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6 Signs You're Doing Better Than You Think · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on Gadigal land. Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal land. Hey chicks, I'm Al. And I'm Sally. Ooh,
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  Speaker 1: and this is two broke chicks to show that shares
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  Speaker 1: life lessons and tips to help make you rich in life.
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  Speaker 1: And today we're talking... The six signs you're doing better
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  Speaker 1: than you think because we love a pep talk. Honestly.
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  Speaker 1: We love a pep talk. We love a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of like, no, but it's okay. You're doing amazing, sweetie.
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  Speaker 1: This is the ultimate you're doing amazing, sweetie episode that
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  Speaker 1: you will ever hear in your entire life. And even
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  Speaker 1: if you don't have all of these things checked off,
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  Speaker 1: even if you have none of them, which I really
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  Speaker 1: highly doubt, it's a good little goal. I think so.
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  Speaker 1: Good little list of achievable– I love an achievable to-do list. Same.
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  Speaker 1: Like it's like drink one glass of water and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a god. Honestly. I'm a god among men. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Hall of Famer. But before we get into it, Sally,
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  Speaker 1: what is your obsession of the week?
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  Speaker 2: My obsession of the week is I saw this post
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  Speaker 2: from the American Heart Instagram page and they share– like
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  Speaker 2: graphics of the different songs that you can use when
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  Speaker 2: you're doing hands-only cpr.
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  Speaker 1: Oh like that scene in the office where it is
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  Speaker 1: like at first i was afraid yeah she's like do
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  Speaker 1: you know staying alive he's like of course he's like
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  Speaker 1: duh yeah he's like first i was afraid i was
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  Speaker 1: petrified and then she's like no that's stayed and then
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  Speaker 1: all the people start singing one of the best scenes
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  Speaker 1: in Television history, might I say. Absolutely. Can't ever scroll
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  Speaker 1: past it when it comes up on my feed.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: That entire episode is like one of– is art. Side note,
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  Speaker 2: I've also listened to like the Office Rewatch podcast and
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  Speaker 2: they've said that so many people wrote.
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  Speaker 1: In and said that that scene like helped save a life.
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  Speaker 2: Shit. Because it made them realise that they can use
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  Speaker 2: the BG's Stayin' Alive, like the beat of that song,
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  Speaker 2: as a guide for CPR.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Anyways, American Heart also shared a post and apparently Britney Spears'
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  Speaker 2: You Drive Me Crazy has 104 beats per minute, which
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  Speaker 2: is also the right tempo.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, you drive me crazy. Apologies for
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  Speaker 1: the singing. But anyway, I was like, that is so good.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, I wonder how many other songs
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  Speaker 2: there are that you could use as a guide for CPR.
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  Speaker 2: And I found out that the New South Wales Ambulance
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  Speaker 2: also has shared a whole playlist of songs.
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  Speaker 1: That you can use for CPR. They released it like
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  Speaker 1: last week. But there are so many.
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  Speaker 2: Like there's Levitating by Dua Lipa, Blame It On The
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  Speaker 2: Boogie by The Jacksons, Eye Of The Tiger, Just Dance
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  Speaker 2: by Lady Gaga.
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  Speaker 1: Pink Pony Club by Chapel Roan. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: Fire the Target is a good shout because I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to be there going boom, boom, boom, boom. That's how
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to do the CPR. Yeah, literally. Like the
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  Speaker 1: person's dead. Yeah, so true. But great song.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and like Espresso by Sabrina Carpenter, Love Story by
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  Speaker 2: Taylor Swift. So I'll put a link to the playlist
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  Speaker 2: in the show notes. But I was like that is
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  Speaker 2: such a helpful resource because especially like if you're– I
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  Speaker 2: was thinking, I was like I wonder how many young people–
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  Speaker 2: if staying alive would be the first thing that came
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  Speaker 2: to their mind you know what i mean so yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Okay my obsession of the week is a game so
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  Speaker 1: i've spoken about the weekly 50 for on the show
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  Speaker 1: which is basically like a weekly trivia that you can
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  Speaker 1: do that's like maybe a good good hour two hours
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  Speaker 1: if you really get into it that i do on
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  Speaker 1: like a sunday But Rob, my partner, has brought me
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  Speaker 1: a new game that's like a daily mini game that
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  Speaker 1: you can do in like five minutes with your friends,
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  Speaker 1: your partner, your colleagues. It's just like a fun little
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  Speaker 1: thing to do. It's called One in a Krillian. What's
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  Speaker 1: a krillian? A krillian. So a krillian, you might remember
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  Speaker 1: them from like Happy Feet, like krill.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: Krill, and there's so many. Like what whales eat. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: like the little prawn things. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Basically.
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  Speaker 1: Basically. It's seven prompts a day, the same thing for
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  Speaker 1: everyone who plays it, but the rarer or more niche
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  Speaker 1: your answers sinks you deeper. So you want to get
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  Speaker 1: like as deep in the ocean as you can. No.
