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My stepkids DEMANDED to move in… and called my house their family home! -r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP3139 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My stepkids demanded to move in and called my house
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  Speaker 4: their family home.
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  Speaker 5: Family home. Schmamily home. I like it.
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  Speaker 2: I married my husband two years ago.
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  Speaker 4: He has two kids. 24 female and 22 male. He
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  Speaker 4: had a very nasty divorce from their mom that was
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  Speaker 4: fought out over the course of years. Part of the
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  Speaker 4: reason for the marriage ending was she had a problem
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  Speaker 4: and blew through their savings and was running up credit
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  Speaker 4: cards he didn't know about to pay for it. The
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  Speaker 4: divorce finalized when the youngest was 16. She wanted the
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  Speaker 4: house in the divorce, which was a big part of
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  Speaker 4: the fight.
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  Speaker 6: She ended up getting it.
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  Speaker 7: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: She immediately moved in her boyfriend and another couple and
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  Speaker 4: the house ended up getting destroyed and falling into foreclosure.
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  Speaker 4: And they then proceeded to squat in it and had
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  Speaker 4: to be forcibly removed.
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  Speaker 2: Dang, what the heck?
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  Speaker 4: Because my husband and his ex ended up also having
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  Speaker 4: to file bankruptcy, he had been living in a friend's
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  Speaker 4: basement when I met him due to his credit being wrecked.
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  Speaker 2: This sounds like a horrible story.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah. I was just going to say, dude.
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  Speaker 7: God.
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  Speaker 5: I was just going to say, dude. We've only got
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  Speaker 5: like the first part of it.
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  Speaker 6: This does not sound fun.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I will tell you that much. This sounds like a
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  Speaker 4: crappy situation. And by the way, this comes from roundlife7460.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm Mike.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to talk about some stuff, give some advice,
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  Speaker 4: but we don't have all your answers.
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  Speaker 2: We are only going to say what we would do.
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  Speaker 2: But if you know.
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  Speaker 6: What you would do, put it in the comments.
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  Speaker 8: I read them.
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  Speaker 4: As Opie says, fast forward, we are married. He moves
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  Speaker 4: into my house. Got a prenuptial agreement. He can't be
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  Speaker 4: on the mortgage due to his credit anyways. God, I mean,
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  Speaker 4: his ex really screams. him in every ass.
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  Speaker 5: I mean this guy sounds like a baller bro.
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  Speaker 4: He can never have like a credit card ever and
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  Speaker 4: his ex and kids are living with grandparents his kids
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  Speaker 4: and ex don't like me they refer to me as
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  Speaker 4: that c word love sick that's awesome But at this point,
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  Speaker 4: they are all adults, so I'm not going to force
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  Speaker 4: things with them. Grandparents recently had to sell their home,
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  Speaker 4: and they are now living with their mom's friends. They
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  Speaker 4: asked if they could move in with us, and I
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  Speaker 4: said no. So I feel they want to. So the
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  Speaker 4: kids now, will they be homeless? houseless or whatever they say.
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  Speaker 5: Unhoused, I think we call it.
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  Speaker 2: Unhoused, yeah. Are they going, so these kids are now
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  Speaker 2: unhoused kids.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, just walking the streets.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like they don't have anywhere, I don't know
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  Speaker 4: how old they are now, but they can't.
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  Speaker 8: Get a place. Excuse me. Excuse me, sire. We lost
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  Speaker 8: the house because daddy couldn't make the payments.
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  Speaker 2: Excuse me. Excuse me, sire.
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  Speaker 6: Excuse me.
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  Speaker 2: My parents up and left and we have nowhere to go.
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  Speaker 2: And my dad.
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  Speaker 8: Do you have any pennies that you can give me, Shia?
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  Speaker 2: My dad and stepmom won't let us live in the house,
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  Speaker 2: which I get.
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  Speaker 4: I would like if they they literally are referring to
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  Speaker 4: you as the C word. No, you're not stepping foot
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  Speaker 4: in my house.
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  Speaker 6: Sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Until I get a better name.
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  Speaker 5: You know, you don't call the people you like, but
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  Speaker 5: the C word.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I do, but in this case, it seems personal. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know why, but I have a bad feeling about
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  Speaker 2: this one.
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  Speaker 4: Both got angry and started telling me that this was
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  Speaker 4: their dad's home and that makes this their family home, too.
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  Speaker 4: And it wasn't up to me if they could live
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  Speaker 4: there or not.
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  Speaker 2: Excuse me. This is my house that your dad moved into.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 6: He's not even on the mortgage.
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  Speaker 2: He couldn't even sign the credit.
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  Speaker 1: He couldn't be on the credit.
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  Speaker 2: He can't even be like linked to this house right now.
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  Speaker 4: And you're saying it's your family home that you've never
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  Speaker 4: stepped foot in.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 2: Any more lies you want to tell?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, bro's rocking a 322 credit score.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: He's like, oh, what am I doing?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and the kids are like, can we move in
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  Speaker 4: to your home?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm sorry. Actually, I have no connection to this home.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, dude. We got to keep this going, dude. Let's go.
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  Speaker 4: They started spouting off every insult they could think of.
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  Speaker 4: I interrupted them and told them that, in fact, it
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  Speaker 4: was not their family home. And if they were looking
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  Speaker 4: for their family home, they need to go talk to
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  Speaker 4: their mom because she chopped it up and put it
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  Speaker 4: up her nose. And that wasn't my problem.
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  Speaker 5: What?
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  Speaker 6: Why did the mom snort the house?
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  Speaker 2: I'm so confused.
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  Speaker 5: I was going to say, what is this like Mr.
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  Speaker 5: Magoo thing that she's like doing? You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: Like what is going on here, bro?
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  Speaker 2: I have no idea what just happened.
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  Speaker 8: I'm ready.
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  Speaker 5: I'm ready for it. I'm ready.
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  Speaker 2: This took a turn, bro. It took a turn.
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  Speaker 5: It was like, we were talking about, we were talking
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  Speaker 5: about like a family getting foreclosed and they're like, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And then like my mom used like the deed as
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  Speaker 5: rolling papers.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, what?
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  Speaker 5: Oh, what?
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  Speaker 10: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: All right.
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  Speaker 9: Cool. Nice.
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  Speaker 5: She likes to party. Send her my way.
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  Speaker 2: She's a C word.
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  Speaker 5: She's a good one. Good C word.
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  Speaker 2: She's the good C.
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  Speaker 5: The good C. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: A huge part of the reason I don't want them
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  Speaker 4: here is that their mom has since squatted multiple places,
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  Speaker 4: forcing roommates to have to threaten her with eviction to
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  Speaker 4: get her out and basically told the last one she
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  Speaker 4: would leave for.
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  Speaker 2: A certain amount of money.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, no.
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  Speaker 4: The kids and her are very close and I don't
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  Speaker 4: want that happening in my house.
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  Speaker 2: That's the end.
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  Speaker 5: No way.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I don't want that to happen in anyone's house, truthfully,
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  Speaker 4: especially your house.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Because it seems like you worked for this house, and
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  Speaker 4: they're going to come in and, oh, it's going to
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  Speaker 4: be such chaos.
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  Speaker 6: Don't even, no.
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  Speaker 4: Just be like, hey, I'm married to your dad. You
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  Speaker 4: guys don't even like me. Why would you even want
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  Speaker 4: to live here? I know it's like a roof over
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  Speaker 4: your head, but.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have anything to do with this.
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  Speaker 5: No, this dude, I can't get over the squatting, though.
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  Speaker 4: The squatting and like the mom she's like oh you
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  Speaker 4: can pay me a price to leave.
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  Speaker 6: What that's not how this.
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  Speaker 2: Works how about you just get out of my home.
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  Speaker 5: I'm already paying the government to do this now like
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  Speaker 5: you're trying to get a piece of the piece of
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  Speaker 5: the pie too i am literally are you a cop
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  Speaker 5: are you a fed are you are you a fed
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  Speaker 5: you know you legally have to tell me if you're
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  Speaker 5: a cop.
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  Speaker 4: Right yeah I don't know OP stand your ground do
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  Speaker 4: not let these people move in your house it's going
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  Speaker 4: to be a crap show and you don't need that
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  Speaker 4: so dig all ten toes into the floor and do
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  Speaker 4: not move they cannot force you to move or they
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  Speaker 4: cannot force themselves into your home and if that happens call.
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  Speaker 5: The authorities then that's when you call the cops yeah.
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  Speaker 9: That's when you call the cops and that's the end
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  Speaker 9: of this story we're gonna go to the next one.
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  Speaker 5: I gave my sister-in-law one day to clean her mess,
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  Speaker 5: and she ignored me.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you don't clean your messes, you don't get dessert.
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  Speaker 5: Mm-mm. No for you. My significant other and I have
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  Speaker 5: been putting up our brother-in-law while he's trying to move back.
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  Speaker 5: He's employed and is paying token room and board while
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  Speaker 5: he and his wife attempt to sell their house. It's
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  Speaker 5: been six months so far. My brother-in-law's spouse, Tina, is
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  Speaker 5: late 30s, a larger girl, and has some health issues.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sorry. She's visited before and ruined decorative pillows due
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  Speaker 5: to having accidents on them.
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  Speaker 6: Whoa.
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  Speaker 5: As she likes to sit on our black decorative cushions.
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  Speaker 5: She's now been spending half of every month and shouldn't
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  Speaker 5: be in my home as a guest. She doesn't wear
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  Speaker 5: underwear under her nightgown and will stay in her nightgown
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  Speaker 5: the majority of the day. I've had it. I watched
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  Speaker 5: her ruin another decorative pillow by sitting on it and
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  Speaker 5: leaving discharge and urine on it. Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 2: What's wrong with her?
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  Speaker 6: Why is she not wearing anything? What's going on?
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  Speaker 5: I gave her a day to clean it and she
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  Speaker 5: pretended it didn't happen.
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  Speaker 4: No, I would have given her like an hour. That
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  Speaker 4: stuff is going to like seep in.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 5: I ended up throwing out the pillow in disgust and
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  Speaker 5: bleaching the seating mat underneath it. She then wore the
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  Speaker 5: same pee stained nightgown the next day and I watched
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  Speaker 5: her as she lifted it up. To sit down. What?
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  Speaker 5: Bear on my furniture. Crazy work. By the way, this
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  Speaker 5: comes from deleted. So yeah, listen, I wish I could
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  Speaker 5: delete that story and add one of yours over at
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  Speaker 5: the r slash okay story time subreddits. I'm Mike.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 5: And today we're here to give good advice, try to
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  Speaker 5: give good advice, which should seem like sometimes... Just normal
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  Speaker 5: everyday advice. We don't know all the answers, but I
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  Speaker 5: think in this case we do. And if you agree
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  Speaker 5: with us, sound off in the comments below. So other
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  Speaker 5: than that, as OP says, we've spoken to her husband
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  Speaker 5: in hopes that he, she's married. jesus in hopes that
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  Speaker 5: he can tell her to wear underpants nicely i'm also
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  Speaker 5: considering getting her a box of incontinence pads and leaving
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  Speaker 5: it in the bathroom she uses am i the a-hole
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  Speaker 5: in this it's disgusting right yeah yeah this.
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  Speaker 4: Is not normal she definitely has some sort of disorder
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  Speaker 4: whether that's like mentally or maybe physically that she like
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  Speaker 4: can't hold her bladder or something i really don't know
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  Speaker 4: what is happening.
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  Speaker 2: Here but there is a problem.
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  Speaker 5: For sure what if she what she was just, like,
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  Speaker 5: a gamer? You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 8: Like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: At that point, you have to wear, like, adult diapers
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  Speaker 4: or something because, like, there's no way you're just walking
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  Speaker 4: around with nothing on and just pissing all over.
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  Speaker 5: What do you think she's doing, though?
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  Speaker 4: I just don't know, and I don't really want to
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  Speaker 4: think about it. I don't know what she's doing.
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  Speaker 5: What do you like? What do you think? What do
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  Speaker 5: you think she is doing?
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 5: Well, like what what could possibly. Listen, I've seen Breaking
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  Speaker 5: Bad five thousand times.
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  Speaker 11: Right.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Not once did I piss in like like just ruin
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  Speaker 5: my pants, piss and shit my pants. OK.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: There is no there's nothing on this. There is nothing
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  Speaker 5: on this planet. Get up, dude. Get up and use
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  Speaker 5: the restroom, bro.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: You're like late 30s. There has to be something going on.
