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Unconditional Love Doesn't Mean Unlimited Access · Spunky Spirit with Cari Mugz

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  Speaker 1: You're listening to this Spunky Spirit podcast where intuition meets
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  Speaker 1: real life. Hello and welcome to this Spunky Spirit podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I am your host, psychic medium Carrie Muggs. Now she
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  Speaker 1: can see you. We have a different layout and I
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  Speaker 1: think the light might be kind of glory if you're
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  Speaker 1: watching this on video. I'm just trying to get this down.
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  Speaker 1: That's why this week's podcast episode is kind of late
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  Speaker 1: because I'm trying to figure out. I have new stuff
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  Speaker 1: because I'm going to start having interviews and people coming
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  Speaker 1: and so I have like all this new stuff that
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out. So it's been like lots
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  Speaker 1: of different technical difficulties.
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  Speaker 2: So please be patient with.
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  Speaker 1: Me, and I just want to explain to you too.
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  Speaker 1: So this is not to like get attention or anything
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  Speaker 1: like that.
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  Speaker 2: Button.
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  Speaker 1: If you follow me, you know that I have a
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  Speaker 1: little granddaughter who has some heart issues. She has tautology
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  Speaker 1: of flow. She actually got life lighted two.
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  Speaker 2: Primary children's this week. She is fine. Her heartbeat was
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  Speaker 2: just a little fast and they were kind of worried
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  Speaker 2: about it. She ended up just having a virus that.
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  Speaker 1: Made her that made her heart beat a little fast,
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  Speaker 1: so it was just kind of a scary moment.
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  Speaker 2: So then we didn't get And I just.
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  Speaker 1: Want to tell you a little story because this is
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  Speaker 1: how my twenty twenty six has gone. And I know
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  Speaker 1: from all the people who have emailed me, messaged me,
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  Speaker 1: sent me stuff. I kind of feel like this is
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  Speaker 1: a collective thing. It is like one thing after another.
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  Speaker 1: It just feels like it's constantly. This is where you
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  Speaker 1: like have to like go forward and keep moving and
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  Speaker 1: do all that stuff. So I'm gonna tell you this
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  Speaker 1: little story about my grand my grandkids, and I think
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  Speaker 1: it'll be okay because my daughter in law doesn't care if.
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  Speaker 2: I tell these stories about them. So this is my son.
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  Speaker 2: This is my son's kids. He has three little girls, Nellie,
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  Speaker 2: Scarly and Molly.
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  Speaker 1: And some of you may know my son because he
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  Speaker 1: is he does medical stuff where we're located and and
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  Speaker 1: some of you, some of my clients have told me
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  Speaker 1: that they go to him. So anyways, my daughter Luck
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  Speaker 1: gets up, she takes Nelly to the to the er
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  Speaker 1: because her heart because her her her lips are.
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  Speaker 2: Blue and her hands are blue.
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  Speaker 1: And that's a really scary sign for people, for little
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  Speaker 1: kids who have teutology of Felow or have heart stuff.
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  Speaker 1: So she takes her to the r and they're like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: her heart rate is a little fast, So we're nervous
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  Speaker 1: about this. So we're gonna get We're gonna fly lifelighter
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  Speaker 1: to Primary Children's and so my daughter in law's like okay,
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  Speaker 1: So she takes the kids. She takes Nellie and Scarly
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  Speaker 1: to the neighbor's house and their neighbors are awesome, so
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  Speaker 1: love their neighbors. And then she goes and packs her
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  Speaker 1: stuff so she can drive down because my son has
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  Speaker 1: appointments at his work that he has to he has
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  Speaker 1: to continue to do so, and Nellie can only go
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  Speaker 1: in the hot helicopter by herself with other people.
