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Valentine's Celebration- S2 Episode 2 · Sip Happens

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I'm Alexandra. I am Lynn.
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I'm Rose. And this is sit happens.
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We wanted to just give you a heads up.
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This podcast. Is all for fun and
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entertainment. We are sharing our own thoughts
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and stories, not professional advice.
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So relax, enjoy and don't take us too seriously.
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Let's get this started. Welcome to Sit Happens.
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What's in your cup today? What is in our cup today?
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I made some Dubai chocolate matcha latte by myself for
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Alexandra and me. How did you like it?
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I really enjoyed it. I know we found this new drink
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from Starbucks and we've been hooked and hey kudos to you my
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friend cuz I'm I'm sipping it What about you Rosie?
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I'm. Sipping homemade coffee because
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we're on saving money mode. It's that time of year.
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Let's do it. Well guys, I know what's coming
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up very soon. Are we ready to talk about
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Galantines, Valentine's and all the things?
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Yeah, let's do it. All right, well, let's start
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with traditional. Is that something you guys
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celebrate? How about you, Lynn?
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No. Actually, growing up in Germany,
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Valentine's Day has always been more like something that adults
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do. I know it's different here in
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the States, but it was never pushed to write each other
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Valentine's Day cards or gift each other.
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That's more like, OK, the parents go or, you know, the
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teenagers that go dating, they would gift each other something
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and it's very, very stereotypical.
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Chocolates and flowers, but I've never cared for it.
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I've never got presents growing up.
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I've never really done much until I was an adult.
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How about you else? It's been a little different
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because growing up in Haiti, I do remember the chocolate, the
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teddy bear. The teddy bear was a thing.
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The bigger the teddy bear, the better.
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Or some flowers, I usually got the teddy bear, especially
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before my dad. The chocolate somehow I don't
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even remember where maybe from because OK let me back up.
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I went to an all girl Catholic school, so we would give each
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other things and that was just, that's how we celebrated it.
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And then I moved to the States when I was a teenager.
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And I remember in high school, which was in Florida, in Naples,
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I lived there for a little bit and I received this a beautiful
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balloon art thing for it was so fun because I was in class and
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it was delivered. And of course, you know,
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everybody's looking who it is. And I'm embarrassed because that
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thing is huge. And I'm like, I'm going to have
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to drag this down everywhere with me because I have classes.
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And I am telling you, I am horrified.
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And everybody was so excited for it and actually thought it was
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from my parents, but it wasn't. It was this guy from my French
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class that sent it. And what I remember
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specifically, the balloon could sing.
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So when you tap it, he would sing Sugar Plum, honey Bun.
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And I was like, Oh my gosh, walking around and they kept
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tapping it and I'm just like, please can the day be over?
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And of course, got the chocolate and stuff.
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But the nice thing is when I got home, my mom's asked, what'd you
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get the balloon from? Like, oh, it's Valentine's Day.
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Everybody got balloons. So that's one of the core
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memories that I remember for Valentine's.
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And of course, as we got older and dating and now married, it
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kind of changes because hubby is very into, like, we shouldn't
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need just a specific day to celebrate Valentine's.
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And he wants to be more impromptu.
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And honestly, I don't like the crowd.
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Try and get a dinner reservation.
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It's OK. We can stay home, cook at home,
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do something special. But yeah, every now and then he
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surprises me or like with the chocolate or roses or when I
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don't feel like it. And he's like, look what I got
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you. And it's like, Oh my gosh, I'm a
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little girl all over again. So I don't know.
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Every year it's different, but it's not something we really
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celebrate. Now that I have kids, though,
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with Omari's class, he comes home and he has all these
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things. He is Mr. Popular.
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So I'm like, have to, you know, I have to do something.
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I'm a mom now, so I don't love the candies.
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I know the Grinch is coming back.
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I don't want the candies for the kids, but I do like the little
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stickers or the Lego drawing thing where they can color.
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And this year we're looking forward to it because I bought
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like the little Dino mini Dino things.
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And he gets to write on it because he's 4 now.
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So we'll see. Every year is just a changing
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thing. What about you, Rosie?
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That's so cute. The balloon thing, I was talking
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to Lynn about that. That's what I remember from when
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I was a teenager. But talking from the beginning,
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when I was in Chicago, we did get the Valentine's Day cards,
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and I think people still do that nowadays.
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But then when I went to Puerto Rico as a teenager, I was 12/13.
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That's when I started seeing all those big balloons and those I
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was selling her baskets, like huge baskets.
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And you would kind of look at who got them and who are they
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getting them from. And I think I told you I was
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like kind of jealous. I wasn't getting any until I hit
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high school. But I was curious, when you were
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talking about that, did you guys by any chance have like those
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little cute dog flushies in Puerto Rico?
