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Stop Getting Dressed For Other People · Wear It Right with Chan

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  [SPEAKER_01]: Before you take that off it off because you think it's boring, ask yourself, have you accessorized it?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a little chilly out so we don't stop by doing it on the scarf.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I'm having a great day with the name of the game is Accessorizing.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I love a hat as an accessory.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So we're going to draw on this red hat to add a pop of color Do these damn things?
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  [SPEAKER_02]: Number one Ruthlessly added your closet.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: It's a maybe someday piece.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: It's stealing confidence from today You let go of the itching the trend regards the clothes for a version of you that no longer exists A clear closet makes getting dressed easier and smarter.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to decide what you're wearing before your stressed Morning pattern isn't a personality flaw
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All right y'all y'all see y'all see what I'm talking about Welcome back to where right with Shen where I talk about style fashion and all the little things that I love All right, don't get a chance to be in as much because
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  [SPEAKER_00]: my life is consumed with other things also.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, we gon' get into this, y'all see the titles, stop getting dressed for other people because that's your money, those are your thoughts, that is your body, that is how you are choosing to present yourself to the world, so why are you doing it for anybody else?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, when you get dressed, what do you think about?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do you like about what you put on?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do they want me to put on?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Should never come into your mind.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Unless you are going to a job where you have to wear uniform and it's very deliberate and there's rules and things for it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if there's not rules and things for it, why do you care?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why do you care if somebody likes what you put on?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do the people like should never be a question when you get dressed?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Where are you going?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Should be a question?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to be comfortable?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you like how this feels?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you like how this looks?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Are you comfortable in it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How do you want to be perceived?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Should be a personal question?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What colors do you want to wear?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What options do you have?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's where your mind should be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not what other people have to say about what you have on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What gonna wear it right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because I'm going to tell you how to do it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Correctly.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's up?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is wearing what you like important?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I've said this before and I'll say this again, I've been picking out what I'm wearing for the next day since I was in the second grade, okay?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when I have to go to the office, I pick out what I wanna wear a week before I go to the office.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So for instance, thanks week, I go to the office.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna start picking out what I wanna wear Saturday, okay?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I pick it out for Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm on my cycle, I have back up fits for if my mood changes and I don't want to wear what I've picked out because that is the only time of the month where I get real indecisive and you might see clothes on the place of my room other than that my room is really clean, always company prepared, bed made, everything's where it needs to be but when this is my cycle that's when things are all over the place
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My brain is just on my brain during that time, but it's important to wear what you like because loving yourself is priority, okay?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Loving what you have on is priority, loving how you present yourself is priority.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How you appear to you is your priority.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what you should keep in mind.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How you want to appear to others is what you represent outside of yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Get as close to what you want as possible.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so if you dress like you don't care about yourself, it tells other people you don't care about yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you dress in a way where it looks like,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you have nothing else to give, but your body?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you want people to see the fact that, this is what my titties look like with nothing on it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is what my ass looks like with nothing on it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the best I can do because I want the attention so bad.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There are so many other ways to get attention from the right people with your clothes on and it's more intriguing for a woman and a man to make a person's mind wander about
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, might they look like they get without having to see it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is everybody getting to see you naked?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is everybody getting to see you in your underwear?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is everybody getting to see your body?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is it an option for somebody to partake in your body because they have a certain amount of money?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like all of these things is what you should think about, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about that, sit with that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The next thing you should think about is who cares if the masses don't like it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What everybody wants has never been what I wanted.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So stop appeasing to everyone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Be happy and care about if you like it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever it is, strike pants, a tank top, a jacket, do you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Be happy with you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If people don't like you already, fuck it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Where the fit?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Where the shoes?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Where the skirt?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: with a hat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The one thing that I loved about living in New York is everybody had the option of being who they were.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody was trying to be like the next person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nobody was trying to wear the same thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People were okay with, okay, I did this today.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What type of look do I wanna give tomorrow?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What type of mood do I wanna give tomorrow?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You have the option in a huge city to be a different person every day, to be a different personality every day if you want it to.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because the odds of you seeing the same person
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  [SPEAKER_00]: it's slim to that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So be yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Everybody else is taking be yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The next and last thing you want to think about is you're going to have to love what you put on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So don't spend money on something you don't really care about.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Don't spend money on the shoes that you don't really like, but everybody has the
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and you're looking for acceptance.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the wrong reason to buy that shoe.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the wrong reason to buy that shirt.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the wrong reason to want that hat is because everybody else is getting it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Who cares?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I love footwear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I love shoes, but I have never stood outside in the mine waiting to be the 30th person to get those sneakers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Never.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I love having nice bags, but I've never seen a bag I'm just like, oh my gosh, I have to be the first one to get it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or, oh my friends have this, I have to get it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I don't like it, I'm not getting it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't check in with my friends on what they bought to see if I want to buy one either.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about what to wear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that you're going to like.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, figuring out what to wear out of the things in the closet of things that I like already is the fun part for me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like going 15.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I love the idea of going 13 because you don't know what's in now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't know what's in it until you start looking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you don't know what's in this store until you start looking and if you go different places you're going to see different styles and stuff and it's always like a treasure hunt for me because you don't know who brought in what and you're just looking through decades of ideas.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's surprising to play with your clothes and the older you get you should play around with
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  [SPEAKER_00]: different hems of pants, different colors of shirts, different jackets, like don't limit yourself, play with colors, prints, length, textures, wearing what everyone has is so boring to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think outside the box, okay?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We want to see how you think, so show us, and don't worry about if we like it, do you like it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you could always tell if a person likes what they have on,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How can you be in a bad mood and you like what you have on?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How can you be in a bad mood and you bought it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How can you be in a bad mood and you ordered it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How can you be in a bad mood, looking as well as you do, smelling as good as you do, and just hair flowing in the wind, curls, curled to perfection.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Cut, cut to perfection from the barber.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you look good, you smell good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes y'all feel good, you know what I'm saying?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Stop getting dressed for other people and get dressed for yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is my point.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you're understood me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As somebody is stuck in see this mode of getting what somebody else is getting in.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Wearing what somebody else is wearing, please.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Get out of that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Save yourself and get out of that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My name is Shannon.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much for checking out this podcast.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, it's decision fatigue, but I know if it's the night before, hand the full look together, top, bottom, shoes, back to side.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: Roger this is a series of new trolls without a logo in sight, you're iconic.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: If you wear a beautiful vintage watch, rather than the fake news, that's even, you're awesome.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: If your outfits are earthy, toned by Jay, I'm black by night.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: you're iconic.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: If you rock through Christmas gifts, we rockin' paper and read with Robin Gift box, you're iconic.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: If your wardrobe is simply t-shirt, sweaters, and jeans, and your accessories are the star of the show.
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  [SPEAKER_03]: You are iconic.