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The Most Regarded (As Intelligent!) Girlies On TikTok · Papa Gut

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What's going on, guys? Listen, I don't want to bore you
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with a big long intro. It just kind of feels like I
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should do something little to let you guys know, like, hey,
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this is the video. I've done different compilations
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before. I really enjoy making these a
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lot. Actually.
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They're some of my favorite segments to make.
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They're just different from what I typically do.
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So I do enjoy them. I've done once about like really
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disgusting men before, religious grifters, bad parents.
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There's really just a whole lot in this kind of TikTok
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compilation series or short form compilation series, you know?
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But yeah, most of these are things that people fans send me
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in the Discord and I enjoy it. So here we go.
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I want to show you this stuff. I think I've been attracting the
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wrong audience for years. I.
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Hear that, girl? I used to make a lot of edgy
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memes, and I like that. But it was a lot of weird
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conservatives that, like, actually meant it, you know?
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I'm just like the kind of guy who enjoys an edgy joke.
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I don't mean it, but there's a lot of people who mean it, so I
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kind of changed my content expression.
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I have a bigger chest and I don't hide it anymore but.
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Well, I don't. I can't see it.
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So it sounds like you're hiding it.
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I don't know. I mean, it looks like you're
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hiding it. I'm not.
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I'm not that. I want to see it.
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Those are some nice bazookas, I guess.
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I don't know. It's fine.
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I feel like you're pushing them up really hard, but OK.
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All right. But somewhere along the line,
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the Internet decided that meant my content was format.
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Yeah, I mean, if you're showing your boobs, that's probably
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what's going to happen. You know, if I started sewing a
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lot of belly in all my posts, I'd, I'd get a lot of gay men
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and older women who would find me super sexy.
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You know what I mean? What do you guys think out of
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track with this? I think I'd do pretty well
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probably. Probably overweight girls that
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really like to go to Disney. I'm kind of like a Disney daddy.
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I got to take my wife to Disney soon.
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But this isn't really what the point of the video is, so let's
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move on. It's strange watching thousands
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of people follow you and still not really feeling like you're
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reaching anyone. I can post running body image
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grief, traveling. Listen, if you're going to run
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with bazookers on there, those things are going to be extra
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provocative, you know what I'm saying?
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You're hosting group trips for girls all over the world and
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even hosting events right here in New York City for girls to
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make new friends and it. You have your like everything
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you do, dude. What the still?
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I mean, listen, I get it, you want to be known for what you're
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saying, but you're obviously playing into it, so come on.
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Feels like that's not what's getting pushed yet my body
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becomes a focus in every video and those are the only ones that
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get any sort of reach. Maybe since you're SO their
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music you have on is so fucking loud.
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I've edited it out that he can't even hear you.
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You know if you do, you're doing everything you possibly can to
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get people to not listen to your fucking words.
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And don't get me wrong, I love feeling confident and I don't
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think I should stop having to post when I feel beautiful but
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in the same. Well, they're like all cleavage
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shots. Like, what are you doing here?
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You know what you're doing? Come on.
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Like this one? Who's that for?
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What is it? What is it?
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Who? I think a bird's eye view here.
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What's going on here? Feel beautiful, but in the same
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vein, it hurts knowing that every single time I do, I'm
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moving further away from the audience that I've been trying
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to create. People assume having a lot of
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followers means having a lot of connection.
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Depends on what? It depends I guess.
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I don't know what kind of content do you make what?
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I've never wanted followers, I've just want.
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Obviously you did in. A community I've never wanted to
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be known for my body. Something that I already feel so
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insecure in majority of the time I've wanted to.
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Maybe you do, I don't know. I guess even conventionally
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attractive people can feel insecure about their bodies.
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But I'm kind of just feeling like, do you, oh, let's see
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what? Let's see what kind of her
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example of her most popular stuff is first born daughter
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making sure mom gets presents under the tree.
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Wow. Well, this is just you showing
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off your boobs. Here's this one also.
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Real boobs, not fake boobs because.
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This is something about boobs. This is your second most popular
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video, Things I can't do with Boobs.
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So this is another boob centric video.
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Your third. Here's your third most popular
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video. It's you starting off by bending
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down and showing us your boobs. Here's the 4th one.
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It's literally your boobs. Boobs.
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Oh, there you go. This one doesn't have any boobs
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in it. So you know what?
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I guess I was wrong the whole time about everything unless OK,
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never mind. This one is about your and you
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got some armpit in there too. So now we now we're pushing to
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mega gooner territory. Yeah, listen, it seems like
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you're trying to you created an audience by showing off your
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boob, and that's fine. I I don't hate the I don't hate
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the game. I don't hate the player.
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I'm not I'm not sitting here being like, oh, it's just
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another woman showing off their boobs.
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Yeah, I would too, dude. Like, I don't care, you know,
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like that's I get it. I got I'm you know, I didn't
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create the system. You didn't either, but you know,
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you jumped into it head 1st and you're just like, how come
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people don't see me for myself? But it seems like most of your
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content is you showing yourself off.
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It's not like you're somebody who's like doing something and
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then you happen to have big boobs that are present.
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You're just you're leading with your tits and you're like, why
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don't people value me for my opinion?
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I'm a victim. It's like, come on dude, you
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can't do that. That's insane.
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You known for what I create and how I make people feel.
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Lately it feels like I'm talking to a room full of people who
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have my worst interest at heart and would.
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Rather those comment. That comment had two likes on
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it. So good to to see you be proud
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of your beautiful large soft titty.
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How do I like that comment? These are hidden comments on
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Instagram. This means that she scrolled
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down and hit the button that says unhide them so she could
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intentionally read these. At least no one will forget what
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a massive attention or that's crazy.
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That's a little rude. I don't know.
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OK, listen, it's part of me struggles to feel super
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empathetic because like you'd think that I was like some kind
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of like autistic trans gay black woman based on the slurs that
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they call me on Twitter. You know what I'm saying?
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You know what I'm saying, dude, I could call and Jewish dude,
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They say a lot of mean things about these different identities
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that I don't really, you know, have.
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I don't have a dad and I'm afraid of dogs, but I don't know
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if that makes me one of those identities.
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I like anime too. Anyway, the point that I'm
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making here is that like it, OK, you know, that sucks, I guess.
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But I mean, you, you're, you're, I mean, you're showing that off
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as your premier product. Worst interest at heart and
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would rather see me naked than hear anything that I have to
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say. So if you're a woman who's
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interested in travel or running or fitness or New York City or
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mental health or making new friends or grief or any of the
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above. Hi, I'm Izzy and I would really
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love for us to get to know each other.
