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Do Narcissists Really Believe That They Are The Victims? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Is going on beautiful people today we're going to be talking
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  about how narcissist or do narcissist really truly believe
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  that they are the victims. Do do they really?
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  Truly believe in their heart of hearts.
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  In their mind of. Minds that they are the victim
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  somehow? Or are they just making it up?
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  Are they trying to gaslight you and confuse you?
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  If y'all new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the narcissist code y'all. Yes.
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  So first of all, this is my kids book right here.
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  It's kind of crazy the rankings of my kids book.
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  It's amazing. I love it.
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  But yeah, y'all, I'll be the 1st to tell you that there as a
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  diagnosed narcissist myself, that there are actually some
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  narcissists, some toxic people out there that truly believe
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  that they are the victims. Like they're, I'm just telling
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  you I'm, I'm, you know, I'm just telling you that they are some
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  narcissists who truly honestly believe that they are somehow
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  the victim in whatever situation is presented to them, whatever
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  situation is presented to them, they truly believe that they are
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  the victim somehow. It's crazy how that works.
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  And I say that to a lot of people.
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  I say this to a lot of people because a lot of people don't
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  get it right. A lot of people don't seem to
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  understand it. And I also, you know, I realized
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  that, but in the mind of a narcissist, for those that do
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  believe that they are the victims in the mind of a
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  narcissist, y'all know, I close my eyes when I go into the
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  narcissistic part of my mind. It's kind of like digging deep
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  into my mind, into my psyche to let y'all know, to get you out
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  of heat. In the mind of a narcissist that
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  truly believes that they are the victim, they walk around all day
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  as the victim. Like there is not a moment it
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  there's not a moment in the day of that narcissistic person that
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  they don't believe that they are the victim.
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  They like they don't believe that the world is out to get
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  them, that they don't walk around feeling entitled to
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  whatever it is in the world. I'm just, yeah, I'm being real
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  too. There's not a moment that that
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  narcissistic person is just like, you know what?
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  I'm not the victim. I'm actually the aggressor.
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  I'm actually responsible for my own life.
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  I'm actually responsible for my own healing.
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  I'm actually responsible for this, for that.
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  And like they believe it. Yeah, let's keep.
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  I keep it. Yeah, I try to keep it hot and I
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  try to keep it ready, like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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  But they walk around truly believing that they are the
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  victims. And if you walk around all day
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  believing that you are the victim, steeped in victimhood,
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  steeped in the victim mindset even.
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  Though. You are the abuser.
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  It's hard as hell for anybody to convince you otherwise.
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  That's why I truly believe that narcissist.
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  My people were asking me can narcissist change right that can
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  narcissist change? I truly believe that the
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  narcissist that are that are steeped the deep, the steeped
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  the most deeply in victimhood or going to have the hardest time,
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  hardest time of changing any of their behaviors.
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  And that's just me being real. Like the deeper into victimhood
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  that they are, it's hard as hell for them to change their
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  behaviors, especially if they get benefits, if they get
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  there's benefits to being a victim.
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  Let's be real. There's benefits to being a as a
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  narcissist. There's benefits to plan the
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  victim. I get people on my side.
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  I get narcissistic supply. I can run a successful smear
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  campaign based on lies. Like I can literally tell
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  everybody that you did to me what I actually did to you.
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  And because I'm the victim here, they believe me.
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  Because I got to them first, they believe me.
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  Some people won't believe them, but some people will believe me,
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  right, because I'm the victim here.
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  I get, I decided to be vulnerable and tell you what I
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  was going through. I decided to be vulnerable and
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  explain to you what I was experiencing when I didn't have
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  to and I didn't have to do this right.
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  So I that's what that's why I tell people if they are playing
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  the victim and you give the y'all and this is not me victim
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  blaming. If you give them a reaction,
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  like seriously, if you give them any type of reaction to their
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  abuse, like if you, if you, if they catch you on camera, if
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  they catch you on recording, just reacting to what they have
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  done to you, it allows them to be further steeped in victimhood
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  because they can go tell their friends and family members that
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  hey, look, look what happened to me.
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  I told you I was the victim. I told you that they were the
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  aggressor. I told you that I didn't do
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  anything wrong. Look at me.
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  Being the victim here and some of them will absolutely believe
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  that they are the victim because now if I have a recordings, if I
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  have documentation of you being abusive to me, abusive to me,
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  reactive, abusive, but abusive like to me and other people
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  validate that, guess what? Now I really feel like the
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  victim even further look. What I'm going through, fellas.
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  Hey girls, look what I'm going through.
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  Even though you did something to them to set them off, nobody
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  knows that, right? Because you are planned the
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  victim. Because you're steeped in
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  victimhood. I'm telling you, This is why
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  y'all I'll be preaching. I sound like a broken record.
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  I sound like AI really do sound like a broken record.
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  Don't give them your reactions. Control your reactions.
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  Control your reaction. Control your reaction.
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  Control your reactions. Because I have to, because I
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  need to let y'all know how important it is to control those
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  damn reactions. Because if you don't, I'm
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  telling you, you're going to get taken advantage of.
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  The the narcissistic person is going to be extremely abusive
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  towards you. They're going to be extremely
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  manipulative towards you, and they're going to use you and
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  abuse you and just try to discard you at all costs.
