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170. how to become OBSESSED with your life... & *actually* enjoy life again · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Hello you guys. Welcome back to another episode of the
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  Speaker 1: Hawkgirl Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is
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  Speaker 1: your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
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  Speaker 1: a new mindset, and another day for you to become
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  Speaker 1: the Hawkgirl energy you want to attract. On Monday, I
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  Speaker 1: took honestly the day off, but I didn't really have
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  Speaker 1: the day off because Zach and I have been packing
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  Speaker 1: up the house all weekend and getting ready to move
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  Speaker 1: out of our current house, which is so crazy, guys.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe we're officially at the moving month and
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  Speaker 1: we're finally packing up the house and yeah, just moving
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  Speaker 1: on to the next which is such a bittersweet feeling.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's going to be really sad the day
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  Speaker 1: I see this house empty, and like, that's when it's
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  Speaker 1: going to really hit me. I think it's just like,
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  Speaker 1: think of thinking of all the memories that we've had,
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  Speaker 1: you know, just these past few years of living here.
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  Speaker 2: It's gonna be really hard to leave.
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  Speaker 1: But anyways, I literally spent the entire weekend packing, So
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  Speaker 1: that is the reality for the next little bit. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna try my best to make the podcast a priority
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  Speaker 1: when I can. I definitely think there'll be an episode
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  Speaker 1: up next week, but the following week, the day of
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  Speaker 1: the podcast is actually the day we move out of
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  Speaker 1: our house, Like it's the exact same day, so I
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  Speaker 1: highly doubt I'll have time to record beforehand, So I
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  Speaker 1: don't think there'll be an episode up the following week,
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  Speaker 1: and then hopefully you'll have one up when I'm staying
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  Speaker 1: at my parents' place for the week until we transition
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  Speaker 1: into our new house.
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  Speaker 2: I'm staying at my parents for.
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  Speaker 1: I think ten or twelve days before we move into
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  Speaker 1: the new house. So yeah, it'll be kind of fun
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  Speaker 1: to live back at my parents' place for a bit
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  Speaker 1: and spend time with my family. But yeah, that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of like a little update of what's been going on.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like it's been a really busy month.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot going on and and I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: to share this next chapter with you guys, So make
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  Speaker 1: sure to stay tuned on my Instagram, my TikTok, on
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  Speaker 1: my YouTube. A lot of moving content coming. I filmed
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  Speaker 1: a log this weekend of like starting to pack up,
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  Speaker 1: starting to do a bit more furniture shopping, just kind
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  Speaker 1: of again preparing for the move outs, and then I
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  Speaker 1: will be making a whole like move out series of
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  Speaker 1: just like guiding everything from like what we do in
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  Speaker 1: the new house, how we furnish the new house, how
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  Speaker 1: we're you know, moving from this house to the new house,
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  Speaker 1: like every step I will be recording and documenting.
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  Speaker 2: The entire experience.
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  Speaker 1: So if you love Home to Court as much as
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  Speaker 1: I do, definitely make sure to follow along. I love
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  Speaker 1: that type of content to watch, so I'm sure it
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  Speaker 1: will be fun to document the entire process. I am
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  Speaker 1: coming down with a cold, so if you feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm taking random breaks, I'm gonna try my best to
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  Speaker 1: obviously cut these parts out when I'm like coughing along
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  Speaker 1: up or.
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  Speaker 2: Just feeling congested.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't remember the last time I
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  Speaker 1: got sick in the summer. I feel like this is
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  Speaker 1: such a random cold that just hit me out of nowhere.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I got it for my sister.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why she's the one that's going out,
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  Speaker 1: not me, so I don't know how I got sick.
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  Speaker 2: But anyways, all good.
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  Speaker 1: But just wanted to warn you that my voice is
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  Speaker 1: like not one hundred percent right now, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: feel one hundred percent either, but I'm still showing up
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  Speaker 1: and recording, which is all that matters. In today's episode,
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  Speaker 1: I really wanted to film an episode about being obsessed
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  Speaker 1: with your life, So how to become obsessed with your life,
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  Speaker 1: love what you've done with your life.
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  Speaker 2: I want you to wake up.
