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how to learn from your bad feelings · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  For years, every single time. I felt an intense emotion, I
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  made it my goal to push it away and to get rid of it as quickly
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  as possible. When in reality, I needed to
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  understand that my emotions are my teachers and that I have so
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  so much to learn from them. Hey there and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel your feelings with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a podcast.
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  I started all about mental health, and mental health,
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  awareness. Fairness.
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  Now I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist or a psychologist.
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  I'm just a normal guy who is really passionate about mental
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  health, and it's felt some big feelings and wants to talk about
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  them. So, thank you so much for tuning
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  in. And as always, let's feel some
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  feelings. Now, if you have ever
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  experienced any kind of intense negative emotion, you know, that
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  it is unpleasant to feel it, it is unpleasant to feel depressed,
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  or sad or angry, or jealous or anxious.
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  It's no fun. And I know personally my natural
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  response is to try to push that emotion away to try to not feel
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  it and just kind of store it in my back pocket as quickly as I
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  can. And I did that for years and it
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  was okay for a while. It was fine.
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  I was able to push these emotions down and keep going,
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  but one day it was like a switch flipped and everything bubbled
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  over, and I was suddenly overwhelmed with emotions and I
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  was literally filled the room with anxiety and Depression and
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  self-hate and all these different things and they were
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  all trying to tell me something. All of these different emotions
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  were trying to communicate something to me, and that is
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  exactly what emotions do. The point of emotions is to tell
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  us that there is something within our brain, and there is
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  something within our body that needs more attention and that
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  needs more care and love than it's getting.
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  And that's what I want to talk about today.
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  You see, we need to learn to accept our emotions as teachers
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  and Out enemies, we need to accept that there is something
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  to be learned from our emotions in order to grow as a person.
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  And that, if we treat our emotions as something to get rid
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  of, and something to just stuff into our back pockets, to feel
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  another day, we will never grow emotionally as a person.
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  So, what do I mean, when I say emotions are our teachers
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  learning about yourself, is a difficult process, anyone who
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  has attempted to improve themselves to go on a
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  self-discovery journey. You know, it is difficult.
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  It's not easy. Easy to learn about yourself,
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  which is weird. You think it would be really
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  easy because you are you and you experience you every single day.
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  So certainly learning about you should be easy, but it's not,
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  it's difficult. Because when we learn about
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  ourselves, we have to get uncomfortable in one of the ways
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  of doing. That is by feeling our emotions
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  is by learning from our emotions.
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  Emotions exist in order to process something or in order to
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  tell us that something needs to be, Assess, for example,
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  sadness, teaches you that you need to let go of something, or
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  that you need to slow down and let yourself heal.
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  Anxiety teaches you when and where you need to ground
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  yourself and be more aware of your boundaries.
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  These are very important lessons that our emotions are trying to
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  teach us and that's something that we have to learn if we
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  don't feel those emotions and understand those lessons, we are
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  doomed to repeat a pattern forever.
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  For example, if you Keep putting yourself in a situation that
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  makes you feel anxious over and over and over.
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  It will affect your nervous system.
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  You will begin to live in a more Perpetual state of anxiety.
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  Instead, if you feel that anxiety and understand that it
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  is your brain, trying to teach you something you can learn from
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  it and learn how to avoid putting yourself into that place
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  of anxiety. Of course, there are exceptions
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  where the situation that causes our anxiety is entirely out of
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  our control. However, Learning from that
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  anxious feeling, we are able to alleviate the anxiety that we
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  are in control of and that is a very very very important skill
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  in the same way. If we are feeling a feeling of
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  sadness, that is our body telling us that we need to let
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  go of something or we need to slow down and give ourselves
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  time to heal. If you keep feeling depressive,
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  feelings or sad feelings, and don't do anything and don't
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  learn from them and slow down. You will continue to be sad for
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  years and years to come. The only way that we can fix
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  emotions of sadness, or depressive phases, are to pay
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  attention to our brain, to pay attention.
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  What it's telling us, to pay, attention to what we need to let
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  go of, to pay attention to how we can heal our hearts.
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  That is the lesson that is trying to be taught, and it's
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  not an easy lesson. It's not something that can be
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  learned overnight. It's not something that we can
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  instantly. Flip a switch and understand and
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  be better. It's a slow process.
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  And that's why so many of us never learn about these parts of
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  us. That's why there are so many
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  people in denial of their own feelings.
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  There are so many people with pent-up feelings that erupted as
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  anger or outlash towards other people because they never
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  learned what they need to give themselves.
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  So, I want you every day, every time you feel something, Slow
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  down and instead of treating that feeling as an enemy,
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  instead of treating that feeling is something you need to get rid
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  of treat it as your teacher think, okay?
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  I feel sad, I feel anxious, what can I learn from this feeling
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  today and dissect that feeling really get into it?
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  Try to learn something about yourself, see this as an
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  opportunity, you are a human, you are designed to feel deep,
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  intricate emotions. And when you Eiffel, that human
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  desire to feel. You are stifling a large part of
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  you. You are not allowing room for
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  yourself to grow and feel and evolve as a human.
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  You are not allowing room for yourself to heal from these
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  emotions because when you avoid feeling and emotion, you avoid
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  healing and emotion, this is very, very, very important in
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  any mental, health Journey. In any self-discovery journey.
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  And honestly it's important in our journey as humans in order
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  to grow, we have to feel and we have to learn from our emotions.
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  So let your feelings be your guide and teacher in order to
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  fully understand yourself and grow as a person.
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  Pay attention to that sadness. Pay attention to that anxiety,
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  and don't just suppress it, and push it down, know that there's
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  something to learn, and there's somewhere.
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  You need to grow. That's going to wrap it up for
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  today's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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  Please message me on my Instagram at Jewel, boy
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  underscore and let me know what you thought about today's
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  episode also. I just released two new songs
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  out everywhere. Look up Ethan Jewel, it's my
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  latest songs. They are all about mental health
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  and depression and what that feels like.
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  So if you need some help, feeling your feelings, go check
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  out those songs. Thank you for being here.
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  Thank you. You for listening.
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  And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
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  I'll see you next time.