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How many licks does it take to get to the center of a food addiction? · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

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SPEAKER_00: Before you start to uh read into this too much, we're going to talk about how many licks.
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SPEAKER_00: Not to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Pop, but how many licks does it take on licking addiction?
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SPEAKER_00: How many times do you have to do it before you actually are able to beat something?
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SPEAKER_00: So I don't know if you've ever quit anything in your life.
0:21
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe you've quit some phenomenally difficult things.
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SPEAKER_00: Things that the world and society tell you, well, you need intervention to quit that.
0:29
SPEAKER_00: You're going to need a group to quit that.
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SPEAKER_00: You're going to need some kind of counseling, medication, lots of different things to quit that.
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SPEAKER_00: And you actually were able to give it up.
0:37
SPEAKER_00: Some people have an innate ability to quit things and never regain them again.
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SPEAKER_00: They experiment with something for a while and then they just kind of walk away.
0:44
SPEAKER_00: Good for you.
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SPEAKER_00: If you're that way, I'm not jealous.
0:47
SPEAKER_00: Actually, I am.
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SPEAKER_00: That's horrible.
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SPEAKER_00: But good for you, and fantastically so.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, for the rest of us, it takes time.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes attempts.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes a lot of failures.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes a lot of setbacks.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes a lot of heartache.
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SPEAKER_00: It takes a lot of pain.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe you're in that world as well.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's move on to this.
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SPEAKER_00: I've torched off more fat than I can imagine over the years.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've gotten to a point where in my past I look at quitting cigarettes, finished.
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SPEAKER_00: It took literally hundreds of times, if not thousands.
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SPEAKER_00: I I'm I I can't even tell you exactly how many times I tried to quit.
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SPEAKER_00: I was prepared to quit.
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SPEAKER_00: But it wasn't five, it wasn't ten, and it wasn't a hundred.
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SPEAKER_00: It was many more than that over the 17-year cycle of smoking.
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SPEAKER_00: Alcohol?
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SPEAKER_00: Oh boy.
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SPEAKER_00: Absolutely 100%.
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SPEAKER_00: Long time quitting.
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SPEAKER_00: Food, yeah, still haven't done that.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, and that's kind of the difference.
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SPEAKER_00: You can live without alcohol, you can live without cigarettes, you can live without chewing tobacco, you can live without illegal drugs.
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SPEAKER_00: You could probably live without some pharmaceutical drugs that are prescribed by a doctor, maybe.
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SPEAKER_00: Now.
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SPEAKER_00: But living without food, yeah, a whole different animal.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's talk about this a little bit, about the addictive process.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, this is where I am today.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what is this?
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SPEAKER_00: The 21st of May, 2026.
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SPEAKER_00: I was hoping to be at 265 today.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I just kept going, and that's the addiction addictive cycle.
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SPEAKER_00: But I haven't quit, I haven't given up yet, and I'm not going to.
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SPEAKER_00: As long as I have a heartbeat, I will continue.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I was able to get rid of cigarettes.
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SPEAKER_00: Gone, never come back, but it wasn't easy.
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SPEAKER_00: It took a particular amount of licks or attempts or tries or things, whatever you want to quantify them with.
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SPEAKER_00: And part of the philosophy is, well, if you are going to go all in, maybe you should switch your identity.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's the way.
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SPEAKER_00: Or have some kind of an emotional connection to an outcome that you want to see as a result of the pain you're about to experience, because going from doing something that you normally do to not, there's some pain involved there.
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SPEAKER_00: And when you're talking about dropping fat, yeah, the body even rebels, doesn't want you to, it wants to keep you where you are.
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SPEAKER_00: The people that are 600 pounds, they haven't gotten there overnight.
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SPEAKER_00: It's taken time.
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SPEAKER_00: But during that time, they're not getting that way by eating eggs and steak.
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SPEAKER_00: They're getting that way by eating processed food.
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SPEAKER_00: I think we can all accept that.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not the meat, the cheese, the eggs that are doing it.
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SPEAKER_00: It's the other stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: It's the stuff that has a lot of labels.
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SPEAKER_00: It's the stuff that has been engineered to be much more addictive.
3:44
SPEAKER_00: And before you say, well, that's a conspiracy theory, that's not true.
3:48
SPEAKER_00: I would venture to say that we talk about tobacco, the companies that created all that addiction in tobacco, and they worked on this.
