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One of a narcissist's favorite games · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about one of a narcissist favorite games to
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  play the hypothetical game Y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yep, Yep, Yep.
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  Y'all the good old hypothetical game.
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  Have you ever played this game before with a narcissistic
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  person? You know, I know, we all do.
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  They say, OK, yeah, so let me say this.
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  Just because you play hypothetical the hypothetical
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  game or just because you always just because you might ask a
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  hypothetical, it doesn't automatically make you a
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  narcissist. Doesn't make them a narcissist.
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  Let me get that out of the way, but this is one of a narcissist
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  favorite games to play. It's like they get to confess
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  the things through hypotheticals.
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  They they narcissistic people. I say I tell this to people all
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  the time. Narcissist.
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  A lot of them want to confess to you.
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  They want to tell you what they are doing.
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  They want to tell you what they are getting away with, what they
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  feel like they they've gotten away with.
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  They want to tell you this stuff?
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  Yeah. It's a it's it's damn near a
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  craving. I crave to want to do this stuff
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  right. This is where their mind goes.
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  They want to tell you. They want to confess.
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  It's like I got to tell you what I've done wrong so I can get
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  away with it. I need to tell you what I've
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  done. But how do I tell you what I've
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  done but not get in trouble for it?
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  How can I tell you that I've siphoned all the money from the
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  bank accounts and and spent it on, you know, on blow and you
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  know prostitutes or you know, shopping sprees and get my
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  gambling addiction? How do I tell you this without
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  telling you this? How do I tell you that I'm
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  cheating on you with your best friend or with someone from
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  work? How do I do this?
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  How do I tell you this without telling you this, You know?
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  OK, I got it. I can say.
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  What if I can put what if in front of it, I can just say,
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  hey, this is a game we're going to play right now.
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  We'll play Let's play a game right now.
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  Like, what if that stupid look and let me listen?
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  Let me, let me tell you up front, I'm not doing this.
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  What if I was cheating on you with your best friend?
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  I know, it's crazy, right? What?
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  What would you do? What would you do?
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  Oh, that's crazy, right? Yeah.
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  I'm glad I'm not doing that. Blink.
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  Blink. Blink.
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  Blink. Blink.
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  Blink. I'm so glad I'm not cheating on
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  you with your best friend, because they'll be horrible,
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  wouldn't it? Blink.
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  Blink. Blinkity.
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  Blinkity. Blink.
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  Yeah, that makes you feel a certain type of way, doesn't it?
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  Like, yeah. And it's like, yeah.
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  And some of them will take this game to the extreme.
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  They'll get to the point where you're arguing about them
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  actually doing. Are you trying to tell, are you
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  trying to tell me that you're sleeping with my sleeping with
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  my best friend? Is that what you're trying to
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  tell me? No, no, I'm just saying what if
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  I was Is that what you're trying to tell me?
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  Y'all will end up arguing about a hypothetical and later on down
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  the road, guess what happens. You might actually discover that
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  this hypothetical this what if was a confession.
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  It's a game that they love to play.
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  Y'all because it's like I'm just telling you it's this kind of
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  sinister need to let you know that they're doing something
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  especially y'all and this is crazy.
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  This is gonna sound. Yeah, I am fully acknowledging
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  how ridiculous this sounds, but sometimes they think that you're
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  doing the same thing to them. So they think they're just
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  getting ahead of you. Some of them think that they're
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  doing the same thing to them that they're getting you know
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  this you you're doing the same thing to them.
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  So they're getting ahead of you or or or big or capital O,
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  Capital H4 RI mean capital O. We had an H confirm capital O
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  for capital Rs or they it's gonna sound bad again.
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  I already noticed they are punishing you for something and
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  they want to tell you about it. They're getting back at you
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  they're they're they are getting even with you in some way shape
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  or form. They are for they are finalizing
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  A grudge you know they're finishing a grudge up and
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  whatnot. This is what they're doing,
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  right? This is part of the process.
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  This is the mentality. This is the mindset of it right
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  here. You know, this is part of it.
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  Like, that's where the mind goes like they feel like they have to
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  punish you for something that you've done them.
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  They feel like you've wronged them in some way, shape or form,
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  so they have to get back at you, but they need to let you know
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  that they get back at you. They need to let you know that
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  they want up to you. They need to let you know that
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  they took it one step too far. They need to let you know.
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  They need to see how you react. They need to see that they hurt
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  you in some way, shape or form, or the thought of it hurts you.
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  They want to feel your pain sometimes.
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  So they'll tell you, Hey, crazy question, what if?
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  Hypothetically. Hypothetically, Hypothetically
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  speaking, what if I started drinking again and it crashed
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  the car? What happened?
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  Wait, wait, what would happen? Hypothetically speaking?
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  Oh, you'd be angry and say why would you be angry?
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  Yeah. Why would you get so angry at
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  me? Because, like, it's it's a it's
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  a disease. Alcoholism is not just something
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  I chose. It was an disease.
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  Wow, wow, wow. Good thing is a hypothetical.
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  See how you how much you care. You blame me.
