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Dating Horror Stories & Dilemmas · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land, Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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  Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm out and this is two wrote Chicks,
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  Speaker 2: the show that shares life lessons and tips to make
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  Speaker 2: you rich in life. And hope you're in for a
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  Speaker 2: love episode or maybe even a drama episode because that's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be juicy.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited.
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  Speaker 2: We are doing dating horror stories, so you cheeks have
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  Speaker 2: sent in your dating horror stories because it's Valentine's Day
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  Speaker 2: this week.
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  Speaker 3: So we'll better time to talk about dating horror story.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's actually the best time so that we
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  Speaker 1: can all collectively hold hands in kumbaya through the trauma
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  Speaker 1: that is dating.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie glad. I'm out of those
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  Speaker 3: fucking woods, I know.
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  Speaker 1: So we've had you chicks text in and send us
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of your stories and and I haven't looked
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  Speaker 1: at any of them. May neither because I want to
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  Speaker 1: be surprised and shocked, gooped and garg But before we
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  Speaker 1: get into the episode, we always discuss our obsessions of the.
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  Speaker 3: Sally love of my life.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, my Valentine, if you will, what is your obsession.
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  Speaker 2: Of the week. It's not very romantic. But my obsession
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  Speaker 2: of the week is a TV show, and it's the
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  Speaker 2: new Goosebumps, the Vanishing TV series. Rosqueller, Yes, with David
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  Speaker 2: Swimmer Rosqueller Rosqueller and he I feel like he basically
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  Speaker 2: some respect on his name. I feel like he basically
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  Speaker 2: plays the exact same real character. It's very similar. But
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  Speaker 2: he's a dad, but he's still that sort of bubbling guy.
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  Speaker 2: But if you were a fan of the original Goosebump series,
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  Speaker 2: or if you're a fan of TV shows like Stranger Things,
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  Speaker 2: you'll like it. It's an easy watch. It's like horror,
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  Speaker 2: but it's not actually scary. It's more creepy in that
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  Speaker 2: sort of like Goosebumps nineties vibe. And it also has
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  Speaker 2: a really good soundtrack. Yeah, is it all old music?
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  Speaker 2: It's pretty much all nineties there, because the throwback of
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  Speaker 2: the story is said in the nineties, and then you
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  Speaker 2: know they're sort of uncovering what has happened, and I
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  Speaker 2: like that. It's really cool. And all of the episodes
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  Speaker 2: are throwbacks to the original Goosebump stories, So if you're
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  Speaker 2: a fan, you'll be like, oh my god, because there's
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  Speaker 2: a little easter eggs and stuff in there, and if
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  Speaker 2: you're not, like, it's still yeah, love that cure. What's yours?
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  Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is what I truly believe.
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  Speaker 1: I think I found the holy grail and I think
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  Speaker 1: I have found the universally perfect.
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  Speaker 3: Maxie slip dress.
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  Speaker 2: Oh tell me so.
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  Speaker 3: It's from Raife, the label R A F.
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  Speaker 2: And it is the most beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: Slip dress ever.
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  Speaker 1: And it's in black, which obviously, but it does also
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  Speaker 1: come in like kind of like an oystery pink, and
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  Speaker 1: it's thick straps, so you can wear a bra number
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  Speaker 1: one that's always a number one requirement, not a low back,
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  Speaker 1: and it's like a really like the material is heavy
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  Speaker 1: ish but still super flowy.
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  Speaker 3: You could dress it up, you could.
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  Speaker 1: Dress it down like I could easily wear it to
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  Speaker 1: a wedding, and I could also easily chuck some sneakers
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  Speaker 1: on and wear it to the markets and like a
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  Speaker 1: baseball cap, you know, like it is just the most
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  Speaker 1: perfect slip dress I have ever.
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  Speaker 3: Ever worn, and I love it.
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  Speaker 2: I want one. You should buy one, or you can
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  Speaker 2: always borrow a mind perfect that was what you're really
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  Speaker 2: going for as a short girlie. I feel like the
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  Speaker 2: length is really good because as well.
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  Speaker 1: One of my pet peeves is when like you wear
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  Speaker 1: a Maxi dress and either it's like dragging on the
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  Speaker 1: floor and I look like I'm like a little girl
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  Speaker 1: dressing up in my mum's clothing. Or two it's too
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  Speaker 1: short that when I sit down it then looks like
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  Speaker 1: a Midi.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's Maxie. She's a maxy girl.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And anyway, I love it. It's gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: And they're an Australian brand, aren't they they are? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: I love that. Yeah, it's a ten out of ten.
