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Hypnosis to Feel Immune From Rejection · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you'll be listening to a hypnosis session created
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  for a client that really wanted to meet the human need of
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  connection in a more real way than perhaps they've met that
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  connection in the past. And a lot of people will seek
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  out substitutes not because they want that thing, but because
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  it's just easier or more predictably, or it feels safer
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  than what the real thing. Would be or it's just.
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  The real thing isn't available and they're they're making do
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  with whatever they can find. And I remember seeing a
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  documentary. I think it.
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  Was a. David Attenborough documentary
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  about the Antarctic and. You would have.
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  These mother Penguins sitting on an egg, but there's very harsh
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  winds and storms there in the Antarctic.
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  And if the egg broke, then quite often they would find a stone
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  that looks like an egg because it was so hard wired for them to
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  kind of nurture and protect this egg that they would find a
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  substitute. Even though of course, the
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  stone, the Pebble would never hatch.
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  But it was just kind of a substitute for the real thing.
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  And this client was using porn as a substitute for real
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  relationships, real human connection, which is widely
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  available, quite often free, very kind of emotionally safe.
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  You can never be rejected by porn, but at the cost, and there
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  is an opportunity cost of using porn as a vehicle, and that is
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  that it deprives you of forming the same quality of real
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  relationships. And when we dug into the key
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  thing getting in the way, it was this kind of fear of rejection,
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  this fear of emotionally emotional pain by being rejected
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  from someone that they liked. So what you can hear in this
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  hypnosis session is a way of framing rejection as almost kind
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  of like irrelevant. It's all about compatibility and
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  this element of synergy and chemistry, not as if someone
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  likes you or doesn't like you because you can't possibly know
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  the variables going on in someone else's world.
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  And it might not be that you're not being rejected.
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  It might just be that they they're not ready for a
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  relationship or they're not their heads, not in the right
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  space, or they've got a type and that type isn't you.
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  That's not rejection, that's compatibility in chemistry.
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  So there's a lot of that going on, but also future pacing.
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  So disassociation they get to. See themselves doing.
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  What they would want to do, and that might be, you know,
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  flirting with someone, chatting with someone, making a
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  connection, following up, arranging a date, originally
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  disassociated, but then associated.
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  And that tends to be a good way to kind of access resource dates
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  because if they already had the resources, they'd already be
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  associated into them. And clearly they're not at this
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  particular point. So there's an element of
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  identifying the resource state and then harnessing that, but
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  also framing rejection as something that is of low
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  importance has very little significance.
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  And the more important thing is that each time they interact
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  with someone that they like. They're increasing their.
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  Probability of finding a real connection, a real relationship,
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  something real rather than this substitute.
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  If you're listening to this and you have a fear of rejection,
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  whether or not you have, you know, a lot of consumption of
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  porn or not, that's almost immaterial.
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  The key thing here is about emotional rejection.
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  You probably will get some value from this session, but equally
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  it was created for a specific individual.
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  So if you like the idea of working on that area of your
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  life with me directly, click the link in the show note, schedule
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  the consultation call, we'll have a chat and maybe we end up
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  working together. For now though, you might get
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  value from this session itself. So find a quiet, comfortable
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  place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath, and
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  as you exhale, feel a release of tension leaving your body and
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  allow your eyes to close. That's it.
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  Then, as you breathe in, breathe in slightly deeper than the
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  previous breath, breathing in a sense of resourceful relaxation
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  and releasing any stress, tension, or anxiety in that
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  outward breath. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out, start to scan your body for any clues of tension, anxiety,
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  any worries. Imagine them melting away and
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  just feel that leave your body in your outward breath, only to
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  use the power of your imagination to imagine a lake,
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  maybe a lake that you've walked around.
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  Just breathe in and breathe out. Imagine that lake on a sunny
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  day. Imagine a breeze.
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  I want you to get that connection with nature, that
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  feeling of relaxation, and I want you to use the power of
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  your imagination to imagine the edge of the lake at a particular
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  location and just imagine seeing the lake still.