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  Speaker 4: There's definitely an issue here.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: But I think, OP, I don't think that you're the
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  Speaker 4: a-hole in this. It is disgusting, and you're trying to
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  Speaker 4: keep a nice house. Who wants piss on their decorative pillows?
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  Speaker 5: No one. It goes real great with this sofa that
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  Speaker 5: I got going on.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, like what?
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  Speaker 2: Like, we have bathrooms for a reason.
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  Speaker 6: Please use it.
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  Speaker 4: Like, by any means, please help yourself to the freaking toilet.
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  Speaker 2: I even got some pads in there for you. There
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  Speaker 2: you go.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Anything. Anything you need, just ask. Please ask.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, man.
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  Speaker 5: This one's throwing me in for a loop. Well, we
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  Speaker 5: got answers, Savannah.
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  Speaker 6: Thank God.
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  Speaker 5: So, yes.
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  Speaker 10: Real.
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  Speaker 5: I'm A-U-D-H-D.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm A-U-D-H-D.
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  Speaker 5: And don't react appropriately. I didn't know if I was
• 11:30
  Speaker 5: overreacting or underreacting. These words help. Thank you all. So
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  Speaker 5: it's her significant other's brother. And until he moved in, we,
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  Speaker 5: his wife and I, had spent more than a couple
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  Speaker 5: of hours together a day at most. I have a
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  Speaker 5: chronic illness myself. So I have tried to be tolerant
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  Speaker 5: and understanding and forgiving. Incontinence is a shameful topic. Size
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  Speaker 5: plays into severity of incontinence, I guess. Or issues. I
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  Speaker 5: do have a pic of the last cushion she sat on.
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  Speaker 6: Oh no.
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  Speaker 5: My home's theme is earthly colors. Blacks, browns, reds, and whites. Yes,
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  Speaker 5: I have black cushions and decorative pillows. Other than that,
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  Speaker 5: I think we're on the same page here.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is gross. And I don't know why. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: it's like a.
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  Speaker 5: Well, here's the thing, dude. Here's the thing. I'll be
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  Speaker 5: open and real. I used to bed wet as a kid, right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, as a kid, yes.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know. I think like... I'm going to try
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  Speaker 5: to give some advice here. You need to have a
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  Speaker 5: support system around you. You need to have people that
• 12:40
  Speaker 5: are just like, yo... No, it's like really like weird
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  Speaker 5: to talk about. And it's like, it's very like, but
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  Speaker 5: you gotta just like open up, open up and talk,
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  Speaker 5: talk about it. So that way you can, people can
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  Speaker 5: help you.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: There you go. Um, so we got an update. The
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  Speaker 5: roommate is employed locally. Their house is several hours drive
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  Speaker 5: away and he's supposed to be going home on weekends,
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  Speaker 5: but due to mountain passes, winter weather and illness, he
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  Speaker 5: hasn't been home in over a month. It's not the
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  Speaker 5: first conflict the wife and I have had.
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  Speaker 10: Update.
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  Speaker 5: The next morning, brother-in-law spoke to his wife. She now
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  Speaker 5: has incontinence pads and is wearing pants in the common area.
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  Speaker 12: Good.
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  Speaker 5: And we'll be leaving today.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, good.
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  Speaker 5: Thanks, everyone, for all the responses. I thought I was
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  Speaker 5: being crazy for being so upset about this. She hasn't
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  Speaker 5: left yet, but soon I'll breathe a sigh of relief.
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  Speaker 5: And that's that story.
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  Speaker 2: Dang.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I'm glad that you could discuss that issue
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  Speaker 4: without having it be, you know, a sore subject or,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it blowing out of proportion or something. I, I.
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  Speaker 2: Feel like you guys handled it very well.
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  Speaker 4: And the best way that could have happened, which is
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  Speaker 4: now she is.
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  Speaker 5: Uh, they just left her. Yeah. They did just leave
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  Speaker 5: her on this. I was like, all right, you get
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  Speaker 5: out of here. It's not your problem. It's not our
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  Speaker 5: problem anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Uh, but yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 5: What I said earlier, uh, hopefully the, hopefully the, the
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  Speaker 5: person that like has that problem, Fucking listen to that, dude.
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  Speaker 5: But also, yeah, you should have. She's pissing on your floors.
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  Speaker 5: Get her out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's that's not cool.
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  Speaker 4: And the fact that she like doesn't like tell anyone
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  Speaker 4: or clean up or anything, it's just like, oh, God, OK,
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  Speaker 4: this this is not OK.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So, yeah, thank God it worked out.
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  Speaker 9: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 9: go to the next one.
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  Speaker 4: My sister-in-law joined our annual trip, then turned it into
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  Speaker 4: her honeymoon.
• 14:30
  Speaker 5: Oh, that sounds like a pretty expensive honeymoon. I.
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: 32 female, met my husband Connor, 33 male, in Paris
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  Speaker 4: 11 years ago. We kept in touch and eventually found
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: ourselves both living in a big city in America and
• 14:45
  Speaker 4: began dating. Since we met in Paris, we go once
• 14:48
  Speaker 4: a year, usually in September. It isn't really an exclusive
• 14:51
  Speaker 4: romantic thing, so we have gone with friends or family
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: on a few of these trips. It's just something we
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: like to do together, but we don't mind sharing it too.
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: My sister-in-law Charlie, 30 female, and her fiancé Mike 31 female.
• 15:05
  Speaker 4: I think that's supposed to be male. Asked if they
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: could come this year. Sister-in-law and Mike do not have
• 15:11
  Speaker 4: a ton of extra funds, maybe one trip every couple years.
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: And Connor and I are able to take between four
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: to five a year thanks to flexible work schedules and funds.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: All right, brag some more.
• 15:23
  Speaker 5: Okay, brag. Sick.
• 15:24
  Speaker 4: About two months ago, Charlie and Mike decided they want
• 15:27
  Speaker 4: to get married next month in a small ceremony instead
• 15:30
  Speaker 4: of planning a big wedding. I've been putting an itinerary
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: together for the trip. Lots of first time in Paris
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: stuff that we haven't done in a long time or ever.
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: So no problem for us. I use a Google sheet
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: and just share it with the people who are traveling
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: with us. Many of our trips are group trips. I
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: shared it with them when we first booked and have
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: been making casual updates until two weeks ago when Mike
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: reached out.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from.
• 15:56
  Speaker 5: Wait, I did what?
• 15:58
  Speaker 11: By the way, this comes from OKAssumption5306.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: I am Savannah.
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: I'm Mike.
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: And we are here to talk about some stuff and
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: give some advice.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: But guess what? We don't have all of your answers.
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: We're only going to tell you what we would do,
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: but you should let us know what you would do.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: Down in the comments.
• 16:18
  Speaker 4: As OP says, he called me to tell me that
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: he has decided that this trip will be their honeymoon.
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: I thought it was a little weird, but understood that
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: they can't really afford multiple trips. Here is where things
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: began to unravel. Sister-in-law doesn't want to go on her
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: honeymoon with other people, so she called us and asked
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: us to reschedule our trip so we are not there
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: at the same time. Um, actually, no, because that's not
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: how that works.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: Actually, um, we want to go on our honeymoon that date.
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: Can you change your date?
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: Oh, yeah.
• 16:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: I would love to be the most selfish person alive.
• 16:52
  Speaker 5: That'd be pretty sick, right?
• 16:53
  Speaker 11: Right.
• 16:53
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: It's like, oh, yeah, let me just clear my schedule
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: for you.
• 16:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: We said no to that, but said we can each
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: do our own thing. I copied the Google sheet I
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: had made and began working on the new one. Additionally,
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: I separated the flight itinerary so they could control their own.
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: Canceled the extra room I had reserved on my credit card, etc.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: Over the last few weeks, I have continued with our plans.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: I have made reservations and such for just my husband
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: and me. A couple of days ago, I got a
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: call from my sister-in-law asking if I had made any
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: other plans because the spreadsheet hadn't been updated. I said
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: that I had been making plans, but just for Connor
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: and me since we were taking separate trips. Apparently, they
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: didn't realize that we were going to keep the arrangements
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: we made for ourselves and expected them to make their own.
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: They thought we would replan everything and continue planning their trip.
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: Sister-in-law is pissed that she lost out on the hotel
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: rate I had, wants my room now. and the tickets
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: for attractions I got for the times that we had planned.
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: She is demanding we give her these things because we
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: were being spiteful when we didn't explicitly tell them we
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: would no longer be planning their trip. I thought them
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: telling us they wanted to be alone on their honeymoon
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: and us agreeing to make to this made it clear.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Mother-in-law said I should just give it to her since
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: we go every year. That's not the point, though.
• 18:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you're missing the point.
• 18:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: You're missing the point there.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Well, you go all the time, and.
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: And it's a special thing that we do every single year.
• 18:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's our thing.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we've been doing it for the past, what, 12 years?
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: And you're going to sit here and be like, well,
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: you go all the time. Give them a chance.
• 18:31
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: And then, so I'm going to cancel my trip. Should
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: I plan yours?
• 18:35
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: Like, now you want to just take everything that we have?
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: Not how it works. Plan your own honeymoon. What?
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: Like, I'm not in charge of that. I contend that
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: I never offered to be their personal travel agent.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: Am I the a-hole here?
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: No, you're not. No.
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, no.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Not at all. And there is an edit to add here.
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: My sister-in-law and fiance had been dodging our phone calls
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: after they said they wanted us to move our trip dates.
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: They were annoyed that we wouldn't. So I sent her
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: the following text after multiple attempts to contact them.
• 19:05
  Speaker 10: Me.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go ahead and make any and all
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: changes so we can avoid each other on the trip
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: if that is what you want.
• 19:11
  Speaker 6: Sister-in-law.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: That's fine.
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: Me.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: I will just make the changes and update the spreadsheet
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: for you. Sister-in-law.
• 19:17
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 19:17
  Speaker 9: Okay.
• 19:19
  Speaker 10: Sounds like a bit.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: Oh, and there is a second edit to add.
• 19:28
  Speaker 9: Oh, OK.
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: The above exchange was a follow up to the phone
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: call in which we explained that we would separate the
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: flights and try to transfer the hotel reservation to them.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: This was the same call in which they told us
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: they wanted us to change our trip. Okay, now there's
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: an update. Yeah, no, you don't have to abide by
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: their rules, because this is your trip, and you and
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: them to come and then they want to make it
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: about them. And then they're like, okay, well now that
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: we're going to have, we decided we're having our honeymoon there.
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: No one can be in Paris when we're there. Everyone
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: evacuate the city. It is ours now for the honeymoon.
• 20:04
  Speaker 5: Like ours is the, we have big Paris's. How big is,
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: how big is Paris?
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: It's pretty big. It's pretty big.
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: It's a pretty big city. Pretty touristy. There's a lot
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: of people there. So I would assume it's pretty easy to.
• 20:19
  Speaker 6: Avoid each other.
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think trying to be in a town where
• 20:27
  Speaker 5: you have maybe over a couple million, what, two, three million?
• 20:32
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 20:32
  Speaker 5: Maybe 16, 20 million? Who knows? Who knows, you know?
• 20:36
  Speaker 12: The....
• 20:38
  Speaker 5: First of all the.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Ego yeah yeah.
• 20:41
  Speaker 13: To just be like you know it's it's a who
• 20:46
  Speaker 13: you're gonna cancel our plans yeah when we were gonna
• 20:49
  Speaker 13: when we were gonna jump on your bed what.
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah sure we'll cancel our plans yeah for you to
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: go on your honeymoon and be.
• 20:58
  Speaker 5: Well it's oh my god It's.
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: Just it's crazy to even ask that. And then to
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: be like, oh, you know, she obviously she has explained
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: the the the story wrong to mother in law, which
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: is why she's on her side.
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: So whatever. I'd be like, actually, we have nothing to
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: do with this. They can make their own plans. Sorry.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Not sorry.
• 21:20
  Speaker 6: Mm hmm.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Update for anyone that is curious.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: I reached out to sister-in-law again yesterday with the following email.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: I know you are upset with Connor and me about
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: this whole situation, but I wanted to just try to
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: clear the air. I guess I'm a little confused as
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: to why you're so upset with us. I think we
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: have been very understanding when it has come to your
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: decision to make this trip your honeymoon. Connor and I
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: respect your choice and are not upset about it at all.
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: I feel a little hurt that you have decided to
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: cut contact over our decision to continue with our own plans.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: but I feel as though maybe I should explain a
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: little bit about why we won't slash can't change our plans.
