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Decoding the Smear Campaign: The 3 Phases of Character Assassination · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So most people think a smear campaign is about revenge.
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  Sweet, sweet vengeance, right? But as a self aware diagnosed
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  narcissist, I can tell you the truth.
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  It's not about hating you, right?
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  It's about what we call narrative insurance.
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  Like, like, like you have house insurance, car insurance.
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  I need narrative insurance. I need ego insurance, right?
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  I need self protection insurance against you.
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  I have to make you the villain so that if you told the truth
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  about me, no one would ever believe you.
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  Intro on fire Yeah, we talk about the smear campaign today,
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  y'all. More importantly, we talk about
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  the three phases of a smear campaign.
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  So I know y'all hear y'all hear about y'all hear videos about
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  the smear campaign before, but today the phases likely.
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  What the hell? The phases of a smear campaign.
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  Let's hop right into it though y'all.
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  The first phase of a smear campaign is commonly referred to
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  as the leaking phase. You got that leaking she leaking
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  she's soaking wet leaking Shake it like I saw y'all made the old
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  song back in the day. If you don't, I just age to
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  myself right? But the leaking phase is like I,
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  I would start dropping like I'm worried about this person or
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  have you heard this about my wife?
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  Have you heard this about my husband?
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  They start saying things while you're still together.
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  So many people think that the smear campaign starts after the
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  relationship ends, after the breakup, after the firing, after
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  being exposed or whatever. No, it starts while you're still
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  together. They start leaking false
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  information to people. They start like, it's kind of
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  like building up a reputation against you early on, right
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  before we even break up. Have you heard this about my
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  wife? Y'all?
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  Have y'all noticed anything differently about my wife?
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  Oh it's just me huh? Just keep an eye out for this
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  just in case. Y'all think I think my husband
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  cheating on me whole time. I'm cheating right?
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  I think my husband cheating on me.
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  Have y'all heard anything? No.
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  OK, you see what I'm saying? It's leaking.
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  They're leaking false information.
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  It seemed like they might be leaking the truth because
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  they're worried about you, right?
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  No, I'm not worried about you, I'm worried about me.
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  I'm worried because I know I'm doing something wrong or I have
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  done something wrong and I don't want to be exposed for it.
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  So in order to protect myself in this situation, I have to make
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  you look like the bad guy. So I'm going to leak information
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  to the press and in this situation, in this scenario, the
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  press is your friends and family members, right?
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  The press is the people that are around us.
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  That's the press in this situation.
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  It's not the news media right? It's not it's not the CNN or fox
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  or whoever y'all be watching right?
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  It's not them. It's your friends and family.
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  It's my friends and family. It's our it's my my followers
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  online. You see the leaking face.
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  I'm leaking information, right? And sometimes the crazy thing
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  about it is during the smear campaign you might have, I might
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  leak this information to the wrong person and it might get
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  back to you. And guess what happens?
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  You questioned me about it, and I deny it.
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  I paint your friend or whoever told you this as a liar, as a
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  manipulator, as someone who's never liked me, who has a
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  vendetta against me, right? And I can somehow successfully
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  turn you against them. Two birds, one stone.
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  I have them worried about you. And now guess what happens?
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  I have you worried about them, so you might cut them off with
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  which when you cut them off or you start talking to them less,
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  guess what happens? That makes the first information
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  that I'll leak to them make it seem more valid because now
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  you're distancing, distancing yourself from them.
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  So maybe you're trying to get away from what I said.
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  You see how that works? Oh, that's nasty, ain't it?
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  I know that's nasty, that's ugly and I know like damn, that's
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  horrible, but that's how you see how they work right there right.
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  So phase one, the leaking phase is where they start to leak
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  information about you. I didn't start spreading rumors
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  about you. It's like a little rumor phase,
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  right? The little rumor meal has just
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  gotten started. So watch out for that.
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  If some, if one of your friends comes to your family members or
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  whoever, right, comes to you and tells you that I or your
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  narcissistic partner has been saying things behind your back,
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  you might want to take that. You might want to believe that,
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  right? Because why would they make that
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  up? Could it?
