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S5 #2 Off Season Scrimmage · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I almost famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with our radio everybody I've been in. Ashley is calling
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  Speaker 1: in as we speak. He is in Virginia right now
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  Speaker 1: seeing her family. She's in studio. We're excited, but I
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  Speaker 1: had to get online because we have one of our
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  Speaker 1: most special guests on this podcast. He's been around a while. Peter,
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  Speaker 1: are you out there? I am here? How are you? Peter?
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  Speaker 1: Please introduce yourself. It's been a while since we've seen you.
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  Speaker 1: We've missed you. Who are you and what in the
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  Speaker 1: heck have you been doing? Who am I? I am
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  Speaker 1: Peter Crouse from Madison, Wisconsin, and I am currently about
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  Speaker 1: the border plane in any secondary So I'm hanging out. Okay, Well,
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  Speaker 1: we gotta get going here. What have you been up to?
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  Speaker 1: I saw the guests the Final four. I'm extremely jealous.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a huge basketball fan. My best friend to coach
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  Speaker 1: at U C l A. I was really hoping they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna be there this year. Didn't happen. Um, what are
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  Speaker 1: we up to? The frontal four? That's why one. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure you guys know the card and uh, they brought
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  Speaker 1: me out here to come see the final four. I
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  Speaker 1: got sit pretty close and got to call all the
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  Speaker 1: concerts and every thing and just have a really like
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  Speaker 1: a super funk. It was a blast. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: I cannot imagine the energy, especially around level. Did you
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  Speaker 1: get to meet Mr Jean? I did not. Did I
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  Speaker 1: got a T shirt? Though that was about the extent
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  Speaker 1: of it. I mean, whoever sold those T shirts? Uh
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  Speaker 1: came up with the most yeah, brilliant idea ever. The mean,
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  Speaker 1: more media than anybody else in the entire group, more
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  Speaker 1: than any coach with any player the team was altogether.
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  Speaker 1: She had the most. I mean, I was gonna say,
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  Speaker 1: she has so much distension around her it kind of
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  Speaker 1: reminds me of you about a year ago. I mean
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  Speaker 1: not too long, well not even a year ago. It's
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  Speaker 1: time flies. Um, I would be remiss. This is a
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor focused podcast. I gotta ask you, Peter Um moving
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  Speaker 1: right into he is Getna born a borda Plane. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sorry for this, but we have have to know the
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  Speaker 1: real reason. Why don't you do the Bachelor? These women
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  Speaker 1: are going on Paradise thinking that you were the Bachelor,
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  Speaker 1: so that you hopefully something you'll go to Paradise, But
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  Speaker 1: why didn't you actually do the Bachelor at that point,
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  Speaker 1: It's not something I felt was right for me. I
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  Speaker 1: was stressed out, having a hard time when as it
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  Speaker 1: was big on the Bachelour Rent, and when it came
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  Speaker 1: down to, you know what, I want to do it
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  Speaker 1: all over again, I decided it wasn't right for my health,
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  Speaker 1: my happiness and moving forward in my life. And so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the conversations didn't really have to so much
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  Speaker 1: further than Hey, would you want to do it? And
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, not really. Actley is on the line now,
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  Speaker 1: she has questions for you. She was she loves herself
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  Speaker 1: some Peter, you know that she thinks you are. That
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  Speaker 1: cats me out. So she was disappointed when you weren't
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  Speaker 1: the Bachelor. I think a lot of people were a
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  Speaker 1: little disappointed when you're at the Bachelor. Actually, I know
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  Speaker 1: you you want to dig into this a little bit
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  Speaker 1: with Peter. Go ahead, Pierre. It's not just your happiness.
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  Speaker 1: We all know there are rumors of it being a
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  Speaker 1: business decision. You maybe not getting money you got you
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  Speaker 1: gotta love us in on the real reason that you
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  Speaker 1: didn't do the back that. But then there was Winter Games.
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  Speaker 1: People are like, okay, he's on board for Winter Games,
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  Speaker 1: and then something fell through and it was you let
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  Speaker 1: out so many people come on, let us in a more. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: It was never about money for me. Um, I've never
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  Speaker 1: had a Rome Financially, I didn't need the money. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't pay as much as people think, So it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: a financial decision for me. Uh. It was more like
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  Speaker 1: I was saying, like, actually, is this gonna be the
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  Speaker 1: way that I want to find the love of my
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  Speaker 1: life and at this juncture in my life it's it's not.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't And you know, I can't say, moving forward,
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  Speaker 1: looking at the future if it's something that I would
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  Speaker 1: necessarily want to pass up, but right now it's not.
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  Speaker 1: And then with Winter Games, and it's actually a conversation
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  Speaker 1: I had with producers like I would love to do it,
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  Speaker 1: and then they just didn't pick me. It wasn't that
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  Speaker 1: I said no, I didn't want to or anything. It
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  Speaker 1: just didn't pick me. I think that it was because
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  Speaker 1: maybe they had a bad case in their mouth over
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  Speaker 1: the whole back storer deal and then they were like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, we don't eat this drama going into Winter Game.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I still have a great um his
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  Speaker 1: friendship with a lot of the people that were on
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  Speaker 1: the production side of the show, including Mike Flighte, um
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  Speaker 1: Alan Bennett. The people I was closest to with Megan
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  Speaker 1: and Todd were still talk to the regularly. So I
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  Speaker 1: don't think that was okay. If I can't say it
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  Speaker 1: would be the case. Um, I think they were happy
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  Speaker 1: was what my decision was and everything. One of them
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  Speaker 1: said that they support me and my path in life,
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  Speaker 1: and if it wasn't for the batch, they were all
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  Speaker 1: happy for me. You know, everybody comes off The Bachelor
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  Speaker 1: and the fans of the show think, you know, you
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  Speaker 1: can do it for the money, You're gonna be a
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  Speaker 1: millionaire off after the show. That's just not trust me
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  Speaker 1: like that. That is not the case. So I understand
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  Speaker 1: financially why you wouldn't do it. I will be honest
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  Speaker 1: as a friend. I was looking forward to you being
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  Speaker 1: at Winter Games. I think you would have had a
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  Speaker 1: great time there. I just have felt that there was
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  Speaker 1: more going on than any of us ever knew. And
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I guess if it really was, then choosing you,
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  Speaker 1: maybe I've got to get a produced online because it
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  Speaker 1: just seems odd. Why would they not to Peter Kroud
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  Speaker 1: to be on Bach Winter Game. When a lot of
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  Speaker 1: these women going into the bat this year, I'd say
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  Speaker 1: most of them. Actually tell me if you think I'm wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Probably we're super excited about you being the Bachelor. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you're good looking, you're smart. I mean, from what you say,
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  Speaker 1: you're financially sound, you're you seem like the perfect guy.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, Peter, you're like making goals. I figured that
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  Speaker 1: if you were on Winter Games, they would have gotten
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  Speaker 1: at least a million more fewer because people were just
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  Speaker 1: desperate to see more of Peter after the Bachelor. At Wrath,
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  Speaker 1: They've got the franchises Golden Boy and Ben Though. I
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  Speaker 1: mean I watched the show another way that Ben handled
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  Speaker 1: themselves the way that you guys, we're kind of I
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  Speaker 1: should say, they were showing then in many lives. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, that is the next Bachelor. I'm thinking this
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  Speaker 1: is gonna happen. Yeah? Is that is that a question?
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  Speaker 1: Is it a question? I think I'm straight up statement.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, you know, I mean I hope that however
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  Speaker 1: they showed me on Bachelor in the Games is actually
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  Speaker 1: who I am in real life. So I hope that
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  Speaker 1: I never feel like I've done this show. You're not
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  Speaker 1: representative who I am. Now, if that looks like the
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  Speaker 1: next Bachelor, then I guess people can think it looks
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  Speaker 1: like the next Bachelor. I mean, I don't even think
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  Speaker 1: they're having those conversations. From what Ashley tells me that
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  Speaker 1: the crop of guys on this season the best l
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  Speaker 1: and I mean there's some great ones. I wouldn't be
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  Speaker 1: surprised if that guy comes from there. But it does
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  Speaker 1: lead us to this question. I mean, I'm a big
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  Speaker 1: fan of Paradise. I love watching Paradise. I always have.
