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The End Of The Road: What Happens To Narcissists in The End · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what happens to narcissist in the end?
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  At the end of a narcissist life, what is going on?
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  What is going on in their life at the end of it?
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  Are they miserable? Are they happy?
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  Are they alone or do they still have?
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  Are they still searching for narcissistic supply?
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  What the hell is going on? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And that's what we're talking about today on the Narcissist
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  Code. Exactly what happens at the end
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  with a narcissist, what goes on at the end.
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  And that's important. I'm really, I'm going to just
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  keep it hot and ready like a Little Caesar's pizza with you
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  right here. It's extremely important to
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  discuss what happens to narcissist at the end 'cause I,
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  I do get this question a lot. I get it in my comment sections.
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  I get it on my one on ones over Zoom.
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  I get it in my support group anonymously sometimes, right?
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  Like what happens, what goes on in the narcissist life at the
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  end. I know a lot of people are going
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  to just say, well, lady narcissist, at the end they
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  shrivel up and they disintegrate like Thanos snapped his fingers
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  and they just disappeared, right?
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  No, no, it would be, it would be an interesting, it would be an
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  interesting sight, wouldn't it? But that's not what happens to
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  narcissists in the end. Like narcissist, like at the
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  end, it could go a few different ways with narcissistic people,
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  right, 'cause like a lot of people ask me, do narcissists
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  stay married? Can they stay married for a very
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  long time? Yes, yeah, yes, narcissist can
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  absolutely stay married for a very long time, right?
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  There's people that I know that have been married to narcissists
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  for 30-40 years, some 50 years, right?
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  Some of your parents have been married to narcissists for the
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  entirety of your lives. Think about that right there.
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  Some of your parents have been married to your narcissistic
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  partner, your your other narcissistic parent for your
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  entirety of your life or before your life, like before you were
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  born, y'all parents was together, right?
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  So think about that right there and and think about that.
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  Think about how that goes. Before you were born, your
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  parents were together and your parents have been dealing with
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  narcissists. Your parent has been dealing
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  with a narcissist. Sometimes you, both your parents
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  and narcissists have been dealing with each other, which
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  if that happened, I'll hate it for you.
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  I really, really, really, truly do.
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  But at the end of a narcissist life, I don't think that every
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  single narcissist ends up alone. They end up lonely, but not
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  alone. You see what I'm saying?
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  There's a big difference between lonely and alone.
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  And I want people to understand that, right?
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  I think I need people. I truly need people to
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  understand that there's a big difference between lonely and
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  alone, right? Because a lot of some people
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  never leave narcissist y'all I know regardless what people
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  think, like some people stay to the end, Some people outlive
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  their narcissistic partners, right?
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  Some people, the narcissist outlives them.
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  Because I I know what y'all going to say, the narcissist
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  outlives them will leave. Evil never dies, right?
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  The narcissistic partner lived to be 117, right?
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  You, you, you know what I'm saying?
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  That does? That can't happen.
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  They toxic as hell in a wheelchair.
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  Just evil. Evil in the wheelchair, right?
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  That can happen too. But I don't think narcissists
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  don't. All narcissists do not end up
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  alone. But they do end up lonely.
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  But Lee, what the hell? Like Lee, that's the same thing.
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  No, it's not. There's a difference between
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  being alone and being lonely. There's a big difference.
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  Now let me hop. Let me hop into it.
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  Let me explain the difference, right?
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  Alone means that they have no partner, They have no
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  narcissistic supply. They know they're no longer
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  getting the validation that they seek, right?
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  That's alone. They're single by yourself.
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  They pass away, right? But sometimes they're still
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  married, they still have relationships, they still have
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  children around and whatnot, right?
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  So they still have people around, but they end up lonely
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  because there's no connection. They have people around them,
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  but there's no deep connection. That's what I mean by when I say
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  narcissists end up alone, but not lonely.