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: The first reason is the cost that we would incur
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: to change things around. The second is my parents are
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: watching the pups for us and they change their work
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: schedules around so the pups are not alone for.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: Too many hours.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: I would be inconveniencing them by changing our dates. I
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: hope this better helps you understand why we cannot make
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: any changes.
• 22:15
  Speaker 10: Next!
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: Next!
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: I would like to address the planning confusion.
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: I acknowledge that there could have been some confusion regarding
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: the separation of plans. In our phone conversation, you stated
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: that you did not want to see us while on
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: the trip. I understand that it was probably said in anger,
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: but it was a bit hurtful. I forgive you as
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: I do not believe you were being intentionally hurtful. That
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: being said, we did not cancel anything or stop making
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: your plans to be spiteful. And I hope that you
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: believe me when I say that I would never do
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: anything intentionally to try to destroy your honeymoon. In our conversation,
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: I explained that I would reach out to the airline
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: and hotel to see what could be done to separate itineraries,
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: but also explained to you that I might not be
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: able to transfer everything and I would just cancel what
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: could not be transferred. and I would put the info
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: in the spreadsheets, which is exactly.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: What I did.
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: I hope that you find peace in all of this,
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: and that you will choose to forgive us for anything
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: that we may have done that you feel was hurtful
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: or spiteful. I can promise you that we never meant
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: any harm in anything we have done, and want you
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: to have a beautiful wedding and honeymoon. XOXO Gossip Girl.
• 23:26
  Speaker 6: Like, oh my god. But it like like beautiful format. Oh, beautiful.
• 23:32
  Speaker 5: I'm sure you typed it in MLA format.
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: Yeah. Beautifully done.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: Are you a literature major?
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: Can I can I can I tell you something?
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: When you were when you were reading that letter out loud,
• 23:43
  Speaker 5: I could hear the Times New Roman coming out.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: That was, you know what I mean?
• 23:48
  Speaker 5: Like, you know what I'm saying?
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: 12 font.
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, 12 font.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: Times New Roman, double spaced.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: Double spaced.
• 23:54
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, you had.
• 23:55
  Speaker 6: With a header.
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you had the header up on top.
• 23:58
  Speaker 6: Page numbers, everything. That's, yeah.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: No, that's insane.
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: I mean, I hope that that was the most clear
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: letter I have ever read.
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: I haven't even written a letter like that.
• 24:11
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I've never.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Mine's like, hey, what up?
• 24:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah.
• 24:16
  Speaker 6: Do we have a problem here?
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: And it has sent from my iPhone underneath.
• 24:19
  Speaker 6: Yes, yeah.
• 24:20
  Speaker 7: Opie's like, no, no, no. No.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is crazy. She responded this morning and said
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: she understands that nothing was intentional, but we still caused
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: damage to their honeymoon that we need to make right
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: before we are allowed to come to the wedding.
• 24:34
  Speaker 6: What?
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: So you have to right your wrongs before we invite you.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: I don't care if we're like related or anything like it. Just,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: you know, family is a fine line. Like, shut up.
• 24:47
  Speaker 7: Who is this girl?
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: Because we booked our Paris trip that we go on
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: every year for the last 12 years. And now all
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: of a sudden it's like.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: Well, we wanted to go when you were going. So
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: you should have known that.
• 24:58
  Speaker 5: Now it's ruined.
• 24:59
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: Now it's ruined. And no one can be in Paris
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: except us.
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: Like, okay, I don't know what you want.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: And you weren't clear. Like, OP, you were clear. Yeah.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: Sister-in-law was not clear.
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah, unlike what it was.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: Unlike what we were doing. Like, no, you weren't clear.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: I had no idea what you were trying to tell me.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: So I just figured, oh, we're like, you know, you
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: guys go, we're not going to go. So I canceled
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: your trip. And now I'm the bad guy because I
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: wasn't supposed to cancel it, even though you told me to.
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 25:31
  Speaker 5: I literally did the thing that you asked of me.
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah. And we're in the wrong? Why is it my
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: job to plan your honeymoon?
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 25:40
  Speaker 11: Huh?
• 25:40
  Speaker 8: I don't do that.
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: That makes zero sense.
• 25:41
  Speaker 6: I'm not a honeymoon planner.
• 25:43
  Speaker 5: No, you got no, you got, nobody got the credentials, bro.
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah. My husband and I have decided to just let
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: her know that we have done all we can to
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: rectify the situation and that she needs to take ownership
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: of her own mistakes. We then sent her a list
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: of nice hotels that they could stay at that are
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: similar in price to the rate we had gotten from
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: our hotel. Then my husband called the hotel in Paris
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: and upgraded our room to the Eiffel Tower suite that
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: we stayed in for our honeymoon as a thank you
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: to me for putting up with his sister. Whoa.
• 26:16
  Speaker 5: Okay, big bucks.
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: I see you.
• 26:19
  Speaker 5: Okay, money. Hey, get that large. Go get it.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Marrying him was the best thing I ever did.
• 26:24
  Speaker 7: Wow.
• 26:25
  Speaker 6: And that's the end.
• 26:27
  Speaker 5: Well, truthfully.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, sister.
• 26:29
  Speaker 6: She's annoying.
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: And like doesn't know how to communicate and then just
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: blames everyone else for her problems. And it's like, actually,
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: you didn't communicate any of this and we're not in
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: charge of your honeymoon. Weird how you gave us that
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: without even telling us.
• 26:43
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: Surprise.
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: Surprise.
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: You're a bad person.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:49
  Speaker 6: Like, okay, cool. Yeah.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: But, you know, you're going to enjoy your time, OP.
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: You and your husband are going to have a great
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: time per usual because you're actually in love and, you know,
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: are reasonable about things.
• 27:00
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Don't know how the sister-in-law's honeymoon is going to go, but,
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: you know, wish them luck.
• 27:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah, leave that for them.
• 27:07
  Speaker 9: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 27:09
  Speaker 9: go to the next one.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: I told my sister she was delusional for wanting to
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: hike dangerous trails after just a few hikes. She is. I,
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: 25 female, have been hiking, rock climbing, and traveling for
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: the past couple years.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: Okay, multi-talented.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: My sister Leah, 20 female, said she wanted to get
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: into hiking and do a trip together. I was excited
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: at the idea but told her she'd have to do
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: some hikes to build some endurance and be in good
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: shape for a hiking trip so that she would enjoy
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: her time.
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: Fair, fair.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: She lives about seven hours away from mountains while I
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: live a couple hours away.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: She came up to visit me and did four hikes
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: and loved it.
• 27:52
  Speaker 8: Great.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: Now we are trying to pick a destination. And all
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: of a sudden she thinks she is a professional mountaineer
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: and traveler. Who will only go to the most exotic
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: destinations in the world?
• 28:03
  Speaker 7: What?
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: If you want to play at the U.S. Open, you
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: got to hit some college courts first.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Am I right?
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: It depends.
• 28:11
  Speaker 12: Depends on the situation.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh.
• 28:14
  Speaker 12: Some people are just good enough to go straight there.
• 28:16
  Speaker 12: So let's see how this hiker does.
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: True. I've suggested the Azores in Portugal.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: Our family comes from the Azores, so I thought that.
• 28:24
  Speaker 6: Would be a good idea.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: But that's too basic.
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: Lofoten Islands in Norway are also too basic because it's
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: in the continent of Europe and that's not cool enough. Okay,
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: so I suggest Thailand. And again, that is also.
• 28:39
  Speaker 6: Not cool enough. Where does she want to go?
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: She wants to go to Socotra, Yemen.
• 28:44
  Speaker 12: Or Kyrgyzstan.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: Kyrgyzstan.
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: She has only ever traveled to England as a 10-year-old,
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: so I said I don't think that's a great idea
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: and that she needs to lower her expectations a bit.
• 28:55
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• 28:59
  Speaker 4: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 29:03
  Speaker 12: I'm Daniel.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: And Daniel is my good college friend. He's here to
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: help us read some stories, be goofy with us. And
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: we're going to be reading stories goofily with Daniel. He's
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: going to help us out today.
• 29:14
  Speaker 6: Let's do it.
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: As Opie says, today I see that she purchased.
• 29:18
  Speaker 6: An ice axe.
• 29:19
  Speaker 8: An ice axe?
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: An ice axe.
• 29:21
  Speaker 12: Are they going to a mountain?
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: They must be.
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: At this point, I am losing my mind a little
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: bit because somehow after four hikes, Leah thinks she is
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: a professional traveler and out near now, despite the fact
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: that I tried to take her rock climbing and she
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: could not make it up the easiest walls. How she
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: thinks she is going to ice climb in a she
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: plans on doing this she'd need to get on a
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: plane to get to a mountain with ice climbing and
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: is beyond me. By now, I'm pretty frustrated because she
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: has no idea what she's even doing and is not
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: living in reality. I responded and told her that she
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: needs to be a bit more realistic as she doesn't
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: have the money, experience, knowledge, skill, or fitness to go
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: ice climbing. Dang!
• 30:01
  Speaker 6: That was five things!
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: I mean, it's true if you've never been and you're
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: just gonna all of a sudden just go, I bought
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: an ice axe, let's go ice climbing!
• 30:09
  Speaker 12: At first, I was thinking the girl was just wanting
• 30:12
  Speaker 12: to go hike, Yeah. And I didn't think she even
• 30:14
  Speaker 12: wanted to go ice climbing, but then she bought the
• 30:18
  Speaker 12: ice axe.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is kind of left field, too.
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: But maybe she can do it.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: Like, true.
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but it also, I would feel like you would
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: need a lot of, like, training and skill to do
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: that because that's super dangerous.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: Just off the side of a mountain.
• 30:30
  Speaker 6: Just ice climbing.
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: One more key indicator.
• 30:33
  Speaker 6: She's 20.
• 30:33
  Speaker 12: 20-year-olds can do anything.
• 30:36
  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's true.
• 30:36
  Speaker 12: And I stand by that.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Me too.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: She also clearly has not done any research because if
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: she had, she'd see that most people rent mountaineering supplies
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: if they are going to ice climb as it's very expensive.
• 30:48
  Speaker 12: But maybe she's ready to use it again, you know?
• 30:50
  Speaker 12: So she's going to save money in the long run.
• 30:52
  Speaker 12: So it's good to buy a head.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, but she'll have to buy more stuff.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: Like she got, she has that, but she also has
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: to get all kinds of mountaineering supplies.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Well, she won't have to rent out an axe then.
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: As it's very expensive and also difficult to transport. Leah
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: freaked out and says, I'm too negative. She's blocking me
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: from her stories, and she's an adult, so she can
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: do whatever she wants. Am I the a-hole for telling
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: Leah that she's not being realistic?
• 31:20
  Speaker 12: Now, when it comes to siblings like this, I feel
• 31:23
  Speaker 12: like a lot of times your siblings don't think that
• 31:26
  Speaker 12: you can do what you can.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: Dang, for real, dude.
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: And it's hard.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: Talk that talk.
• 31:31
  Speaker 6: You know, she has her eye sacks.
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: She's excited.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: So do you think that Leah's being the a-hole then?
• 31:36
  Speaker 6: Or not Leah, sorry.
• 31:37
  Speaker 12: Leah's the ice climber, right?
• 31:39
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 31:39
  Speaker 12: Or the wannabe ice climber.
• 31:40
  Speaker 6: The wannabe ice climber.
• 31:40
  Speaker 12: Well, I think I'm worried for Leah. I think her sister,
• 31:44
  Speaker 12: I can't tell if the sister's worried or if she
• 31:47
  Speaker 12: just doesn't think she can hang. You know what I mean?
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I don't think OP wants to go like
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: she never mentioned going ice climbing or anything like that.
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: I just feel like this is out of pocket, like
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: what Leah's doing. But if she wants to go, I
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: would say go. But like, you know, train for it,
• 32:04
  Speaker 4: like do it with professionals who know what they're doing.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: So you know what you're doing, like I think you're
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: going on four different hikes.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: And now you're going to be like, I'm going to
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: go climb an ice mountain. That's a little extreme, I think.
• 32:15
  Speaker 12: But I want to see her try.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: I would like to see her try, too.
• 32:17
  Speaker 12: I think Leah can do it. She's 20 years old,
• 32:20
  Speaker 12: and that's just prime ice picking age. We all know this. Riley,
• 32:25
  Speaker 12: when was your.
• 32:25
  Speaker 6: First ice pick?
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: At the age of four. See, Riley started early.
• 32:29
  Speaker 6: That's the way to do it.
• 32:30
  Speaker 5: It really is.
