change, people, they fight it.
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They're like, well, maybe I shouldn't go this
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way.
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Maybe I shouldn't do this because it's not
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what other people want.
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I got news for you.
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What other people want may not be the
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best for you.
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You are allowed to delete old chapters in
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your life.
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Not everything deserves a sequel.
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And you can move from people-pleasing to
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self-respect.
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I know I was a people-pleaser for
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many years.
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And all I found out is that it
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burned me out.
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And that the people I was pleasing weren't
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even reciprocating.
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You see, that's a shift that will redefine
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your entire life.
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But this doesn't happen overnight.
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This happens when you get in alignment.
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And when you get in alignment, it's like
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you start to see things differently in your
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life.
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You start to notice things that maybe weren't
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there before, right?
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And not saying that they're bad or anything
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like that or even they're good.
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But what we are saying is that they
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are depleting your precious energy.
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Your precious energy.
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That's what they're depleting.
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Your precious energy.
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You don't have to explain every change you
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make.
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No.
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Not everyone is meant to understand your journey.
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And not only are they not meant to
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understand it, some people may not like your
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journey.
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That's perfectly okay.
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And it's not rude if people don't like
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your journey.
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You move through life based on the things
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that make the most sense for you.
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And your identity, guys, is just a draft.
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It's not a finished product.
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It's the initial essay.
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It's the initial letter.
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You are constantly editing and refining who you
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are.
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And if you think that you're going to
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be done tomorrow, you're not.
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It's going to keep going again and again
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and again.
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But I think we need to be kind
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to ourselves.
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A lot of times when people hear this,
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they're like, oh, my gosh, what am I
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going to do?
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And then they get very abrupt with themselves.
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And they treat themselves in a manner that
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is harsh.
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I said to you guys once before, if
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you cannot be kind to yourself, you're never
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going to be able to be kind to
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others.
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And I think that's a huge thing that
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most people will never, ever get.
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They never, ever will get that whole concept.
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Be kind to yourself.
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Love yourself.
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Even if other people around you don't.
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You'll find the right crew that will.
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Growth will cost you comfort.
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But comfort has already been costing you your
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potential.
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And I've said to you many times before,
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you have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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It's not painful.
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But it is uncomfortable.
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And it's something that's going to make you
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say, well, gee, should I go down this
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path?
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Or should I do something else?
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People don't like what I'm doing.
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But it might be the best thing for
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you.
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You might be with the wrong group of
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people.
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You know, ladies and gentlemen, you are allowed
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to reset your life midweek.
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Not just on January 1st.
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You can reset it any time you want.
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If it makes sense for you and if
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it's going to help you get aligned with
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the things that you want in life.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, change does not
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follow a calendar.
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Even though many people think it does, like
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open enrollment, you can only do it certain
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times a year.
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Your life is not about a calendar.
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So if you need to reset it, go
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ahead and reset it.
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And be kind to yourself about it.
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You know, love yourself.
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The more you can do this, the more
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that you're going to get confidence in yourself.
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The more you're going to get confidence.
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You see, you can be grateful for your
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past and still choose to leave it behind.
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Well, John, that's a real interesting conundrum.
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Yes, it is.
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Maybe you had a situation with a friend.
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Maybe you had a falling out with them.
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You could be grateful for the friendship that
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you had while you two were together.
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You can still choose to leave that part
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of your life behind you.
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You could choose to be grateful for maybe
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a coworker that worked with you.
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Suddenly there was a falling out or maybe
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they left.
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You could be grateful for the time you
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had together.
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And I think when we talk about being
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grateful, this gets a lot of people to
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think, well, why should I be grateful if
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I'm not getting what I want?
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I know.
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So when you're grateful, you actually cause certain
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endorphins to release in your brain and body.
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And that gets you to have more confidence.
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The more confidence gets you to think differently.
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It gets you to act differently.
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It gets you to talk differently.
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It gets you to respond differently.
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But it's lonely there.
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It's lonely because you might be the only
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one that's doing it in the beginning.
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And you figure, oh, my gosh, I don't
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have any company.
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I don't want to do this if I
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don't have company.
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Don't fall into that trap.
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Be grateful for it.
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And leave it in your past.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, appreciation does not
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require attachment.
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When you are grateful for something, you don't
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have to be attached to it.
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You're just grateful that it's in your life.
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You're grateful that it happened to you or
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that you received it.
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Reinventing yourself, it's an act of self-compassion.
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We've been talking about this for a while,
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that you've got to be kind to yourself.
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You've got to love yourself.
