# 85: If you want to support your kids, then...

The Parenting Standard · Feb 19, 2026 · 37m

There you are, trying your absolute hardest to be a "good parent." You offer a kind word, a supportive gesture, or a gift, and it’s thrown back in your face. Your child is rude. They’re "unreachable." You feel the resentment building, and worse, you see them growing into a selfish adult who only cares about what they can "get." But here is the terrifying truth: your "support" might actually be the thing driving them away. If you don't learn how to "Dig for Data" and understand their mental construct, you aren't just failing to help—you’re actively damaging the relationship. We show you how to…