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  Speaker 1: And like the obvious answer barely counts, but you only
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  Speaker 1: get 25 seconds to answer.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: So it'll give you like a category. So like products
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  Speaker 1: that are in a stick form. Oh, okay. Like deodorant.
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  Speaker 1: So you can answer deodorant, but that probably wouldn't get
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  Speaker 1: you very far. Yeah. It's not one in a trillion.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Whereas like I put like a hair wax stick and
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  Speaker 1: that was apparently quite rare. First thing that popped into
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  Speaker 1: my head was cheese.
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  Speaker 2: Cheese.
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  Speaker 1: A cheese stick. Okay. Well, we're going to play one
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  Speaker 1: in a trillion. Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Yep.
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  Speaker 1: All right. We're going to begin the descent. Fuck.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Seven prompts, 25 seconds each. Rarer answers sink you deeper.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: All right, name a TV show that's rated 8.5 plus
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  Speaker 1: on IMDb.
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  Speaker 3: Go.
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  Speaker 1: Freaks and Geeks. I don't know. How do you know that?
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  Speaker 1: That was rare. That was good. We got 60 points.
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  Speaker 1: We sunk 600 metres.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: All right, next one.
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  Speaker 3: Go.
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  Speaker 1: Name a current NBA player must be on an NBA team.
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  Speaker 1: Bug Bunny. Wait. I said LeBron James. We got Plankton.
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  Speaker 1: That wasn't good. That was 10. We sunk 100 metres.
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  Speaker 1: Name a food you have to shell or crack open
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  Speaker 1: before eating. Walnut. What's that Belle's cheese? What's that? Baby Belle.
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  Speaker 1: Baby Belle. Thank you, Producer Bree. No, it didn't say it.
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  Speaker 1: What did you say? Walnut. We got 30 points for that.
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  Speaker 1: What should have we said?
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  Speaker 3: Peanut.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, pistachio. I was going to say pistachio, but that's
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  Speaker 1: such a trending.
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  Speaker 2: Is it?
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  Speaker 1: Whatever. Oh, true. Prawn. Name a vehicle that doesn't travel
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  Speaker 1: on wheels. Plane. Wait, that's so obvious.
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  Speaker 2: That's so obvious.
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  Speaker 3: Boat. Dinghy.
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  Speaker 1: Dinghy.
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  Speaker 3: Dinghy.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, we got rare. We got rare.
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  Speaker 2: For dinghy?
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Fuck yeah. We sunk 600 metres. Okay, what else? Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Name a body part people have exactly one of. Penis. Nose.
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  Speaker 1: Did that work? It did, but it wasn't very rare. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I can imagine lots of people. What else could we
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  Speaker 1: have said for that? The little dangly thing.
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  Speaker 2: Kidney.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, no, you got two of those. That's literally a
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  Speaker 1: whole thing. That's literally a whole thing. Okay, name a
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  Speaker 1: country that borders Greece or Austria. Albania? Yeah. Yes, we
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  Speaker 1: got rare. We got rare. Euro summer paid off. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there we go. Education. All right, last one. Name an
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  Speaker 1: extra that airlines charge for. Priority boarding. Seat selection. Seat selection.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Bread. That was good stuff. That was good stuff. That
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  Speaker 1: was good. Good job. Good job. Oh, wait. What? Don't
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  Speaker 1: tell me.
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  Speaker 3: No, it wasn't.
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  Speaker 1: It was plankton. It was what? It was plankton. So
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  Speaker 1: now we surface and it takes you as all the
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  Speaker 1: way back up again. And the longer you like takes
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  Speaker 1: you to surface. How fun. So we didn't do great,
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  Speaker 1: but we didn't do poorly. For our first go. For
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  Speaker 1: our first radio. I like that. That's fun. Yeah. We
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  Speaker 1: got like overall in the rare section, but you can
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  Speaker 1: get deep cut. So it goes plankton, which is like
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  Speaker 1: the worst you can get. Schooler, which is like the
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  Speaker 1: second lowest score. Then you got rare, which is your mid-range.
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  Speaker 1: Deep cut, which is the second to most important. And
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  Speaker 1: then you've got the gold star. One in a krillion.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: And what did we get? We got rare. So we
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  Speaker 1: did well. Okay. Average. Mid-range. That's good. So it also
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  Speaker 1: like gives you the answers as well. Like if you
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  Speaker 1: wanted to see what other people answered, like what the
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  Speaker 1: one in a krillion was. Yeah, fun. So we did
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  Speaker 1: better than 51% of today's players.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Take that. So yeah, that's my obsession. I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Great.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, this morning Rob was like, we have to do
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  Speaker 1: one in acrylic and then I didn't have the heart
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  Speaker 1: to tell him that I was going to do it
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  Speaker 1: with you on the podcast. Aww. Sorry, Barbie. Sorry, Barbie. Sorry, Barbie. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: one in acrylic. Fun. Add that to the rotation. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Fun little thing to do over dinner. Yeah. One in
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  Speaker 1: your morning coffee. Absolutely. Shout out.
