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Episode 28 - The Shift Be Happenin · Alive, I Guess Podcast

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  unknown: I'ma live like it.
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  unknown: I'ma live like it, yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'ma live like it's in a live like it's best.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'ma live like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we might as well talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Might as well, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to your safe space.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, RJ, and this is the Alive I Guess Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have spent a good amount of time talking about the hardships and the difficult seasons of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what happens when we start to come out of that difficult season into a brighter day?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's exactly what we're gonna get into today.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are going to be discussing the shift into a new season, into a new era, into a better chapter of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But before we do that, you already know we got to do a moment of gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you are listening today, say something out loud that you are grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you are watching, drop something below in the comments.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I am grateful for my faith.
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  SPEAKER_00: Being in this shift of life, being in a brighter era and chapter of life would not happen if I did not have my faith and have belief that everything was going to work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to have something to look forward to, a North Star when you're in those dark days to keep you going through those dark days.
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  SPEAKER_00: And mine was my faith and just trusting that everything is working out the way it should in the timing in which it needs to happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is really what got me to this point and what keeps me going when these hard moments arise.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I am very grateful for my faith.
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  SPEAKER_00: But let's get into it because the shift be happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: The shift kind of happens gradually, it's not something that happens with a huge occurrence or like significant event.
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  SPEAKER_00: It usually kind of gets recognized in hindsight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you're just sitting there one day or reflecting on life lately, and you realize that things have been going better.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start to notice that the flow is starting to feel more like a flow instead of a force for things to be going the way that you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that moment you stop like white knuckling your way through life, and you feel like you were waiting for the shoe to drop because things are going so right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that's how you know you're in a shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you know you're coming out of a colder winter and moving into more of like a spring or a summer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life predating the shift was rough.
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  SPEAKER_00: It felt like everything took so much effort and energy, and it felt like you weren't getting any real traction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Felt like you were spinning your wheels, felt like anything you tried, you just couldn't get ahead.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like everything took so much energy, and it felt like you almost would never come out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It kind of seemed like this is just the way that life is going to be moving forward, and you low-key accepted it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But something also in your mind was like, I know that this is temporary, so I just have to keep moving forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it didn't feel like you were moving anywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, when you're looking back, it's like, oh, I actually am moving somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, that's how you know you're in a different space.
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  SPEAKER_00: You make a shift from going from surviving to actually living, you're actually covering ground and making moves towards your goals and your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are growing, things are coming to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it kind of feels uncomfortable because you went so long like struggling and doing things in such a hard way that you kind of forgot that life could be easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: You kind of forgot like there are some benefits to your work.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're used to it just being hard for such an extended amount of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: For those of you who are praying, whatever your faith is, maybe you were doing praying, manifesting, journaling, putting in the work, making plans, making changes to your plans, trying to track how you're tracking towards your goals and your plans, and it felt like none of it was happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: It felt like you were in a dark cloud, even though on the outside everything looked normal.
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  SPEAKER_00: But internally, you knew you were in a dark, cold, grinding season.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am currently in a shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: Q1, Q2, I'd say the first two quarters of, well, nearly two quarters because we're almost there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in the grind.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in a winter, I was in the hard seasons, building up the skills, moving through adversity, planning, praying, manifesting, hitting walls, and continuing to show up and be consistent and doing the work, even though I wasn't yielding results.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was the first half of 2026.
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  SPEAKER_00: I recognize that it was tough to keep showing up and not receiving any sort of reward for all of the work you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not easy being in a winter, it's not easy being in a tough season of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, it's very instrumental for the next chapter of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I recognize if I did not go through the hardships, the heartaches, the struggles, the grind of the first half of the year, I would not be where I am at this juncture of the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a job.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, surprise.
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  SPEAKER_00: I forgot to update y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a job now.
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  SPEAKER_00: That Q1, Q2 was a grind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Interviewing, applying, studying, interview prep, outreach, stress, getting rejected.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: My platform is growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I six months ago, I don't even think I had a hundred followers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I'm well over a thousand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm grinding it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have 20 plus almost 30 episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a following.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am building momentum.
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  SPEAKER_00: My health is getting like well, not that it's getting better, but like I'm getting stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: My relationships and connections are getting stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm seeing people more.
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  SPEAKER_00: I did not have the capacity, the energy, the desire to do those things before.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to go through what I went through to move through it in order to shift into this new chapter of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't have the good without the bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes you appreciate the good more as you go through the bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why, usually, because the shift is so gradual, we don't really notice it when we're shifting.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not until it's like, oh, things are looking up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like things are actually working for me that you realize you've shifted because it just kind of slowly happens over time.
