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Healing from Childhood Trauma ❤️‍🩹 · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Hey riders, welcome back. It's December 23, 2025 already
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  and we are just couple of days away from Christmas.
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  You know everywhere you look, lights are shining, families are
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  gathering, people are smiling. Its is that season of Chai isn't
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  it? But let's be real for a second,
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  for many of us, Christmas and the holidays are not always
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  joyful. Isn't it?
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  Sometimes this time of year brings back memories that are
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  not easy. Childhood memories, pain, scars
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  that we did not ask for. And today I want to talk about
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  something that touches so many people quietly but deeply,
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  healing from childhood trauma. Welcome back to today's episode
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  of Healing from childhood trauma.
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  I am Doctor Mukund, and today we gonna disclose or discuss about
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  something that I know all of us went through Indiana some way or
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  another. And some people still, no matter
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  what, having hard time acknowledging the fact that they
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  are still healing from those traumas, no matter how old they
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  grew up, isn't it? I also know this is kind of a
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  very, very sensitive topic. It's going to touch so many
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  hearts. So here is the thing.
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  Take a deep breath. Grab a cup of coffee or tea or
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  green tea, whatever you feel like because this is going to
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  take a while to unpack a lot of stuff.
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  Alright, so yeah, like many of us from the childhood we all
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  been or you know somewhere, another, we all get affected in
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  the name of love, parenting what not.
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  Oh God, this green is great. First of all, you see, childhood
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  is supposed to be safe, a warm, a place where we feel protected.
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  But many it wasn't. Maybe it was neglect, maybe it
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  was a manipulation from your own parents and family members.
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  Maybe it was a pressure to be someone you weren't.
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  May be even worse. And the thing about childhood
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  trauma is it doesn't just disappear, you know, it still
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  leaves inside of us. It still shows up in a way we
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  trust people, in the way we handle stress, in the way we
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  sometimes sabotage ourselves without even knowing why.
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  I am 100% sure many of us hearing this will definitely
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  relate with something I am saying here so.
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  But let me tell you something. You are not weak for carrying
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  those cars. You are not broken.
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  You are just human being and the fact that you are still here,
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  still moving forward, listening to me right now, that already
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  means you are strong. Yeah, got it.
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  I will give a little bit of, you know, kind of a ride metaphor
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  kind of a thing so that I will correlate with this something
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  like a motorcycle ride to the life.
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  So you can understand it in a much, much deeper sense.
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  Let's just say I think like think of life like a long
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  motorcycle ride, like the childhood trauma.
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  Let's just say that's like childhood.
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  Homer trauma is like hitting potholes you never saw coming.
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  And then what happens when you are going on the road, you hit a
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  pothole, your bike shakes, your balance is tested.
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  Sometimes you even think you might fall, but you keep riding.
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  The road continues the same way in the life too.
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  Healing doesn't means the someone who hurt you in some way
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  or another. It's not that you will forgive
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  them or you just leave them or anything.
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  It's just means you learn how to ride through them.
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  How to keep your hands steady on the throttle, how to keep your
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  eyes on the road ahead instead of looking back.
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  So instead of focusing on why they did to us and everything,
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  you simply direct your focus towards how I can get out of it
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  as soon as possible and then redirect my focus towards my
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  life. Because the moment you dwell on
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  why that person did that to you and all these things, specially
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  when it comes to the close proximity people like friends,
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  family, your own parents, siblings, whatever it may be, it
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  is not going to heal just like that in a minute or in a day or
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  in a month or you know, for some people it really, really takes
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  years. It does.
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  And there is no cap for it. So healing takes time.
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  It does. And let me tell you something, I
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  have a one of my, you know, colleague during my medicine
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  time, he was used to say like, Oh my God, my dad did that, my
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  mom did that, my grandfather did that and still that did that and
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  what not. And tell you what he is already
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  35 plus years of age and he is been telling me the same thing
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  from the day one of my medical school till I graduated and
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  still continues. So I am not blaming that person
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  in the 1st place because I am just listening to his story.
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  That's all it is. And guess what, for him, the
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  healing didn't even completed yet he is still healing because
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  that's the level of trauma he went through when he was a
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  child. And I'll give one more story.
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  While I was working in my job as a doctor, I heard a few stories
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  from girls especially one of them shared with me like the
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  actual childhood trauma kind of an abuse came literally from her
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  own uncle. Like literally abusing kind of a
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  thing. I mean, touching inappropriately
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  and stuff like that. And that uncle was none other
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  than that girl's mother's brother, right?
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  And she said, like, I still carry that trauma.
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  It happened somewhere around when I was like 10 years old.
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  Now I am like 25 and I still have the trauma.
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  If anyone comes near me I still gets triggered kind of a thing.
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  She told me that in confidence and guess what?
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  Even more, she tried to tell her own mom about that and guess
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  what? Her mom immediately dismissed it
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  and told her not to tell anywhere outside.
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  See, it's just how it is. And I feel for them really that
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  that's the world we are living in.
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  And I have one more story, too. This is even crazier.
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  You know, there was a girl that shared this trauma with me in
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  confidence and I requested the permission to disclose it on the
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  podcast that her own brother, alright, tried to touch her
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  inappropriately around the teenage kind of an ears.