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Have you tried actually changing your content to like appeal more
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to what the words that you say instead of the way that you
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look? Or have you just complaining
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after farming a bunch of attention?
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Let's see if she's changed it up.
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Hey guy. Hey girls.
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Hey girls, you want to come do girl boob yoga?
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Dude, this is insane to me actually.
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What is it? Come with me to host a all girls
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event in New York City at woman rank in Central.
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Park, can I tell you right now, OK, if I was a girl, I would
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never go to this event. Like, listen, I already I
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understand how hard it is to be a girl.
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I get it. It's a scary thing.
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Guys are ogling you. The president's a rapist of
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children as well. And you know, but you, you want
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to do like, hey, I want to do a pickleball event where we're
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going to run around and bounce our tits around.
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Of of course guys are going to show up and just Ogle you.
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I would stay away from that event.
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You know, do it inside. I'm I'm not going to be an
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asshole, but you haven't changed anything.
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You just want your baiting male attention.
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Come with me to go try and. Come with me to show off my
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boobs. Incredible.
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Good job. I like it.
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I'm not gay. Well, I hope you guys enjoyed
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that first segment. She posted this three days ago,
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by the way, so I guess she hasn't really shifted her
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strategy very much. Anyway, quick plugs.
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Just 'cause this girl might get her formula for free doesn't
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mean that it's cheap on our end. OK, You know the deal with the
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members only content. There's a small gut, it's 2
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bucks a month. It opens up the complete discord
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and and frankly, it's a great way to support.
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You don't have to though, and there's a medium gut, it's 5
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bucks a month and there's a lot of backlog content always
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updating every single week. There's a tremendous amount of
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stuff here. If you don't want to do it
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through YouTube, you don't have to.
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I mean, you don't do it at all, but you can also do it through
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Patreon. Same price, same rewards,
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everything's pretty cool. If you're going to do it, which
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you don't have to, I'd recommend doing it through your your
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desktop. Excuse me, because if you do it
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through your phone, I don't know, something seems to
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increase the price. So I do have a podcast, you
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know, with my wife. I really enjoy making this
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content. Links in the description.
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We're just talked about our baby shower.
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It was just went really well, except for the catastrophic
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failure that almost happened. But it was a great it was a
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great episode and it was a great time.
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Anyway, also stickers link in the description.
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So yeah, let's get back to the video, you guys, let's just
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let's get back to it. I'm sorry for bothering you.
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Quick little reminder that if you cannot stay for the full
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morning workout class. Yeah, then you just leave early.
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You know, if you get there and you're only able to do a half,
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maybe you're new to the class, maybe, maybe you're overweight
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and you're like, I want to do Zumba because it's it's more
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interesting and you get there and you're doing it for 30
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minutes and it's your first class and you don't want to push
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it too much, but you're happy you got there.
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Just make sure you stand in the back.
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So this way you don't have to disrupt the class when you
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leave. Stay in the back, Take more
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breaks, drink water. Just do your best without
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overdoing it so you'll consistently do it.
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Maybe you went there and you had to go to work.
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Bail out again, try to stand in the back.
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You know, maybe you're pregnant and it's tough for you to get
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through a whole class. Stay in the back.
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You know what I mean? That's it.
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Just be a little courteous to people.
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But that's that's what she's going to say, right?
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Don't come. All right.
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Well, I already came anyway. Why?
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If you can't stay for 50 minutes because you need to go and like
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get ready for work at 7:00 AM, don't come to the 610 workout
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class. Maybe that's the only one that
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they can do available like their only availability.
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What do you do for work? Why, like not everybody can can
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work things around the way that you do.
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You know what it is? It's probably another neppo
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baby. Oh, running, travel, sports, pop
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culture. It's this.
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I'm just I'm at a point now where like every single time I
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see some stupid on the Internet with some dumb entitled take, I
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go Neppo baby daddy money. Sorry, maybe also mommy money.
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I don't want to. I don't want to be anti feminist
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here, but it's always like, oh, I want to be I want to be like a
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popular social media person. One thing about me is I will be
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attending the F1 race three days before it starts in Miami.
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Tickets bought racism. See this one talk about parents,
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parents convinced, you know what I mean?
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Like I give me a break. This is I'm telling you, this is
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a neppo baby. I got it.
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I got it locked down, but I'm fucking on the motherfucker
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lockdown. OK, this person's been contents
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and so forth. 122 never hit unless they're rage baiting with
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some stupid take about, you know, not going to a morning
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class. I don't know, I'm on nepo baby
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alert dude. I was just in Applaudy's class
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and the girl next to me literally left with 7 minutes
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left. Oh, maybe she had a piss, dude.
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Class we weren't even like stretching.
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We weren't even like done with the like workout part of class.
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I don't care. We were still actively working
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out and she left. Shut up dude I hate the way you
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talk. And she like laughed.
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This is literally 7 minutes left.
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And then she laughed like what are you talking about?
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And I know in some studios, they'll say like when you get to
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stretch, like, OK, like leave now or Please wait until the end
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of class. We were actively still working
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out. If that is, you either finish or
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either like. What's your coffee order?
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All right, this is from Hannah S Let's see, is it a real name?
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Hannah S Hannah Student. This is pumpkin the cream cold
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foam. One shot of some syrup.
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This I think it's just shot of actual human being urine there.
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So she's look at this. This is like basic ass bitch.
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She's a pumpkin spice latte girl, dude, come on bro.
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I mean, I do like a good pumpkin spice.
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Do you really? I mean come on.
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Jesus Christ. Do a work on class after work or
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do your own thing in the morning because leaving with 7 minutes
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left of class because you can't give the instructor and the
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other people in the class 50 minutes of your time like it's
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rude. I don't know if you notice
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they're paying for the class so. OK, I thought that was common
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sense but apparently not if we're leaving with 7 minutes
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left. They work on class at 7:00 AM.
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All right, maybe this person's so desperate for attention
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they're willing to have some dumb ass, like a knowingly dumb
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ass take on the Internet just for some likes and views.
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My girls in their 30s who are dating.
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I want to discuss an ick like a major ick that I recently
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discovered. Can I?
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Can I contribute? What's your new ick?
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What is it? And for men too, like you should
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watch this. Like don't do this.
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OK, Thanks. Thanks.
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Thanks. Yeah.
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I was on a date with a guy that I met in the wild.
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He asked me out, you know, just out and about.
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We were sitting next to each other.
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That's beautiful. Can you tell people more about
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that? That's nice.