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  Speaker 3: All right.
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  Speaker 1: Shall we get into the episode? Let's do it. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: What is your first sign that you're doing better than
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  Speaker 1: you think? You know how to manage your time. Oh, crap.
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  Speaker 1: Zero for zero. I know, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Apparently one-third of people reported always or often feeling rushed
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  Speaker 2: or pressed for time.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if that's people's fault, though. That's like society. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: damn the man. The man, Ms Mullins. She's the man.
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  Speaker 2: This figure was higher among females at 36% than males, 30%.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not surprised. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And balancing work and family was the most common reason
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  Speaker 2: for always or often feeling rushed or low on time.
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  Speaker 2: And when looking at time stress across age groups, almost
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  Speaker 2: half of females aged 35% to 44%.
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  Speaker 1: Felt, yeah, always rushed. So I think like you were saying.
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  Speaker 2: this isn't necessarily people's fault. I think society is kind
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  Speaker 2: of stacked against us in that regard. We are expected
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  Speaker 2: to be juggling so many things and there's only so many.
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  Speaker 1: Hours of the day. It's really, really hard. And I
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  Speaker 1: definitely feel like this.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that I've got my time management completely
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  Speaker 2: down pat. But hearing these stats made me actually feel
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  Speaker 2: a little bit better because I feel like If you do,
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  Speaker 2: if you do know how to manage your time, like
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  Speaker 2: that's great, gold star. But also if you don't, you
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  Speaker 2: feel like you struggle.
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  Speaker 1: With that, almost half of people do as well. So
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  Speaker 1: you're not alone. And I think all of us. can
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  Speaker 1: probably improve on this.
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  Speaker 2: But the good thing is that there are so many
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  Speaker 2: like really simple tips and hacks that you can do
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  Speaker 2: to get better with your time management. And one of
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  Speaker 2: my favorite ones that I found when I was doing
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  Speaker 2: this research is doing if then triggers, which I do
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  Speaker 2: think a lot of people do. It's kind of like
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  Speaker 2: habit stacking in a way. So when you're organizing your day,
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  Speaker 2: you have like, if I do this, then I do
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  Speaker 2: this as well. So for example, if it's 8.30 AM,
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  Speaker 2: then I open my emails and like run through and
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  Speaker 2: get my inbox down to Zero. If I finish lunch,
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  Speaker 2: then I answer emails for 20 minutes. So you're essentially
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  Speaker 2: attaching a new habit to something that you already do,
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  Speaker 2: like your coffee or your commute. And there was a
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  Speaker 2: study that found of like 94 different reports that showed
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  Speaker 2: that this really does help improve your follow through.
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  Speaker 1: So if you are.
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  Speaker 2: On the bus and you read a page of your book,
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  Speaker 2: for example, or if you are having your coffee and
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  Speaker 2: that's when you check your emails, you're already doing that.
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  Speaker 1: Like you're already better at time management than you think.
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  Speaker 2: So it's about looking at your whole day like that
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  Speaker 2: and how can you pair things together and have your
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  Speaker 2: if then.
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  Speaker 1: I like that. Because I think that's the thing. You're like,
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  Speaker 1: where do I start? I've got so much to do.
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  Speaker 1: But it really can be that simple.
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  Speaker 2: And helps you almost multitask and get like a few
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  Speaker 2: things done at the same time.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Or give you that anchor and that trigger to know
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  Speaker 2: that every.
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  Speaker 1: Morning when I have my coffee, I check my emails. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just part of it. I also think people
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  Speaker 1: are a lot better at managing their time than they
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  Speaker 1: think because we're always looking to the next thing. Like
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  Speaker 1: we never really look back and– Like acknowledge all the
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  Speaker 1: things that we've probably gotten done in a day, which
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  Speaker 1: is why documenting your to-do list is like the best
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  Speaker 1: hack to realize that you're actually probably a lot better
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  Speaker 1: at managing your time than you think.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So when you write down your to-do list for the day,
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  Speaker 1: ensure that you're also adding on the things that weren't
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  Speaker 1: on your list. Yeah. So that you have that visual visibility.
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  Speaker 1: And dopamine hit of ticking off everything, which I do
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  Speaker 1: all the time. Like if I've written a to-do list
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  Speaker 1: and there was three things that weren't on there, you
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  Speaker 1: best believe I am writing them down. And then ticking it.
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  Speaker 1: Even though they're already done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And ticking it. But it's a cheat code. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But I think that is the thing. Like a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people look back on their day and they're like,
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  Speaker 2: what have I done?
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: And it felt really busy and I feel like I
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  Speaker 2: haven't done enough and I've still got so much to do.
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  Speaker 2: But by tracking those things. Then you're like, no, I
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  Speaker 2: actually did get a lot done.