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SPEAKER_00: There were lawsuits, there were real lawsuits that they were found culpable with regard to them staging the cigarettes, setting it up, and making it even more addictive than it would be naturally if it was just natural tobacco growing in a field somewhere, completely raw and I guess organic.
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SPEAKER_00: They found that.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, the people that bought the large food conglomerates, they are the tobacco companies.
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SPEAKER_00: They bought them because tobacco was done, lawsuits settled, and lots of money out.
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SPEAKER_00: And of course, cigarettes are still there, vaping is still there.
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SPEAKER_00: The regular old-fashioned roll them and smoke them cigarettes are still there, too.
4:38
SPEAKER_00: So that hasn't changed, and I happen to know a couple, two people that have stage four lung cancer that are still smoking.
4:45
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's an addiction.
4:46
SPEAKER_00: That's heavy.
4:47
SPEAKER_00: And maybe when you get to that point you say, well, what the hell?
4:50
SPEAKER_00: Why not?
4:50
SPEAKER_00: Just figure why not, why go happy?
4:52
SPEAKER_00: Why stress myself?
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SPEAKER_00: Because you just never know.
4:54
SPEAKER_00: I think that's a philosophy that everybody can accept.
4:57
SPEAKER_00: You never really know.
4:59
SPEAKER_00: But how many times does it take?
5:01
SPEAKER_00: And every time I look back and I try to find some common qualifier as to why I was able to succeed, at least with these things, and why I can't with food, I keep coming back to that one thing.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't need cigarettes or chewing tobacco or alcohol, but you still need food.
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SPEAKER_00: So the identification of what that food looks like is probably important.
5:28
SPEAKER_00: Alright, so I didn't decide to stop being a smoker.
5:33
SPEAKER_00: I just stopped being a smoker.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't relapse into a person that I've already left the identity of.
5:40
SPEAKER_00: Now I'm a new person.
5:42
SPEAKER_00: And that was kind of something I came up with as this thought experiment, trying to figure out what the solution was.
5:49
SPEAKER_00: Because I'll tell you, the person that figures this one out, they're going to be able to be wherever they want in the world at any time, having everything that they desire, because this is the secret.
6:00
SPEAKER_00: How do you actually stop being something and now identify with being something else?
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SPEAKER_00: I think that might be the game changer.
6:09
SPEAKER_00: Because you might have heard the emotional equivalency where you instead of just doing something rote, you connect an emotional attack, you develop an emotional attachment to whatever you want this outcome to be.
6:26
SPEAKER_00: So basically, as a smoker, I smelled like tobacco.
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SPEAKER_00: I remember the the expense of it, which really wasn't, that wasn't a big problem, but the breathing was a problem, trying to go for runs, trying to work out, trying to lift, having people smell it.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, and they're there in a at a while, you were kind of ashamed to do it.
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SPEAKER_00: So hiding and smoking, that took up a lot of time and a lot of game planning.
6:51
SPEAKER_00: I remember when I was a kid, my dad was a smoker.
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SPEAKER_00: And I didn't even start smoking until I was an adult, so it wasn't that kid adolescent thing sneaking the cigarettes.
6:59
SPEAKER_00: It was pure stupidity.
7:01
SPEAKER_00: But I remember when he used to smoke, one of his biggest stresses, and he worked at White Sands Missile Range in New Mexico.
7:08
SPEAKER_00: And if you know anything about New Mexico, it takes you a long time to get from place to place.
7:13
SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of desert there in New Mexico, and especially around White Sands Missile Range.
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SPEAKER_00: So there's not like a shop and rob on every corner that we see here in Los Angeles.
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SPEAKER_00: Every corner, you can find a liquor store and pretty much find your fix of anything, booze or cigarettes or whatever may be, fast food, crappy candy, whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: So it's everywhere.
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SPEAKER_00: Back there, you had to drive.
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SPEAKER_00: So he always had to engineer his day around having enough cigarettes.
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SPEAKER_00: And for a four-pack a day smoker of Winston Reds, yeah, that that was that was difficult.
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SPEAKER_00: He had expressed that later on after he had actually quit smoking as a result of a heart attack and open heart surgery and replacement of a valve.
7:53
SPEAKER_00: Of course, God bless the people that can do it before they have some life-altering event to make them.
8:01
SPEAKER_00: And then there's the people that get on the other side of the life-altering event and they continue.
