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July 19 – Letting Go of False Pride · The Daily Ripples Podcast

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  Hey guys, this is the Daily Ripples, this is Corey, and today is July 19th.
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  Letting go of false pride.
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  The stone.
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  False pride keeps me from receiving the help I need.
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  Ripple unpractical.
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  Today I'll stay open to the guidance from others.
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  I will not assume I already know what I need to know.
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  I will listen, especially to those who have walked the path longer than I have,
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  and allow their experience to shape my choices. Ripple 2 Spiritual. The Father places people in
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  my life to guide and strengthen me. Jesus shows me a life that is open, teachable, and dependent
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  on God. The Holy Spirit works through others to challenge my thinking and lead me towards truth.
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  As I release false pride, I become more willing to receive direction and grow in faith.
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  And when I was reading this, I was, false pride keeps me from receiving the help I need.
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  My son, he's funny, he, you know, he'll, he wants to do all these different sports and like, you know,
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  so we started doing baseball, but like when he started in baseball, you know, we were talking to him
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  and, you know, he was probably talking to his coaches the same way,
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  you know, and they would tell him stuff and he'd be like, I know.
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  I know.
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  And, you know, it was funny because, you know, the first thing,
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  like he didn't want to be in the outfield on first base, second base,
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  third base.
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  He wanted to be the pitcher.
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  But he didn't know how to be the pitcher.
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  But, you know, when people would give him advice,
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  and, you know, I can talk about him because I see me in him more than ever.
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  When people would try to give him advice, he didn't want to listen to it.
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  He wanted to say, I know.
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  And when I talked to him, you know, about things he has no idea what I'm talking about, he immediately says, I know.
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  And maybe that's kind of like false pride.
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  It's kind of like I already know something that I don't know.
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  And the 12 and 12, it kind of speaks on this.
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  It says, on page 57, it says,
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  there was always that mysterious barrier
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  we could neither surmount nor understand.
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  It was as if we were actors on a stage,
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  subtly realizing that we did not know a single line of our part.
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  And so, you know, I come into this and I,
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  you know, at different times I've done things,
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  and, you know, before I do them,
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  I want you to think that I know what I'm doing before I ever do it the first time.
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  I remember when my significant other, you know, when she had her daughter,
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  she was like, I don't know what I'm doing.
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  This is like, you know, the first time being a mom.
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  And I was thinking, you know, and I'm like, you know, I get it.
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  You know, I mean, I was watching this and I was like, man, you know,
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  you know, but I've said something I probably shouldn't have because, you know,
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  she did take it the way I was trying to proceed to go about it.
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  But I said, you know, everybody's first time having a kid is everybody's first time having a kid.
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  That didn't make it any better, though, than the time.
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  I mean, I think, you know, it's kind of the whole thing of me keeping my mouth shut because, you know, that's probably the best place for me anyways.
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  But I think, you know, when it talks about this on page 73 of the big book, it talks about the more than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life.
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  He is very much the actor.
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  To the outer world, he presents his stage character.
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  And man, do I have, I mean, I think I have less than I did,
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  but I mean, I still have some stage characters, right?
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  You know, I got the spiritual Corey.
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  I got the work Corey.
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  I got the dad Corey.
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  I got the Corey that, like, you know,
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  I come off sometimes as this person that used to be bad guy,
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  whatever, and, but, you know,
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  I don't think I'm running as many.
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  I think that's the whole point, you know, right?
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  I'm not running all these different people that I'm trying to be willing with you.
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  That's what I'm trying to do.
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  You know, my ego tells me you're different than me and I'm different than you and all these
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  different ways.
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  And I can pick out from your job to your income, to your, where you live, to, do you have a,
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  do you have a significant other or not?
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  So like, when you tell me things, I'm taking all these things into consideration of what
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  you're telling me to do because maybe I don't think you, you know what I'm going through.
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  And that's been my whole problem. And my buddy, um, my buddy, he told me, or he told me and he
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  tells other people, he's like, you wouldn't know if help was right here in front of your face.
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  And this dude works at a treatment center because these people don't think he's here to help people.
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  You know, and I, you know, I look back on my life and, you know, all these people have been trying to help me in all the different ways.
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  You know, I was talking to someone the other day and I was like, man, you know, they threw the, they threw the book at me.
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  And the book is they've tried everything.
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  And man, the program I'm in, the recovery rooms I'm in, and that is the only thing thus far that's worked for me.
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  But going back to this actor thing, right, you know, and this false pride.
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  When I come into that, like I think about what, you know, part of doing this, doing the work, doing the fifth step, what happens, right?
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  Because on page 75, it tells me this.
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  It says, we pocket our pride and go into it, illuminating every twist of character, every dark cranny of the past.
