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Season 2 - Episode 161 - What’s the most common question I get asked? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We have new eggs hatching inside, very exciting day.
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  So what do you think the most common question I get asked as a
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  coach would be Those people, you know, think about coaching and
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  they think well, it's, you know, you come in and you do certain
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  things and, you know, I have goals and you're going to help
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  me achieve my goals. But out of all of this, there's
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  lots of other things that happen and we deal with lots of types
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  of directions in coaching sessions.
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  But the most common question that comes up is, well, how do I
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  stop doing that? How do I get out of my own way?
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  You know, that, in that framework of it.
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  How do I stop having those thoughts?
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  How do I stop having those? Habits, how do I stop myself?
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  Is really what it comes down to the most common questions and
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  the very first thing everybody wants to know in that in that
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  framework is what I want to be able to do it right away.
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  And the very first thing I have to tell them is this is a
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  process healthy thinking is a process healthy thinking is a
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  habit. It's a habit.
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  You regularly have to cultivate you have to think of this like
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  Brushing your teeth. You have to think of this like
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  working out, you have to think of this like eating and going to
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  the bathroom. It's all part of the same scope.
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  You go to the gym, you don't go in and lift weight once and hope
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  it works. You go in and you have to do it
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  every day. You know, I had this intense
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  desire years ago to get my body into a really great rhythm of
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  being like, long endurance for walking whatever it is, lowering
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  my blood pressure, walking lower, Everything and I had to
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  walk more than 4,000 5,000 steps a day.
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  And now regularly I walk between twenty and twenty seven thousand
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  steps a day. Yes you heard that right between
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  twenty and twenty seven thousand steps a day.
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  So when I will tell people that I monitor that and have a Fitbit
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  on everything else and they try it, they're like, oh my God,
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  that's so much. Well of course it is because
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  you're trying it from zero and I'm doing it from work.
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  On my way to that point out of habit and it's the same thing
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  with mindset. It's the same thing with
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  understanding this procedure of well, how do I stop doing that?
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  And the very first thing that you have to recognize is owning
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  the problem. The first step in it is owning
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  the problem I do this and I don't like it and acknowledging
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  not making excuses for. It doesn't matter why we do the
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  things we do. We have to say, I don't want to
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  do this. The more I don't like it and
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  maybe you like the habit of whatever it is that you're
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  doing, but you don't like the result it comes with.
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  And that is my friends, the motivator right there.
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  If the say, if I don't like this, then I've got to do
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  something about it. I've got to change my habit with
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  it and we all myself included throughout your life.
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  You will have things that are good and then you will have
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  things that go awry. You'll have things that work.
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  You'll have other habits that show up.
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  You'll get rid of something. Something else will come up.
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  And that's just part of the human condition because we are
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  all wired to constantly grow and solve problems.
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  Human beings are problem solvers.
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  Yes, we are problem creators. And we are problem solvers.
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  So, that's what makes our brains light up and have us be on fire.
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  That's what makes us be the creative, you know, force that
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  we are to be reckoned with and accepting that is huge being
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  aware of it is huge and then Into yourself.
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  Well, you know what? I don't like this.
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  I don't like this about myself and I want to change it.
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  You know, there's a power in, not liking everything about
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  yourself. And I know in today's world and
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  environment and the ecosystem that we are currently living in,
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  that isn't always politically correct to say but there's power
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  in it. There's power in, not liking
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  something. If you don't like the fact that
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  you don't feel good when you can't get up and you can't do
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  certain things, do something about it.
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  It if you don't like the fact that you don't feel like you're
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  putting in enough time for yourself, then do something
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  about it. If you don't like the fact that
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  you're too habitually used to having a two glasses of wine,
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  every single night and you know that, even if you're working out
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  during the day, that's taking away.
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  All your Forward Motion, all your forward momentum, is being
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  taken away by the fact that the two glasses of wine can undo a
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  ton of exercise. So, You are the only one that
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  can change it and do something about it.
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  And the very first part of it is in that equation when someone
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  says, well I don't know how to stop.
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  The first thing is acknowledge that you don't like it and when
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  you take on that acknowledgement, then the other
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  piece is starting to play. I don't like that about myself,
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  okay. I'm going to do something about
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  it. What's the next thing that I can
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  possibly do? Well, the next thing is to
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  recognize, you're going to have to course-correct a lot and I
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  mean a lot. Not because it is again,
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  interrupting, a pattern. So you have to repeatedly.
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  Stop yourself. When you have bitch, ually grab
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  the bottle of wine. When you see yourself sitting
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  there, and you haven't gotten up from the desk for a long time,
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  you have to be the one that says, okay, I'm going to put a
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  net around myself. I'm going to call myself out.
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  I'm going to push myself to do something different set.
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  Timers on your phone, leave. Sticky notes for yourself, hang
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  clothes on your refrigerator. If you're trying to get to a
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  healthy. The weight.
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  And you know, you've got a pair of jeans, you want to fit in,
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  I'm not joking. Hang them on your refrigerator,
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  put them where you can see them, make yourself.
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  Try them on every morning. I did that when I couldn't fit
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  into the clothes that I loved anymore after living here for a
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  while and eating so much delicious food.
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  Yes, what? I put every day before, I got
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  dressed, I would try the shorts on every single day to remind my
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  ass that I needed to make sure I kept moving it.
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  So you have to make decisions. It's incremental decisions and
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  incremental course Corrections are.
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  What absolutely without doubt, move you forward?
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  And if you're committed to that process you can get somewhere.
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  So I hope that this was helpful. I hope this wakes you up and
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  gets you moving and I hope you realize that your question of
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  the, you know, how do I stop it? Is just like everybody else and
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  everybody else is working on it, too.
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  All right, my friends. I hope you have a blessed day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.