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  Speaker 1: I got into it after my season The Bachlord because
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  Speaker 1: of the women that I cared about went on the show.
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  Speaker 1: Would you do Paradise? Would it be this year? I
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  Speaker 1: would not do Paradise probably ever Wait wait, wait, well,
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  Speaker 1: what I mean though you didn't answer the question no
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  Speaker 1: that you have to be direct now, I probably wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: do Paradise. Ever, I would not do it, Okay, Now,
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  Speaker 1: I can't say for the future, but I would say
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  Speaker 1: for now, it's not something I would ever really want
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  Speaker 1: to do. Peter, I'm like, I can talk to you
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  Speaker 1: forever about this because this season we're basically be called
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  Speaker 1: puter in Paradise because season, say went on I thought
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  Speaker 1: so it would just keep you seeing all of them
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  Speaker 1: fight over you. I'm sure it would make good TV,
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  Speaker 1: but it wouldn't necessarily make for happiness in my life.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like, I'm really on such a good, happy
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  Speaker 1: path right now and things are so good in my
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  Speaker 1: life that I don't need that, Like, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: that attention right now. The attention again is already plenty.
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  Speaker 1: Um so that the trajectory of my life has changed
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  Speaker 1: draft place since I was on the show, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: so grateful for everything I had somelong with it, but
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  Speaker 1: it's not something that emotionally I necessarily want to go
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  Speaker 1: through again. It was tough time. Um, there's some dark days,
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  Speaker 1: just as to us so many happy days and now
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  Speaker 1: like everything is so positive that I just don't want
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  Speaker 1: to risk affecting that again. Pat Sort in Paradise is
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  Speaker 1: not on far with that in my opinion. So, Peter,
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  Speaker 1: you're sick that one day in the far sure you
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  Speaker 1: may pop up as the greatest surprise of every bachelor
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  Speaker 1: girl's heart again, but you never you never know. We'll
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  Speaker 1: call it that. Is there one woman, Peter from our
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  Speaker 1: season that you would want to be in Paradise if
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  Speaker 1: if I can't do there, you know, I gotta ask
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  Speaker 1: that question you're expecting, oh good questions. There's some get
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  Speaker 1: be girls. Yeah there there there's some really intelligence uh
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  Speaker 1: fisk women. I mean I've heard a lot about the
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  Speaker 1: End and how great she is and how successful she is.
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  Speaker 1: She seems amazing, um and then back herself obviously, Uh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: not for me. She seemed sleeping. Not for me, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, but that you're saying that at the current
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  Speaker 1: back threat. She seems like she's got a great head
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  Speaker 1: on her shoulders. Obviously they the picker. If not, she's very,
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  Speaker 1: very kind. She's Midwestern, which you know, I love a
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  Speaker 1: good Midwestern because we love oh god, you're speaking that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going Indiannafoi. You're Wesconsin kid. We love people from
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  Speaker 1: the Midwest. I get it. We relate better, It makes it,
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  Speaker 1: It makes life is a lot better. We we hang together.
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  Speaker 1: We kind of were rolling back to any time I
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  Speaker 1: would move to a different city of a different country,
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  Speaker 1: even I would always seem to find my friends come
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  Speaker 1: from Midwest. Yeah, just a lot to relate to. I
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  Speaker 1: get it. You can kind of tell them out if
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  Speaker 1: they have a little beer going or or whatever. They're
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  Speaker 1: probably from the Midwest. Uh, we don't than cut. Um Hey, Peter,
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  Speaker 1: last question, because you know you're at the airport, you're
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  Speaker 1: getting ready border plane is a lot of background noise
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  Speaker 1: before we let you go. Have you spoken to Rachel
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  Speaker 1: since the show? No, we had our last conversation there
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  Speaker 1: on stage and that was the end of that. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: did not did not go as hope? I guess. Um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's really no reason to continue to have conversation at
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  Speaker 1: that point. Yeah. I mean, so so the whole Hey,
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  Speaker 1: can we still be friends? Saying isn't working for you
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  Speaker 1: to I'm not. I'm gonna say I'm a postord by
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  Speaker 1: wherever to see her in person, I guess, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna reach talk to her. I do that. We're
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  Speaker 1: gonna need to reach out to me. So, um, no, life,
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  Speaker 1: get it, I get. I mean, I'm with Jojo. I
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  Speaker 1: mean I haven't talked to her, and I think Jojo
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  Speaker 1: is great. I mean, I might consider here one of
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  Speaker 1: the coolest people I've ever met, But I haven't talked
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  Speaker 1: to her since uh, well since we've filmed a little
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  Speaker 1: show together for Prappily ever After, And really because just
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  Speaker 1: kind of be weird if we did. Um, I agree, Peter.
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  Speaker 1: We appreciate you, man, I know that you're busy. We
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  Speaker 1: wanted to catch you for your enough fight. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for answering the questions. You're the main I
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  Speaker 1: hope we see you on our TV screens again soon, because,
• 10:55
  Speaker 1: let's be honest, a lot of people are waiting for
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  Speaker 1: another you know, seeing a Peter rip officer and anger.
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  Speaker 1: You know. Hey, Peter, thanks so much man. We'll talk
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  Speaker 1: you soon. Yeah. I hope was you guys again soon? Right?
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  Speaker 1: We always love having Peter on the podcast. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: the truth is, he's a good guy. His situation with
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  Speaker 1: the Bachelor is a tag confusing to me. I still
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  Speaker 1: don't quite get it. I think there's a hidden story
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  Speaker 1: there that he's not fully telling us. Um. But if
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  Speaker 1: we're all honest with each other, Peter, Peter should have
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  Speaker 1: been the Bachelor. I mean not. I don't think anything
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  Speaker 1: away from Mark. This is not an anti ri E conversation,
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  Speaker 1: but Peter should have been the Bachelor. He had, he
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  Speaker 1: had the skill sets, he has the looks um to
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  Speaker 1: be that guy, and he has the skin tone and
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  Speaker 1: who he is, but he has to get on a plane.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like we've been interview for years. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: and I thought, honestly, we could dig in there and
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  Speaker 1: more time to do it, but we had to move
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  Speaker 1: on to do is leaving. We have to figure out
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  Speaker 1: the true story behind this whole thing we do. That's like,
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  Speaker 1: it can't be true the whole Like it's got to
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  Speaker 1: be a business decision that was on just a personal decision.
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  Speaker 1: We from the inside know that you did want to
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  Speaker 1: do Winter Games. I do well, and I wonder, I
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  Speaker 1: honestly wonder this and I get it. Um everybody thinks
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  Speaker 1: that being a bachelor is this great thing, and it
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  Speaker 1: it is that has a ton opportunity to it. Life
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  Speaker 1: is enhanced and tremendous ways used to meet great people.
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  Speaker 1: But I wonder if some of these guys and some
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  Speaker 1: of these girls go into it thinking it's going to
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  Speaker 1: financially set them up for a long period of time,
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  Speaker 1: and then they find out what the Bachelor and Bachelor
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  Speaker 1: I actually kind of make. And I don't think the
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  Speaker 1: bachelor best be upset with me for saying this. They
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  Speaker 1: don't want you to do it for monetary purposes. There
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  Speaker 1: is they don't want to do in this by for
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  Speaker 1: financial gains. Part of them not paying a lot is
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: to keep the focus on why you're there, and that's
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  Speaker 1: for love. Now, granted it's about a small amount of it,
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  Speaker 1: it is enough for you to survive on. But the
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  Speaker 1: true reason to do the Bachelor where the bachelor is
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  Speaker 1: to find love. It is not to get rich quick correct, correct?
