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Dear Banya: Love or Upgrades? · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: Yes we are.
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  Speaker 2: She means business today she does. Oh, we have to
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  Speaker 2: address something. What the videos from last week?
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  Speaker 3: So we do need to address that because we apologize.
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  Speaker 4: I apologize after eight.
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  Speaker 3: Year established podcast. You should not have seen what you
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  Speaker 3: saw what you saw videos.
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  Speaker 2: The lighting looked as though the sun was on us.
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  Speaker 1: I look like I had just jumped into a pool
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  Speaker 1: of vasoline.
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  Speaker 4: I looked. There's too many things to name.
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  Speaker 2: When the it was so bad that when I was
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  Speaker 2: innocently scrolling on social media.
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  Speaker 4: And it was I literally was like, what is this?
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  Speaker 3: Robbie goes You guys don't look so great?
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  Speaker 2: And that.
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  Speaker 3: My biggest cheerleader, you know what's bad? One of my
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  Speaker 3: biggest cheerleaders.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I mean, I always see the videos and I'm
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  Speaker 2: never like wow, but I was just like, yikes, yike.
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  Speaker 2: So just know that we are aware, We're not unaware
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  Speaker 2: of the situation.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we'll do better. We will do better.
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  Speaker 2: We have a Dear Bonnie episode today where we will
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  Speaker 2: do our best to give advice on those who ask,
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  Speaker 2: so shall we shall we begin?
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  Speaker 5: We shall begin from mel Hi, I beca Tanya Mark
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  Speaker 5: and everybody loves Eastern Wow, that's very nice. I'm about
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  Speaker 5: two weeks away from my wedding and my fiance and
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  Speaker 5: I are finalizing a prenup. We've been together three years.
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  Speaker 5: I love his family. I understand that we're just trying
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  Speaker 5: to protect themselves and their family, but since the prenup
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  Speaker 5: was initiated by them, I can't help but feeling less
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  Speaker 5: than since they come from money and I do not.
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  Speaker 5: I'd be lying if I said this process has been
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  Speaker 5: emotionally heavy for me. Meeting with a lawyer brought up
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  Speaker 5: some tough feeling. It's hard to plan for what if
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  Speaker 5: scenarios when I'm so focused on building a future with
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  Speaker 5: the person I love. My fiance has been feeling uncomfortable
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  Speaker 5: about it too, which makes me feel less alone in this.
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  Speaker 5: But at the end of the day, I know he's
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  Speaker 5: my person. I can't wait to marry him. This has
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  Speaker 5: been weighing on me. I'd appreciate any advice or perspective
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  Speaker 5: you might have as I work through it. Thank you,
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  Speaker 5: Love you. Every week brightens my day. Loving scrubber, Mel.
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  Speaker 2: Dang, the premum conversation is really I think it's very complicated.
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  Speaker 2: My feelings on are very complicated.
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  Speaker 1: I know because because I think my feelings would be
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  Speaker 1: hurt if my husband fiance, let's say Robbie asked me
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  Speaker 1: for a prenup. I think my feelings would be hurt.
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  Speaker 1: So I understand Mel, why you're feeling this way. But
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's also just a
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  Speaker 1: legal document, Like there's contracts for we signed a contract
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  Speaker 1: to sign a per a friaking net flo these days,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, there's just contracts in
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  Speaker 1: place for everything. So I feel like if you just
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  Speaker 1: take your emotional brain out and just put your rational
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  Speaker 1: brain in, like if in this situation, in that if
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  Speaker 1: that situation happens, it's gonna create so much less fighting
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  Speaker 1: at the end of it, Like you're just gonna it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be done, And like why not hash that all
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  Speaker 1: out now while things are good, then down the road
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  Speaker 1: when it's contentious and it can get nasty.
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  Speaker 2: That's a good perspective, Like you sign a contract for everything,
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  Speaker 2: and getting married is a contract in and of itself,
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  Speaker 2: Like you sign like a license, you know, and so
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  Speaker 2: I think at.
