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My best friend REFUSED to celebrate my biggest achievement, and mocked it instead! | Reddit Stories | EP3082 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Carly. And this is Angie, your favorite
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  Speaker 1: OK Storytime hosts. And we've got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show running. My best friend
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  Speaker 1: refused to celebrate my biggest achievement and mocked it instead.
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  Speaker 2: I'm really going to reserve my judgment until I hear
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  Speaker 2: the achievement.
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  Speaker 1: So me, 23 female, and my bestie, 23 male, have
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  Speaker 1: been besties for the past 10 years. Every single hardship, achievement,
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  Speaker 1: life experience, like literally everything, we have always shared and
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  Speaker 1: supported each other. Earlier this year, I finally got on
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  Speaker 1: the property ladder and bought an apartment with my long-term
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend of five years, 27 male.
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  Speaker 2: What's a property ladder?
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  Speaker 3: Just a ladder.
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  Speaker 1: Just a ladder.
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  Speaker 3: It's like chutes and ladders.
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  Speaker 2: A ladder someone owns?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, someone owns.
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  Speaker 2: The property ladder.
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  Speaker 1: You get on the property ladder, and then if you
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  Speaker 1: get to the next rung, you get a house.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I finally was able to escape my high stress and
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  Speaker 1: kind of toxic family dynamic, and I have never felt
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  Speaker 1: more free. My boyfriend and I take so much pride
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  Speaker 1: in our home. We keep it absolutely immaculate and deep
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  Speaker 1: clean every three weeks. We fill the place with fresh
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  Speaker 1: flowers and plants, and even though we don't have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of money, we decorated it slowly and put our
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  Speaker 1: souls into it. Because I've moved slightly out of the city...
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  Speaker 1: When my bestie came over, he stayed for the whole weekend,
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  Speaker 1: arriving Saturday and leaving Sunday evening. I was so excited
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  Speaker 1: to show him my small town that I've grown to
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  Speaker 1: love and to celebrate this massive life achievement. I collected
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  Speaker 1: him from the station and made him lunch as soon
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  Speaker 1: as he came through the door. I made him up
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  Speaker 1: a nice bed in the spare room and planned a
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  Speaker 1: whole weekend of fun stuff. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 2: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 1: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
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  Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 1: And Opie says. The first day, he kept making sarcastic
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  Speaker 1: comments about the area I live in, saying that it
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  Speaker 1: was stuck in the 70s, that the roads were outdated.
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  Speaker 1: And that there was nothing to do.
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  Speaker 2: Well, sounds like a nice, quiet town to live in.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry, OP's supposed to what? Do what? Is OP the mayor?
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  Speaker 1: What do you want OP to do about that?
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  Speaker 3: Sounds sick to me, because that 70s show. That 70s show.
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  Speaker 2: One of the greatest shows of all time. And I
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  Speaker 2: will now say, now that I know your achievement is
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  Speaker 2: moving into an apartment, yeah, that friend sucks. And he's
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  Speaker 2: probably jealous.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, I don't want to know, please.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's called Projections.
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  Speaker 1: I let it slide and just explained that it's a
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  Speaker 1: slower way of life than the city. He also kept
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  Speaker 1: complaining that he had to pay so much money for
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  Speaker 1: a train ticket to come and see me. I let
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  Speaker 1: it slide again and kept going. We got home from
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  Speaker 1: a day of exploring and I made all three of
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  Speaker 1: us dinner. I expected us to all have conversations and
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  Speaker 1: socialize while I was cooking, but he went and stayed
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  Speaker 1: in the spare room while I cooked. He didn't say anything,
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  Speaker 1: he just left. I had to call him out when
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  Speaker 1: dinner was ready and it was really awkward. Dinner was
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  Speaker 1: a whole spread that I made with love, as cooking
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  Speaker 1: is my favorite hobby. He proceeded to sarcastically rate my
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  Speaker 1: meal a 6 out of 10. Okay. Then don't eat it.
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  Speaker 2: I like the Katie Powell's theory. I bet you that
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  Speaker 2: friend wanted to be the boyfriend. Yeah. He wanted it
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  Speaker 2: to be him and O.P.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking. We then put on a
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  Speaker 1: movie and ate some ice cream. Conversation was going good
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  Speaker 1: until he randomly got up and said, I'm out of
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  Speaker 1: your bed. It was weird and it made me and
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend feel a bit awkward. I don't know where
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  Speaker 1: you and your boyfriend may be cuddling. And he looks
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  Speaker 1: over and he goes, I'm going to bed.
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  Speaker 2: It should have been me.
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  Speaker 3: It should have been me.
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  Speaker 2: How exactly did he say it?
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  Speaker 1: On the Sunday, I woke up early at around 7.45 a.m.
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  Speaker 1: to do my meal prep for the next week and
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  Speaker 1: did so very quietly so I didn't wake my guest up.
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend woke up around 9 a.m. and joined me
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  Speaker 1: in the living room to have breakfast. My bestie proceeded
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  Speaker 1: to come out of the spare room at 11 a.m.,
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  Speaker 1: even though he knew I had a whole day planned
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  Speaker 1: for us and that shops in my town close early
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  Speaker 1: on Sundays. I let it slide, got him breakfast, and
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  Speaker 1: once I got dressed, we went on with our day.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I will say if there was no plan
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  Speaker 2: to leave at a specific time and you didn't say,
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  Speaker 2: all right, well, we're going to head out to the
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  Speaker 2: shops at like so-and-so time tomorrow. There's nothing really to
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  Speaker 2: let slide because nothing was said.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you got to set those expectations. Otherwise, you're just annoyed,
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  Speaker 1: but he doesn't know.
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  Speaker 3: OP, are we at the playground? Because you're letting it
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  Speaker 3: slide way too much.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she keeps going, I'll let it slide. We need
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  Speaker 1: the electric slide. The plans were nice and we were
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  Speaker 1: just chatting and exploring. I thought things were great. It
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  Speaker 1: got to about 4.30 p.m. and he told me his
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  Speaker 1: train was to leave at 5 p.m. and asked if
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  Speaker 1: I was taking him to the station. I said, of course,
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  Speaker 1: but I was a bit confused, as when he previously
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  Speaker 1: spoke about coming down, he said his train home was
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  Speaker 1: for 7 p.m. I let it slide. Opie loves to
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  Speaker 1: do that. And we said our goodbyes at around 5 p.m.
