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Giovanna Silvestre · Postcards to the Universe

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Caprio. Do
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  Speaker 1: you believe in magic? What if you were told that
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  Speaker 1: all you had to do was get a little creative
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  Speaker 1: and work a magic spell to bring anything you can
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  Speaker 1: imagine into your life. Here on Postcards to the Universe,
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  Speaker 1: we will share manifesting tips, postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity.
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  Speaker 1: Here is your host, Melissa Caprio.
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  Speaker 2: Hi everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with
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  Speaker 2: Melissa creating the Life you crave. How are you guys
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  Speaker 2: doing on this Wednesday? I hope everybody is doing well.
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  Speaker 2: I have a really cool show today. I have lifestyle
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  Speaker 2: and wellness influencer and she's also an author, Giovanna Silvestri
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  Speaker 2: with me today and we're going to talk about her book.
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  Speaker 2: And I love the title of her book, Confused Girl,
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  Speaker 2: find your Peace in the Chaos. Oh my god, do
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  Speaker 2: we need that right now? Because if you are looking
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  Speaker 2: at the world, it is chaos. And from what I understand,
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  Speaker 2: there is a eclipse coming up, a lunar eclipse in
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  Speaker 2: two days I think I think it's the fourteenth, and yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's going right over the United States.
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  Speaker 3: So lunar eclipses.
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  Speaker 2: From what I've heard is when things eclipse from your life,
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  Speaker 2: things that are no longer working. So it's going to
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  Speaker 2: be interesting how that plays out globally and also personally,
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  Speaker 2: so it'll be exciting. She's going to just join me
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  Speaker 2: here in just a couple minutes. I want to say
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  Speaker 2: thank you to my regulars. I love you guys. Thank
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  Speaker 2: you for listening each week. It means the world to me.
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  Speaker 2: If you're new turning into my show, welcome and I
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  Speaker 2: hope you enjoy the show. And just so you know,
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  Speaker 2: you can listen to any of my shows on replays,
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  Speaker 2: and there's always description with my show that tells you
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  Speaker 2: the guests that I have and what we're going to
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  Speaker 2: be talking about, and you can find that on any
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  Speaker 2: of the podcasting platforms that you like to listen to,
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  Speaker 2: but you can also find it on my website Postcards
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  Speaker 2: to the Universe dot com in the podcast section or
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  Speaker 2: on Own Times Radio in the archives section, so you
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  Speaker 2: can always listen to any shows. A little bit about
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  Speaker 2: me for those who don't know me, I'm an artist,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a photographer, I'm an author, and I have a
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  Speaker 2: book titled Postcards to the Universe. Harness the universe's power
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  Speaker 2: and manifest your dreams. And in my book, I talk
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  Speaker 2: all about manifesting, and I use a visual tool which
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  Speaker 2: is a manifesting postcard. I have people create them like
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  Speaker 2: kind of like a vision board, and they put things
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  Speaker 2: on their postcard they want to bring into their life.
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  Speaker 2: It's a lot of fun to make them, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you put your creative energy into it, so they're they're
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  Speaker 2: super fun.
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  Speaker 3: And when you send it to me, I photograph it.
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  Speaker 2: And when your manifestation shows up in reality, we can
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  Speaker 2: share your story.
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  Speaker 3: So the book has thirty of those stories in.
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  Speaker 2: It, and I broke it down into the main life
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  Speaker 2: themes that we're always looking to create more abundance, love, money, health, career,
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  Speaker 2: you know that kind of stuff. And there's a bunch
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  Speaker 2: of exercises in the book which makes it fun. So
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  Speaker 2: if you want to manifest more money in your life,
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  Speaker 2: I have some fun money games. If you want to
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  Speaker 2: manifest better health, things that you can do, you know,
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  Speaker 2: to create better health in your life. So have this
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  Speaker 2: great little shower ritual which is really cool and it
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  Speaker 2: feels really good to do it.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, we.
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  Speaker 2: Want to bring health is the most important in my opinion,
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  Speaker 2: because when you don't feel good, you just don't have
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  Speaker 2: the energy to bring anything else into your life.
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  Speaker 3: When you're feeling terrible. So health is really important.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, there's a lot of fun things there for
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  Speaker 2: us to do, so check it out. If you have
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  Speaker 2: any questions, you know, you can always reach out to me.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm always asking people to send me a manifesting postcard.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you how to do it on postcardsuniverse dot
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  Speaker 2: com and then I also have the address there with
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  Speaker 2: to send them. And just let me know if you're
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  Speaker 2: sending me a postcard. I love getting them.
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  Speaker 3: It's there.
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  Speaker 2: They're great, So please and if you need my help,
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  Speaker 2: I'm here for you. You can reach me on any of
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  Speaker 2: my social media or you can email me. All right,
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  Speaker 2: So let me get to my guest today, Giovanna Silvestri.
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  Speaker 2: She is a true visionary trailblazer. As an assistant to
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  Speaker 2: a top Hollywood talent manager, Giovanna's on wavering passion for
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  Speaker 2: creativity and innovation quickly set her apart, which led her
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  Speaker 2: to working alongside renowned film director Kenneth Brenna on the
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  Speaker 2: blockbuster Marvel Studios film Thor. As a natural storyteller giovannah
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  Speaker 2: upcoming book, Confuse Girl, Find Your Peace in the Chaos,
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  Speaker 2: is a compelling blend of memoir and guidance, is set
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  Speaker 2: to be published. It's coming out in May of twenty
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  Speaker 2: twenty five, so check it out. To all the women
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  Speaker 2: who feel stuck, unworthy, and lost, take heart. Your confusion
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  Speaker 2: is a virtue. It's the first stepping stone on your
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  Speaker 2: path to becoming an empowered warrior. Drawing from her own
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  Speaker 2: trials and triumphs, Giovanna offers inspiring wisdom on living life
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  Speaker 2: on your own terms, finding joy in the mess, learning
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  Speaker 2: self love, overcoming negativity and anxiety, and discovering the courage
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  Speaker 2: to chase your desires without letting fear dictate your faith.