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  Speaker 2: All right, should we get into the dating horror story.
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  Speaker 2: Let's go our first dating horror story. Hey, chicks strap
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  Speaker 2: in for this messy one.
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  Speaker 3: Oh okay, wait.
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  Speaker 2: She strapped in. My ex and I dated back when
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  Speaker 2: I was eighteen. I broke it off due to communication
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  Speaker 2: breakdowns and moral differences. I would love the content moral difference.
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  Speaker 2: We reconnected a year later and he said he wanted
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  Speaker 2: to try again and he had grown. He then went
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  Speaker 2: back to his hometown and slept with someone else, ghosted me,
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  Speaker 2: and started posting her less than forty eight hours after
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  Speaker 2: having dinner with me and my parents. Fuck, I had
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  Speaker 2: my nineteen year old meltdown and got past it, removing
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  Speaker 2: him on Everything good Girl. While he was still dating
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  Speaker 2: this girl, he kept requesting to follow me on Instagram
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  Speaker 2: and add me back on Snapchat. I was very confused
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  Speaker 2: as to why he was trying to follow me again.
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  Speaker 2: This went on for three years of me constantly declining
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  Speaker 2: his follow requests. End of last year, I got very
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  Speaker 2: drunk and said fuck it and let him follow me.
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  Speaker 2: Damn it. Him and the girl had now broken up.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't dated anyone since him due to the epidemic
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  Speaker 2: of situationships.
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  Speaker 3: It is a true epidemic.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, five minutes after accepting it, he starts texting me
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  Speaker 2: that he missed being friends with me and that I
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  Speaker 2: got him like no one else did. He also said
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  Speaker 2: he wasn't trying to date me or convince me to
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  Speaker 2: date him, but he wanted to apologize for what he did.
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  Speaker 2: He knew he hurt me and had no right to
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  Speaker 2: my response or company, but he wanted to go back
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  Speaker 2: to being friends. Me, being stupid, agreed to be friends
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  Speaker 2: with him. I haven't hung out with him even though
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  Speaker 2: he wants to, but I do find myself texting him
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  Speaker 2: nearly every time I'm drunk and I'm finding myself imagining
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  Speaker 2: a relationship with him again and bringing up old feelings.
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  Speaker 2: So chicks, now that we're twenty two and hopefully more mature,
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  Speaker 2: do I try with him again three years later? Or
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  Speaker 2: do I block him on everything and go back to
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  Speaker 2: being at peace with no contact and deal with the
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  Speaker 2: small heartbreak that we can never be again.
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  Speaker 3: Block him, Fuck that guy.
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  Speaker 2: Block him.
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  Speaker 1: No, Because the fact that he was requesting to follow
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  Speaker 1: you and like crawl from under the rock that you
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  Speaker 1: banished him to and he's trying to crawl out like
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  Speaker 1: little fucking gremlin. I'm like picturing that like nosferatum with
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  Speaker 1: like the guy coming out of like the great thing,
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  Speaker 1: like getting me out that like he that's like, that's fucked.
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  Speaker 1: Like the fact that he was dating someone else and
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  Speaker 1: trying to request to follow you is just so yuck.
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  Speaker 1: The fact that like he went and had dinner with
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  Speaker 1: your family and then forty eight hours is like messaging
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  Speaker 1: another girl.
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  Speaker 3: And I know this happened three years ago, but no.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And the fact that he's been requesting to follow
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  Speaker 2: you consistently over the last three years while he had
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  Speaker 2: been dating so a lot. But the fact that he
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  Speaker 2: continued to request to follow you while he was dating
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  Speaker 2: somebody else for three years shows that he hasn't grown. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: because if he really was, like, I'm so sorry for
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  Speaker 2: what I did to her, I feel really bad, he
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  Speaker 2: would have respected the fact that you haven't accepted and
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  Speaker 2: left you alone.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And like the fact that he's apologizing to you about
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  Speaker 2: being a piece of shit then treating another girl like
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  Speaker 2: a piece of shit exactly what you just said, shows
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  Speaker 2: he hasn't grown. I know there's probably like some part
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  Speaker 2: of you that when his name pops up on your
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  Speaker 2: phone and he said that he was really sorry, and
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  Speaker 2: you know what, it probably was a really convincing and
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  Speaker 2: beautiful apology, and like maybe he even did mean it,
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  Speaker 2: you know. But and I know that there was like
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  Speaker 2: a sparkly little flutter in your chest of being like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, like maybe he has changed, And of
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  Speaker 2: course you want to believe that, of course, like there
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  Speaker 2: is absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that, like you're like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, like that.
