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Asking Permission · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, do
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  Speaker 1: you think young men should have to ask their girlfriend's
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  Speaker 1: father before asking her to marry him.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Alma mama, she said.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now we're American mama's turn Edeville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlason. Oh, this is the mama segment. All right,
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  Speaker 1: So what do y'all think about this subject?
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  Speaker 3: You know what? This is a this is interesting. This
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  Speaker 3: is a conversation that I've had with a friend. So
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  Speaker 3: I hope that Shane's boyfriend's not listening to this, but
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  Speaker 3: she has told me that he is afraid, like he's
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  Speaker 3: going to he wants to ask my husband, but he's nervous.
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  Speaker 3: And I immediately said, well he shouldn't because your dad
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  Speaker 3: didn't do that with my dad, and he better make
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  Speaker 3: him feel just right at home. And this is a
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  Speaker 3: blessing in my girlfriend. I was telling her today and
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  Speaker 3: she said, stay out of it. She said, let this
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  Speaker 3: be a moment for your husband and this boy. Let
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  Speaker 3: it be their moments. Try do not try to control this.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, you're so right, that's so right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: so so right. But there is that part of me
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  Speaker 3: that's like, Michael, you better be so sweet and so
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  Speaker 3: lovely because you did not do that. But my husband's
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  Speaker 3: from Montana, and he's like, I'm like, what that means
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  Speaker 3: nothing to me. He's like, it's a southern thing. I said, no,
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  Speaker 3: it's not. It's not. I don't believe it's a southern thing.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know, it's so funny because I wanted Kevin
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  Speaker 4: didn't either. Wait, Kevin did not talk to Dad. No,
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  Speaker 4: And that was the first thing I asked him was
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  Speaker 4: did you ask my dad? So so that was one
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  Speaker 4: of those.
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  Speaker 1: So he asked you to marry him, and your first
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  Speaker 1: question was did you ask me?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: And then I was like, did you ask dad? Because
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  Speaker 4: that was important to me. He was like, no, I didn't,
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  Speaker 4: and I kind of, you know, Dad helped me get out.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, it's okay, you know. But that was one
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  Speaker 4: of those little things. But how important it became when
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  Speaker 4: Summer's husband. It was very important for Kevin. But here's
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  Speaker 4: what's interesting about that whole thing. So Philip set the
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  Speaker 4: date and they were gonna come over the house. I
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  Speaker 4: was gonna be gone. I was out of toown I
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  Speaker 4: think I was with you, and they had it all.
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  Speaker 4: You know, Kevin was gonna cook steak, they were going
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  Speaker 4: to talk and he was there for a long time.
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  Speaker 4: And when he told me about the conversation, I was like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my gosh, you were so hard on him, because
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  Speaker 4: he's like, where you get you know, where you're gonna
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  Speaker 4: be in five years?
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  Speaker 2: How are you?
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  Speaker 4: You know, all those questions about you're gonna take it now,
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  Speaker 4: you're it's your turn, what are you gonna do if
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  Speaker 4: this happens? What are you? You know, just really make
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  Speaker 4: it hard on him. I will never forget. So we
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  Speaker 4: were at the wedding and I was talking to one
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  Speaker 4: of our good friends, Jeff Thompson. So Jeff and Tony
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  Speaker 4: came to the wedding and I said.
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  Speaker 1: Jeff, he was so hard.
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  Speaker 4: He was so hard on Philip. And he said, Terry, hey, hey, listen,
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  Speaker 4: you want that this is one of those times he
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  Speaker 4: is giving handing over his daughter, his precious little princess.
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  Speaker 4: So anything, any question is fair game. And I'm sure
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  Speaker 4: Philip did a great job of answering all the questions.
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  Speaker 4: And if he loves some or that much and he
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  Speaker 4: wants to take that on for the rest of his life,
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  Speaker 4: he'll appreciate it even more when it sissed her, and
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  Speaker 4: I thought, I'll never look at that the same agen.
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  Speaker 4: I know. I was so grateful to Jeff because, like
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  Speaker 4: I need, I told Tony his wife, I went to
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  Speaker 4: his daughter's shower and I told her about this, and
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  Speaker 4: and she was, she was, It's so true, she said.
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  Speaker 4: Lily's fiance talked to Jeff and it's their time. Man
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  Speaker 4: and man about what your you know, your intentions?
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  Speaker 1: What are you signing up for?
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  Speaker 2: You?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, you know. I was telling Lewis a while
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  Speaker 1: back that he was like, you know, you do anything
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  Speaker 1: for your kids. I'm like, no, I wouldn't do anything
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  Speaker 1: for my kids. I would do anything for my wife.
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  Speaker 1: But I've already I've told my kids, no, she's number one,
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  Speaker 1: and I want my son when it's time for his wife,
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  Speaker 1: that she has to be number one and for my daughter,
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  Speaker 1: whoever marries her, my daughter better be number one in
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  Speaker 1: their life. Absolutely, and that that part of that conversation,
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  Speaker 1: you know. Yes, Okay, I'm gonna give you a little
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  Speaker 1: backstory here if y'all don't mind it. Before I asked
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  Speaker 1: Wendy to marry me, I wrote a letter to her father. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I had to write the letter to her father because
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  Speaker 1: he was in prison. But I sent him a letter
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  Speaker 1: asking for permission to marry his daughter to a man
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  Speaker 1: who had been convicted of a pretty heinous crime and
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  Speaker 1: was sitting in jail. Now, if I could show that
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  Speaker 1: much respect to a man who actually didn't even bother
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  Speaker 1: to raise her. But I did it because of respect
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  Speaker 1: and because of honor and fond he did. And he
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  Speaker 1: wrote back and he said, I'm in no position to
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  Speaker 1: give my permission, but I certainly give my blessing. And
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  Speaker 1: it was I think it was the most honorable thing
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  Speaker 1: that he ever did, because he didn't fully reform after
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  Speaker 1: he got out of prison. But that if I did that,
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  Speaker 1: my son better well do that when it's his time
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  Speaker 1: to ask. And whoever wants to marry my daughter, I've
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  Speaker 1: set kind of a high bar of what I expect
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  Speaker 1: respect to be. But if you can't respect me, you
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  Speaker 1: won't respect her, especially when times are tough, right, true,
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  Speaker 1: And so that's that's why I think that this is
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  Speaker 1: this is such an important thing.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, and I don't think coach your son. Would you
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  Speaker 3: coach him and what to say? Or do you just
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  Speaker 3: are you just gonna let him?
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, you better man up and go talk to
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  Speaker 1: her dad. That's that's the coaching. You will respect her
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  Speaker 1: father and before you ask her for her hand, you
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  Speaker 1: will talk to her father. Period. This is non negotiable.
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  Speaker 1: But see one of the great things my son did fencing,
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  Speaker 1: and his fencing instructor one time gave him a sticker.
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  Speaker 1: It says death before dishonor, and my son has it
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  Speaker 1: on the back of his car because it's kind of
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  Speaker 1: his mono, death before dishonor. This is about honor, and
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  Speaker 1: so he's he's definitely understood that, and and he's bought
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  Speaker 1: into it. But I think all men should and and
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  Speaker 1: I think that there's there's something about that that honor
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  Speaker 1: is the keys to the kingdom, the currency of the kingdom.
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Brothers, and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you