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  Speaker 2: They can't have any family members.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my daughter in law packs her stuff, starts to
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  Speaker 1: drive down, and my her mother goes and picks up
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  Speaker 1: the girls from the neighbor's house, and then she takes
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  Speaker 1: to her house where my son is going to pick
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  Speaker 1: them up. They're gonna go home and pack and then
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  Speaker 1: they're gonna leave the following morning to go to Primary
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  Speaker 1: childres to go see Nellie. Now they were already planning
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  Speaker 1: on doing this because Nellie. It was time for Nellie
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  Speaker 1: to have her heart rate checked and all of that stuff,
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  Speaker 1: but now they can't because she has a virus. So anyways,
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  Speaker 1: as my as my my son's mother in law picks
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  Speaker 1: up the girls, Scarly, who's a little it's just she's
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  Speaker 1: just a little revel she said, come up, my tongue
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  Speaker 1: is tingly. And then she like five minutes later she said, Emma,
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  Speaker 1: my froat is scratchy, and so my mother, my sons.
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  Speaker 1: I want to call her, but I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: call her. I don't want I don't want to if
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  Speaker 1: she for privacy protection. And she kind of gets a
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  Speaker 1: clue in She's like, oh, Scarlet, did you have peanuts?
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  Speaker 1: And Scarlet's like, yeah, I add two peanuts and step
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  Speaker 1: Scarlely is allergic to peanuts. So and the neighbors probably
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  Speaker 1: did not know or have no have any clue. So
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  Speaker 1: then they proceed to take her to the er to
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  Speaker 1: get so scar and.
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  Speaker 2: They give her benda drill.
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  Speaker 1: It's not funny, but this is how twenty twenty six
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  Speaker 1: has been right. This is just like a synopsis.
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  Speaker 2: Of twenty twenty six.
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  Speaker 1: You are going to primary children's for one thing, and
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  Speaker 1: then this thing happens. This has been my twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: six and from the sounds from you guys, this has
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  Speaker 1: been your twenty twenty six. So anyways, Scarlet goes to
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  Speaker 1: the er. They give her bena drill and she proceeds
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  Speaker 1: to to ex vomit all of the get rid of
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  Speaker 1: this peanuts our first system. And she goes home and
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  Speaker 1: she's fine. So I go over to my son's house
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  Speaker 1: that night to kind of just see if everything's okay,
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  Speaker 1: make sure everything's good, and I said, Scarly, did.
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  Speaker 2: You eat peanuts? She said, Gemma, I had two penits.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like, honestly, it is like I know, at
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  Speaker 2: the beginning of the year, I was like, this is
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  Speaker 2: the fire Horse year.
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  Speaker 1: This is like go forward, move forward, And it just
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  Speaker 1: seems like every single time move forward, the fence is
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  Speaker 1: in front of you and somebody douses the fire horse
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  Speaker 1: with water. It just seems like it's a not stop thing.
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  Speaker 1: And the thing that's so crazy is it's just not
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  Speaker 1: little things. It's like we had a death in the family,
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  Speaker 1: I had surgery, we had like and then this is
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  Speaker 1: just like NonStop, constant, and so I finally just looked
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  Speaker 1: at my husband the other dy I said, this is
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  Speaker 1: you know, this is it.
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  Speaker 2: This is our life.
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  Speaker 1: We have to just get used to having this stuff
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  Speaker 1: happen all the time. And I remember when we wore
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  Speaker 1: when we were parents of all the teenagers. We had
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  Speaker 1: seven kids that lived in our house, and I remember
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  Speaker 1: sitting in the closet going when is it gonna get easier?
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  Speaker 2: And He's just like, I think this is it. I
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  Speaker 2: think this is our life.
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  Speaker 1: So if you are out there feeling like your fire
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  Speaker 1: horse has been drenched it stopped, please know that you
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  Speaker 1: are not alone. Because I get emails all the time
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  Speaker 1: and people are like nervous and scared and they're going
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  Speaker 1: through a lot, and I know it's not funny, but
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  Speaker 1: you kind of have to laugh at it, right Like
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  Speaker 1: in the moment, we were not laughing that Scarly had peanuts.
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  Speaker 1: We were not laughing that Nelly was going to Primary Children's.