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  Speaker 2: And She is also the creator of Confused Girl in
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  Speaker 2: the City. It's an international activewear brand inspired I love this.
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  Speaker 2: This is interesting by unique healing crystals blending beauty and spirituality.
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  Speaker 2: You can find out more about her, her brand, her book,
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  Speaker 2: what she's doing if you go to Confused Girl inthcity
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  Speaker 2: dot com.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to Giovanna. Thanks so much for being here with
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  Speaker 3: me today.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having me. Excited to be here.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to talk to you.
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  Speaker 2: So you're the first person who's ever that I've ever
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  Speaker 2: spoken to who's created at like any kind of clothing
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  Speaker 2: or any using crystals. That is really fascinating. So we're
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  Speaker 2: going to get all into that. But I want to
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  Speaker 2: start with your story because you started as and what
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  Speaker 2: were you an assistant in Hollywood or or you were
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  Speaker 2: working in that kind of scene, and then like you
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  Speaker 2: got inspired to create your own brand, your own blog.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, where did all this come from?
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  Speaker 4: So? Yeah, so I worked in the TV and film
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  Speaker 4: industry for several years and and then at some point
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  Speaker 4: I just got really burnt out. And I was kind
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  Speaker 4: of starting to see that women that had been in
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  Speaker 4: the industry for a really long time, they were just
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  Speaker 4: a bit hardened, like they weren't happy people.
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  Speaker 3: And I was.
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  Speaker 4: Thinking, Okay, do I want to become like that? Because
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  Speaker 4: it is a very brutal, doggy dog kind of environment.
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  Speaker 4: And yeah, so I was like, okay, you know what,
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  Speaker 4: let me take a break from this and I'm going
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  Speaker 4: to go. My parents owned an Italian restaurant three hours
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  Speaker 4: north of la in a town called San Luis Obispo,
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  Speaker 4: and I thought, you know, maybe I'll take over my
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  Speaker 4: parents' business. It's an established business, it's you know, they've
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  Speaker 4: had it for thirty years. And I thought, okay, maybe
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  Speaker 4: I'll go do that. So I went to I went home,
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  Speaker 4: and I started to take that over. And then I thought, okay,
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  Speaker 4: maybe this is what I'm supposed to do. But I
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  Speaker 4: was there for almost two years, and then I was
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  Speaker 4: really miserable doing that, and I'm like, okay, I'm miserable
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  Speaker 4: doing this. I got miserable, and you know, working in
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  Speaker 4: the film industry. I don't think I want to go
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  Speaker 4: back to LA and just go into the film industry again,
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  Speaker 4: because why go back into something that you stopped enjoying.
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  Speaker 4: But so I didn't know what to do. I didn't
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  Speaker 4: know what to do with myself. I felt like I
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  Speaker 4: had wasted so much time and I just didn't know
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  Speaker 4: who I was at all. And so I fell into
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  Speaker 4: this depression. And I realized in this when I was
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  Speaker 4: going through this depression, I'm like I got here because
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  Speaker 4: I cared so much about looking cool, about what other
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  Speaker 4: people thought, about maybe what my parents would make them
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  Speaker 4: proud and happy, and I have no idea who I am,
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  Speaker 4: and I cannot continue like this. I was like, I
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  Speaker 4: need to figure out wan I need to get myself
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  Speaker 4: out of this funk. So I need to like reprogram
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  Speaker 4: my brain to function in a more positive, productive way,
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  Speaker 4: and then I need to figure out what I do next.
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  Speaker 4: And so so a lot of things that I write
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  Speaker 4: about in my book. I was able to get myself
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  Speaker 4: out of my depression and then I'm like, well, I'm
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  Speaker 4: still confused. So I wanted to do something, but I
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  Speaker 4: didn't want because everything before had like had to be
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  Speaker 4: this grand plan, like I'm putting myself through this torture,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm doing this because i want to be a
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  Speaker 4: producer one day, or I'm putting myself through this torture
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  Speaker 4: because I'm gonna make money with the restaurant. And I
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  Speaker 4: was like, you know what, I don't want to put
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  Speaker 4: myself through torture. I wanted whatever I'm doing, I want
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  Speaker 4: to enjoy and I want I don't want their be
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  Speaker 4: a means to an end. I just want to do
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  Speaker 4: it and see what happened. And so I started a
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  Speaker 4: video blog on YouTube called Confused Girl in the City.
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  Speaker 4: And this was this is over a decade ago, so
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  Speaker 4: if I probably started it more recently, it would have
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  Speaker 4: been a podcast. But then it was all about the YouTube.
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  Speaker 4: And so so I decided that every week I would
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  Speaker 4: do one new thing that I had never done before
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  Speaker 4: and in an attempt to figure out who I was
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  Speaker 4: and why I was here. And so I just continued
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  Speaker 4: with that and it just took me on this incredible
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  Speaker 4: journey of self discovery. It was really really transformational. And
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  Speaker 4: you know, I would just go on groupon and I
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  Speaker 4: just find random things that were a good deal. Like
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  Speaker 4: I did a Trapow, that's a good idea.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, that's a really good idea for anybody who's like.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what to do, you know right now? Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that is a great idea.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because people always want to have an excuse, right like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: I don't have money. I didn't have any money either.
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  Speaker 4: I would just yeah, go on group on and it
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  Speaker 4: was like a quarter of the price, you know, and
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, all do a trapeze class for an hour.