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of like the Presidency. They don't
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  Speaker 1: make that much money, No, they but they but they
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  Speaker 1: make money from elsewhere, just like bachelor's and bachelorettes can do.
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  Speaker 1: That's a great point, as I've never thought of it
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  Speaker 1: that way. They make money elsewhere the Presidency, you know, today,
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  Speaker 1: maybe more than ever, the Presidency and the Bachelor Bacherette
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  Speaker 1: feel one of the same. Yea, Well, we had a
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  Speaker 1: whole bunch of rapid fire questions that you guys love
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: and we love to do with Peter Button's Peter had
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: to leave. Really, Ben and I are just going to
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: play the game ourselves. Okay, so we got a few
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: questions here for anybody listening, you know, this is this
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: is our off season, right, there's no shows airing. Ashley
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: and I actually kind of liked the off season because
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: we need to talk about what's going on in our lives.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: We can talk to you all about what's going on
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: in your life. We get to try new little segments
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: out to kind of help us build on this podcast
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: and and bring in really cool interviews. Well today, uh,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: and what is this our second you know, off season episode,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: we're gonna ask each other some questions like as just said.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: So actually we got to know first concert Shania Twain
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: and I had to pee the entire time, like so badly.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: But I was with my best friend, one of her
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: other friends and her dad, and I didn't want to
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: have to ask her dad to go to the bathroom
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: with me. And it was like this huge pavilion. So
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I just sat there in just pain for hours and
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I couldn't enjoy it at all. What about you, what's
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: your first concert? Well, my my first concert was need
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: to Breathe. I love Need to Breathe. They're great, uh
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: them and Brian Duncan. Brian Duncan is an old old
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Christian artist. I grew up. I beviously with a family
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: who uh really love going to these like Christian festivals.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: And there's one and that used to be in Indiana
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: called Pulse Fest. So these are kind of like my
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: ways of going to a concert a little different, i'd
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: say the most kids, but I still remember it. They're
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: amazing experiences and I got to share them with my family,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: which is always a good memory that Actually, I gotta
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: tell you, are you still Shania Twain fam. Yeah, um,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: I love shanais plain. I have something super cool happening
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: right now with Shani Twain. Shanaia Twain is in just
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: my coincidence, just by coincidence. Nothing finalized. We're in talk,
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: but Shanai Twain runs a really great organization called Kids,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: and Shannai Kids is interested in partnering with Humanity and
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Hope United and Generous Coffee to build a school in
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Central America. And so we're in talks right now to
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: figure out how to make that happen, uh, to educate
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: some kids who typically would not get education. Super cool
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: and part first concert. Yeah, I just thought that was
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: going to say. Okay, second question to you, and I
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: think don't know the answer this, do you believe in
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: love at first sight? You know, for a hopeless romantic,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I wasn't really sold on him. I believed in lust
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: at first sight and all that. But I do have
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: to say, back in Paradise to season two, when I
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: did see Jared for the first time, I was a
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: whole different experience in any other crush at first sight.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: So if I I think I believe it love on
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: first sight, I think I do. What about you? Well, no,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: you can't just have to follow up here, so we
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: gotta slow down. Actually, I gotta know, and I don't
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: know if I've ever asked you that. For anybody listening,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: you gotta be honest with them. Did you love Jared? Yes?
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Did you love well No? Would you say that Jared
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: is your only love that you ever had in an
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: authentic way? Yes? I think I've been in love with
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: the thought of someone or two before before I ever
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: met Jared. I think like that was a true love.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's kind of the thing. And I gotta
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: protect you a little bit here because I get a lot.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: Is this you know? Oh, who's your coast? Actually many?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Oh the girl that is just obsessed with you. Now,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: I don't think they think it's wrong here, but I
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: think it looks like that at times when you just
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: see to see a glimpse of it. But if you
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: really break it down, you love this guy like this
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: was a true love for you. This wasn't a TV
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: of session, This wasn't a crush. This was somebody that
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: stole your heart. Yeah, I mean, how incredible Again, No
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: wonder this show has such a place for you and
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: that you continue to invest so much energy into it
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: because I think there's more going on and this shows
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: just to you and how it formed you as a
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: person than anybody truly understands as just a viewer for sure.
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, do you think Lauren was your second love? Um?
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I don't think I ever felt us. I would say
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I fell in love before Lauren. But I think with
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: Lauren there was a love and there was a commitment
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: that I had never tangibly felt before, Like I had
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: never looked at any other person that this is the
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: person I'm goinance in my life with. So I think
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: it was different. And the commitment side, maybe the feeling
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: of love and the feeling of I am just I
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: would love, I would love to and like just wake
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: up every morning next to this person and see this
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: person and raised person that you know. That's a feeling, um.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: But the commitment and the excitement beyond the commitment was
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: the first time I've ever felt that was Lauren. Okay,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: So I think I completely agree. I was in like
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: extreme lust, total obsession, like head over heels for the
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: thought of someone before two people specifically, and then when
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I met Jared, I feel like that was my first
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: adult love. Like I loved him for his flaws and
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: for like all like all the things, Um. And what
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: really annoyed me during you know, watching that and the
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: second season of it was people being like, she's not
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: in love, She's just obsessed. This is just infatuation. And
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: actually Nick said it to me um on the season
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: that I was on with Nick, and he was like,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: this isn't love, this is infatuation. I was like, you
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: have no right to tell me what I'm feeling. That
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: is so annoying. You guys don't know the relationship that
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: is behind closed doors. So and for all our listeners
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: out there, I think this is the topic. This is
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: this actually, honestly is one of my favorite parts about
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: the off season is we get to really dive into people,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: into the reader theme or the listeners emails and and
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: take colors. If anybody out there is listening and they say, hey,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: you know, we've felt this first love before, we felt
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: that takeover feeling, the feeling that just kind of consumes
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: you and you do almost in a sense, lose yourself
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: and there you know you you you kind of feel
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: something you're nervous before. Please emails your story. We love
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: to read him. Dude, the uplifting email us. Your first
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: love stories have been in Actley media dot com. Yeah,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: we well, I mean I know I would. I would
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: spend a ton of time reading those first love stories.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I think it's it's just a beautiful depiction of life,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: is that first time you feel love. Yeah, I know
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: people are going to be like, well, what about Kevin?