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  Speaker 1: But now that we look back at it, we're just like,
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  Speaker 1: how else is it gonna be?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Like this is the starry And so anyways, I might
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  Speaker 1: start like posting things like prayer circle for these people,
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  Speaker 1: Prayer circle for these people, because some of the things
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  Speaker 1: that I kind of got from letters and emails this
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  Speaker 1: week are some pretty serious things. Too. I had, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to say any names, but I've had
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  Speaker 1: people reach out because there's surgeries that they were scared
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  Speaker 1: to go through this.
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  Speaker 2: Week, and.
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  Speaker 1: Life changing things that they went through, and kids sick
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  Speaker 1: and people getting sick, and so just know, I mean
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  Speaker 1: scary things, and just know that just because everybody else
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  Speaker 1: is kind of going through it too, doesn't make yours
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  Speaker 1: more less. Like when we get to the other side,
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  Speaker 1: we will see how even.
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  Speaker 2: It actually is through everybody.
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  Speaker 1: But sometimes you look at other people's stuff and you're like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's easy compared to mind, but it's really not.
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  Speaker 1: We each have our own like level or capacity that
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  Speaker 1: we can have trauma or that we can have certain things.
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  Speaker 1: So just know that everybody's is different.
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  Speaker 2: And just because you.
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  Speaker 1: Might not be having surgery or you might not be
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  Speaker 1: having life altering changes, if you're having a difficult time
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  Speaker 1: with depression, that's just as valid. Like Martin Short lost
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  Speaker 1: his son, I think it was always his daughter. I
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  Speaker 1: can't remember one of his children from depression, and he
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  Speaker 1: said that he feels like depression is just as important
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  Speaker 1: as a sickness, says cancer, because some people survive it
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  Speaker 1: and some people don't. And so whatever it is you're
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  Speaker 1: going through, know that your ancestors and your loved ones
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  Speaker 1: are with you and your.
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  Speaker 2: Guides and you are not alone. Even though you feel alone,
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  Speaker 2: you're not alone. And I know in.
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  Speaker 1: Today's society it can be hard because when you need
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  Speaker 1: to vent to somebody or when you need to go
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  Speaker 1: to somebody, you don't want to drain their energy because
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  Speaker 1: it just seems like everybody's going through it, right, everybody's
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  Speaker 1: going through it. So I guess mostly, just know that
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  Speaker 1: you're not alone. We're all in this together. And if
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  Speaker 1: you know, if you can't, I mean sometimes you just
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  Speaker 1: got to laugh because that's the only way you can
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  Speaker 1: get through it.
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  Speaker 2: And just know that that's okay. It's okay.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean it's less. Like some people feel bad
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  Speaker 1: that they feel joy right now because of everything that's
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  Speaker 1: going on in the world.
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  Speaker 2: But that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: You have to feel the joy, like you have to
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  Speaker 1: have the balance right there comes joy.
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  Speaker 2: You have to know good to know bad.
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  Speaker 1: And so just know that it's okay and you're not broken,
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  Speaker 1: and it's it's fine, and know that you're loved. So
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  Speaker 1: today's podcast is actually going to be about unconditional love
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  Speaker 1: and forgiveness and being a doormat.
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  Speaker 2: So in my spiritual.
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  Speaker 1: In my spiritual journey, the one thing I've had the
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  Speaker 1: most problem with, or the most the hardest time with,
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  Speaker 1: is when you're supposed to be christ Like and you're
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  Speaker 1: supposed to be like so forgiving and so I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to explain it, like love and light all
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  Speaker 1: the things, and in reality, hold on one second, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like this is not recording. Okay, yes it is. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'll probably get that out or we'll just see how
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  Speaker 1: that goes.
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  Speaker 2: So we kind of feel like.
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  Speaker 1: Love and light and forgiveness and it doesn't mean unconditional
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  Speaker 1: love because I thought at the beginning that unconditional love
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  Speaker 1: meant that I had to be a doormat and I
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  Speaker 1: had to like let everybody walk all over me. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't say no to things I couldn't And a lot
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  Speaker 1: of that, too, was part of the religion I was in.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna be straight up.
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  Speaker 1: Honest, and a lot of that was too was how
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  Speaker 1: I was brought up. I was brought up there's fond
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  Speaker 1: flight or freeze, there's fight or flight, freeze and fun.