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  You've seen the lake on windy days where it has waves and
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  movement, but just imagine it absolutely still, and just
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  imagine freezing time so that the lake becomes solid.
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  Just imagine walking out on the surface of the lake, seeing this
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  area from a new perspective. Standing on the surface of a
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  lake, feel a stillness in the air, a quietness, and use the
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  power of your imagination to imagine a door floating in the
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  middle of the lake. This door will lead down to a
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  staircase into your own private cinema.
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  Imagine standing in front of that door, hovering on the
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  surface of a still lake. As I count down from 5 to one,
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  you will imagine opening the door.
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  I'm walking through the door 5. Just putting your hand on the
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  handle 4. Turning the handle 3.
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  Opening the door 2. Walking through the door and one
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  closing the door behind you and finding that you're no longer on
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  the surface of a lake, you're at the top of a staircase that
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  leads down to your own private cinema.
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  I'm going to countdown from 5:00 to 1:00 and just imagine walking
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  down the staircase, but with each descending step, feel that
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  you're going deeper and deeper, relaxed to a place in your deep
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  unconscious mind 5. Taking that first step, just
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  feeling a wave of relaxation, particularly around your head,
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  your jaw, 4 now your neck and shoulders just releasing any
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  tension. Another step down the staircase,
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  3, feeling your arms feel limp, loose and heavy.
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  And two, all of your internal organs release any tension.
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  Your lungs, your heart, your stomach, your gut, all releasing
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  tension. And then one feel your legs now,
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  like your arms, like the limbs of a puppet with no strings,
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  just limp and loose and relaxed as you find yourself at the
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  bottom of a staircase in front of your own private cinema.
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  Imagine taking a seat, perhaps a cinema chair, but it could be a
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  comfortable sofa because this is your own private cinema.
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  And I want you to imagine sitting down with a remote
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  control that controls this huge cinema screen.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing someone that looks just like you
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  but with a complete immunity to rejection and that moment in
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  your life where your confidence has been at its highest.
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  See that version of you with that level of confidence at your
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  lowest, you are immune from rejection and with a new found
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  level of self-confidence. And imagine seeing yourself like
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  an actor on the screen. All of the energy, time, and
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  emotion that used to be invested into an unproductive activity is
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  now deployed to find real human connection, real interactions,
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  real conversations, real meetings.
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  I want you to see that version of you in a place where you
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  might meet someone, but see yourself with that level of
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  confidence, immune to rejection. See yourself perhaps in a
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  environment where people are there.
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  I don't want you to see yourself making eye contact with someone
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  then you feel some kind of physical or emotional attraction
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  too, but just observe it and see that version of you smiling,
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  making eye contact, doing nothing until there is some form
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  of invitation. And you know what an invitation
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  is? Eye contact with a smile that
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  says talk to me. And if you can see that version
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  of you on that screen knowing what that invitation is, let me
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  know by nodding your head. But just imagine in the inner
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  dialogue of that version of you has already made an evaluation
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  of two or three genuine things that they like about that
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  person. They've already rehearsed it in
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  their head. Authentic, genuine compliments
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  to see that version of you approach that person just with
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  an introduction, just with a question or two.
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  See it looking a relaxed interaction, No nervousness, no
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  anxiety, just a confident conversation that almost has
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  this kind of vibe that these two people you're seeing on screen
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  already know each other, even if they're interacting for the very
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  first time. See that interaction and then
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  perhaps you can imagine a compliment is being given, or
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  perhaps a question about if they're on social media or if
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  they have a number. See that version of you saying
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  goodbye? And then imagine observing that
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  version of you, maybe a day or two later, following up on a
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  message just saying it was nice to meet that person.
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  No request for a date, no cheesy or sleazy compliments.
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  I want you to see you. Interacting with this.
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  Person online being curious, complimentary, real, authentic,
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  and at the point where you see that version of you find some
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  form of connection, imagine that version of you is asking them
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  out, maybe for a cup of coffee. Some.
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  Kind of interaction in a public place, and then skip forward
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  through time and see that the date that isn't a date.