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It's kind of tough. I feel like that's a tough, a
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cold approach. God bless them.
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And the date was going great. We were having a good time.
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We were dearly departed, having like a little drink and a little
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oysters and. That's an expensive date.
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Drinking oysters that would give me diarrhea.
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Is that the ick you get diarrhea?
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The conversation was flowing, and I don't remember what I was
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talking about, but I said something like, oh, you know,
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like when you're in your 30s like we are, and he goes, you're
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in your 30s. Whoa, that's a compliment.
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Means you look good for your age.
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Like this man's was shook. He literally scooched back like
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you're in your 30s and I'm like, yeah, like I'm I'm 32.
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Keep in mind this man was like 36 about to be 37 all.
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Right. Well, listen, maybe he was just
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shocked. I have to hear a little bit
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more. Was he was he turned off by it
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then? That's weird.
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But maybe he was just like, wow, you look good.
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You look 28 or something I guess I don't know.
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And I don't know if guys like, think that this is a compliment
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to be like, oh, you look younger.
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Well, if that's what he was trying to do, I feel like I need
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the attention. Maybe he thought you look 40
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like you're you're 32. I think you're 40.
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Sorry, I was looking for an older woman.
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I'm 32 I'm I'm everyday of 32 like I don't I.
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Don't know what that. Means I don't want to look
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younger. I'm not trying to look younger,
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so I don't know if that's what he was going for.
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Oh, I forgot to put the hat back normally after watching that
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weird red pill video. What the fuck?
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Or, but if he was genuinely shook like oh, you're you're in
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your 30s and he's low key about to be 37, how old did you think
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I was? Like did.
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You Hey, you know what's really interesting about this video?
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Girly Pop, my lips are not girly pop.
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I can't do it. There we go.
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Oh, it's interesting. You could have asked him that
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question. There's the point that I'm
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getting at. Why don't you ask him explore
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that with him? Oh, why is it a problem That's
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ask that question? Like that's what you need to do
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as an adult, especially as a woman.
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You need to be a little. I wouldn't even say it's, but
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people interpret setting boundaries as just ask him be
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like, Hey, is that a problem for you?
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And it's like, oh, no, maybe then he'll answer and then give
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him a chance to clarify. Maybe he's like, no, you just
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look really good for your age or I don't know, you know what I
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mean? Like, you know, that's intention
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matters. Him saying that, I don't think
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it's a red flag unless the fact that you didn't seem to suss it
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out and maybe you'll go on to tell us that you did.
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That's the issue. You don't think you were asking
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out somebody that's like 10 years younger than you?
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And then my question is like why?
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Did you ask him that question? Because to me, my first thought
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is like, younger women put up with a whole lot more.
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Did you ask him that question though?
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Then I would like, I know in the past I put up with a whole lot
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of bullshit for men that I am now looking back, I shouldn't
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have done. But I was younger and I was
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like, you know, stupid. Did you ask him that question?
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I don't know, Men don't do that. If you think you're
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complimenting us, you're not to say we look younger.
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I'm only 32 in the year 202632 is really not that old.
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I'm still pretty useful. I could tell.
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I can tell. I could tell why you're single.
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Just to be clear, just from the way that you portrayed this
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video, I could tell why you're single.
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You're obnoxious. At least I feel and red flag if
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a guy is ever trying to date girls 10 plus years younger than
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him. Well, it depends.
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I mean, if he's 37 trying to date 27 year olds, I don't
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really care about that. But like, yeah, if they're like
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22, sure, red flag. But again, you don't know that
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because you didn't ask him the question.
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Like what was the reason he said that?
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Red red red flag. We want the fully developed
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prefrontal cortexes to be appreciated.
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They're hard earned. Thank you.
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Well, yours obviously still hasn't.
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You didn't ask them a simple question.
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Why do you say that? I think that dogs should be
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allowed in restaurants. 100% disagree, I think if you can let
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a toddler into a restaurant you should be able to let a dog into
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a restaurant. A toddler is a human.
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What the? So I watched this video here and
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I was like haha silly dog take. People got really angry about it
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'cause I've been. I don't think you should have
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dogs in restaurants. What I don't understand though
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is why is this video called men proving why women are wanting
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children with them less and less?
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I don't understand that take at all.
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Hey, do young men even know that kids are like, actually human
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people at this point? Hold on one second.
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I'm, I'm not, I'm really, listen, I'm not trying to get
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into the gender war here. I'm really not trying to get
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into the gender war here. I know more women who think that
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their dogs are babies than men. Women are like, oh, this is my
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baby. My mom is one of them crazy.
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Her dogs are by the way, she adopted traumatized dogs.
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They won't stop barking at me. I think a man hit them not hard
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enough. Just kidding.
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That's bad. Don't hit dogs, OK?
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Unless they're mean. I'm just kidding.
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Anyway, I know multiple me female family members so I don't
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understand. She's a she's.
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I don't I don't get it. I know multiple female family
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members and I know I understand this is like anecdotal or
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whatever but I feel like girls do this like oh this is my baby
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and by the way whatever that's fine.
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I think it's cringe but I'm not like my pants about it.
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But I don't know what the fuck she's talking about.
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And I'm back, my apologies. Women's fear drop afollow and
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let's get ready to talk about this immediately.
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Because this is exactly what I mean when I keep saying like you
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can always instantly tell when men who claim they want children
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have never actually spent a long period of time taking care of
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kids. Did he like, did he claim you
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wanted children? What?
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And then maybe like you're the fun uncle that comes in and
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throws them around for a minute and then you get tired and
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leave. I guess that's the meta, you
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know? I'm having a baby soon by the
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way. I'm locked in on getting my
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together. Dude.
18:05
I'm getting ready to wake up in the middle of the night, take
18:07
care of that baby, relieve my wife of significant amounts of
18:11
stress. Cause postpartum is real.
18:13
We're seeing that with Lindsay Clancy.
18:14
That situation is fucking crazy. All I know is I want to make
18:17
sure I reduce the amount of stress my wife has so that she
18:20
doesn't have an episode. You know what I mean?
18:22
Stay in bed. I'll get up I'll and suck the
18:25
milk out of your boobs. I've I know about the colostrum.
18:29
I'm ready to feed in the middle of the night.
18:30
I'm going to get a little free fridge to put next to the bed so
18:35
I don't have to get I just get out.
18:36
Boom, boom, boom. I'm on it, baby.
18:41
Anyway, I want to have kids and we're having a baby soon.
18:44
So, you know, men, be ready. Support your wives.
18:47
And I do want to point out, Sir, I don't think you have to wish.