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  Speaker 1: And I grew up in a household where I would fun,
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  Speaker 1: I would be a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 2: I would make everybody.
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  Speaker 1: And that's part of why I think feel like my
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  Speaker 1: abilities are so strong, is because everybody has these abilities,
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  Speaker 1: but I constantly use them when I was little, because
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  Speaker 1: I would fan, I would make sure everybody was okay.
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  Speaker 1: I would try and keep the peace. I would make
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  Speaker 1: sure nobody was mad at me. I would kind of
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  Speaker 1: try and read the household or the people because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know what was going on over here, and.
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  Speaker 2: I always wanted to stay safe.
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  Speaker 1: So I'd constantly read the room, constantly read the room,
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  Speaker 1: and so it kind of made me a people pleaser
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  Speaker 1: and a doormat.
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  Speaker 2: And then I feel like.
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  Speaker 1: The religion I went into too also, you can't say
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  Speaker 1: no to certain positions in.
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  Speaker 2: The realm, or you can't.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be christ Light, you have to be forgiving,
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  Speaker 1: you have to forgive everything, and it kind of just
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  Speaker 1: made it so you were a constant doormat.
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  Speaker 2: I was a constant doormat.
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  Speaker 1: I let everybody just kind of walk all over me,
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  Speaker 1: and I didn't want to any confrontation. And now now
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  Speaker 1: that I'm going through my healing, and now that I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of like going to counseling.
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  Speaker 2: It's and I'm trying to do my healing. It's that
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  Speaker 2: was the heart.
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  Speaker 1: That's the hardest thing for me is the all unconditional
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  Speaker 1: love for everybody and also being a doormat. And then
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  Speaker 1: also too, it makes my anger come out. So if
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  Speaker 1: you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you can see
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  Speaker 1: some of my little bitchy posts about being angry or
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  Speaker 1: being and it's just because for so long I let
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  Speaker 1: people walk all over me that I have this like
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  Speaker 1: kind of anger. And I feel like a lot of
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  Speaker 1: gen X women that are going through paramidopause are doing
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  Speaker 1: the same.
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  Speaker 2: We're just kind of like, holy crap.
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  Speaker 1: Like we don't have to let every you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean, because we were always like trying to anyways.
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  Speaker 2: And that's that's a generation.
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  Speaker 1: That's a general that's like, but a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: could be going through that that kind of anger face
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  Speaker 1: and anger is okay because anger is telling you that
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  Speaker 1: something you realize something wasn't fair, or that something didn't
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  Speaker 1: that you weren't a doormat, So so angers okay. Now
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  Speaker 1: I want to love people deeply, and I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I do, but I also feel like I want to
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  Speaker 1: do that without abandoning myself in the process, and because
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  Speaker 1: somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to
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  Speaker 1: just you know, being loving means tolerating bad behavior, over
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  Speaker 1: explaining ourselves, which I do all the time, constantly, forgiving,
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  Speaker 1: constantly giving, constantly understanding, being constantly understanding, and letting people
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  Speaker 1: repeatedly drain our energy because love is unconditional, but spirit
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  Speaker 1: is really being like kind of showing me that love
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  Speaker 1: can be unconditional. But it doesn't mean you have unconditional access.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean people have access to me all the time.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that that realization changes everything. You can
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  Speaker 1: send people love, and you can forgive people from a distance,
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  Speaker 1: and forgiving somebody doesn't mean you have to invite well
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  Speaker 1: for dinner. Forgiving just means that they that you can
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  Speaker 1: and forgive and kind of push them and love them
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  Speaker 1: from a distance. But they don't have to come over
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  Speaker 1: to your house all the time. You don't have to
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  Speaker 1: allow them and to come over. You can even and
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  Speaker 1: I dare say this, but I have a hard time
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  Speaker 1: with it because you can even cut contact. But I
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  Speaker 1: have a hard time with that too, because where's that's
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  Speaker 1: another kind of definition where estrangement is.
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  Speaker 2: Kind of a coward leeway to get.
