Latest / Stuff Mom Never Told You / Happy Hour #52: Surface Pressure
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- 0:05Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha, and welcome to stuff
- 0:07Speaker 1: I've never told your protection of ihear radio and it
- 0:19Speaker 1: is Thursday, so welcome to another happy hour. It is
- 0:23Speaker 1: actually Thursday as we record this as well, which doesn't
- 0:27Speaker 1: happen too too often. No, is it actually happy our
- 0:29Speaker 1: time though, is just considered happy somewhere it is. You
- 0:35Speaker 1: don't need to talk about that. As always, speaking up
- 0:40Speaker 1: with these episodes, drink responsibly if you choose to do so.
- 0:44Speaker 1: We love to have just these moments to kind of
- 0:46Speaker 1: wind down and relax. However, way that maybe for you.
- 0:51Speaker 1: And speaking of Samantha, what are you sipping on? I
- 0:54Speaker 1: am actually sipping on a Samuel Adams, Yes, Adams Cold
- 1:00Speaker 1: at white Ill, because I do enjoy good winter ill drinks.
- 1:04Speaker 1: And sam Adams has actually a pretty good reputation for
- 1:08Speaker 1: who they are and what they do and for being
- 1:10Speaker 1: such a pretty popular brand and apparently it's still independent.
- 1:14Speaker 1: I didn't know this, And yeah, they they're they're known
- 1:17Speaker 1: to have uh bars fully staffed with women as the
- 1:21Speaker 1: lead and all that. So I was like, yeah, I'm
- 1:24Speaker 1: down to day some same Adams to day. What about you?
- 1:27Speaker 1: That sounds nice. I'm drinking a bargarita with sparkling water
- 1:32Speaker 1: I wanted to make. I recently discovered and I know
- 1:35Speaker 1: this sounds a little gross, probably to some people, but
- 1:38Speaker 1: I recently discovered a hot chocolate red wine drink and
- 1:42Speaker 1: it's actually really good. But I'm out of hot chocolate,
- 1:45Speaker 1: so plan B. Is it warm? Mhm? I have doubts.
- 1:54Speaker 1: I did as well. But over on the other show,
- 1:57Speaker 1: I do savor. We just in an episode the Hot Toddy,
- 2:01Speaker 1: and I saw that a couple of years ago. It
- 2:03Speaker 1: was just a really popular hot Toddy and I was like, okay,
- 2:07Speaker 1: but yeah, it was really nice. I really liked it.
- 2:11Speaker 1: But last I don't have it right now. So you
- 2:14Speaker 1: just put hot chocolate and wine together. Uh yeah, pretty much.
- 2:18Speaker 1: You kind of heat up some milk slowly so it
- 2:21Speaker 1: doesn't scald, and then you take it off the heat.
- 2:24Speaker 1: You add hot chocolate like a hot chocolate packet, mix it,
- 2:28Speaker 1: and then add half a cup of red wine. Mix
- 2:31Speaker 1: it and then oh, milky and alcohol. It's a risky, Yeah,
- 2:38Speaker 1: it's risky. It's a risky proposition. I don't know if
- 2:40Speaker 1: you have to use the milk. That was just the
- 2:41Speaker 1: recipe I used, because normally I make hot chocolate with water.
- 2:44Speaker 1: I like mine with milk. I got some chocolate bombs
- 2:48Speaker 1: did not go off as I thought. I am sad
- 2:50Speaker 1: about that for you. The video it literally was a
- 2:54Speaker 1: bloop bloop. Oh what a let down. Yeah, so I
- 3:02Speaker 1: kind of did a complete one eighty of what I
- 3:04Speaker 1: was expecting to do and have margarita. But you know
- 3:07Speaker 1: that's such as life. Me too, Me too. Um So
- 3:13Speaker 1: today we are going to be talking about a song
- 3:16Speaker 1: which I think is the first in these Happy Hour segments.