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  Speaker 1: Shortly after, I sent him a message saying that it
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  Speaker 1: was lovely to see him after so many months and
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  Speaker 1: that I hoped I was a good host, lol. I
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  Speaker 1: said that my boyfriend and I welcome him any time.
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  Speaker 1: and that our door will always be opened. Here's where
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  Speaker 1: it gets messed up. He messaged me back at 11 p.m.
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  Speaker 1: saying that he had a nice time and that I
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  Speaker 1: was a decent host, but I need to clean my
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  Speaker 1: toilet because the stains aren't pretty. What? And he very
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  Speaker 1: patronizingly explained to me how to clean a toilet and
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  Speaker 1: what type of toilet brush I should be using. He
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  Speaker 1: lectured me about how I should be happy. I'm hearing
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  Speaker 1: it from him and not someone important because it's basically
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  Speaker 1: embarrassing that he has had to tell me this. For context,
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  Speaker 1: the stains he is referring to are some light lime
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  Speaker 1: scale on the very inside bottom of the toilet because
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  Speaker 1: we live in a very hard water area. There is
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  Speaker 1: nothing icky in there.
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  Speaker 2: Just say it.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing gross.
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  Speaker 2: There's no poo in there.
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  Speaker 1: He then proceeds to tell me that for future reference,
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  Speaker 1: I should have had tea and biscuits ready to serve
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  Speaker 1: when he came in. They should have rang a little
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  Speaker 1: bell and said, Oh, here ye, here ye.
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  Speaker 2: O.P.
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  Speaker 1: 's friend is here.
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  Speaker 2: Should have taken out that cape they have where they
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  Speaker 2: keep the crown jewels.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Someone knight him. As that's something that he's learned
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  Speaker 1: about hosting from his mother. Even though he doesn't drink
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  Speaker 1: tea and I literally made him a whole lunch pretty
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  Speaker 1: much ten minutes after he walked through my door. I
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  Speaker 1: also made sure there were plenty of snacks and drinks
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  Speaker 1: the whole time he was here at WTF. I welcome
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  Speaker 1: you into my and my boyfriend's home, an R safe space.
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  Speaker 1: I take you around my area and clearly show pride
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  Speaker 1: and love for where I live. I put effort and
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  Speaker 1: money into making sure I have food and drinks for you.
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  Speaker 1: I make you a nice private and comfortable space in
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  Speaker 1: the spare room so you felt at home. And on
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  Speaker 1: top of that, I was excited to see you because
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  Speaker 1: you're my best friend of 10 years. And I finally
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  Speaker 1: have achieved something that I was working for so long.
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  Speaker 1: And you take, take, take. take, leave, and then crap
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  Speaker 1: all over it. I hope you said all this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, even that is like too much. I
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  Speaker 2: would just be like, hey man, I can clearly sense
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  Speaker 2: something is off. What's going on with you?
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  Speaker 3: Does he have his own apartment?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't even know where he's going
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  Speaker 1: home to. I'm angry and upset and blindsided. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want you in my home if your intention is to
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  Speaker 1: pick apart things that don't even matter. So am I
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  Speaker 1: the a-hole for not wanting him back here and not
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  Speaker 1: wanting to hear him out? We do have comments, but like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't even think he wants to come back.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, it's crazy to say you were a
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  Speaker 2: decent host when you cooked him multiple meals.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Took him out on the town.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, spent all day with him.
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  Speaker 2: Picked him up, dropped him off at the station. Gave
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  Speaker 2: him a room to sleep in that's his own.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't know. He's like, I wasted my time
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  Speaker 3: to come to this small town and have three star
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  Speaker 3: commodities here.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like stuck in the 70s. It's like, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know where they're at, but a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: like that era.
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  Speaker 1: They do. They really do.
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  Speaker 3: There's a show after it.
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  Speaker 1: That 70s show. But we also got comments. Comment one.
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  Speaker 1: Did he bring you a hostess gift or leave you
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  Speaker 1: a thank you gift? Opie says no, he didn't. And
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  Speaker 1: update fourth or update three days later. Hey, wanted to
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  Speaker 1: come and give some updates, a bit more context to
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  Speaker 1: our friendship and answer a couple questions. Friendship background. So
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  Speaker 1: first things first, we have been friends for 10 years
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  Speaker 1: and met in school. 90% of the time we have
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  Speaker 1: a blast. We've had many disagreements in the past, but
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  Speaker 1: have always managed to communicate through them. I will say
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  Speaker 1: that he has a very specific type of humor and
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  Speaker 1: brands himself as brutally honest, which I've now learned is
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  Speaker 1: just a term a-holes use to cover their backs. Now
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  Speaker 1: that we're older and work full-time, we usually text or
• 9:03
  Speaker 1: voice note each other most days, just updating each other
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  Speaker 1: on life. But we still see each other every few
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  Speaker 1: months for dinner. We've been through a lot as individuals,
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  Speaker 1: and our friendship has always stood strong in these times.
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  Speaker 1: And we've always tried to uplift and guide one another
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  Speaker 1: when needed. We've been integrated into each other's families over
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  Speaker 1: the years, even to the point that my mom saw
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  Speaker 1: him as a son. To be honest, it has only
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  Speaker 1: been in the last couple of months that he's started
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  Speaker 1: acting like this. Weird and full of himself. How long
• 9:33
  Speaker 1: have you been dating your boyfriend again?
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  Speaker 2: That would be a nice piece of information to compare to, right?
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  Speaker 1: I assumed. It was because he was mad I moved away.
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  Speaker 1: But he never opened up when I questioned it. By
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  Speaker 1: the way, I only moved an hour train ride away.