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  Speaker 1: Every single morning actually excited for your life at the
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  Speaker 1: end of the day. I think we always try and
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  Speaker 1: provide positive things on this podcast. You know, there's always
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  Speaker 1: ways that we can, you know, shift our mindset to
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  Speaker 1: become more positive and just being a more positive person.
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  Speaker 1: And I really wanted to make this episode about just
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  Speaker 1: making yourself feel like you're living the life that you've
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  Speaker 1: always dreamed for yourself. Like, we all have a specific
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  Speaker 1: vision for ourselves of what we try to strive for,
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  Speaker 1: and so I really want to just like create this
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  Speaker 1: episode for you guys to reflect on when you're feeling
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  Speaker 1: like you've kind of lost the spark a bit, or
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  Speaker 1: you're feeling in a rut with your life and you
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  Speaker 1: don't know how to like regain that spark back. This
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  Speaker 1: is how we're gonna get that spark back. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: follow these steps, We're gonna do these things because I
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  Speaker 1: feel like these things are what makes you realize how
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  Speaker 1: grateful you are for your life and that the little
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  Speaker 1: things truly matter and they make you feel more excited
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  Speaker 1: and more happy to live your own life. So let's
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  Speaker 1: get into this episode. We have I think fifteen things
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  Speaker 1: that we're gonna chat about, and these are fifteen things
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  Speaker 1: that I personally think are worth chatting about and how
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  Speaker 1: I personally find I wake up every single morning and
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm obsessed with my life because I
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  Speaker 1: do these little things, and I find it makes a
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  Speaker 1: huge difference in how I feel about myself. Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: the first one is become the main character of your
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  Speaker 1: own life. So imagine you're writing a story about yourself
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  Speaker 1: and you've envisioned yourself, you know, becoming this woman that
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  Speaker 1: you've always wanted to become. I think, I think when
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  Speaker 1: you think of writing a book, I think of, you know,
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  Speaker 1: envisioning myself on how.
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  Speaker 2: I see my Pinterest boards.
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  Speaker 1: So I always talk about that with you guys, about
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  Speaker 1: how Pinterest is truly the one spot where I really
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  Speaker 1: see some inspiration for myself. And I feel like we
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  Speaker 1: all envision a specific way of life for ourselves, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's the way we dress, the things that we do,
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  Speaker 1: the job that we have, Like you envision this girl
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  Speaker 1: that you dream to become. And I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: a visual person, so I don't like to write about
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  Speaker 1: my life. There is some people that like to, you know,
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  Speaker 1: use their journal and write out things that they strive
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  Speaker 1: to do for themselves. Or there's people like me where
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  Speaker 1: they're more of a visual person where they go on
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  Speaker 1: Pinterest and they save images and they have this like
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  Speaker 1: goal that they want to achieve for themselves or a dream,
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  Speaker 1: and so visually, I feel like I save a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things for inspiration of how I envision the girl that.
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  Speaker 2: I want to become.
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  Speaker 1: Right, So I think you need to go back to
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  Speaker 1: that and realize, like, Okay, who is this girl that
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  Speaker 1: I want to become? Is the girl that is dressing
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  Speaker 1: really aesthetic? Is it the girl that really wants to
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  Speaker 1: live a healthier lifestyle and have you know, a really
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  Speaker 1: balanced life?
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  Speaker 2: Like what is it? Right? So, I think it's.