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  SPEAKER_00: My shift started in like April, and then I shifted all the way through May, and now I am in like a place of understanding that this is a new season.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things are coming to me with more ease.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things are coming to fruition that I found myself manifesting and praying for months and months and years before this.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I would be lying if I didn't say I'm still kind of waiting on the shoe to drop.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think as a culture, as people, we get used to waiting for something to go wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, our relationship with good news is more so like this is good for now until it goes wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have a very difficult time trusting it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that can be from childhood, past experience, whatever makes us feel this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I know for me personally, I have to try and be very mindful and intentional with accepting good news, accepting good things and receiving them, and not receiving them from a scarcity mindset and feeling like this is limited or this was a fluke or like this isn't going to stay forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it is something that I'm still working on, like accepting good things because I'm always trying to protect myself and prepare myself for it to go bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: My automatic response to receiving good news is to compartmentalize it and not accept it fully and not treat it as if it's fully mine, so that when it leaves me, I am like, I knew this was going to happen, so that it doesn't hurt me as much.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been conditioned to think this way and feel this way, and it's really something that we have to like work through and work to learn how to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: It isn't something that comes naturally to me and actually feels like it's more difficult than it should be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I should be able to accept things, and that's compliments, that's good news, that's recognition, that's gifts, that's rewards or acknowledgement or recognition in terms of like things, awards, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's hard for me to accept it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I either feel like this isn't something that I earned and something I should have done, or like this isn't really fully mine, so let me not buy in all the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or even if it's support, I try and like psych myself out like uh they're only doing it because of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I can't just accept something, which is very sad saying out loud.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I have been conditioned to brace for impact.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, don't get too comfortable because it could leave you, it could be taken away, it could be removed at any moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think it's necessarily like self-sabotage.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really think it's like a survival method of protecting myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I honestly can't really remember a time where I received something good without trying to figure out what the catch was.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because like good things feel very unfamiliar and very uncomfortable after a hard season.
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  SPEAKER_00: We just went through difficult times of putting in work and not receiving anything for it, wishing for things, getting very close to getting the thing and not getting it, always feeling like we just couldn't, we weren't good enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: So once we actually get it, you would think we would get it, hold on to it, and appreciate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it feels like that thing is fleeting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it feels like it's in your hand, but it's not completely yours to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like it's just out of reach and just in your grasp enough for you to get a taste of it, but it's gonna leave you at any moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you have it, it's not like you can actually sit with it and process it and recognize that this is your thing that you earned.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like a borrowed like acknowledgement.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few months ago, I went viral.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went viral for something that was a very small piece.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the episode about nostalgia where I briefly barely spoke on being nostalgic about being from the Bay Area and how it's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: From that, I gained a lot of followers, a lot of engagement from that one clip.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt like the followers that I got from that one clip, I'm like, they are following me, but they're gonna unfollow me because they only came here for this and it's not gonna last forever, and this was a one-time thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of being like proud of the fact that this happened, I still sit with the fact that I expect all these people to get up and leave, these thousands of people to leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just can't like be like certain that these people are here for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it might be that I am correct, maybe these people will leave, but I'm already living as if it's true, as if it is a fact, instead of just sitting in the recognition, like, hey, you did this thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when I got my job, like it took me a very long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there are still moments where I have this internal battle where I'm like, yeah, it's mine, but like, is it really like, is it actually mine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it actually something that I earned, or is it like temporary?
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  SPEAKER_00: Telling myself a whole bunch of different scenarios in my head and things to like psych myself out in case it does leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: And mind you, these things came during the hard season, and then they came to more of a fruition during the shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the fact that they're happening all at once, it feels scary.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh, hold on, why is everything going right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: After going wrong constantly, everything for so long, all of a sudden it just shifts and is going right.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the catch?