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  Speaker 4: The end of the day, I've.
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  Speaker 2: Always thought of it as I agree, though, I think
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  Speaker 2: especially if you're not the one with the financial.
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  Speaker 4: Upper hand, upper hand. Yeah, I get where you would
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  Speaker 4: feel like, oh wow, they.
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  Speaker 2: Think I'm right gonna just take advantage of the situation,
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  Speaker 2: like it feels like an attack on your character almost,
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  Speaker 2: But I do agree, Like the emotional part makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, you just never
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  Speaker 2: know what's going to happen, Like you, life is so unpredictable.
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  Speaker 2: No one gets married hoping that something bad is going
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  Speaker 2: to happen, right, so, and.
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  Speaker 1: You never know, like the prenup like fight for fight
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  Speaker 1: for what you feel is right, you know, like you
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  Speaker 1: never know. Maybe I don't want to even put that
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  Speaker 1: energy out there, but like he could be the one
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  Speaker 1: that like cheats and messes up and then you want
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  Speaker 1: but then you want to you want the prenup and
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  Speaker 1: you want to you want to be gone and you
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  Speaker 1: want to be protected, and you don't want to deal
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  Speaker 1: with all that after you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would just make sure that you feel safe
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  Speaker 2: and seen and stick up for yourself while you're negotiating
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  Speaker 2: the prenup. And and also I agree, like take the
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  Speaker 2: emotional part out of it and see it as something
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  Speaker 2: that in the case that something bad happens, it's settled
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  Speaker 2: before you have to like get into the weeds of things.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, anyone else have an opinion on this.
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  Speaker 5: I just think when his family comes from money, this
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  Speaker 5: is standard, and I think they've probably been burned before
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  Speaker 5: four and the generations of I'm assuming this is some
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  Speaker 5: wealthy family through the generations. I don't know, but I
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  Speaker 5: think it just kind of you just got to do it,
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  Speaker 5: and it sucks, for sure, it sucks, but I think
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  Speaker 5: it's just probably standard for their family. And I'm glad
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  Speaker 5: that he's on your side in this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah that's nice.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I mean I agree.
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  Speaker 6: Uh, the way I always thought about it was like,
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  Speaker 6: it sucks to be talking about what if our marriage ends,
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  Speaker 6: but the idea, but like, you know, if things go
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  Speaker 6: the way they should, you won't have to deal with
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  Speaker 6: this at all, you know, Like, so it just like
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  Speaker 6: it doesn't matter if it exists or not, because you'll
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  Speaker 6: be together, you'll die hand in hand with each other.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 6: I agree with you, Like it just makes things easier,
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  Speaker 6: so why not.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just a rational girly.
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  Speaker 4: You are the one of these things.
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  Speaker 5: The seeds, the seeds, all right, next one, I'll just
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  Speaker 5: summarize this real quick. She's in La. She's living in
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  Speaker 5: West Hollywood with her boyfriend. They're to be moving back
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  Speaker 5: to these coast in a couple of years. They're in
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  Speaker 5: their young thirties. They work a lot, but they like
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  Speaker 5: the West Hollywood vibe. Their friends are all there. But
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  Speaker 5: she really wants to live by the beach. But that's
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  Speaker 5: gonna be more expensive. They'd be farther from their friends,
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  Speaker 5: and so she's trying to decide do I move to
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  Speaker 5: the beach or not before we go back to the
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  Speaker 5: East coast in a couple of years. No, no, no, Why.
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  Speaker 3: You just said it's more expensive than they're far away
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  Speaker 3: from their friends.
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  Speaker 5: But I think her heart's desires to live by the beach.
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  Speaker 3: Well, get a sound machine and get some beach sounds.
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  Speaker 2: Here, I will say, Tanya's not. I don't find you
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  Speaker 2: to be a huge beach person. So as someone who
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  Speaker 2: loves the beach, use me.
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  Speaker 1: I am a water sign, I belong I am a
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  Speaker 1: crab that belongs in the water.