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  Speaker 1: So you're better at managing your time than you think. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And if you do feel a little bit, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like you could get better, there's like lots of easy
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  Speaker 1: little hacks that you can do. Exactly. Okay. My first
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  Speaker 1: sign that you're doing better than you think is you
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  Speaker 1: have $ 1, 000 saved. So 42% of Australians have less than
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  Speaker 1: a thousand dollars saved, which is approximately 9.2 million people
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  Speaker 1: according to finders August, 2026 research. So I don't want
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  Speaker 1: anyone who doesn't have a thousand dollars saved to think shit,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm doing really badly because I think that stat
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  Speaker 1: is also helpful because it's like, there's also a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people like in that, in that scenario and with
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  Speaker 1: cost of living expendable income, that's, you know, not necessarily,
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  Speaker 1: not something I want anyone to feel lesser than if
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  Speaker 1: they don't have that number. It took me so, so
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  Speaker 1: long to learn how to save and to actually prioritize savings.
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  Speaker 1: Like it was up until my late twenties that I
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  Speaker 1: finally had like an emergency fund. Up until then, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, hope my car rego is not due this
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  Speaker 1: month because I would be hooked.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You know, so 19% of Australians have no savings at all.
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  Speaker 1: So even if you have $ 200 in an emergency fund,
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  Speaker 1: $ 200 in a savings account somewhere. You're doing a lot better.
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  Speaker 1: I think we see social media videos. Sometimes there are
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  Speaker 1: like people on streets and box pops doing interviews being like,
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  Speaker 1: how much do you have in savings?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And it'll be like $ 50, 000, $ 200, 000, $ 10, 000.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And when I would have seen that, I would have
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  Speaker 1: been like, oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And like, that's great. If you know, you have that
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  Speaker 1: much money in savings, like that's amazing. Congratulations to you.
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  Speaker 1: But You're not a failure for not having a big
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  Speaker 1: lump sum in savings because even $ 1, 000 is, like, a
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  Speaker 1: very strong amount that the vast majority also haven't, you know,
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  Speaker 1: gotten there yet. Yeah. It's also the fact that, like,
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  Speaker 1: I do think we often have to dip into our
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  Speaker 1: savings and that, like, pre-preparation, especially for things like Christmas or,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Black Friday. Or if you're moving out of, like, home. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're wanting to... try and save even more
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  Speaker 1: or get to that $ 1, 000 mark, setting up an automatic
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  Speaker 1: transfer is easily the best hack to get there. If
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  Speaker 1: you set up an automatic transfer for $ 3 a day,
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  Speaker 1: you would save over $ 1, 000 by the end of the year. $ 3.
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  Speaker 1: I know it's such a boomer example, but like that's
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  Speaker 1: less than a cup of coffee. Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh a lot oh yeah a lot less than a
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  Speaker 1: cup of coffee these days yeah no that's like that
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  Speaker 1: other kidney.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah that was literally such a big game changer and
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  Speaker 2: it feels like so obvious um but it was such
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  Speaker 2: a big game changer.
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  Speaker 1: To help me save and to pay myself first exactly
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  Speaker 1: and what do you mean by paying yourself first for those.
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  Speaker 2: Who aren't familiar yes um So on my payday, I
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  Speaker 2: would have an automatic transfer set up where the first
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  Speaker 2: thing that.
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  Speaker 1: Came out of my account was money into my savings.
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  Speaker 2: And basically that's me paying myself for my future rather
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  Speaker 2: than being like, oh, yay, payday, like I'll go shopping
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  Speaker 2: or even like putting it towards like bills and stuff
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  Speaker 2: because that was for me, the bills were fine, the
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  Speaker 2: bills were covered.
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  Speaker 1: It was the saving.
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  Speaker 2: Part that I was really struggling with. Um, so that's
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: why I did that for me.
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: I feel like I would fall into like payday revenge spending. Yes.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: So when I would get paid, because you know, we
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: would get paid monthly. So the last like two weeks
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: of the month I'd be like, yeah. Like, and especially
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: the last week, sometimes I was like noodles for dinner.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: It is like, it's because I'd like, because what happens
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: is then when I would get paid, I'd be like,
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: let's go, your mummy got paid, what's on your wish list,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: what are we buying, let's go out. No, round's on me.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Thought she was big spender. And then after two weeks
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, who spent all my money? You know that
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: meme that's like when you think your bank account got
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: hacked and then when you look at it and you
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: realise you hacked your bank account and you spent all
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: your money? That, hello, the call is coming from inside
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: the house. Yeah, exactly. Or my strategy, if you could
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: even call it that, before then was.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Well, whatever I have left over, I'll put that into savings.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Yes. And there's nothing. There was never anything left over.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Because what baby wants, baby gets.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Baby is very needy she is she's a disgusting little
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: grub she's demanding yes so yeah.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Setting up that automatic savings because then as well I
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: could never forget yeah I could never make an excuse
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: or I'll do it tomorrow or I'll buy this first
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: and then I'll transfer it later it just happened in
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: the background.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: And like creating that barrier so like I would send
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: it to a completely different bank account so that when
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: I opened my app that was my spending account That
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: money is over in a completely different bank, in a
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: completely different savings account. I don't even know. I forget
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: that exists. Having that money out of sight, out of
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: mind meant that I would kind of forget that it
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: was there. So I wouldn't dip into it as much.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: So that $ 3 that just like kind of like drip
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: feeds your savings ends up being like a nice little
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: pond of savings for you. But yeah, I thought that
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: was a nice like little reminder because we can see
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: very much that we compare ourselves a lot to what
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: we see online as well. Like, you know, whether it's
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: the person from high school that just bought a house
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: or the extravagant wedding or the person who's been like
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: in a three month Europe trip that you're like, how?