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  Speaker 3: You want to believe that. But I think.
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  Speaker 1: Even in your message, you know the right thing to
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  Speaker 1: do is to block him, because you literally said and
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  Speaker 1: find peace. Yeah, Like this guy just sounds like a headache.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I don't think he's grown up. No, you
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  Speaker 3: should block him. I think you should give yourself peace.
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  Speaker 1: And I promise you that, like you're going to meet someone,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's like in a month or into your time
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  Speaker 1: or whenever it is, and you're like, oh my.
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  Speaker 2: God, this is what it's supposed to be, like like
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  Speaker 2: this was so easy.
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  Speaker 3: And the other thing to.
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  Speaker 1: Put on top of that is because you haven't blocked
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  Speaker 1: him him, he's like taking up space in like this
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  Speaker 1: sounds so fucking lame.
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  Speaker 2: I love this.
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  Speaker 1: He's taking up like space in like your heart and
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  Speaker 1: like your brain, so that you're not opening yourself up
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  Speaker 1: to actually meeting someone who isn't like a dung beetle,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like because you're drunk and you're messaging him,
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  Speaker 1: you're not actually like open to meeting new people. Like
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  Speaker 1: I've been there, I've done that, and it was only
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  Speaker 1: once I actually cut the person off that I was
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  Speaker 1: actually open to meeting people.
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  Speaker 3: And then that's when I met Rob. Yeah. So yeah,
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  Speaker 3: dung beetle blocked.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, block him, block.
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  Speaker 3: The dung beetle.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna ask this to you as a smash
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  Speaker 1: of pass oh okay, okay.
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  Speaker 3: Red flag, green flag. I need you to tell me
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  Speaker 3: is this a dating red flag?
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  Speaker 1: In the first five minutes of meeting him, he was
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  Speaker 1: telling me how he broke ligaments in his finger from
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  Speaker 1: fingering a girl too hard.
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  Speaker 3: It was not a recent injury. He was fully healed.
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  Speaker 2: And proceeded to show me using hand gestures in the
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  Speaker 2: middle of a cafe with his family around.
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  Speaker 3: Oh god, I wish.
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  Speaker 1: We had a video.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm im no, but can you
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  Speaker 3: imagine how fucking painful.
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  Speaker 2: That problem was?
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  Speaker 3: My girl? You should not be fingering that fucking hard.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just imagining him like phishing a guitar, pick out
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  Speaker 2: a guitar, you know, like when that when I get
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  Speaker 2: stuck at the bottom. The thing for me was when
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  Speaker 2: in the first five minutes.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm not letting.
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  Speaker 2: You speak because I'm still.
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  Speaker 4: Every detail that one sentence, because when you first described
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  Speaker 4: it and you said in the first five minutes, I
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  Speaker 4: was like, Oh, this must have been at a day party,
• 10:51
  Speaker 4: or you know, like they've run into each other on
• 10:53
  Speaker 4: a night out and so you know, you're drunk and
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  Speaker 4: you're telling a stupid story where you.
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  Speaker 2: Were, or you know, like his hand is like bandaged up,
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  Speaker 2: like his jar and his fingers like that kind of thing.
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  Speaker 2: But no, it's a healed it's a healed injury. And
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  Speaker 2: you're relaying this story in the first five minutes in
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  Speaker 2: broad fucking daylight. Why are your parents there as well?
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  Speaker 2: By the way, like, do they own the cafe? I'm
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  Speaker 2: good serving you coffee. I'm googling can you break ligaments
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  Speaker 2: from fingering? The only thing that comes up is a
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  Speaker 2: Reddit forum, and it goes, questioned, will this fingering position
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  Speaker 2: damage my finger? It was probably him moments before he
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  Speaker 2: tore his ligaments.