- 3:19Speaker 1: I we should do a Happy Hour segment about at
- 3:21Speaker 1: kara yoke preferences. Well, see, that's what I'm saying because
- 3:24Speaker 1: I think it's so funny to me because I have
- 3:27Speaker 1: the nerdiest song selections and some random ludicrous in there
- 3:33Speaker 1: um as compared to you. We have very different songs
- 3:35Speaker 1: we request, but I want this song is a new
- 3:38Speaker 1: song I want to sing, and also I've never gotten
- 3:40Speaker 1: to do it. But I want to do the Tiffany
- 3:42Speaker 1: Hattish song from Lego the Lego Movie too. I think
- 3:47Speaker 1: that's gonna be hard. Fine, So we're gonna we're gonna
- 3:49Speaker 1: dig for some of these songs. See, we found there
- 3:53Speaker 1: are some places in Atlanta where you can bring either
- 3:56Speaker 1: a flash drive or you can request beforehand and they'll
- 3:59Speaker 1: get them for you. But I bet literally no one
- 4:02Speaker 1: in history in Atlanta at least has requested Tiffany Hattich's
- 4:06Speaker 1: song from Like a Movie to you. I would be surprised,
- 4:11Speaker 1: so specific, very specific. It's an excellent song, and that's
- 4:15Speaker 1: a shame. It's a shame I can't find it. I've
- 4:17Speaker 1: looked last time, years ago before COVID and we were
- 4:21Speaker 1: doing karaoke. I looked for that song and people looked
- 4:25Speaker 1: at me, like, what are you talking about? Well, if
- 4:29Speaker 1: I thought funny because our groups, specifically when I say
- 4:32Speaker 1: I agree with I heard kids like to jump into
- 4:36Speaker 1: musical numbers. And I was very surprised by this because
- 4:40Speaker 1: we have a coworker who loves her show tunes. That
- 4:44Speaker 1: threw me off. And then we have the boys really
- 4:47Speaker 1: like the Pokemon song and I didn't know that was
- 4:49Speaker 1: a thing. Wasn't there a Dragon ball Z song? But
- 4:53Speaker 1: they also liked to sing that popped up at one
- 4:55Speaker 1: point in time, and of course the Mulan classic. But
- 5:00Speaker 1: I'm like my crew, who are yes of the older
- 5:03Speaker 1: generation typically stick with the nineties early two thousand's eighties,
- 5:08Speaker 1: sixties country music like hits, So to jump into that,
- 5:11Speaker 1: I'm like, huh, yeah, yeah, I think I think there's,
- 5:18Speaker 1: you know, the kind of fun of everybody knows the words,
- 5:21Speaker 1: and there's definitely nostalgia especially for Pokemon going on, because
- 5:23Speaker 1: I've never heard or seen that either, but I now
- 5:26Speaker 1: I requested because I like to see everybody a light
- 5:28Speaker 1: up when it comes on. But one of my favorite
- 5:31Speaker 1: karaoke experiences is our friend and co worker Alex, who
- 5:35Speaker 1: does a firm role among many other things. He once
- 5:39Speaker 1: it was my birthday and you know, it was early
- 5:42Speaker 1: in the night, so a lot more people were coming,
- 5:45Speaker 1: but at that point there's only five of us maybe,
- 5:47Speaker 1: and he requested happy Birthday. So funny. I mean, like
- 5:58Speaker 1: I said, it isn't a different experien is I never
- 6:01Speaker 1: really thought about it, but it's different experiences with different crews.
- 6:05Speaker 1: And because I was so stuck with my one crew,
- 6:07Speaker 1: which you know, I love my crew, and then coming
- 6:09Speaker 1: to this, I was like, what, it's it's a very
- 6:15Speaker 1: far flung crowd, like will go all over the place.