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  Speaker 1: In. But if you can continually tell people this is
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  Speaker 1: not how I want to be treated, this is not
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  Speaker 1: how I want to be treated, and they keep walking
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  Speaker 1: all over that and they don't, then you can be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we don't want to see you anymore. But if you
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  Speaker 1: don't allow somebody to have that chance to treat you better,
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  Speaker 1: then that's kind of coward. Then you're taking the coward's
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  Speaker 1: way out because you're not facing you're not having confrontation
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  Speaker 1: with this person and saying I don't like it when
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  Speaker 1: you do this, and I don't like it when you
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  Speaker 1: do this. I don't want to be treated that way.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes too, that's where it's really hard, because they
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  Speaker 1: have boundaries too, right, So if you're asking them to
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  Speaker 1: be somebody that they're not, then you just realize you
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  Speaker 1: just don't get along and maybe contact with each other
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  Speaker 1: isn't such a great thing.
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  Speaker 2: And so that's where that kind of lies.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, so this, this is what I have a
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  Speaker 1: hard time with, the unconditional love and the unconditional access
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  Speaker 1: and the boundaries thing because but I'm learning, I'm learning, right,
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  Speaker 1: because I do have boundaries around certain people, and I
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  Speaker 1: expect to be is treated a certain way and if
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  Speaker 1: I'm not, then I will kind of like not have
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  Speaker 1: contact with that person as much anymore. And so but
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  Speaker 1: if I don't tell them, you know, I don't like
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  Speaker 1: the way that you do this, I don't give them
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  Speaker 1: that chance to change maybe that they want to change
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  Speaker 1: that because I maybe they want that relationship, and then
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  Speaker 1: a relationship is is important to them. This is all
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  Speaker 1: a big counseling thing, but I just want you to
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  Speaker 1: know mostly that it is okay to not be a doormat.
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  Speaker 1: It does not mean I mean it is okay too.
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  Speaker 1: You can still love unconditionally and not lose yourself within that,
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  Speaker 1: not lose who you are. So I think highly sensitive
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  Speaker 1: people often feel everybody else's emotions, right, we feel all
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  Speaker 1: the things all the time. We can feel pain, We
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  Speaker 1: can feel pain behind the anger, we can feel trauma
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  Speaker 1: behind the meanness, and we can feel insecurity behind the control.
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  Speaker 1: And so we get it or we understand it, and
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  Speaker 1: so we think, sorry, just jot Michael, well they had
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  Speaker 1: a chart, they had a hard childhood, or well they
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  Speaker 1: had their hurting and they didn't mean it.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes that's true, and sometimes we can let.
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  Speaker 1: That be, but sometimes they take advantage and it's manipulating
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  Speaker 1: and it's a little bit harder.
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  Speaker 2: And so so.
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  Speaker 1: Understanding someone's wound does not mean you must volunteer do
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  Speaker 1: become their emotional landing post because you have your energy
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  Speaker 1: to and it can be draining and so that makes
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  Speaker 1: it really hard, right, And so sometimes I have notes
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  Speaker 1: just a case because I needed it. Yeah, that's why
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  Speaker 1: so many in basket confused, and that's why I was confused.
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  Speaker 1: We think compassion means self sacrifice, and we're taught that
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  Speaker 1: in some religions we need to sacrifice.
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  Speaker 2: What we want to do. Even like even when.
