Latest / Life Rescue with Lisa Dwoskin / Finding The Light Through Life's Darkness: Lessons From Suffering, Faith & Healing
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- Lisa Dwoskin: Hello and welcome back to Life Rescue Podcast with Lisa. I hope everybody's having a beautiful morning, day, evening, wherever you are in the world. I want you to take a long deep breath, breathing in. Beautiful positive energy. Exhaling any negative energy. I'm going to put my hands in prayer position. Close my eyes for a moment and I'm going to place an intention for this podcast because it's a really important one. And I want my higher power, God, my energy, the universe to put some words into my message. So go ahead and place your intention for today. Ask for it, believe in it, receive it, and then breathe in deeply. Hold your breath, exhale fully high. Just be still for a moment. And then open your eyes and we are ready to go. Don't forget if you would like to talk to me, send me your story, a message, a question, 754-222-4413. I would love to hear from you. Thank you all for watching my podcast for all the comments, for the comments on all my shorts. I greatly appreciate it. I am filled with gratitude for all of you. And I'm going to keep doing this because it is delivering a beautiful message to people out there in need. And if I help one person, then that's all I really want. And then that person will help another person, and so on, and so forth. And it becomes a domino effect. So I'm going to jump right into today's podcast. And it is about when life hurts, find the lesson. the light and your way forward. So I have been watching Jay Shetty, which I absolutely love, his podcast. Every night I'm watching a new one on Netflix now that it's on there. And I watched the one that he interviewed Madonna and Madonna's Kabbalah. And that really moved me tremendously because her message really resonated with me because As a y young girl, I followed her. I love her music, still do, love her. And what I loved about her most is she is a true and authentic soul. She didn't pretend to be somebody she wasn't. She was who she was. She is who she is. She's not going to try to pretend to be somebody else. And either you love her or you don't. And she is kind of r gotten to her. point in her life right now where she's at peace with her inner self, her love, her self-worth, her self-esteem, her self-respect for herself. And that's what we humans are all striving for. When we're younger, we always care so much about what the other person thinks about us. Especially now in our day and age with social media, everyone wants likes, they want followers, they want praise, they want all this external factors that come from others. But really the most important thing is what we feel within ourselves and what love we give ourselves and the worth that we feel within ourselves. And that's what today's podcast is about. And I like to write a lot of notes because I know I go off on stories and tangents and then I'm gonna lose your attention. So I'm wrote down a lot of notes because I have a lot of to cover on this subject and it really touches my heart because I myself listen to the words that I'm speaking to all of you. And in turn it helps me as well. So let me just start with this. No one escapes pain. And Madonna said this so beautifully. So did Jay Shetty and so did the Kabbalah instructor. Which I forgot his name, I apologize. I'll look it up. No one in this world escapes pain. We're all humans trying to live this beautiful spiritual life. We all have pain. Some have more, some have less, but everyone suffers with something in their life. And this is what I do really want to express to all of you. We have loss, we have rejection. We have failures, multiple failures, disappointment. We have heartbreak, fear, grief. Everyone experiences grief. No one could escape death of loved ones and of yourself. Difficult relationships. Moments when we feel completely lost and in the dark. So sometimes we look at other people. And we think they have it all together, right? Like Facebook, Facebook, social media, it's all fake. People are showing their best selves or fake selves. But the truth is every human being is experiencing suffering at one point of their life or multiple points. The difference is not whether we will face the darkness. It's what we choose to do within the darkness. And that really resonates with me so much because what I teach my clients as well as myself, that when the darkness takes over, embrace it, feel it, live in it, but then r release it and let it go and move on. Because if you stay in the darkness, then you're not living your life. You're living in the past, you're worrying about the future. So being present is so important and embracing the darkness, but then releasing it. What my own life has taught me is I have been, when I reflect back on my life, I didn't understand what was going on while I was living in the darkness, but now I can see what it taught me from. My past