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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Stop Worrying About Being 'Good Enough' · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily Abadi here bringing you another installment of
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday this week.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a week.
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  Speaker 1: Why do I keep saying that once Friday rolls around,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be completely transparent with you. I'm definitely
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  Speaker 1: recording this later than I would like to be. Things
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  Speaker 1: have been seemingly non stop and taxing and a lot.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: I recorded the Hurdle session this week talking about how
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  Speaker 1: to build a social media presence, and at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the session, one of the participants, she said, when
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  Speaker 1: I asked about their biggest takeaways, she shared, I guess
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  Speaker 1: I never realized how much of a responsibility it really
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  Speaker 1: is to cultivate community and show up for community. And
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  Speaker 1: that's really how I feel on weeks like this week,
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  Speaker 1: weeks when there's tough stuff going on in the news cycle,
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  Speaker 1: I know that the people that I care about, my
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  Speaker 1: community here on Hurdle, you guys, are feeling some kind
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  Speaker 1: of way.
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  Speaker 2: I want to show up for you.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard when I don't have all of the right
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  Speaker 1: things to say, and so all I guess I am
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  Speaker 1: saying by putting all this out into the universe is
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  Speaker 1: that I hear you. I want to create space for you.
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  Speaker 1: I will continue to do it in the best way
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  Speaker 1: that I know possible. And if there is ever anything
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  Speaker 1: that I can do for you, any way that I
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  Speaker 1: can help you, I promise that I will do my
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  Speaker 1: best to do that. Of course, if you need me,
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  Speaker 1: Evadi at Hurdle podcast and via email at Emily at
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  Speaker 1: percent off today. I want to focus on something that
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  Speaker 1: brings me a lot of joy. I know I've mentioned
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  Speaker 1: here on the show before that I go to track
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  Speaker 1: practice on Tuesdays, which is kind of funny when I
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  Speaker 1: really think about it, only because Emily back in high school,
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  Speaker 1: Emily back in two thousand and three, she didn't make
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  Speaker 1: the JV volleyball team because she couldn't run a mile
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  Speaker 1: in under ten minutes. So if at the time you
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  Speaker 1: were to tell her that one day she would quote
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  Speaker 1: unquote belong to a track team, she would think you
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  Speaker 1: were absolutely nuts. I mean, in high school, I was
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  Speaker 1: in the musicals. I was in a Jewish youth group. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's an understatement. I was the president of my region
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  Speaker 1: for the Jewish youth group. Yeah, I was not a runner.
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  Speaker 1: But back to the present, I will start with this.
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  Speaker 1: I was really really hesitant to join the track club.
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  Speaker 1: There was a lot of lingering doubt. I've been a
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  Speaker 1: runner for quite some time now, over ten years, and
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  Speaker 1: over the years I've done a lot of that alone.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't until about the last two or three years
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  Speaker 1: of living in New York City, which is filled with
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  Speaker 1: so many runners in such a vibrant running community, that
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  Speaker 1: I even kind of opened myself up to the idea
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  Speaker 1: of really running with people that I didn't know. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's a phrase that sounds so weird and wake of
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  Speaker 1: what's going on in the world today. But I was
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  Speaker 1: hesitant to join this track club because I was scared
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  Speaker 1: to run with other people, because I was insecure about
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  Speaker 1: not being quote unquote good enough, and I was also
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  Speaker 1: nervous about maybe not fitting in, knowing that from my
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  Speaker 1: knowledge of the community, there were definitely some, you know,
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  Speaker 1: really great friend groups and great people that were around,
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  Speaker 1: but these were all pre existing relationships that I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: really a part of. With some encouragement from the friends
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  Speaker 1: that I had made, which happened to be a part
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  Speaker 1: of this track club of the running community. I literally
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  Speaker 1: decided to pay my dues and join, and things were
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  Speaker 1: definitely a little rough at first, you know. I joined
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  Speaker 1: for the twenty twenty year, and twenty twenty has been
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  Speaker 1: an interesting time to join a quote unquote team sport
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  Speaker 1: of sorts, and so practices weren't happening as they were
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  Speaker 1: supposed to. And finally recently things kind of got back
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  Speaker 1: into a routine, of course, in a safe and socially
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  Speaker 1: distant way, and we're all wearing masks and all this stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But track practice on Tuesdays has become one one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorite things. And it's interesting because the doubts that
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  Speaker 1: I had back at the end of twenty nineteen before
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  Speaker 1: I paid my dues and I was like, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to do this, I don't feel those anymore.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited for this. I feel strong when I'm at
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  Speaker 1: the track, I feel amped. I feel like Tuesday is
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  Speaker 1: my favorite day of the week. And I've got this
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  Speaker 1: whole routine that surrounds Tuesdays. I wake up at five forty,
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  Speaker 1: I journal, I drink an espresso, I take my bike
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  Speaker 1: off of the wall, and I ride downtown from Point
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  Speaker 1: A to Point b and I run with my small
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  Speaker 1: group which is like four to six people, and again
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  Speaker 1: we all wear our masks and we push each other,
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  Speaker 1: and it just I like exhale thinking about this because
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  Speaker 1: at the track, like all of the other stuff, it
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  Speaker 1: just feels like it doesn't matter. It feels like we
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  Speaker 1: can focus on the task at hand.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, let me rephrase that a little bit. Other things
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  Speaker 1: matter at the track, but the track is my opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to focus.