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  Speaker 4: And so I did, like the flying trapeze in Santa Vonka,
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  Speaker 4: and I went bungee jumping. I did a lot of things,
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  Speaker 4: and it was all kind of to go, Okay, well,
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  Speaker 4: who am I? What do I like? What do I
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  Speaker 4: don't like? A lot of us don't even understand what
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  Speaker 4: we really like. We like things based upon what society
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  Speaker 4: tells us we should like or what we grew up around. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's and that's really that's really interesting too,
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  Speaker 4: because like even if you take women's bodies for instance, right, Like,
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  Speaker 4: I've always had a very hourglass figure. And because you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm I'm from Italian heritage, I'm Mediterranean, yeah, I from
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  Speaker 4: your last yes, so, but because I grew up in
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  Speaker 4: very Anglo Saxon community and you know, America's more Anglo Saxon,
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  Speaker 4: especially the TV and films that I watched, it was like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my god, I want no hips, I don't want boobs.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be like a size zero. And then
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  Speaker 4: I realized that, oh wow, having an hourglass figure is
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  Speaker 4: actually a good, desirable thing. And then if you even
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  Speaker 4: talk to African American girls, they're like, oh no, I
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  Speaker 4: did not look good. I was too skinny when I
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  Speaker 4: was in high school. And I'm like, there was too
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  Speaker 4: skinny in high school. I thought we all wanted to
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  Speaker 4: be skinned, And like, oh, I love now that I
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  Speaker 4: have hips and a button booth, you know, and it's
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  Speaker 4: just you know, and then I have a friend who
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  Speaker 4: who also has like hips and boobs, and she's like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my god, I've always wanted to be just a
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  Speaker 4: size zero and so she's on the semi glue tides
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  Speaker 4: and everything, and I'm like, I'm like, this is so funny.
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  Speaker 4: You know, we are so influenced by what we grew
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  Speaker 4: up around what we saw on television as children.
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  Speaker 3: We now with social media, forget it.
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  Speaker 2: I mean I didn't have social media when I was
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  Speaker 2: growing up, thankfully, thank god. You know, I can't even
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  Speaker 2: imagine what especially young girls now, you know, the pressure
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  Speaker 2: that they must be feeling because everything's so curated on
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  Speaker 2: Instagram and TikTok, you know, even TikTok. You know, everything
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  Speaker 2: has to have a certain look and they have to
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  Speaker 2: you know, snapchat and all that stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god. It's too much pressure, too much pressure.
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  Speaker 4: So much pressure, and the ideals are always shifting. So
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  Speaker 4: by the time you get you know, boob in plants,
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  Speaker 4: then small boobs are in again.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 4: It's like it's like, you know, if you really want something,
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  Speaker 4: make sure you really want it, you know. I think
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  Speaker 4: that's the thing, like, and and that's my whole that's
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  Speaker 4: what my book's about, not about implants, but.
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  Speaker 2: Right, it's about discovering who you are and what you like,
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  Speaker 2: but what feeds your soul and makes you happy in
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  Speaker 2: your life. And it's different for you than it's for
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  Speaker 2: me or anybody's listening. We all have different things, right,
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  Speaker 2: it's discovering that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, exact exactly. It's like, okay, you know, one of
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  Speaker 4: the beautiful things about being a woman this day and
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  Speaker 4: age is that you have so many choices. So that
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  Speaker 4: also means it really confusing, hence my book Confused Girl.
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  Speaker 4: When there's a lot of options, it's very confusing. So
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  Speaker 4: but I mean, you you never have to get married
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  Speaker 4: now or have children if you don't want that, Like you,
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  Speaker 4: no one's going to think you're a weirdo. No one's
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  Speaker 4: going to think you're an old Spence or like it's
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  Speaker 4: totally changed, like like that's not that doesn't that doesn't
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  Speaker 4: really exist anymore. And so you really have a choice.
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  Speaker 4: But it's like, you know, if you do want to
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  Speaker 4: get married and have kids, then then go do that.
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  Speaker 4: If you want to be the career woman or travel
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  Speaker 4: the world or go help people in different countries or whatever,
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  Speaker 4: go do that. It's for me, it's like it's all
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  Speaker 4: about discovering, getting in touch with your true nature and uh,
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  Speaker 4: discovering what really lights you on fire and what brings
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  Speaker 4: joy to your life and what resonates with you and
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  Speaker 4: then taking the steps to do that and just cutting
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  Speaker 4: out the noise, like this is my life. It's not
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  Speaker 4: my family's life, this is my life, this isn't society's life.
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  Speaker 4: And because the beautiful thing is we do have that
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  Speaker 4: option now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we do, and we're going to keep it whether
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  Speaker 2: they like it or not.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's going away.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. Well, don't you fine.
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  Speaker 2: I find and now that you're you know, you're on
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  Speaker 2: your own journey and discovering and finding your own.
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  Speaker 3: Joy and what lights you up.
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  Speaker 2: I always find when I meet people, especially now with
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  Speaker 2: the radio show because I meet so many people from
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  Speaker 2: all over the world, the happiest, most most fulfilled people
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  Speaker 2: are people that are doing whatever is their purpose. And
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't even mean it has to be your job
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  Speaker 2: that you get paid for it. But if you're on
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  Speaker 2: in some way doing something that fulfills your purpose, you
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  Speaker 2: find joy and you don't have to have the money.
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  Speaker 2: And it's nothing to do with money. I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: money makes life easier.
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  Speaker 3: We know this.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying it doesn't, but that's not what brings
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  Speaker 2: you the joy. It's that you wake up every day
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  Speaker 2: feeling like, oh, I'm excited about my life, like what
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  Speaker 2: am I going to do today?
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  Speaker 3: Or what do I want to accomplish today? Is that?
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  Speaker 2: Is that what started to happen as you started to
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  Speaker 2: discover what you did like what you didn't like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: stop listening to all the noise.
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  Speaker 3: And I know I've been to La a million times.
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  Speaker 2: I have one of my best friends lives out there,
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  Speaker 2: and I know how superficial LA can be.
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  Speaker 3: Not that Florida isn't either, but.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's very you know, you have to look
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  Speaker 2: a certain way, you have to have a certain amount
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  Speaker 2: of money, you have to drive a certain car, you have.
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  Speaker 3: To have a certain house.