- 6:20Speaker 1: It's it's very funny and everybody has sort of their
- 6:22Speaker 1: songs that they request every time, and so it's sort
- 6:25Speaker 1: of it's become like, oh, Lauren's going up here, it
- 6:28Speaker 1: comes bon Jovi Dead or a lot like you know,
- 6:32Speaker 1: So yeah, I know for a little while. Yours was
- 6:34Speaker 1: also Hamilton's Yes, which is related to this. Yeah, that's
- 6:38Speaker 1: what I'm gonna Is this going to be replacing? It
- 6:41Speaker 1: might be. I love doing the Hamilton's one. I I
- 6:44Speaker 1: do my shot, but that song is six and a
- 6:47Speaker 1: half minutes long, so I always feel bad because it's
- 6:50Speaker 1: kind of hogging the time, So I usually do it
- 6:53Speaker 1: at the very end because I don't want to take
- 6:56Speaker 1: up time with and plus I know for some people
- 6:58Speaker 1: that's annoying when people come on do a show tune
- 7:00Speaker 1: for six and a half minutes, and I understand that,
- 7:02Speaker 1: so I'm not trying to do that. This song is
- 7:05Speaker 1: a regular a regular linked three minute song, so you know,
- 7:11Speaker 1: I don't know if it will replace it, but certainly
- 7:13Speaker 1: I wouldn't feel as bad singing it, although only me
- 7:17Speaker 1: and probably my friend Marissa, who is the person who
- 7:19Speaker 1: put this song on my radar in the first place,
- 7:21Speaker 1: would know the lyrics. And part of the fun is
- 7:23Speaker 1: that everybody knows the song that you're singing, and they
- 7:26Speaker 1: can all get in on it. So I don't know.
- 7:28Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna do it one day. I don't know
- 7:31Speaker 1: if it'll be a regular okay, okay, yes, but okay.
- 7:47Speaker 1: We we've talked around the topic a lot, but we
- 7:50Speaker 1: haven't gotten to it. Um So we are talking about
- 7:54Speaker 1: a song from the new animated Disney musical movie in Conto,
- 7:58Speaker 1: which is called surface Pressure, which is yes, written by
- 8:02Speaker 1: Lynn mnuelman Randa from Hamilton's um and performed by Jessica Darrow.
- 8:07Speaker 1: And the reaction me and some of my friends and
- 8:09Speaker 1: including Marissa who was the one who was like, she
- 8:11Speaker 1: texted me and said, I need you to listen to
- 8:13Speaker 1: this song and see if you identify as much as
- 8:15Speaker 1: I do. And as of writing this outline, which today
- 8:20Speaker 1: is the thirteenth of January two, the Encantos soundtrack is
- 8:24Speaker 1: number one on the charts and it's the first time
- 8:26Speaker 1: it's happened for a soundtrack in forever. It unseated Adele,
- 8:30Speaker 1: so I think it's resonating with a lot of folks,
- 8:34Speaker 1: and it was the top grossing animated film of one.
- 8:38Speaker 1: I hate that there has to be an asterix with
- 8:39Speaker 1: all this stuff that they're kind of does because of
- 8:41Speaker 1: covid um right, but yes, it was the top animated
- 8:45Speaker 1: film of one and it came out in December recently,
- 8:50Speaker 1: and as we've been talking about TikTok, it is dominating TikTok. Yeah,
- 8:55Speaker 1: I've seen I've seen a lot of that, and it's
- 8:57Speaker 1: really funny because I probably watched it the day after
- 9:00Speaker 1: it came out UM on Disney Plus. And I loved
- 9:05Speaker 1: this song surface Pressure, and I loved we Don't Talk
- 9:08Speaker 1: About Bruno, which I know all the words to that
- 9:10Speaker 1: as well. I love most of the soundtrack, but two
- 9:12Speaker 1: of those are my favorite. And then I was kind
- 9:15Speaker 1: of like, why do I love this song so much?
- 9:16Speaker 1: And then I heard it was dominating TikTok, and I
- 9:18Speaker 1: was like, what, I guess it is really good. It's
- 9:22Speaker 1: really popular, It's it's very good. It's excellent. Anyway. The
- 9:28Speaker 1: plot of this movie in a nutshell follows the Magical family.