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Sometimes you sit there and you go, how is everyone
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: affording this? And obviously like everyone has different financial situations
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: and scenarios and people can spend their money or save
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: their money however they Please, it's a very individual thing.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: But to compare yourself to another person's situation, like to
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: stop doing that because you're doing a lot better than
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: you think. I think if you're even just saving $ 10
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: a week, you're doing a lot better than you think.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: And that's the easiest way to go from being apathetic
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: about your money to– You're being proactive.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: You're being proactive that even that little bit, that $ 3,
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: you can give yourself that pat on the back for. Absolutely.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Another sign that you're doing better than you think, you've
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: negotiated something.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, love this.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Have a shoot your shot. Yeah.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: So in 2023, only 21.5% of Australians had negotiated their
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: bill in the last 12 months.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Wow. So if you've ever negotiated a bill... Or even
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: like a purchase in a shop. Your salary. Your salary.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Like you are doing more than the average Joe. Do
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: you know what? You know what as well? I think
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: negotiation can feel so uncomfortable, especially for women, because we're
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: so like used to not asking for what we want. Yeah.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: We're so pushed that like when women speak up for
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: what they want or ask for what they want, we're,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: you know, being too demanding. being bossy, being bitchy or
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: being too much that it's like, no, you know, if
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: a man was to do that, he'd be seen as
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: a leader. Or assertive. Assertive and, you know. Good with money.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Good with money and control. But like we get so
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: allergic to it. Yeah. Because it's like, oh, I don't
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: want to. I don't want to ruffle feathers. There's some
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: statistic that it's like majority of women don't ask for
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: a pay rise because they think it'll have negative connotations,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: like it'll have a negative result if they do ask
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: for what they want, which isn't the case. No. I
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: think in most scenarios. Yeah. And it's true, the saying,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: if you don't ask, you won't receive. Closed mouths don't
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: get fed. Precisely. And I never used to negotiate, ever.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: In a job scenario, sure, but never in a shop
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: or with my bills or anything.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I was always like too nervous. you know, didn't want
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: to be seen as greedy or like confrontational or anything
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: And then I realized that these interactions don't have to
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: be a confrontation and it doesn't have to be like
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: a bargaining scenario where I feel like as well, I'm
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: not valuing somebody or a service or a thing for
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: what it's worth. And I think that the most effective
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: thing that I've found is just asking, like, can you
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: do anything better for me?
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: Ooh. And a lot of the time that has resulted
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: in a more competitive price. Yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: So I've done this with my phone bill. I've done
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: it with my health insurance. I did it with a
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: tripod in a store a few weeks ago.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Really? I was like, that's out of my budget. And
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I was like, and I know I can get this
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: online for a better price.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I was like, can you do anything better for me?
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: And she was like, And she knocked off $ 20 off
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: the price.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was like, I.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: Did not think that was going to work. Also, like,
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I always do that when I'm buying, like, white goods
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: as well.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, tech items. Yeah, any, like, tech items, stuff
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: like that. I want it to be, to get to
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: the point that they're like, you shouldn't have got it
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: for that price. And I'm like. Yeah, they're kind of
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: annoyed at themselves. Yeah, I remember what someone once said
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: to me that, like, a good negotiation is that, like,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: no one walks away, like, completely happy. Yeah, yeah, that's right.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I remember that. Yeah, no, that's completely true. But, yeah, like,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: whenever I go to buy, like, a washing machine. Even
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: your gym membership. Yeah, gym membership. Gym membership, that one. Yeah,
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: you did that. Yeah, and I was like, nah. Nah.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Just be a stubborn little wench. Honestly, and because the
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: thing is is that all they can do is say no.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: And you're in the same scenario. Yeah. Than if you
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: didn't ask. That is like the motivator for me for
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: every scenario like that where I'm like, well, just ask
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: because like you're in the same scenario as if you didn't.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: So you literally have nothing to lose.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: It's the scariest thing in the world. Honestly. Yeah, with
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: nothing to lose. Yeah.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: And you're not, the thing is as well is that
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: you're not always going to get like a lower price. Say,
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: for example, if it's a bill or even if it's
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: your salary, you might not necessarily always get like a
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: pay rise, but you might unlock perks that still have.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: Or like a bonus scheme.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that have like a value towards you. So like
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: I've done that before with my phone bill and they're like,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: we'll give you a.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Pair of Beats headphones. And I was like, sick. What?
