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You Don't Need to Quit the Ritual — You Need to Upgrade It · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  Hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities CE OS and even
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  royalty Adam Cox, These recordings took place live from
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  Evans Clinic in London's world famous Harley Street.
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  So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. Hi.
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  It's Adam here and you're about to listen to.
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  A hypnosis session. All about self.
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  Improvement and self worth. And I was working with.
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  A client that. Had a ritual that they would
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  often do in the. Evenings that was based on self
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  reflection and just. Private.
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  Quiet. Time for themself.
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  And it would really be a useful thing for them.
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  Except that it that had been. Connected to certain unhealthy
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  habits, so quite often they would pour themselves a big
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  glass of wine. Eat snacks and read to themself.
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  Fiction books and actually. There's a lot.
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  About that ritual, that's really positive if it's.
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  Upgraded rather than just stopped so.
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  For example, a lot of people when they drink on autopilot.
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  They. Are not really thinking about
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  the thing that they're doing. A lot of people smoke without
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  thinking. Eat snacks.
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  Without thinking so changing the wine.
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  Into sparkling water, actually. Means that it's still a.
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  Private time for themselves, but it gets enhanced.
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  It gives them more clarity without any.
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  Of the downsides. And instead of.
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  Always reading, actually. Journaling in that same kind of
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  haven. Of solitude.
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  Actually enhances it. So if you.
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  Like the idea? Of either.
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  Building or refining A ritual to enhance the quality of your life
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  give you more cause for reflection and rather than
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  suppressing emotions. And kind of.
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  Eating or drinking? To suppress.
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  Them you actually let them come to the surface and allow them to
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  go from your head onto a page and really think about them,
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  then you might be. Interested.
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  In this hypnosis session, and if you like the idea of working
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  with me, I'd encourage you to register for a webinar that I
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  have. The details are in the
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  description, the actual show notes.
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  For this. Check them out and you'll be
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  able to register and. For anyone that stays to the.
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  End of the webinar I'm actually giving away 10 hypnosis
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  downloads worth about 97 lbs and the webinar is free, but you
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  also get those downloads completely.
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  Free as well, so check that out. For now, though, I'd encourage
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  you to find a quiet, comfortable place where.
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  You won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  To relax. And enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long breath of relaxation. And as you exhale, feel your
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  eyelids getting heavier, jaw looser, sinking into a wonderful
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  feeling of calm relaxation as you breathe in and breathe out.
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  Consider this your time just for you, a sense of reconnecting,
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  recalibrating, a time to connect with you and within.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  To take one breath now that belongs entirely to you, for
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  anyone else and not offered in service of something required,
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  just yours. Deep down, there's something
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  you've always understood, even before you had the words for it.
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  But a person cannot give endlessly from an empty vessel.
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  You can't keep pouring from an empty cup.
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  At that quiet space you return to at the end of a particular
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  day is not a retreat from the people you love.
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  You've been using it as a place where you replenish the
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  resources that giving and loving requires.
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  So allow your body to settle now the way that it settles.
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  When that bedroom door closes, the obligations of the day are
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  on the other side of it. The particular quality of that
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  exhale, the shoulders dropping, the face snuff softening, and
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  their sense of finally, this time is mine and I want you to
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  imagine what it would feel like to connect without feeling the
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  feeling that space and time is just for you.
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  Any motives are your motives, any desires are your desires.
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  And here you are in your own space, and maybe you can imagine
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  a current space or an old bedroom from your childhood.
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  Whatever your imagination gives you, embrace it.
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  Connect with that space where everything that follows belongs
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  to you. Because what you understood as a
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  teenager when you retreated to your room with a book and
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  something to eat was something intelligent.
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  A person that deeply recognized and understood a need or a space
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  of their own. A space where no one else's
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  needs came first. A place where you could be
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  yourself without performing any role.
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  And that understanding has never been wrong.
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  The ritual has never been the problem.
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  The place, the reading, the private decompression time.
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  These are not things to be fixed or replaced.
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  They are things to be honoured because they are the ritualistic
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  structure through which you have always known how to take care of
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  yourself, to recharge your batteries, to unwind, to refill
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  your cup. What we're doing now is not
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  removing something precious. We're just refining something
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  that already works, keeping everything that is genuinely
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  yours and quietly releasing the tiny bits that were never the
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  actual point. Your ritual is yours.
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  It is useful private time, words that harness the imagination, a
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  boundary of a closed door. This is self-care and it always
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  has been. What if we upgrade something
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  already good and make it even better?
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  You already know something that you're unconscious can now make
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  permanent. You already know because you
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  lived it. I want you to get a sense that
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  when you've been training, the book was still there, The space
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  was still yours. You came to a realization.
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  Intuitively, You didn't actually need the wine.
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  What you needed was the ritual, the permission, the boundary
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  drawn around this time and this space that says every now and
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  then it's just for you, recharging your batteries,
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  unwinding and releasing whatever needs to be unwound or released.
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  The reading was really about the freedom.
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  The glass of something cold and sparkling was just a prop in a
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  scene. That was never the point.
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  It was just accompanying the point.
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  And I want you to imagine being in that space.