- 9:31Speaker 1: Each member gets a power and corresponding door in their
- 9:34Speaker 1: magical house that is called Casita. The house is called
- 9:37Speaker 1: Casita when they come of age. Um. Everybody except Mirabelle,
- 9:41Speaker 1: who doesn't receive a power or a door. Um. Though
- 9:46Speaker 1: I have seen a lot of theories about this on
- 9:49Speaker 1: YouTube that maybe she did get a power, or maybe
- 9:52Speaker 1: she somehow related to Vin Diesel and Fast and Furious.
- 9:54Speaker 1: I'm telling you wild theories out there. The house is
- 9:57Speaker 1: magic is failing, as our are some of the family's powers,
- 10:01Speaker 1: and the story follows Mirabel trying to get to the
- 10:03Speaker 1: bottom of why the magic is failing, and bonding with
- 10:06Speaker 1: her family and doing some healing along the way. It's
- 10:09Speaker 1: a sweet family story. One of the key aspects of
- 10:14Speaker 1: the story and in particular the songs, is that several
- 10:17Speaker 1: of the characters solo musical numbers are about how they
- 10:20Speaker 1: in some ways resent their gift or in Mirabel's case,
- 10:25Speaker 1: her lack of gift. Her oldest sister Isabella, resents being
- 10:29Speaker 1: perfect and struggles to keep up that image. Her second
- 10:33Speaker 1: oldest sister, Louisa, who is strong um really buff with
- 10:37Speaker 1: super strength. That's her gift, but she struggles with anxieties
- 10:41Speaker 1: of failing the family and not being strong enough, not
- 10:44Speaker 1: being enough. But she sings about in the song service
- 10:46Speaker 1: pressure and Yes. Marissa was like, you've got to You've
- 10:51Speaker 1: got to watch it. You've gotta tell me if you
- 10:53Speaker 1: identify and immediately, I mean within the first verse, I
- 10:57Speaker 1: was like, oh, no, yeah, some tears which oh no.
- 11:03Speaker 1: And the song alternates between a strong, flat singing voice
- 11:07Speaker 1: portraying how Louisa is on the outside um, contrasted with
- 11:10Speaker 1: a softer, more vulnerable voice for how she feels on
- 11:13Speaker 1: the inside um. And here are some lyrics to give
- 11:15Speaker 1: you a taste. I'm not gonna sing it, no, just
- 11:20Speaker 1: give me the chorus, because I don't have a clue
- 11:23Speaker 1: what the song, what the song is about. I gotta
- 11:25Speaker 1: go no, just one verse, no, no, no, no. It's
- 11:30Speaker 1: funny though one definitely go listen to you if you
- 11:33Speaker 1: haven't heard already. It's amazing. But to me and my
- 11:36Speaker 1: younger brother used to have a game where we would
- 11:39Speaker 1: say lyrics to each other and whoever started it got
- 11:42Speaker 1: to pick the song and we would see who was
- 11:44Speaker 1: the first to laugh, because when you just say lyrics,
- 11:47Speaker 1: it often sounds yeah. So here we go. I'm gonna
- 11:52Speaker 1: say some lyrics. So under the surface was Hercules ever like? Yo?
- 11:58Speaker 1: I don't want to fight Servius under the surface. I'm
- 12:01Speaker 1: pretty sure I'm worthless if I can't be of service.
- 12:03Speaker 1: A fall our crack, the straw and the stack that
- 12:06Speaker 1: breaks the camel's back. What breaks the camel's back. It's
- 12:08Speaker 1: pressure like a chip trip drip that will never stop.
- 12:11Speaker 1: Bow wow ye. Give it to your sister. Your sister
- 12:16Speaker 1: is older. Give her all the heavy things we can't shoulder.
- 12:19Speaker 1: Who am I If I can't run with the ball?
- 12:21Speaker 1: Give it to your sister, Your sister stronger. See if
- 12:23Speaker 1: she can hang on a little longer. Who am I
- 12:26Speaker 1: if I can't carry it all? If I falter? But wait,
- 12:29Speaker 1: if I could shake the crushing weight of expectations, would
- 12:33Speaker 1: that free some room up for joy or relaxation or
- 12:35Speaker 1: simple pleasure. Give it to your sister. It doesn't hurt.