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  Speaker 2: So trying not to fall into that, you know, has
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  Speaker 2: had to have been a little challenging.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, But I think the blessing I really had is like,
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  Speaker 4: at a very young age, I went right into it,
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  Speaker 4: to the heart of the entertainment industry, and I was
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  Speaker 4: around such like big celebrities and big wigs, and so
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  Speaker 4: it's like I got a glimpse behind the curtain. I
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  Speaker 4: think a lot of people, well they're trying to attain
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  Speaker 4: that and they're or they're trying to pretend that they're
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  Speaker 4: a part of that when they're not. And it's like,
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  Speaker 4: because i got to see behind the curtain. And I've
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  Speaker 4: always been somebody that I've never been a follower. I've
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  Speaker 4: always been somebody that marched to the beat of my
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  Speaker 4: own drum. Even when I've got to usc you know,
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  Speaker 4: people were kind of saying you should rush, you should rush,
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  Speaker 4: like for the sororities its rushed. And then I was like, hem, no,
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  Speaker 4: I'm not doing this. And then I know, like yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I'm like I'm like, I'm going to go promote clubs
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  Speaker 4: in Hollywood and make some sidecash, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 4: And that's that's what I did. That's what I did.
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  Speaker 4: So I've always been somebody that marches to the beat
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  Speaker 4: of my own drum. And I'm also not trying to
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  Speaker 4: collect other people to follow me. But I'm just like, hey,
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  Speaker 4: I'm going over here, and this is where I'm going, so,
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  Speaker 4: you know, and so I think I saw behind the curtain,
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: and I'm very observant, and I was like, this is
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: not this is really this is like the energy is
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: now good? Yeah, yeah, it's not real. It's not good.
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: Most of these people are very unhappy. I'm not seeing
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: a lot of joy and peace in this. I'm seeing
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: like never feeling good enough, never enough. Even when they're
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: at the top of the game, it's like, what's the
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: next thing. It's like Jesus enough, you'll live in a mansion.
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: Like can you enjoy it for a second, you know?
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: And I just was like, Eh, this is not this is.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: Not my jam.
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: This is not my jam. So that was the cool thing.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: So I never fell into trying to be a follower
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: or or in the superficial thing, because I really I
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: was like, this is this is not what it's cracked
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: up to be. So I knew that, and it was
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: more just like now we have to figure out who
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: I am and and exactly. It was about finding out
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: what I liked and didn't like, even when it came
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: to like colors and food and you know, just little things.
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: And then it was like, Okay, I don't like bungee jumping,
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: that was too intense, but I like, like I like
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: doing the trapeze, I liked doing the boxing class and
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: salsa dancing, and you know, so it was. And when
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: you put yourself I didn't realize this at the time,
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: but when you put yourself out there to do something new,
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: and it literally can just be like doing a boxing
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: class or something like it could literally be just dipping
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: your toe in the water. You're building confidence because you're
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: putting yourself in an unknown situation. So you're you're and
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: you're going I like this or I don't like this,
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: and you're getting to know yourself. And I think really
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: confidence comes from knowing thyself. Yes, having tried things, having
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: put yourself out there in a way, you're able to
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: trust yourself. You're able to know where your strengths and
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: your weaknesses are. I think that's the definition of confidence.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I would agree with you knowing yourself. And you said
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: something earlier, and I talk about this in my book,
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: and I've also had this come across in like some
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: of the workshops and stuff. You know, and I say, well,
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: what is it that you want? You know, everybody says, oh,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: I want to be happy. Okay, Well, of course we
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: all want to be happy. What brings you happiness? Many
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: people can't answer that question. They don't know what brings
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: the happiness because for you, it may be traveling and
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: exploring new things. For somebody else and maybe being in
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: a committed relationship and having a quiet life. For some people,
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: it's reading books. For some people it's you know, going
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: to concerts, following their favorite band around the world.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: I mean, you know, and.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: Maybe it's a small house, maybe it's gardening. Everybody has
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: different things, and many people have no idea and like
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: you said, like they don't even know what they like.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Like people don't even know what they I don't know
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: what I like.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: My mother told me I should like this, and now
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I'm like in a miserable relationship.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: With this guy over here because I she told me.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: You know, everybody said I needed to get married by
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: the time I was thirty, you know. And You're like, yeah,
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: it's crazy, it's crazy. And I think people, especially women,
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: are we're changing that, we're changing that story. And I
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: guess your journey and you're sharing with everybody else that
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: if you did it, and you're showing us how you
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: did it. So if you did it, then I can
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: do it, or she can do it, or he can
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: do it, or they can do it, you know, anything,
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: right kind of thing yes.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: Yes, because I mean, don't we want to live in
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: a world where other people are you know, joyful in
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: their lives and coming alive And yes, and you know
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: because those are the people also that don't hurt other
• 22:51
  Speaker 4: people and don't exactly it's like it's like the right
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: you want to live in and live in live in that.
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: I mean, you know, even people have said that, even
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: like like Hitler, it's because they didn't let him be
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: an artist. They told him you were heard, you know, yeah,
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: that was like.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah all the world.
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah. But I do. I do think that you you
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: have you know, we're not We're not born knowing ourselves.
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: And so I think a big part of life is
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: just getting to know who you are. And and I
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: think that's like, I think that's the greatest relationship you
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: you will ever have because people will come and go,
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: people will pass away, you know, but you're always suck
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: with yourself. So if you don't like yourself, that's very problematic.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: So and and the way the way you like yourself
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: is by figuring out what you're good at. You know,
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: where your strengths are, where your weaknesses are, what really
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: what you enjoy, what likes you on fire and then
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: moving in that direct because the more you do the
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: things that fill you up, the the more you you're
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: showing yourself. That's self love, right, that's you know versus
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: I'm just going to put myself through this torture.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it is. It is.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: And you can't know your purpose if you don't know
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: a bit about yourself and what you enjoy.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: Right, No, you're you're right. And I always think that too.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: It's like in a world where we've been shown that everybody,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: you have to be better than that person.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: You have to compete against that person.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: You have to you know, that person has to be
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: lower than you on whatever totem pole.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: You are measuring yourself.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Right, Like I never that never felt right to me
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: because I look at collaboration, not competition, because I think
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: of in big picture ways, like if everybody in the
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: world is thriving, happy, abundant in whatever they want to
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: be abundant in, then the earth will be a beautiful
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: place to live for all of us.