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes you feel like this is luck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, how could it be that all of a sudden now things are starting to work out for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not like I'm working harder, I'm doing the same amount of work that I was doing, I'm putting in the same amount of effort, the same energy, the same prayers, the same manifestation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now it's starting to work, and now it's starting to work all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: It of course there has to be some sort of catch, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how I look at it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not to mention, imposter syndrome, like we've touched on before, makes it very difficult to receive things and actually accept things because you feel like you actually don't deserve it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And although I've worked through some of it, obviously it still comes up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You look around and you see people you love or people you know or just your community, and people are still going through things, or people are still in the position that you were just in, and they can't come out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have like a guilt associated with that as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you don't necessarily like want to brag about it, but you also don't want to talk about it because you don't want to like jinx it, or you don't want to put it out into the world because if it gets taken away, then the world's gonna know that you had it and lost it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it's just very like conflated with all the negative emotions and fear and imposter syndrome and all the muck that makes it hard to receive it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna lie, it took me like a solid three weeks before I could actually accept good things were happening to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because again, it was all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: It felt very serendipitous that it was working out, especially at this time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I just feel like this is luck, like, this isn't really like the result of hard work.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I really had to like learn to enjoy the exhale and accept that we are shifting out of this darker season.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like what creates this sort of fear of accepting things is a few different factors.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's like an external factor of, you know, you can't be someone who brags about your accomplishments.
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  SPEAKER_00: But why shouldn't you be proud that you're accomplishing something?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not bragging if you're just saying, like, hey, I'm proud of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you're flaunting it in excess and using it to demean other people, like your accomplishments to demean other people, that's one thing.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: But being outwardly proud of something that you've obtained or accomplished or created or whatever, it's not bragging, but we are told we shouldn't brag, we should be humble and we should be grateful that we're doing things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another thing is in life, sometimes you do get your hopes up and things don't work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you are all the way bought into a belief or a process and it doesn't go your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you do get things and it gets taken from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Early in my career, I was going through a temp agency and I got placed at this company, and it was like my first big tech company.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: It was like in one of those big offices that had like a ping pong table and lunch, and you could order stuff and like build up an office space.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like it was really like amazing to me at the time, and I was incredibly excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: The manager was like, You're most likely gonna convert.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's looking very promising.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm there for two weeks.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the end of the second week, I'm feeling like I'm getting my groove, I'm getting bought in, I'm getting excited for the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: I get pulled to a meeting, and my manager was like, you know, you're doing a great job.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: You know, we really enjoy having you on board.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but we are like, there's been a change in the plans, and like this is it, like today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that rocked my world.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt so like numb and in disbelief.
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  SPEAKER_00: I it was such a blow and it hurt so much that I felt like it was going somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was so close and then it was taken away from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had a situation with a scholarship that I've talked about before.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had this scholarship.
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  SPEAKER_00: It wasn't signed, but it was like I verbally committed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was so close, then it was taken away from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had relationships that I've built up and put in the work.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: And just when I thought this person was ready to make the next step, it's taken away from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these things have happened in different ways at different intensities throughout my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you start to go through enough occurrences where you build up and you work up and you buy in, and then it's taken away from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you actually receive something, of course I'm gonna feel like it's gonna be taken away from me, especially when it's something so good, it's it's gonna feel like let me not commit to this so that if it does leave, I don't have as much of an emotional attachment and I won't get hurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because historically, when I've been all in, it's gotten taken away, and that hurts.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's heartbreaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, this is a new day, and as I grow and expand and unlearn past things about myself and re-implementing tools that'll help me be accepting of the life that I'm creating, it allows for a space for me to learn how to accept things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It took inner work, it took boundary setting with myself, it took getting rest because sometimes I would just work so hard, and that kind of affects my brain functioning to where I can't think critically, logically, or just be receptive to things.
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  SPEAKER_00: It took me being honest with myself, like, hey, even though this could be very much so true that, like, hey, maybe this can be taken away, maybe this is something that could happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: But right now that's not the case.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you need to acknowledge where we are in this moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what I had to do to even start to understand that, hey, I'm in a shift.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like, because if you are sitting there thinking that these things are temporary, these things are fleeting, you can't really accept that your life is shifting.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: You think it's just a fluke in your bad season instead of a shift in your journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had to really look at it like, no, things are shifting.
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  SPEAKER_00: The veil is lifting, the cloud is dissipating, things are getting brighter, things are getting better.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel it energetically, I feel it in the environment around me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you can't fake the shift, you can't act like you don't feel it when things are looking up.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Another huge part that I had to do and that I still work on is letting go of old beliefs and behaviors that I use to keep me safe.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: Something that I think was unconscious that I used to move through life was I get lucky and I have to work very hard to earn things.
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  SPEAKER_00: But once I earn them, it's just an earn.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's what I'm supposed to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I had to really like release that and drill into my head like I deserve great things.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_00: I deserve things whether I work hard for them or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you work hard for it, of course you deserve greater.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like you still deserve good things to happen to you, even if you don't work super hard for them.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like I'm not saying you deserve the world and you don't work for it.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: That's not what I'm saying.