18:49
I think you're already there. It's men like you, which is why
18:52
women and motherhood and all of those things is laughed at.
18:56
It's belittled and it's not. This guy, you think this guy's
18:59
fucking gay as hell? He's probably like super like
19:01
woke. What do you mean?
19:02
Why do people laugh at motherhood because of him?
19:04
What did he say? I don't remember any of this.
19:06
Taken seriously as hard work. That's why statistically young
19:09
men without kids are pulling as wanting kids more than young
19:12
women. Because apparently not only do
19:15
you all want babies like a kid wants a puppy, but you actually
19:17
think kids are like, comparable to pets men.
19:21
What's so funny is that like, maybe her overall message isn't
19:23
so bad, but she's so desperate to say it that she fucking
19:26
melted down and virtue signalled over this situation.
19:30
I guess it's just like silly goosery.
19:31
Like, why would you have a fucking meltdown about this guy
19:33
who's just talking about how he wants dogs in restaurants?
19:36
And like, I know in the video he like compared it to a kid.
19:38
He's like, kids are stinky too and they're dirty, so why not
19:40
his kids poop themselves, die, whatever.
19:43
But this is the video you're going to go off on and this
19:45
one's fucking viral. I'm actually shocked.
19:47
I. Think that you can have four or
19:49
five kids and it's nothing in the same way that you can have
19:52
like 4 or five dogs just running around in the yard.
19:54
Who the fucks talk about four or five kids?
19:56
4 kids? I would like 4 kids with my
19:58
wife. We're going to see how it goes.
19:59
We're going to have the first one and we'll see what's going
20:00
on. The ultimate is my wife's
20:01
decision. But it's a lot of work and like,
20:04
I think after four, it's too many, you know what I mean?
20:06
Like, you don't want to end up having like a Duggar situation
20:08
where like your kids are helping raise your kids and then like
20:10
inappropriate boundaries are created and then like, you know,
20:13
shit gets disgusting. You know, I, you know, I want to
20:15
be make sure you're you're you're able to be attentive to
20:17
every single of your children. What the fuck are you talking
20:20
about, though? What?
20:22
Although funny enough, I feel the same way about having more
20:25
than two dogs usually, and the reason because of that is
20:27
because. Aren't you?
20:29
Aren't you comparing dogs to children now?
20:31
Both with kids and with pets, those responsibilities often do
20:34
just fall back on the wife you're.
20:36
Comparing children to the dogs now like he did.
20:41
OK, you stupid asshole. You know what this is?
20:43
To me? This is like she doesn't want to
20:45
have kids, which by the way, I think is valid.
20:46
That's fine. I think a lot of the reason
20:48
people don't want to have kids is like there was a huge like a
20:50
media push when I was younger. She's probably my age.
20:55
That was an insult. But no, I'm just kidding.
20:59
There is a big media push talking about how we're
21:00
overpopulated and all that. And so I think that that's why
21:02
people don't want to have kids as much.
21:04
I'm not going to do like the feminism virtue signal, like,
21:06
oh, women have agency over themselves, which might be a
21:08
level of truth to it. But I think that's more of like
21:09
men, if you want to have kids, step up and be a better, you
21:11
know, husband and partner and father.
21:14
So it's valid. But like, it seems like you
21:15
don't want to have kids. It's like you're just crying
21:18
about it. You got to make sure that we
21:19
know it. Every day, every one of your
21:21
takes is about you don't want to have kids.
21:22
You know what I mean? Maybe the thing that scares me
21:24
most is that things have gotten so bad that you're all making me
21:26
aggressively openly pro kids this month.
21:29
Maybe that's also because I've been talking to someone that
21:31
really gives like dad energy. You're.
21:33
Talking to Santa Claus? That's cool.
21:36
Scaring me. I should probably go block him.
21:38
I'm terrified. She got a new boyfriend and it's
21:41
making her want a baby. Great stuff.
21:44
So you sucked. Not only am I in favor of
21:46
repealing the 19th, I don't think women should be in
21:48
government offices. Why?
21:49
What the fuck are you talking dude?
21:50
Why? Why is it that the women that
21:52
think that women should be able to vote talk?
21:54
Stop talking then just shut the up.
21:56
Don't talk, just stop talking. If you think if you are a woman
22:00
that thinks women shouldn't talk or vote, don't talk or vote.
22:03
Just shut your mouth and keep it to yourself.
22:05
Jesus Christ. Look at Massachusetts.
22:07
What happened in Massachusetts dude?
22:09
If you see what just passed in Massachusetts and you don't have
22:13
a. What happened?
22:14
Tell me. You tell me.
22:15
Visceral I'll. You tell me.
22:19
Sick response in your gut. Truly.
22:21
What is it clinically something wrong with?
22:23
It tell me what it is. What?
22:24
If the baby was going to die after they were born.
22:26
Oh, I think she's talking about. So basically, Massachusetts made
22:30
it easier for doctors to make medical decisions for whether
22:33
you should get an abortion in like a late term if there's a
22:36
threat to the mother or the child.
22:38
That's what she's referring to. That's it.
22:42
What if they weren't? I don't know.
22:44
You're not a doctor. So my doctor's like this baby's
22:46
going to die when they're born after like a year or a couple
22:48
months, they're going to live horribly.
22:50
I think that it would be better to get an abortion so everybody
22:53
has feels a little better about it.
22:56
You know what, what if they actually what if they weren't?
22:58
They're giving doctors the opportunity to make that
23:00
decision because, you know, doctors have this thing called
23:02
experience being doctors, you fucking idiot.
23:05
So you saying so you, I don't know, Mindy in Montana saying,
23:08
well, what if they wouldn't? I mean, like, wow.
23:10
Thanks for the the next level commentary.
23:13
Hi, I'm Mindy. I'll be your Christian autism
23:14
mom. Holistic home birth, bestie.
23:16
Wow. Jesus Christ.
23:18
Hey, you want to know what's better than a holistic home
23:19
birth? Get a scheduled C-section.
23:23
All of your OBGY NS and their wives are getting those done
23:26
because they're better. I don't know what else to tell
23:28
you. And make sure they stitch up all
23:29
7 layers back up instead of only three like they're taught inside
23:33
of whatever vagina C-section school.
23:36
All right. But the ones that are going to
23:37
only do 3 layers are usually the older.
23:38
Your OBGY NS that don't know what the fuck out of me that
23:41
know Mindy and Montana and follow her.