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: No's it makes.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: No sense to me how that that thought process. I
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: want everybody to be happy.
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's funny you say that because I actually wrote
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: a chapter. It's chapter three in my book, and it's
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: called Mirror Mirror, and it's about comparisons and exactly what
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: you're talking about. Like I think of it like being
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: on a teeter totter, Like one minute you're higher than somebody,
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: you feel superior. The next minute you're down on the
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: teeter totter and you feel like lower than them and inferior,
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: and it's it's a miserable And I used to be
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: very much like that, and it's a miserable place to be,
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: and you know you've really outgrown it when even feeling
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: superior doesn't feel good because you know at some point
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: you're going to be down on the teeter tatter again,
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: because you know you're like, oh, I feel superior. This
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: doesn't even feel good because I know it's going to
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: go down to some point and right, and it just doesn't.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: And it's also not true. Right, So I really do
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: believe like no one is better than you, no one
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: is beneath you, and we all are on our own
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: journeys and nobody is going to escape this life without
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: some conflict and some hardships and some pain, and also
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: you know, some beautiful things happening too. So it's like
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: when some maybe when you're going through a hardship and
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: something's going really well for somebody, it's it's instead of
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: getting upset about that, you have to be in the
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: wisdom that and be in the wisdom that you know
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: what a good time is going to come around for
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: you too. Again, you just got to stack through and
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: learn from what is going on and to and to also,
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: so you know, I always I wrote about this too.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: It's a Hawaiian blessing, the Huna blessing, where whatever you
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: desire you bless. So like somebody drives by in a
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: car you like, and instead of going like, oh I
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: want that car, screw that person, you go ooh, I'm
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: gonna bless that car, bless the person in it.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: I like that. I like that. Oh I have never
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: heard that one.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: All right, let's hold our let's hold our thoughts here,
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: because I just looked at the clock. So we're going
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: to take our break now and we'll talk. We'll continue
• 27:29
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• 27:32
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• 30:39
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• 30:42
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• 30:45
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• 30:46
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• 30:47
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• 30:50
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• 30:52
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  Speaker 4: Doing absolutely absolutely, and and the the interesting thing about
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  Speaker 4: it too is that as you go on this journey
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: of Okay, I want to discover myself, I'm going to
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: be committed to myself and I want to make this
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: life that I have the best I can. You stop
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: comparing yourself to other people. You cut out the noise
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: and you're and and you know, also I talk to
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: my spirit guides and angels and I'm like, okay, guys,
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: I'm trying to do this, like help me, you know,
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  Speaker 4: and I honestly they do they really think they really
• 31:36
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  Speaker 4: And we need we need some money, we need.
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  Speaker 4: But I once, once I really started to connect to to,
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  Speaker 4: you know, the spiritual realm, I realized that they leave
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: they were leaving me breadcrumbs. And and when I would
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  Speaker 4: start to doubt, when I would start to doubt things,
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: then they would they would like show me something or
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: bring me something that's kind of like you're on the
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: right path. Just keep going, keep going, and then it
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: does just unfold and you you're like, like, for instance,
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: things can change to like what you desire. Like I
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: started my I started my you know, after I was
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: doing the video blog, I met this healer who gave
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: me these crystals and I was like, oh, my gosh,
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: I'm going to start a yoga warline inspired by healing crystals.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: I'm glad you said that because I wanted to know
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: how that's sort of it sparked in your mind. You know,
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: like we get these inspirational insights, and I think that
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: we all get them, and you know, you grabbed yours.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: I grab my not everybody does, and it just keeps going.
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  Speaker 2: But like you know, if the idea is born, and
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: that means it's already if you can imagine it, that.
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: Means it's already can be, it's already created.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: You just have to bring it to reality, right, You
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: just have to manifest it in a physical form, right.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, exactly exactly. And I met this I met
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: this healer, and I just I felt really connected to him.
• 33:27
  Speaker 4: It was really weird. I actually was going to meet
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: him for an interview because he was looking for someone
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: to interview him for his YouTube channel. And then we
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: met and we never even talked about the job, and
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: we were talking about our lives and it was like
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: we knew each other, and I just like I just
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: felt at home with him. I just it was crazy.
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: It was crazy crazy, and so I So anyway, he
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: gave me these two crystals, and I didn't know much
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: about crystals. I was doing a lot of yoga at
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: the time because yoga was really helping me quiet my
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: mind and just get in touch with myself. So I
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: and at the time when this all happened, yoga leggings
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: were not everywhere it was just Lululemon. They were very niche.
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: It was a couple of small boutique brands, but it
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: was nothing like it is now because this is over
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: a decade ago. So I was meditating one day and
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: I had the crystals in front of me, and I
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: just came up with this idea to take the images
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: of healing crystals and to print it onto fabric and
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: cut and sew, so you're like wearing the image of
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: a crystal. Love that, and then every crystal has a
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: different healing you know power. So it's it's very it's
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: very intentional. It's very much like, Okay, I want more
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: patience in my life. I'm going to buy the patient's
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: leggings bired by a black marble stone, and that helps
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: with having more patients, you know. So like it's like that.
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: So I made them. It took me about a year
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: to figure out the manufacturing and I was working part
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: time jobs. And then I was like, okay, now how
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: do I sell them? And it was it was like
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: a whole thing. And then I used Instagram because Instagram
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: at the time was was newer, so it was really open.
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: I could connect with a ton of people. I connected
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: with a bunch of yogis and then the brand just
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: blew up.
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: M Yeah, Instagram was different.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: When I first got on it, it was mostly just
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: photographers actually, and I loved it because we would share,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: you know, you know who's doing what worked, gallery things, openings,
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: art shows, and then you know, and then of course
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: it got famous and it got marketable, and then it
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: Facebook bought it and you know whatever. Now the algorithms,
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: you know, likes people from seeing you and all this crap.