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  SPEAKER_00: But not working yourself to death does not mean you deserve bad things to happen.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's what I mean.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you're still deserving, regardless of how much work you're putting in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, the more you work, the more you put out there, the more you deserve to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't put out a shit ton of effort, that still doesn't rule you out from deserving a better life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just got to put in the work now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And putting in the work was never my problem.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: I work hard in everything that I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have ask anything because effort in is effort out.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't want to receive half a blessing, half abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to receive everything that I deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know I can't get that if I'm not putting out that effort to receive it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, look, I know I'm working hard, I know what I'm putting out there.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: So when I receive great things, it's because I deserve it.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: But there is still that voice in my back of my head that's like, or maybe you got lucky, or maybe it's temporary.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna lie to y'all and say that it's gone.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's still there, but the voice of reason and understanding and power is louder than that voice of scarcity and fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also have people around me who remind me how great and how deserving I am.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: I have friends damn near on a weekly basis who pour into me, especially when good things happen to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: There were times where there were significant events that happened and I shared just for the sake of like, let me update them on this, but I'm not feeling like it's anything significant because I'm making every excuse to like, well, it happened, but it wasn't this, you know?
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm telling my friends, and they are hyped, they are excited as hell.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I kind of feel bad because I'm like, damn, maybe I should feel better about myself.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: I have a friend of mine who celebrates everything.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: Any reason she got to celebrate, she's going to celebrate.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_00: And I was talking to her recently, and she's like, We never celebrated your job.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: And you're absolutely right.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: I tried to move past it, I tried to forget about it because you know, I'm just trying to move on.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, No, we we need to celebrate.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I respect that.
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you are worthy of celebration, small celebration, large celebration.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: If you accomplish things, you need to honor that and celebrate that shit, especially coming out of hard seasons, especially being in this new shift of life.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because again, the energy you put out is the energy you get back.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: I truly believe that.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: So if you are saying this is temporary, guess what?
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be temporary.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: If you are telling yourself, I don't deserve this, I got lucky, it's not here to stay, guess what?
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: That shit gonna be gone before you realize.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: If you tell yourself, like, I don't think this is gonna last, I'm waiting for something bad to happen, guess what?
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: That shoe is gonna drop, and it's gonna drop right on your head and rock your world.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Because whether you tell yourself your life is great or your life is hard, you are right.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: You determine and you dictate how your life is going to be based on what you tell the universe.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: I really believe that.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: And once I stopped telling myself, like, look, things are hard, things aren't getting any easier, maybe one day I'll get it.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's always what my life was going to be.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_00: I really had to shift my thinking into a state of like, these things are mine now.
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_00: I did not believe it, but I'm trying to tell myself to I till I could get to a place where I was going to believe it until it was real.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what happened.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: Now that it's here, I'm dealing with this other part of making myself believe it because now it actually is tangible.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_00: Now it actually is something that exists.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: So now it's really like making my unconscious self, my core, believe like you do deserve this.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: And that's easier said than done.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: But I had to stop chasing and start trusting.
• 27:07
  SPEAKER_00: I've shared with y'all before, but my year for 2026 is trust, like in myself, in the universe, in the fact that everything is working out for myself.
• 27:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was not living like that for the first four or five months.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_00: But eventually, I told myself that no matter what, I'm just gonna act like it's happening.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: Fake it till you make it.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: Really try and embody the things that you want.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_00: And things started to happen for me.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: I had to continue the work.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_00: You can't just pray and manifest without doing the work.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's just that's not gonna work out either way.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: You have to match the belief, the manifestation, the prayer with the effort and the work.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: You have to put yourself in alignment, and you can't just pray yourself into a better situation.
• 27:55
  SPEAKER_00: You have to work, you have to earn it, you have to get out there and put boots on the ground and make it happen and keep showing up even when it's hard, even when it's cold out mentally, metaphorically.
• 28:09
  SPEAKER_00: You have to keep going because that shift, that new season, is coming.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_00: Tough times don't last, tough people do.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta keep moving forward through the dark days because the shift is right around the corner.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: So we gotta get honest, get clear, and get moving towards the life that we want because it's not gonna change if you don't change with it.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_00: And you gotta keep going because obstacles are always gonna be there.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_00: And eventually, when you keep putting one foot in front of the other, that shift is gonna happen.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: And when it happens, it's very important that you stay grounded, do not fast forward and try and think of the what could go wrong, what happens when this goes wrong?