23:43
If they this is what you do, Go into an office, say hi, I'd like
23:46
to get a scheduled C-section and if they and just say, can I just
23:50
see your social media phone. If they follow Mindy and
23:52
Montana, kick them in the shins and leave and break all their
23:56
windows on the way out. OK, that's my that's my advice
23:59
to you, but. What if they found out late that
24:01
their baby was going to have Down syndrome?
24:03
OK, so eugenics is OK now? I mean late, no, once it's late
24:07
term I don't think you should be able to get an abortion for Down
24:09
syndrome. But like listen, having a kid
24:10
with Down syndrome is insanely difficult.
24:12
My wife works for people with ID DS.
24:14
It can be very difficult to support your your kid.
24:17
If you want to have the kid, I think it's great.
24:18
I think the government should give you as many resources as
24:19
they possibly can. But at the end of the day, it's
24:22
a lot more difficult than you think.
24:23
I'm sorry. Like there's a, you know, I say
24:26
catch that a little sooner, make the decision a little sooner.
24:28
But late term, I don't think that you can get a late term
24:30
abortion because they might have Down syndrome.
24:31
So I think you're being ridiculous.
24:33
What if the baby was a result of rape?
24:35
Yeah, well, you, I imagine you'd get an abortion sooner.
24:37
Horrible things that happened to a mother are not the child's
24:40
responsibility to deal with the consequences.
24:42
Check this out. She's not a mother, she's a rape
24:44
victim. She's a rape survivor and she
24:45
doesn't have to have the kid because that is mentally,
24:47
physically and emotionally abusive to that person.
24:49
Anybody who disagrees is a child abuser or just an abuser in
24:52
general. Sorry, I'm aware.
24:54
I, I, you know, sorry. A lot of times they'll justify
24:56
like 12 or really religious people.
24:57
I see it all the time. Just finally 12 year olds
24:58
getting raped. You're just, that's like you're,
25:02
you're giving more agency and autonomy to an abuser than you
25:04
are to the person who was abused.
25:07
Yeah, You want to get an abortion?
25:08
Get an abortion. You guys don't care.
25:09
This is a problem. It's not.
25:10
These Christians will sit here and they'll say dumb shit like,
25:12
oh, I'm anti abortion. But then like, you're totally
25:14
the number one people that are taking food out of their mouths
25:16
with the kids. Oh, yeah.
25:18
I think everybody should be forced to have birth to give
25:21
birth. By the way, I don't support
25:22
healthcare reform. I don't support children having
25:26
food in in schools, I don't support vaccines for children
25:28
that keep these children alive. I don't really support anything
25:31
that helps children. Kids from other countries
25:33
fucking bomb them. Going to vote for the guy that
25:35
bombs children because he's in the Epstein files and wants you
25:38
to forget about it. So you guys are not pro-life.
25:41
You guys are pro birth. Shut the fuck up.
25:43
And yes, the foster care system is broken, but it's still better
25:46
than death My OK my own mom. But you wouldn't.
25:50
It wouldn't really be death though because you're not really
25:51
a person when you're like 6 weeks in there.
25:54
Who had the worst childhood you could imagine was a result of
25:58
the foster care system? Yeah, but she raised a horrible,
26:00
shitty daughter, so I don't know.
26:04
But even she wouldn't change her life.
26:05
I don't care why, because I gave her my dad, her 35 years of
26:08
marriage with him. That's awesome.
26:10
Me her whole life that she has, she has said she wouldn't change
26:14
a thing. I'm happy for her.
26:16
I don't care. Because it made her who she is
26:18
today. Even though the foster care
26:20
system is broken, it's better than death, you know, I haven't
26:24
called myself an abolitionist, but this gets me pretty stinking
26:28
close. Stinking.
26:30
See, I I that's what. That's the last straw.
26:32
And now I hate you. I just don't think that you can
26:34
trust somebody who wears A silicone wedding band all the
26:37
time. Why?
26:39
I don't really understand. Isn't it supposed to be like, I
26:41
mean like I have my my ring 50 bucks but has sentimental value.
26:45
I think I got it off like Etsy or something.
26:47
I think my wife got it for me. Herbings were like a collective
26:50
of like I think four or five or four, maybe 600 bucks or
26:52
something is though engagement ring in the wedding band.
26:54
It was cute. It's like a Disney thing.
26:55
It's an emerald. It's it's nice.
26:57
We didn't want to go super crazy, but I understand wearing
26:59
silicone, especially if you're working and you don't want to
27:01
like get caught on something or I don't know, whatever.
27:03
OK. Maybe at all.
27:06
Why? I think originally the silicone
27:08
wedding bands were for like, you know, if you work in
27:12
construction or you're a weight lifter and you still want to
27:17
wear your wedding band, but you want it to be safe and not rip
27:19
your finger off. Sure.
27:20
Yeah, OK. That's one.
27:22
I mean, what do they look like? Here we go.
27:23
Definitely not AI wedding bands. I don't know, they look like
27:27
they could be nice. I don't think it's a big issue,
27:29
especially since they're cheaper.
27:31
They're cheaper than regular wedding bands and stuff.
27:32
And I think it's, it's nice to to have like an option of
27:35
something less expensive. It's supposed to be a
27:37
representation of your love together, not something that you
27:39
can like, lose and freak out immensely about and like, cry
27:42
because you have to take out a second mortgage on your house
27:44
for it. Thing that's fine.
27:47
I guess my thing is like don't wear a ring.
27:50
If it's a dangerous to wear a ring, maybe don't wear a ring.
27:55
OK. I don't really what?
27:58
What's this take? I don't get it.
28:00
Thanks. Thanks, McKenna.
28:03
The people who choose to wear like, especially men who wear
28:06
the just the black band, I hate it.
28:12
Are you married or you? I think she's she's got to be.
28:14
I think this is a lesbian. She's a lesbian or something.
28:19
I understand. Listen, my wife's like a
28:20
generational D1 man hater. She's not cringe about it
28:23
though. You're just like you're just
28:25
looking for things to hate men about.
28:26
My wife doesn't have to look for those things.
28:28
There's already plenty out there and hating men for wearing a
28:31
silicone running band I think is stupid and lame.
28:34
And I don't know what I think it says about you, but it's not
28:36
something good, OK? It's not.
28:39
It's not. I don't like what you're getting
28:41
into at all. What's funny is this person's
28:43
like, counts as if they're a comedian.
28:44
So they're having like this dumb cake and they're going to be
28:46
like, oh, it's just a joke. But it's like, obviously she's
28:48
trying to say it in a joking way but she believes this dumb joke,
28:52
so good job I guess. I think, I don't know, do I
28:57
think it's misogyny? Maybe, maybe.