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  Speaker 1: Super important to always be on top of writing your
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  Speaker 1: story and constantly finding inspiration through images you save or
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  Speaker 1: you know, ways to like journal and document and write
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  Speaker 1: out how you envision yourself to be around being that
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  Speaker 1: main character in your life. Another tip is creating yourself
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  Speaker 1: a signature morning. So we talk about morning routines all
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  Speaker 1: the time here, but I think the point is is
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  Speaker 1: that everybody's going to have a different type of definition
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  Speaker 1: of how they describe their morning routine as so it's
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  Speaker 1: like you're other gonna be the girl that wants to
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  Speaker 1: live that soft girl lifestyle where it's like, you want
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  Speaker 1: to wake up later in the morning, you want to
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  Speaker 1: make yourself a cup of coffee, you want to light
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  Speaker 1: a candle, you want to sit in your living room
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  Speaker 1: reading a book with the fireplace on. That's how you
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  Speaker 1: want to start your day before you start your workday
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  Speaker 1: every single morning. Or you're the kind of girl that
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  Speaker 1: wants to wake up early, book of her favorite workout class,
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  Speaker 1: get smoothie after the class, or pick up a coffee,
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  Speaker 1: come home journal, maybe go on a walk. Like a
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  Speaker 1: very different vibe, but again something that someone strives to
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  Speaker 1: do before they start their workday. Both mornings are perfect
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  Speaker 1: in my opinion. It just really depends on how you
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  Speaker 1: envision your mourning to be. And I think these two
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  Speaker 1: different mornings, it doesn't matter what morning routine you decide
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  Speaker 1: to pick at the end of the day. It creates
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  Speaker 1: a signature for yourself and how you want your daily
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  Speaker 1: mornings to look like. And I think if you're actually
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  Speaker 1: consistent with doing that every single day, it becomes easier
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  Speaker 1: to stick to your routine and easier for you to
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  Speaker 1: do that every single morning and feel good about the
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  Speaker 1: type of life that you've created for yourself. So I
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  Speaker 1: think it's all about figuring out, Okay, what is your
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  Speaker 1: signature and morning, how are you going to describe it?
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  Speaker 1: And of course all the different seasons that you go through,
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  Speaker 1: you might adjust it. Right.
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  Speaker 2: We've talked about it so many times.
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  Speaker 1: When you're in the summer, there's a totally different morning routine,
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  Speaker 1: you know in the summer versus the winter, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: going into fall, how do you envision your fall? Do
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  Speaker 1: you envision to be more cozy? I feel like for me,
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  Speaker 1: in the fall season, I'm lighting way more candles. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I'm sitting on my couch more with the
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  Speaker 1: fireplace on, watching my favorite like fall TV show like
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  Speaker 1: Gilmore Girls or Vampire Diaries, Like I feel like it's
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  Speaker 1: definitely a different vibe in the fall than it is
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  Speaker 1: in the summer for me, or again the winter, so
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  Speaker 1: seasons kind of reflect your morning routine too, which I
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  Speaker 1: think is good to always change it up a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: but always still sticking to the basics of like how
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  Speaker 1: you want your signature morning to be. So find a
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  Speaker 1: morning routine that you truly love, because I do think
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  Speaker 1: that makes the joy of you waking up every single
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  Speaker 1: morning and doing your morning routine. I think people who
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  Speaker 1: enjoy their mornings it reflects and I think it shows
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  Speaker 1: how much happiness you have enjoy you have because you've
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  Speaker 1: actually put the effort on yourself and doing these little
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  Speaker 1: things that make you feel good going into your day.
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  Speaker 1: And I always say that I feel like your mornings
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  Speaker 1: is truly one of the most important parts of the
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  Speaker 1: day because again it's the start to your day, and
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  Speaker 1: it kind of reflects how you think your day is
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  Speaker 1: going to go right, Like having a good start to
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  Speaker 1: the day makes you feel more excited going into the day.
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  Speaker 1: So that's kind of like the mindset I usually have.
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  Speaker 1: So I do think the mornings are crucial and it's
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  Speaker 1: important to like have a routine for yourself that you're
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  Speaker 1: going to stick to.
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  Speaker 2: Another thing is clothing.
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  Speaker 1: I think clothing plays such an important role in how
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  Speaker 1: you feel in terms.
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  Speaker 2: Of competence and just I don't know, like.