to my present. And am I still learning? Of course I am. Every single day we're on a journey towards bettering ourselves. This is the message I want to get across to all of you listening. Are you on a journey of bettering yourself every single day? Because if you're not, that is your number one challenge that you need to face and overcome. Because you need to be on a journey of bettering yourself. And I'm going to go over different tools of how we can do that, which is very important. Hope and faith and love. So many different factors that factor into all of this on this podcast. Okay, so what I want to do is teach all of us, including me, strength. I want to teach us all about boundaries, about self-love, who we are, redirecting us. So when you want something so bad and it doesn't happen right away, it's God's way or the universe, whatever your higher power you believe in, redirecting you or making you wait and be patient until it's divinely ready to be yours. So, whatever it is that you're striving for, like me with my life rescue TV show, I have everything done. I have my six episodes. I love it. I know it needs to get out there, but I haven't found the right platform for Life Rescue TV show to put out to the world. And yes, it frustrates me very much. But instead of dwelling on it every single day, every week, every month. I've decided to still work on it, but not weigh myself down and every day wonder why it's not happening and how could it not be happening and what more can I do and make myself crazy. I've kind of released it to the universe, to God, to my higher power, and I believe that it will happen. I I know that it will happen. It's just not happening in my timing, it's happening when the divine is ready. for me to find the perfect home for it to bring it out there so the world could see. So we all are learning, we all are growing. We're learning patience. That's such an important thing. And we have to have faith. That's huge. And we have to understand we are not the only ones suffering. Everyone out there is suffering. And when we can take ourselves out of our own suffering, And help another, then it makes the world a better place. And in turn, it helps us within ourselves become better people. That is super important. Sometimes the darkness is not the end of the story. Sometimes the darkness is what teaches us to recognize the light. Now I wrote that down as my notes, but I want to change that. Not to sometimes. The darkness is never the end of the story. The darkness is what teaches us to recognize the light, and we all go through the darkness. Every trial and tribulation that we go through can teach us something. Okay, so what is this experience trying to teach me? So, like what I just said about my TV show, I believe it's teaching me patience. And it's teaching me that there is a higher power that has my life in perfect divine order. And if I rush things, then I'm changing the trajectory of the energetic force, and I'm trying to make it my way under my control. But if I release my control to the divine, to my higher power, and I have more patience. Then I know whatever unfolds for me and whatever is ready for me will happen in divine timing. That is such an important lesson that I'm learning, and I hope you all learn. Be patient and have a lot of faith because what is meant to be will be for you. So, what can I learn from this? Is this making me stronger? ⁓ let me tell you something. I am so strong. You see these muscles right here? No, every day I get stronger. And that is why I keep moving forward. I keep bettering myself. I keep growing. I keep learning. And it's not easy. And you know, you get knocked down, you get back up. You get knocked down, you get back up. I could get knocked down 500 times. I'm still going to get back up. Because I have faith in a higher power. I have faith in myself and I know that what's destined for me will be. So make sure you're learning a lesson, but you're growing stronger, not weaker. You like that proper English? Life ain't easy. It's not easy. Although you can't throw in the towel. Life is a beautiful gift, it's a blessing. Health. I have my health. Our kids are healthy. My divine life partner is healthy. My parents are healthy. His parents are healthy. My brother's healthy. I have a beautiful new puppy giving me love. Like there's so many blessings in my life that even when things go wrong, I still find the blessings and everything. And that's what I want to teach you. Be grateful for what you have right now in this moment. Be present and enjoy this moment because you're never gonna have this moment again. Learn from every mistake that you go through. Is this showing me something I need to change? So, yes, of course, there's always things we need to change, all of us, whether we want to admit it or not, we all need to grow, we all need to change, we all need to be better, nobody's perfect. Okay, so yes. What do I need to change? How can I be better? So I've learned how to be more peaceful. I used to get