29:00
I think it's like it, it kind of betrays some traditionalist
29:05
leanings. Just don't wear the ring.
29:08
Like why do you have to have your ring on at every moment of
29:11
the day? And also, why would you choose?
29:12
I love my wife. I love my wife.
29:15
I don't know. I love my wife and I and this is
29:17
one of those ways where I express my love for my wife.
29:19
What? Black.
29:20
It's like, well, that's for men. Medals are for women.
29:23
I don't know. I'm working on this.
29:25
This is percolating. Please I.
29:26
Can tell you're definitely working.
29:27
On it, please leave your comments on why you think people
29:30
who wear the silicone wedding bands are wrong and bad.
29:35
OK, cool. Hot take, but Bear from
29:37
Obsession is a far worse person than the Joker.
29:42
That is a pretty hot take. I mean the Joker killed people,
29:44
shot a woman in the spine with a gun.
29:46
Oracle, what we call her now Bear was a coward who made a
29:51
wish that he didn't realize would happen and then kind of
29:54
floundered through the movie. He's more of like the weakness
29:56
of men who don't try to do the right thing and try to take the
29:59
easy way out. Joker is a legitimate murderer
30:02
killer. I mean, frankly, we talk about
30:03
how Batman is almost maybe almost as bad as her.
30:05
Excuse me, as the Joker, if you think about it.
30:08
I mean, he won't kill the Joker cause of no gun rule.
30:10
Meanwhile he means he's like a quadrillion billionaire living
30:13
in the poorest city in the entire world, you know?
30:16
Where's your Ubi? Am I right, guys?
30:20
So maybe, maybe Batman likes it. Maybe he likes the Joker because
30:22
he gets to go out and beat people up every day.
30:25
It's like, yeah, I want to do this.
30:26
It gives me a Maybe he's just bored.
30:28
Maybe Batman's an assault too. Everyone knows that Joker is
30:31
back insane but. He's a murderer.
30:33
The reason why Bear is worse is the fact that he has remorse and
30:36
guilt, but he keeps on making the worst possible choices
30:39
knowing that it's wrong. We don't have to really engage.
30:44
You think that this guy's remorseful and guilt and and and
30:46
feels guilt and yet Joker doesn't that's I feel like
30:50
that's an indicator he may be a little worse.
30:53
And Bear is one of the number one examples of an undisciplined
30:57
person chasing lust over actual love because.
31:01
I don't know if that's true. I don't really feel like doing a
31:03
detailed analysis on this movie. It was a good movie, but it's
31:06
like, do we need to do a detailed analysis on this movie?
31:09
You're just so flat out wrong, but I don't really know what the
31:13
fuck you're talking about. When you're chasing lust, you're
31:17
also chasing. Yeah, maybe Bear is worse than
31:19
Lego Joker. True.
31:21
Maybe he's worse than Lego Joker because Lego Joker is just
31:24
Legos. Seen infatuation bear never
31:27
actually loved Nikki he loved the idea of Nikki he.
31:30
You just, I hate when people say stuff like that.
31:32
It makes me want to eat my own actual because it's like we've
31:35
we've heard people say this, they think it's so profound.
31:38
We don't know if like, of course he didn't actually love her.
31:39
He didn't really know her that well.
31:41
They maybe they could have fallen in love.
31:42
I mean, there's there's hints that they might have even been
31:44
able to be together if he didn't do the the wish the way that
31:47
way. But when people are like, you
31:49
don't love me, you love the idea of me.
31:50
It's like, OK, stop, Please don't tell me that I just like
31:53
you actually make me want to like just suck my like you want
31:55
me. You make me want to be able to
31:56
prolapse my ants and put it in my mouth and just suck my
31:58
through my ants. My wife's still in the room.
32:04
It's just like I, I don't know how to engage with this.
32:06
It's just so stupid. It kills me.
32:09
Love the idea of Nikki liking him back that way.
32:12
Oh my goodness. And.
32:12
From the start of this movie, you can see that this man's fear
32:15
of rejection is also tied to his insecurity.
32:18
Wow, profound. And genuinely, any sane, moral
32:21
person in their right mind would never accept sexual advances
32:24
from a person they think is not in their right mind.
32:27
Well, I think at the time he might have thought that, but it
32:29
doesn't matter because you're insane.
32:31
Bear fully knew that that wasn't the real Nikki.
32:33
And yet. He I don't think that that's
32:34
true at a certain point, but OK. Continue doing what he did that
32:37
night and that. I think that's still for debate.
32:39
Again, we don't have to. I don't care.
32:41
Well, you're insane. That's.
32:41
What makes Bear so bad? The fact that he holds this
32:44
remorse and guilt over knowing what he's doing is wrong, but
32:47
yet he still makes the worst decisions possible for his own
32:50
pleasure, for his own benefits, for his own insecurity.
32:54
And that's what makes him a worse person than the Joker who
32:57
doesn't have guilt over what he does.
32:58
Oh, yeah? Well, I think you're worse than
32:59
Casey Anthony. So where are we now?
33:02
Because you have guilt or something?
33:04
I don't know. Stop calling everything a basic
33:06
human right. Someone just commented on my
33:09
video. They getting Popeyes for dinner
33:11
is a basic human right not. I think they're joking, but I
33:16
would maybe agree with that. Popeyes definitely better than
33:19
KFC. Just dinner, but getting Popeye
33:21
Popeyes for dinner. I promise your five piece
33:24
chitter combo is not a basic human right.
33:27
And then? I'm not understanding why we're
33:30
we're alting over a very obvious joke about how Popeye's chicken
33:33
is a basic human right. This person says GTA 6 is a
33:36
basic human right. It's AI think it's a joke.
33:40
Why is she alting? Someone called makeup a basic
33:42
human right, bro. No it's not.
33:46
It's not. I feel like this is one of those
33:49
situations where like the right can't meme for I think everybody
33:54
understands, like some things people feel in a western country
33:56
should be a basic human right, like clean drinking water, maybe
33:59
healthcare, maybe housing. We could talk to the
34:01
conversations about that. And maybe you disagree and maybe
34:03
I agree and that's fine. But when somebody says that
34:06
Popeye's chicken, specifically the chicken wings with BBQ sauce
34:09
on them slamming, by the way, Ho Gee, I've never had a better
34:14
chicken wing. I'm look, I'll, I'll take a I'll
34:16
take a brand deal when when people and someone says that
34:22
they're joking and I really just don't understand, like what's
34:25
going on with some conservatives in their brain that don't
34:29
understand jokes. I don't understand it,
34:34
especially from the right who like they're like, we need Elon
34:37
Musk to free up Twitter so we could say jokes again, rate
34:40
racial slurs. We need to say that's what it
34:43
was. They're jokes.