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they had this like promotion for new customers and
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: I was like, I want that.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: And I was like, well, why don't I get them?
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: And I was like, well, I'll just leave and go
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: somewhere else. I was like, we'll give you the headphones.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: And I was like, yes. And that was something that I–
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: It's probably his. They were his headphones. Just used headphones. Oh,
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: he like got them for Christmas. He's like, here you go.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: But no, I was just like this is an offer
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: available to new customers and I need a new headphone.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: So I was like, how do I get in on this?
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: And then I just like went into the shop and I.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: Was– the thing as well is that like I said
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: before I'd always seen this as a confrontation but instead
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: I'd go in with like a very friendly yeah and
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: being like what can you do for me yeah like
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: rather than being like no that's not good enough yeah
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I'm not paying that that's ridiculous I my strategy is
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: to always go in with honey instead of vinegar and
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: still firmness of course firm but fair and being like
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: oh come on now like Surely you can do something
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: better for me. But I have found that like being
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: friendly about it definitely.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Gets you further. Has gotten me further at least. So yeah,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: that's the thing.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Like if you've ever done that, if you've like negotiated
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: a good happy hour deal or if you've gone into
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: a Harvey Norman and paid with cash and knocked a
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: couple of hundred bucks off your washer dryer, you're doing better.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Than you think. Exactly.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: And if you haven't, start asking queens because you know
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: what it's a lot more expensive for brands to acquire
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: new customers than it is to keep the ones they've
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: got and they have margins in there yeah wiggle room.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: Absolutely yeah that was it okay my next sign that
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: you're doing better than you think is that you read
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: books regularly Mmm. The call's coming from inside the ears. Well, well, well.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm feeling pretty chuffed. This was just like
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: a little gold star for myself, I believe. I just
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: wanted to make myself feel nice. A 2026 study surveyed
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: more than 52,000 people aged 8 to 18 about reading
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: and well-being, and 84.9% of daily readers reported high well-being
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: compared to 71% of those who rarely or never read.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: So obviously that's like a younger study pool, but I
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: think it speaks for itself. Like that those who read
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: more had more happiness, more joy, more confidence and stronger
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: association with wellbeing. And so like 84.3 of confident readers
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: reported high wellbeing compared to 58.2 of those who lacked
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: reading confidence.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: So like, I think reading is one of those things
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: that like, it's really, you're really spending time with yourself.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Like it's not like you're sitting there talking to yourself
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: and your brain being like, and how are you today brain?
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: But it's, you're really spending time alone and with yourself
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: in your own company. And I think that's one of
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: the things that we don't do enough. There was a
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: study that found that 25 to 31% of adults didn't
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: read one book in a year. Wow. So like, I
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: think it's pretty good the fact that we've got up
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: to 75% of adults read at least one book a year.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: But the fact that there's, you know, there's 30% that read, 31%
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: that read zero. I'm like, you're doing better than you think. Yeah, absolutely.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: And obviously with reading, everyone's different, but audio books as
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: well are some of like the easiest ways to read.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: And there's been... Like comparison, there's this narrative a little
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: bit online and I don't know, I see some people
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: say it and they're like, well, that doesn't count. Oh, shush.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: And it actually does. Like there has been a full
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: study undertaken that shows like listening to a book versus
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: reading a book, there is no difference in how it
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: goes through different like pathways in your brain. Like the
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: way that it gets into your brain I believe is
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: different but the result is still the same. So like
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: however you want to do that, however you want to consume,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: that is completely up to you. I think we have
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: this idea that we need to, you know, read these
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: like classics and really very posh books. Or self-help, like
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: something that's productive. Which is fine, like if that's your spiel,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: but we don't necessarily need to read for knowledge and–
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: upskill all the time like I really rarely read a
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: book that I think is for self-betterment or self-improvement I
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: read a book for joy but I think I get
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: more out of that yeah I was.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: Gonna say I think it has a self-betterment impact regardless
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: because even if you're reading like a fantasy book for
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: example right like you probably wouldn't look at that and
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: be like oh.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Like you know I'm gonna learn so much I mean
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I know the difference between a dragon and a wyvern
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: wyvern Whatever that's called. I can't say it because I
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: don't listen to the audiobook. Yeah.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: But I think, but the thing is, is that you're
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: still like challenging yourself. You're like learning how, like you
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: still have to be engaged.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: Like you're being involved in other worlds. You're using your imagination.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: Which are all things that we don't do as we
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: get older. Yeah.