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  Could it Now let me be let me take devil's advocate.
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  Could they be making it up? Yeah, that possibility exists,
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  right? But most times they're not
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  making it up. OK, Phase 2, the victim, flip.
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  The old victim flip, cartwheel, backflip, right?
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  In this phase right here, this happens after the breakup, after
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  the relationship ends. So when we finally split, I
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  didn't tell people that I was cold or unfaithful or
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  emotionally or physically abusive.
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  I didn't tell them any of that, right?
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  I told them I finally escaped your toxicity.
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  Even if you broke up with me, I tell people I escaped you,
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  right? You see what I'm saying?
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  I flipped it to make sure that I'm the victim.
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  I took your reactions to my abuse and sold them as the
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  reason I had to leave. Isn't that crazy?
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  This is why it's react. This is why reactive abuse is a
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  thing. This is why I tell people to
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  control your reactions. Because guess what happens if
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  you don't control your reactions?
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  Guess what happens? You end up in a toxic
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  relationship dynamic with somebody like me or like, and
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  you get I you, you give me the ability to paint you as the
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  aggressor because guess what happens?
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  You, you let's say, let's play the scenario right here, right?
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  You caught me cheating or I threw something at you, right?
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  Unless I threw something at you. This is more apt because not
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  everybody is cheating, all right?
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  They say I I took something and I threw it at you.
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  I launched it at you. It you look, it missed you, but
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  I pulled my phone out and I start to record you right when
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  you reacted. Now you picking it up, you're
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  throwing it at me, yelling and screaming at me.
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  They didn't see me throw it. They saw your reaction and now
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  I'm saying why you throwing stuff at me?
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  Why you hurting trying to hurt me.
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  Just leave me alone. I haven't done anything to you.
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  I'm playing the victim. I flipped it.
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  Yeah, I threw it at you. Yeah, I put my hands on you.
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  Yeah, I screamed and yelled at you.
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  Yeah, I pushed all your buttons. But guess what?
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  You look like the aggressor now because I got you to
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  successfully react. I rage baited you, right?
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  I sent you a mean text messages and you responded and snapped on
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  me. I screenshot your response and
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  posted online to make myself be the victim.
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  Now does everybody believe it? No, that's not the intent.
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  I don't intend to try to get everybody on my side.
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  I don't need everybody. I just need a few.
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  I never needed everybody to believe me.
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  I just as long as a few. As long as everybody doesn't
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  believe you, I'm fine. I don't need everybody to
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  believe me. I just, I just don't need
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  everybody to believe you. I need people to take what I I
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  need some people on my side and hopefully I get the most
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  important people to you on my side because it hurts more,
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  right? I know that sounds devious, but
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  that doesn't that hurt a little bit more when the people that
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  you love and care about or on the side of the abuser, on the
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  side of the person that hurt you, doesn't that sting a little
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  bit more? Doesn't that bring a little bit
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  more pain to you? You see, I'm saying that's what
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  ends up happening right there. That's something you have to
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  consider it absolutely true. It's absolutely, it's absolutely
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  valid. What the hell was that right
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  there? It's absolutely true and valid
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  right there. So consider that before as
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  you're moving forward. Consider that as you're healing.
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  Consider that as you're trying to grow, right?
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  Those are important stages right there before you react, just
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  think about it like, is this reaction going to be put on
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  camera? Is this message going to be put
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  on camera? Is me showing them to their
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  house going to be put on camera or it won't be?
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  Are they going to record this and play the victim?
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  Those are things that you need to be asking yourself, y'all.
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  All right, that's stage. That's the phase two right here.
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  The last and final phase or different phase right here,
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  y'all? Maybe that'd be the final phase,
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  but it's the different phase of it.
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  It's called the isolation play. By making you look crazy or
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  unstable, I ensured that you had nowhere to go or like I said
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  earlier, very little places to go.
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  Because not everybody. I don't expect everybody to
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  believe me. I just want to make sure that
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  there's certain people on my side.
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  They don't believe you. So you have nowhere to go,
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  right? So if I can successfully isolate
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  you from your support system, I still have a chance to pull you
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  back in later when you're desperate.