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  Speaker 1: Letting things slide. A lot of people commented on the
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  Speaker 1: fact that I kept letting so many things slide. I
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  Speaker 1: did that because I knew he is going through a
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  Speaker 1: rough patch as he recently quit his job. and so
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  Speaker 1: i wanted to make his time visiting me a really
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  Speaker 1: uplifting and positive experience also i didn't want to focus
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  Speaker 1: on any of his silly comments because i just missed
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  Speaker 1: him 100 i can see that he is jealous don't
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  Speaker 1: get me wrong he has his own achievements but a
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  Speaker 1: lot of them are things he's done to please family
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  Speaker 1: not what he wants. Whereas everything I've done is what
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  Speaker 1: I've chosen for myself. So I can definitely see resentment
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  Speaker 1: and jealousy being behind why he's acted like this. Gifts
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  Speaker 1: for me. A few people asked if my friend brought
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  Speaker 1: anything with him to gift me as a congratulations on
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  Speaker 1: my apartment.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't until you guys mentioned it that I realized, no,
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  Speaker 1: he didn't. No flowers, cards, chocolate, nothing. which is wild
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  Speaker 1: considering hosting standards are so important to him, apparently. Boyfriend's opinion,
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I discussed what happened as we were
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  Speaker 1: both feeling really pissed off, and he admitted to me
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  Speaker 1: that he has never really seen my bestie as a
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  Speaker 1: good friend. He said that although we speak every day,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that person's actually 100% behind you. My
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend also said that he would never tell me to
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  Speaker 1: end a friendship. but that I should maybe distance myself
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  Speaker 1: just for a while to see whether or not my
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  Speaker 1: bestie even reaches out to me to check up on
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  Speaker 1: me or ask if I'm okay. She's like, I'd never
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  Speaker 1: tell you to break off a friendship, but I would
• 11:22
  Speaker 1: tell you to break off this friendship.
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  Speaker 2: If it comes to it.
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  Speaker 1: If not, then it's time to cut and run. Either way,
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend doesn't want him in our home again. Me
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  Speaker 1: and the bestie spoke. I decided to put my foot
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  Speaker 1: down and show him the post. I told him I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't let it slide. I told them exactly how I
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  Speaker 1: felt and that he disrespected me, my boyfriend, and our home.
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: I told them I felt like he bashed my biggest
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  Speaker 1: life achievement and just whittled down what was meant to
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  Speaker 1: be a nice weekend into something sour. I also told
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  Speaker 1: them that I didn't need advice on how to clean
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  Speaker 1: a toilet because I'm a homeowner and a grown butt woman.
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  Speaker 1: I told them that he was acting crazy for expecting
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  Speaker 1: tea and biscuits when I actively picked him up from
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  Speaker 1: the station and fed him the whole weekend. His response
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  Speaker 1: was that he was sorry that he came across harsh
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  Speaker 1: or rude. However, he stands by what he said. And
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  Speaker 1: that lime scale on my toilet brings my average score down.
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  Speaker 3: Why are you ranking?
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  Speaker 1: Are you at an Airbnb?
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  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. He's like, this is a three star.
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  Speaker 3: This is three out of ten stars. You're not going
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  Speaker 3: to do.
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  Speaker 1: Well on the Airbnb app. Let me tell you that.
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  Speaker 2: Are you any kind of authority?
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: On hosting? And this metric that you have, this average score.
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  Speaker 1: You're staying there for free.
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  Speaker 3: My guy. But also, yeah, I mean, OP, your guest
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  Speaker 3: score is negative.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, your guest score is through the- Through the ground.
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  Speaker 1: Through the freaking ground.
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  Speaker 2: Down to the bedrock.
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  Speaker 1: Through the floor. He didn't bother to properly acknowledge what
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  Speaker 1: I said about being hurt and upset. Neither did he
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  Speaker 1: explain any underlying feelings of jealousy or resentment that he
• 12:55
  Speaker 1: may have had, which is fine, but at least acknowledge
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: that you hurt me. I know you guys will be
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  Speaker 1: mad and think I'm an idiot, but on Monday I
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: threw him a lifeline and I told him, this is
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  Speaker 1: your time. If you have anything to say, any thoughts
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  Speaker 1: or feelings, I want you to have the space to
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  Speaker 1: share them with me and we can have an honest discussion.
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: Do you think this will work?
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  Speaker 2: Do I think he's going to go, yeah, I know,
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  Speaker 2: I wish I was your boyfriend. No, I don't think
• 13:20
  Speaker 2: he's going to do that. No.
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  Speaker 3: OP.
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  Speaker 1: That's what he's going to say.
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  Speaker 3: Let's be real. Just let him slide on out of here. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: He's gonna slink back into the hole that he crawled
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: out of.
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  Speaker 3: From too far, far away.
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  Speaker 1: I was giving him the chance to stop sabotaging the
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  Speaker 1: ten years we had and just own up. He said nothing.
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: He's left me undelivered and it is now Friday. I
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  Speaker 1: think that just about sums up his value for me
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  Speaker 1: in life. Even if he didn't want to open up
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  Speaker 1: about being insecure or jealous, a simple, heartfelt apology would
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  Speaker 1: have been okay. But nothing. Looking back on his behavior
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  Speaker 1: over the last few months as a whole, I thought
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  Speaker 1: he was changing, but I realized that you guys are right.
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  Speaker 1: It's not him that's changed. It's me. Wow. I've grown up.
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  Speaker 1: I have a life I love and I am in
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  Speaker 1: the most loving and supporting relationship I've ever been in.
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  Speaker 1: I've grown up and he's stayed the same. I've just
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  Speaker 1: been settling for his crap out of pure comfort and
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: routine as we've known each other for so long. It's
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: safe to say I'm going low contact with him and
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: that I'll be slowly phasing this friendship out Until he
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  Speaker 1: shows me some respect, compassion, or even an apology. He
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: certainly won't be invited here anytime soon. It's not a
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: decision I'm making just based on your guys' advice, although
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: your words have helped. I've spoken to family and colleagues
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: as well, and they've all said the same thing. I've
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: also just taken this time to reflect on who I've
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: grown to be and what I deserve and want in friendships.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: This isn't it.
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  Speaker 2: Poor guy. He just can't admit he's got feelings for you.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right.
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: It's the only thing that makes any logical sense.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 2: He's letting that get in the way of just being
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  Speaker 2: able to have you in his life, period.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I would have done like the crazy thing of like, hey,
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: you know what? Can I come over to your place
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  Speaker 3: for just like the weekend so you can host me?
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you're like, where's my scones?
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: Where's my scones?
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: You can show me how it's done.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: Where's the scones?
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: Update.
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: I will be mourning this friendship for a while. But
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: it will be because of what we used to have.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: Because I cannot mourn a person I don't even know.
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: And that's what he's become. P.S. It's my birthday tomorrow,
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: which makes the sting even more dang. Yowch.
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: Happy birthday.
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: Happy birthday, minus one friend. His is two days after mine.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: Oof.