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  They have people around them. They have several people around
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  there. They have a ton of people around
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  them, right? They, they can have a huge
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  family. But because I truly believe as a
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  diagnosed narcissist myself, that a lot of narcissists don't
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  have that the capacity to establish these deep emotional
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  connections, right? Not all the time, right?
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  So they, they, you can, they can have a bunch of people around
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  them, but they don't feel fulfilled, they don't feel
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  happy, they don't feel content with their lives.
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  They always feel like they always feel like they could have
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  been doing more, they could have done more.
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  So that does happen to a lot of people.
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  So that's something that you have to consider as well.
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  They're like when you're dealing with an emotionally manipulative
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  person or a narcissistic person, this could be, this could
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  absolutely happen right? Where they absolutely your mom.
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  Let's just say let's just let's use this example right here.
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  Y'all let make the let's make the woman a narcissist.
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  Y'all in this situation, I always I always make them y'all.
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  I always make the man a narcissist in my my analogies.
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  But let's just say your dad, who is a stone cold empath or not
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  stone cold impact doesn't sound like they go in the same
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  sentence. Let's go a warm soft empath
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  right there. If your dad is highly empathetic
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  right wouldn't hurt a bug versus your mom who they stone cold
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  narcissist like they stay together for the entire day of
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  your lives. They even when you move out and
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  have your family, family of your own, they'll still, they are
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  still together. You see, sometimes they don't
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  leave even though your parent, your, your dad seemed like he
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  might have been protecting you from your toxic narcissistic mom
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  or vice versa, right? They still stay even after you
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  leave because they could be trauma bonded.
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  So not everybody leaves. So that narcissistic person is
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  somehow some way shape or form going to have people around them
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  in their lives. Not all of them end up super
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  alone, right? So some of them are still old.
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  They gave me older and still have a wife or a husband and
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  children around because the children feel indebted to them.
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  So the children don't cut them off, right?
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  That happens. So this is a, this is a true,
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  this is a truth of fact of what could happen.
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  Like they can get to the end of their lives and still have
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  people around them fully supporting them because they,
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  you know, they, they can still have people around fully
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  supporting them because they care about them.
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  Like you care, they care about the narcissist, not the
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  narcissist caring deeply about them.
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  But the narcissist might pass away alone, like lonely.
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  They don't have those deep emotional connections and
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  they're not necessarily getting the validation that they seek.
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  The validation or the supply. The narcissistic supply at the
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  end doesn't feel the same anymore.
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  You know what I mean? It absolutely doesn't feel the
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  same as it used to. So sometimes they could still be
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  older. They used to be older.
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  Out here lying and cheating out here trying to find new supply
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  as a 60 or 7080 year old. Yeah I'm hearing these crazy.
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  Y'all don't understand how many of these stories I've here when
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  I'm doing my one on ones over zoom.
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  What the narcissist will be 80 years old and still out here
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  hunting for new supply. Still out here on the prowl for
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  new supply. Hunting on the hunt on the prowl
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  for new supply. It's great.
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  It can get crazy, like they can still have people around them,
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  but they're never satisfied at the end of a narcissist's life.
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  I would just say at the end when they get older, like they're
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  still on the hunt because very rarely are you going to get a
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  narcissist on the beach and be like, this is the life.
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  I imagine I got everything in life that I wanted.
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  I don't need anything else. Could it be possible that that
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  happens to some narcissist? Yeah, that could be.
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  That could absolutely be absolutely be a possibility of
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  something that happens, but it it does it always happen?
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  No, that's not always going to happen.
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  Let's keep it real. That's not always going to be a
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  thing that happens to narcissistic people.
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  They're not always at the end going to have that, like I said,
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  going to be be this type of person.
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  They're not always going to have that supply.
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  It's just crazy out it really. It really is.
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  So narcissists at the end are going to, I don't think they're
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  going to be happy. That's the question.
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  That's the answer I want right there, ain't it, Lady Lee?