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When you love yourself, other people will start
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to love and like you as well.
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Reinventing yourself is an act of self-compassion,
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and it is choosing growth over stagnation.
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It's going to get uncomfortable sometimes.
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Deal with it.
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The people meant for you will adapt or
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appear as you evolve.
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Don't think you need to adjust to people.
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The right people will show up and align
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with the energy that you put out.
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Alignment attracts alignment.
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It does.
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It's like a magnet, right?
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Positive and negative.
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Opposites attract.
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You owe your future self more than you
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owe your old image.
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Your future self is more worthy than your
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old image.
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Your potential deserves priority.
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Even if you don't think it does, it's
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what's going to get you through life.
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You are allowed, ladies and gentlemen, to leave
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any story where you are only surviving, not
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truly living.
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I know that's hard for a lot of
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people when they can think about that moment,
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when they can think about that thing, right?
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But it's true.
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You are allowed to leave any story where
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you are only surviving, not truly living.
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Let me say that again.
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You're allowed to leave any story where you
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are only surviving, not truly living.
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What does that mean?
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You're allowed to leave any story where you
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are only surviving.
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In other words, if you're only surviving and
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you're not really living and embracing life, I've
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said you can either live or you can
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thrive, right?
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Surviving is the beginning, but it's not the
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part that we get excited about.
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You want to live.
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You want to embrace life.
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Life is meant to be experienced fully.
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Sometimes there's some bumps along the road.
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You can start again any time you want,
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this time with more awareness, more strength, and
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even more intention.
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And we've learned before that intention is what
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makes us achieve our goals.
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Reinvention is not starting over.
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It's starting smarter.
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It's figuring out, well, what worked?
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What should I do this time?
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So I'm kind of restarting, but I have
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the knowledge of what worked, and then I
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can a6 all the stuff that didn't work.
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So reinvention is not starting over from scratch.
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It's not.
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It's taking everything you've learned and only applying
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the stuff that worked and leaving the stuff
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that didn't out.
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It's what I like to call starting smarter.
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So the amount of time it's going to
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take you to get up to where you
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need to be is going to be a
23:41
lot quicker because now you're going to basically
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blow past all those pitfalls.
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In closing, ladies and gentlemen, this week is
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all about more than just inspiration, if you
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didn't know it.
23:57
It is about release, movement, truth, perspective, proof,
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hope, and renewal.
24:09
You see, one of the key things in
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life is to learn how to read the
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room.
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Read your life and choose the version of
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you that rises.
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Sometimes the version that rises may not have
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any cheerleaders or anybody supporting you in the
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beginning, but that's okay.
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Because, ladies and gentlemen, reinvention is not something
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you wait for.
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No.
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It is something you decide internally.
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What makes you do that?
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A gut reaction.
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I said before, if you keep doing the
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same things over and over and over again
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many times, what's going to happen?
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You're going to help somebody else, but you're
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also going to deplete the energy that you
25:01
need to keep your cup full.
25:04
How can we ever help others if our
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own cup is less than full?
25:10
Some people run that cup down to empty.
25:15
What happens if you run your gas tank
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down to empty?
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The car stalls.
25:21
In some of the newer technology cars, if
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you run your car just before empty, even
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though there's enough fuel in there to get
25:31
the car to go, if it doesn't have
25:33
just a little bit more, all of your
25:35
electronic systems are going to fail because the
25:40
sensors are going to detect there's no fuel.
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That's going to give you all kinds of
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errors.
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How do you solve it?
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Put more fuel in the car.
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But if you have no fuel, how do
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you move past that?
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It's a perfect example of thinking if we
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just have a little in our cup, we
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have enough.
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No.
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We need to have full cups.
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That's not being selfish.
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That's being loving to ourselves because when we
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have full cups, it's only then that we
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can choose to help others.
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If our cup is never full, we're barely
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going to be able to survive, let alone
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thrive.
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That won't even be in the picture.
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We're barely going to be able to survive.
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So you can live a life of surviving
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or thriving.
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I choose thriving.
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But you can only thrive when you are
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in alignment with the things in your life.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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And we were talking about reinvention.
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It's allowed.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Remember, you're allowed to evolve.
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And your next version is waiting.
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You can never appreciate or receive that version
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if your cup is not full.
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So I want you to do what you
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need to do to keep that cup full.
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Have a thriving life.
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And then if you choose, you can help
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others.
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Have yourself a great rest of your day
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or great rest of your evening.
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Remember, reinvention is allowed.
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Have a good one, everyone, and be well.
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That's just it.