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They were called Sad Sam. Oh, my God.
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I need to Google it to show you. Because they were like the
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cutest plushie. But you didn't want to buy it
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for yourself. It needed to be gifted.
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It needed to be gifted. And eventually I got one when I
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was like, in high school. But while I was in junior high,
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I wasn't getting any roses. And I was feeling some type of
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way about it. But if I would have got it, I
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probably would have felt like you, like, very embarrassed,
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cheering it all over and over. Eyes are on.
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Yes, and everybody's asking what you get it doing all the
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questions. And it was just like, okay, it's
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a little overwhelming. And I'm I'm carrying a backpack.
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I have all these things and I have to carry on this big old
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thing of balloons and teddy bear and all that.
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So yeah, yeah, it's fun though. But yes, that happened until
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like high school. Was it something you were
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excited about guys when you were growing up?
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Like did you get the hyped up for Valentine's Day that you
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know, your parents like prepare you go, hey, we have Valentine's
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Day, we're going to decorate. Or was that more like a
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spontaneous thing for me? Growing up we didn't really
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decorate. It was honestly to like, I guess
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the expect expectation was from your friends.
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Your friends show love for how much they care, if that made
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sense. Because again, I think for me,
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growing up with all girls and stuff, we didn't really look
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into boys like you. As you're talking about junior
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high, it wasn't that big of a deal.
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It would be like, oh, so and so's parents delivered this.
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And as parents, you know, you have to deliver to all of the
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frank. So it wasn't until I moved to
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the States in high school that I started noticing the big trend
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of like, the bigger the balloon and the cheerleaders getting all
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the balloons and roses. Oh my goodness.
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And they make such a big deal about the delivery.
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It was the delivery. So the fact that I didn't
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receive something made me feel like, oh, OK, somebody noticed.
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It is so clicky though. It is, but now that you
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mentioned that, I remember getting gifts from my mom as
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well, but I don't remember when it started.
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Every now and then on Valentine's Day, I would have
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like a little bit of chocolate and sometimes a little plushy,
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something cheesy that says like I love you or Happy Valentine's
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Day. But I didn't even know that was
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a thing. Like that was very unexpected to
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get from my parents because I didn't get it when I was little.
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So I don't know if that was just a Puerto Rico thing.
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Then somebody told them, like, what did you get your daughter?
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And they're like supposed to get something.
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I would have to ask them about that.
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That's a good question. But yeah, As for me, the
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chocolate was always a staple. I remember the chocolate, the
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heart shake chocolate, the disgusting chocolate that has
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the Jelly thing in it. I don't like anything inside.
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Oh, man, I don't like that. I'm like, I just want to hold
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dark sea salt chocolate. No temple, but you know, the
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gooey. Yes, yeah.
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Not my jam, but then older. To add to what you were saying,
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I remember we did celebrate my husband and I when we were
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dating right? I do remember us giving us like
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little cute gifts. At some point we just stopped.
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Then we would go to dinner, but we stopped going on Valentine's
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Day. It's either before or after and
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at some point it just, I don't know, I don't remember what we
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did last Valentine's, if we did anything.
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Yeah, we are the same. Kevin and I are the same when it
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comes to Valentine's Day. Like Edwards and Alexandra.
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We don't need a specific date that is overly hyped.
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Everything is overly expensive. We like to surprise each other
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like sporadically when we least expected.
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And what we do like to do is after every holiday, when the
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chocolates go on sale, that's. When the splurge we.
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Splurge Kevin loves Reese's Peanut Buttercup and I don't
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really buy that throughout the year, but when it goes down 75%
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after Valentine's Day, Christmas and Halloween.
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He gets it, He gets it. He gets it.
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He gets it in heart shape. He gets a little pumpkin shape
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and the crisp. I love.
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It that I will not pay for retail price.
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I'm a good song brand. Yes, it is.
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It's like it's a new tradition. It's fine.
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You got you got to get stuff on clearance for sure.
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Did you ever celebrate Galentine's Day?
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No. Surprisingly, no, because I'm
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thinking I'm like, yeah, like I grew up with all girls, like my
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best friend and all that. That's not something we ever
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did. I guess for me, the expectation
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always been like, you know, especially being a relationship,
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it should come from the significant other.
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And to your point, dating was different.
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We would go out to like dinner or make something special out of
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it. And then at some point we just
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didn't. It ended up being like, oh,
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let's get you a card or a rose or something gives the best
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card. I don't know how he does it,
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where he's finding it. And I was like, I can't compete
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with this man. Does he?
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Handwrite. Or does he find just good cards
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that have good writings in it? So fun fact, in college, we
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started dating in college and he lived in Miami.