• 32:32
  Speaker 12: And Leah knows she's late into the game, so she
• 32:34
  Speaker 12: doesn't want to wait for 16 hikes. She's ready to
• 32:36
  Speaker 12: go now.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: When did you start ice axing?
• 32:40
  Speaker 12: I'll be honest, never ice axed.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 32:43
  Speaker 6: Liar. Yeah.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: But he'd be good at it if he did it.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: But if you wanted to do it, do you think
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: your siblings would.
• 32:48
  Speaker 7: Be like, yeah.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: I'm giving the lie.
• 32:50
  Speaker 12: No, Leah wouldn't. Yeah. I think they would say no.
• 32:54
  Speaker 12: I think, yeah.
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: I responded to her story of the ice ax saying, Leah,
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: who do you think you are? To which she said,
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: I don't know why you're so effing negative. I'm not
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: even going to try to make my point here. It's
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: effing useless with you. You effing crap on everything I do.
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: I don't know why you think you have a say
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: in what I do. I'm not an effing child. Leave
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: me the F alone.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Leah, no.
• 33:18
  Speaker 12: No.
• 33:19
  Speaker 6: Leah, no. Leah.
• 33:22
  Speaker 12: She's not an effing child. She is 20 years old.
• 33:25
  Speaker 12: Prime ice picking age. She has a point, but she's
• 33:29
  Speaker 12: also coming in hot.
• 33:30
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 33:30
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 33:31
  Speaker 12: She's melting that ice.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: She is.
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: I said, you aren't living in reality. You've been on
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: like five hikes and don't even know how to rock climb.
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: If you did ice climbing, you would rent the gear
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: anyway because it's really expensive and difficult to transport. I'm
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: literally trying to help you because you don't know what
• 33:47
  Speaker 4: you're doing. To also give more context about why she
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: said I'm so negative and I crap on everything she does,
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: it's because I've told her I don't like the new
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: guy she's seen because he has been caught in multiple lies,
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: been possessive, and constantly stands her up.
• 34:00
  Speaker 6: Dude, here's what's probably happened, guys. This is my take.
• 34:04
  Speaker 11: Uh-oh.
• 34:05
  Speaker 12: I think the guy stood her up on an ice
• 34:07
  Speaker 12: climbing date. Now Lee is ready to go with her
• 34:09
  Speaker 12: sister because she's sad she missed the ice climbing. But
• 34:13
  Speaker 12: sister doesn't want to go. So she's getting stood up twice.
• 34:16
  Speaker 12: And this time by family.
• 34:18
  Speaker 6: Dang.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Daniel can see right through this one.
• 34:21
  Speaker 9: Wow. And that's the end of this story. We're going
• 34:23
  Speaker 9: to go to the next one.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Smiley Riley here from OK Storytime. We're going
• 34:28
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• 34:30
  Speaker 1: worth of ads from our sponsors.
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: My father's girlfriend flirted with my boyfriend at Christmas dinner.
• 34:37
  Speaker 12: Man, I bet that made the ham taste worse. I,
• 34:40
  Speaker 12: 18 female, have been living abroad for two years now
• 34:45
  Speaker 12: at a boarding school where I met my now boyfriend,
• 34:48
  Speaker 12: 19 male, and have been together for 10 months now
• 34:51
  Speaker 12: in the States.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: I'm from Eastern Europe and go back home for the summer,
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: spring break and winter break. My boyfriend's family doesn't really
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: celebrate Christmas so I decided to have him come with
• 35:00
  Speaker 4: me back to my home country. My parents have been
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: divorced since I was a young teen when my dad,
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: 44 male, cheated on my mom with his now girlfriend.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: 28 female.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: Oh, gross.
• 35:14
  Speaker 6: That's nasty.
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: It's a very stereotypical relationship. The older rich dude with
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: the hot young woman. She has her whole face done, Botox, lift, long,
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: thick eyelashes, heavy makeup, etc. Which a lot of men
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: here find it attractive as it can be the beauty standard.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: My father always jokes.
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: How all men want her and how women want to
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: be her, which makes me uncomfortable most times.
• 35:41
  Speaker 12: Makes me uncomfortable.
• 35:42
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: In that house, I'm seen more as a smart woman
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: rather than a beautiful one because that title is already taken.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you want to be the beautiful
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: one at 19 years old with your dad.
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: This is just weird. Weird competition happening. Generally, I do
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: not think I am hideous. I am just on the
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: taller side and not as thin as she is, which
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: makes me uglier in their opinion. By the way, this
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: comes from Mulberry Huge 9340. And if you want to
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: story time subreddit.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 36:15
  Speaker 12: I'm Daniel.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: I'm Riley, and Daniel's my good college friend. He's going
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: to be here reading some stories with us, helping us out,
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: and we don't have all the answers, so if you
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: guys have anything you want.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: To add, add it down below.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Riley.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Welcome, Savannah.
• 36:31
  Speaker 12: That's how he talked in college. He's come a long way, guys.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I'm a communication major.
• 36:36
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: We are a communication major.
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll talk to you, baby.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: We'll talk to you, baby.
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: As Opie says, anyways, our plane landed on the 23rd,
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: but we stayed with my mom until Christmas when we
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: went to my dad's house. There, I introduced him to everyone,
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: including my dad's girlfriend, who was dressed in this skin-tight
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: leather dress. Throughout the night, she kept sitting next to him,
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: occasionally grazing his arm and talking to him however she
• 37:07
  Speaker 4: could in English. Then when she got a bit tipsy,
• 37:10
  Speaker 4: she told me that I should be careful to hold
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: my boyfriend back because a lot of men tend to
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: fall for her, followed by some other jokes made by
• 37:17
  Speaker 4: my dad as well, where they were overall just insinuating
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: that she should steal my boyfriend anytime as she is
• 37:24
  Speaker 4: more attractive than me.
• 37:25
  Speaker 6: That is so weird.
• 37:26
  Speaker 5: Ew.
• 37:27
  Speaker 12: Well, he's giving her the green light, so go for it.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: No! He's not giving her the green light!
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: I know.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: No, it sounds like it, though.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: You might have a point. You might have a point, dude.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: This is some weird family.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: I'm not the most attractive one to my daddy. And
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: my daddy wants to give his girlfriend to my boyfriend.
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: What kind of effed up Christmas dinner is this? I
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: want to leave.
• 37:54
  Speaker 11: What?
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: What were you about to say?
• 37:57
  Speaker 12: I was going to say, the guy has not experienced
• 37:59
  Speaker 12: a Christmas before, so this is his first introduction to Christmas.
• 38:03
  Speaker 12: I think we should all remember that.
• 38:04
  Speaker 6: That is very true.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: It is a time of giving gifts.
• 38:09
  Speaker 6: Whoa.
• 38:10
  Speaker 12: He's like, is this what it's like? And the dad
• 38:12
  Speaker 12: has wrapped one up in a tight leather dress.
• 38:18
  Speaker 8: That is crazy.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Dang, good point.
• 38:20
  Speaker 5: Good point.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: I didn't catch that. That must be a mind F.
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: There is a little bit left here. Any final thoughts
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: you have?
• 38:28
  Speaker 12: I just hope that he's from Europe, right?
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: He's, I don't know.
• 38:32
  Speaker 12: First Christmas in the US? I just hope he can
• 38:34
  Speaker 12: stay strong. Stay strong, man. Stay strong.
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: Stick to your guns.
• 38:39
  Speaker 12: Be a loyal man this Christmas.
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: There you go. I agree with that. I am on
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: board with that.
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: I finally had enough of her nonsense and told her,
• 38:47
  Speaker 4: in our native language, that she should stop thinking everyone
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: wants to F her and her plastic face.
• 38:53
  Speaker 5: Whoa.
• 38:55
  Speaker 6: That was crazy.
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: Especially if they got a latex allergy.
• 38:58
  Speaker 6: Especially.
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: My father then yelled at me and told me I
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: had no right to say such things, but before he
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: could do anything else, I just took my boyfriend's arm
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: and left. Most of my family thinks I exaggerated over
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: a joke, but none of them know how I feel
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: over jokes like these. My boyfriend said I had every
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: right to say that, and so did my mom. I
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: do not want to apologize to anyone, as I have
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: always been the one to apologize to them, and I
• 39:26
  Speaker 4: don't want to ruin Christmas night either. Am I the
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: a Well, you did.
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: Ruin some people's Christmas night.
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: Well but is that really her fault they were coming
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: on to my boy if i'm like at uh you
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: know my family christmas and i have like my.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: Bob well first of all this would never happen.
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: But to say like my sister if my like my
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: sister was like coming on to my boyfriend or something
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: i'd be like.
• 39:51
  Speaker 12: I hate it when that happens i'd be like what
• 39:54
  Speaker 12: are you doing in that situation like It's tough because
• 39:58
  Speaker 12: she didn't keep the peace. I think she had the keys.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, but I.
• 40:02
  Speaker 12: You've.
• 40:02
  Speaker 5: Got to stand up for yourself.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: You do.
• 40:04
  Speaker 5: And your man.
• 40:05
  Speaker 12: It's his first Christmas.
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and he was probably very uncomfortable as well because
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: he agreed with her.
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, that was overstepping and weird.
• 40:14
  Speaker 12: I hope he was uncomfortable. If not, the story could
• 40:17
  Speaker 12: have gone a different direction.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh, right?
• 40:19
  Speaker 8: I mean, yeah.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: They come over for New Year's.
• 40:21
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: New year, new me.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: They're both in leather dresses.
• 40:26
  Speaker 7: Oh, gosh.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: So this weird comparison to your dad's girlfriend and your
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: beauty is.
• 40:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's.
• 40:34
  Speaker 7: Also really weird.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: A little odd.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Strange competition going on there for no reason at all,
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: but whatever.
• 40:41
  Speaker 9: Whatever. And that's the end of this story. We're going
• 40:44
  Speaker 9: to go to the next one.
• 40:46
  Speaker 11: I banned my family from my wedding. They got a
• 40:48
  Speaker 11: bridal suit for my groom behind my back. Yeah, I
• 40:52
  Speaker 11: don't think that's how it works. I, 24 male, am
• 40:55
  Speaker 11: getting married to my fiance, John, 23 male. My mother's
• 40:59
  Speaker 11: family is very traditional and religious and always believed I
• 41:03
  Speaker 11: would be marrying a girl. So they're having a hard
• 41:05
  Speaker 11: time adjusting. John is a model.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: Ooh.
• 41:09
  Speaker 11: There are often times where he'll model clothes on the
• 41:11
  Speaker 11: more feminine side and no one has a problem with it.
• 41:14
  Speaker 11: My family have seen some of the photos and have
• 41:16
  Speaker 11: often joked that John is pretty enough.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: To be a girl. They're like, if he just wears
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: a wedding dress, we'll be fine with it. Why not?
• 41:24
  Speaker 11: Which he would just laugh off as some joke. My
• 41:26
  Speaker 11: grandfather is offered to pay for the suits. The deal
• 41:28
  Speaker 11: was that he would get an opinion when it came
• 41:30
  Speaker 11: to what our wedding suits would be, since they were paying.
• 41:34
  Speaker 11: John and I went on different days, and fast forward,
• 41:36
  Speaker 11: and I'm going to pick up the suits from my
• 41:38
  Speaker 11: aunt's place. Right away, I can tell something's wrong. My
• 41:42
  Speaker 11: suit is fine. But John's is white. John was adamant
• 41:46
  Speaker 11: that he wanted a black suit. So I asked my
• 41:49
  Speaker 11: aunt why it was white, but she said John chose it.
• 41:52
  Speaker 11: I didn't believe her. Something was definitely off. John isn't
• 41:55
  Speaker 11: a large guy or anything, but the suit just looked
• 41:57
  Speaker 11: far too small. I asked John about the suit when
• 42:00
  Speaker 11: I get home and he just brushes it off. When
• 42:03
  Speaker 11: I said it looked too small, he looked a bit
• 42:05
  Speaker 11: panicked and said he'll take care of it. By the way,
• 42:07
  Speaker 11: this comes from Salty Groom. And if you want to
• 42:09
  Speaker 11: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
• 42:11
  Speaker 11: story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 42:14
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 42:15
  Speaker 11: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 42:17
  Speaker 11: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
• 42:19
  Speaker 11: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 42:21
  Speaker 6: Is that perhaps your suit?
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: Is it perhaps your size?
• 42:26
  Speaker 11: That's what I'm wondering. Is this perhaps OP's suit, the
• 42:31
  Speaker 11: white one? Because OP said it was too small for
• 42:34
  Speaker 11: his fiancé, but is it his size? And do they
• 42:37
  Speaker 11: want him to wear white?