8:07
SPEAKER_00: Anyway, that's uh it's all absolutely remarkable.
8:11
SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's work on this.
8:13
SPEAKER_00: So, why food won't take the promotion?
8:16
SPEAKER_00: Every other addiction, you can go to zero.
8:18
SPEAKER_00: I talked about this a second ago.
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SPEAKER_00: When that addiction dies, the cigarette has no job left to do.
8:24
SPEAKER_00: But with food, you can't go to zero.
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SPEAKER_00: You can fast as long as you have fat, but yeah, I mean, how long would that go?
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SPEAKER_00: A year?
8:34
SPEAKER_00: I know Angus Barbieri, if you want to look him up, he did 382 days.
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SPEAKER_00: Doctor supervised, he had uh vitamin, vitamin, maybe electrolytes.
8:44
SPEAKER_00: I don't recall if electrolytes are part of that.
8:46
SPEAKER_00: But um, with food you can't go to zero.
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SPEAKER_00: So you sit down with a thing that's killing you at least once a day, or at some time, at some point you will.
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SPEAKER_00: You gotta sit down there and you gotta face it again.
9:00
SPEAKER_00: And at that point, I guess it becomes a choice.
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SPEAKER_00: Is this going to be, you know, three extra large pizzas, or is this going to be something else?
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SPEAKER_00: Now I was a smoker, I decided not to be.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's clean.
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SPEAKER_00: I was an eater, but now I'm not, you can't do it that way.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, let's go this thing.
9:24
SPEAKER_00: So here's a reframe.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not quitting food, I'm firing the dealer.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe this will help.
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SPEAKER_00: The pizza was never food, it was a delivery system for dopamine, same as the cigarette was for nicotine.
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SPEAKER_00: And you break this down with whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: Donuts really aren't food.
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SPEAKER_00: They provide energy to your body.
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SPEAKER_00: They do things, but it's not really optimal.
9:49
SPEAKER_00: And I've I've heard this comparison as well in the past.
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SPEAKER_00: You have a very expensive car.
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SPEAKER_00: And on the gas tank, it's probably going to say premium fuel only.
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SPEAKER_00: You have a choice.
10:02
SPEAKER_00: And I don't know if you've ever had one of those cars, but if it has a super fancy high output motor, usually when you put the other gas in it, you hear a little clunking.
10:13
SPEAKER_00: It's not, it's you can tell really when you put other gas in it that it just you don't get that same performance out of it.
10:20
SPEAKER_00: Now, you know, it's your car, right?
10:22
SPEAKER_00: You can do with it what you want.
10:23
SPEAKER_00: You can you can put in crappy gas or you can put in good gas.
10:27
SPEAKER_00: It's totally up to you.
10:28
SPEAKER_00: You can have it at a particular octane level or put it with the cheap stuff.
10:31
SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter.
10:32
SPEAKER_00: It's your car, you can do with it what you want.
10:34
SPEAKER_00: More than likely, out of that car, you're going to get better performance and longevity when you put in the better fuel.
10:40
SPEAKER_00: I think whether that's a gimmick or not, I'll tell you with reference to the human body, the better stuff you put in it, the better the output is.
10:48
SPEAKER_00: I think we can agree.
10:49
SPEAKER_00: The leaner you get, the better the feeling is, to a point.
10:53
SPEAKER_00: The more musk, the more muscle you have, the strength you have, all of that stuff.
10:57
SPEAKER_00: Those are investments.
10:59
SPEAKER_00: So if we're looking at the food as a delivery system for dopamine, where you have the sugar, the ice cream, the cake, the brownies, the donuts, the all of that, the McDonald's, the fast food, the stuff that's engineered, their French fries, the whole nine yards, this these are all dopamine hits, and that's very similar to the same that the cigarette was for nicotine.
11:23
SPEAKER_00: So maybe that thought process is I'm not quitting food, I'm going to fire the dealer.
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SPEAKER_00: And maybe that reframe will resonate with some of you.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, here's something else.
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SPEAKER_00: So the promotion food finally takes.
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SPEAKER_00: I used to eat because it made me feel good.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I eat because it makes me work.
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SPEAKER_00: Not a non-eater, but an optimizer.
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SPEAKER_00: I change the job that the thing does.
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SPEAKER_00: So maybe that's an unpack for some of you out there.