really heated and angry and and maybe not lash out at others, but the anger would build up inside of me and fester. And now I'm learning how to work through the anger and and channel it into more peace. And what has really helped me is yoga and meditation. That for me, I'm gonna talk about a little bit later, has changed my life. I highly recommend for all of you breathing, like I just did, breathe in, beautiful positive energy. Exhale anything that is no longer serving your highest good. So important. Okay, so is this person or situation? Teaching me what I will no longer accept. This is a huge one. Let me repeat this one. Is this person or situation teaching me what I will no longer accept? Okay, so insanity, the definition of insanity, repeating the same patterns over and over and over again that are not making you happy or The people around you happy or the situation. This is very hard for me because I am a very dedicated, loyal, loving friend, companion, family member, mother, spouse, whatever it is. So I tend to put things under the rug and keep sweeping them under the rug. But then there comes a point where you can no longer accept the situation or the people around you. This could be friends and family as well. Whatever situation is going on with you, I'm just saying in my past, I let things go on too long that were not healthy for me. And I no longer do that because if I'm not okay within myself, no one around me will be okay. So you need to know what you can accept and what you can accept and what is best for you. And that's not a selfish thing. Putting yourself first, your well being is not a selfish thing because if you're not doing well and you're not okay, and you're a mother, a spouse, a friend, a teacher, whatever, you have to take care of you. Otherwise you're gonna be underground and you're not gonna be helping anybody. So definitely put up the boundaries, know what's best for you, and don't accept what you no longer can accept. Is this closed door actually redirecting me? This is very important. Is this closed door actually reject redirecting me? Not rejecting. So that's the thing. When a door closes, it doesn't mean you're being rejected. You know how many doors have closed on me? I've reached out to Oprah Winfrey, Tyler Perry, Hallmark, Lifetime. And you know, it's not that they're slamming the door and saying, ⁓ your show is terrible. I'm rejecting you. No. There's ways you gotta get an agent, you gotta get a manager, you have to have this, you have to have experience, you have to be a celebrity, whatever it is. Or you're you need to polish this, you need to change this, you need to better this. So I don't take any of those as, ⁓ my God, it's a rejection. I'm not good enough. I'm not ever gonna make it. No, it's redirecting me to perfect whatever it is I'm doing a little better than the way it was, or maybe I need to do point A before I could get to point B. So always remember when one door closes, another door opens, and have faith. That it is not reject rejection, it's redirection. That's a tongue twister. This doesn't mean you have to be grateful for the pain while you're in it. You can acknowledge that something hurts and still eventually find meaning in what you've experienced. So I'm not saying, ⁓ be grateful for the pain, but be grateful for your life and it'll ease the pain. For whatever it is you're suffering with in your life. Okay, closed doors may be protection or redirection. And I already kind of just went over that. Not every door that closes is a punishment. Sometimes a closed door is protection for your well-being, for your higher self. Sometimes God is moving you away from something you are desperately trying to hold on to because He can see what you cannot see. So have faith in your higher power, whatever it may be. If you keep trying to force a relationship to work that's not working, that's a problem, a challenge. If you keep chasing a job that you can't grab hold on. Let it go. Keep trying to make something happen. Keep asking why isn't this working? Those are ways that you are going to suffer. Stop asking why this isn't working, why this isn't happening. Stop chasing a job that isn't coming. Stop forcing a relationship that isn't working. Because all of those things are going to continue to make you suffer. What you need to do is let go and let God. And that's the hardest thing to do because we human beings want to control everything. And I know I'm an A-type personality who loves to try to control. But the older I get and the wiser I've become, the more I'm letting go and releasing and not trying to force everything that I want in my fingertips and my power. I'm trying to have faith. That there is a higher, I know there's a higher power, and I need to have faith that everything will work out exactly the way it's meant to be. Faith, prayer, and meditation. So this is powerful, and I really want you all to pay pay very close attention. I pray every single day. When I wake up in the morning, I pray. When I go to