34:43
Such conservatives are racial slurs and look at them.
34:45
They're part of the turning point USA.
34:47
Oh my God. To me, like your inability to
34:51
take a joke, it just kind of shows like you're a little not
34:54
smart, right? You're just looking for
34:56
something to complain about. And this one's such obvious rage
34:59
bait. It's just not true.
35:01
Like you guys were you guys were begging people to make it, make
35:04
the dark jokes, make dark jokes. And all of a sudden somebody
35:06
makes a joke about how you should have access to dark meat,
35:09
dark chicken meat. I think it's a thigh.
35:11
I don't know. And you're having a meltdown.
35:15
I don't know, dude. It's just like, you guys got to
35:17
get your together. It's kind of embarrassing for
35:18
you. Learn to meme a little bit.
35:19
Learn to take a fucking joke that isn't a racial slur.
35:21
Maybe it's like an maybe it's like a, maybe it's an autism
35:23
thing. I'm not trying to be rude, but
35:25
maybe part of The thing is like, hey, if unless I unless the joke
35:28
is laid out of my face and explained, I can't understand
35:31
it. So that's why they love racial
35:32
slurs because it's very basic. That's not a joke, but they just
35:34
love that. But they can't get this, which
35:36
is so nuanced, so nuanced me, when I want the best chicken in
35:42
the world, you know what I'm saying?
35:43
The boys are so funny because what do you mean Billy went to?
35:45
The boys are funny. Thank you.
35:48
I know. Store and grab this bouquet.
35:51
I think that's a beautiful bouquet.
35:52
He just need to fill it with more water.
35:54
And thought it was the cutest, prettiest one there.
35:57
What's wrong? Hell yeah, it looks like a nice
35:58
bouquet. It's got some red, white and
35:59
blue Baby America Day Wrong. With it, nothing, nothing.
36:02
We just have really, really different taste.
36:04
I got you flowers for Memorial Day and it's so kind.
36:07
They're on theme. It's true he feels insecure
36:12
about this pic. That's my bigger thing.
36:13
I think it's fine that she wants to poke fun, to be a little
36:15
silly with him, but he seems like he was really trying, you
36:18
know? I love it.
36:20
I love them truly, truly, she sounds.
36:22
A little sarcastic. I love them.
36:23
They're so you. That's maybe a backwards back
36:26
end compliment. What does that mean?
36:28
I am patriotic. What the the?
36:32
Boys are all right. Well, I guess my question how
36:35
often do you think he gets her flowers?
36:37
I used to get my flowers for my wife all the time but then she's
36:40
pregnant and now she when she smells them she gets sick so I
36:42
haven't got her flowers in a while.
36:43
Actually kind of pisses me off. But I usually try to get stuff
36:46
that she likes. I'll do it like routinely.
36:48
They're cheap from Costco. It's like 16 bucks for a nice
36:50
big old flower thing. So I'm seeing a lot here.
36:53
Seemed like a silly little relationship thing.
36:55
He got her nice flowers that he liked that were on theme.
36:58
She's like, oh, these are like silly and fun.
37:00
She's poking fun in him. It kind of communicates to me
37:01
that maybe he doesn't get her flowers that often, but then her
37:03
reaction to it maybe will make him not want to get flowers for
37:05
her because he feels a little bit insecure and violated by
37:08
what she's doing. And they don't really have the
37:09
communication to really talk about that.
37:12
That's what I look at. It's like a little situation,
37:14
but you know, you don't want to develop resentment.
37:16
So hopefully they talked it out. But we are not here to discuss
37:20
whether or not she should have made this into a video, but
37:22
rather the point that she was trying to make.
37:25
I think she was just trying to be silly.
37:26
But like, yeah, sometimes. Keep your relationship to
37:28
yourself man. The boys are so funny because
37:29
what do you mean Billy went to the store and grabbed this
37:32
bouquet. And thought it was like we're
37:33
watching it again. Cutest, prettiest one there.
37:36
What's wrong with it? Nothing.
37:37
Nothing. We just have really, really
37:39
different tastes. I got you flowers for Memorial
37:41
Day and it's so kind. They're on theme.
37:45
I love it. I love them.
37:47
Truly, truly. I love them.
37:48
They're so you. What does that mean?
37:51
I am patriotic. Gentlemen, my name is Bear
37:54
Fiorda. All right, Bear Fiorda.
37:56
Interesting haircut. I hit people for a living and
37:59
after many. What the hell?
38:01
Gift giving. I have some advice for you.
38:04
It is not a gift to someone else.
38:06
If it's something that you like and they don't, maybe I think
38:12
that there's something sweet and special about sharing something
38:15
with somebody that you like. You know, you could obviously
38:18
say that he should be more in tune with what she likes, but I
38:20
think that there is nothing wrong with yeah, I like this.
38:23
Maybe you will. That's such, that's so cute and
38:25
innocent. You know, I think that it's fine
38:27
for her to like gentle parent to be like, I like these, these are
38:29
really cute. But I like this type of there's
38:31
nothing wrong with that type of communication.
38:34
But yeah, man, I think it's cute when somebody's like, I like
38:36
this. Maybe you will too.
38:37
Like what is that's so innocent and fun.
38:38
You know, that's like trying different foods.
38:41
I was like, oh, you might be the like this.
38:42
I won't. I hate onions, but I'll still
38:44
try it for it and then throw up. In this circumstance, she
38:48
clearly, no matter what she's telling the guy, does not like
38:51
these flowers. I guess so, but that's a
38:53
problem. Men are dumb as shit.
38:56
You got to be more direct with men treat men like they're all
38:58
autistic, and that's a good thing.
39:00
This is one of the actually deep conversation.
39:02
One of the beautiful things about people with neuro
39:03
divergent right, is that we could find out that we could all
39:06
benefit from some of the the the methods, you know what I mean,
39:09
of, of helping different people, right, Some coping mechanisms
39:14
when you have an exaggerated issue because you have some kind
39:16
of intellectual disability. Sometimes we can extrapolate
39:18
that, you know, the fidget spinners.
39:19
That's obviously good for people with neurodivergence, but a
39:22
regular person, well, let's not say regular, let's somebody non
39:25
neurodivergent can benefit from that kind of simulation
39:27
sometimes too. So it's kind of it's kind of
39:33
like that they're not her style, not her color.