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  Speaker 2: No, you're not a La beach person, correct, Okay, So
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  Speaker 2: as someone who is a La Beach person, I say
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  Speaker 2: do it because if not now.
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  Speaker 3: When never?
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  Speaker 1: If not, you so expensive getting across town is so annoying.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think if you make that decision, you have
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  Speaker 2: to know the commute's going to be. It is annoyed
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  Speaker 2: when you're stuck on the west Side, especially in rush
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  Speaker 2: hour traffic. It is more expensive. But I think that
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  Speaker 2: when I lived in Brentwood, I loved living in Brentwood.
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  Speaker 4: Because I was close to the beach.
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  Speaker 2: I loved the west Side, and I thought it was
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  Speaker 2: worth all those things.
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  Speaker 1: When I moved out of Brentwood, I was able to
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  Speaker 1: live alone, not by the beach, and I loved it.
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  Speaker 3: But she wants to be I don't think she does.
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  Speaker 5: She also says, what La neighborhood experiences have you guys had,
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  Speaker 5: and what if you loved or not loved so you
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  Speaker 5: enjoyed Brentwood.
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  Speaker 4: Loved Brentwood, I love the west Side.
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  Speaker 1: I hate traffic, so I like being close to places
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  Speaker 1: I need to be.
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  Speaker 5: Well, her boyfriend wants to be near the four or
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  Speaker 5: five because that's where his commute takes him.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the four or five hits a lot of towns.
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  Speaker 5: I'm just saying, as long as he's near the four
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  Speaker 5: or five is commute is manageable. So any of those
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  Speaker 5: towns he could do.
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  Speaker 2: Why not try to find somewhere where you can get
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  Speaker 2: like a six month lease, but maybe wait till next
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  Speaker 2: summer whenever it's the beach is going to be at
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  Speaker 2: the peak season because there are or the beach is not.
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  Speaker 4: It's very dreary over there. Sometimes, how do.
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  Speaker 5: You built Long Beach? Long Beach is one of the
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  Speaker 5: cheaper of the beach communities that's even further from.
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  Speaker 3: Their friends in West Hollywood.
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  Speaker 5: I'm just saying, if she wants a beach experience, My
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  Speaker 5: wife lived on Ocean Avenue when she first moved out here,
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  Speaker 5: and it was really nice to be across the streets
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  Speaker 5: from the Ocean.
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  Speaker 4: I was looking at Brentwood. You're right next to the
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  Speaker 4: four or five.
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  Speaker 2: This is so funny if you're not from La listening
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  Speaker 2: to this, But I would say, I would say do it,
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  Speaker 2: because if you're going.
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  Speaker 1: To by the four or five, it's probably cheaper than
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  Speaker 1: Brentwood Hermosa.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: From I'm just trying, we're going to see your friends
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of where she could live that's
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  Speaker 2: close enough for their friends, but close to the beach.
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  Speaker 2: Long Beach is crazy, But I support you doing this.
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  Speaker 2: I think you should ask someone who loves the beach
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  Speaker 2: and eventually would love to live near the beach. I
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  Speaker 2: encourage you to do it because you're what are you
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  Speaker 2: going to look back and be like, oh, we were
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  Speaker 2: an extra, we had to drive an extra ten minutes
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  Speaker 2: in traffic.
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  Speaker 5: You'll never regret living by the beach, That's what I say.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know about that.
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  Speaker 5: Coming up.
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  Speaker 3: We have a couple of space. You're not going to
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  Speaker 3: get that by the beach.
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  Speaker 5: They're going to get spaced on the East Coast when
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  Speaker 5: they move back. No, they're not. Why not? You don't
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  Speaker 5: know where they're going.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: Where are you thinking they're moving?
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  Speaker 3: The East coast is in town Manhattan?
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  Speaker 5: Be tight.
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  Speaker 2: I think they might have a little more space lands
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  Speaker 2: North Carolina.
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  Speaker 4: I have your little beach cottage.
