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The Real Mrs Happy Families (Happy Birthday Kylie!) · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: After all these years of doing the Happy Families podcast,
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  Speaker 1: something stands out to me more than anything. People will
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  Speaker 1: stop me in the street and I'll say, thanks. They say,
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  Speaker 1: love the podcast. Thanks for the things you do about
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  Speaker 1: screens or bedtime or teenagers or helping me to make
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  Speaker 1: my family happier. And then every single time they ask
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  Speaker 1: about Kylie. How's Kylie going? Tell Kylie we love her.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody appreciates the stuff that I say, but everybody loves you, Mrs.
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  Speaker 1: Happy Families.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a bit nervous. Where is this going?
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  Speaker 1: You are the reason that this podcast is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: People listen to this podcast for the parenting stuff, but
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  Speaker 1: they stay for you, which my poor ego struggles with,
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  Speaker 1: but I can handle it. I've made peace with that.
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  Speaker 1: Today on the podcast, we're going to celebrate Kylie because
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  Speaker 1: this week, I won't say which day and I won't
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  Speaker 1: say how old, but this week, it's Mrs. Happy Families. birthday?
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  Speaker 1: And I have a pile of questions she hasn't seen.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think any of them are about parenting either.
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  Speaker 1: And these are going to be answers that I can't control.
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  Speaker 1: There's about 20 years of material that I've been saving up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to enjoy this very, very much. Stay with us.
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  Speaker 1: We discover the real Mrs. Happy Families next.
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  Speaker 2: You're the worst.
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  Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to the Happy Families podcast, where you
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  Speaker 1: get real parenting solutions, Every single day. We are Justin
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  Speaker 1: and Kylie Coulson, the parents of six kids. It's birthday
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  Speaker 1: week for Mrs. Happy Families. You're sitting in your chair.
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  Speaker 1: You've gone bright red. You've got your arms crossed across
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  Speaker 1: your chest. I get the sense that you're not looking
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  Speaker 1: forward to today's podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I hate being put on the spot.
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  Speaker 1: It's going to be so much fun. I have a
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  Speaker 1: handful of.
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  Speaker 2: JR, I give you permission to use AI at any
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  Speaker 2: point in my questions. My answers don't work.
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  Speaker 1: There will be no AI in this podcast at all.
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  Speaker 1: I've got a couple of easy warm-ups for you, Kylie.
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  Speaker 1: I've got a couple of really, really heartfelt questions. I
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  Speaker 1: think some smart ones about parenting because people love your
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  Speaker 1: parenting insights even though I'm the one with a PhD
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  Speaker 1: in parenting. And then a lightning round as well. So,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if we're going to get through it all,
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  Speaker 1: but I can't wait to start. Let's go. As a child, Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: what was the thing that you got in trouble for most?
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  Speaker 2: I actually didn't get in trouble.
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  Speaker 1: You were so perfect.
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  Speaker 2: No, I might have just been a really sneaky kid.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you also blamed your sister for a lot
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  Speaker 1: of stuff as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I did.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. And your parents believed you because you were
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  Speaker 1: apparently such a great kid. Okay. That wasn't quite as
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  Speaker 1: fun as I thought it was going to be. I
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  Speaker 1: was looking for something really juicy straight out of the gate.
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  Speaker 1: What about this one? What food did you hate as
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  Speaker 1: a kid that you absolutely love now?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, well, that would be probably like almost most things.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't a very adventurous eater. When you and I
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  Speaker 2: got married, we would go out to eat and I
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  Speaker 2: would order lasagna or spaghetti bolognese.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. You did.
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  Speaker 2: I'd never tried sour cream. I hadn't eaten avocado. What else?
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  Speaker 1: What did your parents raise you on?
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  Speaker 2: Made in Three Veg.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, wow.
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  Speaker 2: It was mashed potato and green beans.
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  Speaker 1: I remember when we were first married, I used to
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  Speaker 1: ask for water and you would think I was weird.
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  Speaker 1: You were like, nobody drinks water. Water's disgusting. You actually
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  Speaker 1: didn't like water. You thought it was really, really gross.
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  Speaker 1: Although you did grow up in Brisbane and Brisbane's water
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  Speaker 1: back then wasn't that great. What's a job that you'd
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  Speaker 1: be terrible at?
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  Speaker 2: Anything with blood. We were talking about it at the
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  Speaker 2: dinner table the other night.
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  Speaker 1: Because our eldest daughter is trying to be midwife.
