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how to feel your feelings · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  The full on act of meditating, at least to me, is overwhelming
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  at times. My brain tends to wander
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  sometimes to places that I don't want it to.
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  This is when I discovered micromeditation as a way to feel
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  my feelings. You see, feelings tend to store
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  themselves physically in the body, and by engaging in small,
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  short acts of meditation, we are able to identify those feelings,
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  sit with them, and allow them to run their course.
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  My name is Ethan Jewell and welcome back to another episode
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  of Feel Your Feelings. Thank you for joining me today.
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  Today is going to be a shorter episode as I simply want to
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  engage in micromeditation with you.
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  And have you experienced how special and powerful it can be?
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  I've been using this technique for a few years now and it's
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  been absolutely game changing. I always preach that you need to
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  feel your feelings, but often people ask me how do you feel
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  your feelings? How do I feel my feelings?
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  How should I get started? And if you've been wondering how
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  to feel your feelings, this episode is perfect for you.
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  This is one of the ways that I got started in having a healthy
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  relationship with my feelings. You see, micromeditation is a
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  name that I've given a technique that I learned in therapy.
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  It's essentially A brief act of meditation that encourages you
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  to physically identify where a feeling sits, acknowledge that
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  feeling, and then give it space to exist.
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  It's an incredibly healthy way to feel a feeling without being
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  overwhelmed by all the ins and outs that a feeling may bring.
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  We see emotions often demand a lot from you.
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  They demand that they become your everything when you're
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  feeling them. And if we can allow them to
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  coexist with us, we can set a boundary with our own feelings
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  and be able to feel them at our own pace and coexist with those
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  emotions. I would love to practice this
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  with you today. So if you're willing and if you
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  have the space and capacity to feel a feeling right now, please
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  sit back, relax, and let's micro meditate.
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  We often distract ourselves from difficult feelings.
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  You may be doing it right now. You may have been doing it right
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  before putting this podcast on. Whether it's scrolling on your
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  phone, engaging in numbing activities, or maybe listening
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  to this podcast, it's much easier to distract from a
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  feeling than to feel it right now.
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  I want us to see if you can find the feeling you've been
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  struggling with. And I really mean it. close your
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  eyes and look for it within your body.
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  Is it a sad or mellow feeling? Are you mourning something?
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  Maybe it's an anxious or paranoid feeling, a tightness in
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  your chest or throat. Maybe your shoulders or eyebrows
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  are tensed up. Maybe you just feel an empty pit
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  in your stomach or in your chest.
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  Whatever it is, take a moment to scan your body and see if you
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  can identify where you're keeping that feeling that you
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  have been avoiding. Have you found it?
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  If you have, focus your attention on it, Notice it,
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  Acknowledge that it is there, even if that's an uncomfortable
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  thing to do, and then don't try to change it or feel a different
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  way. Now I want you to say one thing
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  to this feeling. I want you to acknowledge where
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  it is and say you can exist here with me.
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  That's it. Think it or say it out loud.
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  Tell that feeling that it can coexist with you in this moment.
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  By doing this, you have given the feeling the power to be
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  felt. You have allowed yourself to
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  acknowledge this feeling that you may have been avoiding and
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  given it a healthy place to be processed and understood.
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  And that's it. You see, by giving our feelings
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  space, we get rid of the competition that our feelings
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  often strive for. They want to be everything and
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  overwhelm you. But by simply accepting that
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  feelings presence and allowing it to coexist, you can feel the
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  feeling without it taking you over.
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  You see, the overwhelming nature of emotions is often what we
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  distract ourselves from. It's why we avoid emotions for
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  months or even years on end until they become even more
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  powerful and completely take us over.
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  That is an unhealthy relationship to have with
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  feelings. So even if you didn't feel
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  anything today, I want you to try this practice to try this
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  meditation. Maybe come back to this podcast
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  anytime you find yourself distracting yourself from a
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  feeling and see if it does something for you.
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  For me, this practice of micromeditation has been
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  absolutely life changing and it is completely transformed my
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  perspective on my emotions and my feelings, and it has made me
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  develop a much healthier relationship with my feelings.
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  I realize that feelings are there to exist.
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  They're there to be felt and processed and understood, and
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  they're not supposed to take us over.
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  They're not supposed to be a part of us.
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  They are supposed to be with us. I want to briefly remind you, I
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  am not a therapist or a mental health professional whatsoever.
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  I'm a normal guy who is very passionate about mental health
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  and this is just from my personal experience what has
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  worked. So I highly recommend you try
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  it, but also feel free to explore other options suggested
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  by professionals that's going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  It was a shorter one, but I really, really appreciate you
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  staying and practicing micromeditation with me.
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  If you need more help identifying a feeling, go check
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  out my music on all platforms under the name of Ethan Jewell
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  and I almost guarantee it'll make you cry.
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  Shoot me a message on my Instagram at Jewel Boy with an I
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  under score and let me know if this meditation worked for you
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  today. So thank you for giving yourself
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  the emotional space today. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.