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  Speaker 2: On the run. That's better.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, there I can let go of things at
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  Speaker 1: least for just a little bit, and use my frustrations
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  Speaker 1: to my advantage and throw myself into the work and
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  Speaker 1: just be.
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  Speaker 2: At the track.
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  Speaker 1: I show up in the moment and I try really hard,
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  Speaker 1: and I always go back to this saying that I
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  Speaker 1: say to myself all the time. It's that all it
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  Speaker 1: takes is all you've got. And there are definitely, week
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  Speaker 1: after week there are reps that I'm just like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if I can do this anymore, But week
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  Speaker 1: after week I show myself and I prove to myself
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  Speaker 1: time and time again.
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  Speaker 2: That I can, And man, that's invigorating.
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  Speaker 1: Last week, after practice, I went to the place that
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  Speaker 1: I usually go to to have a banana peanut butter
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  Speaker 1: cacao nib muffin that's fresh baked, it's just as good
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  Speaker 1: as it sounds, and hot coffee, and I sit there
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  Speaker 1: and I enjoy it and I just take some time.
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  Speaker 1: And so last week I was sitting there thinking about
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  Speaker 1: my routine and thinking about how crazy it is that
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  Speaker 1: I almost stood in my own way to just have
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  Speaker 1: this thing in my life that I now appreciate so much,
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  Speaker 1: And like, how many things are there in our lives
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  Speaker 1: that we almost prevent ourselves from taking advantage of or
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  Speaker 1: going after, just because maybe we are scared, we're unsure,
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  Speaker 1: we don't feel comfortable about this idea of the unknown.
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  Speaker 2: I think about like how I would feel.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I obviously wouldn't know exactly what I'm missing
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  Speaker 1: out on, but how much it would suck to miss
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  Speaker 1: out on this experience, this community, the endorphins, the camaraderie,
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  Speaker 1: the confidence, like all of this goodness, the belief that
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  Speaker 1: I myself am good as I am and that I
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  Speaker 1: can do hard things. And so I'm proud of myself
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  Speaker 1: for giving this a go, for continuing to show up,
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  Speaker 1: for being willing to put myself out there. And just
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  Speaker 1: knowing that I I'm enough. So my prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, when was the last time you had to
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  Speaker 1: give yourself a pep talk to do something? And how
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  Speaker 1: did it go? Again, when was the last time you
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  Speaker 1: had to give yourself a pep talk to do something?
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  Speaker 1: And how did it go? Highlights of the week. All
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  Speaker 1: of the details to this stuff will be found in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes, including links and such. Watch The Atlantic
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  Speaker 1: of as silly as it sounds. I tbh listen to
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  Speaker 1: John Mayer Radio on Pandora way more than I should
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  Speaker 1: admit in a public forum. I just I've always loved
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  Speaker 1: John Mayer. He's from Fairfield County, Connecticut. I'm from Fairfield County, Connecticut.
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  Speaker 1: as a singer but also a songwriter and as a performer,
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  Speaker 1: a guitarist, etc. And I just love his like wit
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  Speaker 1: and sarcasm and just overall being. And so in this video,
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  Speaker 1: they literally like PLoP John Mayer in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: the woods and it's hilarious and it's just it's just
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  Speaker 1: worth the watch. Read what your favorite teen heart throbs
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  Speaker 1: when you get older, is it that these men actually
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  Speaker 1: a vibe. I would suggest, from a track perspective, start
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  Speaker 1: with the King's Rant Passport and to Dow and let
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  Speaker 1: me know what you think. Also, if you're not subscribed
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  Speaker 1: different active wear and gear suggestions per the requests that
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting the most in my direct messages over on Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: This week, I'm chatting fall cycling gear. Just because it's
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  Speaker 1: getting a little chillier outside doesn't mean you have to
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  Speaker 1: get off the bike. I'm offering up the items that
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  Speaker 2: Right now, and I know I have a hunch.
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  Speaker 1: I think I know you guys well enough that you're
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  Speaker 2: And that's it for this week.
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  Speaker 1: Short and sweet as always at Emily a Body at
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast, another Hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch y'all next time, h