• 42:39
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: See, I thought that they just wanted the model to be, like, more,
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: that's the girl.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: So that's why they, like, put him in white, but
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: I don't know why it didn't fit.
• 42:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it doesn't fit.
• 42:50
  Speaker 11: I couldn't help but feel maybe John was pressured into
• 42:53
  Speaker 11: choosing white. He's a bit of a people pleaser, so
• 42:55
  Speaker 11: it wouldn't surprise me. I ended up looking up the
• 42:58
  Speaker 11: suit online to see if I could order one in
• 43:00
  Speaker 11: black so that if he liked it, we could refund
• 43:03
  Speaker 11: my grandfather. As it turns out, they ordered a women's
• 43:07
  Speaker 11: suit for him. Oh, well.
• 43:11
  Speaker 6: Now, why did we do that without asking?
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: No, but why did we do that at all? But
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: is he a woman?
• 43:17
  Speaker 8: No. No.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: What are we doing?
• 43:20
  Speaker 11: I honestly thought it was a mistake at first and
• 43:21
  Speaker 11: that maybe my grandfather somehow chose wrong. So I asked
• 43:24
  Speaker 11: John about it when he got home and it broke down. Apparently,
• 43:27
  Speaker 11: my grandfather told John that every wedding needs someone in
• 43:30
  Speaker 11: the bride role. And since he's marrying into our family,
• 43:33
  Speaker 11: it should be him.
• 43:34
  Speaker 6: Oh, no.
• 43:35
  Speaker 11: Every wedding needs a girl, even if you're not a girl.
• 43:39
  Speaker 11: My aunt has been pressuring John into losing weight to
• 43:41
  Speaker 11: fit into the suit they bought for him.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: That's insane. Again, this guy is a model.
• 43:47
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 43:47
  Speaker 11: You should lose weight so that you look better in
• 43:50
  Speaker 11: that suit, so that suit fits you.
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: How about just give me a suit that fits me?
• 43:53
  Speaker 6: I don't know. We could just do that. Is that weird?
• 43:56
  Speaker 11: And I'd convinced him their family would only accept him
• 43:58
  Speaker 11: if he wore a white bridal suit.
• 44:01
  Speaker 6: That's what they would do to accept him?
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: I just don't understand why they wouldn't just get a
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: suit that fits him.
• 44:06
  Speaker 9: Yep.
• 44:06
  Speaker 11: Just get a men's white suit. Why does it have
• 44:09
  Speaker 11: to be a woman's? And that's not even all. My
• 44:12
  Speaker 11: grandaunt has been buying John a lot of hair accessories
• 44:15
  Speaker 11: that are extremely feminine and has even suggested he get
• 44:18
  Speaker 11: a new engagement ring. I've never been so pissed. Conservative
• 44:23
  Speaker 11: people are so weird.
• 44:24
  Speaker 6: So weird.
• 44:24
  Speaker 11: Because they hate trans people. But then also they're like
• 44:28
  Speaker 11: beach pants. Wear women's clothes.
• 44:31
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 44:32
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: It is weird that they're like, well, you know, we
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: don't like the men on men action. We like men
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: on women. So but we really don't like pants. But
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: good thing that you identify as a man. But we're
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: going to dress you up as a woman.
• 44:44
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: So we'll figure out a workaround.
• 44:48
  Speaker 11: Don said he didn't tell me about any of this
• 44:50
  Speaker 11: because he just wanted to keep the peace. And that
• 44:52
  Speaker 11: just made me more upset. I ended up uninviting them
• 44:55
  Speaker 11: to our wedding.
• 44:56
  Speaker 7: Fair.
• 44:57
  Speaker 11: My mom called and demanded to know what happened. And
• 45:00
  Speaker 11: she was deeply shocked and ashamed when I told her everything.
• 45:03
  Speaker 11: She says it's not acceptable, but that they're having a
• 45:05
  Speaker 11: hard time adjusting to this new kind of wedding.
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: It's not a new kind of wedding.
• 45:09
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: The wedding is the same.
• 45:11
  Speaker 6: It's two guys.
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: It's just two men. Literally, the same thing's gonna happen.
• 45:15
  Speaker 4: It's just two guys, and you're gonna see him kiss.
• 45:19
  Speaker 8: Yep. Whoa!
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: Uh-oh!
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: Raise the arms! Hold on, someone call the fire department!
• 45:25
  Speaker 11: My cousin says that if the suit was such a
• 45:28
  Speaker 11: big deal, then John should just wear a dress, since.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: He's used to wearing girls' clothes.
• 45:32
  Speaker 6: That's not it.
• 45:35
  Speaker 11: This is so weird. This is so weird. I uninvited
• 45:39
  Speaker 11: them too. John's family are all on my side. My
• 45:43
  Speaker 11: mom says that I was overreacting by uninviting everyone that
• 45:46
  Speaker 11: disagrees with me and that I should let them come
• 45:48
  Speaker 11: if they apologize to John. I'll admit I was harsh,
• 45:51
  Speaker 11: but I also don't think I'm in the wrong. Am
• 45:53
  Speaker 11: I the a-hole? And we do have an update.
• 45:56
  Speaker 12: No.
• 45:57
  Speaker 5: No.
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: Not at all.
• 45:58
  Speaker 6: What do you do with these people?
• 45:59
  Speaker 12: I don't know.
• 46:00
  Speaker 6: It feels like O.P., Did give them a chance.
• 46:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 46:02
  Speaker 6: And they just kept doubling or tripling down that like,
• 46:06
  Speaker 6: we need feminine stuff or like dress to impress or
• 46:09
  Speaker 6: like what?
• 46:10
  Speaker 11: I'm just picturing them putting little bows in his hair.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: They're like, perfect.
• 46:13
  Speaker 6: You're ready for your wedding day now. And there's like
• 46:15
  Speaker 6: extensions and like, what are you doing?
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: He's just completely almost there. You're just marrying someone else
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: at that point. Yeah. Like what? Can I just be,
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 46:24
  Speaker 6: So strange. Happy in my own skin? Like, I already
• 46:27
  Speaker 6: have an issue with that.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: And now I have to, you know, accommodate for people
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: for my wedding?
• 46:32
  Speaker 8: No.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: How about, let just let me be who I want
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: to be.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you could just not come if you don't like it.
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: Emma Wilkins says, God.
• 46:38
  Speaker 6: I'd elope. Yeah, I think that would, if you're going
• 46:41
  Speaker 6: to invite.
• 46:42
  Speaker 11: Them or disinvite that many people, we might be getting
• 46:44
  Speaker 11: into elope territory. John and I ended up deciding that
• 46:48
  Speaker 11: if my family apologized to him, they would be able
• 46:50
  Speaker 11: to come to the ceremony. But not the reception. John
• 46:53
  Speaker 11: was the one who suggested it, and my mom was
• 46:55
  Speaker 11: on board with the idea as well. We returned both suits,
• 46:58
  Speaker 11: and John's grandparents offered to pay for any we chose
• 47:01
  Speaker 11: by ourselves, regardless of.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: What they looked like.
• 47:04
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, at least John's grandparents are cool.
• 47:07
  Speaker 12: Yes.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: They would even pay the shipping fees so they'd be
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: here on time.
• 47:11
  Speaker 5: Bless them.
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: All the offenders, except for my cousins.
• 47:13
  Speaker 11: Ended up apologizing to John, but only my aunt looked
• 47:17
  Speaker 11: somewhat genuine about it, especially after we explained the deal.
• 47:21
  Speaker 11: I thought that would be it, but I was wrong. Yesterday,
• 47:23
  Speaker 11: we got a return on our deposit for our reception menu.
• 47:26
  Speaker 11: The owners said they ended up double booking and could
• 47:29
  Speaker 11: no longer host us. Their policy says they can refund
• 47:33
  Speaker 11: up to the week of an event. As far as
• 47:35
  Speaker 11: the website says, the day is still free. My mom
• 47:38
  Speaker 11: has been getting texts nonstop from her brother, and we
• 47:41
  Speaker 11: have come to the conclusion that her uncle somehow convinced
• 47:44
  Speaker 11: the owners of the venue not to host us, presumably
• 47:47
  Speaker 11: because they were pissed about not being able to come
• 47:48
  Speaker 11: to the reception. So now John and I have no
• 47:51
  Speaker 11: venue and are positively freaking out.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: Sue them.
• 47:55
  Speaker 11: If you can prove that they still have that day open,
• 47:58
  Speaker 11: I would take pictures of all of that.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: Say they called us.
• 48:01
  Speaker 11: They said that they were not free and then call
• 48:04
  Speaker 11: them back and say, hey, we're going to sue you
• 48:05
  Speaker 11: if you don't give us our date back.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: That's just ridiculous.
• 48:08
  Speaker 6: I don't even know how that even happens.
• 48:10
  Speaker 11: We've been scrambling all day trying to find one last
• 48:13
  Speaker 11: minute because we have everything booked. An invitation sent out,
• 48:16
  Speaker 11: but no place for anyone to go. So, yeah, as
• 48:19
  Speaker 11: if the situation wasn't already bad enough. I may end
• 48:21
  Speaker 11: up posting another update if we're able to sort this out.
• 48:24
  Speaker 11: And we do have a second update to them.
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: To them.
• 48:27
  Speaker 6: You got to do something. I mean, how?
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Like, they just canceled it?
• 48:31
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 48:32
  Speaker 6: Week of.
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: That's so wrong.
• 48:34
  Speaker 6: Oh, my God. So wrong. Everyone needs to write a
• 48:37
  Speaker 6: Yelp review.
• 48:38
  Speaker 12: Yes.
• 48:38
  Speaker 11: Yes.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: If you can't sue them, write a Yelp review.
• 48:41
  Speaker 6: Everyone in your family. Everyone needs to.
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: Update two.
• 48:44
  Speaker 11: Before we get into the update, I think you just
• 48:46
  Speaker 11: like really ham up the like, oh, are you doing
• 48:49
  Speaker 11: this because you hate queer couples? Are you doing this
• 48:51
  Speaker 11: because we're both men and you don't want us to
• 48:53
  Speaker 11: be at your venue?
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: Because what is the reason?
• 48:56
  Speaker 6: Did they give a reason?
• 48:58
  Speaker 8: No.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: They said double booked.
• 49:00
  Speaker 6: But it's not double booked. It's not double booked. Yeah.
• 49:03
  Speaker 6: I go, not double booked. What's up with that?
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Update two.
• 49:09
  Speaker 11: It's been an absolute ride over here. My brother-in-law ended
• 49:12
  Speaker 11: up calling to request the venue in his name, as
• 49:14
  Speaker 11: everyone suggested, but it was in fact already rebooked. My
• 49:18
  Speaker 11: mom got a call saying her uncle sent in a
• 49:20
  Speaker 11: higher deposit in his name, claiming he was covering the
• 49:23
  Speaker 11: cost for us to compensate for a higher headcount. He
• 49:26
  Speaker 11: was essentially dangling the venue over our heads in order
• 49:29
  Speaker 11: to make us go back on our word about not
• 49:31
  Speaker 11: having the side of the family at the reception. I'm
• 49:34
  Speaker 11: not sure how any of that works, and it seems
• 49:36
  Speaker 11: incredibly unprofessional on the venue's part.
• 49:38
  Speaker 6: To them, Yeah.
• 49:40
  Speaker 11: John was willing to give in and just allow everyone
• 49:42
  Speaker 11: to come at this point, mainly because we needed a
• 49:45
  Speaker 11: venue and it was impossible to find a new one
• 49:47
  Speaker 11: with such a short time frame.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: I was not.
• 49:50
  Speaker 11: And given everyone's collective outrage on the original post, I
• 49:53
  Speaker 11: had enough. They had mistreated John behind my back, insulted
• 49:57
  Speaker 11: our relationship, and they did not deserve to celebrate our marriage.
• 50:01
  Speaker 11: One of the groom's ladies came to the rescue and
• 50:03
  Speaker 11: offered up her small property about 30 minutes from the
• 50:06
  Speaker 11: original site.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: Bless her.
• 50:08
  Speaker 13: Aw.
• 50:09
  Speaker 11: We transformed the place into something that somewhat resembles a
• 50:12
  Speaker 11: wedding venue in the two days leading up to it,
• 50:14
  Speaker 11: and it looked really good in the end. It had
• 50:16
  Speaker 11: somewhat of a rustic, woodsy vibe, which John and I
• 50:19
  Speaker 11: actually really liked. In fact, we liked it so much
• 50:22
  Speaker 11: that we decided to have the ceremony there as well.
