What To Do When You Can't Stand Not Knowing

In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes · Oct 12, 2026 · 11m

You're waiting to hear about something important, and not knowing how it'll turn out is keeping you awake at night. Nothing's wrong with you for finding this hard. Most of us were never taught what to do with the feeling of not knowing, so we check our phones, make plans for every outcome and ask everyone what they think. The relief lasts a few minutes, and then the feeling comes back stronger. I talk about an idea from Pema Chödrön and what a 2018 study found about people who stop fighting their difficult feelings. Then I give you one sentence to say to yourself at three in the morning that…