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  Speaker 2: And I said, do you remember when you shot your fingernail,
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  Speaker 2: like your finger in the door? We were on our
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  Speaker 2: way to school and she was about five. She was
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  Speaker 2: really young. And for whatever reason, she slammed to the
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  Speaker 2: door and her finger got caught, literally lifted pretty much
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  Speaker 2: the whole nail off the bed. And there was just
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  Speaker 2: blood everywhere. And I took one look at it and
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  Speaker 2: I said, go to Beth now. She was our neighbor
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  Speaker 2: two doors down and she just happened to be a midwife.
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  Speaker 1: Not that you need a midwife for a sore finger,
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  Speaker 1: but that's better than the mum who's about to faint.
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  Speaker 2: That's right. And so she raced down to Beth's. I
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  Speaker 2: was following, and Beth took one look at me, and
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  Speaker 2: she said, just take a seat.
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  Speaker 1: I've got two more easy warm-up questions for you. What's
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  Speaker 1: the best money you've ever spent?
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  Speaker 2: The best money I've ever spent? I think it was
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  Speaker 2: the $ 2 that I spent at a– I love this.
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  Speaker 1: $ 2?
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  Speaker 2: The $ 2 I spent at a garage sale where I
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  Speaker 2: was allowed to fill an entire garbage bag with every
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  Speaker 2: denim item I found on the table.
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  Speaker 1: I remember that.
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  Speaker 2: And I then turned that into a baby's quilt for
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  Speaker 2: my nephew. Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You sewed it, you chopped it all up, turned it
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  Speaker 1: into a patchwork quilt of some kind.
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  Speaker 2: And I used sort of belt loops so that they
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  Speaker 2: could attach the toys to the to the loops so
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  Speaker 2: that they wouldn't roll away.
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  Speaker 1: So creative. So creative.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: What's something small that makes you ridiculously happy?
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  Speaker 2: Can I cheat and say Indy? Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Indy is our three-year-old granddaughter and she makes you ridiculously
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  Speaker 1: happy and she's only three, so she's small. I love
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  Speaker 1: that answer.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get a little bit more. I mean, that's a
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  Speaker 1: really fun answer, but I want to get a bit
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  Speaker 1: more sort of heart focused now because this is why
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  Speaker 1: people love you so much. What's the last thing one
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  Speaker 1: of the children said that you wrote down or wanted
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  Speaker 1: to write down?
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  Speaker 2: It was the last Father's Day that we celebrated a
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  Speaker 2: few weeks back. Just sitting around the dinner table and
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  Speaker 2: listening to each of our girls sharing individually, but uniquely theirs,
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  Speaker 2: the recognition that the thing that they love about you
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  Speaker 2: the most was the way you love me. And in essence,
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  Speaker 2: the way you elevate me in every aspect of our lives. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I can't think of a greater gift that you as
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  Speaker 2: their dad could give them for them to recognize and see.
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  Speaker 2: a man who makes the woman he's chosen to spend
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  Speaker 2: his life with the most important thing in his world.
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  Speaker 1: Now that you've said that, I kind of don't want
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  Speaker 1: to ask any more questions because I feel like that's
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  Speaker 1: just such a valuable and beautiful thing to say and
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  Speaker 1: to have that recorded because our kids hopefully will get
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  Speaker 1: to listen to this podcast episode. That's really meaningful. Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: which of our children is most like you? I want
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  Speaker 1: you to say it. I want it on the record.
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  Speaker 2: I can't believe you're doing this to me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying who's better or who's worse. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: asking you to pick favorites. I'm just saying who's like you.
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  Speaker 2: I think Abby is.
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  Speaker 1: Our second daughter.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: When I look at her, I see a girl who's
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  Speaker 2: beginning to see who she is and understand the goodness
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  Speaker 2: in her heart, but she has spent a lot of
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  Speaker 2: her kind of growing years doubting her capacity and I
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  Speaker 2: guess her worth. And it really resonates with me as
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  Speaker 2: a young girl and into young motherhood, doubting. And that's
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  Speaker 2: the thing that stands out to me the most.
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  Speaker 1: People say that our children look like me a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I don't see it. But more than anything, I think
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  Speaker 1: that they are all so much like you. They embody
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  Speaker 1: so many of your wonderful characteristics. So I would have
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  Speaker 1: been really stuck trying to answer that question. But now
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  Speaker 1: that you've said that, I can definitely see that. Kylie,
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  Speaker 1: when's the last time that you felt properly proud of yourself?
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  Speaker 2: Right now. I don't think I've ever been more proud
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  Speaker 2: of myself. At the beginning of the year, I set
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  Speaker 2: a goal to lose 20 kilos. And I talked to
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  Speaker 2: my PT about it. I talked to a nutritionist about it.