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  Speaker 5: Now, Okay, a couple of things coming up that I
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  Speaker 5: want to tease because we're professionals. Uh, we have updates
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  Speaker 5: from previous DearS and a question to debate as to
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  Speaker 5: whether or not to upgrade on a plane. If you
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  Speaker 5: have the opportunity to upgrade, even though it means your
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  Speaker 5: partner would still be back in the coach. This conversation
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  Speaker 5: coming up.
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  Speaker 4: All right, we're back with some updates.
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  Speaker 5: Se Yeah, let's do this one quick first. Or from
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  Speaker 5: Holly to upgrade or not to upgrade? Sore? Her siner
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  Speaker 5: boyfriend are flying to Hawaii, books to flight separately because
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  Speaker 5: they each had points they wanted to use. She's a
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  Speaker 5: freaking flyer. She has status.
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  Speaker 1: He does not.
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  Speaker 5: Well, she checked in she had gotten upgraded, he hadn't,
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  Speaker 5: so she declined the upgrade so they could sit together.
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  Speaker 5: But she's wondering our thoughts. When you're traveling with the
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  Speaker 5: significant other and one gets upgraded, do you keep it
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  Speaker 5: and split up or do you decline and sit next
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  Speaker 5: to each other by the way on the way home.
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  Speaker 5: I did get upgraded. I kept it. I told him
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  Speaker 5: I'd send some snacks back his way. Ha ha, Curious.
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  Speaker 5: I think you too have the opposite of opinion on this.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, here's my thought on this, because when you get status,
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  Speaker 2: that means that you have put in the work to
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  Speaker 2: earn that upgrade, and I think that depending on the
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  Speaker 2: length of the flight, like if you get if you
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  Speaker 2: can get upgraded into a laydown seat.
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  Speaker 4: I think you take Like, saying no to that.
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  Speaker 3: Is crazy, crazy, I don't think so, yeah, it's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: And so if Hale, like, let's say Hailey got upgraded
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  Speaker 2: and I did it, I'd be like, take it. Hailey
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  Speaker 2: would be more inclined because she'd rather just like sit
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  Speaker 2: with me, but I would be like, either, if you
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  Speaker 2: don't take it, I'm gonna take it.
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  Speaker 5: So like I predict Tani will say that she would
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  Speaker 5: rather sit in the back row of coach next to
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  Speaker 5: the bathroom if she's with Robbie well rather as opposed
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  Speaker 5: to being offered the greatest first class laid down massage
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  Speaker 5: treatment imaginable.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you what happened.
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  Speaker 1: So I am the one my in my family that
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  Speaker 1: has the status. I went on my trip to can
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  Speaker 1: My work trip set me over the edge with Delta,
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  Speaker 1: which is amazing because I didn't even pay for that flight.
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  Speaker 1: So now I have this like amazing status. And when
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  Speaker 1: we flew for that wedding, we flew to Mexico City.
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  Speaker 1: We're flying on a Sunday morning at seven am, not
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  Speaker 1: a very booked flight, right, We had seats in the
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  Speaker 1: back by the backroom. But I have the status, so
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  Speaker 1: we went up and because I have the status, I
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  Speaker 1: was able to upgrade the both of us because because
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  Speaker 1: we were on the same we were on the same ticket.
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  Speaker 1: I would not first of all, and we were both upgraded.
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  Speaker 1: They were not light down flats, but we still got
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  Speaker 1: to like push our chairs back a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what if only you got upgraded ticket you want it?
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  Speaker 5: That's that's what I saw. I was right.
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't one for all.
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  Speaker 5: All for one, like one of those overseas flights where
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  Speaker 5: you have your own little cabin nook up there where
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  Speaker 5: you can lay down and watch TV.
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  Speaker 3: And he's not with me, what's the point.
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  Speaker 4: If it's an overseas flight with a lay down.
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  Speaker 2: My thing would be I'll take half of it and
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  Speaker 2: then we'll switch and you can have the lay down.