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  Wow. Y'all, how many?
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  Like raise your hand. Put the little raised hand emoji
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  in the comment section. If you had somebody play the
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  hypothetical game with you and you come to find out that the
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  craziness that they were saying hypothetically air quotes.
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  It was true. Raise You put your hand raised
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  in the comment section. You don't have to say what they
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  did. I mean you can say what you can
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  say what they did if you want to, but you don't have to say
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  what they did, right. Just like raise you put the
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  little hand raised emoji in the comment section.
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  Let me know. Let's see how many people can
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  stay out. They can help people understand
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  there's a lot of these videos is, you know, broad strokes
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  because I know a lot of people have experienced this
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  hypothetical stuff. Well, they, you know,
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  hypothetically speaking, what if, my friend, what if my dad
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  was to move in with us? How would you feel they test the
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  this is also another way that they test the waters, you know,
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  this is also another way that they test the waters before they
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  break some news to you that they're all something that's
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  already in motion. What would you say?
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  Hey, hypothetically speaking, what would you say if my mom
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  moved in with us? Well, I don't really.
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  I mean, I guess if she the house is kind of small, but I guess if
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  she had nowhere else to go, she could leave her.
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  Oh, good, because she's moving in tomorrow.
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  She's already on her way. What?
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  What if I were to say it? No.
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  Well, good thing you said yes. Don't worry about it.
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  What? That's how they break the news
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  to you. By the hypothetical game.
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  Y'all they these hypothetical games.
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  These games are a way to to dip their toes in, to gauge how
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  you're going to react to them. This is a way for them to kind
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  of, again, y'all for them to get away with some stuff.
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  That's how they want to do. They want to get away with
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  things, you know they do. They want to get away with
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  things. They want to mess with you.
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  They want to do a lot of things right there.
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  They really, really want to, you know, That's what narcissistic
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  people do, I promise. That's what they do.
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  They'll keep messing with you. They'll keep doing weirdo stuff
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  to you. They'll keep, you know, just
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  eating away at you. But yeah, they want to.
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  They want to know how to affect you.
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  And this is what I'm here to. I'm here to raise awareness and
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  some of this hypothetical game. Yeah.
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  Could it be something they've already done?
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  Yeah, it could be something that I've already done that they're
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  confessing to. But it could also be something
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  that they're going to do. They want to see how it's going
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  to affect you first before they follow through with it.
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  Because if you tell, like if they tell you something, if they
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  play the hypothetical game right and they say something to
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  directly to you, and you don't give them the reaction that they
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  want, they'll try to do something else.
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  You mean they might switch their reaction up.
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  They like, they were planning on cheating on you with the the guy
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  from work or the girl from work. But he was like, well, if you
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  cheat on me, I was like, hey, I guess, you know, I wouldn't care
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  because we're not happy anyway. They'd be like, girl, I was
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  planning on it, but now that's not going to affect you.
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  Like I wanted it to. So I need to find something
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  else. Yeah.
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  This how they test the waters. Oh, my goodness.
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  Oh, my goodness. This is the way they test the
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  waters with you. They want to.
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  Yeah. That's why I want, I want, I
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  want, I want to wake up as many people as possible and if you're
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  watching this video and you are one of the people who play the
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  hypothetical game stop playing. Y'all, stop playing.
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  It's time to grow the hell up. Talk.
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  Be open, you got that You got JT damn mouse and speak.
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  Communicate. How you going to how you going
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  to get your needs met if you if you don't communicate.
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  But this is the thing about I wrote, I wrote this about
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  narcissistic people. My profile, they heard you.
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  They just don't care. They heard exactly what you
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  said. They just don't care.
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  And people who, when I wrote that, people were like, damn,
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  Lee, that was harsh. Yeah, sometimes I got to be
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  harsh. Not even.
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  It's not even me trying to be harsh.
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  It's me just being direct. You know, my tonality.
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  Sometimes it comes out as harsh, doesn't it?
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  If I'm not joking and laughing and stuff like that, it comes
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  off as harsh, doesn't it? I know, I understand that.
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  I also understand that. Y'all.
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  I do understand that, you know? But I want to wake you.
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  I want y'all to live happy, healthy lives.
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  So if somebody keeps playing, yeah, If the hypothetical games
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  are consistent and they are actually followed through or
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  some of the hypotheticals that have come true, y'all they're
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  going to keep doing it. You know, this is a way for them
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  to vet you or to test you, to get away with things or to
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  confess. There's a lot of different
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  reasons why they do this hypothetical stuff, you know, It
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  really, really is. That's why I just said I want to
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  wake up as many people as possible, You know, I really,
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  really do. I want to help me.
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  So I want to help so many people wake up.
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  I want to help so many people grow.
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  I want to help so many people. Just, you know, thrive with your
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  life. Just thrive, you know?
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  I want y'all to thrive and whatnot.
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  I'll get my window open if people will just pee.
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  If people keep peeing here we record these videos.
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  That's why I keep looking out here.
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  Yeah, many ways. Y'all think y'all were tuning in
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