11:57
SPEAKER_00: Eating for emotional, emotional output, emotional to solve some problem, to give yourself this good feeling, there really there really is no equal to the dopamine spike that you get from highly processed food.
12:13
SPEAKER_00: Food that has a very high bliss point.
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SPEAKER_00: The bliss point in food is stuff that, I mean, has really been engineered to the tens, to the nines, that has all of the stuff that makes you want to eat more of it.
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SPEAKER_00: Completely addictive.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's the same pathways, some of those types of food, that cocaine would spear off in somebody's brain.
12:40
SPEAKER_00: That cocaine would actually make you feel when you're eating these foods, those same dopamine cycles get hit, and of course they're addictive.
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SPEAKER_00: Cocaine, in some cases, is a one-hit addicted process.
12:54
SPEAKER_00: And then if you've ever talked to anybody, and as a cop, I talked to a lot of people, cocaine just became kind of dealing with it because you're always chasing that same high and the short-lived effects of it.
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SPEAKER_00: People often move from cocaine to meth when they're really addicted because meth has a much longer cycle in operation.
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SPEAKER_00: But coming back from those, probably very similar with food addiction in the foods that have a very high bliss point or are completely manufactured to elicit your dopamine response.
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SPEAKER_00: Can I compare methamphenamine addicts with food addicts?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't think that's too far off, and I don't think that's a stretch.
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SPEAKER_00: Somebody that's gotten themselves to 600 pounds because of the food choices they've made, and somebody that's smoked meth and gotten themselves down to 80 pounds because they've smoked meth and lost all their teeth, the obese person is going to have massive fat lymphoma, lymphid lymphedemia.
13:57
SPEAKER_00: You know, the big pieces of basically your body doesn't have any more place to store in the normal shape, so it starts pushing out in different areas, and you get these massive fat pockets.
14:07
SPEAKER_00: If you've seen this on super obese people, that's what happens.
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SPEAKER_00: In the methamphenamine, you know, they're going to have other things happen to them biologically, maybe tooth loss, uh, skin, you know, there's lots of damage on the inside, the throat, the mouth, because you know, you're smoking this stuff.
14:26
SPEAKER_00: You have the heat, the burnt fingers.
14:28
SPEAKER_00: So there's there's there's lots of negatives that come with these.
14:32
SPEAKER_00: But if you start thinking about it now, maybe you can't become a non-eater like you can become a non-meth head.
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SPEAKER_00: You still have to eat, but maybe changing the job the thing does in your mind might be helpful.
14:47
SPEAKER_00: Now, the lab is going to sell you willpower.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what they're going to tell you.
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SPEAKER_00: And nobody says this.
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SPEAKER_00: They engineer the fat, salt, and sugar ratio that overrides I'm full.
15:00
SPEAKER_00: If you sit down and eat hard-boiled eggs, I know.
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SPEAKER_00: They're when you go for a while, if if you go without eating for a while and you fast, oh my God.
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SPEAKER_00: And you break your fast with a hard-boiled egg, ooh, it does taste good.
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SPEAKER_00: It tastes good without salt and pepper.
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SPEAKER_00: It just tastes lovely.
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SPEAKER_00: You just want to eat it.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
15:21
SPEAKER_00: Now, in a very well-fed state, with most of us walk around 99.9% of the time in a very well-fed state, and the best break we get is when we're sleeping.
15:30
SPEAKER_00: And some of us break the sleeping cycle to eat.
15:32
SPEAKER_00: Well, there's that.
15:34
SPEAKER_00: But the lab's going to tell you there's willpower.
15:36
SPEAKER_00: You you have to have willpower.
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SPEAKER_00: They engineer the fat, salt, and sugar ratio, and like I'm going to say it again, it overrides the body telling you that you've had enough to eat.
15:47
SPEAKER_00: So you'll continue to eat it.
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SPEAKER_00: You'll eat it until the stomach receptors, which these foods also negate, the stomach receptors' ability to communicate with your brain and say, hey, we're stretching, we're stretching so much, we're not going to be able to stretch anymore.
16:04
SPEAKER_00: At some point, you've stretched your gut out so much from all you've eaten, you can't eat anymore without rupturing on the inside, and you'll have a biological drive to shut down, then you're done.
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SPEAKER_00: Or you run out of food.
16:17
SPEAKER_00: They map the crunch and melt that defeats satiety.
16:21
SPEAKER_00: Then they print, enjoy responsibly, and they call you your failure, a character flaw.