• 50:24
  Speaker 11: One of John's cousins was officiating, and the original location
• 50:28
  Speaker 11: had a refundable deposit as well, so it would all
• 50:30
  Speaker 11: work out. The wedding was perfect and the greatest day
• 50:34
  Speaker 11: of my life. Despite the pitfalls, John and I had
• 50:37
  Speaker 11: a truly fantastic day. I did not tell my mom's
• 50:40
  Speaker 11: family about the change of plans. I told them that
• 50:43
  Speaker 11: they could come to the reception. at the venue they
• 50:45
  Speaker 11: paid for and that i was sorry for being disrespectful
• 50:48
  Speaker 11: to them oh baby tricked them they're gonna show up
• 50:53
  Speaker 11: and it's empty oh and they paid for it love
• 50:57
  Speaker 11: that it was probably expensive oh yeah there's no way
• 51:00
  Speaker 11: it was cheap they were not pleased when they realized
• 51:03
  Speaker 11: we had switched venues for both events and thankfully they
• 51:06
  Speaker 11: were unable to get the new address My uncle demanded
• 51:09
  Speaker 11: we refunded him for the deposit, which we obviously didn't.
• 51:12
  Speaker 11: John and I blocked all of their numbers after sending
• 51:14
  Speaker 11: them the early drafts of the wedding photos, which were
• 51:17
  Speaker 11: edited so it looked as if I were wearing a
• 51:19
  Speaker 11: wedding dress just to piss them off.
• 51:21
  Speaker 10: Nice.
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious.
• 51:22
  Speaker 6: That's really funny.
• 51:23
  Speaker 11: You should do the thing where it's like you have
• 51:24
  Speaker 11: like really fake blush on and like blue eyeshadow and stuff.
• 51:29
  Speaker 6: Like really go all out.
• 51:30
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 51:30
  Speaker 11: We've decided to go no contact with all of them,
• 51:33
  Speaker 11: something that we probably should have done a long time ago.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: My siblings have as well, and my mom is low contact.
• 51:39
  Speaker 6: I think it all worked out.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 51:42
  Speaker 11: Except if you guys don't finish this story by suing
• 51:47
  Speaker 11: the venue, I will be mad.
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: Sue them.
• 51:50
  Speaker 6: Revenge. They can't cancel on you like the week before.
• 51:53
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 51:53
  Speaker 6: No, that's crazy.
• 51:55
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 51:55
  Speaker 6: Revenge is a best dish served cold. Well, there you go.
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: There's a little bit left. And there you have it, folks.
• 52:02
  Speaker 11: I still don't know why they chose to act the
• 52:04
  Speaker 11: way they did, though some of their more creepy behavior
• 52:06
  Speaker 11: has come to light. Neither of us are willing to
• 52:09
  Speaker 11: go into depth on everything my family has done. But
• 52:12
  Speaker 11: needless to say, I'm fine with never speaking to them
• 52:15
  Speaker 11: ever again. John said in a few years he's open
• 52:18
  Speaker 11: to maybe seeing them at any potential family events. But
• 52:22
  Speaker 11: he's far too kind. We have decided, though, that when
• 52:25
  Speaker 11: kids come into the picture, they will not have any
• 52:27
  Speaker 11: contact with these people. And before anyone asks, everyone at
• 52:32
  Speaker 11: the wedding left the original venue a harsh review.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: Was it petty? Yes. But none of us care. It's
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: honestly not petty.
• 52:38
  Speaker 6: It's not petty. They screwed you over.
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: You should tell people that you had a really bad experience.
• 52:43
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: It's like, hey, we were canceled on the week before.
• 52:46
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 52:47
  Speaker 11: Because they double booked, except my terrible uncle booked the
• 52:51
  Speaker 11: place after.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: So clearly they weren't.
• 52:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: So there you go.
• 52:55
  Speaker 11: You're just telling, you're warning people. It is a genuine warning.
• 52:58
  Speaker 11: Both John and I would like to thank everyone for
• 53:00
  Speaker 11: their support as well. And for all the well wishes
• 53:04
  Speaker 11: as we go on to start our lives together. And
• 53:06
  Speaker 11: that is the end of that story.
• 53:08
  Speaker 6: How lovely. Congrats, everyone.
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: I refuse to give my sister any more money.
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: She said I'd never see her baby. Well, you're definitely
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: not getting money now.
• 53:18
  Speaker 4: My sister, 23 female, is living in supported living accommodation
• 53:23
  Speaker 4: and has always had problems with money. She spends more
• 53:26
  Speaker 4: on cigarettes and booze than food for herself or her
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: bills and is constantly asking my mother and me, 26 female.
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: For help.
• 53:32
  Speaker 11: I admit.
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: I have been weak and given in to her and loaned.
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: Her probably about 5,000 pounds altogether within the last year.
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: And it was just dawning on me that I need
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: to seriously help her manage her finances and stop funding
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: her poor choices. Or my mother and I are going
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: to be in the red from giving her money. Well,
• 53:53
  Speaker 4: she called me today with the news that she's pregnant.
• 53:57
  Speaker 6: That's Smoking, right?
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the perfect thing.
• 54:04
  Speaker 12: Right?
• 54:04
  Speaker 6: You've probably been drinking and smoking.
• 54:06
  Speaker 12: I don't know.
• 54:07
  Speaker 8: Right?
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: She is ecstatic.
• 54:10
  Speaker 4: She's already blown all her food money on baby toys, clothes,
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: and is applying for a council house now that she's
• 54:16
  Speaker 4: going to have a baby.
• 54:17
  Speaker 6: It's better than booze and cigarettes.
• 54:20
  Speaker 4: I asked who the father is. Apparently, she's been sleeping
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: with the man who lives in the same accommodation, and
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: she doesn't want to tell him and doesn't mind if
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: he doesn't want a part in her child's life. She
• 54:30
  Speaker 4: wants to raise the baby. I know this baby is
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: going to make her even more broke and desperate for money.
• 54:34
  Speaker 4: And I just don't know what to do. Obviously, I
• 54:37
  Speaker 4: told her I was happy for her and told her
• 54:39
  Speaker 4: for the hundredth time to please be careful with her money.
• 54:42
  Speaker 4: And she said she was going to stop smoking and
• 54:44
  Speaker 4: drinking for her baby, which I hate to say.
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: But I doubt. By the way, this comes from... Throw
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: away sister.
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 54:53
  Speaker 4: to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 54:56
  Speaker 6: I'm Sophia. I'm Keon.
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: And we need to talk about some stuff, get some advice,
• 54:59
  Speaker 4: but we don't have all your answers. We're only going
• 55:01
  Speaker 4: to tell you what we would do, but let us
• 55:02
  Speaker 4: know what you would do down in the comments. As
• 55:05
  Speaker 4: Opie says, I can't even really visit her that much
• 55:09
  Speaker 4: since I relocated for work and live halfway down the
• 55:12
  Speaker 4: country from her. I would obviously book a train to
• 55:15
  Speaker 4: see her if I knew what to say. I just
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: don't know how to tell her that I can't keep
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: giving her money.
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: She's pregnant and broke.
• 55:22
  Speaker 4: I know she won't take it well, but I also
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: know she cannot keep asking for money from her family
• 55:28
  Speaker 4: and in turn do nothing to change her bad habits. Well,
• 55:31
  Speaker 4: she's been doing that for years and no one's really
• 55:33
  Speaker 4: called her out. So, I mean, hopefully the baby will die.
• 55:37
  Speaker 4: make her more responsible but i honestly doubt it.
• 55:41
  Speaker 11: Yeah unfortunately i i don't think this is going to
• 55:44
  Speaker 11: turn out well which is so sad but there's really
• 55:47
  Speaker 11: not much like if you gave her money she'd probably
• 55:50
  Speaker 11: just use it for the for anything but yeah yeah
• 55:54
  Speaker 11: So the best thing that you could do is directly
• 55:57
  Speaker 11: buy things, you know, like diapers and things that the
• 56:01
  Speaker 11: baby would need rather than giving her the money.
• 56:03
  Speaker 6: True, true.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: What do I say to her?
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: I don't want her to hate me or go to
• 56:08
  Speaker 4: my mother saying that I'm not helping her. I just
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: don't know what to do.
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: And there's an edit.
• 56:12
  Speaker 4: I'm no longer going to fund my sister and I
• 56:14
  Speaker 4: have arranged to visit my mother on the weekend to
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: talk about everything with her. It sounds like she's also
• 56:19
  Speaker 4: starting to see that neither of us can keep doing this.
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: I'll update in a week's time after I have had
• 56:25
  Speaker 4: a good talk with my mom and let you all
• 56:27
  Speaker 4: know what went down.
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: Thank you all again. And there's an update a week later.
• 56:31
  Speaker 11: Yeah, I think it's fair to not give the money again.
• 56:34
  Speaker 11: I think if you wanted to help directly buy things
• 56:37
  Speaker 11: that would be the best thing to do in this situation.
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah because she's just gonna spend it on god.
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: Knows what yeah and i really hope she does stop
• 56:46
  Speaker 4: drinking and smoking for the baby's sake me too but
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: also that's horrific.
• 56:53
  Speaker 11: Yeah it's just really sad because already she was in
• 56:57
  Speaker 11: a really bad situation and then this baby's coming into
• 57:00
  Speaker 11: this bad situation.
• 57:01
  Speaker 6: At this point use that money to put her in
• 57:03
  Speaker 6: like rehab.
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: Honestly, I thought you were going to say something else.
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: And I do have another idea.
• 57:09
  Speaker 11: You could use that money to save for like a
• 57:12
  Speaker 11: college fund for this baby. Like you could start, you know,
• 57:15
  Speaker 11: saving for like some sort of schooling. Well, unfortunately, you
• 57:20
  Speaker 11: can't really send people to rehab unless they agree, which
• 57:24
  Speaker 11: I doubt she would.
• 57:25
  Speaker 6: We just go surprise. Got him.
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: Update seven days later.
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: So I booked train tickets up to my hometown five
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: days earlier to meet my mother. For this, however, who
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: should contact me on the evening of the 18th of
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: December asking for 50 pounds, but my sister, reason, she'd
• 57:43
  Speaker 4: seen some lovely baby clothes and just had to buy them,
• 57:47
  Speaker 4: leaving her with no money for necessities.
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: Oh boy, here we go.
• 57:51
  Speaker 6: Do we think she has like a substance problem or
• 57:53
  Speaker 6: a spending problem?
• 57:54
  Speaker 3: Or both?
• 57:55
  Speaker 9: Both.
• 57:55
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: She clearly has been spending all of her money on substances. Exactly.
• 57:59
  Speaker 6: And now baby clothes. Yeah.
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: I'm getting, does she not work or maybe?
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: No.
• 58:04
  Speaker 6: So she doesn't work.
• 58:05
  Speaker 11: She just, she just lives in a like subsidized. I, well,
• 58:08
  Speaker 11: I mean, at least we haven't heard anything about a job.
• 58:11
  Speaker 11: It seems like she just lives on like government, like unemployment.
• 58:14
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 58:14
  Speaker 11: Maybe like, Because they're in the UK, so there is
• 58:17
  Speaker 11: like social programs that like help people who don't have,
• 58:22
  Speaker 11: like can't afford housing.
• 58:23
  Speaker 4: I told her no, I would not be giving her
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: any money. Secondly, that I could not and will not
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: keep funding her irresponsibilities and that she needs to sort
• 58:32
  Speaker 4: out her priorities. Example, food and prescriptions. Well, as you
• 58:36
  Speaker 4: can guess, she was not happy with this. She started
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: crying big fat crocodile tears, asking what she was supposed
• 58:43
  Speaker 4: to do as she had three pounds.
• 58:45
  Speaker 6: To her name and no food in the house. I
• 58:48
  Speaker 6: go look at all the baby clothes and go, why? See,
• 58:52
  Speaker 6: that's why.
• 58:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just there are things there are wants and
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: there are needs and you can't decipher the difference.
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: And that's a big issue.
• 59:00
  Speaker 4: And that's a big issue as one for yourself and
• 59:03
  Speaker 4: another as a parent, because you are about to be
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: a parent.
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: You have to take some responsibility financially.
• 59:10
  Speaker 6: That's crazy. In a sense, she found like the infinite
• 59:12
  Speaker 6: money glitch that she's not working and Yeah. It's going
• 59:16
  Speaker 6: to stop eventually.
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: I apologized and refused again, quite sternly at this point,
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: because I hate being guilt tripped and suggested she buy
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: herself something cheap that could last a while.