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: With Kevin, I love him as a person, you know,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: I really love him as a person. Another thing that
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: gets such on my nerves is when people are like,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: that was a showman, so you know they just did
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: it for the cameras. No, it wasn't. I really liked him.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: It was a crush. I liked him. We did for
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: three months. It was not something we did for the cameras. Um.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: It's just like over time, you you find the incompatibilities. Well,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: and if anybody understands the truth that you know you're
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: never gonna make everybody happy, and that you're going to
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: pursue what you desire and what you like and people
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: are gonna criticize you and people are going to celebrate
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: you no matter what. It's if you know you felt
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: this love, your heart's been ripped out before you you've
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: shared emotion with people, you get it, and I think
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: that's just a good lesson almost in life is to
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: pursue what you believe is right. To not let anybody
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: in the in there in the critic slow you down. Um,
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: to listen to the feedback. You know, you don't want
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: to continue on a path that is unhealthier, unwise, but
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: pursue these things. And I think that's what you've done.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: You pursued love. And we got to see you fall
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: for somebody on Winter Games, and that's why everybody was
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: still happy about it. We got to see you happy,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: and that's what we all want, uh, And that's what
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: I think we saw with Jared and then that was
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: ripped out from you on national television. M hmm. And
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: all the relationships that you have lead to the person
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to be with. I do feel like each
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: person is a little stone in your life that grows
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: you and develops you into the person that will find
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: the right match right right? So it does? It does. Actually,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I gotta ask you then, Um, with all these love
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: connections and the things that have only shows and you
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: now dating outside of the franchise, should a girl ever
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: make the first move? Mm? Hmm, good question. Just depends
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: on the guy who's on the receiving end of it.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: Some guys really like to be the pursuer, you know,
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: it's that fundamental primal thing or it's like they want
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: to go hunt the girl. And then there's other guys
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: who find it really attractive when a girl makes the
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: first move. It's gutsy and it shows confidence. So it
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: really depends on what guy you're working with. What do
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: you think? I honestly, I'm very torn here. I think
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: I don't think there's a right or wrong way to
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: do this. Now. I do believe that the man is
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: should be the pursuer, not that first move. I don't.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know, because you know, if somebody catches your
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: eye and you're a female, like you have like go
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: go tell that guy, like you know, we're all human here,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: like we're all people. But I do think that both
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: parties should pursue each other. But I think the man
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: needs to be intentional in his pursue of a woman.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I think it is his responsibility to make sure that
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: that woman feels cared for, appreciated, attractive. Um and uh,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: it's loved on all the time. Uh and loved on,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: not just like he fall in love with there, but
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: that they need to feel that you love them, even
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: if it's just as a person. So I think both
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: can make the first move. But I do think that
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: it is the man's role afterwards to make sure that
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: he is a support system for the female. And but
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not a female, so I can't speak for them,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: but I would like to say, you know that the
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: woman needs to feel the same way that they need
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: to pursue the man, that that they need to make
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: sure to that man it knows that they care for Um,
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: that's what data is, right, It's a it's a relationship.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: There's no it's a mutual interaction between two people. Right.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I feel like in my experience it's it's probably best
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say play hard to get, but
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: for the girl to just take it easy and sit
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: back and relax for the for the start of it.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I know people are going to give
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: me crap for that, but let's be real. Most guys
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: like to come to the girl well you know, but
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: actually there's there's a few things I want to ask
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: you about there, because through this podcast we've got to
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: know each other lot better you've been around me, Like,
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: you're really bad at having the guy come to you. No, no, no, no,
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm gonna actually say I struggle with
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: that first interaction. I love the post first interaction. I'm
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: great at that. I mean, I really enjoy the digging
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: into life and the sharing life to that. I love
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: that part. I am really bad at those first few interactions.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: I get very nervous still this day when it comes
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: to if I see some somebody that around town, if
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I just see somebody that I I'm into, I'm really
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: bad approaching them. I actually, do you want to hear
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: something crazy? I know how to think about it. I
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: don't remember one time that I approached a woman for
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: the first time. I think it's been like in group
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: settings where we've happened to like bounce off. But when
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: I've never approached somebody that I've seen and introduced myself to,
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: um randomly, never done it. You know what's funny. I
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: think that guys really are very nurvous about making the
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: first move, and I think it's totally fine for the
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: girl to make the first move, But after that move,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: after you've gotten his attention, then it's time to sort
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: of sit back and see what he does about it.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: Um and Ben, I think that you are not in
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: even the minority there. I think most guys would say.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: There is something about today's society that has made guys
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: even more scared about going up to girls. I feel
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: like what you know, back in our parents day, it
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: would the girl would barely ever go up to the guy.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: The guy was totally expected to make the first move.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: But now now I feel like it's fifty fifty and
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: it really relieves the guy. If if you guys are
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: making eyes at each other from cross the room, if
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: the girl just goes as, goes ahead and does it,
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: you guys, are you are thankful? Yeah, definitely, I mean,
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: and it relieves a lot of stuff. I don't know
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: what it is, though, I'd have to think back and
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: maybe next week episode I could tell you. But I
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: have this like fear of approaching a woman who I
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: was into and and her looking at me was in
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: laughing like that. That is like something that I think
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: about When you said that, I like, I have a
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: picture in my head right now me walking up to
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: somebody saying hey, I'm I'm I'm interested or high my name,
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: spin or whatever you say in that first interaction and
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: her turning around and just laughing, And I think that
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: would crush me. And I can imagine that's happened to
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: many people out there before. UM, if you're listening right
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: now and you've had a really bad first interaction, if
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: you've ever felt that, like just emptiness or the frustration,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: or just felt kind of picked after that first meeting,
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: emails your story. I don't want to feel alone here.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: I know I'm not the only one. Actually, I gotta
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: ask you something, okay, because I remember this a few
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: few weeks ago, and I gotta be honest. I I'm
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: not familiar with it. I don't typically like I try
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: to say it's politically correct or try to walk in
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: a lane as possible. I got a tweet and I'm
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: sure our listeners could fill in and they will and
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: they should. Um a couple of weeks ago when I
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: said female and they said that's derogatory and it's no
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: longer accepted, is right true? Am I am I missing
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: something because I said it earlier. I said it and
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: I realized I said it, and I stopped myself and
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: I thought, Okay, somebody has said that's no longer appropriate,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: and I never knew that, and I think that's learning. Yeah,
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: that I I'm learning things that are no longer appropriate
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: that I say mostly due to this podcast, which I appreciated,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: because now I'm I'm more politically correct than ever. I mean,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, we don't want you to get more politically correct, Ben,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: We've created a whole segment Ben bitches because you're too
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: politically correct. Sometimes. Um okay, I wouldn't think that it's
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: taboo or not politically correct to say females, but I
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: will say it sounds a little bit like animals. It's
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: like it's it's more animalistic. It doesn't sound like they're humans.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: It sounds like they're a species. M interesting. Well, I mean,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: I guess again, if you're listening and you have any
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: insight into this, actually no, I mean actually I don't
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: think you're wrong there. I get what you're saying, but
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: we don't know. We're guessing and we're assuming. Please uh
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: tweet us, email us, make sure you tag the podcast,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: because uh, if you're going to criticize this, mother as
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: will promote the podcast, you're doing it. So I can't
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: imagine myself saying males, males, really males, say the men,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: the men. Then two more questions. Actually, we're talking about love,
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: We're talking about life. We hope you find love one day.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: I root for you in that. I know you root
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: for me doing the same. When you find love, and
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: you when you look at that guy in the eyes,
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: and and and there a little twinkle, and the moment
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: comes where the conversation has to happen about what your
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: features entailed. Do you want kids? Of course I want kids.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I mean I want two to three. I have to
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: have to. What stresses me out is because my sister
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: and I are so close that I feel like I
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: need two of the same sex. So I'm gonna want
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: two boys or two girls. But the thing is, I
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: definitely need a girl. So if I were to have
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: two boys, I'm not and people are gonna be like,
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: oh my god, I hate her, right, I literally would
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: think I need to gender select the third girl. Really yeah,
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: because like I need Yeah, I mean, I think, I think,