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  Speaker 2: I even talked to my doctor about it and asked
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  Speaker 2: them whether or not they thought it was a realistic goal.
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  Speaker 2: They all pretty much poo-pooed me and said, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: They were not very positive about my prospects of being
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  Speaker 2: able to do it. And the further along this path
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  Speaker 2: I've taken, I now recognize and understand why they felt
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  Speaker 2: the way they did. It's not because it's not possible.
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  Speaker 2: It's because the average person just doesn't stick at it
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  Speaker 2: long enough.
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  Speaker 1: It's because it's really hard.
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  Speaker 2: Because it is. It's really hard. But even that's not
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  Speaker 2: what I'm most proud about. As I've gone through this process,
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  Speaker 2: I've had weeks where I've lost myself. lost weight, I've
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  Speaker 2: had weeks where I've put on weight. I've had weeks
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  Speaker 2: where it's felt hopeless and I've wondered why I'm doing this.
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  Speaker 2: But as I have progressed through it, I've got to
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  Speaker 2: a point where I have recognized that I'm really glad
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  Speaker 2: that I set the goal, but it actually doesn't matter
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  Speaker 2: if I achieve the number. What matters is that I'm
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  Speaker 2: working towards it. And I would rather be 10 kilos
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  Speaker 2: lighter at the end of the year and not reach
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  Speaker 2: my goal of 20 kilos than to be sitting where
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  Speaker 2: I was at the beginning of the year without any
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  Speaker 2: hope or a desire to make the changes necessary. That's
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  Speaker 2: what I'm proud of.
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  Speaker 1: It's interesting as well how many people, when they see
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  Speaker 1: you after not seeing you for a while, they've said,
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  Speaker 1: oh my goodness, you look great. And pretty much everyone's like,
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  Speaker 1: what are you taking? Is this as empty as this
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  Speaker 1: will go? Which GLP-1 drug are you on? And it's
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  Speaker 1: been really, really gratifying, actually, to be able to say,
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing it the hard way. And it feels good.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so, so impressed with what you're doing. Hey, coming
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  Speaker 1: up after the break, I've got some cheeky questions for you.
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  Speaker 1: We've got a lightning round. And one or two more
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  Speaker 1: really heartfelt questions as we celebrate your birthday this week.
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  Speaker 2: We're back.
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  Speaker 1: This is the Happy Families podcast. Okay, Mrs. Happy Families,
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  Speaker 1: let's do a lightning round. What is your most used emoji?
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  Speaker 2: A love heart.
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  Speaker 1: What is the song that you turn up every time
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  Speaker 1: you get to hear it?
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  Speaker 2: Just about all of them.
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  Speaker 1: You do love turning up your music. Do you not
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  Speaker 1: have a single one?
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  Speaker 2: When I'm running, it's Eye of the Tiger.
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  Speaker 1: Really? Yeah. Really? Yeah. That is so funny. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: even know that. Who was your teenage celebrity crush?
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  Speaker 2: I didn't really have one.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, no. Your parents really stayed away from any pop media,
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  Speaker 1: mainstream media, didn't they?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: There was an actor called Edward Furlong in Terminator.
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  Speaker 1: Eddie Furlong.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Things didn't work out so well for him.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: No. Good thing you ended up with me.
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  Speaker 2: But one of my friends liked him. And so I
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  Speaker 2: got to see lots of pictures of him.
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  Speaker 1: And so because your friend liked him, you were supposed
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  Speaker 1: to like him? Yeah. Yeah, okay. What's a household job
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  Speaker 1: that you secretly enjoy?
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  Speaker 2: It's actually the laundry. Yeah, right.
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  Speaker 1: And why is that?
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  Speaker 2: It's just brain numbing. You actually don't have to think
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  Speaker 2: about anything while you're doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Favorite thing to order in a cafe?
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  Speaker 2: A chai latte.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. Weirdest thing that you're competitive about? You are very competitive.
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  Speaker 2: Weirdest thing?
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  Speaker 1: Well, just something you're competitive. I was going to say something,
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  Speaker 1: but then I went for weirdest because you're competitive in
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  Speaker 1: almost everything. I can't believe you said that. Oh, you
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  Speaker 1: are so competitive.
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  Speaker 2: What am I competitive in?
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what it is. You've got to be better, faster, whatever,
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  Speaker 1: than everyone. You get really sour grapes if you're not winning.
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  Speaker 1: You're very competitive.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe you're saying that about me. If we're
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  Speaker 1: playing board games or card games, you cheat to win.
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  Speaker 1: I do not. Oh, my goodness. I can't believe that
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  Speaker 1: you're saying that you don't cheat. You taught our children
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  Speaker 1: to cheat. They're all being cheats because you cheat.