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So we did long distance and he we would write each other
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letters and I remember those outgoing to my mailbox and there
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was like a box like with letter and chocolate and oh, it was
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handwritten. And I'm like, This is why I fell
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in love with this man. I'm like, his French is
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spectacular. And he's taking his time because
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he growing up, he loved writing poems and stuff.
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And I was just like, Oh my gosh, you know, I'm in college.
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I'm like, I'm I felt seen. Now it's more cards.
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And inside the cards, he still writes things.
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I'm more like the court says it all.
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Happy Valentine's Day done. 2026 and.
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He takes his time and I mean, now we have kids and the song.
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But like, thank you for all you do.
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You're the mother of my I'm just now, gosh, my cards are not like
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that and I do not have the best handwriting anyway.
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It's like I should have been a doctor because I'm very much
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like a squishy thing. You know what I mean?
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It comes deep. Like just read the.
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Card. Somebody's getting paid to write
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what I feel. That's what I.
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Feel GPT baby. But yeah, he's really great.
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I like gifting and stuff, but at some point I think we moved away
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from that and I think another tradition we tried to pick up.
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I love seafood and we love seafood like a seafood boil.
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So if Valentine's Day comes like a Monday or Tuesday on the
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weekend, we would probably do like a small cookout or together
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for us. But that's changed because we
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have babies and I don't know, maybe, maybe this year will be
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spontaneous and have a seafood boil.
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We'll see. I'm not sure, but that is
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something we're trying to pick up on.
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But it's not enough to call it a tradition.
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We're trying to test it out and we'll have like a bottle of
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champagne or something to celebrate, but.
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How about you Rosie? Ever had a Galantines day or
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anything? Valentine's.
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I don't even know. I feel like I discovered that a
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few years ago. I think it's made-up.
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I don't know when it started, Puerto Rico had no Valentine's
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Day. I moved over here and even
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immediately I didn't hear about it.
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I guess I started seeing some promos on social media and I'm
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like, what is this Galentine's thing?
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So I don't think I've ever celebrated a Valentine's Day.
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We did in Germany. Why did you celebrate Galentine?
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We did make. Sense Lee.
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We didn't so didn't call it Valentine's Day, but it was a
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thing that when it was Valentine's Day and you were
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single, you all went out with your girlfriends and celebrated
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together. Going out partying, having
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dreams and now dancing. Just celebrating being single,
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being against a crowd. Like other people are going to
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have fancy dinner. But we are free and liberated,
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yes. You just reminded me of my best
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friend in Puerto Rico and we went to like I hate Cupid party.
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Something like that. We didn't call it Galantine's
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Day, but it was a Galantine's Day because you were just, it's
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like no boys allowed. College maybe, but I don't think
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the term Galantine, no. Not the term Galantine, but it
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is what Galantine's Day. Now that I think about it, I
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researched it and Galantine's became famous with this show.
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I don't know if it was How I Met Your Mother, I would have to
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Google it again because I Google stuff and then I forget.
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Motherhood. It became popular with a show.
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Apparently it did exist, but it wasn't too famous and somebody
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brought it up on a show and then it became a trend.
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And then it blew. Yeah.
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But we did that a lot. Like I was single a lot in my
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swing. You're.
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Like so I. Didn't celebrate Valentine's
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Day. I didn't have a Valentine so I
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had to be anti Valentine. So when you say Galentine, I'm
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thinking all your girlfriends get together and celebrate.
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I'm not even thinking the single part of it.
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So man, that's why I was like, oh.
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Yeah, that's when you get together as girls and just, you
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know, protest Valentine's Day by just celebrating that you're
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single and free. No commitments.
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So on that topic, now that we're all married now, are we calling
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it a Galantine get together because it happens and needs
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some kind of self we need? Galantine's Day.
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And so are we making it our thing?
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Or we should. We're not single.
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We're calling it Galantine 2.0. What does it matter?
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I think Galantine Day doesn't have to be a celebration when
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you're single, sometimes there's just, you know, girls
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celebrating them. That's what I hear.
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What do you guys think? I'm all for it.
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Let's celebrate. It yes, I think at some point I
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heard like Valentine's Day wasn't just for relationships.
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It's about love, friendship. That's what I thought.
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I thought it was more like love, friendship.
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And I think again, as I got older into like college and
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dating, you realize, oh, you love, It's a different type of
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love like from your significant other.
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It's not just your friend and stuff.
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But yeah, I would still welcome gifts from my friends always.
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Yes, please and thank you heart. Shaped pink, red, all the things
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that's. Gooey chocolate, OK.
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Not gooey chocolate and that was a heart shape is OK.
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Yes, that was another thing. I did not like the color pink,
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which was interesting that I'm like, maybe that's one of the
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reasons why I just stayed away from it because the the overly
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pink and that girlish I doubt just wasn't me.