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: It's also proven to reduce anxiety and help you sleep better. Yeah.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Oh my God. So like if you struggle to sleep,
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Reading a chapter of a book knocks me the fuck out.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: It's so good. It's the best. Honestly. Unless it's getting
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: a bit steamy. Then I'm like, one more chapter.
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: Unless you're listening to, like, the Dracula audiobook.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: Oh. Oh. Oh, my God. You slut on. They knew
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: what they were doing with that casting. And also, just as, like,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: a little cherry on top, people think it's, like, one
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: of the hottest habits. That's right. Yeah. People see you
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: as more attractive when you read a book. Not that
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: we're doing anything for everyone else's perception, but hey, it's
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: a lucky bonus. Exactly. I love that page. It's like
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: hot people reading books.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: Same.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I like. Yeah, double tap.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: All day long. All day long. So, yeah, I mean,
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: we've had lots of recommendations on books to read.
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: But we can pop a little bit more in the
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: show notes of some of our favorite books or like
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: a link to a list of yeah if you want
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: to kind of get into reading but you don't know
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: where to start maybe some beginner friendly fiction all.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Right my final sign that you're doing better than you
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: think you know how much you're spending 50 of australians
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: don't know how much they spent on general expenses and
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: discretionary spending in the previous month and this same survey
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: suggests that consumers aren't reviewing spending habits or looking for
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: ways to reduce costs so if you have you know
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: even looked at your subscriptions and been like can I
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: cancel this one do I really use it anymore or
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: you know you've looked at renewing your health insurance and
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: you're like actually I can probably get a better deal
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: or you've been like I'm spending too much money on
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: takeaway I'm going to try and cut back you're doing
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: better than you think And all of these small things
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: and just having more visibility over where your.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: Money is actually going. Like most people don't know that.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: I think if you ask the average person how much
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: do you make in a year, they would be able
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: to tell you.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Yes, but how much do you spend in a year?
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I don't think... NFI. Yeah, I don't think people would know.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: So if you ever do look at your bank account
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: and you're looking at where your money is going and you...
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: are looking for ways to save money like you were
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: doing better than you think and the interesting thing as
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: well is that this stat was consistent across genders and
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: age groups so it's like a very common blind spot
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: that a lot of.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: People have i love that yeah okay my final one
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: is you can admit that you're wrong and change your
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: mind oh this one i was like yep into it.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: That's a toughie. So it's called intellectual humility and it's
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: the ability to recognize that your knowledge and beliefs may
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: be incomplete or incorrect, which I think the incomplete part
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: is like a nice part of that thought because you
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: don't know everything.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: And also your experiences like drive your beliefs and your
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: habits and you may not have had the same experiences
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: as other people. Yeah. So like having that openness to
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: understand is like, such a skill that if you can
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: do that, you're doing a lot better than you think.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: A 2017 study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: examined intellectual humility across four studies, and the researchers found
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: that people with greater intellectual humility tended to demonstrate more curiosity,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: openness to new ideas, and a tolerance for uncertainty, which
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: we speak a lot about on this show, like normalizing saying,
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Well, I don't know about that. I'm not sure. Tell
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: me more. They were also less dogmatic. I don't know
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: what that means. Let's do a live Google. Dogmatic. Oh, okay.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: So dogmatic is an adjective used for people or groups
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: or statements that strongly assert personal opinions, beliefs or rules
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: as unchallengeable facts. So if you have like an opinion
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: on something, you're like, no, no, no, there's no other.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: option those people who it's like it's their way or
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: the highway exactly so it means like they're less likely
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: to treat their existing beliefs as unquestionable truths it's also
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: goes into like your cognitive flexibility which is essentially like
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  Speaker 1: your ability to change your mind with new information yeah
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  Speaker 1: which we often talk about as well like we're like
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  Speaker 1: it's okay to change your mind it's okay to not
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  Speaker 1: like something as much anymore it's okay to you know
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  Speaker 1: as you get older or as you use something more
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  Speaker 1: or have more knowledge or understanding or you're more exposed
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  Speaker 1: to something to be like okay do you know what
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel as strongly as I do about this
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  Speaker 1: opinion as I once did or I no longer really
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  Speaker 1: engage with that kind of thing it's not for me
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  Speaker 1: anymore yeah and like that's okay yeah and I also
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  Speaker 1: think being able to just say like yeah that was
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  Speaker 1: for me once it's not for me anymore and have
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  Speaker 1: an openness to understand like other perspectives is such a
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  Speaker 1: skill Yeah, absolutely. Well, that's how you grow.
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  Speaker 2: And also, like you were saying, the fear that comes
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  Speaker 2: with that or the insecurity that comes with that is
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  Speaker 2: either looking like a hypocrite or maybe getting something wrong.
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  Speaker 2: But if you have that attitude of like, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know the answer or never say never or I changed
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  Speaker 2: my mind, then you already have like you're already on
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  Speaker 2: the right foot if you do change your mind.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, well, people know that about you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And people aren't going to be like, well, remember you
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  Speaker 2: said blah, blah, blah, you always believe this.