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: I'm I think I may. I don't know. I really
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: just I can't even imagine myself being It would be
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: like all my little day dreams ever since I was
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: a little kid thinking about having kids, like I need
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: to play with a girl and play dress up and
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: play princesses and barbies and have a little playhouse and
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: all that you have to be. I mean, I don't
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: be raising boys like I can imagine a little boy like.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: It doesn't quite make sense to me, and I don't
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: process that well. Ideally, this is ideal, and nobody can
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: choose this. I mean technically, actually you can choose it,
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: but that's not the way I'm going to do it. Um.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I would love to have the oldest boy and then
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: two younger girls. Yes, protection or why? Um. I like
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: the thought of having an older brother. I wonder how
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: my life today would have been if I had an
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: older brother kind of assimilating me into male life. Men, men,
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, I think I would
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: be a lot more comfortable. I think I would have
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: grown up faster. I would have been able to socialize
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: with them completely differently, and I'd like to have that
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: for my girls. And I also love the fact of
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: a boy being there in high school in the hallways
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: for protection of the girls and always looking out for them. Um.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: And I think that most guys want a son, and
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: so I want to have a son from my husband,
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: and I think that would be like the perfect little combination.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: But if I have two girls, I may just stick
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: with the two girls, unless he's dying for a boy,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: in which we could do vice versa. My parents, my
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: dad especially, always wanted to be a dad of girls,
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: never wanted a boy, and they didn't try to have
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: a third kid because they didn't want to risk it
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: being a boy. Isn't that crazy? Yeah, I mean you
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: come from Yeah, I can again. I can see the
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: candy sisters. I know that I can sisters. I cannot
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: imagine a boy. I can. It doesn't it really doesn't
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: make any any sense to me. My dad and my
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: dad's like, I love being a rod women. I have
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: my wife, my two girls, my female dogs. Well, hey,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: you know what one day you and Jared well have
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, oh my goodness, Ben, we're gonna talk
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: about your kid desires. Okay, what is it? Well, first off,
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: I don't know what is it. I'm asking you. I
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: can imagine you as four kids. No, okay, so you know,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: as most people know, I am an only child. I
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: grew up in Indiana. I don't know what it's like
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: to have siblings. I had a lot of really great
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: friends and my parents are very close to me as
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: kind of friends, but I don't know what it was
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: like to have siblings. I would like to raipe my
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: children with siblings. I think it would be fun. And
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I enjoy kids. I really love that, like too to
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: seven age, where like they're funny and they're lighthearted, and
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: they're exploring life and they're saying the weirdest things and
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: they're still like children, so you can like guide them
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: and direct them, and they're not arguing with you back,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: they just kind of trust you. Like I'm excited for
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: that stage of life. And I would like to have
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: a bunch of kids, um all fairly close in age
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: and so at that like when they're in that two
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: to seven eight ag rains like we can just have
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: a blast as a family, like just travel and uh
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: it's funny. Actually last night, this is a little I
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: just turned twenty nine. As as you know, last night
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I did my annual financial budget. It's quarter one. Uh
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: you know, it's the end of March, and so for me,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: I I redo my budget the first three year and
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: I'm just now starting to save up for kids and
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: so This was my first budget that I'm putting putting
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: some money away um for the future, even though I
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: don't have them, even though I don't know when that
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: will happen. I thought, you know, I'm twenty nine years old.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I need to start becoming responsible and start prepping for
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: the future. So kind of funny that we're talking about this,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: because last night I did add it to the budget,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: did a little bit going away each month for those
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: little tykes. When a little responsible boy. I love that,
• 36:40
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• 36:42
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• 37:06
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• 37:18
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• 37:31
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• 37:36
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• 37:38
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• 37:41
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about health and wait for more seconds.
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  Speaker 1: Totally random. Becca and I actually talked about this all
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  Speaker 1: the time. We are at this very lucky stage where
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: I guess are what's that called metabolism is super good?
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: And I basically eat whatever I want. People are like,
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: what's your secret? And you, guys, I have no secrets.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: I I don't know. I definitely eat too much and
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  Speaker 1: too much crap, but it doesn't really affect me. Like
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: if I eat all this crap, I look like this
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: and I look pretty good. If I'm really healthy, then
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: I can be like seven pounds lighter. But then like
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: my life is just not as much fun, you know,
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: like I'm not hanging out with friends as much. I
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I'm not enjoying food as much. One day it's gonna
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: catch up with me. It's gonna catch up with Becca,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna have to make this huge lifestyle change.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: M h. And it just sucks. But people keep saying, like,
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: you're gonna start seeing it when you're thirty. So you know,
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: I had that magical age turn a couple of weeks ago,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: So A'm I gonna start seeing it any day now,
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: Like all of a sudden, the core muffin that I'm
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: munching on during this is just gonna go straight to
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: my stomach. And like another thing is I know that
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: when I eat dinner, Holy crap, when I have dinner
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  Speaker 1: like it's something really fried or it really and honestly
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: anything like that's on the salad, my stomach gets gigantic.
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  Speaker 1: We call it my alien and then my aliens there,
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: and then I go to bed and then I wake
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: up with my stomach that were flat again. But then
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: one day I'm gonna wake up and I'm going to
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: have a huge gut. What do I do about this? Bed? Well,
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: I mean you do beat bodies. First off. Second off,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: I mean I think it's true. I mean, it is
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: the process of life. Um, nobody can define age. Age happens.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Time is one thing that is uncontrollable, controllable. We have
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: to get healthy. We have to start healthy habits. I
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: mean we have to. If we have to be intentional
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: about how we live life, we can't go to this
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: thing as kids. I think that's the beauty of being
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: a kid is you can be a little irresponsible, you
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: can make huge mistakes. You can you can eat what
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  Speaker 1: you want and do what you want, and you get
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: tons of times just to hang out with friends. As
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: we get older, UM, we have to prepare for the
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: future generation. You have to be the best person possible
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  Speaker 1: possible for your husband, UM, for your partner in life,
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  Speaker 1: whatever that is. You have to start making those choices
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  Speaker 1: now so that you can be that person later. And
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  Speaker 1: so asked, I want to tell you. I mean, I
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: think you look amazing, you are absolutely beautiful. But we
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: have to start getting healthy. Bed do you eat healthy?
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: I eat super healthy? You can ask you, Yeah, I do.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: I don't eat fried food. I limit my bread and take. Um,
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: I eat a ton of vegetables, a ton of fruit.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I do. I I eat pretty healthy. How much prep
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: do you put into it? None? I just throw some
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: things together. I mean that's the beauty of it. I
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: throw are some things together, eat super healthy. And for
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: anybody out there listening, UM, I mean I think we
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: can all relate on this right well, we all know,
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: especially in today's general like in today's world, we have
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: so much act to the knowledge and data on food
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: and take and kind of what we're eating and how
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: it's affecting us. Um, you know, would now we have
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: a whole you know group of people who still act um,
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: who have gluten allergies, and we never knew that until
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: you know, recently. This is uh something that we need
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: to stay on top of. And and so as I'm sorry,
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: enjoy corn muston today, but tomorrow might not be happening. Actually,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: I gotta ask you something here, um, something is super
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: interesting to me. Uh. You know, yesterday was April Fools
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: to Day, um, the big day. People throwing random stuff
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: out there. Everybody's making jokes. People are acting like they're
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: leaving football teams, and you know, people asking when they
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: break up whatever. A lot of jokes being played, a
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: lot of being had. I didn't throw one out there
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: for the first time in a while, just because honestly,
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: I'd forgotten to think about it. Our poor guy Ari
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: can't win one. I mean, I I don't. Oh my god,
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: I feel like this is a podcaster. I'm gonna get
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: a whole bunch of trouble you guys, but our guy,
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: are you okay? We don't Hey, Ari, let me be clear,
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: I don't hate Ari. I think he made some really
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: big mistakes in The Bachelor. I don't. I don't think
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: that he was the best bachelor we've ever had. His
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: season obviously wasn't the most watchable season we've ever had.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: But he found love, and so if that's what we
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: want to great. But the guy, obviously, and we all
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: know this, nobody can deny that he wasn't the most
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: love bachelor. People gave him a lot of crap. Uh.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: They weren't the biggest fans of him for for a
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: whole different list of reasons. I don't know at this
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: point if he's just given up and he just said,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm just gonna go and and be disliked.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: But yesterday, if you haven't seen, on Twitter, Ari and
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: Lauren posted a picture. But it looks like Ari's hands
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: around Lauren's stomach and it makes it look like they