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: And it's something we've shared for a very long time.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: Oh, well.
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: It's time to enter a new phase of life without him,
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: and that's okay. And yes, guys, the toilet still has limescale.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: But don't worry. I have citric acid on the way. Cool.
• 15:59
  Speaker 3: Nice.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Thanks, citric acid.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: Citric acid on the way. Very nice.
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: Say goodnight, limescale. That'll teach you to ruin my friendship, limescale,
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: in my toilet. But that's that. That's the end of that.
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: I refused to make peace with my best friend's other friend,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: and it made her upset.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: I don't need peace with third-party friends.
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: From the start. I, 21 female, want to make it
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: clear that my bestie, 23 female, and I have been
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: close since high school. We hit it off right away,
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: despite being polar opposite personalities. She was nerdy with that sharp,
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: sarcastic humor. that made enemies out of strangers. While I
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: was the outgoing, if slow, jock whose personality was so mild,
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: I didn't give people reasons to hate me. She selected
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: her friends carefully. I, on the other hand, have always
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: had a wide range of acquaintances available, though I value
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: my friends above others. Bestie and I connected mostly over
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: video games, D & D, and other extremely nerdy interests.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Sick!
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: Nice. We've enjoyed limited internet fame for some of our
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: collaborative work on a particular comic, but for the past
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: few years, we've kept up contact via Skype, working on
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: our own projects. Okay, now there's Clara, who is Bestie's
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: new friend, and she became her college roommate. We went
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: to different schools, but even now, Bestie and I have
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: remained extremely close. I met Clara on the first of
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: two visits to Bestie's dorm. Things went okay, and I
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: accepted that I didn't think Clara and I could ever
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: be close friends, but I respected Bestie's choice of friendships.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: Bestie and Clara got closer in the years between visits,
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: and by my second visit, I realized Bestie had finally
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: allowed Clara into her true confidence. Clara had reached best
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: friend status.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: Best friend status.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Trio Help Throwaway, and
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Sophia.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: And we're going to read this story and give our
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: little good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: We only know what we do. So let us know
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: what you would do and think down in the comments.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: And OP says, The second visit, however, is where the
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: troubles began.
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: Oh, it's the second visit.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: On this visit, there was a citywide festival in Bestie's town,
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: and I brought my younger brother, 15, and my girlfriend, 22,
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: for the trip. The trip was supposed to last three days.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: We left halfway through the second day. Not only was
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: Clara rude in the general sense, but she was so
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: demeaning that my brother decided on the very first evening
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: we arrived that he wasn't interested in putting up with
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: her for the rest of the trip and chose to
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: remain at the apartment. Oh, dang.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: That is intense. She must be pretty awful. And I
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: was like, you know what? She's so terrible. I should
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: just stay inside.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Just exhausted. I can't even keep up. Just keep me
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: away from her. This meant giving up on the event
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: he paid about $ 45 for. My brother is incredibly perceptive
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: about people, but I blew off his statements the first
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: night because I was determined to enjoy myself. Then the
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: next day, my girlfriend began to complain. Never when I
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: was around, but Clara had begun to insult and make
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: generally anti-queer comments around my girlfriend, which my brother could corroborate.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: With my two favorite people warning me that something was up,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: I know that.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: The brother is cooperating that they were said, but it
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: sounded like he was cooperating the anti-queer. He's like, yeah,
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: that's true.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: I joined in.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: She does suck for being queer. And that's what he thinks.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: No, that's not what he's saying. Not collaborate, corroborate. With
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: my two favorite people warning me that something was up,
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: I was forced to face reality. Neither my brother nor
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: my girlfriend were comfortable, and they approached me requesting we
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: leave immediately. When I asked to speak with Bestie about
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: the situation, Clara insisted on being present for the conversation.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: What if I was there? Hey, I know you're having
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: a conversation about how terrible I am. Can I be there?
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Can I be there?
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: We don't share secrets in this household.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Hi, I'm here. I'm already here. I'm standing behind you.
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: I'm just curious.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, yeah, you can. This is actually about you.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: So grab a seat.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Now, as a more physically inclined person, I have a
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: habit of keeping my hands stuffed in my pockets when
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: having emotional conversations. It keeps me from fidgeting in most cases.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: But in this case, it saved me from lashing out.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: The conversation escalated with Clara taking immediate offense that we
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: wanted to leave. And at some point, the conversation incited
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Clara to take a swing at me.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Okay, this is how I imagine Clara would take a swing.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: What'd you say about me?
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: No, it's the head down.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Watch out. Why I oughta.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: This is how OP keeps their hand in their pockets.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Opie's like, oh, just wait.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: Just wait.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: If I could get my hands out of my pockets,
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: you'd be sorry. And Clara's like.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: For our listeners, it's Lin-Manuel Miranda doing that awkward pose
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: with his hands in his pockets. You know what I mean.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. So Clara takes a swing. With my hands
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: in my pockets, I only leaned back. And no contact
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: was made.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God. No, no, no. Can we get the new...
