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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk - Listen If You’re Comparing Yourself...Again! · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey you, welcome to the 5-Minute Pocket Pip Talk with Nadia Chapman.
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  If you are here right now, I want you to pause for a second.
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  Seriously, stop scrolling, stop overthinking, stop spiraling.
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  I just want you to take a deep breath. If you click on this,
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  I know exactly what's going on.
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  Maybe you saw something, maybe you saw someone, and it sent your brain straight
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  into that nasty place again. Why are they doing better than me?
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  Why don't I have this yet?
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  Why them? Not me. Am I good enough? And now you're stuck in your head,
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  shrinking yourself again and doubting everything that you've worked for.
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  I want this episode to be your reset button. And this is the moment that you
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  really, truly pull yourself out of the noise and get back into your own lane.
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  And this pep talk isn't about making you feel better just for five minutes.
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  It's really about waking you up to who you are and while you're still in this.
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  Okay? Now, do you know what comparison really is?
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  Comparation is misplaced attention. I'm going to tell you why.
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  It's your brain looking outward for validation instead of inward for direction.
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  And if every time you give your power away like that, it chips away at your
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  confidence again and again.
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  You're not here to chase their life, their timeline, their identity.
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  You're here to build your own. and that takes time and it takes guts and focus and commitment.
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  Let's be honest for a second. Do you know that you only see a lot of people's
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  win and when everything is perfect in their post, their perfect jump, other perfect results,
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  other perfect house, other perfect business, what you don't see is the ugly
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  part that they edited out.
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  You know, that panic, the pressure, the years of hard work, the quiet work,
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  everything behind the scene.
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  So you compare anyway, knowing that you only see a certain percentage of it.
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  You only see the good and the pretty and the glitter.
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  And then you judge yourself based on that illusion. So that's not fair to you.
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  And it's not productive either.
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  So here's what I want you to hear. You can admire somebody without questioning your own worth.
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  Isn't that amazing? Yeah, you can cheer for them and cheer them on without making
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  it mean something negative about you and where you're at.
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  In fact, let it show you what's possible.
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  Because if it happens to somebody else, it's proof that it can happen to you too.
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  Different path, different pace, but same possibility.
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  So I want you to break the pattern and I'm going to give you some steps here to do so.
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  The first step is to call it what it is. So say it. I'm comparing myself right
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  now. I'm stuck in someone else's lane.
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  Don't shame it. Just name it. That's your step one.
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  Name it. Number two, get grounded in your own journey.
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  So ask yourself, what am I actually working towards?
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  What's one thing that I've done lately that I'm proud of?
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  What can I control right now? And what it does is that that brings the focus back home, back to you.
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  Because when you're grounded in your own purpose, you're not easily distracted
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  by everyone else's highlight reel. Okay?
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  Number three, use it as an insight, not ammunition.
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  If someone else's success hurts you or stings a little, that's not a problem.
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  Okay? Take it as data. It's showing you something that really matters to you.
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  Now, turn that into action.
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  What small move can I make towards my goal today?
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  And let other people's win inspire you. That's a big power move.
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  Number four, stay in your lane and run it. And by that, I mean,
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  you weren't meant to do this like everybody else around you.
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  So comparison dilutes your magic. And it makes you second guess things that
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  were working fine really five minutes ago. So let's get back to clarity.
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  Let's get back to the truth, okay? You're building something meaningful and
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  that takes time. That's the truth. It takes courage and it takes focus.
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  You don't need to prove yourself by being louder. You don't need to chase what's
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  not yours and you don't need to wait for someone to clap for you before you
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  believe you're on the right track. You're not behind.
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  You're not late. You're not missing your moment. You are the moment.
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  You just forgot it for a second. So the next time that you catch yourself comparing again, say it out loud.
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  Say, that's not my race. I'm building something different. That's not my win,
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  but mine is still coming.
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  So just learn to trust the pace and protect your energy.
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  Run your own damn race, okay?
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  Because the world doesn't need another version of them. It needs the full version of you.
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  This was your five-minute pocket pip talk, and I want you to come back to this
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  anytime you feel the scroll is stealing your joy.
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  I'll be right here to remind you how awesome you are and what truly matters
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  the most, which is you. Thanks for listening.