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  Speaker 3: He could have gone pro, but he tore his finger limit.
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  Speaker 3: He was like, I was actually in a band, but
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  Speaker 3: then I fingered too.
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  Speaker 2: If I break my fingers, that story should never be
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  Speaker 2: told when the sun is still up.
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  Speaker 3: That story should never be told.
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  Speaker 2: For the star.
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  Speaker 3: Oh there's a link.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not pressing when I press that.
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  Speaker 5: Oh no, Oh, he was playing guitar guitar when you're
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  Speaker 5: at the reddit.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, about fingering a guitar string.
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  Speaker 3: He's literally playing guitar.
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  Speaker 2: Is that how this guy did? Oh my god, let's
• 12:18
  Speaker 2: give him the benefit of the doubt. He goes, I'm
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  Speaker 2: referring to the middle finger. It feels very weird playing
• 12:23
  Speaker 2: this chord. It's very practical though, maybe I just need
• 12:26
  Speaker 2: to get used to the feeling. Just some thoughts. And
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  Speaker 2: then another guy's like, as long as you don't push
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  Speaker 2: you hard, No, it shouldn't hurt your finger.
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  Speaker 3: Like, there's nothing I'm like, was he lying? Okay? Also,
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  Speaker 3: I swear you can't break a ligament. You can only
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  Speaker 3: tear them.
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  Speaker 2: I know you can snap them. Yeah, because Chris did that.
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  Speaker 2: But when he was pulling down his pants because he
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: was really excited to get into his pajamas, I was
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  Speaker 2: it was very important to finish that story with the
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  Speaker 2: sac It wasn't. I wasn't there. He was leon wow,
• 13:00
  Speaker 2: oh my god. Okay, we're on a theme now. Oh no,
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  Speaker 2: the next one?
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  Speaker 3: Ah yeah yeah ye yah yeah yeah yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah ye yeah yeah Okay our next dating horror story,
• 13:14
  Speaker 2: heyce alan ol horror story. Not sure if it's dating exactly,
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  Speaker 2: but still funny and awful. Apologies if this is TMI.
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  Speaker 1: That's literally the description of all of my dating histories
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  Speaker 1: is funny and awful.
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  Speaker 2: I invited this guy over that I knew from high school.
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  Speaker 2: We had done things before, but never sex. When he
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  Speaker 2: came over. We did have sex. He was fingering me
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  Speaker 2: and at some point he switched to his dick. I
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  Speaker 2: hadn't realized and said no, no, I hadn't realized and
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: said you can put it in now, and he responded with.
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  Speaker 6: I have.
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  Speaker 3: Oh no.
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  Speaker 2: I was so embarrassed and didn't finish, but he did. Afterwards,
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  Speaker 2: we were laying next to each other and he was
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  Speaker 2: telling me which of my friends he thought was hot
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  Speaker 2: and he would sleep with. I made up some story
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  Speaker 2: about why he needed to leave. I was so gobsmacked
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  Speaker 2: about the whole thing. I blocked him sometime after. Oh
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: my god, I was sorry for God.
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  Speaker 3: I'm glad. What a douche.
• 14:22
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, because we know it's not all about size. No,
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  Speaker 2: we're not shaming anybody for anything like that. It's just
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  Speaker 2: the discomfort that that moment would have had. Yeah, in
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: such like an intimate moment, but also like what a douche?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, what a finger?
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  Speaker 1: What would you do if someone turned to you like
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: post coital and it was like, yeah, these are what's like?
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  Speaker 3: See, this is shit with you because you've you've been
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  Speaker 3: with the love of your life since you were fifteen
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  Speaker 3: years old.
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  Speaker 1: That I can't ask you, what's the weirdest.
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  Speaker 3: Thing someone said to you after.
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  Speaker 2: Literally do you want to know? I'll reveal you'll throw yourself.
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: I'm the ying to your yang. Yes, will I got
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  Speaker 3: the content for us.
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  Speaker 2: You know. I had to carry Bradshaw sex in the
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  Speaker 2: city moment where I just slept with this model and
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: he turns to me and he goes, yeah, basically just
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  Speaker 2: like after I sleep with a chicken, I'm just like
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: not really interested in it anymore again. I mean, Alicia, honest,
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  Speaker 2: I know, like what an awful thing to say to
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  Speaker 2: I was.
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  Speaker 3: Like, what a way?