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  Speaker 2: I can't believe you're saying this.
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  Speaker 1: You know one of the reasons that I don't like
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  Speaker 1: playing board games and card games is because I can't
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  Speaker 1: beat you because you always cheat because you get so competitive.
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  Speaker 2: How do I cheat?
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  Speaker 1: You take too many cards. You pick cards up and
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  Speaker 1: put them down if you don't like them. You move
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  Speaker 1: spaces along the board beyond what you're supposed to.
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  Speaker 2: I don't play board games, so I don't know what
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  Speaker 2: you're talking about.
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  Speaker 1: So you don't go down the snake. I thought this
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  Speaker 1: was supposed to.
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  Speaker 2: Be a nice podcast. I can't believe you're saying these
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  Speaker 2: things about me.
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  Speaker 1: It's supposed to be a lightning round as well. What
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  Speaker 1: would the kids say your catchphrase is?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Really? What would they say my catchphrase is?
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  Speaker 2: Go to bed.
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  Speaker 1: You're so funny.
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  Speaker 2: Turn the TV off.
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  Speaker 1: Get off that screen. And my last one, what do
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  Speaker 1: I say on this podcast that makes you want to
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  Speaker 1: reach over and mute me?
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  Speaker 2: That I cheat? Right.
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  Speaker 1: Of course.
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  Speaker 2: I'm still reeling.
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  Speaker 1: I'm curious.
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  Speaker 2: Just because I'm better than you doesn't mean that I
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  Speaker 2: have to cheat to get there.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, there's that competitive streak coming out right there. We
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  Speaker 1: were married at 22 and 19. I was 22, you
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  Speaker 1: were 19. So let's go back to then. What's something
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  Speaker 1: that I do? that you just found so wonderful and
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  Speaker 1: charming and delightful back then, and now you find it
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  Speaker 1: quite deeply annoying?
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  Speaker 2: When we first met, you used to ask me lots
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  Speaker 2: and lots of questions. We called it hypotheticals. You'd ask me.
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  Speaker 1: What would you do if....
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  Speaker 2: Well, we're now dealing with those hypotheticals in real life.
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  Speaker 2: And what I used to really enjoy... was the conversations
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  Speaker 2: around what we might do. I don't enjoy the conversations
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  Speaker 2: about what we're going to do anymore. It's much harder
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  Speaker 2: than it was before.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, fair enough. Hey, we need to wrap this up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so excited it's your birthday this week and really
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  Speaker 1: excited to be able to celebrate with you and spend
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  Speaker 1: this great time with you. I just have one last
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  Speaker 1: question that I think is, well, hopefully a really meaningful
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  Speaker 1: and valuable question. So much of parenting is about thinking
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  Speaker 1: about the future and raising these kids so that they
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  Speaker 1: can become awesome kids. And one of the things that
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  Speaker 1: I love about the way you raise our children is
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  Speaker 1: that it's never really about you. It's always about the
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  Speaker 1: kids and them being the best version of themselves that
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  Speaker 1: they can be. My question for you is this. What
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  Speaker 1: do you hope that our children will say about you
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  Speaker 1: when they're 40 years old or 50 years old, when
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  Speaker 1: they're around about the age that you are now?
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  Speaker 2: That's really tough. I think that if my children can
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  Speaker 2: look back at their experiences with me as a mum
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  Speaker 2: throughout their early childhood and to their teenagehood and then
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  Speaker 2: into adulthood with an element of grace and recognise that
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  Speaker 2: while I wasn't perfect, my heart was pure and my
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  Speaker 2: desire to bless them with goodness was evident, that would
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  Speaker 2: feel like something to treasure.
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  Speaker 1: Well, people love you on this podcast. People love you
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  Speaker 1: in this house. And after this episode, my suspicion is
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  Speaker 1: that they will love you even more because you are
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  Speaker 1: so dignified and so graceful and so wonderful.
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  Speaker 2: Mrs.
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  Speaker 1: Happy Families, happy birthday this week. Thank you. And I
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  Speaker 1: can't wait to podcast with you all week long and
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  Speaker 1: talk about all the great stuff that we've got coming up.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. We hope that you've
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed today's episode. The Happy Families podcast, sound and audio engineering,
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  Speaker 1: is by the wonderful Justin Roulon from Bridge Media. We
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  Speaker 1: have additional support from Mim Hammonds. She's Kylie, Kylie Coulson.
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  Speaker 1: We just think the world of her. Thank you again
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  Speaker 1: for being along for this journey, and we'll talk to
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  Speaker 1: you tomorrow.