bed, I pray. Throughout the day I like to read positive affirmations, whether it's from a Bible, whether it's from a Torah, whether it's from a Buddha, whatever it is, read something that gives you faith and pray to your higher power. Because when I pray, God is listening and I meditate every single day, whether it's three minutes or sixty minutes, every time I meditate and I'm quiet and I'm still, I hear God answering my prayers or giving me guidance. And it doesn't happen until I'm still and quiet. And that's mostly when I go to my hot yoga class. At the end, we have what's called Shavasana, where you close your eyes and you just open your mind, your heart, your body, your spirit for healing, for the higher power to talk to you, to guide you, and you're just still and you're just quiet and listening as much as you can. Because sometimes we have so many thoughts that is like it's called. Chitta C H I T A from the Buddha that's that constant chatter. Be still. And you will hear God's answer, your higher powers answer. I love that. I love meditating. I love to quiet my mind. I love to be still as much as possible. You don't have to go through everything alone. This is very important for mental health. Talk about I want to talk about the faith, strength. I just did, but Also, besides your faith and your higher power, I want to encourage all of you if you're hurting, if you're suffering, which when you are hurting, when you are suffering, because like I said, we all do reach out to someone because you can't do it alone. No one could do it alone in this world. We all need a coach, we need a therapist, we need a trusted friend, a family member, a spiritual leader. A support group. Everyone needs some kind of guidance. And if you think you can do it on your own, you are wrong, my friend, because you can't. You need support. I myself am a life coach. I'm a personal trainer. I'm an empath. I'm a healer. I help people. Well, guess what? I can't help myself. I can to a point, but I have a therapist. I reach out to her. I email her. I call her. I'm actually have an appointment set up. with her for next week because I'm going through something. So I need help. I reach out. I used to reach out to family members. I don't anymore because I don't like to share everything with them. And if they're going through something or they give you the wrong opinion, they can be biased, you know. Be careful with who you reach out to. Friends, certain friends are judgmental. So I recommend a life coach or a therapist, as well as God Faith, your higher power. So I want to quickly before I say goodbye to all of you, is go through some ways that I like to get through difficult situations. Stop and breathe. Positive energy in, negative energy out. I am constantly taking those long deep breaths in four to five seconds, holding my breath. Releasing seven to eight seconds on the exhalation. That's the most important. Let it go. That breath work changes the nervous system, brings you peace, love, and light. Journal, write, write down. I haven't done that in a while. I've been thinking about it a lot, and I need to start doing it because writing gets You to express everything that you're feeling inside, pen to paper. I love that. Don't type it out on your computer. Pen to paper is so much more personable. Ask better questions. Instead of asking what is happening to me, ask what I can learn from this. That is the key. What can I learn? How can I grow? Move your body. You know, I'm always talking about exercise. Get your body moving. Meditate, pray. I already talked about that. Don't isolate yourself. Reach out to someone you trust. Too many people going through mental health problems. Isolate themselves. That is the worst thing they can do. You have to reach out to someone, whoever it is. Don't isolate yourself. You can't work through things by yourself. Focus on one day at a time. I love this one. I have a very close friend who's going through a horrible situation with her husband, stage four cancer, and my heart hurts for her. But I remember when I was going through my divorce to my ex husband, she would always tell me every day one day at a time. That's all you can do. Focus one day at a time. And now I tell her this every day. One day at a time is all you can do. Stop regretting about the past, stop worrying about the future. One day at a time, look for the light. Now I like to say, yes, look for the light, meaning be grateful for what you have. Look for the lighter side of life. But I like to say be the light within yourself. So I'm contradicting my own notes, but Look for the light of gratitude, but be the light. Be the light. Today I'm going to sit with a friend who's going through chemo. And guess what? I'm not feeling that great emotionally. I'm going through something difficult right now in my life. But instead of moping around, poor, poor me and being in a not so great mood, I'm gonna go sit with my friend who's actually my ex-husband's wife. That's pretty funny. And I'm gonna cheer