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I was not that girlish girl that my gosh, everything has glitter
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and it's pink and I'm just like, no, that's OK.
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But then they started like, I don't know if you've noticed
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they have red tones now and I'm like, OK, a heart-shaped red.
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I will appreciate those. Gold Girl.
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On that note, what are we doing this Valentine's Day?
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Well, we should decorate because I have something coming in like
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a banner and I think balloons are in there too.
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And it says Galentine's Day. So first Galentine's Day, the
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Sidpana Valentine's. Day Are we getting cake and
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cupcakes too? I would say cupcakes is easier.
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Yeah, I think it's great. What about Fatiago?
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What are you doing this year? I typically get close to a small
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daycare so usually like those little sets of candies.
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I've seen those. Those are cute.
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It's like a whole pack of the one thing I'll say, though, is
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like, please don't send my kid chocolate.
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Like let's not at that age, but anything else is fine in the
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lollipop. And of course he wants all of
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it. And I'm like, this is not
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Halloween. You are not getting all this
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candy, but let's read the cards. He didn't really care for that.
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Maybe this year he'll care for the card.
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I think so because like I said, he's more aware now, so I'm more
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excited to have him sign because I signed those little things.
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OK, those took forever. Like you have to sit down and
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remember everybody's name, which I need to be reminded to get the
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the of names for his class and writing on it.
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So this year I'm putting in the work.
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With girls it is so easy. When my girls were smaller, they
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had a little bracelet, my hair, but.
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Here so many options. Now just all kinds of girly in
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the little rings. For boys, it's.
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A lot harder, yeah. You like like it?
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Kinda is 'cause they have the cards and I think the best I've
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seen was like the little Dino, 'cause you know, he loves his
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Dino. That was a cue.
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And I was like, oh, I like that. And and it's a card like, yeah,
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if it says Amari, everybody in this class will know.
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And then I've seen where they have a little skateboard, so
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they have little toys and stuff, different ideas.
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But then I was building a basket, if that made sense,
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because I was like, oh, they have the little sachet where you
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can put more like multiple toys in it.
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That's how things add up. Now I'm like, I have a dinosaur,
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a skateboard and a piece of candy because at the end I'm
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like, and it's fit. I can't just send an empty bag.
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So yeah, that's where I'm at. I keep it simple.
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I haven't found anything. Kind of forgot that we're
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approaching Valentine's Day so haven't been shopping.
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Enough time. It's still time you get.
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One lollipop. But we here he goes to a small
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daycare. There's only four kids there, so
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that makes it pretty simple. Any tips for anybody that's
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single or married? Is Valentine's Day anything
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exciting we want to share? I think for me is just be
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present, you know, in those moments.
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Again, I think it ties back to it.
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It doesn't have to be that specific day because people go
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crazy with it and expectations and spending.
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And it's like it doesn't have to be, you know, there are 360 four
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other days in the year that you can celebrate.
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So take advantage of that and keep a bit simple.
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Just cozy it up. Hey, whatever fills your cup
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kind of thing. Yes, and share your
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expectations. I think that's one thing too.
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There are some people that really care about Valentine's
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Day and making a big deal out of it, and then there are some
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people that don't really care. So if.
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You have a significant other. Share with them what your
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expectations are and what you would like to do because you
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know, nobody can read mine. If you want to be taken out for
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dinner, it's OK to say I would like like to go up for dinner
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for balance. Make the reservations now
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because last minute reservations for Valentine's Day.
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Yeah, it's no joke. Don't be the person who's
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wishing and helping to get a bouquet and chocolates and a
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whole shebang and not say anything.
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And when you don't get it, you're all crying about it.
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There's one thing I learned. If you have expectations, if you
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want certain things to happen, be proactive, express what you
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want and it's OK. Well started.
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My first, I agree with that, and I'll add to that because you
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reminded me. I've posted a lot of times like
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a bouquet of flowers. I bought myself flowers because
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I didn't want to expect them. I did go through disappointments
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expecting things. I'm like, you know what?
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I'm just going to get them for myself and at some point he'll
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be caught on and now and then he'll bring me bouquet of
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flowers. But it was like I'm just gifting
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it to myself. So that's what I was thinking
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about tips like don't buy into the hype.
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You can also do self love self. Care.
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I love that, yes. Get yourself something.
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I also get a Facebook memory that said something like people
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ask me why I'm single and it's because nobody takes care of me
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better than I take care of myself.
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So. Make Valentine's Day whatever
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you want it to be. You decide what makes you happy,
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what fills your cup. Just go with it.
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Somebody can compliment that love, but it doesn't have to
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just come from that person. Like we can give it to
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ourselves. We can't self love because you
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know like self-care girl now like Galentine's can be all face
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mask getting ready pajamas pajamas yes all the things you
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know because at the end of the day it's what makes you happy
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