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  Speaker 4: For the other house.
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  Speaker 2: That's smart, because I do think both of us should
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  Speaker 2: get to enjoy that. I just think getting upgraded with
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  Speaker 2: it that experience and not taking it is just like
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  Speaker 2: what's the point of having status?
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  Speaker 4: Like Hayley has what's it called TSA pre check. I
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  Speaker 4: don't have it, which I know. I know it's.
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  Speaker 5: Wires. The slightest effort is not you and put your
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  Speaker 5: finger and you refuse.
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  Speaker 3: There's a place right here.
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  Speaker 6: You have to go to l a X you know,
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  Speaker 6: go to the mall and he played an iPad.
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  Speaker 5: Any Staples does this, No, I.
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  Speaker 3: Went to like a store here in Burbank, somewhere right
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  Speaker 3: around here. Anyways, I have clear so whatever, the same thing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, half an hour.
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  Speaker 4: I'll look into it.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: I did think you had to go to lax Well.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's global entry, which I also need that.
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  Speaker 2: Haley is both and every time she goes, I'm like, see,
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  Speaker 2: I'll catch you on the other side a little bit later,
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  Speaker 2: but you go. I never expect her to stay with me.
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  Speaker 1: I would. I just would never, Like I just would never,
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  Speaker 1: And if Roby did, that would be very offensive to you.
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  Speaker 5: Never I'll catch you on the other side.
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  Speaker 3: I would literally be like bye. Yeah, I'm like you,
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  Speaker 3: you're not waiting for me.
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  Speaker 5: You have it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't. That's my on me, So go enjoy the perks.
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  Speaker 3: I I just we did our global entry together.
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  Speaker 1: We do our tsa pre make sure we're both like
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  Speaker 1: up to date on our whatever you have to do now,
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  Speaker 1: because I feel like once you get it, you just
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  Speaker 1: have to pay right.
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  Speaker 5: Just like renew it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, renew it, listen.
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  Speaker 4: I support both options.
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  Speaker 2: If you're someone who's like, I'm not going to take
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  Speaker 2: the upgrade because I want to be with my person,
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  Speaker 2: I respect it. If you're like, hey, I have a
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  Speaker 2: statis for a reason and want a more comfortable experience,
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  Speaker 2: take it.
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  Speaker 5: I would not take it.
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  Speaker 2: I do like, oh wow, I do like what Holly
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  Speaker 2: did because she didn't take it on the way there
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  Speaker 2: and then on the way back she said, actually, you
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  Speaker 2: know what, I'm going to take advantage of this and
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  Speaker 2: I'll send you some snacks.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want the snacks I want you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Robbie might life having like you not staring at
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  Speaker 2: him the whole time.
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  Speaker 3: He doesn't. He likes me right next, well you ask it.
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  Speaker 4: No, I know what he's going to say.
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  Speaker 2: He's too privy to your to our games games.
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  Speaker 4: He would take it or not.
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  Speaker 6: If I got it, I would not. If Allison got it,
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  Speaker 6: I would insist she took.
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  Speaker 5: That's what I was thinking the same thing. I think.
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  Speaker 2: If Haley got it, I'd be like, you take it
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  Speaker 2: if she had her feelings hurt about me taking it.
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  Speaker 2: I would never like if if it was obvious that
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  Speaker 2: she was upset that I was gonna take it. I
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  Speaker 2: would never do it, yeah, but if she got it,
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, please go enjoy And she probably wouldn't,
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: but I would encourage her to.
• 15:30
  Speaker 5: All Right, we have an update Emory. Remember Emory. Back
• 15:33
  Speaker 5: in March, she wrote us saying she met a guy
• 15:35
  Speaker 5: that's a barista at her coffee shop that she felt
• 15:37
  Speaker 5: super connected to. After he told his mom about her,
• 15:40
  Speaker 5: his mom told him he wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
• 15:43
  Speaker 5: It cruffed her, but she didn't think things were done
• 15:46
  Speaker 5: with them. She has an update for us. Do you
• 15:47
  Speaker 5: guys remember this? Yeah?