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  So that tells me I'm about to get all this stuff out and bring my pride down.
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  And that was a big deal for me, right?
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  Because like when I went and did my first fifth step and told another man some of the things that I thought would make me less man.
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  But that's crazy because I have this vision of what a real man is.
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  And I don't even know how to be that real man of that person because I'm not that person.
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  And you're not me.
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  And that's the cool thing that makes us human.
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  It says once we have taken this step withholding nothing.
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  You know, the nothing thing I have highlighted, we are delighted.
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  We can look at the world in the eye because, you know, the way I've been looking at the
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  world is either down below you or up above you.
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  I've never been eye to eye with you because I didn't think we were just alike because I
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  found out different ways that you were different from me because you had two fathers, two moms.
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  I had this and, you know, I was the only child.
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  I was adopted.
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  You don't understand what I'm going through.
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  But the cool thing about the program I'm in, the recovery rooms I'm in, there's one thing that holds us all together.
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  That everybody in that thing has a common problem.
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  And that common problem comes with the same stuff, the same problems, the same hurting of other people, the same ways I did this and this.
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  It's just a little bit different.
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  And a little bit different atmospheres, right?
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  And that's cool because you come in there and, you know, that was the most, the moment, the first time I did this fifth step, I sat in a meeting amongst peers of people that were just like me.
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  And, you know, it was the most freeing thing.
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  And then I went to the grocery store and looked amongst people.
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  Because, man, I think, you know, at some sort of one way or the other, we all have a spiritual malady.
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  Everybody, nobody's perfect.
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  And I just don't like your symptoms, right?
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  Because that's what I come into a lot of things, right?
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  You know, you do something to me, but I didn't do that to you.
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  You know, maybe I did it to somebody else in just a little bit different degree,
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  but, you know, I didn't do that, what you did to me.
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  How could you?
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  But look at everything else I've done in my life to other people.
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  And that makes me sit down a little bit, right?
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  It makes me come to one.
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  Then it goes, we can be alone at perfect peace and ease.
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  Our fears fall from us.
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  Why are my fears falling from me?
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  Well, probably because I'm not scared of what you think I am anymore
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  because you know who I am.
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  And I'm not running for what I did before.
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  I'm one with that.
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  And that's just with one person, right?
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  This step is me just telling one person all this.
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  Oh, and we begin to feel the nearness of our creator.
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  And I think that's important, that line right there, because it skips down to the next paragraph.
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  And it says, we thank God from the bottom of our heart that we know him better.
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  If I'm feeling near to my creator, why do I know him better?
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  Because truth.
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  Because truth, and I've got some of these things, I'm blocked from him too.
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  Because it says in the book as well, it says, we found a great reality deep down within.
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  So that tells me God's deep down within, and I'm trying to get all this stuff out to be
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  closer to this God that's deep down within me.
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  He's not out here in this book, in this place over here, at this building over here.
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  He's deep down within me.
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  I thought that was the most important thing that when I read that and I understood what
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  that meant because I've been looking everywhere.
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  And on top of that, I've been looking in the bottle.
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  I've been looking in the bags for all, you know, and women and job and all these things.
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  And, you know, to find this power that's deep down within, what a cool deal because I've been looking all in the wrong place.
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  And it says we may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to find out how to have a spiritual experience.
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  Then it goes on to saying the feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly.
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  And that's why I came into the program I'm in to have that problem be removed.
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  and to me in my life it has been removed it doesn't exist
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  I don't think about it anymore and that's a promise you know it is a promise of this
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  of this word um and you know so we might go for a little bit longer um but those you know so it
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  says today I'll stay open to guidance from others um and I when I read that you know I come to this
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  place of like, you know, I think about my sponsor, I think about sponsorship, helping
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  people.
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  In the, on page 101, I'm working with others.
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  It says, in our belief, any scheme of combating alcoholism, which proposes to shield the sick
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  man from temptation is doomed to failure.
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  Those are two big words, right?
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  Doomed to failure.
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  So, and what it's kind of talking about is like, you know, if I'm hiding alcohol from somebody that's, you know, just stopped drinking because how can I hide that?
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  You know, in reality, you know, am I going to keep them from the gas stations, from driving down the street, from the grocery stores to the liquor stores?
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  Can I keep them from seeing any of that?
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  No.
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  And right above that, you know, it says his only chance for sobriety would be at some place like the Greenland ice cap.
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  So, but in a more like deeper way to look at that to me and I do better at it today, you know, because man, when people have problems, I want to tell them, you know, immediately what my experience was because I want to keep them out of that problem.
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  Well, that didn't work too well for me growing up.