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  Speaker 1: How you see yourself as a woman, right, So, I
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  Speaker 1: think we always go through different transitions of different types
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  Speaker 1: of styles, and I think it's really really hard to
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  Speaker 1: find a personal style.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like there is a point in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Where you don't really know if you're dressing for yourself,
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  Speaker 1: or if you're dressing for the male gaze, or if
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  Speaker 1: you're just wearing what your friends are wearing. Right, feel
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  Speaker 1: like you don't really realize your style until you're in
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  Speaker 1: your twenties. I feel like that's one period of time
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  Speaker 1: where you actually figure out what you like and what
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  Speaker 1: you feel the most competent in. And I feel like
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  Speaker 1: leaning into your personal style can always like really determine
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  Speaker 1: how you feel about yourself, you know what I mean? Like,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like if you're wearing things just to please
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  Speaker 1: other people, like, you're not gonna feel confident in yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna feel awkward with what you're wearing and like
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  Speaker 1: you're doing it because of the trends or whatever. Right, Like,
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  Speaker 1: you want to wear what you actually feel comfortable in,
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  Speaker 1: what you actually feel confident in, And I think that's
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  Speaker 1: such an important part again to loving your life, because
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  Speaker 1: if you're dressing not for yourself, like again, you're just
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  Speaker 1: doing it to make other people happy and not pleasing yourself.
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  Speaker 1: So definitely figuring out your personal style I think is huge,
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  Speaker 1: and wearing things that actually make you feel confident. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it's all about yourself and loving yourself in order to
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  Speaker 1: love the life and be obsessed with the life that
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  Speaker 1: you have. Another thing is romanticizing the little things, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's putting on a cute pair of pajamas or you know,
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  Speaker 1: making your favorite coffee at home, or washing your bed
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  Speaker 1: sheets or picking up fresh flowers to put on your table, Like,
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  Speaker 1: truly romanticize all those little things that you do, because
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you don't realize those little.
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  Speaker 2: Things mean so much to you.
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  Speaker 1: And I think, like I feel like life has been
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  Speaker 1: on such a repeat lately.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I'm like really.
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  Speaker 1: Eager for a change, and I think because I know
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  Speaker 1: what change is coming, I'm like getting excited about like
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  Speaker 1: those little things being in a new environment. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like that's been a great excitement for me. But I
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  Speaker 1: think at the end of the day, it's like it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't matter the space that you're in I think if
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  Speaker 1: you still do those things, you feel good about yourself.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know, I am obviously really excited to
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  Speaker 1: make my coffee in my new house, like find a
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  Speaker 1: new cozy corner on my couch in my new house.
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  Speaker 1: Like there's obviously so much excitement around that, and like
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  Speaker 1: romanticizing those little things. But I do think like finding
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  Speaker 1: joy in your home of doing these things are still
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  Speaker 1: like excitement and it makes you feel good and you
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  Speaker 1: realize how important it is. Actually It's funny today when
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  Speaker 1: I was on my walk with Freddie, I decided to
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  Speaker 1: walk to my favorite coffee shop today instead of drive.
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  Speaker 1: And that was something that I could have easily just
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  Speaker 1: got my car going to pick up coffee beans come back,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But I was like, one,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go walk in my favorite trail that I
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  Speaker 1: love and walk to the coffee shop through that trail
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  Speaker 1: to pick up my beans and then walk back home.
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  Speaker 1: And like I really did enjoy that because like I
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  Speaker 1: was romanticizing something by like doing something that I love,
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  Speaker 1: which is walking, and like also I love coffee, so
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  Speaker 1: like going to like walk through the trail, pick up
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  Speaker 1: my coffee, come back, Like I don't know. I felt
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  Speaker 1: like that was something that I don't typically do, but
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  Speaker 1: like I really really enjoyed it by including my walking
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  Speaker 1: routine into you know, an errand that I had to
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  Speaker 1: get done for the day. So I really really love
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  Speaker 1: something like that, where it's just as little as taking
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  Speaker 1: the time to move my body and doing the little
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  Speaker 1: things by romanticizing it. I put on my music, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I just had my headphones in. Really just enjoyed it
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  Speaker 1: and walked for like an hour and a half and
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  Speaker 1: I loved it. So anyways, romanticizing those little things truly
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  Speaker 1: do make a huge difference in your day. Another one
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  Speaker 1: is moving your body because you love it, not because
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  Speaker 1: you have to.
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  Speaker 2: If you hate working out, do not do it.
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  Speaker 1: But if you hate it, like, find other ways to
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  Speaker 1: move your body that you would consider a workout by
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  Speaker 1: doing something that you actually enjoy. Like, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: someone to force themselves to be in the gym, you know,
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  Speaker 1: two to three times a week just because they feel
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  Speaker 1: like they have to, or because like that's what all
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  Speaker 1: the girls are doing, Like that's what I need to do.