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  And she tried to warn her, tried everything to escape.
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  But he is kind of, you know, tried his best to touch her own
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  sister inappropriately and she kicked him.
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  And then, you know, guess what, He was quite fine.
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  But the girl went to her mom and dad to tell that mom and dad, my
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  own brother is trying to touch me inappropriately and so on.
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  She explained the situation, but guess what?
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  Mom and dad instantly shut the girl down.
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  Like you don't need to speak it out.
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  You don't need to know you don't know anything.
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  I mean come on South. Instead of addressing the issue
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  to their own son, they try to shut their daughter daughter
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  off. And guess what?
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  Even today she doesn't talk with her brother or mother or father.
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  The moment she got her freedom, she literally left the house and
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  that is it. She is on her own.
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  And you know the worst part, instead of, you know, teaching
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  the thing or trying to do the right thing, even the parents
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  are trying their best to mask it off.
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  Yeah, it happened. It did happen.
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  So this is the world we are in right now.
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  So yeah. Anyways, I know it's very, very
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  difficult for the people who are experienced this kind of a
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  thing. It's very, very difficult for
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  them 100% and God gives you strength and everything.
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  Let me do my thing to help you with giving some useful
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  insights. If someone you are listening to
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  this and Raza not in one way or another, I will give you few
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  steps to get out of it as much as you can.
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  But mind you this is not a straight highway.
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  It is going to take time. Alright, let us step towards
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  healing. So yeah, let us talk about
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  healing. It is not just as some magical
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  overnight thing, but as a real day by day journey.
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  Step 1 towards this is acknowledging it.
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  You do not need to deny it nor prove it to anyone.
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  So do not bury it. Say it happened to yourself, say
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  it hurt, but also say it. It does not define me.
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  That is the most powerful thing. Step 2 Find safe spaces.
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  Healing cannot happen in isolation for most of people
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  alright because they do not know what they are doing.
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  So may be for you its is sharing your story with trusted friend.
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  May be ITS is going to therapy, may be ITS is journalling.
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  Write it down. Your feelings may be it is
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  listening to voices like this one reminding you that you are
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  not alone. And Step 3, Rewrite your story.
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  Childhood was the prologue, not the whole book.
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  You are the author now and every choice you make as an adult is a
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  new page that belong completely to you.
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  So the moment you take control of your life, everything
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  changes. So now you can literally rewrite
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  your own story on your own terms.
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  It is possible as long as believe on that there is no such
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  thing as impossible in this world.
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  So everything is possible if you add 100% of your effort and if
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  you be consistent to what you want in life, you can get
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  anything and everything that is possible.
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  So no doubt about that step #4 practice self compassion.
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  This one staff especially, you know, for those of us who grew
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  up in environments where kindness wasn't given freely,
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  isn't it? But talk to yourself like you
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  would talk to child you love the most.
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  Gently, patiently, and most importantly, kindly.
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  The moment you start practicing this, you will see so many
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  changes. You feel so much lighter.
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  Hilling is not a straight highway.
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  It is messy. It is like riding through
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  mountain roads, sometimes uphill, sometimes downhill,
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  sometimes foggy. But every mile forward counts,
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  every single one counts. By following everything I gave
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  you, it will definitely gonna help you one way or another to
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  take necessary steps to actually come out of it.
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  Alright. But mind you, this is going to
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  vary for each one of you based on the level of trauma you have
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  been through. So for someone it is gonna be 24
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  hours. For someone it is gonna be a
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  week or 4 weeks or a month, three months, six months, nine
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  months, may be 12 months or even more.
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  We never know and we cannot really decide because it all
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  depends on the level of trauma you have in your heart that you
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  enclosed it for very, very long time.
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  So letting go of it takes really, really deeper level of
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  inner work that needs to be done and you have to be very honest
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  with yourself about everything. So that is the time only you
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  will feel lighter day by day and the healing really actually
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  starts. If you mask everything or you do
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  not want to talk about certain things, that is going to heavy
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  you down slowly. So even though the journey is so
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  difficult, take many step, many steps as much as possible,
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  whatever possible. One step at a is fine enough,
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  then fine. If that works for you, fine.
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  So, yeah, All right, So this Christmas, if you are listening
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  and your heart feels heavy, I just want to say this.
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  You are not alone. Your healing is valid.
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  Your story matters. Christmas is not about
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  perfection, it is about hope. And hope is what I wish for you
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  right now. Hope that the year ahead will
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  bring you more peace, more freedom, more roads that feel
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  lighter to ride. And if you need a reminder, you
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  are stronger than your past, you are more than what was done to
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  you, and the best is still ahead of time.
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  Believe that you will get through this.
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  Thank you for spending this time with me.
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  I know this wasn't an easy topic but it's a real 1 and I believe
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  in talking about the real stuff because that's how we hear.
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  Remember, healing is not a race, it's a journey and justice like
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  on every ride, you don't do it alone.
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  We are all riding it together. So Merry Christmas, happy
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  holidays, happy holidays and here is to a new year filled
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  with courage, healing and brighter roads and.
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  Until next time, keep driving. Keep moving.
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  I'll see you on the other side of the calendar very soon.
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  This is Doctor Mukund. Take care.