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Can we get Tobey Maguire's Spider-Man going.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just the.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Avoiding flash.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: That's OP.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: This is very... We need this.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: This is important.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: We need this. We can't continue until we see this.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Until we see actual footage of OP. I'm looking for
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: actual footage of OP.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Actual footage of OP.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: It's coming in live. We're authenticating this.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: That's OP.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: So.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: OP.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Dodges. At that point, I escorted myself and mine out
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: the door and to the car home. Once away from
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: the situation, my brother and girlfriend explained even more than
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: I had realized at the time. With Bestie, I have
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: something of a tit-for-tat relationship. She insults my dim-wittedness and
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: the stereotypes about ladies loving ladies, and I respond about
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: her pigeon-toes, whiny voice, and terrible choices in boyfriends.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Oh! But that's just called being friends.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: OP.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: OP said, huh, we can fight. We can play. I'll
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: play ball.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what they, yeah. It's friends.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: That's the best of friends.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: I must emphasize this is affectionate teasing built up from
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: years of friendship.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: I do it with Dakota all the time.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, wait, that wasn't Clara.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: No.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: Sorry.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: I thought that was Clara.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: I'm generally used to being the butt of jokes and
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: I don't get upset easily. But my brother and girlfriend
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: both brought up that Clara had been outright insulting me
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: to my face. Instances that I had blown off with
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: awkward laughter.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: I had this experience growing up. Not growing up, but
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: one of my good friends' girlfriends. Like, my friend and
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: I grew up, we have our sense of humor. It's
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: very like this. Like, we're like, we can make fun
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: of each other and like, just dig. But like, it's
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: out of love and like, we get it. But then
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: his girlfriend would do it with me and it just
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: was awkward. It was just like, I would stop and
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: I'm like, why are you saying that? Like that's, I
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: don't know you like that.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You have not earned it.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: And you're definitely not earning it now.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: Take a step back.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: I hadn't noticed. But in retrospect, I can see where
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Clara took liberties I would not have allowed if I
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: didn't trust her on Bestie's behalf. The problem is Bestie
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: and I sort of came to an unspoken agreement not
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: to talk about that trip. and I stopped talking to
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: Clara entirely. Bestie has now moved into my area upon graduation,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: and while we are closer than ever, it's apparent she
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: only considers myself and Clara as her close friends. I
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: accepted this, but now Bestie's pushing that Clara and I
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: make up and become friends. I understand that from Bestie's
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: point of view, Clara and I share a lot of interests,
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: but I personally am not interested in having any relationship
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: with Clara, though I am Careful to remain civil whenever
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: Bestie brings her up or tries to start three-way conversations
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: on Skype over text or working on projects. Bestie is
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: my first priority. I value her as a friend and colleague.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: If I force her to choose between Clara and myself
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: and she chooses Clara, I know our friendship would probably
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: break irreparably. And there is an edit. Hey, it's Carly,
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: Keon's girlfriend, here.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's
• 24:22
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• 24:25
  Speaker 2: My first question to your bestie would be like, did
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: you hear all this stuff she's saying about me and
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: my brother? Like, why are you allowing that? She swung
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: at me after being told she was acting out of pocket.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I would have that conversation because it really
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: doesn't matter. You don't need to have that conversation with
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Clara because Clara is a lost cause and also not
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: your friend. But have that conversation with your bestie. Say like,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: why do you allow that? Yeah. Why are you okay
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: with her acting like that to me?
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but also, I don't, and this is an adult thing,
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: or you start growing up, you're like, I don't have
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: to be friends with your friends.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be friends with you.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: That's true. But, you know, still is not okay that
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: she's not respectful.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: That, too.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: To OP when they are together.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's bigoted. That's crazy.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: And she tried to hit OP.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: There's an edit. I want to mention that the insulting
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: comments are not as shocking as everyone seems to be
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: finding them. We live in an extremely conservative area, and unfortunately,
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: Bestie is more the outlier here for defending me than otherwise.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: It's something my girlfriend and I are used to, and
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: we play it safe. But for the typical behavior in
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: this region, Clara's comments would have been considered extremely mild.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: The fact that she let us stay in their apartment
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: to begin with meant a lot. My issue on this
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: topic is more with trying to reconcile with Bestie without
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: making it seem like I'm forcing her to choose between us.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: And there's an update from a month later. Yeah, I mean, uh,
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: I'd say exactly what Keon said.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: I can't be friends with everybody, and I'm certainly not
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: friends with her. No, sir. She's outright hostile with me.
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: If anyone's going to fix any of this and make
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: us friends, it's going to have to be all her. Yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know what other work OP could put in.
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: It's very easy, OP. You just say, Bestie, I'm your friend. Bestie,
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: I'm not Clara's friend.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Let's get one thing clear.
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: Let's get one thing Claire.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: One thing Clara.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: I want to clarify.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I don't like her.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Well, we have an update. Well, Reddit, it's safe to
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: say at this point that everything went absolutely, completely, horribly
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: wrong since my original post.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Perhaps not too surprisingly, Brother Dearest found the post, and
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: despite my attempts to make this story vague, recognized it
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: was me.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: No. So, wait, but Brother's chill with you? Yeah, Brother's
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: on your side.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: Brother's chill with you?
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, where does this go? He called me up,
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: and we had a good long talk, and he concurred
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: with many of the statements you made here. Brother had
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: been uneasy about Bestie, but had assumed the two of
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: us had come to some agreement on our own and
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: hadn't wanted to intervene. On the advice of several posts
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: here and my brother, I planned out key points I
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: wanted to discuss with my Bestie. That I wanted to
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: stay friends, that my desire to remain her friend did
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: not mean she couldn't be friends with whoever she wanted,
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: but that I would not be forced into a relationship
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: with Clara, and that I would remain acquaintances with her
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: for Bestie's sake, but nothing more. that the project ideas
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: I shared with her were not to be shared with Clara,
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: and that if she continued to break my confidence, I
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: would refuse to work with her in the future at all.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: And finally, that we would go over the events of
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: the trip from start to finish because I wanted to
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: hear Bestie's side of what happened and explain my full side. Personally,
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: I was pretty impressed by how well I kept to
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: my points. In retrospect, I realize now that the only
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: reason I got to say my piece was because Bestie
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: had gone quiet pretty early in the discussion. Too quiet,
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: which was not like her. By the end of the discussion,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: we both seemed to be at a loss for what
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: to say. Bestie left and I had thought things might
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: get better. I went to work in a good mood.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: And after my night shift, my phone was full of messages.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: Clara was pissed. She had called me every name in
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: the book, accused me of stepping her in the back
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: and holding a grudge. And Clara claimed I tried to
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: sick Bestie against her. She demanded to meet to talk
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: face to face. No.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: So, okay, so Bestie is now... You talk to her
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: and she's not standing up for you. And Clara's like,
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: how could you? How could you tell her the things
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: that I've been saying to you?
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: And she wants to meet face to face. You know
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: what she's going to do, OP.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: She's got to go. There we go.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Why? Why even meet face to face? Like, why
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: do you need to meet face to face?
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: What do you want to do on my face? What
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: are we?
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: What's going to happen? When Bestie begged me to do
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: at least that much foreclosure. I agreed.
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: Why do I need to give her closure?
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like closure for what? I didn't date her. She
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: was never my friend. She doesn't like me. Who's the
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: closure for?
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: The closure on her swinging and missing? Was she going
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: to clock me in the jaw?