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  This is why it's so important to get control of your reactions
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  because narcissists, they are steeped in victimhood, are going
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  to use. Any and everything.
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  Against you, any and everything to prove that they are the
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  victims. It's hard as hell to fight
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  somebody that is steeped in victimhood and has evidence of
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  the abuse. Oh lordy Lord the balloons.
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  Evidence of the abuse. So This is why I tell people you
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  again, control those reactions because narcissistic people,
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  they'd be playing the victim since they were kids they didn't
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  like. So could they have been victims
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  as children? Absolutely, yes.
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  So that could be true, right? But once they are growing up,
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  they don't grow out of their of being victims because they
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  don't, they don't, they don't seek therapy.
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  They don't seek help in in in in our actuality.
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  They seek out more interpersonal relationships a lot of times and
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  take that victimhood, that victim mindset out on other
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  people. This is why again, it's so
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  important for y'all to just not allow them to be abusive and
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  manipulative towards you and then react to it.
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  I'm not saying don't defend yourself, I'm saying don't give
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  them that huge over the top reaction that they they might be
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  looking for because some of them might try to set you off on
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  purpose. You know what I mean?
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  Some of them might absolutely try to set you.
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  Off on purpose. Because there's a benefit in it
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  for them, like your reactions give them some type of weird
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  power dynamic. The way you react gives them
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  some type of weird strength. They feel better and it's about
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  the situation a lot of times. So you have to control those
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  Dang gone reactions you. Do.
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  So on the other side of the coin, y'all, there are some
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  narcissists out there. They absolutely know that they
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  are not the victim like the ones that believe they are.
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  They are the victim are delusional as hell y'all.
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  Unless, I'll say it when they when they get so steeped in
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  victimhood and delusions, it's hard to bring them out of there.
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  Like the delusions, their delusions become their comfort
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  zone, their delusions become their delusions of being the
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  victim become their way of life, become their way of living.
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  Like look at the political spectrum in, in, in the, in the
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  United States, the narcissistic people are absolutely planned
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  the victim, even though they they, they hurting, harming
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  people. I'm the victim here.
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  I'm still the. Victim.
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  That's crazy. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's insane. But I digress.
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  There are some narcissists, narcissistic people, toxic
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  people, abusive people that absolutely know that they are
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  not the victims. They know that they are abusive.
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  They want you to hide. You see what I'm saying?
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  They want you to hide the stuff that you are doing to them.
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  You see what I'm saying? They absolutely want you to hide
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  the stuff that they are, that they are doing to you, that they
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  are doing to you. They want you to hide it.
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  They don't want you to talk about it.
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  They might try to gaslight your ass and try to make you seem
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  like they are the victims, but. They know yo.
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  They'll tell you that look, most people on this earth know that
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  cheating is wrong, right? They know that cheating is
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  absolutely wrong. They know it, right?
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  Yeah, that they know that cheating is absolutely wrong as
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  hell. Seriously.
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  But somehow they'll just. I know I cheated but but
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  remember I got remember what happened to me as a child.
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  I can't help but clap cheeks. I just want to clap everybody's
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  cheeks and it's not my fault I got rejected in high school.
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  My high school part of my high school crush broke my heart and
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  ever since then I've been wanting to cheat.
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  I'll be wanting to cheat on them, so I cheat on you instead.
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  You see how I'm the victim too? I'm hurting too.
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  Narcissistic people that know and believe that they are that
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  they, they know that they are not the victim.
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  They'll try to look, they'll they know that you are the
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  victim. They'll try to rationalize and,
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  and mirror you right. They'll tell you, They'll say.
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  I know you're. Hurting.
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  But I'm hurting too, damn it. I'm hurting more.
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  I know I broke up with you and left you for someone else, but
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  I'm hurting more than you're hurting.
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  I promise you that. I promise that I'm hurting way
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  more than you are. You don't think it hurt me?
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  To clap cheeks. With somebody else and then have
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  a baby with somebody else while I'm married to you.
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  You don't think that hurt me? You don't think the pain that
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  you're in doesn't make me feel even more pain?
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  Yeah. They know that they are doing
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  wrong. I promise you, it might not seem
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  like it based on some of the stuff and the things they say
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  and how they behave, right? But they know that they are
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  doing you wrong. They know that they have done
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  you wrong. That's the type of stuff that'd
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  be happening, right? I tell people all the time, this
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  is the mentality. I want you to understand that,
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  that some narcissistic people absolutely do believe that they
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  are the victims and they, they can be very dangerous.
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  Do y'all, They can be dangerous. The ones that are steeped in
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  delusions can be very dangerous. They'll try to ruin your life.
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  They'll try to hurt you and harm you, right?
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  They'll try to hurt you and harm you and do a lot of damage to
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  you, right? But again, there are a lot of
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  other narcissistic people out here who just know that they're
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  not the victim. They know that you, they, they
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  know that you are the victim. They know that they've done
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  wrong, but they don't want to admit to it.
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  They want to avoid accountability.
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  So they will try to play the victim in that instance.
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  They will tell you that they are the victim.
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  They will. Tell you how.
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  Equal and opposite. Their pain is I hurt you.
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  I'm hurting them, you know? So in conclusion, some believe
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  they are, some don't. It really just depends.
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  Either way, they've done you wrong right?
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