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  Speaker 2: Like, please don't do that.
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  Speaker 1: Please find something that you actually enjoy doing, because that's
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  Speaker 1: when you're actually going to a be obsessed with your life,
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  Speaker 1: but also be consistent with it and create a routine
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  Speaker 1: for yourself and actually see the results that you might
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  Speaker 1: want to see. Right, So, if it's going on walks,
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  Speaker 1: do it. Go on walks. If you love to run,
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  Speaker 1: go on the runs. Going to pilates, going to yoga,
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  Speaker 1: going to dance classes, going to strength training, like whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is. Do what makes you feel good, because, as
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  Speaker 1: I said, that's when you're actually going to be consistent
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  Speaker 1: and continue to show up and do it. Because if
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  Speaker 1: you friacking hate it, you're not gonna want to go back,
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  Speaker 1: or you're going to hate your life because you're forcing
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  Speaker 1: yourself to do something that you don't love. So I
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  Speaker 1: definitely always say figure out what works for you. I
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  Speaker 1: think everyone has a different type of love for different
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  Speaker 1: types of workouts. Lately, obviously, I've been loving pilates, I've
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  Speaker 1: been loving walking. I've been really enjoying longer walks. I've
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  Speaker 1: been trying to walk like an hour and a half
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  Speaker 1: and get like ten thousand steps in one walk, which
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  Speaker 1: has been great, and honestly it's a freaking workout. Man.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I think walking is so underrated.
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  Speaker 1: I literally was dying from my walk today, Like my
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  Speaker 1: legs were actually sore. And I looked at my step
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  Speaker 1: count and I was at ninety five hundred steps from
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  Speaker 1: that one walk, and I was like, that's crazy. I
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  Speaker 1: almost hit ten thousand steps just in that one walk.
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  Speaker 1: But I felt so good after and it literally felt
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  Speaker 1: like a workout, Like it is a different form of workout,
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  Speaker 1: it's a different form of movement. So you can really
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  Speaker 1: find ways to move your body in so many different
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  Speaker 1: forms and still love doing it. So anyways, do something
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  Speaker 1: that you love. Don't work out if you hate it.
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  Speaker 1: Just find ways to move your body that you actually
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  Speaker 1: enjoy doing. Become the friend that everyone loves to be around.
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  Speaker 1: So what I mean by that is always show up
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  Speaker 1: for your friends, because you want to be the girl
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  Speaker 1: that remembers the birthdays, that remembers to compliment them, to
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  Speaker 1: celebrate them in general, Like, always make sure to be
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  Speaker 1: the friend that your friends want to reach out to
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  Speaker 1: and talk to and like be able to open themselves
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  Speaker 1: up to them, because that's what you guys want in life,
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  Speaker 1: Like you want a good friend, and you don't need
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  Speaker 1: ten to fourteen friends to like make yourself feel like,
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: oh I have a good group of people, you know
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: what I mean, Like you can have two good friends
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: and still have.