- 12:39Speaker 1: And see if she can handle every family burden watches
- 12:41Speaker 1: she buckles and bins but never breaks. Give it to
- 12:44Speaker 1: your sister, and never wonder if the same pressure would
- 12:46Speaker 1: have pulled you under. Who am I if I don't
- 12:48Speaker 1: have what it takes? No cracks, no breaks, no mistakes,
- 12:51Speaker 1: no pressure. Nice. Yes, it's so hard not to see
- 12:56Speaker 1: it because it's so good, and I know everyone's like
- 12:58Speaker 1: you butchered it, But I can't do it. Disney will
- 13:02Speaker 1: come from me. I can't have it. Um. So. One
- 13:08Speaker 1: of the interesting things has been seeing how many people
- 13:11Speaker 1: relate to these songs and why, and how some interpret
- 13:15Speaker 1: the whole movie as a warning about relying too much
- 13:18Speaker 1: on our gifts or defining ourselves too much by our accomplishments,
- 13:22Speaker 1: and how damaging and limiting and stressful that can be.
- 13:26Speaker 1: And that's something you and I have talked about a
- 13:28Speaker 1: lot of this, the productivity trap of you know, the
- 13:33Speaker 1: workaholic being a good thing. Are all of these for
- 13:35Speaker 1: women often like selfless being the best thing you can
- 13:38Speaker 1: be in defining yourself that way, and how that can
- 13:41Speaker 1: just where you doubt right finding your worth and what
- 13:45Speaker 1: you can give exactly exactly. And so I'm not going
- 13:49Speaker 1: to go too much into my own family dynamics of
- 13:51Speaker 1: the dynamics between me and my siblings because it's actually
- 13:54Speaker 1: really hard for me to talk about. It's kind of
- 13:56Speaker 1: new for me to realize how triggering this is for me,
- 13:59Speaker 1: and I'm very aware that we have different perspectives on
- 14:02Speaker 1: a lot of stuff that's happened. But whether they put
- 14:05Speaker 1: it on me or not, I did feel this way,
- 14:07Speaker 1: like I felt a responsibility to keep the family, to
- 14:10Speaker 1: get there, to stay strong when everything was awful. Um
- 14:14Speaker 1: a part of that could be being the only daughter
- 14:17Speaker 1: in the middle child because I have two brothers, one
- 14:19Speaker 1: older and one younger. My family used to joke that
- 14:22Speaker 1: I was so strong that I would quote be the
- 14:23Speaker 1: last one standing, which I was very proud of, but
- 14:26Speaker 1: I also resented, and in turn, I think that led
- 14:29Speaker 1: to some resentment of me because outwardly it appeared as
- 14:33Speaker 1: though I never struggled, though I was very very very
- 14:36Speaker 1: much struggling very much um. And I felt so responsible
- 14:40Speaker 1: that for everything that went wrong, I took all of
- 14:43Speaker 1: that on. It's my fault, And to this day I
- 14:46Speaker 1: feel a lot of guilt for not doing a better job,
- 14:49Speaker 1: even though I was a kid. So hearing this song
- 14:53Speaker 1: was like a solved because I thought, yes, yes, yep, yep,
- 14:56Speaker 1: that's it yep. And also so it was painful. It
- 15:00Speaker 1: was painful, and yeah there were tears because it's been
- 15:03Speaker 1: so long how I defined myself And you're kind of
- 15:06Speaker 1: like when you take that away, world and what am I? Yeah?
- 15:11Speaker 1: What am I? Yeah? Uh? And I was telling you
- 15:15Speaker 1: before that someone did at the specific TikTok of a
- 15:20Speaker 1: man who was listening. She wanted him to listen to
- 15:22Speaker 1: this specific song because she was like, this is him
- 15:25Speaker 1: to the core um and his face like as it
- 15:28Speaker 1: continue to like seep into his mind the actual lyrics
- 15:32Speaker 1: and what I was saying him, And at the end
- 15:34Speaker 1: he just kind of stops and he goes, that's me,
- 15:36Speaker 1: and that's kind of like what I'm hearing with you.