16:29
SPEAKER_00: The addiction is the product, willpower is the story they sell you so the shame stays all yours.
16:38
SPEAKER_00: If this, if you really saw it as these people pushing a drug in order to make you sick, in order to make you dumb, in order to make you unhealthy, so they can make more money by having some kind of a pharmaceutical or medical intervention.
16:58
SPEAKER_00: If you knew that to be a fact, it would probably irritate you.
17:03
SPEAKER_00: It irritates me.
17:05
SPEAKER_00: And whether it's a fact or not, God.
17:10
SPEAKER_00: You know, it walks like a duck, it talks like a duck.
17:15
SPEAKER_00: Well, we'll have to see.
17:17
SPEAKER_00: Alright, let me get to the next slide.
17:23
SPEAKER_00: Here's another reframing.
17:25
SPEAKER_00: The body is not sad.
17:27
SPEAKER_00: It defends fat like its life depends on it.
17:31
SPEAKER_00: For two million years it's done this.
17:34
SPEAKER_00: The brain is the addict, the body is the loyal employee following old orders.
17:40
SPEAKER_00: The war isn't with your body.
17:42
SPEAKER_00: Your body is the hostage.
17:44
SPEAKER_00: It's your brain.
17:45
SPEAKER_00: It's your brain that wants to keep eating what you're eating because it likes it.
17:51
SPEAKER_00: The food has been been engineered in such a way that it it's just so amazing.
17:58
SPEAKER_00: It lights up your brain like a Christmas tree.
18:02
SPEAKER_00: It's not your body.
18:03
SPEAKER_00: But that brain, oh, it's gonna try to get you.
18:07
SPEAKER_00: And if you failed at anything, you know that.
18:10
SPEAKER_00: Anything that you should have done good, you know that.
18:14
SPEAKER_00: Why it fights you back?
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody hits 600 in one year.
18:17
SPEAKER_00: It takes years to put it on.
18:19
SPEAKER_00: The body fights it at first, then it adapts and calls the new weight, the normal it must defend.
18:27
SPEAKER_00: And that's that's the tough part again.
18:30
SPEAKER_00: Taking it off means arguing with a body that thinks losing fat is the emergency.
18:37
SPEAKER_00: What ends up happening, you put on 10 pounds.
18:41
SPEAKER_00: Your body does an adjustment, that's the new set weight.
18:44
SPEAKER_00: So instead of 190, now you're 200.
18:47
SPEAKER_00: All right, 200 is good.
18:48
SPEAKER_00: Try to get to 190 again.
18:50
SPEAKER_00: Good luck with that.
18:52
SPEAKER_00: It keeps going like that.
18:53
SPEAKER_00: 600 pounds, that's the new set point.
18:55
SPEAKER_00: Now, it's 600 pounds with the kind of calories that are required to keep a weight of that much.
19:03
SPEAKER_00: You could cut a little bit and see massive reductions in the scale.
19:08
SPEAKER_00: But that hunger for that 600-pound person, that I'm starving thing, is the same in a 70-pound person who's completely anorexic and underweight.
19:18
SPEAKER_00: It's that same feeling.
19:21
SPEAKER_00: It's easy to make fun of the 600-pound person because you think, oh my God, haven't you had enough?
19:26
SPEAKER_00: No.
19:27
SPEAKER_00: No, they haven't had enough.
19:29
SPEAKER_00: And it's just like the anorexic that hasn't had enough either.
19:32
SPEAKER_00: It's the same thing, except that same drive, except there is no exception.
19:38
SPEAKER_00: It's the same dilemma.
19:39
SPEAKER_00: It's the same problem.
19:44
SPEAKER_00: How many licks does it take?
19:47
SPEAKER_00: The owl bites through on three.
19:49
SPEAKER_00: You remember the commercial?
19:51
SPEAKER_00: And the world never really finds out how many licks it takes.
19:54
SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's part of the conspiracy too.
19:56
SPEAKER_00: The honest answer is different for every tongue and every amount of force.
20:00
SPEAKER_00: So if we're really talking about the Tootsie Rollpop, some people have these massive horse type tongues, and one lick is going to be, you know, three or four or five inches, and of course they're going to get to the center and break through quicker.
20:13
SPEAKER_00: Some people have little birdie tongues, and they lick very gently and not with as much force, and it's going to take them more licks to get through.