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: I know, but but what But going back to the crystal.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: So you said, you take an image of a crystal,
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: like let's say like a rose quartz.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: Like that's all about opening up your heart and love.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: So you take that image and you how do you
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: infuse it and to the to the to the clothing,
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: like you put a picture in like in the fabric
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: or how like how does that work? I'm just trying
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: to get a visual for myself. So I'm sure other
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: people are thinking the same thing.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it's die supplamation printing. So so like you
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: take like, so you have an image of a crystal, right,
• 36:40
  Speaker 4: and you blow with it. Right, So it's going to
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: go on. So it has to be a very high resolution,
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: so it's it's a part of the it's like an
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: image that's part of the crystal, like the prettiest part
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: of the crystal. And then you know, you you you
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: blow up the image and then you print the image.
• 36:57
  Speaker 4: You do di supblamation printing onto you fabric like white fabric, okay,
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: and then you put in sew the leggings from there.
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: So you're just carrying this full on image of a crystal.
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: And they look even they're they're really so beautiful, and
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: they they do look very kind of like galactic, you know,
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: very kind of yeah, even as could be in the
• 37:23
  Speaker 4: galaxies or you know, and yeah, so so yeah, I mean,
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: you know, people can go to my website because US
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: Girl in the City dot comm and see what they
• 37:34
  Speaker 4: look like.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and now do you sell them?
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: So you've been i mean you've had them on the
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: cover of magazines, You've had articles talked about your your this.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: You know, you're confused Girl in the City brand and
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: using the crystals and all that stuff. So where can
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: you only buy them online? Are you in stores now?
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Are you in boutiques in in around the US or
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: in California?
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: Like where where's your where are your clothes?
• 38:04
  Speaker 4: So so now they're just on my website. I did
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: have women boutiques like all around southern California back in
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: the day. But the thing is what happened was the
• 38:18
  Speaker 4: brand did very well for about five years and I
• 38:22
  Speaker 4: was able to stop working part time jobs and I
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: was able to live off of it. And that's when
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: I actually got the inspiration to write my book. And
• 38:34
  Speaker 4: I was like, you know what, it's doing well and
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: but it wasn't scaling. I couldn't figure out how to
• 38:40
  Speaker 4: scale it. But it was still I was consistently selling.
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: So I was like, you know what, let me go
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: now because I wanted to write my book abroad. I
• 38:52
  Speaker 4: wanted to live in a different country and write it
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: in a very peaceful setting. And so I was like,
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: let me do this now while I can afford it.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Sounds like a nice dream. That's less nice. Where did
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: you live? If you don't mind me asking.
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: Where I live? I lived in Bali, Oh beautiful. Yeah.
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: I have dreams of being in the English countryside or
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Scotland or something. I need cold weather and misty and
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: and like like misty days, cloudy days. I live in
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: the Sunshine State, like I need cool clouds an old
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: castle for a while.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: I you know what, I get that. I get that,
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: And I think you need to scratch that itch, because.
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I do.
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: I lived in Bali for a year where it's like,
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: you know, sunny days and hot all the time, and
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: then you actually went to Berlin because I wanted more
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: of that moody.
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, moody yeah city, you love it.
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: So yeah, I lived in Berlin for a year, but too,
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: so yeah, definitely scratch that it.
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: So you wrote your book there.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: I think that's beautiful because the energy of that place
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: and what you were feeling at the time is infused
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: in your book, which is really cool. Se See, people
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: don't realize that energy never ends, it only changes, right,
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: and we infuse our energy and everything. So just the
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: fact that you wrote this story somewhere else, you know,
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: and what you were feeling at that time, that's in
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: all of your books because you infuse that energy into
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: it while you were writing it.
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: So I think that's kind of interesting.
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think and I think honestly, Bally has
• 40:47
  Speaker 4: one of the most beautiful hard that I've ever felt
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: in my life. It's it's interesting because you go Oh,
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: it's such a peaceful place. But it's also chaotic because
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: it's like lots of cars, lots of motorbikes. It's a
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: very populated eye. But the people there are so spiritual
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: that they're just they're they're not they're not superficial. They're
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: not concerned with like making a ton of money, they're
• 41:12
  Speaker 4: not stressed out. They're just like every day they do
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: their offerings in the morning and then they have their
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: spiritual ceremonies and they're just all about being with their
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: family and doing their like their own thing, and they're
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: just happy. Even the babies there. You see it in
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: the faces of the babies. They're just like so joyful
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: and giggly, and I mean, it's it's really Yeah.
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: I've heard that. I've heard about that.
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: I have a couple of friends who did some yoga
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: retreats over there and said it's just a magical place.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: Polly. Yeah, yeah, one day I'll get there.
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's another.
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: Thing that's on my list.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, so you you write your book, you come home,
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: you're you're now your book's coming out your your publishers
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: publishing in May. People, by the way, you can pre
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: order your book right. If people want who are listening,
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: they can pre order it. Okay, you can go on
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: you order the book.
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: Yes, and I'm doing a big giveaway. So if you
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: pre order the book and you send me a screenshot
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: that you purchased it, you've purchased it, You'll enter to
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: win a two nine ocean view room in Maui and
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: one hundred dollars gift card from my store.
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: Oh nice. Oh wow, that's a really nice giveaway. Wow,
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: I very cool.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: So now with your clothing line, you decided to take
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: pull it out of the stores and you're just exclusively
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: selling it online.
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: Now, is that what you're doing? You have an online store?
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, exactly, exactly. So I left, I wrote my book,
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: and while I was abroad, I could see my sales
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: going down just because you know, so much competition of
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: the market. I mean, all of a sudden, everybody and
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: their mother was making yoga leggings. And I was like,
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: oh my god, but I'm definitely an ogs. I'm like
• 43:08
  Speaker 4: an og.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: Of they go look yeah.