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: A really really happy life.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: Like you don't need to have a bunch of girlfriends
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: to make yourself feel like you have a good life,
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: Like you just need two or three really really good friends.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: And I feel like now that I'm thirty, I definitely
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: feel like I've learned a lot about friendship and how
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: important it is, because I feel like now going through
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: a really busy season in life. I think, you know,
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: a lot of my friends are either getting engaged, planning
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: a wedding, moving out of their house, moving into a
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: new one, going through renovations of a new house, or
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: having babies, right and I feel like all those things
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: are busy. Everyone's busy doing something, and it's really hard
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: to like show up and show that you care for
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: the person when you're going through such a crazy period
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: of time. And so, like, one thing that I really
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: want to do for my best friend is my best
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: friend is about to have a baby this week, and
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: I really really want to find the time to go to.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: Farm Boy, which is a grocery store here in.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: Ottawa, pick up some food and cook her a home
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: cooked meal and maybe some breakfast or something like that
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: and drop it off at our house when she's going
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: through the first week of postpartum, because I know that's
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: usually a really difficult first week of just balancing life
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: while also trying to feed yourself taking care of a newborn. Like,
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: there's a lot going on, right, So it's like, I
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: want to be able to show up for her because
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: she shows up for me when I need something, right,
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: So I just I want to show her that I'm
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: a good friend because I care for her, and like
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: I want to be there for her by doing something small,
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: which is just making her a home cooked meal in
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: some breakfast. So I think it's really really important to
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: love your friends just as much as you love yourself
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: and show that you care for them because they're going
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: to be there for you when you feel like you
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: need someone. And yeah, I think friendships are so so important.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: And again, it's not about how many friends you have.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: It's more important to know that you have a few
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: good people in your life that you can count on
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: that you know will always be there to celebrate your
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: wins and your highs and your birthdays and all that.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: So anyways, and just you want to be that person
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: that they can come to too, and that they feel
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: comfortable of sharing those exciting things with you, because there's
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: no better feeling than obviously hearing exciting news from your friends.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Another thing is creating a home that feels like your
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: safe space. This is definitely something I've learned throughout the way,
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: especially with like this house here. When I first moved
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: into this house, I think designing a house was like
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: a lot of stress because you don't really know how
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: you want to design it right, Like it's something that's
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: like really stressful. You want to, you know, invest in
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: the right furniture pieces and the right things. And what
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: I've realized is that comfort is truly key. Like if
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: you buy something that is not comfortable whatsoever, or you
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: literally just bought it for show, there is going to
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: be issues because you're going to realize that it wasn't
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: worth the money, and then you're buying something that you
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: probably should have just spent your money on and realize
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: that like, yeah, going down the comfort route is better
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: than for show, right, So I really really see my
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: house as my safe space, and like you want to
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: make that as comfortable as possible because like at the end,
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: of the day. You come home to this house every
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: single day, and you want to fall in love with
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: your house. So I feel like you really need to
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: be picky about like things you purchase for things that
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: you design with it everything right, Like you really want
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: to be cautious of what you buy because like your
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: space is like so important. Like all I want is
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: like soft blankets, a cozy couch, a house with good lighting.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: You know, fresh sense in the home and.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: Want the house to feel clean, Like those to me
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: are like the most important things. And yeah, I don't know,
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: like I think about that for the new house and
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: how I really want to take that into account for
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: when I'm buying a few new furniture pieces for the house,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: and how I want to design it with obviously a
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: beautiful design in mind, but also keep in mind that
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: it's like it needs to be comfortable, it needs to
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: be practical, it needs to be realistic. Another one is
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: taking care of yourself like you're someone you love. If
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: you don't fall in love with yourself, it is gonna
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: be really hard for you to love your life because
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: if you don't pamper yourself and do the little things
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: that make you feel good about yourself, you're gonna lose
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: that spark in yourself, you know what I mean, Like
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: invest in those little things like book, the facial book,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: the nail appointment book, the haircut. If those things make
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: you feel good, then do it. Then there's drinking enough
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: water throughout the day, going to bed earlier, eating a
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: nutritious meal, wearing the SPF, speak kindly to yourself, like,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: there's so many things that you can think of that
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: those things like make such an important part of how
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: you feel. Because if you're eating like shit all the time,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: like if you're ordering takeout, you're gonna feel like shit
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: and you're gonna not feel good about yourself. So I
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: think actually spending the time like cooking those meals for yourself,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: drinking enough water, like you're showing yourself that you care.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: So I think doing those little things really make the
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: biggest difference in how you feel.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: And again, putting.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Yourself first shows that you love yourself and that doing