her up while she's going through chemo. And doing that is going to make me feel better because I'm out of my mind, my head, my meaningless problems, which aren't meaningless, but they're sure as hell not going through chemo and cancer and all this that she's going through. So do something nice for someone else. Get out of your own way and help others. Raise your consciousness. Raise your consciousness, okay? Meaning your thoughts, your reactions, your patterns, your choices, the energy you bring into relationships. What are you allowing into your life? Raise your consciousness. I like to explain it by get out of your body and be like that spirit in the corner of the room that's you looking at yourself and raising your level of consciousness by being a better person. And and introspect and learning and growing and being a better human, a better spiritual being. Am I and then ask yourself this: Am I reacting from fear or ⁓ am I responding from awareness? So a lot of people, when you bring up things that agitate them or upset them, and we all are guilty of this. When you react to that. Are you reacting from fear or are you responding from awareness? That's a huge one. Am I repeating the same pattern or am I learning a lesson? Because that's huge. If you keep repeating the same pattern over and over without learning a lesson, then you are not growing as an individual. You are not raising your consciousness. You're not growing, you're not being the best version of yourself. So learn from the lessons and stop repeating the same pattern that's hurting you. Am I living from my past or am I consciously creating my future in my present? That's a little bit confusing, but let me explain it. Am I living from my past, which we shouldn't do? Because the past is a past. It's in the review mirror. Let it go. Am I consciously creating my future in the present? Not am I living for when this happens, I'm going to be happy. When I get more money, I'm going to be happy. When I buy that house, I'm going to be happy. When I get the job, when Life Rescue TV show happens, I'm going to be happy. No. Be happy now in the present moment. And then you can create. what is going to happen in the future as long as you're happy within and raising your conscious awareness now in the present. Whatever you are going through today is not your entire story. You may be in a chapter of pain right now, but you are not the pain. You are not the pain. You may be lost right now, but being lost does not mean you will never find your way. The darkness may be part of your journey. But it does not have to be your destination. I love that so much. The darkness may be part of your journey, but it does not have to be your destination. Remember that. You are the light. You don't need to go searching for the light. Although gratitude brings the light, but you are the light. If you are going through something difficult right now, I want you to know you're not alone. You don't have to understand everything today. You don't have to have all the answers today. Just keep going one day at a time. Keep breathing in. Beautiful positive energy. Exhaling out that negative energy and keep seeking help from others. It's so important. Keep your heart open to the possibility that what feels like an ending may actually be your new beginning. And that's a very beautiful point. Like, even though I keep talking about my life rescue TV show, I know it's gonna happen, I don't know when it's gonna happen. There's another door in my life opening for my career that is just as beautiful as the TV show. And it's redirecting me right now. Doesn't mean I'm giving up on my dream. It doesn't mean I'm giving up on Life Rescue TV. It just means, excuse me, I'm being redirected to go this way before I go this way. So open your heart, open your mind, let go and let God surrender to what you can't control and have faith. That's what's meant to be will be. Remember this, and this is all I have to say for this podcast. Thank you all for joining me, for listening. If you have any comments or anything you want to share, don't forget 754-222-4413. Call me, text me, leave me a message. Like this podcast, share it with someone who needs it. Comment on here. I love your comments. And this is my closing to all of you. Again, I said this, but I'm going to repeat it. When I pray, God is listening. When I meditate, I become still enough to listen back from my higher power, from God, from the universe. Sometimes the answer doesn't come as a voice, sometimes it comes as peace. Clarity, a closed door, a new direction, or the strength to finally let go of what is no longer serving my highest good. So remember that. Have a beautiful and blessed day. Everybody, Namas Day, my soul recognizes your soul. We're all one in this beautiful collective universe. Stay strong. Stay faithful and never give up hope. And if you need anything, please reach out via text, message, comment. I will always respond to all of your messages. Thank you all and have a beautiful day. Bye.