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: But so so I wrote my book and and I
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: came back, and then COVID hit and then it was like, well,
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: I guess my place in La was rented out to
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: other people. So I was like, you know what, I will,
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: I'm going to go stay with my parents. So I
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: was with my parents and I got an agent for
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: my book. And that was really interesting how that all happened,
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: because like before, it's like I was always hustling, hustling, hustling,
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: and like maybe if one person said yes, it was like,
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: oh my god, thank god, yay. And and with this
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: I had two agents interested. Good, that's great, I know,
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: and I was I was like, oh my, you know,
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: almost like to the point where you just feel so
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: grateful you have too interested. You don't want to say
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: no to any of them. You're like, no, can you
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: both be my agent?
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: Right? They're like no, I'm sorry, we can't do that. Yeah, right.
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: And I went with the one who was so interesting.
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: As I was emailing a list of agents literary agents,
• 44:23
  Speaker 4: I emailed this one lady. She emailed me back and
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: she goes, you know, this isn't for me, but I
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: just sent it to another agent I think would be
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: perfect for this. And then that agent that she sent
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: it to was the next person on the list. I
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: was going to email.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, it was meant to be.
• 44:40
  Speaker 4: It was meant to be. So that was that was
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: the agent that I ended up going with, and and
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: then it was two years of rejection.
• 44:51
  Speaker 7: I was being rejected, but I was honestly, I'd done
• 44:56
  Speaker 7: so much work on myself and I I wasn't attaching
• 45:01
  Speaker 7: my self worth to anything outside of myself anymore, you know.
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm like, this world is so crazy. Things come,
• 45:08
  Speaker 4: they get taken away. It's a mistake to attach your
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: self worth to anything in this world. And so I
• 45:18
  Speaker 4: was like, Okay, well we'll see what happens. And I
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: just kind of let the project go and let I
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: let it breathe and kind of forgot about it really
• 45:29
  Speaker 4: and I thought, Okay, at some point I'll come back
• 45:33
  Speaker 4: to it and maybe self published if I don't get
• 45:35
  Speaker 4: a publisher. And then my dad was really sick at
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: the time, so I was just pretty much living at
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: home helping take care of my dad. And then two
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: months before my father died, two publishing companies had a
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: bidding war on my book.
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's fantastic, because that doesn't happen. Just FYI,
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: Just so you guys know that the publishing industry has
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: changed so dramatically and now with self publishing, that doesn't
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: that's not very common anymore. Unless you're a big name,
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: like you know, your Barack Obama or something, or Michelle Obama,
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: then yes, it's like who's going to get her? But
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: but for for for the regular folks who are not
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: super famous, when we're trying to get our book published,
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: that's not something.
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: That happens very often. So that's really great.
• 46:25
  Speaker 4: Oh gosh, thank you, thank you so much for saying that,
• 46:28
  Speaker 4: because even my agent said, she's like this, I've never
• 46:33
  Speaker 4: seen it, like she's She's like, yeah, she's like and
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: I got like a really good advance. You know, I
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: got plastic, especially from a first time author again who's
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: not famous. You know, I have a I have a
• 46:46
  Speaker 4: good social media following, but I'm not like uber famous
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: and so so I was like wa, so I just
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: I'm just like, whoa that was? That was? That was
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: the angel, that was the universe, that was God, whatever
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: you want to call the force that is. This was
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: out of my hands. Like I did the work. I
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: showed up and I trusted. But I think what I trusted,
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: and I.
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: Think that that's important. Yeah you trusted. Yeah, it's like
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: that's the thing.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: People don't realize and I and I try to say that, like,
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: like you know what, I have people create these manifesting
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: postcards and they're so fun and it's really powerful when
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: you tap into the creative energy, right, you know, you
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: send it out there, and then you have to trust
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: and then you also have to take active, active steps
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: in the direction of your goal. But you have to
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: not worry about it and enjoy the process. See a
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: lot of times we don't enjoy the process.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: We create something and we just want to be successful
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: at it. Boom they're done, and then you're like, okay, right, and.
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: That's not how it works.
• 47:59
  Speaker 4: I mean, and that's not airy theory. That's not telling
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: people that's not how it works. Is not being airy theory.
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: It's like, no, literally it happened to me. I made
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: sure I enjoyed this process. I mean, I left the country.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: I was doing yoga. Well, I did all the work
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: to figure out myself beforehand. Then I left the country.
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: Then I was doing yoga every day, and then days
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: I didn't want to write, I wouldn't write, and then
• 48:26
  Speaker 4: days that I wanted to write, I would write. And
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: so I I mean, and this was a seven year project.
• 48:31
  Speaker 4: This is not something that happened, right.
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: That's the other thing. Everybody saying, oh, you just became
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: an overnight success.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: You're like, well to you, I am, but you didn't
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: see that. I've been working on this for a decade. Right, No,
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: it was not an overnight success. And a lot of
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: that is clearing out our old stuff. Are am I
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: good enough? Is anybody gonna like it? Oh my god?
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: You know, you read your work and you're like, oh
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: my god, really did I write?
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: You know, and the editing and you know, and you have.
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: All these feelings about it and you're worried about how
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: you're gonna look and you have to like and that's
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: all the internal work that you're doing. While you're creating
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: whatever it is that you're creating for yourself. You have
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: a lot of cleaning up your your own house. You know,
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: it's a lot of cleaning up your own house.
• 49:21
  Speaker 4: It is, it really, really is. It's so it's so crazy.
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: That's why when people say it's not about the destination,
• 49:28
  Speaker 4: it's about the journey. And you know, as cheesy as
• 49:31
  Speaker 4: that sounds, and as often as we hear it, it's true.
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: It's it's not about it's not like now I'm like,
• 49:38
  Speaker 4: oh great, I'm published. Okay, I made it. I'm you know,
• 49:42
  Speaker 4: no one, you know, like what the most beautiful part
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: of this was the whole freaking thing. It was everything
• 49:48
  Speaker 4: that happened, everything I did, everything made what it is?
• 49:53
  Speaker 8: What?
• 49:53
  Speaker 4: What? What this is?
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: You know it's not and it was.