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  Speaker 1: I was doing Beach Body, Like if you're a beach
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  Speaker 1: Body coach, I but even when I was doing Beach Body,
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  Speaker 1: I have no ill will, but they would always tell you,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: you know, ignoring your family now and work really hard
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: and so then you can be like, have all this
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: money and be with your family in the end this
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: sacrifice now. But what I ended up doing is sacrificing
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: my kids the time with my kids to try and
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: do that, and it didn't pan out the other way, Like,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: so I just like missed out when there should have
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: been a balance. There should have been some sort of balance, right,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: There should been family time, All of it should have
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: been a balance and not just primarily beach body, beach body,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: beach body. And so that was kind of hard for
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  Speaker 1: me too, because I thought I was doing the right
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: thing and I did make, you know, pretty good money
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: doing it, but not enough to like now I look
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: back and.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: It wasn't worth the sacrifice that I made.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: It wasn't worth the sacrifice of my spend of my
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: kids's time.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: So we think compassion.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Spirit keeps showing me that compassion without boundaries becomes self abandonment.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: So when we do that, we abandon who we are,
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: We abandon our authenticity.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: We don't we just it's self abandonment.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: It is because honestly, it used to be back in
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: the day that everybody wanted all the money, they wanted
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: the power they and now it's just like we want
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: to live in a cabin And I'm just speaking for me,
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: but I want to live in a cabin on some
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: land and be at peace. That's kind of what I want.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: But you need money to do that, right, So the
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: difference between love and enabling is this was a huge
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: lesson for me because I used to think if I
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: pull away, I'm being in loving. If I set these boundaries,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I'm a bad mom. That was a huge thing for me.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: I didn't want to be a bad mom. And sometimes
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: the most loving thing you can do is stop participating
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: in unhealthy patterns because you can, and it makes you
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: a better mom, It makes you a better person, It
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: makes you better at everything. You can love someone and
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: still say you may not speak to me in that way.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I can't carry this for you anymore. I forgive you,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: but I need distance. I wish you healing, but I
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: cannot let you keep hurting me. That's not hate, that's wisdom,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: and that is you not abandoning yourself. That is you
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: staying true to who you are. So and honestly, I
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: think a spirit in the universe, Gus, whatever word resonates
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: with you, understands boundaries better than most humans.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: Because boundaries aren't to keep people away, there to protect you.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: And I keep saying that that fencing around you isn't
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: to keep people out, it's to protect you. Nature itself
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: has boundaries. The ocean has the shores, and the body
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: has the skin, and energy fields have edges.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: So our aura has edges.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: That's like our aura, it protects our energy and our
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: body boundaries are natural, but we're taught that we feel
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: uncomfortable doing, especially if we're impassed or especially we've been
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: taught that way. And so then that's when love turns
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: to resentment. And one thing I've noticed is that when
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: I continually override my intuition about people, then I start
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: to resent. I start to resent myself, I start to
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: resent them. And it's often a sign that our soul
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: has been ignored for too long.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: We've ignored ourselves.
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: Not that other people have ignored us, but we've ignored
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: ours are what feeds us or what helps us. And
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: because we've always been putting other people first. So not
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: because we're bad people, but because deep down we know
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: this dynamic is costing me my peace.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: And my big thing for twenty.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Twenty six is peace over performance. I just want it
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: to be peaceful. I just wanted to be healthy. I
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you know, sometimes just I've realized when I go go, go,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: go go, it puts me in this higher stress level,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: it puts me in fun flight or freeze, and I'm
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: not in my in I'm not in my safe zone,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: and it really disrupts my vagus nerve, and that disrupts
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: my intuition. And so I've really got to find peace
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: in this, not anxiety, not always being in a fear.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: And so I think, you know, when many people are
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: raised to prioritize harmony over honesty, then we become resentful
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: and the body starts to not be authentic, and then
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: the body starts to have exhaustion and anxiety, emotional overwhelm, innerability,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: and even like it even can cause physical systems, which
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: is our illnesses, and.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: The body keep score of what the soul keeps tolerating.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: And so if you rea have read The Body Keep Score,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: that is such a good book. That's where I've kind
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: of realized.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: That's where I.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Started a lot of my healing is when I realized
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: that a lot of my trauma is kept inside. And
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: I still do a lot of things that I do
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: because of the way I was raised, because I was
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: always in fun. And so I think if spirit were
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: completely honest, if Spirit were honest, I think I'm going
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: to start doing my segments on that you would be
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: allowed to be loving. You are allowed to be loving
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: and discerning at the same time. It doesn't mean you're judgmental.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: It just means you're protecting your peace. You are allowed
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: to stop over explaining your boundaries to people committed to