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  Are they going to be happy at the end?
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  I just truly don't think so. Like, you hear these stories all
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  the time where the narcissist has alienated their kids for
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  their entire lives and on their deathbed, they try to get their
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  kids on the phone while they while they're in Hospice.
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  Like you call my son and let him know I'm about to pass away.
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  Godly. I want to have one last
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  conversation with him. I haven't talked to him in 10
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  years. Can you call him, please?
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  And the Hospice nurse will call the son and I'm like, I'm good.
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  The narcissist like that ungrateful little bastard or
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  something like that. Something along those lines.
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  Like that happens. They take, they hold grudges to
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  the end. Very rarely are they going to
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  give you some closure at the, at the closing of their lives.
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  Very rarely would they give you or anybody else any type of
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  closure. That just doesn't happen, y'all.
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  So that's something you have to be prepared for as well because
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  you're not going to get that closure at the end of the lives.
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  There's just that there's something that's not something
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  that's going to happen on a consistent basis.
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  It really isn't. There's something you have to
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  prepare for. There's something that's going
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  to happen consistently to a lot of people, but it's not, you're
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  not going to get the closure that you see when you're dealing
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  with a manipulator, right? They're not going to be closure
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  at the end. Like a lot of narcissistic
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  people are still going to be searching for narcissistic
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  supply, as crazy as that sounds. Y'all I hear like I did a live a
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  while ago right on Instagram. I talked to a woman she was in
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  her 60s and she was on a dating app.
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  Her her husband, her spouse had passed away.
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  So she was just not getting back out there.
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  A few a few years after he passed away, met a man on a
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  dating app like and this man was made a man on a dating app for
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  older folks and he lied about his age on the dating app.
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  He said he was 67. Turn out he was 73, so he was
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  lying about his age. She didn't find out.
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  She didn't find out that until the end like to the end of
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  relationship. He was lying about how old he
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  was and he was still out here cheating.
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  He didn't get off the date and when he met when they met and
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  started dating and made it official like he was still on
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  the dating apps lying, lying and you know how y'all it's going to
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  sound. It's this part right here is
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  going to sound unbelievable about how this older woman, this
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  older when I say 63 this older. This this part here is going to
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  sound unbelievable how this older 63 year old woman caught
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  her husband caught her boyfriend cheated like he was my mom.
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  I told you he was 73. He was lying on dating apps
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  about being 67, but he had this pump to get his nethers ready
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  for action, right? He had this pump that goes down
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  there kind of like you remember those old, those old shoes,
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  these little pump up shoes make you jump higher kind of like
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  that before your nethers for the man for the for the man's
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  nethers, he be ready to go. She said she caught him cheating
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  because he said he was going to the gym one night and he kept
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  the pump in the drawer beside the bed.
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  She just happened to check the drawer, the drawer and the pump
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  was gone. He had it in his gym bag.
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  She's like, why you taking that pump to the gym?
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  He was like, oh, we Tumbo take the pump.
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  Your your nether regions pump. You don't have it here anymore.
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  It's not in the it's in your bag.
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  Why you taking it to the gym? Oh, just in case.
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  Why you always question me? This man got mad trying to
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  gaslight her and try to make it seem like he wasn't doing
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  anything even though he was taking his.
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  It's not a it's not a travel pump.
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  He was traveling to pump it up to pump somebody else.
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  He's going to pump, he's going to be trying to pump somebody
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  else, y'all. And that's what ends up
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  happening. Like she caught him cheating
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  because he was taking his his his nether regions pump with him
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  elsewhere. It's crazy.
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  That sounds he is crazy but anyways y'all at the end
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  narcissists and toxic people don't live happily ever after.
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  Even if they go find a new supply, they will still be
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  unhappy because they're not going to be fulfilled.
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  They're still going to be searching.
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  They're still going to be chasing that high of a new
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  supply of a new new relationship or whatever that is y'all.
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