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: these little things boost your confidence. It makes you feel
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: better about yourself, It makes yourself more confident, you know
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: what I mean. So I think, yeah, taking care of
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: yourself is pretty important when it comes to someone that
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: wants to be obsessed with their life. Another one is
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: stop waiting for your boyfriend or husband to make life exciting.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I feel like in the beginning of a relationship, I
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: think everybody kind of goes through this, but you're on
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: this high where like you want to do absolutely everything
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: with your boyfriend, and you know what I mean, It's like, oh,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: you know, there's a day goes by and you're not
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: with him. You're like, I miss him, like I wish
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I was with him, Like you literally want to do
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: everything with them, which I totally get. I was totally
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: on that high when I was with my husband, when
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I was in zach in the beginning of you know,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: high school, I felt like there was this high just
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: like wanting to do everything with him and like kind
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: of like shutting your friends out, which is obviously not
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: the point, right. You need to be able to love
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: your life without your husband in it as well, you
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like still being able to do
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: fun things with your friends, still being able to do
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: fun things with your sister, like going to concerts, having
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: girls' nights, going out for dinner together. Like you need
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: to love your life with your friends, with your family,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: and like obviously including your husband in certain things, but
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: also like not including your husband's and everything, and like
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: being able to do fun things with your girlfriends, having
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: that separate identity, like I want to make sure my
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: husband has fun with his guy friends, and like you
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: go golfing, you do that, Like I want you to
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: do that. Well, I want to go hang out with
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: my girlfriends, go out for dinner and chat for four
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: hours and like, yeah, have a fun girls' night. So
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: being able to have those separate parts of our life
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: is so important because it allows you to like look
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: forward to those things with your friends and be excited
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: about it and not having to feel like you need
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: to do everything with your partner. So it's so so
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: important to also do those solo dates of like falling
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: in love with yourself and like going on a coffee
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: date by yourself, Like it's important to fall in love
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: with yourself as well, and not just like your husband
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: or your boyfriend and your friends and your family, like
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: you also need.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: To love yourself too.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: So just making sure that you create an identity for
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: yourself that separates yourself from your husband or your boyfriend
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: and being able to do those things without them. Another
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: one is becoming financially independent. We talked a lot about
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: this in a previous episode. I think it was called
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: how to Become Hotter and Richer, and I really chatted
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: about financial situations and like how to make yourself feel
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: more richer and just like how to say your money
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: properly and invest in all that. So I really do
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: think there's something empowering about being financially independent and actually
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: being able to take care of yourself financially, like not
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: having to rely on anyone for money, Like, you know,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you really want to be able to have that financial
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: freedom of being able to like invest in those things
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: for yourself and not have to rely on someone else's money.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: So definitely take a peek at that episode if you haven't.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I personally loved recording that episode, and I feel like
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: it makes me feel really proud knowing how, you know,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I spent my money wisely throughout the years that I've
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: had a job. I feel like I was always very
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: smart with my money, and I think that's something special
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: and something really proud to do. And I've always been
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: very very smart with my money, and I think that's
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: really really important, And again, it makes you feel really
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: really good about yourself. When you're putting your money in
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: the right places and like you're saving and you're doing
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: the right things, you know what I mean, Or you're
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: not splurging your money on stupid things that you don't
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: think is necessary. So definitely, being financially independent, I feel
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: like makes me feel really good and I personally feel
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: like it's a huge component to falling in love with
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: your life. I feel like, if you're spending all your
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: money and you're not saving, like it's going to be
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: hard to fall in love with your life if you
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: can even afford to, like go get a coffee at
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: a coffee shop, you know what I mean. Like you
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: just don't want to make stupid decisions on money, because
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: money is truly something you need to be very smart
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: with and it makes a huge difference on how you
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: can use your money towards things like fun things to
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: do with your friends, trips, concerts, whatever the case may be,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: which kind of goes into the next one, which is
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: giving yourself something to look forward to. So book the trips,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: book the dinner dates, start the projects. Doing these things
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: creates excitement in your life and it creates something that
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: you look forward to. For example, me and my sister
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: were actually talking this past weekend and we brought up
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: how we've been wanting to go to Vermont in the
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: fall because Vermont is like very well known for their
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: fall aesthetic. So me and my sister were like, hey,
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: we've been talking about the for years, Like we just
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: need to like book the trip and do it, because
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: if we keep saying we're gonna book it, it's never
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: gonna happen if.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: We don't actually execute on it.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: So we're doing it, and I'm so excited for it,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: and again, it's something to look forward to, it's something