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  Speaker 2: So?
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: And I think I was like, so, are you like
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  Speaker 1: never going to speak to me again? And he was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh no, like I'll still talk to you.
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  Speaker 3: He did, My God, he didn't.
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  Speaker 2: And then I think like six months later he tried
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: to like rematch with me on an app and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, did you forget that we already? Maybe he
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: let his intrusive thoughts win that day. I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: that's probably the weirdest things anyone said to me after sex.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I've just saen in capital letters. This was
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  Speaker 1: the most mortifying experience of my life.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to die.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get into it strap in. Hey, Sol, Now, I
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  Speaker 2: hope you chicks. He well, I hope this femail here
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  Speaker 2: is a first date horror story for you. I hope
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  Speaker 2: she shit her pants. I'm just getting that vibe. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just getting that vibe. A couple of years ago, I
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: went on a first date with one of my friend's
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  Speaker 2: brothers friends friends brother's friends.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, who is a bit older than me. First mistake. Lol,
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  Speaker 3: let's call him Jake. I love the fake names.
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  Speaker 1: There always a j We were talking back and forth
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  Speaker 1: when I was overseas on holiday and we both decided
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  Speaker 1: that we will go on a date.
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  Speaker 3: When I get back.
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  Speaker 2: First of all, the first date that Jake planned was
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  Speaker 2: for me to go and watch him play indoor football.
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  Speaker 6: That suck.
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  Speaker 2: That so sucks the whoa Jake.
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  Speaker 3: I went along with it and met him at the game.
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  Speaker 2: Everything was going well until I was sitting in the grandstand.
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  Speaker 2: I got hit in the face by the ball.
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  Speaker 6: No, no, do.
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  Speaker 2: You know what being at Rob's soccer games that is
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  Speaker 2: a genuine fear of Lifeah, that was the first horror
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  Speaker 2: of this first day.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, you would have been so embarrassed, you poor baby.
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  Speaker 1: I continued to watch the game, and then Jake walked
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  Speaker 1: me out back to my car after the game. This
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: was the date, by the way, just me watching him
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: play a football game, no dinner, no real conversation, nothing
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: red flag. As we were saying goodbye, we went in
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: for the most awkward, longest hug I've ever had, and
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: I'm a hugger, so that says a lot. As the
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: hug ended, we both went in for a kiss, and
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: because Jake had such a.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: Bushy long beard, I couldn't find his lips and I
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: ended up kissing his bit was the most mortifying experience
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: of my life.
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: I wanted to die.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: I proceeded to say to Jake, I'm sorry and laughed
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: really awkwardly.
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: This was the end of the date, and then we
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: both got into our cars.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: Jake drove off and I sat in my car for
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: what seemed like forever processing what just happened. I then
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: made sure that no one was around, and I screamed
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: at the top.
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: Of my lungs.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: Out of embarrassment, and then I drove home and then
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: I tried to sleep off on what was the most
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: horrifying first.
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: Date that I've ever been on. Thank you for.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: Reading and listening, and I hope this was entertaining.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Love your Chicks from Sophie.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, oh, I'm going to rank my top three favorite
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: moments of that story.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna start from number three. It was her kissing
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: his beard.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: That was good.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: How long was it?
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah? How little was his mouth.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: Literally like excavating.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he should have led with his lips to find hers.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: Number two was that he played indoor football.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Not you're getting hit in the face. I didn't like that,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: but I felt that in myself for you.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: And then number one was the scream in the car.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: That is so fucking real that you were so real
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: for that. That is just the fact that the first
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: date was so bad you have to scream in your
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: car on your own. Oh real, I hope.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: I actually feel like that's the measure of a good
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: first date.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: Screaming in the car, screaming in the car on your own.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, fuck, that's good.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I hope you never saw this man again. What a fuck.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: That is why he is single. That is why he
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: is single.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: Honestly, what would you do if somebody invited you to
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: watch some play sport for your first date? Would you
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: say no?
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever gone to watch someone play
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: sport except for Rob, and I only went after like
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: we were dating. For like here it's a girlfriend, then
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: that's a girlfriend thing because that's an obligation.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I think it's the last time I did that was
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: maybe in like high school, because you live at home,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: so you have to go outside and go to like
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: a third party. But it would also be like a
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: group thing, like I wasn't just there on my own.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: Get bab you've got? That should have been like try
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: hardly breathe and seeing how he reacted, and that would
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: have been the true measure of him as a man. Yuck.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: I hate that. Do you know what?