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: I do remember this.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: Hiat challenging time for me.
• 15:53
  Speaker 5: Life update from the Youre Like Really Pretty episode back
• 15:56
  Speaker 5: in March about the barista, Well, the barista listened to
• 15:58
  Speaker 5: the episode admitted he was just scared his mom was
• 16:02
  Speaker 5: a scapegoat. Fast forward now we've been dating six months
• 16:04
  Speaker 5: and I have been the most secure partnership I've ever
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: been in. Thank you all for the tough love, because
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: I don't think we would be where we are without
• 16:11
  Speaker 5: the podcast. Wow to all the scrubbers out there waiting
• 16:14
  Speaker 5: on your person. God has a plan and it may
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: not look like what you had thought out for yourself,
• 16:18
  Speaker 5: but everything works out in the end.
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: Wow, you know what, after eight years, we had some
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: good news.
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: Congrats Emery is is exciting. I love that.
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: You know what I heard from that email. It was
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: to the podcast that we helped this relationship survive. That's
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: all I needed to hear.
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: Another update back in May, say, I remember this one.
• 16:41
  Speaker 5: Tanya a WLW scrubber with a dream and almost a ring,
• 16:44
  Speaker 5: wrote in saying she and her girlfriend had been together
• 16:46
  Speaker 5: two years, looked at rings and planned to secretly order
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: each other's. She usually takes the lead and thought it'd
• 16:51
  Speaker 5: be specially for girlfriend proposed first, and then she'd lose
• 16:54
  Speaker 5: the chance to surprise her. She also worried about her
• 16:56
  Speaker 5: girlfriend's religious family, thinking she was rushing things she had
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: that she should wait or go ahead and plan her
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: own proposal. Do you remember this one?
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: Yes?
• 17:02
  Speaker 5: Okay? She read it with an update her girlfriend beat
• 17:06
  Speaker 5: her to it. Little did I know? She says her
• 17:09
  Speaker 5: clock was ticking and I plan on proposing to her
• 17:12
  Speaker 5: this weekend per Mark's advice. Oh that's nice. Just wanted
• 17:15
  Speaker 5: to come back and let you know how much your
• 17:17
  Speaker 5: advice meant to me. Any insecurities I had were relieved,
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: since I also didn't want to tell anyone about the proposal.
• 17:21
  Speaker 5: I played the clip of the pod for her afterwards
• 17:24
  Speaker 5: and she was screaming, is this about us? She was like,
• 17:27
  Speaker 5: how on earth did you not tell me this? You
• 17:28
  Speaker 5: must have been freaking out. Ha ha ha, Becca, I
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: met you at Haley's concert in Dallas and told you
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: I was looking for the Haley to my Becca. Well,
• 17:35
  Speaker 5: I found her and now we're both engaged and the
• 17:38
  Speaker 5: same time as Taylor. The girls are really.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: God And she sends a really cute photo.
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: That's a cute photo that.
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: Looks like AI.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: That photo is so cute, literally literally AI.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: That's a good engagement like photo posts to show the ring.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, are you thinking about your next engagement?
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Well yeah, well we have talked about doing engage like
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: engagement photos here in LA with a photographer, So I
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: was just I like looking at up for photos because
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: when we were in my Orca trying to think about
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: a pose, it was.
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, it's not easy.
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah, a really good job making it look easy. Yeah.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Also, thank y'all always for writing into us if you
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: ever need advice. As you can see we sometimes give.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: Great apparently, I think a lot of the time.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Well, this is like confirmation we'd.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Always we should just put this like on our resume.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: Resume d MS on Instagram at scrubbing in pod or
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: We love doing these so we love you so much
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: about next week. We will be back on Wednesday.
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: I'll be going on so little late, little late, but
• 19:00
  Speaker 5: a lot great.
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: A little late, but a lot great. We'll see you
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: next week. Love you some, love you Bye,