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  I want you to imagine everything is the same, but instead of
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  pouring the wine, just imagine pouring that glass of chilled
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  Perrier. The bubbles the same, the
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  temperature the same, the glass the same, the ritual the same.
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  The ritual is intact, the signal to the nervous system the same.
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  This time is mine. This is for me.
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  And what it adds that the wine didn't offer is the clarity.
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  The clarity in the moment, the clarity when you sleep, the
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  clarity when you wake. The glass in your hand signals
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  the same thing it always has, That this time is yours.
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  The sparkling water is not a compromise.
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  It's an upgrade to the ritual where nothing takes the edge of
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  the clarity and the signal that you deserve.
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  it's been quieting a signal before the signal has been
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  heard. And what if you're unconscious?
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  Can now understand why that has actually cost you something
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  drowned out an intuitive ability to reflect that the feeling was
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  softened before it had a chance to say what it was trying to
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  say? Just imagine a small child
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  that's anxious or worried or stress, and they really want to
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  tell you something, but instead you give them a bag of sweets
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  and they're happy for that moment, but you never get to
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  hear what they were stressed or worried about.
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  And what if that comes at a cost?
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  This anxiety, this stress is your intuition trying to tell
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  you something. And the wine has been drowning
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  it out, suppressing it, submitting it, deflecting it,
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  distracting it, but not quite listening to it.
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  And what if every now and then, instead of reading, you write
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  maybe a journal on your iPad? And maybe not the full time,
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  maybe just 5 or 10 minutes. What if by hearing the intuitive
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  signal and taking it from mind to something that could be read
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  later? What if you allow yourself to
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  sit with a feeling long enough to ask it a question?
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  What is this actually about? What do I actually feel?
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  Is there any truth to it? Would a change be helpful?
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  What does this stress want me to notice?
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  And what emerges may not come straight away, and not always on
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  the first entry, and not always in neat sentences.
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  Is the signal beneath the noise the recurring theme that once
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  you can see it clearly, is something you can actually act
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  on, something that can be changed or accepted or
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  addressed, rather than softened and softened again and ignored.
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  And you don't have to write perfectly.
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  Early entries can be filtered and performative.
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  What if that's required just to get the ball rolling?
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  What if authenticity comes with practice?
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  All that is required is the willingness that when the
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  feeling arrives, you take thoughts into words and words
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  become readable on the screen for later, and to just stay with
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  it long enough to hear, read or listen to what it's trying to
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  say. What if, paradoxically, stress
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  or anxiety is an opportunity? What if when you feel those
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  emotions go to that place with that glass of water?
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  What if you start to write, you sit with the feeling long enough
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  to hear it? And what if it tells you is more
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  useful than anything that would silence it?
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  What if it's empowering to feel rather than to make the feeling
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  go away, and there's a version of you that you already
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  recognize? The person who is confident in
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  their own skin and knows what they think and trust what they
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  feel and makes decisions from clarity rather than people
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  pleasing or validation. This version of you is not
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  waiting for someone else's response to know if you've made
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  the right choice. This version of you has done the
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  reflection, listened to their intuition, makes decisions from
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  a place of empowered clarity. This version of you is not
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  someone who doesn't love or doesn't need the people in their
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  life. This version of you loves them
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  fully, and she loves them from a grounded place rather than a
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  seeking 1. She gives because she wants to
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  give, not because the giving earns or something that couldn't
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  otherwise be felt. And what if this version of you
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  is not distant or aspirational? What if this version of you is
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  the natural consequence of the work that is already underway?
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  Choices like to run a half marathon, to start a journal, to
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  swap wine for water. But keeping the ritual,
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  reclaiming the ritual that is already yours.
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  What if refinement is a step towards the version of you that
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  trusts yourself and needs no external verdict to feel whole?
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  what if that sparkling water in the glass actually gives you the
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  next phase of this ritual? The wine was never the point.
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  The point was always to have clarity, a safe space for your
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  intuition, to communicate with you.
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  And when the stress arrives, when worried thoughts appear,
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  Journaling seems intuitively natural, so you can hear the
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  signal and make decisions from clarity rather than suppression.
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  And what if decisions from clarity lead to incrementally
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  better experiences, more harmony with yourself, better
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  boundaries, which means less stress and less anxiety.
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  But when they do come up, that's also an opportunity for more
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  reflections, more refinement, more empowered decisions.
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  You could imagine that months of doing this would lead to a
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  better life, years, and even better.
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  But imagine a decade of listening to your intuition,
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  making clear decisions. How different would that be to
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  the version of you that, when you're in tuition and
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  unconscious, was trying to talk? You drowned out the volume with
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  wine and snacks. Your intuition wanted you to
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  listen, and now your ritual embraces it.
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  And if your unconscious is willing to make tiny refinements
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  to open the door to more clarity, more empowerment,
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  better quality of life, let me know if I'm nodding your head.
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  That's it. And what if all it takes is to
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  replace a bottle of wine with a bottle of water?
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  That's the very first step in a new sequence of a ritual that
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  will lead to wonderful things. So it's time to leave this
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  place. But you come back with clarity,
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  feeling empowered, feeling that you're on the brink of a
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  wonderful ripple effect to a happier, more confident, more
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  empowered you. So take a deep breath in through
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  the nose and out through the nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 78. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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