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Bring back the guy with the broken finger ligaments rather that. Okay,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: so we finally got a voice note because we've been begging.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: So please send more voice notes to us if you
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: want advice because it's so fun.
• 20:49
  Speaker 6: Or I'll or maybe some other admin person that's employed
• 20:52
  Speaker 6: by you guys.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: False, it was me. It was.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: Weird.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: I we reply to all of our messages, so I
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: just want to pop that in it. That's why they're
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: so unhinged.
• 21:05
  Speaker 6: Yeah, what I'm struggling with is being broken up from
• 21:10
  Speaker 6: somebody and absolutely knowing what I need to do. I
• 21:12
  Speaker 6: need to focus on myself and I'm fine. I am
• 21:15
  Speaker 6: actually doing really well, but like I just can't help.
• 21:18
  Speaker 6: But my truth is that I don't believe their relationship's over.
• 21:21
  Speaker 6: I believe I'm going.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: To marry this boy.
• 21:23
  Speaker 6: I believe we're going to have children. Like he feels
• 21:26
  Speaker 6: like the one he's my soul met. I'm totally in
• 21:29
  Speaker 6: love with him. And the reality is the sacrifices that
• 21:31
  Speaker 6: I made, some of them I would continue to make.
• 21:35
  Speaker 6: He is representing Ireland at boxing, and he also has
• 21:38
  Speaker 6: an amazing career in the corporate world that's really unknown.
• 21:41
  Speaker 6: It's unheard of. His life and the way he lives
• 21:44
  Speaker 6: his life and the way he chases his dreams and
• 21:46
  Speaker 6: works so hard is amazing and I'm in full support
• 21:49
  Speaker 6: of it. The reason I had to walk away is
• 21:51
  Speaker 6: because after an extended period of time, my needs we're
• 21:56
  Speaker 6: not being met in terms of like we can't book
• 21:59
  Speaker 6: trips way, we can't go for spa weekends. We can
• 22:03
  Speaker 6: sometimes go for dinner, but we just don't do that.
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: We don't really have nice day and nights. I don't
• 22:07
  Speaker 6: get dressed up and go out. We don't do that
• 22:09
  Speaker 6: shit because he's constantly training.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: That's fine.
• 22:12
  Speaker 6: I can deal with that. I would prefer to be
• 22:14
  Speaker 6: in a relationship where I was spoilt and where we
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: went for meals and had holidays and flights booked all
• 22:19
  Speaker 6: the time. Yeah, that would be stunning. But I love
• 22:22
  Speaker 6: him and I support his lifestyle, so I'm okay with
• 22:25
  Speaker 6: sacrificing that side of the relationship. I can do those
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: things with my friends. The reason why I walked away
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: is because me communicating that I was feeling like an
• 22:35
  Speaker 6: on priority that my needs were not being met, was
• 22:38
  Speaker 6: met with resistance from his end. He is struggling with
• 22:42
  Speaker 6: his own mental health. I feel like he's going through physical, emotional,
• 22:45
  Speaker 6: mental burnout and he didn't know how to give me
• 22:50
  Speaker 6: any more. His responses would have been like, I don't
• 22:53
  Speaker 6: know what more you want for me. I'm doing everything
• 22:54
  Speaker 6: that I can. His schedule is mental, so I can
• 22:58
  Speaker 6: completely empathize with that. He's also riddled with undiagnosed ALYHD,
• 23:02
  Speaker 6: so he struggles with basic things of like prioritization.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: Blah blah blah.
• 23:06
  Speaker 6: I left him. I didn't want to, but I left
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: him because I was like, I can't do this. Anymore.
• 23:11
  Speaker 6: And I deserve somebody who can show up for me
• 23:14
  Speaker 6: in all those nice ways, but also if they can't
• 23:16
  Speaker 6: at least be able to communicate and make me feel
• 23:19
  Speaker 6: like I'm not the problem. And I suppose my question
• 23:22
  Speaker 6: is just is it a really big mistake to continue
• 23:26
  Speaker 6: this breakup with oh the hopes that we're going to
• 23:31
  Speaker 6: get back together? Like is that my first error? Like
• 23:33
  Speaker 6: I basically am trying to figure out how the hell
• 23:36
  Speaker 6: to continue this breakup when my good feeling tells me
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: that he's doing the work and that we'll find our
• 23:40
  Speaker 6: way back to each other. Is that stupid? Am I
• 23:43
  Speaker 6: making a mistake here? All advice would be so appreciated.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I want to cry. My god,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, I literally have like a lump in
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: my throat in your voice and.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Oh, I just want to give her a big fucking
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: cuddle me too.