• 59:25
  Speaker 4: Example, some dried rice or pasta. This just agitated her
• 59:29
  Speaker 4: even more. She started shouting that I need to stop
• 59:31
  Speaker 4: telling her what to do, and she knows how to
• 59:33
  Speaker 4: look after herself.
• 59:34
  Speaker 6: Obviously not. Wow.
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: And I'd be like, do you?
• 59:36
  Speaker 6: No.
• 59:37
  Speaker 4: Oh, because you're coming to me asking for money and
• 59:39
  Speaker 4: then criticizing me when I don't help you.
• 59:41
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: How about you just spend your money correctly and maybe
• 59:44
  Speaker 4: save and buy things that are necessities, not wants. Yeah.
• 59:49
  Speaker 11: Just look at her and say, well, if you know
• 59:51
  Speaker 11: what you're doing, then don't come to me.
• 59:53
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: Not helping you.
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: She started asking me if I loved her and if
• 59:57
  Speaker 4: I even cared that she was pregnant.
• 59:58
  Speaker 6: Oh, here we go.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: Guilt tripping.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 7: God.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 4: I told her that she should have thought about how
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: bad she is with money before getting pregnant, that she's
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: going to make her debt problem worse, and I am
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 4: not going to be dragged under her.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: By paying for her child. At this point, we were
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: both fuming.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 4: She was calling me all sorts of names and yelled
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 4: that I was selfish and heartless and that she was
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 4: going to tell our mother that I refused to help
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 4: her in her time of need. Exasperated, I just said, fine, blank,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 4: tell her. If she has any sense, she will say
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 4: the same thing. Goodbye, and hung up. She kept trying
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 4: to call me after that.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 6: Every time, I just let it ring out.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: I then started getting texts, one of which threatening that
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 4: I would never see my niece or nephew because I'm
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 4: such an effing a-hole and she wouldn't want me around
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 4: her children. I ended up calling my mother at that
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: point to warn her that my sister would most likely
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 4: be coming to her next to beg and told her
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 4: to please not give in and fund her as this
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 4: was something I wanted to discuss with her the next day.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 4: She said she wouldn't and then I turned my phone
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 4: off and got an early night.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 7: That's nice.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: And he's like, you know what?
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 6: I'm going to bed.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 5: I'm done.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: I tried to have an early.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 6: Night last night. You didn't?
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 9: Nope.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: Just kept looking at houses. That's my life now.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 4: So on Saturday, I take the two hour train to
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 4: my hometown and I meet my mother at her house.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: After unloading Christmas.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: Presents, we had a long talk and I wasn't surprised
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 4: to hear my sister had been contacting her asking for
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 4: money that very morning. Thankfully, my mother told me that
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 4: she had said no.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 6: She couldn't.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 4: Money is tight for her, too, at the moment with
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 4: Christmas coming. being only a few days away, and she
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 4: could not spare it. My mother got the same kind
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 4: of guilt tripping and my sister told her everything that
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 4: I said to her on the phone in an attempt
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: to get my mother to be mad at me. Fat
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 4: chance that was. As my mother told me, she agreed
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 4: with everything I said. As she carried on relaying my
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 4: sister's words, she started crying as she recounted what she
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 4: said to her. It was horrible seeing her like that,
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 4: and she told me that she hated telling her daughter no,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 4: but she had already had to sacrifice so much for
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: her and was only just beginning to see that she
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: had to start putting her own needs first now. We
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: both had a bit of a cry, and I told
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 4: her I would be there for her no matter what,
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 4: which then gave way to laughter as my mother said, Oh, no, no, no.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: Don't you dare let me become another bloody witch to you.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: We both agreed 100% that we will not give my
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 4: sister any money, but we will both go to see
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 4: her and try and talk to her calmly about her options.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 4: Key word being try here. We both know that she
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 4: will be angry and try to guilt us more, but
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 4: we agreed that we need to tell her face to face.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 6: This is tough.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: Sorry about your mom.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it is a tough situation because it's like, of course,
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 4: you want to help your daughter. Yeah, of course you do.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: Especially in like this time of need, if she's actually
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 4: telling the truth about being pregnant and having no money
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 4: for food and all this stuff.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, I do feel bad for you. But
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: in a sense, you are doing it to yourself.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 12: Yes.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 11: And anything I try to help you with, you would
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 11: not use. It's like giving, you know, a rope to
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 11: someone in a hole and they just burn it. I mean,
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 11: she's already using some of these opportunities and yet is
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 11: not using them to her benefit.
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 6: You know, like it's not actually using them in a
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 6: way that like.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: Would help her or her, you know.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 7: Soon to be child.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 4: Which is unfortunate because they're put there for a reason.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: Especially in the UK.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: Like even more so than the US, like way more
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: than the US.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 11: They have these like safety nets.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: It wouldn't matter because.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 6: She doesn't want to help herself.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 4: It truly comes down to them and what they want
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 4: to do and if they're going to in their choices.
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 4: If they choose to not help themselves, that's on them,
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 4: you know? And don't come crying to me saying, I
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 4: have no money.
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: I have no money.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 6: Well, what did you spend it on?
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: Oh, I just saw these really cute clothes.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 6: I wanted for my baby. So yeah.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 7: Like, come on.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 6: You don't even know gender. You don't know anything. Like,
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 6: come on. Like, how about some food?
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: Eat some food. Get a can of soup. Like, come on.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 9: Something.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 6: Mmm. Canned soup.
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 4: We have also been looking up some local support groups
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 4: centered around new mothers and living well on a budget.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: We are going to put these forward to her and
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 4: ask that she give them a try. My sister usually
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 4: goes to my mother's for Christmas, so I have no
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 4: idea how she is going to be around her if
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 4: She will even turn up this year having been rejected.
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 4: I usually stay at home with my husband but me
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 4: and him have agreed that this year we will drive
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 4: up to my mother's house tomorrow to spend it with her.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 4: If my sister turns up so be it. We will
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 4: talk to her then as a family but if she
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 4: doesn't At least we will be there to keep mom
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 4: company on Christmas Day. It's going to be an interesting
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 4: one this year for us. Thanks for all your help
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 4: on the previous thread, guys. And I hope you all
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 4: have happy holidays.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 6: Happy holidays.
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 9: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 9: go to the next one.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 11: My mother misused my credit behind my back, so I
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 11: deleted it entirely.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 2: Yay, erase that crap.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 11: I turned 20 yesterday and had a nice weekend away
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 11: from home and just got back to this mess. My
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 11: dad's birthday is coming in September and my mom wants
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 11: to take him to Punta Cana. The thing is, she
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 11: can't afford to pay the full amount straight away. My
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 11: mom used to have her own Klarna account, but after
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 11: missing 99% of her payments and late fees building up,
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 11: they eventually banned her account for unreliability to keep up
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 11: with payments. So she asked me if she could use mine.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 11: This was in 2024. And I said she can use
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 11: it for stuff that she needs, but not to go
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 11: crazy on it because I was conscious of my credit score.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 6: I would never let anyone who's.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: Really bad at paying off their debts use anything related
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: to mine.
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 6: Yep.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: That just seems like common sense to me. But it
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: is her mom.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it is family, but also doesn't dismiss you from
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 4: having bad spending habits.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 11: She hasn't listened, and until Christmas, she had too many
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 11: payments building up. I told her to stop buying so
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 11: much stuff, or I'd put payment authentication on my account.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 11: She didn't listen again, so I changed the settings to
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 11: send a code to both my number and email to
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 11: verify that I'm making the purchase. Since I enforced this,
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 11: she stopped buying as much and resorted to using her ClearPay.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 11: By the way, this comes from Audrey Hepburn, lover. And
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 11: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 11: the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 7: I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 11: And we're here to give good advice, Goofly, but we
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 11: don't have all the answers, so if you've got answers,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 11: give them here.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 6: Is OP Gregory Peck? Mmm, Audrey Hepburn lover.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 11: OP says, I've been planning to delete my Klarna account
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 11: for months now, since the start of the year, and
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 11: I thought I was going to until we had an
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 11: argument while on vacation a few months ago over money,
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 11: and she made my dad ask me for the verification
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 11: codes so she can use pay in 30 days for
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 11: our overweight luggage. When I realized what she was doing.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: I said I didn't get any coats. And she came
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 2: in and screamed at me to send her the coats.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 10: Oh.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 6: You know what?
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: I'm distancing myself. Yeah. Seems like she's just using you
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: for your money.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 11: Then once we made up and flew back home, she
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 11: said she can't afford to pay the full amount in
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 11: 30 days. I said if you need to split it
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 11: into three, then that's fine. But don't use pay in
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 11: six or pay in 12. And she completely went against
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 11: what I said and used pay in 12. Why do
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 11: you keep letting her get away with this? Yeah. I
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 11: was so mad at her for this, and she promised
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 11: she would pay off the rest by the end of June.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 6: She hasn't.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 11: Now she's planning my dad's birthday vacation in Punta Cana.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 11: She already asked me if she can use my Klarna,
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 11: and I asked her if there's another way she can
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 11: pay for this trip. She said there wasn't another option. Aw,
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 11: I guess you can't go on the trip.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 6: Yeah, to frickin' Punta Cana. Shout out to the Dominican Republic.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 2: Demonican.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 6: Demonican.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: The Demonic Republic.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 6: Demonican. You're gonna make me demonic if you keep doing this, Mom.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: That could be banned.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: So I told her, if you want to use my Klarna,
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: then use pay in three or pay in six. OP,
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: fool me once. What's going on? You've been fooled 12 times.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 6: OP's like 21, like a little baby. But like, OP's 20.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: She keeps having this happen. She's like, why?
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 11: She kept insisting she needs to use pay in 12
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 11: because she can't afford the first two options. I reminded
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 11: her again that I want to delete the account. She said,
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 11: I can't delete the account because I'm still buying stuff
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 11: with it. I said, that's exactly why I want to
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 11: delete it. Anyway, I reminded her once again, if she
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 11: wants to use my Klarna, then she can't use the
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 11: pay in 12. And her response was.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: If she can't use pay in 12, then she can't
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 2: take my dad on vacation.
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 6: Aw, guess you're not going on vacation. Yeah, like live
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 6: in your means.
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: I don't understand. It doesn't have to be some extravagant thing,
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: you know, for like a birthday or vacation.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 6: Take him to the Golden Corral.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or just like go on like, A nice little
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: picnic somewhere.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 6: Like, I don't know.
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 4: I love that. I love doing things like local. I mean,
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 4: I also love traveling. I'd be down for a trip
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 4: if it's not going to put me in debt. Yeah.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 11: I'm also trying to save up to move out and
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 11: to get a car. She knows this, but she says,
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 11: I'm sure you still wouldn't be able to afford it.
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 11: Every time I mentioned my awareness of my credit score,
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 11: she just laughs it off. I would have deleted this
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 11: account if she hadn't used the pay in 12 behind
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 11: my back. I've already asked her to pay the rest
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 11: of that off soon. And she said she can't afford it.
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 6: Huh, interesting. OP, stop letting her. I'm so tired of this.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 11: I can't seem to get her to listen to me
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 11: and we do have an update if the update isn't
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 11: i punted her off of all of my accounts and
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 11: deleted this so that she can't ruin my credit score
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 11: then i don't know why we're here I'm just.
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 6: I'm giving her the hey, listen from Navi from Legend
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 6: of Zelda. Hey, listen.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: Hey, listen.
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 6: Hey, listen.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: Hey, listen.
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 6: Hit them with the hey, listen.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 11: Huh? Yeah, that's all my advice. I have no new advice.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 11: Stop doing this.
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 6: I feel like OP's doing it because they're still young
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 6: and they're like, it's my mommy.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 7: Absolutely.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 2: It's your mom. You don't want to piss off your mom.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 2: And also, you want to help her in her time.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: And also, you don't want to be the reason.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 6: You know, your dad's vacation's ruined or something.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: It's like, it's a lot of pressure.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 4: Yes. But also, it's not your responsibility as the child
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 4: to pay for your parents' stuff. And ruin credit score? Yeah.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 11: A lot of the advice I received was US-based, if
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 11: he continues, such as freezing my credit. But I am
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 11: in the UK, so I looked into the UK equivalent.
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 13: Fuck.