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  Speaker 1: But also like you can be like, yeah, I did.
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  Speaker 1: I did. And I don't anymore. I don't anymore. And
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  Speaker 1: this is why. We don't even necessarily always owe people
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  Speaker 1: an explanation. I don't think that's like a hard and
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  Speaker 1: fast rule. Like I think obviously some things will probably
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  Speaker 1: need conversations and explanations here and there, especially like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if you're changing your mind on something important, you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's always like that topic of conversation of like, whether
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  Speaker 1: or not you want to have kids like that's the
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  Speaker 1: thing that I think people can change their mind on
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  Speaker 1: so often and that's such an important thing to feel
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  Speaker 1: like you're making the right decision that there's nothing wrong
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  Speaker 1: with having different perspectives there's like my favorite quote from
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  Speaker 1: Ted Lasso um where he like references Walt Whitman and
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  Speaker 1: it's like be curious not judgmental love that and I
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  Speaker 1: think that's something that I'd really try to like lean
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  Speaker 1: into more is even if something's not for me even
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  Speaker 1: if I wouldn't do something that way it's like It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Yeah. Like if it's not hurting anybody. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Then who cares?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: If someone wants to do whatever with their life. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And just being able to like have a conversation with
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  Speaker 1: someone and be like, oh, okay, yeah, no, I'm wrong.
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  Speaker 1: I am wrong all the time. The amount of times
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, blah, blah, blah. Like even if I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're leaving to go to Melbourne on the 20th and
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: you're like, no, it's this day. And I'm like, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: I swear it's this day. And you're like, no, it's
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  Speaker 1: this day. I'm like, oh, shit, sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like the stubbornness is like obviously back yourself, but I
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: think stubbornness can sometimes be the thorn in your foot
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  Speaker 1: that you don't know is there. Yeah, totally. And you're like,
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  Speaker 1: why does my foot hurt? And I'm like, it's because
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  Speaker 1: you got the thorn. Because I couldn't admit I was wrong. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And like being able to just say sorry and like
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  Speaker 1: be like my bad. Sorry, Ben. Yeah. Like it just
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  Speaker 1: gets you a lot further in life than being like, nope,
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  Speaker 1: My way or the highway. Yeah, totally.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And it's more, you have more fun. Yeah. Like if
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: you're on holidays and you're like, yeah, let's just go.
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  Speaker 1: And rather than being like, no, this is the way
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  Speaker 1: and it's got to be 100%. You're like, what? Yeah, totally.
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Totally.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: So we get into our chick submissions to wrap the air.
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  Speaker 1: Let's do a quick fire. There's one that I really love.
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  Speaker 1: That's a sign that you're doing better than you think.
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  Speaker 1: And it's that people seek your advice, which I think
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  Speaker 1: is such- An amazing one and definitely something we wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: realize or we would overlook because like someone coming to
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  Speaker 1: you for advice or seeking your advice shows you that
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  Speaker 1: they think you're wise, that you have like information to
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  Speaker 1: share that they rely on and value, which I'm like that,
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I never thought of that. No, that is really good.
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  Speaker 1: I love that one. Yeah, I really like that too.
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  Speaker 1: You're excited for life even when things get stressful.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: The ability to bounce back is there. Yes, it's kind
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: of like what you were talking about in Monthly Favourites,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: just talking about that like, yeah, noticing the good days.
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  Speaker 1: There's a viral video online and it's like the best
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  Speaker 1: skill you can have is being able to be in
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  Speaker 1: a good mood. Yeah, fuck. And like put yourself in
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: a good mood. Yeah. And I'd love to do like
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: a whole episode on that because it's so easy to
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: get like dragged down and be like, well, today's shit,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: hate everything, boo, boo, boo. I'm like, yeah. Another one,
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: you start getting eight plus hours of sleep. One thousand percent,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: especially as we get older, we don't prioritize our sleep
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  Speaker 1: as much that if you're getting eight hours, even if
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: you're getting seven hours, I'm like, you're doing so much
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  Speaker 1: better than you think. If you're not revenge bed timing,
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  Speaker 1: good girl. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: It's a slippery slope. And then last one. One. Last one.
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  Speaker 1: Last one.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to paraphrase a couple that were sent in,
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  Speaker 2: but having a goal or going for your dream.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. You wholesome chickies. I like that
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  Speaker 1: kind of stuff. God love you. Well, that is a
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: wrap for today's episode of Two Broke Cheeks. Feel free
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: to tell us in the comments what is some of
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: your signs you're doing better than you think and give
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: yourself a little pep talk. Yeah, pat on the back, chicks.
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  Speaker 1: Fairy claps for all. Thanks for having us in the
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  Speaker 1: ear holes. We love to be here.
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  Speaker 2: Bye.
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  Speaker 3: Bye.