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  Consider that first interaction just a more thorough form of
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  getting to know someone. Consider this a shot to nothing.
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  This is just reconnaissance. See that version of you
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  confidently smiling and interacting?
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  Confidently getting. To know that person, this is all
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  about figuring out if there is compatibility and chemistry.
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  No success, no failure, no rejection, just compatibility
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  with this idea that you may or may not be compatible and then
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  may or may not be chemistry. But if there's both, imagine
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  seeing yourself at the end of that short 30 minute, 40 minute
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  interaction asking if maybe they'd like to see you again.
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  I want you to see that it doesn't matter what happens.
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  If they kind of brush it off and say, well, I'm not sure, see
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  yourself looking unfazed. And if they do indicate that
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  they would like to meet again, see yourself with the sense of
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  positive expectation that that's exactly what would have been
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  said. This is all about two way
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  compatibility, two way chemistry.
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  No rejection, just information. I want you to imagine rewinding
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  it all and stepping into that version of you on the screen
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  that feels confident, immune to rejection.
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  Imagine seeing that person that you like, physical or emotional
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  attraction, but this time feel your mouth and your face change
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  as you imagine smiling at them, making eye contact with them,
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  waiting for some kind of clue, an invitation.
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  When they give you the invitation, imagine approaching
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  them, already knowing something about them that you've noticed,
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  something complimentary. Imagine introducing yourself to
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  them. I want you to imagine just a
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  short interaction, two or three minutes, ending with a request,
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  maybe 4 if they're online, if you can drop them a message.
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  Or maybe just creating an open loop where it would feel easier
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  to talk to them the next time because you would no longer be
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  strangers. Imagine day or two passes.
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  Imagine reaching out to them on a message.
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  No requests for a day, just getting to know them better,
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  figuring out early ideas of compatibility and if you feel
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  there is a connection there, Imagine maybe sending them a
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  voice note or asking them if they'd like to meet for coffee.
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  Imagine a positive response, but you could also imagine they
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  decline it and you feel unfazed, unbothered, whatever happens,
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  it's just information. But imagine then something is
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  agreed. Imagine meeting them in that
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  first person perspective. Feel like you're in your own
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  body. It's just reconnaissance.
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  Feel confident, at ease, be curious, complementary, feeling
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  that you're wondering if there will be that compatibility.
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  You're wondering if there will be that chemistry.
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  Not expecting it, just open to it.
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  And if it feels like there is, just imagine testing the water
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  to see if they'd be interested in meeting again sometime.
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  They do That's fine. If they don't, that's fine.
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  It's all fine. I want you to feel like each
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  interaction is buying a lottery ticket to the possibility of an
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  interesting experience or the possibility of a future
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  relationship. But nobody buys a lottery ticket
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  with an expectation that they will win.
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  Nobody feels rejected by the lottery if they buy a lottery
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  ticket and don't win. The premise is then you increase
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  the probability by doing something.
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  Feel that you are increasing your probability exponentially
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  with any interaction, any message, any smile, any eye
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  contact, a face to face meeting, any voice.
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  Note any of these real things. Exponentially increases the
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  probability of real experiences happening.
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  But feel immune to rejection. It's just compatibility, and you
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  wouldn't want any kind of interaction with someone that
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  didn't feel that compatibility existed.
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  Time is your scarce resource. Either things go the way that
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  you want or you learn something valuable from them.
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  No rejection, just wisdom, experiences, things to laugh and
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  smile about. If it feels like this feels more
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  appealing than risk free but synthetic experiences, let me
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  know by nodding your head. That's it.
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  So just imagine leaving that cinema, climbing up the stairs,
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  opening a door, finding yourself back on a still lake, frozen in
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  time, walking back to the shore, but feeling a willingness.
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  A willingness to take some risks, knowing that everything
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  will be OK. And as you hold on to that for
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  what? Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and now as I count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken feeling
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  resourceful, confident, a willingness to do one or two
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  things that are slightly outside of your previous comfort zone,
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  knowing that whatever happens, you're exponentially better off
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  than if you had never tried. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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