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: misunderstanding them. You are allowed to protect your nervous system.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: And that's the vagus nerve, that's where that is. And
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: if you want to take my Intuition class online June eighteenth,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: I teach all about that. I taught that in my
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: personal class in person last month. It was an amazing class,
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: and so I had a lot of people reach out
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: say they want to take it online, So I'm making
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: it available online June eighteenth. You can go to my
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: website under events and find it there if you want
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: to take that class. Because I talk about this, I
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: talk about your intuition, and I talk about your nervous system,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: and I talk about flight or fleez and I talk
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: about all of this stuff to help you, because honestly,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: when you're always in a constant fight, flight or freeze
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: state or fun it's hard to listen.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: To your intuition. It really really is. And so.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: You're allowed to leave rooms that constantly wound you, or
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: places or spaces you can't heal in those places. And
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: you're allowed to choose peace. And honestly, not everyone deserves front.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Row access to your energy. They don't.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: And I learned that the hard way. Not everybody allows
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: is allowed to be in your front row. You need
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: to be careful about who you allow in your front row,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: because sometimes they're not all great. I'm just gonna say
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: that that doesn't make you cold, and it doesn't make
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: you mean. It just makes you human, and it makes
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: you authentic, and it makes you who you are. And
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I mean, you could still be giving and you can
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: still be loving, but not like a doormat right. What
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: healthy love actually looks like is healthy love feels safe
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: and it's not perfect, and it's not easy and it's
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: but it's safe. You feel safe. You don't leave the
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: room and think everybody's talking about you.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Don't.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: You're not afraid to be vulnerable. You're not afraid and
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, and that's the truth. You're not afraid to
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: be vulnerable. The person healthy love people love you for
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: your good and your bad. They love you for your
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: shadow and your light. You in return, can do the same.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Healthy love does not require walking on Angheld's constant emotional labor.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Proving your worth or betraying yourself to key peace.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: Healthy love honors both people, both people in the scenario.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Healthy love honors that.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: And one of the biggest spiritual lessons I think we
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: learn in life is you can keep your heart open
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: without leaving the door unlocked for everybody to walk in.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: And so most of the time you have to pretty
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: much keep dropping with biggers on the floor to have
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: a key, and only people can Only certain people can
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: have that key. Just like your house, only certain people
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: can have the key to your house, right, so only
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: certain people can have front row access with a key
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: to your soul or to you. Yeah, because being spiritual
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: doesn't mean becoming energetically available to every chaotic person or
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: even un chaotic person.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: In your life.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: You don't have to have everybody doesn't have to have access.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: And that doesn't mean that you're unloving, and it doesn't
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: mean that you're mean. It just means that you're healthy.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: You're trying to be healthy, you're trying to have peace.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: So if you've been struggling with guilt around boundaries, this
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: is your reminder. Protecting your piece is not opposite of love.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it is love. It's love for yourself and it's
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: love for the other person, and maybe unconditionally love simply
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: means I can still wish healing for you without handling
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: you access to destroy my peace, and that's the most
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: important thing.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you guys so much for listening to this.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: This has just been my hardest lesson, hardest lesson in
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: this healing growth because I've just always been like a
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: people pleaser. I've always just been like, everybody has access
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: to me, I need to help everybody. Even in the
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: beginning of my journey of being a psychic medium, I
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: would let I would you know, people would be like,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: I have to get in. I'd have all this stuff
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: and I'd be like, I would let everybody in, and
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: I was so tired. I was like having I was unhealthy,
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: unhealthy physically. Now I feel bad for people when they
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: email me and they say those things, but honestly, I'm
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: not a year booked out anymore. That's why I had
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: to raise my prices because I was booked out a year.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: So a lot of people think, oh, you raise your
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: prices because you want more money.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: That's not true.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: I raised my prices because I could not be booked
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: out a year and have healthy and feel healthy about that. Now,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: I'm only three months out, so to me, if you
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: have an emergency, or to me, if you really need
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: to get anything, people, three months is a generally pretty
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: good wait. Three months is okay. I feel good about
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: people being able to wait.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: For three months.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: And there are times if there are special occasions, if
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: someone reach outs and says this child, especially for children,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: this child lost their parents or something like that, then
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: I you know a spirit.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I let spirit guide my way. I let spirit.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: If I read something and I know it's true, and
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: I know it's sensitive, and I know it's sincere, then
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I will answer it.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: But that doesn't always mean that they get in.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: It can always mean I can help you get through
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: this through email or I can And a lot of
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: people will be like, well, do you recommend somebody else?