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: It was gonna be beautiful no matter what happened, it
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: was gonna it was. It was beautiful even without the
• 50:04
  Speaker 4: publishers coming in. It was beautiful even without any accolades
• 50:09
  Speaker 4: or pr or whatever. It was already beautiful. I'm already
• 50:14
  Speaker 4: happy about it and grateful.
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: That's good.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: That's good. That's great. Now, so what do you envision
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: for the book? Because the book's going to be on
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: two months, So what do you envision for it?
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: Like, what do you see?
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: Well?
• 50:28
  Speaker 6: What?
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: I well, one, I really I would love it just
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: to get in as many hands as possible because I
• 50:35
  Speaker 4: really think it'll help change lives. I really do, I
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: really really do. I think it'll help a lot of
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: people because we are in very confusing times and I
• 50:46
  Speaker 4: think it's just going to get even more confusing with
• 50:49
  Speaker 4: AI and the way the world is so rapidly changing.
• 50:52
  Speaker 4: And I just it's you need a place to ground
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: and you shouldn't be grounded in your news or in
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: your political part or in your this or in your that.
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: You need to be grounded in yourself, you know, like,
• 51:06
  Speaker 4: and that's what my book will help people people do
• 51:12
  Speaker 4: and so so. But I I would love to go
• 51:16
  Speaker 4: on a book tour. I would love to do speaking
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: engagements and I and you know, because of my TV
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: and film industry background, I really see it being confused
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: girl being a TV series. I just really, I just do.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and everybody, everybody who reads it says that to me,
• 51:38
  Speaker 4: They're like, this could be a TV series. I'm like, well,
• 51:41
  Speaker 4: that's exactly what I would want. That'd be fabulous. Yeah,
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: I'm such another fun adventure, you know.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Another fun adventure. Sure, you just take it, you take
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: it to the next level. See when I started Postcards,
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: it was all because of art. It had nothing to
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: do with the book. I'm I was never thinking I
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: was going to be an author. I never thought i'd
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: have a radio show.
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: Never.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: It was just about making photographs. Yeah, it was just
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: about making photographs. And I have a thing with people's handwriting.
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: I love to photograph it, and I've always loved cards
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: and letters, and I just thought, oh, well, we can
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: make intentional, we can make these beautiful I can make
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: these beautiful pictures, these intentional pictures of people's wishes and dreams.
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: And that's how it started. And then yeah, you know,
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: and I have yeah, and.
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: I had the radio show, podcast, a book.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: I have a second book that's not out yet that
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: I'm editing right now with other pictures.
• 52:41
  Speaker 3: So yeah, that's what I'm saying.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: So of course, why couldn't it be a TV show?
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: He says, it can't be.
• 52:49
  Speaker 8: Exactly, And yeah, right right now, exactly the exactly, But
• 52:58
  Speaker 8: it's true.
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: It's like it's like once you once you start going
• 53:02
  Speaker 4: like you did, Oh I really like postcards. I like photography.
• 53:08
  Speaker 4: I'm going to move in that direction. Not oh what
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: what money could that make me? Oh? Where could I
• 53:13
  Speaker 4: really go with it?
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 53:14
  Speaker 4: What am I just gonna do? Like photographs? Like do
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: high school portraits or what? You know? It's like, right,
• 53:20
  Speaker 4: it's like you just go after what you love and
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: then it's them the path unfold as you walk it.
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: It's like there's this quote, I think it's by Winston Churchill.
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: I love it. It says the chain of destiny is
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: only grasped one link at a time, so it's a
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: mistake to look too far into the future.
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: Oh I love that. That's a good one. That's a
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: good quote.
• 53:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, yeah, yeah, because it unfolds as you walk it.
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: So when people are like, oh, yeah, I was this
• 53:49
  Speaker 4: your what's your ten year plan, I'm like, I just
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: had a day plan and I have a you know,
• 53:54
  Speaker 4: it was like, like what do I do today? I mean,
• 53:57
  Speaker 4: you can't foresee all the things that are going to happen,
• 54:02
  Speaker 4: or all the things that you like will opportunities that
• 54:06
  Speaker 4: will come your way. That's part of the magic of life,
• 54:09
  Speaker 4: that is people need to realize it's available for everyone.
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: It's not for everyone.
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then every step you take, you never know
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: who you're going to meet along your journey or what
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: you're going to see that's going to help take you
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: to that next step. And that's how it happened for me.
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: It was just I met somebody who introduced me to this.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: I met somebody who helped me with this, and then
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: who sparked the idea of well, you know, I think
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: you'd have to be really good at radio and I'm like,
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: you know, I kind of feel.
• 54:40
  Speaker 3: Like I want to try it, and then that's what
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: I did.
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: And I love having the show because I meet the
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: most interesting people from all over the world and that
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: is like so cool to me, you know. And then
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: I get to share, because that's what I do, right,
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: I take photos of people's dreams and desires and I
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: share with the world. I interview people who are doing
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: interesting things and I share it with the world, and
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: that gives me tremendous joy.
• 55:09
  Speaker 4: And what I see I love that. I love that,
• 55:13
  Speaker 4: you know. I had when I was on a podcast recently,
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: the girl that was that I was on her podcast,
• 55:21
  Speaker 4: she said she's an intuitive, right, and so she said that, uh, like,
• 55:27
  Speaker 4: my gifts to the world is storytelling. And it's so
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: funny because I never I never thought of it like that.
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: I never thought my gifts to the world is storytelling.
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: And and I'm like, you know what, but she's so right,
• 55:41
  Speaker 4: because I love it. It gives me.
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: Good I love it.
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: And there you go, Well, it's been such a pleasure.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: Do you Havevanna talking to you? And guys check her
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: out at her website. Confused Girl in This City to
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: connect and pre order her book.
• 55:56
  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, all right.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: Everybody, thanks for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa.
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  Speaker 3: Creating the life you crave.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm wishing everyone a wonderful week filled with joy,
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  Speaker 2: abundance and love.
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  Speaker 3: Peace,