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  You know, my parents said, I remember specifically, you know, there's a big hill close to my house.
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  And this big hill, me and my dad went over there and I was very young.
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  And, you know, he said, hey, don't go down that hill.
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  And the first thing I did was I went down that hill when he turned around.
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  And so he couldn't get me before I was already halfway down this huge hill.
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  So when I take an adult and I say, don't go down this way, maybe they do it, maybe they don't.
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  I kind of think about how people I hear in these different rooms and these places say, don't date within the first year.
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  Usually the people saying that also have a significant other, or they're in this different place.
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  But I think it's interesting to think, you know, how many people really did that?
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  Because, you know, when I think, when I read this literature, it says on page seven, or it says, page 69, that's an interesting, you know, word, page number.
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  It says, we want to stay, and it's talking about, you know, sex.
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  It's really, man, it's about personal relationships with another sex.
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  It doesn't have to be with the actual act, you know, the activity of it.
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  It says, we want to stay out of this controversy.
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  We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone's sex conduct.
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  We all have sex problems.
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  We'd hardly be human if we didn't.
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  So, like, you know, I talked to a bunch of guys and, you know, they asked me what I think and I tell them, go for it.
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  Like, who am I?
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  I have a significant other.
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  I get to see every night.
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  I get to go to bed with her every night.
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  Who am I to tell someone how to live their life?
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  And I can't hide them from these different things.
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  I mean, I have some fears, you know, but I'm learning more and more to keep my mouth shut
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  and let them go through what they're going to go through.
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  Because I remember hearing this guy say, you know, it's hard to tell somebody exactly what
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  to do.
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  But if you give them a little bit of like, and they're able to come to this conclusion by themselves, then they might, you know, there's a chance.
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  And like my job as a guy that sponsors guys, I can tell them my experience, but I think it's better sometimes.
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  Not all the time I'm going to give them my experience because they're going to have to go through it.
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  But my main job is to take them through this literature a page at a time.
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  When it says write, we write.
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  When it says pray, we pray.
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  When it says talk, we talk.
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  When it says make amends, we make amends.
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  When it says help others, working with others in different ways, we do that too.
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  And I'm able to guide them on different things that I've done with dudes.
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  And that's the cool thing.
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  That's really the best, the coolest conversations.
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  And the coolest conversations are this, is when my sponsor has told me different things
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  of suggestions of maybe do this, maybe do this.
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  You know, the one hard suggestion my sponsor has made to me
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  was, Corey, get a job in the field that you were working in before
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  rather than go here because you feel safe.
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  That's kind of like combating, you know, me from the real world.
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  Because, you know, if I'm in an institution, you know,
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  that's like a break from society, right?
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  And like, if I don't go out there and actually live in society, I'm just going to be like,
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  you know, kind of shielding from actual, the real world.
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  I was talking to a guy the other night, he was like, what do you think about this?
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  And I said, man, get out there.
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  Get out there.
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  Let's just go see what happens, right?
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  Because to me, an institution is used for one thing, and that is the removal of alcohol
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  from the physical factor.
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  Life is still going to happen.
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  It is.
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  And, you know, so, you know, on the sponsorship thing,
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  my job is to show somebody this work, this literature,
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  and how I, you know, and through that, you know,
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  hopefully they find the same stuff I did.
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  And, you know, because it says on page 100,
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  it says both you and the new man must walk day by day
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  in the path of spiritual progress.
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  I got to do it too.
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  Man, I'm sorry.
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  I kind of ranted for a little while.
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  the Father, it says in the spiritual, the Father places people in my life to guide and strengthen
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  me, and He always has. You know, what's cool about this whole deal is how I can look back and
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  just see how God worked, and it can be nothing but God, because, I mean, there's no way it could
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  have worked any way else. Just the people He put in my life at every single step of this deal
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  is unbelievable, but I couldn't see that in the moment, right?
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  Because I can't see until I can see.
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  But anyways, I think that's enough for the day,
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  and I'm sure y'all are tired of hearing me.
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  But hey, if y'all have any questions about this literature
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  or want to talk about it, it'd be really cool.
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  I'm always open to talk about the work, the literature.
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  If you have any comments on how we can do better,
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  Yeah, email us or some of y'all have our phone numbers too.
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  I'm not going to put that out because that'd be crazy.
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  But anyways, thank you guys for listening.
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  Thank you, Pastor Mario, for editing these always.
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  And it's really cool to be a part of this.
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  I'm really grateful for you and our friendship as well.
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  Prayer.
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  Father, help me let go of false pride today.
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  Through your Holy Spirit, make me open to the guidance you provide through others.
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  Shape my heart through the example of Jesus and lead me into a life of trust, growth, and compassion.
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  Amen.