20:21
SPEAKER_00: But some crunch through on one, some give up, and some are still licking at 300.
20:25
SPEAKER_00: So it depends on what time you are and what type you are.
20:29
SPEAKER_00: And I would say the ones that crunch through, the ones that solve it the first time out, those people exist.
20:35
SPEAKER_00: You might not think so.
20:36
SPEAKER_00: They do exist.
20:37
SPEAKER_00: People go out, they're addiction, they drink, they drink, they drink, and they become alcoholics, and people say, oh my gosh, you know, you need to stop this.
20:45
SPEAKER_00: It's killing you.
20:46
SPEAKER_00: And they say, well, you've drank so much, you need to get medical intervention, or blah, blah, blah.
20:50
SPEAKER_00: And they say, you know, I'm just going to quit.
20:52
SPEAKER_00: And they say, oh, you can't quit.
20:53
SPEAKER_00: You need to go see a doctor.
20:54
SPEAKER_00: You need to get into a 12-step.
20:56
SPEAKER_00: And they just quit.
20:57
SPEAKER_00: That's it.
20:58
SPEAKER_00: No more.
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SPEAKER_00: They're done.
21:00
SPEAKER_00: Same thing with drugs.
21:01
SPEAKER_00: Same thing with cigarettes.
21:02
SPEAKER_00: There are those people out there that apparently maybe never even tried to quit.
21:07
SPEAKER_00: They enjoyed it so much.
21:08
SPEAKER_00: And then one time they they just quit.
21:11
SPEAKER_00: All right, good for you.
21:12
SPEAKER_00: Now, some have tried hundreds of times, thousands of times.
21:17
SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's you.
21:18
SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's why you're watching this.
21:20
SPEAKER_00: You need something else.
21:23
SPEAKER_00: There's all these easy.
21:25
SPEAKER_00: It's easy to do.
21:26
SPEAKER_00: It's quick.
21:27
SPEAKER_00: It's painless.
21:28
SPEAKER_00: It's it's not going to be a problem.
21:30
SPEAKER_00: These are the promises of people that are selling something.
21:34
SPEAKER_00: There's nothing here to sell.
21:36
SPEAKER_00: This is just help.
21:37
SPEAKER_00: Let's try to figure this out for God's sakes, because it's not helping you where you are.
21:42
SPEAKER_00: It's not helping me where I am.
21:47
SPEAKER_00: Every quit that didn't take a lick.
21:49
SPEAKER_00: Some attempts are not failures, and sometimes it works.
21:52
SPEAKER_00: Every quit quit that didn't take was a lick.
21:56
SPEAKER_00: Every diet with no memory.
21:58
SPEAKER_00: Every Monday.
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SPEAKER_00: Dead by Wednesday, every Monday decision, I'm going to do it this time, and you screw it up Wednesday and you don't look back.
22:06
SPEAKER_00: They were not nothing.
22:08
SPEAKER_00: They were thinning the candy, albeit a little bit.
22:12
SPEAKER_00: Every time you failed, don't discount it.
22:16
SPEAKER_00: Don't put it away.
22:17
SPEAKER_00: Don't not think about it.
22:20
SPEAKER_00: It would be, it should be something in your process.
22:25
SPEAKER_00: The guy that did the light bulb, Edison.
22:28
SPEAKER_00: Edison, light bulb.
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SPEAKER_00: He failed a lot.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: The historical record is over.
22:33
SPEAKER_00: He figured out 2,000 ways how not to make a light bulb.
22:36
SPEAKER_00: 2,000 is a pretty substantial chunk.
22:38
SPEAKER_00: That's a lot of time.
22:40
SPEAKER_00: I mean, even if you did it all day long, you got a few months in there figuring out how not to make a light bulb, figuring out how to fail, figuring out how to put it together and still not working.
22:51
SPEAKER_00: 2,000 times, maybe more, you want to not eat crap and you want to trim off the fat that you put on over some amount of time.
23:04
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
23:05
SPEAKER_00: Each one of those times you've attempted that thins the shell a little bit more.
23:08
SPEAKER_00: One day it's going to work.
23:10
SPEAKER_00: Or one day you're going to die.
23:12
SPEAKER_00: But as far as I'm concerned, I think pushing forward and continuing going, and someday it's going to work.
23:21
SPEAKER_00: Someday it's going to click.
23:22
SPEAKER_00: I guarantee you that.