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: to do. But because like I was financially smart, I
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: was able to book the trip and spend the money
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: and do those fun things. So I think a lot
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: of these things kind of play a huge role and
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: like how you can execute other things to again enjoy
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: your life become obsessed with it. So all these little
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: tips really just kind of like intertwine into the same category,
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: if that makes sense. And I really do think, yeah,
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: just booking the fun things with your friends is what's
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: going to make you excited and look forward to the
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: little things and like wanting to do those fun things
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: in your life. And the last one is become the
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: woman your younger self dreamed of. So I saw this episode.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: It was a while back on TikTok. It was a
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Jay Shutty podcast episode, and I think it was with
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: Kendall Jenner, and Kendall was talking about how with her therapists,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: they were talking about her inner child work and like
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: how we see ourself and how to really love ourself.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: And she was talking about how her therapist told her
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: to find a picture of herself when she was younger
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: and to hang it on her bathroom mirror. That way,
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: when she woke up every single morning and she went
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: to the bathroom, she could see her younger self and
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: if she was ever thinking negatively about herself, she would
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: look at this picture of herself as a kid and think,
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: would my six year old self be proud of what
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: I said about myself? Like would she be proud of
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: the life that I've been building for myself these you know,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: past few years, Like almost like talking to her younger
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: self and like remembering, like why am I here? Like
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: why am I talking negative to myself? I should be
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: talking positive to myself because the negativity that you're saying
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: is to that little girl that you're seeing in the picture,
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I loved that they
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: talked about this in the podcast because I'm like it's
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: so true, Like I couldn't imagine like looking at a
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: younger picture of myself and like talking so negatively about
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: myself and then like looking at this like little kid
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: that's just like so happy and so excited to see
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: like what the future holds. And like also like would
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: she be proud of everything that I've done these past
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty years or twenty five years?
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: Like whoever old I am in this picture?
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: But I think it makes you realize, like how you
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: should be so proud of the woman that you've become,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: and like shift your mindset of like, oh no, like
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I am a confident individual, I am happy with who
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I am. Like it really like changed your perspective, It
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: changes your mindset and really just like allows you to
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: like look at your younger self and like realize like
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be saying those things at six years old,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Like I would be so happy with my life and
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: like so excited to like see what things are to come.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, I just thought it was like
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: such a special thing that they chatted about and Yeah,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think you'd ever want to
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: be mean to yourself. I think you alway just like
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: want to remove that negativity from your life and always
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: think about the positives about yourself because there's so much.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: To be grateful for.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: There's so much to be happy with, and every little
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: thing that you do you should see as like a blessing,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Because, like like I said
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: in like the previous episode, there's gonna be negative things
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: and there's gonna be lows in your life, but it's
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: always so important to try to see the positives in everything.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: And I know that's really hard to do, but we
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: should really be so grateful for the little things that
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: we do have because there are people out there that
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: would dream of that, you know what I mean. So
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: I think that's a really good way of like trying
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: to shift your perspective. Anyways, that's my take on like
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: how I personally think. I personally love my life and
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: like why I feel like I'm obsessed with like myself
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: and like things that like I do to make myself
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: feel good about myself every single day, whether it's romanticizing
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: the little things, you know, making sure that I'm dressing
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: for myself and not anybody else, making sure that like
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: I'm still loving myself and like doing those things for myself,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: like pippering myself by doing those appointments. And I don't know,
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: like there's so much that I've talked about throughout this
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: episode that I just like think really reflects how you
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: want your life to be and how to really fall
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: in love with it and be obsessed with it. And
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: I do think these tips are a really great thing
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: to look back on, especially when you feel like you're
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: losing your spark or losing your rut, Like go back
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: to these things and be like, Okay, I'm not doing
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: a morning routine anymore.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: I need to get back into that.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: And you know, working on that one thing already might
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: make you feel a little bit better about your life.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Right, So everything takes one step at a time.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, I thought this was a fun
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: episode to do and just something that I wanted to
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: share with you guys. So anyways, I love you guys.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Also much thank you guys for listening to another episode.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: If you're new, definitely make sure to follow at the
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Hawkrell Energy Instagram page. You can also follow me on Instagram, TikTok,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: and YouTube Kayleie Stewart. I'm probably gonna edit a YouTube
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: video hopefully tomorrow, and that will be up probably tomorrow too,
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: so make sure to stay tuned for that.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: But I'd love you guys also much.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Thank you guys for listening to another episode is but
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: to say watching another episode, But thank you guys so much,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: and I will see you guys in the next episode.