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: I'll be your Irish bucker.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: I'll spoon you, I'll take you out for dinners and
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: you can borrow my clothes too.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like that's a good deal.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can do each other's makeup and oh, darling,
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: I just fuck you were in the thick of it.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: You were in the absolute thick of your feels right now,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: what do you think?
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's in a hard place because it's
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: so fresh and she still loves him, and it's not
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: like he has done anything necessarily wrong. It's like you
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: cheated on her or something like that, where you can
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: sort of make a hard and fast like, Okay, I'll
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: just push them away. I know they're wrong for me.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: There's a little bit more gray area, which I almost
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: think makes the breakup.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: Harder one hundred percent. It's a lot easier to break
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: up with someone when you hate them.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think he but the way that he
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: responded when you shared that your needs weren't being met
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: and he said, oh, well, I'm doing everything I can,
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: when he's clearly not or just couldn't even ask you, Okay,
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: well what do you want me to do? What can
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: I do? The fact that there's not even a five
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: percent change in effort. Yeah, And she did say, I
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: know that he's now doing the work, but what is that.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: I would love to know what the context is of
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: him doing the work, because I just don't want you
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: to end up back with him and then you're stuck
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: in the same place where you're a second priority in
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: somebody's life, and you should be their first priority. That
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: doesn't mean that they have to give up their dreams
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: and their career, but they should be communicating with you
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: and still making sure that you feel satisfied in your
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: needs are being met in the relationship.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, I know.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: And I think one of the hardest things with a
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: breakup is that you just you feel everything you feel,
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: every positive thing, that you don't really remember the bad stuff,
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: and you want it back so much that you kind
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: of justify some of the things that did upset you
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: that you're like, do you know what, It's actually not
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: that bad that we didn't go out for dinners.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: It's not that bad that we couldn't go away.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Do you know what?
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I can handle that? I can deal with that because
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I just want them back.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: And I think my advice to you would be to
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: remember why you did walk away when you are because.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: Your heart broken.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: And I absolutely promise you that if it is meant
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: to be, it will like you will find your way
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: back to each other. But I don't think that's right now.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I think he needs to go and do that work.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: You can't help him with that work.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't hold his hand through that.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: He needs to go and do that and realize what
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: his priorities are in life. And I think you need
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: to do the same, as hard as it is. Just
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: really spend some time with your girlfriends, watch Sex and
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: the City, bridget Jones's diary.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and have some space.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: I think absolutely block him for a little bit, because
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: if you haven't already, I can't remember if she said
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: she did, I don't think she has. But put as
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: much distance between the two of you as you can,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: because I promise you as well if you if you
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: don't get back together, you will forget what it was
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: like to feel like loving him. You'll remember you did.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: You'll be like, yeah, no, I did love him, and
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: that is like.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: The time Hue All it's so true. But at least
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: he didn't break his finger off ingering you. No, No,
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: there's always an up exactly. That's the lining of the story.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: Oh what a journey.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: So that is a wrap for our Dating Horror Stories episode.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: I just want to send you all big kisses and
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: cardles to Valentine's Day. Some of those were absolutely fucking
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: All of those were ten out of ten. But the
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: giggles thank you.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: That was amazing and Happy Valentine's Day, chickies. Yeah, Happy
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Valentine's Day, and make sure to listen to our next episode.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, just dropping on Thursday, because if you are
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: having any sort of dating or relationship conundrum, we are
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: about to get into it and give you some solid advice.
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: We have a dating a relationship coach coming on the show.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So, if our advice in this didn't, our advice
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: was incredibly professional. Now, but thanks to every chick who
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: wrote in, we really appreciate it, and thanks to you
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: chicks for having us in your ear holes. We'd love
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: to be here, and thank you to m ik Mate
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: for making today's episode happened. Love you cheeks, Love your
• 28:31
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