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393 Cómo solucionar problemas económicos en el matrimonio 3 · Reflexiones cristianas con José Ordóñez

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Podcast number three hundred ninety- three. This is the third part of the
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conference we gave with Jasmith about the economy. We have been talking about many
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spiritual factors and this third part is loaded with those special little details that God
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wants us to remember when it comes to implanting true principles for the economy.
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Welcome. One of the things about the biggest faults Joseph had when we got
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married was precisely the part about managing the terrible money. Today this one told
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me in the morning Mamor. Join me in tonight' s preaching and I
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want us to talk about money. We know that the issue of money is
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far- reaching. There are so many conflicts in families, in couples,
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with people, with homes, through the problem of money and remembering the time
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when we were finally married. That part was very difficult in him because Joseph
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did not manage well, Joseph wasted the little money that arrived. He ran
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to do things that surprised me. Well, he was a pawn. That
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' s right, because he pawned everything, everything, he ran and pawned
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absolutely everything. I was really terrified. I was saying but, but where
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are you going with the beta, more, where are you going with the
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TV? And they said no. No. No, it' s just
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that I need to go buy the girl' s milk, any need.
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He was once spinning in the house what he had to get out of the
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house to go pawn. And that part cost him. But I was there
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and I knew that I had to help him in his weakness, that I
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had to do something to make him understand that it wasn' t right and
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that we weren' t going to last all our lives doing that, because
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that, then, brought more debt and brought more poverty. And terrible,
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I mean, that' s not a solution, but mummetic. He fought
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stop for a moment. She says I knew I was there to help him.
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What is the economic defect that your spouse has from the moment you get
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married or to the moment you find yourself thinking about it and now think about
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the attitude that you take with which lens you see that person' s defect,
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because maybe you might be seeing that defect as still of that person,
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but you never took it as that you when you came to the altar said
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in good and bad, but that the bad doesn' t include me.
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That little girl that you have wrong to spend the money. You realized that
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the bad included the defect that she has and that from this moment on you
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have to do it. Yours is yours, because, as we' re
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going to see now, you two are one. There' s no such
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thing as Yasmith' s problem. There is no problem with Joseph. There
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' s our problem. My problems and my flaws. It' s her
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flaws. Her flaws. And her problems. It' s my problems and
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my flaws. She has to commit herself as much to solving it as I
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do. And maybe it' s easier for me to figure it out for
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her, because I' m the feeder. I am the answer that she
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was looking for her drawbacks in life until she found me love definitely is that
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we need to be strong in the area where our partner is weak, and
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that is key to strengthening married life. We need girls. If you see
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that your husband is weak in an area, then you have to strengthen yourself
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in that area to be able to do it, not to crush him,
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but to help him, to lift him up, to encourage him, and
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to become that wonderful tool that God is going to use to get that problem
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out together. Then I had to prepare myself. I had to talk,
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talk about how you think that problem should be solved, because very surely in
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the minds of all our friends and brothers right now is yes. I just
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realized this financial fault my spouse has. What should they do, obviously,
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to make him realize that that is wrong, that that will affect them even
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more to do, to realize that it is not worth continuing hammering that problem,
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that addiction, that bad behavior, because if you continue in that,
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you will not go far with marriage love. I' ll tell them.
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I' m twenty- one. I' ve been rude, with bad
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education practices, bad example from my mom, my dad who are Imberbes.
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They studied fourth fifth of elementary school indoctos of a popular stratum where education was
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not important, where beatings was the way they were educated. First they beat
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you up, then they talked to you, if they wanted to talk to
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you later? Ill- treatment? Ill- treatment? Ill- treatment?
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I didn' t know how to talk? I didn' t know how
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to talk? I didn' t know what it was like to sit in
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front of a human being and debate with ideas and begin to express my weaknesses.
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I was taught that in the midst of my weaknesses, I had to
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lock myself up and get violent if someone tried to get in there to solve
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them. And there are people who have to work because when they are handed
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over to their husband or wife on the altar, the way they were educated
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cannot be ignored. Then you married a man who never had a conversation with
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his dad who didn' t tell Dad how to pay, how to administer
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it. His dad was doing it wrong. But other than that, no
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one ever sat down to take some time to tell him this you' re
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doing it wrong? You have to, you have to do it in a
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certain way and, besides, it wasn' t part of your life in
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your formation as a human being, that someone would sit down to talk to
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you. This was what happened. Jasmid wanted to talk. It was a
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proposition when we sat down to talk, to solve a topic, but I
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was aggressive because I had this amalgam that you don' t have to undress
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your weaknesses, much less in front of a woman. And there are men
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who think that' s being a man. That santanderian breastplate where I'
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m dabbling it alone and I mean, I' m only helping myself and
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me alone, and there are times when we have to tell the person let
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you help. No one, as your wife and as your husband can help
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you, Let yourself talk, Don' t feel that that' s an
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attack, because when you got married, God just gave you the most important
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person of your existence, to anyone else in his life. God told him
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he had to die with you, but to that person. No one else,
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no one else, you' re one, but with that person.
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You' re one with no other prey. They are not in life,
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but with that person, so if that person is in front of you to
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help you, to reconcile and to speak, open your heart. Sometimes you
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have to tell the Saintnderian breastplates, both women and men, I mean,
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let yourself talk that I' m here to help you. And perhaps at
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the end of the preaching work, if they go in the car, they
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go in the taxi or when they get home or if you listen to this
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preaching, then you may feel that the Holy Spirit is telling you. I
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' m that person who has to learn to hear because I haven' t
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let myself help. Don' t be in trouble. If you come to
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the house right now and tell Carlos, Gonzalo, Alberto or Mariax to Carolina,
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whatever your name is, you' re that person that Pastor Ordonez was
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talking about, who said you won' t be helped. You think that
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when I want to talk to you, you feel that that is a threat,
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because it was the way that you were raised by anyone as your spouse
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to open up, no one as your spouse, so that you would go
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into the last corners of your heart and take out all the garbage, because
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that person God has put as a tool what you did not learn with your
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dad and your mom, who sometimes wanted to teach you to whip with the
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wire of the iron, with the stick, with the vulgarity and the rudeness
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nothing like that person. No one like that person has to let her in
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to the last hiding places in your heart. Do not be afraid that your
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spouse will know your weaknesses. Don' t be afraid to cry, to
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say never. You' re afraid to tell your spouse. Help me,
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I need help, believe me that' s gonna be the beginning of starting
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to solve big conflicts that you' ve had since your childhood and your bachelor
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age. My love is podcast number three hundred ninety- three. There are
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three hundred and ninety- two waiting for you in José Ordonez Cristiano com They
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will tell you about all the issues inherent in marriage, family and life itself.
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In all its Christian aspects. For now I want you to have a
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nice day and God give you all the wisdom you need to be able to
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lead a healthy, economical and married life, God bless you