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: She wanted another try. Just give her another try.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Just give her a chance.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: One more.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: Give them a chance like Odysseus does.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: She's just going to take one more swing and we're
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: going to see if it happens.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: We chose a coffee house around the halfway point between
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: our homes. Clara was defensive right from the start, but
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: I suppose I probably was too. Clara demanded to know
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: what I had said to Bestie, and I tried my
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: best to stick to my plan of making peace, but
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: firmly holding my ground that this would be the last
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: time I met Clara. I hadn't expected Clara to accuse
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: me of being jealous of her. She accused me of
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: being attracted to Bestie and said that that was why
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: I was trying to get rid of Clara.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: And this like once again goes back into Clara's prejudiced,
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: bigoted thinking. of like, oh, well, you're, you know, sapphic,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: so you must be attracted to your best friend.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if this is really screaming that she's actually attracted
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: to best friend.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Yes, it could be so.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: And doesn't know how to compute. I pointed out that
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: I was in a relationship and she had actually met
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: my girlfriend in And that I had nothing against besties
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: and Clara's friendship. That I only wanted to separate from Clara.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: Clara asked if I had been lusting after her then.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: I denied it. She asked if I was jealous that
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: my girlfriend might like her better.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's so funny. I would laugh in her face.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: You think my girlfriend likes you better? And then you
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: could launch back into the pigeon toe. Buh, buh, buh.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Hit her again.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: I'm not proud of my actions, but I lost my cool.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: I warned Clara to back off and leave my girlfriend
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: out of this. Clara made another comment, including a slur,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: about my girlfriend's preferences, and I snapped. When I slammed
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: the coffee cup on the table, the paper crumpled and
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: hot liquid exploded over both of us. It didn't feel
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: particularly painful to me, and I have no burn marks whatsoever,
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: but Clara let out an unholy shriek and jumped back.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: Soon we had the manager and three other customers surrounding us,
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: with Clara begging them to call the cops. When it
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: was apparent the situation wasn't going to escalate further, Clara
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: had been given ice. And I was asked to leave
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: and I did so. I mean, honestly, dude, like if
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: Bestie stays with her after this, if Bestie continues to
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: be friends with Clara after this, it's like you might
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: as well just tell her like, dude, this is what happened.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: You might as well just start a timer until it
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: happens to you. She'll do this to you. She's crazy.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she's definitely crazy.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: We give best friend truly an ultimatum.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: I don't think we need an ultimatum. I think you're
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: just going to say, hey, this is what she did.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I will never be around her again.
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but then personally, I'd be like, if you're my
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: best friend, I don't want you hanging out with this
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: person ever again.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: The fact that you can hang out with this person
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: who treats me like this. Yeah, but I think start
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: with just saying, hey, she treated me like this and
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: see what she does.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: She'll go, no, that's not Clara. She's an innocent soul.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: She called her out. No, best friend already called Clara out.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: She already said, because Clara was so upset at OP.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: She was like, why did you tell her? So clearly
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: the best friend already called Clara out.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: I think she did again.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I think best friend probably just told Clara, like, yeah,
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: OP doesn't want anything to do with you, really. Seems
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: like a justified thing from her. Yeah. I don't know, man.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: I have texted bestie, asking to talk but heard nothing
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: back until I got a single text. I need time
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: to think. Please leave me alone. Then a few hours later,
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: I got one from Clara saying she would not be
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: pressing charges against me for burning her.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Prove that I burned you. prove it a.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: Few days have passed now but i think i've made
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: my peace with the situation i've got work to keep
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: me busy plans for a group hiking trip over the
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: weekend and movie night with my girlfriend to look forward
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: to i am not happy things haven't worked out with
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: bestie but i'm not losing any more sleep over it
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: it's great while it lasted and i'm okay with that
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: and that's the end of that story i don't know
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: man like i'd just be like i'm still totally down
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: to hang out with you and be your friend I'm
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: just never going to hang out with that girl. Like,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: I'm just not. It's just not going to happen.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, I would hope that if your best friend
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: heard this, she would have changed her mind. But I
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: It's not even like, I don't even think you should
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: tell her, like, you can't be friends with her. It's like. No, yeah, no,
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: I don't think so. It's just more like, I want
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: nothing to do with her.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: I don't think you say, oh, you can't be friends.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: I would just hope that she wouldn't want to be friends.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: You know? I don't know. It feels like maybe they became, like,
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: codependent on each other, like, during college or something. Could be.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Clara sucks.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: Clara is the worst. Clarified, she's the worst.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: Found a comment from the post. Bessie and I have
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: talked at length about what happened, and I made it
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: clear that right now that our relationship has changed and
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: how she treated the situation really hurt me. Right now,
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: things look like they're getting better, so we'll see how
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: things go with time. Yeah.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all you can do.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: Sounds about as optimistic as it can be. Just count down,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: count down, until Clara's going crazy on you, dude. And
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: she's also so definitely.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Into girls, bro.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: She even was like, you think your girlfriend's more into me?
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: It's like, no, after you slurred her and insulted her? No,
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I don't think she is, actually. Are you into my girlfriend?
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: Do you want my best friend to be your girlfriend?
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Is that the fantasy that you live in? That you
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: guys were dating? My MO for people like that is
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: either just like complete ignorance, you know, where it's just like, oh, yeah,
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: it's like, I mean, I know what you're saying is rude,
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: but I'm not even going to process it as that.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to waste a single shred of my
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: mental energy on caring about anything you say. Like, full stop,
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: you could say anything, and I'd go, oh, that's great.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: But there is the end of that story, folks, and
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: we got another one coming right up. Hey, it's Angie,
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: your favorite Riley's girlfriend host here. We're going to get
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads
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  Speaker 1: from our sponsors. My gym buddy was cheating on my
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: sister's best friend, so I exposed him. Yeah, fair. Good.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: Good thing.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: My 26 male used to train alone, because I don't
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: have to take others into account. I gotta go my
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: own way. I don't train with others.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: I don't got time to worry about you, lily-livered wibs.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: I'm a lone wolf. I have a very irregular schedule
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: and long hours, so this works for me. I train
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: whenever I can. I also lift pretty heavy. I met Ben,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: 35 male, eight months ago. He joined my gym and
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: we hit it off. He talked to me and asked
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: me if he could train in with me. I was hesitant,
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: but I could use a spotter sometimes. He's a cop
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: and surprisingly has the same irregular shifts as me. His
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: lifting stats are very close to mine. We started working
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: out together and motivating each other for higher PRs. As
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: guys do, we started talking about hookups, dating, and life
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: in general during sets and And sometimes we hung out
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: outside of the gym as well. Yes, guys.