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: have an announcement that they're having a baby. Well, people
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: obviously react because uh, some people can't get pregnant, they're
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: not fertile, and they and they want to have a baby,
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: and they can't, so they took a fence to it.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: Others were saying, oh, you should take a fence, it's
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: a joke and taple fools whatever. But I mean, the
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: majority of people were not a fan of his joke,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: his joke at all. A lot of people were very
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: up that Actually, I want to hear your your thoughts
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: on this, and and my fault question that is has
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: already just given up. Um. So yeah, I like I'm saying,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm getting a lot of trouble for
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: things I said today. I think people really really overreacted
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: about that. I mean, you guys, we can't be we
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: can't take everything like everything can't disturb people and make
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: them sad. Like we have to be able to like
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: brush some things off as jokes these days. That's like
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: saying that, yes, of course there's so many people okay
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: a pregnant, it's like the saddest thing ever. But that's
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: like saying that people who are pregnant can't walk around
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: and show their baby bump because it may make them sad.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: So you're just saying that we're way too sensive. And
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of people so I think, so
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: what this people was way too sensitive. If that's going
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: to make somebody who is having fertility issues really sad,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of other things that are going to
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: make them really sad too. Yeah, I don't know. I
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: think they will totally over reacted. I think that it
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: was another bachelor. I think it was another bachelor, people
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: wouldn't have cause such an up. Poor m I mean, actually,
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: you're completely entuth to your opinion, and I think your
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: opinion is probably similar to a lot of people that
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's split the peace of to you.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Either I think people are reacted or you think, no,
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: they didn't and this pictures should have been posted. You're
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: not alone in this. You're obviously going to get people
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: that disagree with you. That's fine, that's why. But we
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: have to be able to share opinions. If we don't
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: share opinions on this podcast, what else we got? I mean,
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: you know, it's we're talking about things in reality television.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: If reality television is and controversial in itself, like I
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: don't know what it and so I you know, I
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: kind of say more in the middle. I get that
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: it was just an awkward joke and a sensory That's
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: how I say, I understand that we were way too sensitive.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: I don't think we need to be that sensitive. I
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: don't think they were doing anything too intentional. You know,
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: we always think about the intention behind it, and the
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: intention behind it was not to offend a large group
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: of people. That was not his intention. But I will
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: say that the joke was awkward. Can I say that,
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: like just weird? Totally awkward and just for a couple
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: that is still so touchy that people still have such
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: issues with them, it is probably not the smartest You've
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: come up with so many other things that was almost
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: cliche of them. I I completely agree, And you know,
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  Speaker 1: I wonder the world, like, what is their thought process
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: right now when it comes to life? I mean, I
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: mean I would have blame them if I saw an
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: article written and said, oh, you know, another mistake from
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: the most hated bachelor couple in the history of the back.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: So now I don't want to claim they are that.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know that. I don't have data.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: That's not scientific. That's just an opinion of some of
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: a journalist. But I wonder at this point, because they
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: felt so much, um just heat and hate and anger,
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: um from the show. If they've just kind of given
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: up and they're just like, you know what, I don't
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: care if people like us and we're just gonna keep
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: doing our thing, um and and I just wonder where
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: they're at right now in life. I mean, they have
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: to feel a little isolated from from the popular bachelor family. Okay, um,
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: we're we're about to get a color in. Um. We
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: got a beaut beautiful email last week from a girl
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: who was very moved by Ben Um. But right now
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about Movement watches. That was really bad.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: That was a really bad stretch. Spring is right around
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: the corner and Movement is dropping all new sunglasses to
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: get you ready for warmer weather. There's a big selection.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: If you're looking for something for your spring break, your
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: summer vacation, Coachella, the beach. They have all the go
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: to shades for it. I love a good pool shade
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: that's gonna totally cover my tired, hungover eyes on vacation.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: Movement does a great job and making those types of styles.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: The guys that Movement, they don't just make great watches,
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: they also make awesome sunglasses. Here's my problem with sunglasses.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: I got all these cheap pairs. It looked terrible. But
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: every time I spent two d dollars for a pair,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: I feel like I got ripped off. I feel like
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: I lose them. I can't spend that much money on sunglasses,
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: because yes, I do lose a ton. Well, our friends
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: that movement were like, yeah, we're the watch guys, but
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: also how about we become the sunglasses guys too. Um.
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  Speaker 1: Their sunglasses aren't just plastic, their acetate. You can get
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  Speaker 1: them polarized, and they start at just seventy dollars. They're
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: seriously my new go to shade. They feel great, they
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: look super stylish. I've had people come up to me
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: and ask what kind of sunglasses I'm wearing. They think
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: that it's one of the really expensive brands, but I'm like, no,
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: their movement, they're really sleek. They're matt Black, they're a
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: little bit retro. I feel like I honestly feel like
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  Speaker 1: a movie star in them. Their high quality, there's no
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• 52:48
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  Speaker 1: I was incredible. I don't know if anybody wants to
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: be like me, but I do know somebody that all
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: to be like and that that's our next collar. And
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: I want to take a little second and segue into
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: our next collar and get a little background. So for you,
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: for those of you who don't know, I work with
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: an organization called Humanity and Hope United very closely UH.
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: In order to help support the funding of this nonprofit,
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: we started a company called Generous International. We still both things,
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: but we're best known for coffee because that's what we
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: do best. So we sell coffee um online at generous
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: movement dot com and our profits are then donated to
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: these nonprofits and causes that are trying to do some
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: type of sustainable good in the world. Well, with all
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: that being said, um, this was something that a couple
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: of my friends and I started and now it's not
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: even I mean, it's never been about us. It's really
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: been about what we feel like our purpose is being
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: called to and and that really comes from our faith
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: and and just our belief system that, um, you know,
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: God does desire everybody to to have hope, to be
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: loved on, and to have opportunities. So that's where Gennerors
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: came from. Well, we got an email from somebody named Hannah,
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: and Hannah obviously has a huge heart to the Huge
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: Heart First Service taston as one of the coolest emails
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: I've ever seen. And and Ashley, if you don't mind
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: for a second, would you mind just reading through uh
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: this email before we speak with Hannah. Yes, Hi, Ben
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: and Ashley and of course Amy. Amy is not in
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: studio today, as you guys can probably tell. Well, I
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: love all of you equally. My email is specifically for Ben.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: I really want to get in touch with Ben about
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: how to help out with generous coffee. Back in June,
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: I was forced to quit my job because of health issues.
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: I've been dealing with for years that have started to
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: make it physically impossible for me to go to work.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: Despite my fears of not being able to support myself,
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: I made it work, and I decided to stay in
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: this beautiful place. And it turned out that I've been
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: dealing with all of my health issues and leaving my
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: job it was actually something wonderful. Ben. You understand that
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: life is all about giving back, being selfless, and supporting
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: and loving others as much as you can, and for
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: that I truly look up to you. I light up
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: and listen a little more closely whenever you talk about
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: generous coffee on the podcast. Your selflessness has really got
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: me thinking about my own life, and your generosity is
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: one of the reasons that I decided that I wanted
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: to donate money that I make from my Etsy to charity.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: I wanted to know that you inspire me for this idea.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: My goal is to personally raise a thousand dollars for
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: good causes in two thousand and eighteen, which will require
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: about four hundred cards sales. My business is called I'm
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: Bringing Crafty Back UM. We can post will post the
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: the the u r L on one of our twitters
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: I'm also posting all of my cards to Instagram and
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: that is at Hannah dot t U, R G, E O,
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: N or at. I'm bringing crafty back if you want
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: to check them out there. So now Ben is going
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: to get a chance to talk to Hannah on the line.
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: Anna you out there, I'm here, Hi, Hi, Hey, Hanna.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us on the almost famous podcast.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: Of course, I'm so excited freaking out, don't freak out.
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: We go a lot to talk about here UM and
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: will receive this email, and I want to personally to
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: start by seeing that at tonight, UH, We're incredibly moved
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: by your generosity. We think it is absolutely incredible that
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: a small little business like hers that you be willing
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: to support people all over the world. And and thank
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: you for wanting to do that through Generous. It means
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: a lot to me personally. At Generous, we really do
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: believe that everyone deserves an opportunity and your partnership with
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: us UM can make that happen. And so Hannah, thank you.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: Of course, I'm so excited and I gotta ask you here. UM.