23:30
SPEAKER_00: So the man who quits on the first attempt, 12 needed all 11 first.
23:37
SPEAKER_00: So the man who quits on attempt number 12 needed all 11 first to get there.
23:42
SPEAKER_00: And some of us, some of us need more than others.
23:45
SPEAKER_00: True.
23:46
SPEAKER_00: You never know which lick is the last one.
23:48
SPEAKER_00: This is the entire reason you can't stop listening.
23:50
SPEAKER_00: So licking.
23:52
SPEAKER_00: The only man guaranteed never to reach the center is the man who quits licking the lollipop.
23:59
SPEAKER_00: Very simple.
24:01
SPEAKER_00: So here's an annual reset.
24:03
SPEAKER_00: It's not a diet, it's a teardown.
24:06
SPEAKER_00: You want to start with me?
24:07
SPEAKER_00: It's May 21st.
24:08
SPEAKER_00: You want to start tomorrow?
24:08
SPEAKER_00: Great.
24:09
SPEAKER_00: You want to start after the weekend?
24:11
SPEAKER_00: How many times have you told yourself you're going to start after the weekend?
24:14
SPEAKER_00: How many times have you told yourself you're going to start tomorrow?
24:17
SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow's going to be it.
24:19
SPEAKER_00: If you're watching this June 30th or August, don't say, well, he was talking back in May.
24:26
SPEAKER_00: Just now.
24:28
SPEAKER_00: Pull the chicken wing out of your mouth or pull out the spoon of ice cream or pull out the bag of Doritos or the entamens or the cookies or the cakes or and if you've already blown it up and lived a life of debauchery in the first three hours of waking up eating everything under the sun, yeah, it's okay.
24:46
SPEAKER_00: We'll just stop.
24:48
SPEAKER_00: Why don't you just stop right now?
24:50
SPEAKER_00: So the fast begins whenever you're ready.
24:53
SPEAKER_00: And break the fast whenever you're ready.
24:55
SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
24:56
SPEAKER_00: Talk to your doctor.
24:57
SPEAKER_00: And when you refeed, it's meat, eggs, fish, maybe some vegetables, salt, pepper, cayenne, nothing in a wrapper, and this isn't medical advice.
25:05
SPEAKER_00: These are just the things you want to think about.
25:08
SPEAKER_00: The other things that you're eating, they're really not food for all intents and purposes, and they're not the best things for you.
25:18
SPEAKER_00: Excuse me.
25:20
SPEAKER_00: They do give you some kind of life-saving ability, but I would argue that they also tear down some components as well.
25:30
SPEAKER_00: I missed one of those slides.
25:32
SPEAKER_00: Let me write back.
25:34
SPEAKER_00: Okay, there you go.
25:35
SPEAKER_00: That's just another date.
25:37
SPEAKER_00: Until they put me in the ground, I don't give up.
25:39
SPEAKER_00: Maybe that should be your philosophy.
25:41
SPEAKER_00: Don't ever stop.
25:42
SPEAKER_00: Sometime it's going to work.
25:44
SPEAKER_00: It's got to work.
25:45
SPEAKER_00: You have faith that it will.
25:47
SPEAKER_00: But understand that with faith and misalignment and you continuing some process, you're just going to continue.
25:55
SPEAKER_00: And I understand that's probably is the true definition of insanity.
25:59
SPEAKER_00: Doing that same thing over and over and over again with the same results.
26:04
SPEAKER_00: There's two components to that.
26:06
SPEAKER_00: Doing the same thing over and over again and with the same results.
26:11
SPEAKER_00: It might not be that you need a whole new paradigm or a whole new understanding or a whole new plan.
26:16
SPEAKER_00: It may be that you just need to have different results.
26:20
SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's the solution.
26:23
SPEAKER_00: The door opens, you walk through it, slams shut, and you never go back.
26:27
SPEAKER_00: That's when you've solved an addiction.
26:29
SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
26:31
SPEAKER_00: I hope this helped.
26:32
SPEAKER_00: I really do.
26:33
SPEAKER_00: I hope in your heart of hearts, something in here resonated.
26:37
SPEAKER_00: Because in my brain, all of us need just that little bit of information, that little snippet that we've never heard before that alters our life forever.
26:47
SPEAKER_00: And maybe something in this was that for you.
26:50
SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
26:51
SPEAKER_00: We'll see you in the next one.
26:52
SPEAKER_00: Thanks for watching.