39:35
She doesn't like them. It doesn't matter.
39:37
The guy, however, really liked these flowers.
39:40
And so the idea formed in his head, I'm going to gift these to
39:44
my girl as as like a present. But really I like, I love that
39:48
for him, like them. And I want to see them now.
39:51
I don't know if it's that he like to want to see them.
39:53
I think it might have been more like I like these look nice to
39:55
me and I think she'll like these too.
39:57
And I want to show appreciation. He could have thought that she
39:59
would like them. But he never said that, did he?
40:02
And by what? By the way, guys, there is
40:04
nothing wrong with getting yourself flowers.
40:06
If you want some flowers, you. Oh, I don't understand why.
40:08
I don't understand why the the focus here is that the guy
40:11
wanted flowers. I think that the I don't think
40:15
that that's where this is going. I think that he just liked them.
40:18
They thought, oh, those are nice.
40:19
Let me get them for my girlfriend.
40:20
I don't know. Get yourself those flowers and
40:22
you put them wherever you want in your house, but it's not a
40:24
gift to someone else. If you're buying it because you
40:28
want it and not because you think they will really enjoy
40:31
them. I guess maybe we are.
40:35
I guess so. OK, sure.
40:37
Why not? I don't thank my husband for
40:39
helping me around the house and honestly?
40:41
Boo, Boo, you guys know what? You guys know my deal.
40:44
I think that you should thank your spouse for doing everything
40:46
that's expected of them. OK, I'm not kidding.
40:49
I think that that's a good idea. I do that for my wife.
40:50
She does it for me. Everyone loves a good pizza
40:53
party at work for doing your job, and we all prefer it to
40:56
getting a raise. Right?
40:58
That's why they keep doing it. If they just knew that we wanted
41:00
a raise, if we actually wanted a raise, businesses would just pay
41:03
you more. But we don't want pizza once a
41:05
week cold as. OK, you shouldn't think yours
41:08
either because it's not help, it's participation.
41:11
I don't ask my kids or my husband.
41:13
Oh, could you do that for me as a favor to me?
41:16
Because it's not for me. It's for this house and I feel.
41:18
Like when my wife says that can you do this for me, it's more of
41:20
like, it's not a favor to her and I understand that, but she's
41:23
saying it in a nice way instead of saying can you do something?
41:25
You know what I mean? So I always appreciate it.
41:27
This family and in this house, in this family, everyone does
41:29
their part. That's the expectation that I've
41:31
created and that I have both for my husband and for our two sons.
41:35
I agree with that. And you want to know what else I
41:36
do? I say thank you to the guy at
41:38
McDonald's for making me food four times a day.
41:41
And I say thank you for not judging me for coming here 1/4
41:43
time. He only saw it three times
41:46
because it was a shift change. But so that was a little
41:49
embarrassing. But I say thank you to, I tip
41:51
people at restaurants. They're, they're doing the job
41:54
as expected of them. I, you know what I mean?
41:56
Like I, it's, this is like kind of a ridiculous thing.
41:58
I think it feels nice to be appreciated for doing things,
42:00
even if it's something you're supposed to do.
42:02
It feels nice to be appreciated for doing that.
42:04
That's it. And you should thank each other
42:06
mutually. You know, you shouldn't feel
42:07
entitled, like, you know, if you're a person, especially if
42:11
you're a guy. And I could see why maybe men
42:13
would fail more at this, Like, you're a lazy man.
42:15
You know, that man shouldn't feel like he's getting thanked
42:20
for doing something he shouldn't have to do.
42:22
But it should be established that this is something you're
42:24
supposed to do, but you should be thanked for it.
42:26
I understand, like, the idea of like men being less involved in
42:29
the household, so thanking them maybe makes it seem like they're
42:31
helping you when the reality is, is they're doing what they're
42:33
supposed to do. But that's a whole different
42:35
conversation. This isn't about the issue with
42:38
like whether you're getting thanked or not.
42:39
This is about the issue whether we have like proper boundaries
42:42
and we were raised properly to make sure that men and women
42:44
were both contributing equally in their relationship with
42:46
whatever that relationship dynamic calls for.
42:48
So that's a positive reinforcement.
42:50
If I'm not going to congratulate a fish for swimming, I'm not
42:53
going to thank someone for doing what they're supposed to do.
42:55
My husband takes on his fair share of the mental invisible
42:58
labor, the child care and the domestic labor without being
43:01
asked, without seeing it as a favor to me.
43:04
So then why can't you thank him for that?
43:06
He's not taking something off my plate when he cooks dinner for
43:08
the kids while I'm handling sports practice.
43:10
He's doing what any grown adult should be doing.
43:12
Yeah, and you should thank you for doing the sports stuff, and
43:14
you should thank him for making food.
43:16
Also. You could tell that this woman's
43:17
not stressed at all. Because here's the thing.
43:19
Look it up. This is really something that I
43:21
heard once and I decided it's true.
43:23
Having a If you're having a girl, being more stressed
43:26
increases its liveliness. You're going to have a girl, two
43:28
boys, 0 stress in this woman's life.
43:30
OK, like that's fact. Maybe, I don't know.
43:34
And he's done it consistently since our sons were born.
43:37
And I appreciate that I. So express your appreciation.
43:40
Appreciate his consistency, his stepping in before I have to
43:43
ask, his anticipation of not just my needs, but those of her
43:46
kids. Yeah, that's something you
43:47
should thank him for. And our home.
43:49
He knows when the boys are out of mouthwash.
43:50
He knows when our son needs a Med refill.
43:52
See that stuff? I do the I'll know when the meds
43:54
need to be refilled but I don't know the mouthwash.
43:57
That's my wifes responsibility. He knows to e-mail the teacher
44:00
back to answer her question, and for those things, I thank him.
44:03
But so often men expect praise for doing the things that their
44:06
wives have done, completely unacknowledged and unappreciated
44:09
for basically ever. OK, well, it doesn't seem like
44:11
you're in that boat because your husband appreciates you, so
44:14
you're kind of riding the backs of somebody else's straw, you
44:17
know, frustration. But again, men and women should
44:18
both thank each other for the things that they're expected to
44:21
do. And they do things around the
44:22
house as a favor to their wives. They don't take on those tasks
44:25
regularly. They don't own.
44:27
A different issue like I said. Those tasks, they do them
44:29
sporadically when their wife's head is about to explode or has
44:32
already exploded, and that is the difference.
44:35
Yeah, you. I understand what your
44:37
frustration is, but you have no idea what the fuck you're
44:39
talking about.