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: I heard no mention of the Roman Empire.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're fake.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: You guys probably didn't even talk about Hadrian's Wall, did you?
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Did anyone bring up the Library of Alexandria burning down?
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: Or how aqueducts were made?
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: I actually have an incredibly... cool thing that I want
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: me to bring up later.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: All right. He told me he was dating around and
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: had a few if buddies. I thought nothing serious or
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: exclusive because he was seeing several people at the same time.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Ninja Kiwi. And if
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 36:22
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• 36:26
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: And Dopey says... One day, my sister, 28 female, came
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: to the gym with me. Ben was there too. She
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: recognized Ben as the boyfriend of her best friend, Allie,
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: 30 female. I asked her if she was sure and
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: what does she mean boyfriend slash if they were exclusive.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: She told me, yeah, and of course they're exclusive. I
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: quickly changed the subject.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: Man, how does this guy have the time? He won,
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: he's a cop.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: Several other or six other women.
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: Yikes. That's a lot. That's a lot of ladies.
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: He's serving the public.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: It's like, I'm out there saving lives.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: I'm here to protect and serve.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: And ending relationships. My own. The next time I met
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: Ben at the gym, I asked him after our work
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: about Allie. And he confirmed, yeah, I'm dating her. I
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: asked him if she knew about the other girls. He said, nah,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: she didn't. He was basically cheating on her.
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: You can take out the basically.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: I felt very guilty and conflicted. I told him I
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: knew Allie. And she was a very nice girl and
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: didn't deserve this kind of behavior. I said we could
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: no longer be friends and I didn't want to train
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: together anymore. I told him to cut all contact. He
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: said he didn't understand what had changed and said we
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: were good friends and I shouldn't throw this away. Dude,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: what do you mean you don't understand what changed? OP
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: just told you.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the context of everything you've told me is now
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: I've been cheating on my girlfriend who OP knows and
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: thinks is a nice person.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: So what's not, what aren't you getting? I have to
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: say a part of me still wants to train with
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: him and hang out because I thought he was a
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: good guy. But then I feel incredibly guilty towards Allie
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: and no, I can't do that to her. Our gym
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: sessions were great and I always felt pumped up. I
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: told Ben, no, and stop texting and or calling me.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: Don't call me. Don't come by my house. We're done.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: He still does and it's kind of awkward at the gym,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: but I ignore him. He still wants to be friends.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Am I wrong? Is it my place to tell Allie
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: to dump this guy because he's a cheater? Oftentimes, the
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: harbinger of bad news gets crucified. So I don't want
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: to tell my sister and burden her with this knowledge
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: and task of telling Allie. What should I do? Tell Allie?
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: Tell my sister? Shrug it off and still train and
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: hang out with Ben? Not that last one. For sure,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: not that last one. There's an update. What do you do?
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: Um, I mean, if you know her well enough.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: Just tell her.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: I feel like the only two good options here are
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: telling your sister or telling Allie.
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: But I think you could tell Allie you know her.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: Those are your two options.
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: But this guy's a cop. If you do this, do
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: you think?
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: But OP benches more than him.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: I know, but.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: OP's stronger than him.
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: Should you? It's like playing with fire.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: I don't think this is playing with fire. I don't know.
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: It's a thing of like you never want to be
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: on the bad side of like hope he's already on.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: The wrong side of the law.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: I think this guy wouldn't even care he's got like
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: six other women he's just a bad.
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: I'll bring that up to him i was like hey
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: man just leave ally alone like you have six other
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: girls just break up with her or i'll tell her.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah i would tell her that's another way to go
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: about it yeah I.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: Hope he's stronger than him. He can take him.
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: I'd be like, you're better than this. You don't need Allie.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: He's not better than this.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: No, but you would just lie.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: I would call him out. Update. Three days later. Thank
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: you for all your replies. Some were worried because Ben
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: is a cop, which is some is Keon.
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: Am I wrong?
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: It's not like there's any history of cops going completely
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: over the line when they feel they've been slighted by
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: somebody or You know, using flock cameras to track their
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: exes around.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: You're with the sum. Well, that would never stop me
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: from doing the right thing. And I'm glad I did.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: I knew I had to tell Allie, and you guys
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: gave me the push I needed. I would have wanted
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: to know and would be very upset if someone I
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: knew was aware of my significant other cheating and chose
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: not to tell me. I found out the extent of
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Ben's debauchery. First, I told my sister right away that
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: Ben was sleeping around and I wanted to warn Allie.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: She came with a bombshell.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: Marilyn Monroe?
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: A hot new bombshell has entered the villa.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Do we think that Allie knows?
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Well, oh, Ali, the girlfriend already knows. Yeah.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: I thought you.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: Were going to say like the sister already knew.
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: Oh, the sister's one of the girls?
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, oh.
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh.
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: Well, let's find out.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: We're just throwing a lot out there.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Ben was hitting on her too. That a-hole is infuriating
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: me now. Ben sometimes tagged along when my sister and
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: Ali would hang out and Ben would always flirt slash
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: hit on my sister. This a-hole is making me furious
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: right now. My sister hadn't told Allie because she didn't
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: want her to get hurt, and nothing happened. It did happen.
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: Who's flirting with you, girl?
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: Do you think OP's sister was kind of into it?
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think there is kind of like a,
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: it could be. I think that's a good question to ask.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: But I also think from my experience of, not this situation,
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: but from my experience of not knowing whether or not
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: someone is flirting... And you're like, oh, I don't want
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: to be like, oh, this person is creeping me out
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: because they technically haven't done anything.
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: So it's hard to be like, hey, Ali, your boyfriend
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: is flirting with me because you don't have proof.
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: I mean, I did that immediately with our friend. I've
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: told that story before where it was like just an
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: out of pocket comment. And it was immediately like, oh, OK.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: Walk outside. Hey, your girlfriend just said this to me.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: I think that is good.
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: Just wanted to let you know.