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because you are putting out there that something's going to go wrong.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: Stay focused, stay grounded, stay where you are and receive the gift.
• 29:05
  SPEAKER_00: You work so hard to get this peace of mind, to get this calm in your life.
• 29:10
  SPEAKER_00: Protect it.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: Stop trying to run from it now that you got it, stop trying to add conflict and struggle now that you got the thing that you were praying for.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't make any sense.
• 29:20
  SPEAKER_00: What was all that praying for?
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: You just want to struggle?
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I understand.
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, the struggle can be the comfort zone to a lot of us because that's what we're used to.
• 29:32
  SPEAKER_00: But you gotta recognize when good things are happening to you.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_00: Otherwise, what is this all for?
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_00: Trust that the hard work that you put in is the reason why you're here now, and the reason why this shift and this change is happening, and it's only up from here.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_00: This is just the beginning.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: And understand, you might hit another cold season later, you might hit another hardship.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: Seasons change, seasons come and go, but it does not mean you're gonna be there forever.
• 29:59
  SPEAKER_00: You just have to keep moving through the tough times, the good times, and embracing it when it goes good.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because the shift is not the destination, it's proof that you can survive the hard parts and still land somewhere good.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: Let's get into this.
• 30:17
  SPEAKER_00: I say this with love.
• 30:19
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• 30:28
  SPEAKER_00: Not to be dramatic, but I am so burnt out, sizzled, to a crisp, and I'm always so tired.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, not just sleep tired, like so tired.
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_00: I've been grinding for so long, I don't even remember what I actually enjoy anymore.
• 30:46
  SPEAKER_00: I work, I check the boxes, do my job, and then I go home and have nothing left.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: Not for my friends, not for my man, not for myself.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I can't just stop because if I stop, I lose everything.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: People keep saying, just rest, like that's an option, but these bills gotta get paid.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just tired and over it.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: I say this with love.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: I hear you.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_00: I feel you.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_00: You probably are burnt out.
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: You most likely are actually burnt out.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_00: When's the last time you took a vacation?
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: When's the last time you took a day to do some self-care?
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have a therapist?
• 31:27
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have things that can help refill your cup?
• 31:30
  SPEAKER_00: What do you do after work?
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have hobbies?
• 31:33
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have things that you do on the weekend?
• 31:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like you can't just spend your life going to work, going to sleep, because that's what your life becomes.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: Work.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: So you have to find a way to do things in your free time that adds enrichment to your life.
• 31:53
  SPEAKER_00: Working all the time is draining as hell.
• 31:57
  SPEAKER_00: I get it.
• 31:57
  SPEAKER_00: Especially if you got a commute, especially if you have a partner.
• 32:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, damn, I feel guilty because I don't have any energy, but I'm tired as hell and I don't want to do all these things after work because work was so draining and I gotta get up and do it again tomorrow.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_00: I understand.
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_00: But first of all, because you're burnt, you need to get out of the burnt.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_00: You need to take some time.
• 32:19
  SPEAKER_00: If you have time to take off, I would say take a vacation, a week, a few days, however long you feel.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: If it's more extreme than that, maybe you need time away from work.
• 32:30
  SPEAKER_00: Explore what it is that you need to help you get out of the burnt out phase.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: Then once you're in a better place, we need to add things to enrich our life.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_00: You need to do things after work that help you separate the fact that work was in this part of my day and this part is for living.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_00: If all you do is work, all you do is work.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I get it, you need energy to do other things, but it's really going to be a game changer in allowing you to feel like you're worth more and doing more than just working, you know.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_00: Other than that, maybe you need a new job.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if the job is a reason why you're burnt out.
• 33:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it's just because you've been going for so long, but you've got to start implementing more into your life to make your life feel more holistic.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because right now it just sounds like it's just work and that'll burn you out and continue to burn you out, no matter how much you enjoy your life or your job.
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_00: So I would explore that.
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm sorry you're feeling this way because I have been there.
• 33:37
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but I am wishing you all the best in your journey.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_00: All right, y'all.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_00: That is it for today's episode.
• 33:43
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• 33:53
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• 33:59
  SPEAKER_00: But I appreciate y'all.
• 34:01
  SPEAKER_00: And as always, I'm RJ.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is the Alive I Guess podcast, and I'll see y'all same time next week.
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm alive.
• 34:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a live like it.
• 34:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a live like this.