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  Because when you get boy, you're by yourself.
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  When you are alone, you're vulnerable.
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  You know what I'm saying? It's kind of like there's you
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  are. I know most people hear this
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  phrase right here. There's power in numbers.
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  There is, it's true. It's if you like one lion versus
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  one gazelle, that lion probably will take the gazelle down,
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  right? But one lion versus 25 warthogs
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  with their Tusk pointed towards that lion, that one lion might
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  not come out on top. That one little warthog and the
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  1 little empathetic warthog in the middle might be protected.
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  You see what I'm saying? That one little warthog in the
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  middle might be a safe, Might be safe because then there's 20
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  warthogs instead of one. Get 1 antelope, one gazelle,
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  whatever, right? There's power in numbers.
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  If I can successfully get you away from everybody, I feel
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  like, I feel like that's a victory for me, right?
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  Right. If I can get you away from
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  everybody, I feel like that's a success for me.
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  That's what I want to do right there.
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  That's what I want to happen. That's why I want things to use
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  something. That's why I need these things
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  to go through. I need these things to go down.
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  I need these things to happen. I promise you I do.
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  That's why I, if I can get you by yourself, it's so important.
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  That's why I'm saying controlling your reactions.
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  You need to document stuff. So that last phase, the
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  isolation, please don't be isolated.
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  Please don't start cutting people off that are on your
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  side. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because the more the the more alone you are, the more I feel
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  like I benefit. Again, the more alone you are,
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  the more vulnerable you are. I know everybody doesn't have a
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  support system. I have a support group, the
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  Mental Healers. You can join it on at
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  mentalillness.net or YouTube memberships or Facebook,
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  whatever. You're watching this right?
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  You can watch it there you can join those groups there.
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  Those groups have a lot of survivors and thrivers.
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  It might be going through the same thing.
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  They can help you out as well. You can talk to make friends,
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  but if you this last phase right there, y'all, if you are in the
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  middle of a smear campaign right now, stop trying to clear your
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  name. The harder you fight, it's kind
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  of like being a quicksand right? The harder you fight, the more
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  you sink. You see what I'm saying, Quick,
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  saying you, you, you would think I'm a fight and get back up.
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  The more you fight, you're clearing more space for you to
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  go back down. You don't have to clear your
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  name, right? When you fight a narcissistic
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  person's lies, you look defensive, right?
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  Why you so defensive? Why you do?
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  Why you feel the need? Like if it's not true, if it
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  doesn't apply, let it fly, right?
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  You look defensive and that's exactly what we want.
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  That's exactly what the narcissist in your life wants.
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  The only most times, the only way to build a smear campaign is
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  to live your life so well that the narcissist stories
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  eventually stop making sense to people with common sense.
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  Then I'm gonna say that again, live your life so well that the
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  narcissist stories stop making sense to people with common
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  sense and people who can think critically because that
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  critical, be realistic being today in today's society,
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  especially in America, critical thinking is at a minimum because
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  people don't believe evidence, people don't believe truth,
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  people don't believe in stats, people would rather believe lies
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  and manipulators, right? You know what I'm saying?
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  Not everybody has common sense. Not everybody has the ability to
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  think critically. So that's what I'm just saying
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  right there, y'all? They can only lie to the people
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  that were not paying attention or the flying monkeys who
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  doesn't matter what they say, they're going to have flying
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  monkeys on their side all the time.
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  And sometimes what hurts, what sucks is that the flying monkeys
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  could be your family members, The flying monkeys could be
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  people that are close to you. And that's what hurts and sucks
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  right there, right? That's what stings the most
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  sometimes is that the people you love and care about, the people
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  that you're, the people that are around you, the people you're
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  thankful for you, they are on the side of the narcissist.
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  And that can sting so deeply it can make you cry.
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  It can hurt you to your core. And that sucks, man.
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  I promise you it does. But y'all, if you've experienced
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  A smear campaign, I do my one-on-one coaching.
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  I have courses available as well.
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  You can find everything. Go right now to
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  mentalillness.net. Seriously, mental illness.net.
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  Hit this, hit the subscribe button and I am out.
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  Peace.