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: I think it is important to do that, but I
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: also could see where Allie might be like, I didn't
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: know how to bring it up. But I think it
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: is good to always call people out and say, hey,
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: this happened. I'm uncomfortable, especially if it's your friend. Nothing
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: happened and never would because Ben is Allie's boyfriend. And also,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: my sister doesn't date a-holes. So then I decided to
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: tell Allie. My sister was there too. I decided to
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: take the direct route and rip the truth out like
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: a bushy woman getting a full Brazilian. Oh.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: Train.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: Okay, it would be quick and sting, but not as
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: much as slowly peeling it off.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: Graphic, but true.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: There's a little bit left to this story. It's gotten
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: a little bit weird now.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: Bird in the hands were too in the bush.
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: Apparently, Allie suspected some debauchery going on because he was
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: being secretive with his phone all of a sudden lately
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: and would hide it when he was texting or turn
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: away the screen. Allie was upset, but she saw it coming,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: I guess, and was really glad I told her. She
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: said she loved me like a brother of her own
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: and really thanked me for being honest. She dumped Ben
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: right away and wants to go no contact and block
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: him on all media. I was at the gym yesterday
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: and today, but didn't see him. Nice. He's probably in
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: his little hidey hole.
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: He's probably enforcing the law.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's probably out giving like so many parking tickets
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: and like speeding tickets. He's like, oh, another one, another one.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: You don't get one. And someone's like, I was going
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: one mile over.
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: He's like, yeah. $ 200 for talking back.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: $ 200. Okay, you're going to jail.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: It's a talkback ticket.
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: I'm doing you a favor. I'm going easy on you.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: I'm giving you 10 fines today.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: 10 fines. We'll see how it goes. I'm not switching
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: gyms because of this a-hole. I've trained there for years
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: now and know the owner and staff. I really love
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: my gym. OP, you're strong enough. You just have to
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: fight him in a one-on-one battle to maintain... Your claim
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: on that gym.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you guys should do medieval MMA. You guys put
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: on full armor and just go three rounds.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: You should do the plot of Madagascar 2.
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: Escape to Africa. Yeah.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Where the lions have to fight for the crown.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Or a dance battle. Did they do a dance battle?
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: I can't remember.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: This guy cheating on his girlfriend thinks he's Moto Moto.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: He thinks Moto Moto likes him.
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: Moto Moto is him.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: I like them big.
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: I like them chunky.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: I like them.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: This is my advice to OP. OP, become a firefighter.
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: And then whenever you guys do the yearly firefighter versus
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: police force thing, which always happens everywhere.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: Booyah.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: When they take to the streets in a riot and
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: fight each other.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: All right. But we've got comments from the video. My
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: friend's boyfriend made explicit AI pics of her sister. She stayed. Loyalty.
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  Speaker 1: And this was posted July 17th, 2026. And we've got
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: a TLDR from story one. OP has been best friends
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  Speaker 1: with Cass for 17 years, part of a tight group
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: who never had any drama until this week. Cass had
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: been noticing strange behavior from her boyfriend of five years.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: So she went through his phone while he slept and
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: what she found made her sob hysterically. AI generated corn
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: of people they all knew, including her own sister and
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: his own mother. Then she hinted there was something even worse,
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: something she refused to show or tell anyone, before suddenly
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: doing a complete 180 and insisting everything was fine and
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: they'd work it out. But when OP pressed for the truth,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: Cass started telling different lies to different friends, dodging every
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: hard question. If you're curious to know the full story,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: you can go watch the full video and we've got comments.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, we do. I remember this one, and boy, oh, boy.
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: Truly a perplexer. Yeah.
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: Gross. We have some comments. Take a look at that video.
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: Check that one out. But comments from that video, starting
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: off with Nikki Cockwell, 3444, saying, AI needs to be
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: legally regulated. If these deep fakes end up on the internet,
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: they can ruin lives. And let's be honest, in this story,
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: it was ruining lives. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Ruined my life.
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  Speaker 1: Ruined my ears.
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they do need to be regulated.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: The AI stuff is so far ahead of the regulations
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  Speaker 1: right now. And so it's trying to catch up. Yeah.
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: Not great. Another comment from Sparrow118 saying, what a doozy
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: of a first story. He absolutely needs to take accountability
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: and get help before he gets himself into real trouble
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: because he's going down a real slippery slope.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Also, the girlfriend has stuff going on too. She's this
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: insistent on sticking with this dude to the end.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Some people are just very stuck. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I just remember she was like defending it.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: It's like it could be worse.
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  Speaker 1: No, I was watching this show, this like reality TV
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: show that my friend got me into. I don't even
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: watch these types of shows. But there's this one girl
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: whose boyfriend is so awful. And the whole time she's like, well, no,
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: but like I want to focus on the good stuff.
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: And this other guy in the show is like, what
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: would you feel if your daughter was treated like that?
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: And she's like, well, I would tell her to focus
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: on the good stuff. And know that there's more than
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: just the bad.
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: The positives outweigh the negatives.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but her boyfriend is so terrible. And everyone was like, what?
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the math on that doesn't make any sense. It
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: doesn't make sense.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: And I feel like that's this girlfriend.
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: Oh, I don't want to spoil it. There was more
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: to it, remember?
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, go watch this, guys.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: Another comment from Tiffany saying, that weird story, I bet
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: he made defakes of her as well. and threatened to
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: do something with them. And that's why she won't leave him?
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: Who knows?
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: Maybe.
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: Maybe.
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, that is illegal.
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to say anything, but there was more
• 48:05
  Speaker 3: to it. And then we went, oh, but she didn't
• 48:08
  Speaker 3: give us the full reason or what it was. And
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: one last comment here from jrob2430 saying, this exact stuff
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: is why I hate AI so much. I won't use
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: it if I can't avoid it. I think the only
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: AI stuff I have that I like is maybe like
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: Google Assistant on the phone. And even that stuff doesn't
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: work half the time. I'm really worried people are going
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: to get removed from life over fake AI videos.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: It'll get worse before it gets better.
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Best way, best way I think
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: is to just refuse to partake. And that's, yeah, I
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: try not, I try my best to not use the,
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: you know, the Google Gemini summarizer. Because also it's just
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: like at a baseline, like incredibly unethical technology just in
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: terms of like what, It's what is happening to the land,
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: all the power usage. It's all of it. It's just
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: blatantly bad.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: But that's the end. On that note, on that positive note,
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: that's the end of the episode.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: There are good things happening out there. Go look up
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: something nice that happened in the world.
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: Go in the park. Go to the beach.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: There's technology that's working on fixing up reefs.
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: It's true.
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: So let's focus on that. that's the end of that
• 49:20
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