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 11: I've now cleared all the outstanding Klarna payments on my account,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 11: including the ones my mom had been using my account for.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 11: I've deleted the account and following the advice I was
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 11: given and will pretend that the account was banned due
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 11: to late payments. My mom will be angry about this
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 11: for sure, but at least I saved myself from letting
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 11: this go on even longer. I've also checked my credit
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 11: reports with Experian, Equifax, and TransUnion, and there are no loans,
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 11: credit cards, or other accounts I don't recognize. Some people
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 11: warned that my mom may have taken a loan out
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 11: in my name, but my reports show that everything is clear.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 11: As an extra precaution, I registered for CIFA's protective registration.
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 11: which adds an extra layer of identity checks if someone
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 11: ever tries to apply for credit in my name. I
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 11: also wanted to clear something up because I saw a
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 11: few comments asking why my dad wasn't stopping this.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 2: He is completely oblivious.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 11: My mom has never told him how much debt she
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 11: built up using my Klarna. And she told me once
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 11: that if I ever told my dad how much she owes,
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 11: I wouldn't be welcome in my house anymore.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 6: Oh my God.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: So she knows that she's doing it. And she knows
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: that your dad would not approve.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 6: So tell him.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 12: Wow.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 6: Keep it secrets.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 7: Come on for real from your own husband because she's
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 7: spending too much money as i stated in the last
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 7: post i'm currently in the process of saving enough money
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 7: so that threat was something i had to take seriously
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 7: oh because they're still living together oh yeah that makes
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 7: sense i understand this story a lot more now if
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 7: you're still living together it makes sense why op's like.
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 6: Okay well i'll help Oh, sorry. That hit me like
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 6: five minutes later. No, it's okay. Dang.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 11: If it ever came to that point, my partner and
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 11: his roommates would be more than willing to let me
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 11: stay at their place. I've decided that I'll be staying
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 11: with them for a few days just to have some space.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 6: I mean, OP, I think you're doing it really smart.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 8: Yeah, I agree.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 6: I think this is the best option for you.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 4: You're saving yourself because it's like, yeah, I want to.
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 6: Help my family out.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 4: I want to, I don't want to make everyone mad
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 4: at me. You know, there's like so much pressure on you,
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 4: but also look out for yourself. You don't want to
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 4: be in debt the rest of your life. You don't
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 4: want bad credit that follows you everywhere.
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 11: Everywhere.
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 4: Especially like trying to get, you know, a place for yourself. Like,
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 4: That's the first thing they checked is like, you know,
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 4: your credit score or anything like that.
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: So like you. And that's what she's trying to move out. Exactly.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: So like, don't let your mom ruin this for you.
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 6: You're doing all the right things.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 7: Agreed.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 11: Going forward, she will no longer be using my Klarna account.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 11: There is no longer an account to use. The comments
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 11: on my original post made me realize that I was
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 11: essentially a doormat and I needed to put firmer boundaries
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 11: in place and protect my own financial future.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 6: You're young and you're learning. Yeah, you're learning. Yeah. learn
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 6: it's good that you're learning now rather than 10 years later.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 11: We haven't had any like irreversible damage and you're also
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 11: unlearning yes unlearning from her in a good way thank
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 11: you to everyone who has made me realize that no
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 11: matter how brutal your comment was i still appreciate it
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 11: however because this is the internet i have also gotten
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 11: some comments calling me stupid dumb.
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 6: And one person even asked me if i am really
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 6: stupid That is not right.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 11: I'm still a human being learning to say no to
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 11: my mother after years of giving in.
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 2: Any hateful comments have been reported.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 6: As they should.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 2: Thank you again to everyone who commented and encouraged me
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: to take this seriously.
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 6: I'm glad, OP. That's the internet. The internet's going to
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 6: be brutally honest or just cutthroat.
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 11: But good job, OP. You're fixing it. And that's all
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 11: that matters. But we've got another story coming right up.
• 1:13:25
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• 1:13:28
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• 1:13:32
  Speaker 4: My father-in-law told everyone I was lazy because I sleep.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 6: During the day. Because I'm being Batman at night. I.
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 4: 32 female, work overnights in a very demanding medical field.
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 4: My sleep schedule has always been nocturnal, so this feels
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 4: more natural to me than working days... and brings my
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 4: stress down. My husband is gone five days out of
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 4: the week as a truck driver, and my days off
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 4: are the same days he's home, thanks.
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 6: To my seniority. So technically, in a sense, you are
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 6: Batman at night because you are saving people. There you go.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 6: Modern day hero.
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 2: And we are both night owls during this period.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 4: My mother-in-law recently passed away. So my father-in-law, 60s male,
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 4: sold everything and moved to where we were and has
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 4: been included in my family events. At Christmas, my brother
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 4: pulled me aside to let me know that my father-in-law
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 4: is telling anyone who will listen that I am lazy
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 4: because I sleep all day.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 6: Hey, idiot, what are you doing?
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 9: Huh?
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 6: What's your job?
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 2: Retired.
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 2: Quitter.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 4: I work 12 to 24 hour shifts at my job
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 4: during the day.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 9: No.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 6: No. Yeah, no. This is literally my time to rest.
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: Good night.
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 4: I am usually asleep by noon and have to be
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 4: up for work around 8 or 9 p.m. I've sat
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 4: these people down to explain that I am an overnight
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 4: emergency worker and that I need my sleep.
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from throwawayphilishu.
• 1:15:09
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• 1:15:13
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 4: And we're here to talk about some stuff, give some advice,
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 4: but we don't have all your answers. We're only going
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 4: to tell you what we would do.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 6: But, you know, why not? Let us know what you're
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 6: going to do in the comments.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 2: Let's share this moment.
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 10: Hmm.
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 4: As OP says, my husband sat my father-in-law down and
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 4: explained to him what I do, how I need my sleep,
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 4: and that he's being a little freak. My father-in-law maintains
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 4: that a real job doesn't have overnights.
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 6: What are you talking about? What are you talking about?
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 4: That's like so many jobs. Like not all of them
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 4: you can do during the day.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 6: You have to do it during the night.
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 6: Like what do you think? Everyone just goes to bed
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 6: at a certain time. Like the night just stops. Like
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 6: the city stops once it's at night. What are you
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 6: talking about?
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 4: I don't want to have to cut contact with him
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 4: because we are the only family he has left.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 2: My husband stands.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 4: Behind me and says if I want to cut him
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 4: out even just to let him have a time out
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 4: he's game. I also don't know how to address my
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 4: whole family about this. My mom combats it as much
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 4: as possible but his way of thinking is starting to
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 4: permeate them too.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 6: And there's an update. You know what? We're gonna have
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 6: a fun family day. Well, technically family night. Everyone's gonna
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 6: come to my job and see what I do.
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 6: I'll give you passes.
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 9: Like, I.
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 6: Oh, are you guys too sleepy? Is that sleep time?
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 2: It's like so many people work nights.
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 6: You have.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 4: Like, anyone who is an essential worker essentially will work
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 4: a night.
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 2: At least... Once. I mean, a lot more than that.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 6: How moronic is that to say people who work nights
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 6: aren't a... Like, those aren't... That's not a job.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 5: What?
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 2: It's like, what about, like, people who work at, like,
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 2: pit stops or, like, gas stations or.
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 7: Anywhere.
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 4: Like.
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 6: airports medical yeah any of that stuff there's so many
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 6: things you can say it's.
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 10: Like nope everything closes at 10 p.m that's it everyone
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 10: goes to bed yeah yeah like huh there's an update
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 10: i dealt with my family members at a family gathering
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 10: over the weekend i saw my sister one of my
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 10: family members who had been texting me reminded her that
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 10: i'm asleep at 3 or 4 p.m when she texts
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 10: If she texts me first thing in the morning, like
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 10: when she leaves for work at 7, maybe I can
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 10: do whatever favors she needs before.
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 2: I go to sleep. I told her that I wouldn't
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 2: be adjusting my schedule to do her favors.
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 6: She seemed to understand.
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 4: Over the weekend, my husband and I sat down with
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 4: my father-in-law one last time to try to get him
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 4: to understand that I am a medical professional. I work
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 4: nights and that my nights are as hard as working
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 4: a day shift.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 6: Oftentimes even harder way harder anyone in the medical field
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 6: shout out to you like it is rough especially because
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 6: you were like have you seen those before and after
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 6: like going into my shift as a nurse or like
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 6: you know doctor or something and they come back and
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 6: looks like they went through war yeah.
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 4: I'm sure i mean you're seeing all these people you're
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 4: seeing horrible accidents.
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 6: You know show them the pit show them the show
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 6: them like this like one of the episodes from the
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 6: pit it's like that's my day-to-day Yeah.
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: Like literally any, like, you know, SVU, whatever, like, it's like,
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 6: Do you think it's just Grey's Anatomy?
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 4: It's just, just show them Grey's Anatomy or House.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 6: I've been watching Grey's Anatomy and it looks really easy.
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 6: Why is, why is everyone, you guys are all medical
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 6: professionals and getting unalived. What's going on?
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 6: Just imagine how, trying to explain to your father-in-law, it's
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 6: just like, hey, yeah, take your day shift, but just
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 6: imagine it in night.
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 6: He goes, can't comprehend that.
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 1: He's like, I don't get it. No, no, sleep. I sleep.
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 6: No, you sleep. I don't sleep. You don't sleep?
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, I see you sleeping all the time.
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 8: No!
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 4: Dumb.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 6: Dumb.
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 4: I brought up my mother-in-law and reminded him how she
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 4: called 911 at 2 a.m. when she had her first
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 4: heart attack. I told him the person on the other
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 4: end of that phone had a real job. The EMTs
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 4: who came to take her to the hospital had real
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 4: jobs and the ER nurse and doctors that treated her
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 4: have real jobs. I told him that yes, I could
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 4: take a day shift, but I would be unhappy in
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 4: the end because I'm not wired to be awake during
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 4: the day. Today is an exception because I'm on vacation
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 4: and had a dentist appointment.
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this, I just don't understand.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 4: Does he like, what job did he have that he
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 4: never had to work a night shift?
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 6: Day man.
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 2: He was just day man.
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 6: Day man.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 9: Oh.
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 6: Heck yeah. So I'm so happy you locked it on the,
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 6: we clocked that immediately.
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 2: I've been watching a lot of reels of all this.
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 6: Just watch it. It's so good.
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 2: No, I mean, I have watched it.
• 1:19:26
  Speaker 5: Great.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 6: No, it is insane.
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 6: He's, he's day man. Fighter of the night man, which
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 6: is UOP.
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 2: Champion of the sun.
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 6: Fighting for friendship and for everyone.
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 2: Master of karate and friendship for everyone.
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 6: Yes. So good.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 6: All right, let's finish this up.
• 1:19:45
  Speaker 4: After the discussion, he point blank told me that my
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 4: chosen hours weren't conductive to having children.
• 1:19:51
  Speaker 5: Shut up, dude.
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 6: You're so, you're such a moron.
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 4: Thanks thank you thank you awesome anything else when i
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 4: reminded him that when his son and i got married
• 1:20:00
  Speaker 4: 10 years ago we both agreed that we weren't having
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 4: children he had some choice words my husband punted him
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 4: out of the house and my family will stop inviting
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 4: him to family gatherings not the outcome i wanted but
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 4: hopefully he'll come around And there's an edit. To be clear,
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 4: he did not live with us, but near us. My
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 4: husband threw him out of our house that evening.
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't.
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 6: You said that earlier. I got that. You explained to
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 6: him in just like baby terms. You're like, so super
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 6: like Batman. Batman's at night. Batman works at night. Batman
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 6: needs to rest during the day. But Batman doesn't do that.
• 1:20:33
  Speaker 4: So I think it's more of just the he's like, well,
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 4: what if you have children?
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 6: Then what?
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 2: And it's like, we don't want children.
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 6: We don't want children. And even then we can.
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah, great.
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 2: Then he doesn't comprehend that.
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 6: Do you think babies just the babies nap during the day, too?
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 2: You should get a job.
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 6: They should get a job.
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 11: Yeah.
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 4: Babies nap like so much. And also sometimes will not
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 4: sleep through the night. That's also a job that I
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 4: may have to do overnight.
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 10: Okay.
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 6: At this point, it's just a brick wall.
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 6: Turn around. There's no reason to argue with a brick wall.
• 1:21:01
  Speaker 6: It's pointless.
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 12: Yeah.
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 2: Just keep doing what you're doing. You're changing lives.
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 6: Thank you for what you do. Shout out to all
• 1:21:07
  Speaker 6: the medical professionals and everyone who just works at night too. Truthfully,
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 6: if you work at night, good for you. Could never
• 1:21:14
  Speaker 6: do it. Could never do it. I appreciate that you
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 6: do it because I couldn't. But that is the end
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 6: of that story.