- 15:39Speaker 1: And I think there's been a lot of conversation about
- 15:42Speaker 1: the realism that is laid on in trying to keep
- 15:45Speaker 1: it together and being the sinner. I find it. And
- 15:49Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say too much, but like, I see
- 15:51Speaker 1: why Marissa would have been like, oh, yeah, this is
- 15:55Speaker 1: not only for me but for you. But here we are.
- 15:58Speaker 1: You do have a lot of similarities in the realm
- 16:01Speaker 1: and me I come off as very independent like myself
- 16:05Speaker 1: but nobody my family is not depended on me. I
- 16:08Speaker 1: have forever the outside child. Um, And that's a whole
- 16:13Speaker 1: different conversation. But yeah, so for me, it's like I
- 16:16Speaker 1: don't necessarily get this because I don't think my family
- 16:19Speaker 1: depends on me in any way whatsoever like that. But
- 16:22Speaker 1: at the same time, that pressure that I've seen that
- 16:25Speaker 1: happens within and we talked about with the parunification episode,
- 16:29Speaker 1: this is absolutely it. Yeah, yeah, for sure, And I
- 16:35Speaker 1: saw again it's so funny when you research something for
- 16:37Speaker 1: this show, and then immediately every article that Google is
- 16:40Speaker 1: telling me was about that thing. I saw a lot
- 16:42Speaker 1: of articles from people who were saying, you know, I'm
- 16:44Speaker 1: not I don't have siblings, but I still related to
- 16:46Speaker 1: this because I still feel this pressure in this kind
- 16:48Speaker 1: of to act this way on the outside and this
- 16:50Speaker 1: way on the inside. And uh, I think that's the
- 16:53Speaker 1: power of a good song and good media in general,
- 16:56Speaker 1: is that people can connect from all different types of backgrounds.
- 17:01Speaker 1: And I think also after this happens, it's funny, slash sad.
- 17:08Speaker 1: But Luisa's powers fail um and she's not strong anymore.
- 17:13Speaker 1: She she gets them back in the end, but I
- 17:15Speaker 1: guess spoilers, spoilers, sorry, her powers kind of fail and
- 17:22Speaker 1: she's crying and she's trying to hide it and she
- 17:25Speaker 1: doesn't know what to do or who she is, and
- 17:27Speaker 1: the younger sister, Mirabelle is kind of like, you know,
- 17:30Speaker 1: you can, You're so much more than that, like you're
- 17:33Speaker 1: not just that. So it's very sweet. It's very sweet.
- 17:39Speaker 1: I highly recommend it. I highly recommend the soundtrack. Hopefully
- 17:43Speaker 1: one day, Samantha, probably not anytime soon, but you'll get
- 17:47Speaker 1: to hear me sing it to karaoke. I'm excited. It's
- 17:52Speaker 1: a good We might have to do like private setting
- 17:54Speaker 1: of like me just sitting you a karaoke machine and
- 17:57Speaker 1: making you to film yourself. Don't temp me, I'll do
- 18:01Speaker 1: it video regret all will I don't think so? Oh boy,
- 18:09Speaker 1: that's how well. Cheers on that note, Samantha, and cheers
- 18:20Speaker 1: to you. Listen talk about Bruno. That song is so
- 18:24Speaker 1: good too. I was like, I've i've she dared me
- 18:26Speaker 1: to sing it. I could do all the lyrics as
- 18:28Speaker 1: I got it for both of these, but I won't. Well, listeners,
- 18:33Speaker 1: thank you so much for being with us. If you
- 18:35Speaker 1: have any song that you want to talk about that's
- 18:37Speaker 1: really resonated with you, or any any issue that we
- 18:41Speaker 1: touched on here, or anything that we should talk about
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