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, honestly, whoever I recommend is also going
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: to have a wait list either as long or longer
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: than mine.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: So it's just and I'm okay with saying that. Now.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: I'm okay with being authentic and being true to what
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: I believe and helping people, you know, one person at
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: a time. So I hope, I hope, I hope this
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: helps you. I hope that it teaches you that you're
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: not broken. Twenty twenty six has been kind of a
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: shit show.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: And if you've had a great twenty twenty six, good
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: for you. Yay.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: I'm excited for you. And I'm not saying mine's all
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: been bad. It's just been crazy. It's just been great.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: My mantra for twenty very six was to go slow
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: like a turtle, and.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: I probably wasn't.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I was probably trying to charge fast like a fire horse,
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: and Spirit was like, well, we're going to slow you
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: down here, and we're going to slow you down here,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: and we're going to slow you down here because you're
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: not listening to us. And so I think that that's
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: probably what happened to me.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: But just know that you can be selfish with your time.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: You can be you can have boundaries and still have
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: unconditional love, and it doesn't make you a bad person.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: It doesn't make you bad spiritually, and it doesn't make
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: it so Jesus doesn't love you and God doesn't love you.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: It doesn't make Jesus and God disappointed in you. Because
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: here's the thing. Jesus and God love you too, and
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Gus loves you. Spirit loves you, your guides love you,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: and if you are sacrificing yourself to help other people,
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: they love you just as much as they love the
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: other people. And if you're not taking care of yourself first,
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: you can take care of those other people. It's just
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: like when people are saying it's bad to be rich,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: or want to be rich, or it's bad to want
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: lots of other mediums are like it's bad to want
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: to be famous.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: You're in it for the wrong reason, which I get.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I get what they're saying right because you need to
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: be in it to want to help other people. But
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: also too, the more people you know, or the more
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: people that know you, the more people.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: You get to help. So that's kind of like I
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: always used to be like, oh, I don't want to
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: be famous, and I kind of I don't.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: I like to have my piece, but I also want
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: to be out there enough and know enough people and
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: be known enough then I can help others because the
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: more people that know me, the more people I can help.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean I want to be making movies and
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: all that stuff. Now I kind of know where I
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: want to be and my piece is more important. But
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: don't let other people tell you how you're supposed to
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: feel or how you're supposed to You know, rich is
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: the root of all evil. But I can tell you
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: one thing. If you have a lot of money and
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: you do good with that money, how the hell is
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: that evil?
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: How is it? How is that evil?
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: If you're helping other people, if you're giving to charities
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: and you're helping people, that is not. And sometimes Spirit
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: and God just want they know that you'll be smart
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: with that money, so they give it to you. Just
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: because you've had bad experiences or people have had bad
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: experience with wealthy people, doesn't.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Mean everybody's like that.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: It's just like my profession or doctors, right, Like, there
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: are people out there psychic mediums that do bad things
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: with their gifts and they use people and they manipulate people, and.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: That's not okay.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: And then there's mediums that are legit and that want
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: to help people and that want to use their gifts
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: to help others. And doctors are the same way. There
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: are some doctors, hairstylists, nail salons. There's some other that
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: are really good and really want to do the best
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: for people, and there's some out there that don't care
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: and there's that in everything. So I don't even know
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: where I'm going with that, but just know, be sovereign,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: choose your own, do your own saying.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Don't listen to what everybody else has to say about how.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: You live your life or how you pay your bills,
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you're the one
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: who has to answer to Gus, who is.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: God, universe, spirit, and I can't remember what was source.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: And you're the one who has to answer to guests,
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: not them, well they do, but not about you.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: And so.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: Love yourself, create boundaries, stop being a doormat, and know
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: that you are so loved and you're not alone. And
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: I love you guys, and I will see you next week.