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: We just read the email. What moves you like? What
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: is your dreams for this campaign? That you're starting here. Um.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: So Um. First of all, I UM, I just I
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: think it's so admirable that you've used your platform from
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: the back Twitter to do something great with that. And UM,
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: I just kind of realized that I wanted to use
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: my su to do something bigger and make it into
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: something more specifal and meaningful. Um. And I just realized
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: that there's so many other people in the world that
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: need the money more than I do. So there's really
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: an easy decision, um, once I thought of it. And
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I just wanted to find a way to try to
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: make a difference, season if it's a small one. Um.
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: And this kind of leave the world is a better
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: place built that line from you, Ben, Um, and I
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: just um, like you were saying, I just feel like
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: life is about loving others as much as you can
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: and lifting other people up as much as you can.
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: And that's what I'm trying to do. Um. And I
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: know it's not gonna be like a huge difference because
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't make that muself a profit. But
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: what I do make I want to I want to
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: give to generis for the next Dennis Covy for the
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: next four months. That's amazing Hannah. Um, so you left
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: your job and now you've created this etsy where you
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: make really cute I'm looking at your cards right now, um,
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: very they're very crafty, they're super adorable. They're like don
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: seemed why and themed coffee themed, and all of this
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: money you're going to donate that all the money you
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: make in these cards are about five dollars each is
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: going to go to Generous. Yeah, well so I sent
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: really now, I spent about fifty percent on materials, and
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: then I'm taking a different charity each month to donate
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: the other fifty to um or not necessarily a charity,
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: some good cause. I know Jennerous Coffee is a business,
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: but um, yeah, so whatever is less over after materials,
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: who is gonna gonna go to Generous Coffee. Well we can,
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: we can definitely figure out a great way for you
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: to get, um, some free coffee delivered to you for
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: your for your donation. And I want to tell you,
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: I know you feel like, um, this is just a
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: small amount, and I get that feeling right where when
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: we first started up in October last year, we were
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: trying to donate to these causes and we're writing very
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: small checks because we're new and it just feels like, Okay,
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: the impact actually ever going to be paid? You know,
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: it is a dollar, seven dollars dollars know what impact
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: and that make? And and I want to tell you,
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: uh that to supply at gay's worth of work for
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: somebody in Central America right now. It's specifically in hundera.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: It's just seven dollars and that is almost a two
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: increase than what the averages and some of the stage
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: don't we work with. So I mean, even seven dollars
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: make a huge impact and it doesn't really matter the amount.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: And I have to stick to this in life and
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: and for anybody out there listening, this is something that
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: keeps me encourage um as we move forward. And I
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: don't care what your face system is. You can believe
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: a thousand different things, UM, but my face is Uh.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: I am a Christian and the set come a place
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: where I do read the Bible, and there's a story
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: of the Bible about a widow, uh, and a widow
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: donate of a few cents um to a really great
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: cause and other people are donating hundreds on hundreds of
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: thousands of dollars and in the response the person receiving
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: the gift which was Jesus and says true. I tell
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: you this, widows put more into the treasury than all others.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: They gave out of their wealth, but she out of
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: her poverty, putting everything and she had to live off.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: So I'm telling you, Hannah, no matter what it is,
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: you're giving um out of a plate that is beautiful
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: and we appreciate you. And I promise you that live
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: will be a hand and opportunity will give in and
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: I hope will fill themselves based on your gifts. So
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: thank you, and I want to support this in any
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: way cancer. For all listeners out there, we want to
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: remind you, Hannah, where can they go to purchase one
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: of your cards today? Alrighty, so, um if you just
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: search I'm bringing craft fee back on sc um you
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: can find me directly, but um I also post all
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: my cards on Instagram if you want to follow me there,
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: um and just kind of keep up and see there
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: any cards that you like. And that's um At. I'm
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: bringing crafty back there. Thank you and what you're doing
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: is amazing. And the next time I need to thank
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: you or a birthday card, I know where I'm going awesome.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: I was today custom orders. So if there's something in
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: there that you don't if you don't see something on
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: there that you want, then UM, feel free to reach outright.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: Thank you guys, this is so amazing. I'm really glad
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: I guess to talk to you both. Hey, I'm glad
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: you were born you do then by Actually, I'm telling
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: you now, the people that exist in this world today,
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: for all, for all of our issues, for all the
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: things that separate us, for all the the unpopular opinions
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: that make people criticize this, I'm telling you right now,
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: I am I'm going to prophesy that the people who
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: live on here today, not just just this generation, but
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: the people living are going to completely change the world
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: for good. And I feel it, I know it. Um.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: It's people like Hannah. We're going out of their way
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: to say I'm tired of the status flow. I'm tired
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: of people stuffering. I'm tired of people not having clean water,
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: I'm tired of people not having food. I'm tired of
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: people getting sick. I'm tired of people having parasites. I'm
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: tired of people not having health care. They're saying this
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: is not an option anymore. We're gonna take a standard,
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: We're gonna make it different, and hey, if that can
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: be through generous. Generous is not about me, it's not
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: about my buddies. Generous is now with over thirteen people involved.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: This is a movement. This is This is a group
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: of people just saying we want to help where we can. UM.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: If it's a generous, great, If it's not awesome as well,
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: let's just join together. Instead of criticizing um or instead
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: of bringing us down, let's bring us up. Let's bring
• 1:03:40
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  Speaker 1: This is from Megan. I am so happy to be
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: talking to you through email. My best friend and I
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: are both big listeners, and we discussed your podcast weekly.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: This week, we've been talking about my dating dilemma and
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: I decided that I needed to go to the authority
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• 1:06:33
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• 1:06:40
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  Speaker 1: me more than any guy has in a long time. Mentally,
• 1:06:48
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• 1:06:51
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• 1:06:56
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• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: say it's about chemistry with him on my side. I've
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  Speaker 1: never done this before, and it's always been an all
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  Speaker 1: or nothing thing for me. However, I know that they
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  Speaker 1: say that chemistry can grow, and I wonder if I
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  Speaker 1: should give it a few more dates to see how
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  Speaker 1: the chemistry really blossoms for me, or if I should
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  Speaker 1: just cut it off now. I would love your advice.
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  Speaker 1: And for reference, I am thirty and he is twenty seven.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you. I like this email. I like this email. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow, okay, I mean yeah, I know you're all
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  Speaker 1: about chemistry. What you're excited about. Let's go actually take
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  Speaker 1: awake some advice, let make it have it Okay. So
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  Speaker 1: for me, chemistry can only get better. It's it's all
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  Speaker 1: there initially. But for me, I can get really nervous.
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  Speaker 1: So sometimes I do need to form a friendship first,
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  Speaker 1: um or I need to just spend a little bit
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  Speaker 1: extra time with him before he can see the real me. UM.
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  Speaker 1: But I death really think if you've been on, you've
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  Speaker 1: been with him for about three weeks. I think at
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  Speaker 1: this point you're probably at the you're at You're at
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  Speaker 1: the decision point. So if you're only feeling sixty five
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  Speaker 1: chemistry at this point, I'm gonna say give it one
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  Speaker 1: more date to really make sure that you feel secure
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  Speaker 1: in making the breakup decision, because if you're just feeling
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  Speaker 1: mad right now, I don't think it's going to get
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  Speaker 1: much better after this. I mean, I think I think
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  Speaker 1: there's a difference between friends becoming lovers and you know,
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  Speaker 1: your relationship evolving over time. But I think even with
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: those people who started out as friends and it evolved
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  Speaker 1: into more, they had a sort they had a chemistry
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  Speaker 1: in the beginning. It sounds like you're not mentally you
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  Speaker 1: say that you have a you say, you go, you go,
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  Speaker 1: we have sub mentally you click and we have some kindustry.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like you need to be
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  Speaker 1: pretty sparky at this point if you are not feeling it,
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  Speaker 1: If you're not feeling sparks right now, I don't think
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  Speaker 1: you're ever going to feel sparks. I don't even know.
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  Speaker 1: Mentally we clicked means honestly like that, like emotionally Does
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  Speaker 1: that mean like No, that means mentally like through like
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: what do you call that? H E sp what what
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: do you call it? When you like can connect with Yes, Yeah,
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: that's when when you're reading each other's minds. Okay, well
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  Speaker 1: I don't um. I know actually from my I can
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  Speaker 1: really only speak from experience and from my friends experiences
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  Speaker 1: that I've been LSC. I have never been around a
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  Speaker 1: couple who has dated for let's say more than a
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  Speaker 1: few weeks and they were questioning the chemistry, or if
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: one of them was questioned the chemistry and that they
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: ended up being together long term. I've never been that
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  Speaker 1: drastic of a twitch. If you're like, I'm just not
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 1: that into him, I'm not really feeing it. I've spent
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: some quality time with the guy. You know, he's great.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: He treats me so well. It's not like he's doing
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: anything like wrong. It's just I'm not feeling I'm I
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: have never heard and I think it can't happen. I
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: would just say, uh, percentages is it's going to not
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  Speaker 1: work out? Okay, you guys. I feel like over the
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  Speaker 1: past couple of months, I've been kind of keeping to
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  Speaker 1: myself a lot of my experiences because it does affect
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: so many people out there, because like they're part of
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  Speaker 1: the conversation as well. But I'll let you in a
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  Speaker 1: little bit here. I remember when I visited Kevin in
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  Speaker 1: Canada for the first and only time. Actually I had
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: known him for a month at that point, and I
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: met my sister at the airport because we were going
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: to go down We're going on a vacation right from
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: the Toronto airport, and she's like, how do you feel?
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I like him. I like him, but
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: it's been four weeks and I don't feel at all
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: like I'm falling in love. Should I feel like I'm
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: falling in love at this point or at least like
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  Speaker 1: that I can see a future? And I was like,
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: and I don't know. I think I should feel like
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 1: falling but I'm not. And I think that that was
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: a point where I knew it wasn't going to be
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: a long term thing. Well as I also don't think
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: you need to put the pressure on yourself to get
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: to a certain spot of a certain times. I think,
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: but don't you think that after a month you should
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: be like I'm feeling head over heels, not just like
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: I like him, I have a crush. Yeah, I mean
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: I do. I think I think the truth is, if
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: we're to summarize Megan's question right, there is this, Um, Megan,
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  Speaker 1: I would say to be concerned. I'm not saying in
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  Speaker 1: it right now. I'm not saying this is this is
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: a lost cause, but it would be a major concern
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: for me if you feel this lack of chemistry with
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: this guy after that much time and after that much
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: time together. Um, I think if we're all very honest,
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 1: and this is one of the hardest things to do
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: in life, is to break up and and and the
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: split and saying goodbye to some it just not even
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: to break up for them. They've only been together for
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: three weeks, and I think it's easier if you're not
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: feeling it to just break it off now, especially for
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: thirty Like why continue to prolong it? Yeah, I just
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: just know that that the percentages are probably not on
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: your side, and that actually I both agree at some
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: point this will end, and it just matters when. Um,
• 1:12:22
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  Speaker 1: Um hey and and speaking of that. I do want
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  Speaker 1: to close this whole Megan email. Um, we're just saying, Megan,
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 1: keep pursuing data. I know this is probably a frustrating situation.
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 1: I know you probably feel like you're doing something wrong
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 1: and you can't necessarily point to what he's doing wrong. Uh,
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 1: that's a terrible that that limbo and that that lack
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 1: of clarity stage in life. That it's such a hard
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 1: stage to live in. And and but you're not alone
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 1: in it. We're all going through We've all gone through it. Um.
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 1: Just just know that whatever you're feeling right now and
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 1: in your dating world, somebody else has felt that way before.
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: You're not crazy, You're not doing anything wrong. You're not
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: a bad person. Breakups they're terrible, they're hard, Um, but
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 1: they need to happen sometimes it's the best thing for
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: both parties. I gotta add a little something in there. Hey, Megan, UM,
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 1: I know that at this stage, at thirty, you're like, oh,
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: I found a guy who treats me nice and I
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 1: get along well, Like, maybe we should just keep pushing
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: through this and see what happens. But you should never
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: be in a relationship. We were like, I should just
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 1: push through this and like because he's good to me,
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 1: and like it's not face like. Um, very well balanced,
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 1: lovely relationship. But I don't feel any magic. You should
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 1: always feel magic as Carrie, as Carrie Bradja says, never
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: settle for less than magic. Right, she said, never settle
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: for anything less. Don't ask me I have, I have
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 1: no idea. You're you're on your own hair. Never settle
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 1: for anything. I gotta google this than butterflies. Yes, never
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 1: settle for anything less than butterflies, Megan, that's all you
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 1: have to keep reminding yourself up. Alright, it's time for
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• 1:16:40
  Speaker 1: It's absolutely unbelievable this topic. To me. I don't understand
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: how this continues to happen time after time after time.
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna call this little segment for me. Stand in
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 1: line and wait your turn. I fly a lot. I
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 1: fly all the time, and my biggest setive on these
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 1: planes is that I'm sitting in my seat patiently waiting.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 1: Nobody's comfortable. This is a plane, it's literally a plane.
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 1: Nobody wants to be there. We're all gonna have to
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: get off at some point. At most, the difference from
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 1: the first person getting off the plane to the last
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: person getting off the plane it's ten minutes. But for
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: some reason, every time there's the person behind me that
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: feels like it is their right to walk in the
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: aisle and stand there at my feet as I try
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: to get off. There's an order here. There's an order
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: in life. Lines were created for order. So if there
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: is an order, there's a set way the process to
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 1: a line, especially on a plane where there's no place
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: to go. I can't even brought in front of you
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  Speaker 1: because you're already standing there. Wait until the person in
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: front of you leave their seats, stands in the aisle,
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 1: grab their bags, walks forward until you take those steps
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: that location. It's the same thing in life. Let's look
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 1: at this in a figure picture. Okay, we all got
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: a role to play, we've all got a purpose to
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  Speaker 1: be had, we're all pursuing something. Okay, But there's gonna
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 1: be those times that you have to stand in line
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: because you don't know what that line is gonna bring.
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 1: That line might mean you wait a few extra months
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 1: to pursue that opportunity because it's just right and it
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 1: fits you well. Being in a hurry doesn't exactly progress
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 1: you forward. It just makes you rush through the moments
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 1: that we may never remember, may never have. Take time
• 1:18:34
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• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, hey Ben, Yeah, I do find that
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  Speaker 1: airports are the place in the world where people are
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: their most oblivious. They really have no idea who's in
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 1: front of them, are behind them at that point. It's
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: the time is all in their own head. They're not
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: realizing that like there's somebody struggling behind them, or that
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 1: somebody has I don't know, maybe I'm I'm contradicting you,
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 1: but what if somebody has connecting flights to catch and
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: they do have to be like I gotta go, I
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 1: gotta go. Then what when you ask nicely say hey,
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 1: I'm in a hurry, do you mind if I take
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 1: your play in this line so it's understood that you
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 1: are taking the place mine and I'm able to tell
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: you communicate with you. Yes, that is okay. Or maybe
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 1: it is not okay because maybe I have its neckting
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 1: fight as well, and I just might be a little
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: more patient. Actually, you're right, airports are crazy place. I
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  Speaker 1: cannot imagine four years ago or three years ago, if
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: I would have seen saw Astley I can Eddie walking airport,
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  Speaker 1: I would have flipped out. I would have recognized that. Um. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: it is a pleasure talking to you every week. I'm
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